Why is it difficult to change my beliefs?


Boat in a Bottle
If we can only believe in what is right in front of us, improved circumstances will be very hard to come by……For it is the belief in our ability to achieve what is not here yet that brings it to us.      Paulette De-Har


Sometimes we continue to do things the way we’ve always done them simply because we’ve always done things this way and often haven’t even considered changing what we’re doing. That being true it can also be difficult to change our beliefs because the Law of Attraction continues to send us circumstances that match our dominant vibrational offering and having one or two thoughts on what we would like to change does not have enough attraction power to override a strongly held belief that’s been given much thought to overtime especially if we’ve had many firsthand personal experiences.
In other words, it takes quite a lot of time and focused effort to change our beliefs even when we know they are no longer serving us. It’s often not until we start to understand we are the creators of our lives through our focused thoughts and feelings that create our beliefs, that we emit a vibration of, that the Law of Attraction gives us more evidence of, that we can begin to change.

Of course, everything is always changing, that’s one of the principles this Universe is based upon and in and of itself cannot be changed!!! (That’s funny…….everything changing never changes!!!) If we feel like things aren’t changing, it’s because they change to similar circumstances that match the vibrational place (thoughts, feelings and beliefs) we may have held overtime that may or may not be serving what we are really wanting to create in our lives.

For example, a trait one may believe they have or will experience because many members of their family may have had or experienced is a belief that more often than not, does not serve us. It is true we have inherited much genetic material from our paternal parents. This has been the building blocks that have allowed our transition from 100% pure positive Non-Physical energy into a blending of both Non-Physical and Physical Earthbound energy. Our genetics we begin with are purely the beginning place of our physical existence, like a canvas that has not yet been painted on. As we grow and learn on our physical journey we start to paint our canvas through our thoughts and feelings that in turn continues to shape our future experiences.
What we see and are surrounded by as we grow up often becomes the beliefs we prescribe to and expect which continues to be reflected in our own experiences as we move through time. It is not a question whether a belief someone holds is true or not. No matter what our beliefs are, if we hold them strongly they will be true in our experience because the Law of Attraction will make it so.

Whether our beliefs are true or not is not a criteria or beneficial way to judge whether to hold onto a belief that is not serving us no matter how many people around us, immediate family or not are experiencing it. For there are many things out in the world that are true and happening that we do not want to bring into our own experience and just because something is true or has happened to someone else or even ourselves in the past is a poor excuse for focusing on a strongly unwanted circumstance unless we are purely focused on the improved outcome an unwanted circumstance has inspired within us.
Unfortunately not many human beings at this time are able to stay positively focused on the solution they wish to see when faced with unwanted circumstances, especially with subjects they feel very strongly about, and I totally get it…….it’s not that easy!
Better criteria to use when questioning if a belief we hold is serving us is, does this belief I hold make me feel good and will it create wanted circumstances if it comes into full fruition in my experience?
If the answer is yes then this is a belief that is worth putting a strong focus on until a pure place of knowing is achieved and maintained. If the answer is no and we have beliefs that produce negative emotions when thought about, this definitely will not produce wanted circumstances if full manifestation is achieved and it would be a good idea to think about the wanted circumstances that have been inspired within us. If we cannot reach for a better feeling place immediately we may need to direct our thoughts to a completely different better feeling subject until our resistance subsides somewhat.

Reestablishing improved beliefs does not usually happen overnight because remember, the Law of Attraction is matching us with what we are vibrating and we will need to give the improved beliefs we would like to experience much thought until it becomes the new dominant vibration we are emitting.
During the time of making an effort to change unwanted beliefs, it is quite normal to get a bit of a mixed bag as far as experience goes. In other words, the Law of Attraction is responding to all our vibrations until one becomes dominant and then our experience can start to smooth itself out as our vibration pulses strongly in our newly improved place.
I understand it’s not always the easiest thing to do but let me ask you……..What is more important than this??? Dealing with the physical manifestations that come from beliefs that are not serving us takes much time and energy and drains the physical mind and body. Actions taken in these circumstances are hard work and produce poor results at best, whereas when our improved beliefs begin to gain momentum everything starts to take care of itself without the need to deal with strongly unwanted circumstances.

