Causing a person to become overly dependent on us is not a kind thing to do……

FailureSuccessThe only time we should be completely dependent on another’s for our wellbeing is when we are new-born babies. And although many would say our children are often dependent on us until they leave the family home, to what extent depends entirely on how we have raised them. It is not an inherent quality of human beings or any other life forms to depend entirely on another for their wellbeing for this goes against the natural order of things, but it is possible to distort the natural progression and growth of independence by rendering one incompetent through our actions and words. Probably the most detrimental thought a child may come to believe through having everything done for them is, “I am not capable, good enough or worthy to do this or that”. Although these types of beliefs are not based in truth, if we believe them we will make them true in our own life experiences as The Law of Attraction will bring us experiences that match what we believe until somehow we manage to change those beliefs.

I am not suggesting that anyone would do this to another on purpose, especially one they dearly loved. Nonetheless, this can be the outcome when we have taken it upon ourselves to do everything for them. When we don’t take the necessary time to teach our children how to do something that in the long run will be very beneficial for them, we unknowingly deprive them of many opportunities to grow and learn skills that will help them in all areas of their lives as they move through their physical journey. There is a multitude of reasons why we may be doing this but all will come down to the same core reason being, it feels better in the moment for us to do whatever it is ourselves than to get our children’s help.

Let’s face it, it takes time and patience to teach someone something new and sometimes we can be in short supply of both. If we are not taking the time to teach our children for whatever reason, it is something within our own thought process that we may need to change if we would like to be in a position to do this.
For example, a thought that may prevent us from getting our children to help us with household chores might go something like this. “It takes twice as long when they help and it’s never done exactly how I like it and they constantly complain”. Although this may be the reality of what initially happens one must have perseverance and a knowing that things will get easier as their child grows in confidence by being given responsibility and positive feedback. I understand there may always be some resistance from our children to help but when they understand that this is not something they do whenever they feel like it, but is the responsibility and benefits of belonging and being part of a loving and caring family where every person is valued and has input. An improved thought would be something like, “It takes me longer when I initially get the kids to help me so I’ll do it when I know I’ve got the time. I won’t expect perfection because I know it’s more important to have badly folded clothes than not giving them the opportunity to help, and I’ll let them know if they complain they are only making themselves miserable and it will probably take them twice as long!!!”

I speak frankly and honestly to my children when we talk and no subject is off-limits as far as I am concerned. I tell them I would not be being a very good parent if I did everything for them and didn’t teach them how to look after themselves and be more independent individuals as they grow. They know that even though it may be a long time away, it’s likely that Mum and Dad will make their transition back to Non-Physical energy before they will and although they will have the ability to interact with us if they so desire, it will never be the same as having someone right here, right now in all their physicalness to do this or that for them. Children can be more open than older human beings because of their limited life experiences, lack of resistance and a closer connection to the Source Energy from which they originally came that puts them in a good place to know the truth when they hear it. Resistance always comes from a long period of time of focusing on unwanted circumstances and experiences.

I know many people cope when they suddenly find themselves for the first time in their lives having to do almost everything for themselves and being unprepared for it. I can only speak for myself when I say I cannot feel good about doing this to anyone much less my own children. We live in a world knowing many different skills are required to thrive and be able to create the lives we are wanting to live so it is vitally important to be doing our best to teach our children these life skills.
If we are looking at the big picture and what we generally want for our children, not just for right now but for the future as well, this will always guide us down the best path for us to take.

I believe we are trying to raise, competent, resilient, kind, loving, caring, happy human beings and the best way we do this is through the power of our own example…….

And so it is……..

Why is it difficult to change my beliefs?


Boat in a Bottle
If we can only believe in what is right in front of us, improved circumstances will be very hard to come by……For it is the belief in our ability to achieve what is not here yet that brings it to us.      Paulette De-Har


Sometimes we continue to do things the way we’ve always done them simply because we’ve always done things this way and often haven’t even considered changing what we’re doing. That being true it can also be difficult to change our beliefs because the Law of Attraction continues to send us circumstances that match our dominant vibrational offering and having one or two thoughts on what we would like to change does not have enough attraction power to override a strongly held belief that’s been given much thought to overtime especially if we’ve had many firsthand personal experiences.
In other words, it takes quite a lot of time and focused effort to change our beliefs even when we know they are no longer serving us. It’s often not until we start to understand we are the creators of our lives through our focused thoughts and feelings that create our beliefs, that we emit a vibration of, that the Law of Attraction gives us more evidence of, that we can begin to change.

