A little word about living in the present moment….

I remember when the catch phrase “living in the now” was what many people were speaking and writing about, and although it did bring a lot of awareness to many people, some of it was confusing. Many discussions revolved around the concept that having an ego prevented one from truly being present in the now.
This depends on your ideas and perspective of what ego is.
If we look in the dictionary, you tend to see two main distinctions of what the ego is;
1. The self, being separate from the world and others, and consciousness that controls thought and behaviour.
2. Appropriate pride in one’s self; (self-esteem) or an exaggerated sense of self-importance; (conceit)
The first description describes what the ego is, whereas the second description describes the two common ways it’s often exhibited as behaviour.
In the past the ego has had a bad reputation because it’s been associated with people who have judged and seen themselves as superior or better than others, and yuk, it’s never nice to be around such a person as this, that’s for sure!
But maybe we’ve had a one sided perspective about it? There’s always two ways to look at anything, and that’s either positively or negatively and there’s a large variety of emotional places within both perspectives, but it’s not possible to be focused on positive and negative at the same time, you’re either negatively focused, or positively focused in the moment.
So the negative perspective of ego brings our attention to trying to gain things in a ruthless and uncaring way with no regard for others, whereas the positive perspective of ego brings our attention to knowing the power of who we really are, and that we have the ability to achieve what we’re wanting without the need to hurt others. It’s about being true to who you are, but also allowing others to be true to who they are.
I suppose the ego has had such negative connotations for so long, it’s hard to think of this word in a positive way, so I prefer to say, the “self” instead of ego, for the sake of keeping the feeling of the word neutral.
So what’s really happening when we’re being or behaving as our negative self?
Firstly it’s important to recognise how our negative self has been created. This usually happens when we’ve been brought up by others who didn’t know how life was really working, most did do their best so it doesn’t help us to blame, but it does help to know how you got where you are. So it’s quite normal that we walk down a similar path to those that taught us, it’s often not until things start going off the rails we start to question what we’ve been taught, and we may have a feeling that somethings not quite right? So this propels us into a new journey of discovery, a journey of coming into an understanding of who we really are.
Sometimes the very thing we are judging as bad, wrong or unwanted is exactly what someone needs to move things forward in a positive direction. You see, we’re all on the same path in a general sense, we’re all on a journey of self discovery, but that journey will be completely different for every single one of us because we’ve all come forward with different intentions and we’re all in different places in relation to those intentions so the path that leads us into the full and wonderful discovery of who we are will be different for everyone. It’s not to say that one way is better or worse than the other, it’s just different. That’s why I often speak about not judging others, because we just don’t know where they are in relation to what they’re wanting, and even if we do, if they’re not in a place to hear any advice, it doesn’t have the positive effect we’re wanting. We don’t have to like what others are doing but we must accept, that for them, it could be the next logical step that will lead them to the next and the next and the next. All we can do is know that everyone is doing their best to move in a better direction and into more of what they’re wanting, in the same way we are.
For me this is a way of making peace with what others are doing, I do my best not to focus on what others are doing if it doesn’t align or agree with what I am wanting for myself, for I know, by judging and focusing on what others are doing only includes that unwanted vibration within me, which then means with enough focused attention, I have the possibility of bringing similar feeling experiences into my life. I know not focusing on unwanted circumstances you believe are affecting you is more easily said than done, but it does get easier with practise, and in time, as your focus improves, you are no longer attracting so many unwanted situations, for the negative vibration that was bringing them to you has been replaced with a more positive vibration, and that’s what’s now being responded to by the Law of Attraction. So depending on where the majority of your focus is, things are often getting worse and worse, or better and better.
So what about when we’re being our positive self?
Through knowing how life is working, we start to remove resistance from past experiences by moving to better feeling places and understanding more fully how and why these things may have happened. Once we’ve let go of negative thoughts from past experiences, we’re no longer bringing it into our present thoughts, which means you have stopped the negative attraction of what you are not wanting!
Have you observed people who have had negative experiences in the past, and although the people and places in their life may change, they seem to create the same situations over and over again?
If there is much focus on unwanted circumstances without moving to a better feeling place, we can eradicate all the people involved in this unwanted scenario, but if our thought does not improve, we will create similar situations again. This is the Law of Attraction in action, it’s the Universes way of showing you what you’ve got going on vibrationally. And you answer every time with the power of your thought, so it’s a good idea to pay attention to how you feel for your emotions are communication from the Non-Physical part of you, your Inner Being, letting you know if your thought is positive and moving you in the direction of what you are wanting, or negative and moving you in the direction of something you are not wanting.
So it’s hard to be truly focused on the present moment when you have many things from the past you have not dealt with or moved to a better feeling place on, and it often prevents us from seeing the good that’s happening now. Focusing intently on anything that we’re doing now and dealing with what is manifesting in our life in the most positive way we can, helps to bring us more into the present moment. We don’t need to go back and rehash the past to move through any resistance we have about it, because everything we have going on vibrationally from the past is showing up now, in one way or another, whether we know it or not. If we focus on what’s happening now and move to the best feeling place we can regarding it, we will move through any resistance we have.
Remember, we did not come to a resistant place in one day, so celebrate the small improvements you make, for many small improvements over time make a very big difference to your life experience!
And so our journey together continues….

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