Now we are living in a time of heightened change. We can make our lives better by being the change we wish for or we can make our experience somewhat difficult by refusing to change and holding to what we know is no longer serving us……..

I can’t speak for anyone else but I sure know what I prefer.

And so I do…….

Once the seeds of truth have been planted….They cannot be removed!!!




Just as a tree, the mighty oak came from the smallest of seeds that found itself in the optimal conditions it required to grow….So it is when a human being comes into a receptive mode through their own life experiences. This is the next logical step in any living organisms evolution.

The Soul or Non-Physical counterpart of all physical beings on this planet knows the truth when they hear it because essentially they are the truth, and is the main catalyst that is drawing and attracting truths to the physical part of who we are through our experiences. This is so we may more fully understand what our purpose is and how we are creating our lives thus giving us the opportunity to move more fully into the joyful expression of who we really are.

This is not a desire that is held only by our Non-Physical counterpart but also by the physical here and now part of who we are in the form of our own desires to everything we experience and observe. For example, every time we experience something whether it is wanted or unwanted we immediately know what would be an improved experience, and this knowing is also known and held at the same moment by our Non-Physical counterpart.

Our Non-Physical counterpart resides in and is the pure positive energy of joy, love, and truth therefore does not hold misconceptions, false beliefs or negative resistant thought patterns but knows the physical part of who we are has picked up many of these untrue perceptions, false beliefs and negative resistant thought patterns through the living of this and previous physical lives.

We are constantly guided by the Non-Physical through our emotions and what we are currently experiencing in our life depends largely on how much we have listened to the Non-Physical part of ourselves. The more we have made an effort to move into better, good feeling positive emotional places as we move through our lives the more blended the physical and Non-Physical parts of us become and the more knowing we are about all things.

The seeds of truth have always been within us and when we are confronted with Universal truths, deep down we know it. If these truths don’t align with the truths we are now living and have learnt along our physical journey it can upset the status quo causing us to turn away from that which we are unsure of in fear of the unknown.

This does not matter for once the mind and intellect have grown and we have been inspired with strong desire through our own personal experiences to understand and know more about the truth of life…..We are now in a fertile condition like the mighty oak with all that is required to bring this knowing into our full physical awareness. Once all conditions required for the successful revealing of truth are present, it’s not a matter of if this will happen, but when this will happen.

The length of time for this knowing to be completely understood depends on how willing we are to do the work of reassessing and changing beliefs we are coming to know are no longer serving us in a positive way. This can be more easily said than done as any beliefs we’ve held strongly over time will have much momentum behind them that we have literally been living and observing in our life experience. These limiting beliefs do take time and effort to move into higher vibrational places by doing our best to find the best feeling emotional place we can to whatever we are currently experiencing.

It is also very likely that we will be surrounded by many others that believe strongly in our old belief systems for we have attracted people, places and events that are in a similar vibrational place as where we have previously been. That’s the Law of Attraction in action!!! Responding to our vibration and aligning us with vibrational matches. Again this doesn’t matter, for even if we ourselves or those around us are resistant and not cooperative in this time of change, opportunities will be continuously presented to us to help us release any resistance we have until all doubt is gone and our understanding is clear as to the best and easiest way to move forward.

One that has been in the place to hear and feel the seeds of truth cannot remove this knowing, even if it was only for a fleeting moment they knew it. For those surrounding one that is coming to know the truth but may be trying to prevent that truth from being known for fear of the unknown, this is not possible and a futile attempt to control forces that will never be controlled from a place of fear or any other place for that matter.

We are all capable of the most amazing things….The seeds of this greatness lie within us all, not one among us was forgotten. There has never been a better time than now to start moving into the full knowing of all that we can be and all that we really are…..And it’s letting these seeds flourish within our being that will get us everything we are really wanting…..And more!!!