Of course, everything is always changing, that’s one of the principles this Universe is based upon and in and of itself cannot be changed!!! (That’s funny…….everything changing never changes!!!) If we feel like things aren’t changing, it’s because they change to similar circumstances that match the vibrational place (thoughts, feelings and beliefs) we may have held overtime that may or may not be serving what we are really wanting to create in our lives.

For example, a trait one may believe they have or will experience because many members of their family may have had or experienced is a belief that more often than not, does not serve us. It is true we have inherited much genetic material from our paternal parents. This has been the building blocks that have allowed our transition from 100% pure positive Non-Physical energy into a blending of both Non-Physical and Physical Earthbound energy. Our genetics we begin with are purely the beginning place of our physical existence, like a canvas that has not yet been painted on. As we grow and learn on our physical journey we start to paint our canvas through our thoughts and feelings that in turn continues to shape our future experiences.
What we see and are surrounded by as we grow up often becomes the beliefs we prescribe to and expect which continues to be reflected in our own experiences as we move through time. It is not a question whether a belief someone holds is true or not. No matter what our beliefs are, if we hold them strongly they will be true in our experience because the Law of Attraction will make it so.

Whether our beliefs are true or not is not a criteria or beneficial way to judge whether to hold onto a belief that is not serving us no matter how many people around us, immediate family or not are experiencing it. For there are many things out in the world that are true and happening that we do not want to bring into our own experience and just because something is true or has happened to someone else or even ourselves in the past is a poor excuse for focusing on a strongly unwanted circumstance unless we are purely focused on the improved outcome an unwanted circumstance has inspired within us.
Unfortunately not many human beings at this time are able to stay positively focused on the solution they wish to see when faced with unwanted circumstances, especially with subjects they feel very strongly about, and I totally get it…….it’s not that easy!
Better criteria to use when questioning if a belief we hold is serving us is, does this belief I hold make me feel good and will it create wanted circumstances if it comes into full fruition in my experience?
If the answer is yes then this is a belief that is worth putting a strong focus on until a pure place of knowing is achieved and maintained. If the answer is no and we have beliefs that produce negative emotions when thought about, this definitely will not produce wanted circumstances if full manifestation is achieved and it would be a good idea to think about the wanted circumstances that have been inspired within us. If we cannot reach for a better feeling place immediately we may need to direct our thoughts to a completely different better feeling subject until our resistance subsides somewhat.

Reestablishing improved beliefs does not usually happen overnight because remember, the Law of Attraction is matching us with what we are vibrating and we will need to give the improved beliefs we would like to experience much thought until it becomes the new dominant vibration we are emitting.
During the time of making an effort to change unwanted beliefs, it is quite normal to get a bit of a mixed bag as far as experience goes. In other words, the Law of Attraction is responding to all our vibrations until one becomes dominant and then our experience can start to smooth itself out as our vibration pulses strongly in our newly improved place.
I understand it’s not always the easiest thing to do but let me ask you……..What is more important than this??? Dealing with the physical manifestations that come from beliefs that are not serving us takes much time and energy and drains the physical mind and body. Actions taken in these circumstances are hard work and produce poor results at best, whereas when our improved beliefs begin to gain momentum everything starts to take care of itself without the need to deal with strongly unwanted circumstances.

Now we are living in a time of heightened change. We can make our lives better by being the change we wish for or we can make our experience somewhat difficult by refusing to change and holding to what we know is no longer serving us……..

I can’t speak for anyone else but I sure know what I prefer.

And so I do…….

Does the Universe have my back???


Big Bear
The Universe always serves us up what we believe in. So the question is, do we believe the Universe has our back?          Paulette De-Har.

When I speak of the Universe, I am referring to the pure positive energy that has created all that ever has been in the past, all that is now, and all that ever will be in the future.


It is not the intention of this post to argue whether we do or don’t believe there is a pervasive intelligence and creative life force behind all things…..I’m assuming this is a knowing whoever is drawn to this post already knows, or is on the verge of understanding and coming to know or at least is starting to consider???

