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Hehehe, Oh this cracks me up!!
When I first started my blog, I would have definitely said yes, it’s very stink to like your own post!! And it’s funny because when I initially set everything up, for some reason my profile picture was coming up in my own community, and I can’t tell you how much time I spent trying frantically to figure out why I was on there and how to get myself off!
So of course, as many of you bloggers out there will know, under my community settings I also had commenters checked, that’s why I was coming up.
Ok, disaster averted, I just changed the settings and all was good, I was no longer in my own community!
Now fast forward three months and I find myself with quite a different perspective on the subject, for a number of different reasons.

1. When looking at my blog stats of where referrers came from, I often ended up on my own page or posts and always ended up reading them again, especially if they were older posts as I often couldn’t remember exactly what it was about or what I’d written. When I’d get to the end of reading the post, if my husband was around I’d say, “I don’t know who wrote this but they know what they’re talking about, this is really good….have you read this!” He’d say “Yer, I know” and then we’d just crack up laughing! (Hehehe, you know I’m going to read this one over and over don’t you!!)
2. I linked my blog to a new Facebook profile because I had a couple of friends who wanted to link to it from there, and although I’ve not been a fan of Facebook in the past, I do like technology so thought it was inevitable I’d have to get on a social media site sooner or later.

So, being on WordPress and Facebook has considerably altered my perspective about social media, and my general conclusions are;

1. It’s probably still a little bit stink to “like” your own stuff, but who cares, and in who’s opinion, if you want to like it, like it! I say, of course you like it, you wrote and posted the damn thing didn’t you, and of course it’s awesome, right!!

2. I also feel very strongly as I look through these forums that many are desperately seeking approval and love, and wanting validation from others for where they are. (Yes, birds of a feather do flock together, don’t they? Well mostly, but not always…)
There’s nothing wrong with this, but one thing is for sure, there will never be enough validation, love, or approval that comes from outside of ourselves in any form whether it’s from online relationships and communication or real life physical relationships.(or anything else for that matter)
For the good feeling one achieves from this lasts only a short time and we will usually find ourselves needing more and more of this external validation in order to feel good.
What does that sound like to you? Yes, for some, it does become an unhealthy addiction.
Now you don’t need to be a rocket scientist to figure out this population consist’s mainly of the female variety. (Thought I’d better check the statistics out, and yes two-thirds of the population on social media are female, 2012 stats)
Of course it’s wonderful to have such external validation as this can help give us strength, especially in difficult times, but nothing will ever make up for the love, approval and validation that we have within us that is available to us in every moment of our lives from the Non-Physical, Inner Being part of us.
Anything less does not last, or is a temporary fix for what we are really reaching for.
And what is it we are reaching for?
The truth of who we are, the power that we have, the love we have within us, the ability to share that love with others that are in a place to receive it, just the pure perfection of who and what we are.
But we must be okay with who we are apart from others, this is true knowing, this is true love, and this is one path among many, that leads to true happiness. And so it is….