And so it is….

Why would we spread our not good feelings around???


Friendly Bear
If you are going to give something, make it something good…….If not because that’s who you are, do it because you will eventually receive back what you have given out.       Paulette De-Har

The answer is quite simple. If this is something we are doing, we’re doing it because it feels good, or more to the point, it feels better than the already not good place were in!!!


This comes from experiencing unwanted circumstances in our own lives without knowing we have the ability to move to a better feeling place without the need to unload our negativeness onto others. When we don’t make an effort to feel better when experiencing unwanted circumstances and emotions, negative resistance remains within our being that eventually needs to be released in one way or another.
Unfortunately, it often accumulates to such a point that many will pass their negative resistant energy onto other often innocent bystanders so they can feel better. Once one has done this they may feel better and think they’ve released that negative emotion, but it’s not quite that simple!!!

Unloading or being nasty is a very temporary solution that can make us initially feel better, but as the Law of Attraction responds to our actions by adding power and momentum to that which we think, speak and do….It’s not very long before we will again be on the receiving end of that negative vibrational energy we originally gave out, except when it returns, it has a stronger vibrational signal. When the Law of Attraction responds to the vibrational signals were emitting, our thought forms or vibrations are joined by other similar thoughts of the same vibrational frequency and emotional intensity before they are “returned to sender” so to speak. That’s why circumstances and what keeps turning up in our experience often increases in intensity as we move forward through time even if we feel our vibration hasn’t changed that much.

So the manifestations we are attracting are physical evidence of what we’ve been giving our focused thoughts too that the Law of Attraction has added power and momentum too. Good news if we’re receiving wanted circumstances, but even if we’re receiving unwanted circumstances….It’s still good news!!!
You may be thinking, how could that be???
It’s not possible to find our way on a map when we don’t know exactly where we are on that map….Wouldn’t you agree??? Sometimes we’re not aware we’ve had thoughts that have been attracting something we’re not wanting until we experience it, and as I’ve said many times before, knowledge and truth is power. ( inner power )

We don’t need to wait until something unwanted turns up to know what we’re attracting. If we make our most important job that of noticing how we are feeling as we move through our days and make the best effort possible to feel better apart from what others are or are not doing, we will be attracting improved circumstances into our lives.
It’s best to be gentle on ourselves when something unwanted happens. It’s not about pretending to like things we don’t like, no. It’s about acknowledging we’re doing our best and that it’s almost impossible to know ever thought we’ve had on every subject that’s important to us and take it for what it is….

A message from a benevolent loving Universe that’s saying….

“I love you so much, and I want you to experience all you are wanting in your life…..So I am communicating to you like we agreed I would before you made the powerful decision to come into this wonderful physical world. You have never, ever, been alone or apart from me even though I know at times you’ve felt this way. I have communicated to you through your emotions letting you know when you are right on the path of what you’re wanting (positive emotions) and when you are on a path that is moving you away from what you are wanting. (negative emotions) Follow your highest thoughts and your highest feelings, and they will lead you into the fullness of all you’ve ever wanted to be and more.”

These were the promises that were made to every creature before we came here…..And now is the time for remembering….

And so it is….

Turning away from what we don’t like…..Is a temporary solution!!!


It is not possible to deny where we really are, for it will be reflected back to us in many different circumstances and situations until acceptance and awareness are achieved.          Paulette De-Har

It’s definitely a good idea to avoid focusing on circumstances we don’t like and aren’t wanting to experience in our lives by making an effort to turn our attention to what we are wanting rather than what we are not wanting. But it’s important to know this is more of a temporary solution, especially on subjects that are very important to us. For important subjects that we’re experiencing strong negative emotion too, it’s likely we’ll also be dealing with many situations our thoughts have attracted as the Law of Attraction responds to our strongly held emotional place with all kinds of manifestations that are a match to the dominant feelings within us.