Firstly, to answer this question it helps to have a basic understanding of how the Universe works. At its core, the main principle which governs how life unfolds for all life forms on this planet is simple, although when applied to the specific details of one’s own life experience in all its diversity, often becomes quite complex and not so straightforward, even when we know quite well how things work. This principle is known as the Law of Attraction and simply states, what one gives out…..They will eventually get back. Let’s assume this is how the Universe operates…..And it does!!! The idea that the Universe is evaluating what we are doing and deciding “Yes, they seem worthy to get this or that, or no, they don’t seem worthy of this or that,” becomes quite a ridiculous proposition. Although the Universe is always aware and interested in what all living creatures are doing, it is not arbitrarily sorting out who is worthy to receive “good stuff.” We are the ones that decide whether we are worthy to receive good stuff through the power of our focusing on what we are wanting positively, but we do have the complete free will to focus in any way on anything wanted or unwanted!!!

In essence, all life comes forward from non-physical pure positive energy to experience a physical life with the ability and free will to make both good and bad choices and to feel the full spectrum of emotions from high-flying good feelings like joy and appreciation, all the way down to rage and hopelessness.
The emotions we feel are communication from the part of us often referred to as our soul or inner being that has remained in the non-physical realm letting us know what we are currently creating in our lives and our future experiences. Positive emotions we feel are creating circumstances we are wanting in our lives whereas negative emotions we feel are creating circumstances we are not wanting to experience in our lives. The purpose of this emotional communication is to let us know what we are creating and to help us direct and focus our thoughts and feelings into the best emotional place we can find to get our creative energy moving towards what we really are wanting to experience.

The free will we choose to have would not be free will if someone outside of us had a whole heap or rules that we had to abide by or we wouldn’t get what we wanted…..That’s a very conditional type of free will and love. The truth is we are so free to choose, we can create very bad circumstances from the choices we make. This is not possible when we remain in the pure positive place of the non-physical realm because, well……it’s a place of pure positive energy, the energy that has created all things, and that energy is only ever good!!!
So an agreement is made to come forward to experience the full spectrum of what life has to offer by having the freedom to choose.
The Universe is not judging what we are choosing as right or wrong but is simply reflecting back to us in manifested form what we are giving out through our thoughts, words and actions and is also communicating and giving us guidance through our emotions. If we are listening and coming to know what this emotional communication means, we can start being the true creators we came here to be by creating more of what we really are wanting and less of what we aren’t really wanting.

In truth, the Universe does have our back…..Not because we kept to a whole lot of rules that were interpreted by human beings thousands of years ago that may have been initially and currently misunderstood??? We will know that the Universe and the Law of Attraction does not play favourites, that the playing fields are clear and fair for everyone no matter what colour, creed or religion we may be.
We will know through our own life experience that ultimately we are the creators of our own lives both individually and collectively and that we do it through the power of our thoughts and emotions.
And mostly we will come to know not one among us has been left on our own without clear and constant communication with that which we really are, the pure positive creative energy that is life itself…..

And so we are!!!

Is there an Angel at my side???


There are more things unknown to Human beings than most would ever dream about. When the time is right……All will eventually be revealed.          Paulette De-Har

It depends on whether we believe in Angels…..Does it not???
All human beings have access to what many call Angels or Non-Physical energy that can be called upon if we are in a place to access such experiences. Although these energies will not interfere with the physical experience, they will give guidance on any subject one wishes to discuss with them.


Since we are the creators of our own life experiences, and we create those experiences through the power of our own focused thoughts, feelings, words and actions, it logically follows that we will be unlikely to have access to Angel advice and guidance or whatever else one might like to call Non-Physical energies if we don’t believe they even exist. Without desire, the feeling of wanting to achieve something more than what currently is, new cannot be created. Once desire is stirred within an individual through personal experiences and understanding, belief now needs momentum behind it, for creating anything we don’t believe we have the ability to experience is near impossible. Desire + Belief = Experience.

We don’t need to believe or be communicating with Non-Physical energy to live a happy and content life, but it certainly helps. By making a gentle and constant effort to move to the best feeling place we have access to in any given situation, especially when experiencing unwanted circumstances, ensures we are continuously moving through any resistance and closer to the physical experience of what we are wanting.

In truth, everyone has an Angel of sorts in the form of the Non-Physical part of ourselves that remained in the Non-Physical realm while the here and now Physical self was birthed into the physical world. The Non-Physical self-communicates to the Physical part we know as ourselves in the form of our emotions with good feeling positive emotions leading us into more of what we’re wanting to experience and not good feeling negative emotions leading us closer to what we are not wanting to experience.