This can make it difficult to look the other way so to speak, which is part of the reason why whatever turned-up has turned up!!! It’s a message to us from the Universe saying…..“This is the direction of your focused thoughts, this is what you are creating in your life, would you like more???” If our answer is no, a change in the direction of our thought is required. If our answer is yes and we are liking what’s turning-up, continuing our already positive focus will create more experiences we’re wanting. Even slight improvements in a thought that are maintained and held onto over time can produce greatly improved manifestations in our lives.

Remember, consistency is the name of the game. It’s not enough to have one improved thought and leave it at that. All things we’re wanting to bring forward into our experience need positive focus that’s been thought on long enough to achieve power and momentum. Once this momentum of thought is achieved it requires less and less effort to maintain our improved vibrational place as this will be where we now naturally are.

If we simply turn away from unwanted manifestations and ignore our negative emotions without making the effort to move them into a better feeling vibrational place, we have prevented adding power to our already unwanted vibration by observing and feeling stronger negative emotions, but without improving how we feel, we’re unlikely to attract improved circumstances on this subject.
This is often the case when experiencing similar unwanted circumstances over and over again. Different places, different faces, but similar experiences. Similar circumstances turn-up when the vibrations that caused this or that to be attracted have not changed much. That’s good news if we’re experiencing wanted circumstances in our lives, who would want to change that??? But if what we’re experiencing isn’t what we’re wanting in our lives, it’s a good idea to start trying to improve our thought somewhat, even if we only make a little vibrational movement each time we bring these thoughts into our mind.

I know it’s not the easiest thing in the world to improve our thoughts on subjects we’ve felt a certain way about for a long time. Especially when we’ve received plenty of evidence to support our long-held beliefs, but once we’re starting to understand how we’re creating our life experiences and that all we’re experiencing is attracted to us through our own focused thoughts that the Law of Attraction is responding and adding power too, I don’t really see what other choices there are???

I can only speak for myself when I say, I know what I do my best to choose every single time…..

And so I do….

All emotional states….Are a temporary state of being!!!

Although this is a truthful statement, as always nothing is completely black or white, but includes many shades of grey especially when it comes to our physical experience on this planet.
This statement speaks to the truth that we have control over the emotions we feel as they come in response to the thoughts we think, and when we have mastered the thoughts we will allow ourselves to think through the power of our focused mind, we then have the ability to be the deliberate creator and producer of the emotions we’re wanting to experience rather than purely a reactor to what happens around us with little or no conscious control over what we think and how we feel.

As we think any thoughts and hold them in our mind for a short period of time, the Law of Attraction adds power to those thoughts making it much easier for us to think similar thoughts on whatever subject we’re giving our attention to at that moment. The accumulative effect of this over experiences and time is very strong and can be why even when we’re making an effort to improve our thoughts, we easily slip back into the well established vibrational groove (Ooooooh, that’s cool, “Vibrational Groove.” Hehehe….) we’re most commonly at, our General Vibrational Place.

Ultimately we do have power over the thoughts we think and how we feel, but when we’re trying to improve our thoughts on a subject we’ve felt a certain way about for a long time, it’s not the easiest and quickest thing in the world to change. It does take time and focus to improve our vibrational place but remember, just as the Law of Attraction added power and momentum to our old thoughts the same will happen with our new thoughts, and once the new thoughts are the strongest vibration within us on whatever subject we’re giving our attention too, they will be the thoughts we have the easiest access too and what we’ll be creating our future experience from, and that’s a very good place to be!!!

As we become more aware of how this Universe and the Law of Attraction works, things we may have previously not taken notice of that we prescribed little or no meaning too, start taking on much deeper meanings and we start to recognise and see these signs and what they possible mean for us. They aren’t always good feeling or wanted signs, but they are always what we need to move forward in the direction we’re wanting to go. It’s when we can see all that happens in our experience, both wanted and unwanted as being opportunities for deeper understandings and knowing (especially when dealt with positively) that we’ll be propelled forward and that’s when we start to move into accessing the full power of who we are!!!

Every person that comes forward into a physical life knows this, for this knowing is part of what makes us who we really are. If those that surrounded us as we grew up didn’t know and teach us how to focus on what we’re wanting by directing our thoughts and feelings in a positive direction because they themselves didn’t know, we may have experienced temporary memory loss, forgetting that we are the creators of our own life experiences. I say “temporary memory loss” because it’s not possible for anyone to permanently eradicate part of what makes us who we are and it’s only a matter of time before those that have forgotten these truths find themselves on a journey of remembering and discovery.

No matter where we are on our journey and how much we’ve come to remember and understand about this life……There’s always more.
~ It’s not a race to see who knows the most.
~ It’s not about declaring ones self to be better than others.
~ It’s about being able to create the life we’re wanting to live and to possibly pass something positive on that we know may help others live more of the life they’re wanting to live….If they’re in the place to receive it of course???

I don’t know about anybody else….But that sounds pretty good to me!!!

And so our journey together continues….

So what about previous lives???

Although most have lived many physical lives….When we re-enter the physical realm as a new physical entity, a baby, we often don’t remember the previous life experiences we’ve had. If we do have memories, it’s very often when we are young and aren’t aware that this isn’t an accepted principle or understanding that the majority of people or societies we’ve being brought-up in have an awareness of.
Children that are very young have been known to give unusual accounts or details claiming they’ve had experiences or been another person in a different time period and often rely very specific knowledge that doesn’t seem possible for them to have gained at their current young age. This happens more frequently than we may think but is often disregarded as imaginative thinking, or worse….Lying.

If we’re coming forward multiple times into different physical lives,(and we are)at different points in time, physical bodies, locations and circumstances without easily accessible memories of any of our previous lives, a reasonable conclusion is that we don’t remember what’s previously happened because we’re wanting differing experiences from different physical perspectives. This wouldn’t be possible if we were to remember the lives and experiences we’ve previously lived. This is no accident, but the way we’ve purposely designed it!!!

It would be very difficult to look through new fresh eyes and make different or improved choices if we had clear memories of past experiences from the previous lives we’ve lived. This would mean our current experiences would go through the filter of our previous memories and perspectives. So what would be the purpose of making our transition back to Non-Physical and coming forward into a new body if our perspectives stayed the same???

That being said, we do carry all the experiences we’ve had through all the previous lifetimes we’ve lived within our physical here and now body, and we do have the ability to tap into those experiences and knowledge if we have the desire.
For me, although I know I’ve lived many lives before and feel strongly when I meet someone I’ve known in a previous life, I don’t feel the need to find out any specific details or go through the process of trying to bring back those memories. I’m aware that all my previous experiences have led me to where I am now, and any resistance or unfinished issues I may have had in those lives will come forward into the current life I’m living giving me the opportunity to move into a better, non-resistant, vibrational place regarding it, if that’s what I’m wanting.

Each life we live gives us a new and different perspective to grow into and experience, and although they are separate journeys, each is closely related to the other. Just as the life we’re currently living is a specific and quantifiable journey, so is the compilation of all the lives we’ve lived a journey with a much broader view and deeper understanding than the individual life we’re living. Our Non-Physical counterpart is communicating that broader understanding to the Physical here and now part of us through our emotions, and depending on how good were feeling, with thoughts too.
So when we’re Non-Physical before we decide to take another Physical body, we set general goals or circumstances we may want to achieve in the next life, but by no means are these goals specific or set in stone. More of a general guide that’s open to moving in multiple different ways depending on the direction of our focus, the experiences we have, and the choices we make.

The idea that there has been something set in stone by someone outside of ourselves, someone who controls us and then judges us when we don’t behave in an appropriate way or don’t achieve what they’ve set out for us to do, is……Well, that’s more of a human construct. A belief humans hold, not a belief held to by Universal Law or the energy that created and sustains this amazing Universe.

So the moral of this rather long story is…..

~There is nothing that has been set down that we have to do in any specific time frame or way.
~We are always on the right path no matter what is happening or manifesting, for all experiences have the ability to move us into more of what we’re wanting.
~No opportunities can be lost because they are continually flowing in our direction, just as one passes, a new one is on it’s way to us.
~There are no wrong choices just challenges to rise too, and better feeling places to reach.