Negative emotion gets a bit of a bad wrap, especially if we know and understand our own thoughts and feelings create our experience. Once people understand and know how they are creating their own life experiences both individually and collectively, the tendency becomes to try to instantly eradicate every not good feeling emotion we feel. Although negative emotion is what creates unwanted circumstances in our lives, it’s important to know when we let go of resistance and move into better feeling places better circumstances are created. Negative emotion is a very powerful tool that when truly understood is helping us to get back on track by letting us know we are moving in a direction that is not currently in our best interests.

It’s only when we feel the negative emotion and let it stay within the physical mind and body that it starts to become a problem. This is because any strong emotions we are feeling will be responded in-kind too by the powerful Law of Attraction. How strong this attractive power will be, depends on how often we bring negative thoughts into our mind and how intensely we are feeling them. What is turning up in our experience will depend on how much momentum we have behind what we are thinking and feeling.

We always have time to move our vibration and how we’re feeling in relation to any given subject as I’m sure everyone’s noticed things don’t instantaneously turn up the moment we think of something……So if many circumstances are turning up that have the same emotional vibrational feeling too them, we can know for sure we have the momentum of thought and emotion that is causing it.
Not a problem when good things turn up, but if there is a pattern of unwanted circumstances it’s a very good idea to make an effort to improve our vibration on these subjects. I know it’s not always the easiest thing to do, to look straight in the direction of what we may believe is causing our negative emotion and start to feel better about it…..But what other choice is there???

Isn’t the main reason to feel the best we can at any given moment to whatever’s presenting itself to us because it feels good to feel good, and feeling good is better than not feeling good??? Add to that the fact that we are also creating our future experiences by how we are feeling now and it’s clear that leaving strong negative emotion within ourselves without making an effort to feel better is not a good idea.

We all have the ability to feel better to anything that’s currently happening in our lives and whether we are aware or not we all have access to Non-Physical energy to help us on our journey. In truth this energy constantly and consistently communicates to all life forms, the question isn’t whether this is so, the question is…..Are we getting ourselves in a place where we can hear this communication clearly???

As we start to feel better in our lives, so we start to feel and hear this communication in real and undeniable ways….And this is a very good thing!!!

And so it is….

Once the seeds of truth have been planted….They cannot be removed!!!




Just as a tree, the mighty oak came from the smallest of seeds that found itself in the optimal conditions it required to grow….So it is when a human being comes into a receptive mode through their own life experiences. This is the next logical step in any living organisms evolution.

The Soul or Non-Physical counterpart of all physical beings on this planet knows the truth when they hear it because essentially they are the truth, and is the main catalyst that is drawing and attracting truths to the physical part of who we are through our experiences. This is so we may more fully understand what our purpose is and how we are creating our lives thus giving us the opportunity to move more fully into the joyful expression of who we really are.

This is not a desire that is held only by our Non-Physical counterpart but also by the physical here and now part of who we are in the form of our own desires to everything we experience and observe. For example, every time we experience something whether it is wanted or unwanted we immediately know what would be an improved experience, and this knowing is also known and held at the same moment by our Non-Physical counterpart.

Our Non-Physical counterpart resides in and is the pure positive energy of joy, love, and truth therefore does not hold misconceptions, false beliefs or negative resistant thought patterns but knows the physical part of who we are has picked up many of these untrue perceptions, false beliefs and negative resistant thought patterns through the living of this and previous physical lives.

We are constantly guided by the Non-Physical through our emotions and what we are currently experiencing in our life depends largely on how much we have listened to the Non-Physical part of ourselves. The more we have made an effort to move into better, good feeling positive emotional places as we move through our lives the more blended the physical and Non-Physical parts of us become and the more knowing we are about all things.

The seeds of truth have always been within us and when we are confronted with Universal truths, deep down we know it. If these truths don’t align with the truths we are now living and have learnt along our physical journey it can upset the status quo causing us to turn away from that which we are unsure of in fear of the unknown.

This does not matter for once the mind and intellect have grown and we have been inspired with strong desire through our own personal experiences to understand and know more about the truth of life…..We are now in a fertile condition like the mighty oak with all that is required to bring this knowing into our full physical awareness. Once all conditions required for the successful revealing of truth are present, it’s not a matter of if this will happen, but when this will happen.

The length of time for this knowing to be completely understood depends on how willing we are to do the work of reassessing and changing beliefs we are coming to know are no longer serving us in a positive way. This can be more easily said than done as any beliefs we’ve held strongly over time will have much momentum behind them that we have literally been living and observing in our life experience. These limiting beliefs do take time and effort to move into higher vibrational places by doing our best to find the best feeling emotional place we can to whatever we are currently experiencing.

It is also very likely that we will be surrounded by many others that believe strongly in our old belief systems for we have attracted people, places and events that are in a similar vibrational place as where we have previously been. That’s the Law of Attraction in action!!! Responding to our vibration and aligning us with vibrational matches. Again this doesn’t matter, for even if we ourselves or those around us are resistant and not cooperative in this time of change, opportunities will be continuously presented to us to help us release any resistance we have until all doubt is gone and our understanding is clear as to the best and easiest way to move forward.

One that has been in the place to hear and feel the seeds of truth cannot remove this knowing, even if it was only for a fleeting moment they knew it. For those surrounding one that is coming to know the truth but may be trying to prevent that truth from being known for fear of the unknown, this is not possible and a futile attempt to control forces that will never be controlled from a place of fear or any other place for that matter.

We are all capable of the most amazing things….The seeds of this greatness lie within us all, not one among us was forgotten. There has never been a better time than now to start moving into the full knowing of all that we can be and all that we really are…..And it’s letting these seeds flourish within our being that will get us everything we are really wanting…..And more!!!

And so it is….

Exodus: Gods and Kings……A Movie Review about Belief & Faith.

Who doesn’t love a good Bible story that’s been turned into a movie!!! Probably lots of people, but I love them, so of course I wanted to spread the Good News about it. Hehehe….

So I met my lovely husband at the pictures last night (hope he reads this!!!) With great anticipation of seeing something awesome, and I have to say, I wasn’t disappointed.

Although I am not religious, like many that have been brought up in western culture, I know this story fairly well. The movie stayed pretty much in line with the legend of Moses and how he came to free his people from slavery in Egypt.

Even though it was set in ancient times with struggles vastly different to what many are experiencing now, it brings up many subjects that are just as important in the times we’re living now, as they were back then.

For me it was a movie about choices, belief, and faith.

Making a firm choice that often comes from an experience we’ve had and then putting all the positive thoughts we can produce (belief and faith) behind that choice, even in the face of unwanted manifestations, (resistance from our own negative thoughts) and working through those challenges until clarity is once again achieved resulting in renewed and strengthened belief and faith in ourselves and what we’re doing.
Holy Moses…..I make it sound so easy!!!

It can be easy, but that depends a lot on where our general vibrational, emotional place is, and how long we’ve been focused on circumstances that may be unwanted in our lives??? The longer we’ve spent focusing on anything, whether it’s something that’s already happened or is currently happening and whether those circumstances are wanted or unwanted, the Law of Attraction responds equally to all vibrations (thoughts and emotions) that all living beings emit.
Once power and momentum is achieved behind our focused thoughts, it’s only a matter of time before circumstances that feel the same as the vibrations we’ve been sending out are returned to us in full Physical manifestational form unless our vibrations are changed before they have gained enough momentum to materialise. This is Universal Law….No exceptions ever!!!

So what is the moral of this story???

~ Relax and go to see an awesome movie!!!
~ Put all the positive energy you can muster behind the choices you make.
~ When unwanted circumstances turn up, know you have the power and strength to overcome those challenges, if that’s what you’re wanting to do.

And as Moses says, “Don’t believe in what everyone else tells you, believe in yourself.” And I whole heartedly agree!!!

And so our journey continues…..

And so it does!!!

So what about previous lives???

Although most have lived many physical lives….When we re-enter the physical realm as a new physical entity, a baby, we often don’t remember the previous life experiences we’ve had. If we do have memories, it’s very often when we are young and aren’t aware that this isn’t an accepted principle or understanding that the majority of people or societies we’ve being brought-up in have an awareness of.
Children that are very young have been known to give unusual accounts or details claiming they’ve had experiences or been another person in a different time period and often rely very specific knowledge that doesn’t seem possible for them to have gained at their current young age. This happens more frequently than we may think but is often disregarded as imaginative thinking, or worse….Lying.

If we’re coming forward multiple times into different physical lives,(and we are)at different points in time, physical bodies, locations and circumstances without easily accessible memories of any of our previous lives, a reasonable conclusion is that we don’t remember what’s previously happened because we’re wanting differing experiences from different physical perspectives. This wouldn’t be possible if we were to remember the lives and experiences we’ve previously lived. This is no accident, but the way we’ve purposely designed it!!!