~And, we are all so much greater than most of us have ever imagined…..

And so you are…..

I’d like to make the world a better place…..I just don’t know how…..


It is not possible to change others. The only hope of changing the world is to change ourselves for the better first.          Paulette De-Har.

This is something someone said in general conversation, and as soon as the words were said, a whole bombardment of thoughts entered my mind as to the answer to her proposed question.
Of course, it was a question asked without the intention or anticipation of receiving an answer too, more of a thinking aloud moment than a real desire to know the answer.
The truth is, it’s virtually impossible to receive answers to questions we don’t believe there are answers too. When people say they want to “make the world a better place,” often what people really mean goes something like;


Through my personal experience and perspective on life, I have come to know what I think is the best way to live and what I believe is “right or wrong,” but as I look around, I see many people doing things I don’t agree with, things I find to be wrong. Initially I tried to control those around me but have figured out that’s a very difficult task to accomplish and doesn’t usually end well, so I suppose I’ve just come to the conclusion that there’ll always be things out there that I have to accept are not what I’m wanting, that I don’t think I can feel good about. (God damn all those people out there that aren’t living their lives how I think they should live!!! Hehehe… Oops, sorry if you don’t think that’s funny!!)

See the hopelessness in all of that….

We cannot make the world a better place for everyone else to live in, that’s not our job. We did not come forward into this physical world to control others and tell them how they should live their lives based on our life experiences or to change everything to how we feel it would be better for others. Each came here to decide how to live based on their life experiences, and that’s the way it’s supposed to be, it’s no accident.

But we absolutely came forward to make our own world a better place by focusing on all we’ve decided from our own personal experience and perspective, how we’re wanting to live. It’s not possible to eradicate any part of this world we’re currently living in. We make our world the world we’re wanting to live in by focusing on all we are wanting and find to be good, and that’s what the Law of Attraction will bring to us. Focusing on all that we don’t like or don’t agree with from a not good feeling, negative, vibrational place, will bring us something quite different to what we’re wanting….

Many have come to know it’s not possible to control any other for any great length of time. Even those that may have initially liked being guided and controlled by others, eventually find these circumstances intolerable as they grow up and have more life experiences helping them to decide more clearly who they are and what they are wanting out of life. For those that are either harshly controlled or trying to control others, there will eventually be an awakening, usually in the form of strong manifestations that helps them to move forward in a more positive direction.
For the controller, it’s about letting go of control and learning to feel good apart from requiring everyone that’s around them to behave in a certain way, so they can feel good.
For the controlled, it’s about coming into our true power and standing up for who we are and what we believe in a positive, good feeling way.

It’s not something we really need to worry about though because whether we’re aware of these things or not, opportunities are constantly being presented to us every single day that are gradually helping us to move into better and better places.
We are making the world a better place by focusing and attracting more of that which is good into our own lives, for that gives more positive things in the world for everyone to focus on and attract into their lives….And so the cycle goes on!!!

Talk about the cycle of life!!!

And so it is….

Consistency….Is the name of the game!!!

It doesn’t matter what subject we talk about, the formula doesn’t change…. Doing anything once is great, especially if it’s something that we feel inspired or good about doing, but I don’t think too many people would disagree with the fact that if we’re wanting to see any real longterm change in our lives, consistency of thought and action is usually required!!!