It would be very difficult to look through new fresh eyes and make different or improved choices if we had clear memories of past experiences from the previous lives we’ve lived. This would mean our current experiences would go through the filter of our previous memories and perspectives. So what would be the purpose of making our transition back to Non-Physical and coming forward into a new body if our perspectives stayed the same???

That being said, we do carry all the experiences we’ve had through all the previous lifetimes we’ve lived within our physical here and now body, and we do have the ability to tap into those experiences and knowledge if we have the desire.
For me, although I know I’ve lived many lives before and feel strongly when I meet someone I’ve known in a previous life, I don’t feel the need to find out any specific details or go through the process of trying to bring back those memories. I’m aware that all my previous experiences have led me to where I am now, and any resistance or unfinished issues I may have had in those lives will come forward into the current life I’m living giving me the opportunity to move into a better, non-resistant, vibrational place regarding it, if that’s what I’m wanting.

Each life we live gives us a new and different perspective to grow into and experience, and although they are separate journeys, each is closely related to the other. Just as the life we’re currently living is a specific and quantifiable journey, so is the compilation of all the lives we’ve lived a journey with a much broader view and deeper understanding than the individual life we’re living. Our Non-Physical counterpart is communicating that broader understanding to the Physical here and now part of us through our emotions, and depending on how good were feeling, with thoughts too.
So when we’re Non-Physical before we decide to take another Physical body, we set general goals or circumstances we may want to achieve in the next life, but by no means are these goals specific or set in stone. More of a general guide that’s open to moving in multiple different ways depending on the direction of our focus, the experiences we have, and the choices we make.

The idea that there has been something set in stone by someone outside of ourselves, someone who controls us and then judges us when we don’t behave in an appropriate way or don’t achieve what they’ve set out for us to do, is……Well, that’s more of a human construct. A belief humans hold, not a belief held to by Universal Law or the energy that created and sustains this amazing Universe.

So the moral of this rather long story is…..

~There is nothing that has been set down that we have to do in any specific time frame or way.
~We are always on the right path no matter what is happening or manifesting, for all experiences have the ability to move us into more of what we’re wanting.
~No opportunities can be lost because they are continually flowing in our direction, just as one passes, a new one is on it’s way to us.
~There are no wrong choices just challenges to rise too, and better feeling places to reach.

~And, we are all so much greater than most of us have ever imagined…..

And so you are…..

The “Best Decision”….Is not always the easiest decision that gives us the quickest gratification!!!

Although I have used the description “best decision” in the title, in reality there is no decision that is ultimately the best decision to make. There definitely are choices that will reap better results than others, but any decisions we firmly make that we’ve put all our positive thoughts and feelings behind are good decisions.

It’s true that not many people like not feeling good, actually I don’t think I know anyone who likes not feeling good, that being said, sometimes the need to feel instant gratification or to remove or change circumstances that make us feel uncomfortable immediately, can sometimes cause us to make a choice that short-term may help us to feel better, but long-term does not move anyone in a direction we’re wanting to go in.

This can be especially true when dealing with the little people we may have in our lives, our children. They come forward from Non-Physical with a stronger knowing of who they are than any previous generations, and are not easily guided away from that knowing by others that have been here longer than they have and have mostly forgotten who they really are.

Although coming froward with this strong knowing is very good news….For many it does require some different parenting styles to be learned if we’re wanting to be parents that guide and inspire the best out of our children. From harsh control and discipline, to letting them do whatever they like as long as they’re happy, and we’re happy as we see them happy approach, the middle ground between these two extremes is a good place to aim for.

I know we love our children very much, and it makes us feel very happy to see them happy, and this is a great thing, but when we base our decisions on what will make them the happiest in the short-term so we don’t have to deal with the often unpredictable (or sometimes very predictable!!) extreme behaviours that can follow not getting what they want or from experiencing the natural consequences of their choices, this is not usually in their best interests and does not help them to understand how this Universe is really working, and well, that’s not ideal. (I’ve said that very softly!!)

It’s true, we can do things and make decisions that prevent them from experiencing the full consequences of their actions. The problem with doing this is it makes it hard for them to see the connections between how the choices they make bring semi-predictable consequences which can cause them to start making decisions without the knowledge of what could possibly happen…..Which is ok when we’re always there to make everything alright, (Well, no it isn’t ok, but I think you probably know what I mean) but we must at some level accept that they will eventually be without someone who is prepared to dedicate their life to making sure everything runs smoothly for them. Someone that will run around and try to make their experience better by trying to prevent them experiencing the consequences from the choices they’ve made!! No, they will not find another who will do this for them….