Even though many of us know this, why do we often find it difficult to keep our consistency of action up???
The answer always comes down to similar reasons. If we haven’t taken the time to move our thought into a positive good feeling vibrational place before we take any physical action, we often don’t have the inspiration required to continue on with what we’re wanting to do. And sometimes even when we have taken some time to improve and work on our vibration before taking action, we may still find our enthusiasm wavering, especially if it’s become hard work and we’re not achieving the results we’re wanting.
In the beginning, being strongly focused on the end result we’re wanting in a positive way can help us, but as we keep going, if we start making negative judgements because we haven’t achieved exactly what we were wanting in our desired time limit, this starts to make what we’re doing difficult and can send us in an unwanted direction again. I don’t believe many people have a lack of wanting, everyone wants what they want, but sometimes when we’ve tried many times without success, it becomes painful to keep trying and continue to not achieve what we’re wanting, so it feels better not to try, sometimes it feels better to give-up.
But this too is a bitter pill to take because deep down we know there’s no reason why we shouldn’t be able to achieve what it is we’re wanting….So even though, at the time giving-up may be a better feeling place than failure, we will rarely find any lasting happiness in this emotional place, and fortunately most that find themselves here, will eventually gain the strength to raise their vibration into a better place where they can again start receiving positive ideas.

If we’re receiving good ideas, especially if they’re coming from within us through our own though process, this is a good indication we’ve been somewhat in a good general vibrational place otherwise we wouldn’t be receiving them. The better feeling place we’ve generally been in, the more inspired our thoughts are, and the more likely we are to take action on them, especially if we’ve fostered an attitude of belief in ourselves and our ability.

When an idea comes we may want to act on, the best possible thing we can do is to give it as much positive thought as we can. This is very different from looking at the “pros and cons” of a situation as many people often do at this time. If we do put a lot of focus and attention on all the things that could possibly go wrong and what may not work, this usually has the effect of instantly killing our ideas, for now we are emitting a vibration that may be primarily made up of thoughts and feelings on everything unwanted that could happen, and not many people will take any action from this not good feeling, non-believeing, vibrational place because it’s too hard and doesn’t usually produce good results unless we make an effort to greatly improve our thought as we go, which is possible, but it’s much easier if we start in a good vibrational place to begin with.

As we focus over time on all the positives in relation to our ideas, power and momentum of positive thought is maintained and improved, and as the Law of Attraction responds to the dominant vibrational signal we’re emitting, any action taken from this place is truly inspired and reaps much better results. This is exactly whats going on when we talk to one who explains their “work” not as work, but mostly as a joyful endeavour they get paid to do!!!

Of course resistant circumstances will still turn up, even when we’ve taken action from an inspired good feeling place that has positive power and momentum behind it, but from this strong vibrational place, obstacles are easily overcome and are more of a propeller into even better, fuller, more wanted circumstances!!!

And so it is….

I drink a little more than recommended…..This world ain’t exactly what my heart expected….

These are lyrics from a song called Free by Rudimental featuring Emeli Sande`.

It’s not too hard to figure out what these lyrics are saying, and for me it goes something like….

Well, I find myself in this physical world, and although there are many good things here, as I look around I also see many things I don’t like, and I’ve also experienced many circumstances in my life that certainly didn’t make me jump for joy. When I see and experience such things I don’t feel very good, and somewhere deep inside myself I have a feeling I’m supposed to feel good, like it wasn’t supposed to be such hard work, like feeling good and enjoying my life was something I came here to do???
But how can I feel good when others are behaving in a way that I don’t agree with? I’ve learnt that trying to control others just as others have tried to control me to feel good, doesn’t really work so I’ve given up on that.
So then I have these negative emotions within me and I’ve noticed as time goes by, they get stronger and I seem to be faced with even more unwanted circumstances in my life…..So sometimes I reach for something that will give me some temporary relief, something that helps me to feel better and forget or numb the intensity of what I’m feeling.
Alcohol, drugs, food, medication, sex, exercise, work or any other substance or circumstance can be used to prevent us from feeling the full intensity of our negative emotions. Some are more detrimental than others, but all when solely used without making an effort to feel better ourselves, cause negative emotions to grow stronger which in turn usually requires us to use more of whatever we’re using to maintain the same amount of relief.

The good news is……as our negative emotions intensify and our increased use of external substances or circumstances starts not to work, one usually comes to the realisation that a change of strategy is needed, no, required to continue to move forward in a positive manner, and in extreme cases, to remain in this physical body.