Of course no one wants their children to experience strongly unwanted circumstances, and I think most of us would try to lessen this happening if we knew such circumstances were coming, but that’s exactly why it’s important to let them experience the small unwanted consequences of their actions, because once they’re aware of the link between what they’re choosing and what’s turning up, and it becomes a strong knowing and awareness they have based on their own first hand experiences….Now they are so well prepared with what they need to know to be on their own and create what they’re wanting in their own lives!!

And I believe it would be very hard to find a parent that didn’t want that for their children….But that’s just me….

And so it is….

I drink a little more than recommended…..This world ain’t exactly what my heart expected….

These are lyrics from a song called Free by Rudimental featuring Emeli Sande`.

It’s not too hard to figure out what these lyrics are saying, and for me it goes something like….

Well, I find myself in this physical world, and although there are many good things here, as I look around I also see many things I don’t like, and I’ve also experienced many circumstances in my life that certainly didn’t make me jump for joy. When I see and experience such things I don’t feel very good, and somewhere deep inside myself I have a feeling I’m supposed to feel good, like it wasn’t supposed to be such hard work, like feeling good and enjoying my life was something I came here to do???
But how can I feel good when others are behaving in a way that I don’t agree with? I’ve learnt that trying to control others just as others have tried to control me to feel good, doesn’t really work so I’ve given up on that.
So then I have these negative emotions within me and I’ve noticed as time goes by, they get stronger and I seem to be faced with even more unwanted circumstances in my life…..So sometimes I reach for something that will give me some temporary relief, something that helps me to feel better and forget or numb the intensity of what I’m feeling.
Alcohol, drugs, food, medication, sex, exercise, work or any other substance or circumstance can be used to prevent us from feeling the full intensity of our negative emotions. Some are more detrimental than others, but all when solely used without making an effort to feel better ourselves, cause negative emotions to grow stronger which in turn usually requires us to use more of whatever we’re using to maintain the same amount of relief.

The good news is……as our negative emotions intensify and our increased use of external substances or circumstances starts not to work, one usually comes to the realisation that a change of strategy is needed, no, required to continue to move forward in a positive manner, and in extreme cases, to remain in this physical body.

We’re all doing whatever we feel is necessary to feel good in our lives as this is one of the strongest desires we have as we came forward from the Non-Physical realm into this Physical world. To create anything, we need to be exposed to many variables which inevitably helps us come to stronger and more specific ideas of what we’re wanting to create in our own lives. If the contrast didn’t exist in this Physical environment we’re currently living in, there would be no real purpose to coming here from the Non-Physical realm in the first place.

It rarely helps to judge ourselves or others negatively and harshly for this type of behaviour, even when we know these choices aren’t ultimately going to produce much good in the longterm. Using external substances to feel better can be a strategy that has the potential to help us in the short-term, until we feel we have the strength to feel better by ourselves, but can become a problem or addiction if we rely solely on whatever we’ve been using without making an effort to move our emotions into a better feeling vibrational place ourselves.

If we’re wanting to overcome any addiction or addictive behaviours we may have, there must be a desire to no longer want to use whatever substances or circumstances we’re using. Even with this desire, it’s difficult to stop, but without it, it’s virtually impossible to stop. This decision can only come from within us, others may put up all sorts of scenarios and reasons why we shouldn’t be doing this or that, but this often causes whoever we’re trying to convince to stop what they’re doing, feel more negative emotions such as shame, guilt, confusion and helplessness which can increase the desire to use something to numb the increased not good feeling emotions experienced.
Making anyone feel even worse about the choices they’re making, no matter how detrimental those choices may be, in the hope they’ll feel so bad they’ll suddenly stop using, is a very risky approach at best and has the potential of making our recipients desire to use something stronger!!

Whether we’re thinking about this subject for ourselves, or for someone who we love and would do anything to help, moving forward in a positive manner requires many different approaches depending on the specific circumstances, but at the top of that list is;

~Promoting the belief that we do have the strength and courage to move forward positively, even if it’s hard to currently see how. This is no easy feat if we’ve tried many times without success, but the stronger our belief is that we’ll succeed, the more likelihood there is that we will!!
~The idea that if we slip up one time we’ve failed miserably, isn’t a thought that helps anyone that’s trying to change negative behaviours. If we’ve been doing anything for an extended period of time, there is much power and momentum behind our actions that the Law of Attraction has been responding too, making it very hard to stop what we’ve been doing all at once.
It’s better to accept that even when we’re trying our best, we may slip up, but that it’s not the end of the world and it doesn’t mean all the progress we’ve already made is lost. It’s often the strong negative emotions of feeling that one has failed, letting themselves and those they love down again, that promotes the feeling that it’s hopeless to even keep trying anymore. When we’re more accepting of our current choices knowing it doesn’t mean we can’t keep moving forward positively, it makes it easier to cope and keep going with renewed resolve and determination without the negative self-reflection that can bring us to our knees.

Although I know dealing with such circumstances can be very difficult, the best thing we can hope to do is to stay as positive as we possibly can, and to make an effort to continue to do this, even when we feel things aren’t working out as well or as quickly as we would like…..
Because when we know the Law of Attraction is bringing us evidence of what we believe and are strongly emitting vibrationally, anything else is unacceptable….

And so it is….

I feel something so right doing the wrong thing…..I feel something so wrong doing the right thing…..

These are lyrics from the song Counting Stars by One Republic.

So how could one feel right doing the wrong thing, and wrong doing the right thing??? There are an infinite number of answers to that question depending on the specific circumstances we may be talking about, but take the specifics out of the situation and it always comes down to the same reasons which are;

I have been raised with many values, rules, and morals standards that have been taught to me by my family, culture and the society I am apart of, and although mostly I believe these are good and make my physical experience here enjoyable, why do I sometimes feel like I’ve done something wrong when I’ve done the right thing as prescribed by my up-bringing? The short answer is, we’ve gone against the communication or guidance we’ve received from our Non-Physical counterpart that’s communicating with us through our emotions. The stronger our negative feelings are, the more strongly we’re moving in an unwanted direction, but on the flip side of this, the stronger our positive feelings are, the more strongly we’re moving in the direction of something we’re wanting!!

I like to talk in terms of wanted and unwanted rather than right or wrong, for whatever we are doing may be judged as right or wrong by others and ourselves, but this is rarely useful. What’s really important is….Is what I am choosing to think, speak or act on now, moving me closer to that which I am really wanting to experience, or is it moving me further away from what I am really wanting to experience???

If something doesn’t feel good or right to us, it isn’t good for us, end of story. It doesn’t mean that it’s the end of the world of course, it just means when we have a feeling that we shouldn’t be doing this or that, it’s communication from our Non-Physical counterpart that stayed in the Non-Physical realm when we made the decision to come forward into this Physical world, telling us that the thoughts, words or action were currently taking are not moving us in the direction of what we’re really wanting.

This doesn’t mean that things can’t work out well if we have taken action when we’ve felt we shouldn’t have, because we have the ability to constantly change and amend what we’re thinking, saying and doing until we’re in vibrational alignment with what we’re really wanting.

Vibrational alignment is another way of saying we are in harmony.
In harmony, or emitting the same vibrational frequency between the Physical part of us that’s here in this Physical world and the Non-Physical part of us that’s communicating with us through our emotions from the Non-Physical realm..

As many would know, the Non-Physical realm is a place where strongly unwanted circumstances do not exist. Although there are variations in vibrations even there, there’s not the vast variations we can experience in our physical world environment. We came with the freewill to choose from all we observe what it is we wish to experience, and although we do tend to congregate in groups of similar vibration, (Law of Attraction!!) The rules and regulations of how we should live and create what we’re wanting to experience in our lives can never be dictated by another outside of ourselves, no matter how well-meaning they are!!

When one feels their experience is threatened by others behaving in a way they find to be inappropriate, and much negative focused attention is given to such circumstances until strong negative emotion is produced and maintained over time, the Law of Attraction will bring us evidence of that which we are now strongly vibrationally emitting, because it’s all “Out there!!”
It’s our job to focus on what we have decided through the living of our life, what we’re wanting to experience, and allow others to do the same.
Just as we are free to choose, so is everyone……And this isn’t a problem when we know nothing strongly unwanted can enter our world unless we maintain and increase negative focus on it.

At the end of the day, we are all in charge of ourselves and what we do, rules dictated by others can be a helpful guide sometimes, but usually come from a place of trying to control others for fear they will do something “inappropriate” that may threaten our way of life.

When one is often in alignment with what and who they really are, a blending of our Physical and Non-Physical selves, Laws, Rules, and Regulations are never required, and if one is far away from this blending or alignment, Laws don’t work anyway….

And so it is….