We’re all doing whatever we feel is necessary to feel good in our lives as this is one of the strongest desires we have as we came forward from the Non-Physical realm into this Physical world. To create anything, we need to be exposed to many variables which inevitably helps us come to stronger and more specific ideas of what we’re wanting to create in our own lives. If the contrast didn’t exist in this Physical environment we’re currently living in, there would be no real purpose to coming here from the Non-Physical realm in the first place.

It rarely helps to judge ourselves or others negatively and harshly for this type of behaviour, even when we know these choices aren’t ultimately going to produce much good in the longterm. Using external substances to feel better can be a strategy that has the potential to help us in the short-term, until we feel we have the strength to feel better by ourselves, but can become a problem or addiction if we rely solely on whatever we’ve been using without making an effort to move our emotions into a better feeling vibrational place ourselves.

If we’re wanting to overcome any addiction or addictive behaviours we may have, there must be a desire to no longer want to use whatever substances or circumstances we’re using. Even with this desire, it’s difficult to stop, but without it, it’s virtually impossible to stop. This decision can only come from within us, others may put up all sorts of scenarios and reasons why we shouldn’t be doing this or that, but this often causes whoever we’re trying to convince to stop what they’re doing, feel more negative emotions such as shame, guilt, confusion and helplessness which can increase the desire to use something to numb the increased not good feeling emotions experienced.
Making anyone feel even worse about the choices they’re making, no matter how detrimental those choices may be, in the hope they’ll feel so bad they’ll suddenly stop using, is a very risky approach at best and has the potential of making our recipients desire to use something stronger!!

Whether we’re thinking about this subject for ourselves, or for someone who we love and would do anything to help, moving forward in a positive manner requires many different approaches depending on the specific circumstances, but at the top of that list is;

~Promoting the belief that we do have the strength and courage to move forward positively, even if it’s hard to currently see how. This is no easy feat if we’ve tried many times without success, but the stronger our belief is that we’ll succeed, the more likelihood there is that we will!!
~The idea that if we slip up one time we’ve failed miserably, isn’t a thought that helps anyone that’s trying to change negative behaviours. If we’ve been doing anything for an extended period of time, there is much power and momentum behind our actions that the Law of Attraction has been responding too, making it very hard to stop what we’ve been doing all at once.
It’s better to accept that even when we’re trying our best, we may slip up, but that it’s not the end of the world and it doesn’t mean all the progress we’ve already made is lost. It’s often the strong negative emotions of feeling that one has failed, letting themselves and those they love down again, that promotes the feeling that it’s hopeless to even keep trying anymore. When we’re more accepting of our current choices knowing it doesn’t mean we can’t keep moving forward positively, it makes it easier to cope and keep going with renewed resolve and determination without the negative self-reflection that can bring us to our knees.

Although I know dealing with such circumstances can be very difficult, the best thing we can hope to do is to stay as positive as we possibly can, and to make an effort to continue to do this, even when we feel things aren’t working out as well or as quickly as we would like…..
Because when we know the Law of Attraction is bringing us evidence of what we believe and are strongly emitting vibrationally, anything else is unacceptable….

And so it is….

I feel something so right doing the wrong thing…..I feel something so wrong doing the right thing…..

These are lyrics from the song Counting Stars by One Republic.

So how could one feel right doing the wrong thing, and wrong doing the right thing??? There are an infinite number of answers to that question depending on the specific circumstances we may be talking about, but take the specifics out of the situation and it always comes down to the same reasons which are;

I have been raised with many values, rules, and morals standards that have been taught to me by my family, culture and the society I am apart of, and although mostly I believe these are good and make my physical experience here enjoyable, why do I sometimes feel like I’ve done something wrong when I’ve done the right thing as prescribed by my up-bringing? The short answer is, we’ve gone against the communication or guidance we’ve received from our Non-Physical counterpart that’s communicating with us through our emotions. The stronger our negative feelings are, the more strongly we’re moving in an unwanted direction, but on the flip side of this, the stronger our positive feelings are, the more strongly we’re moving in the direction of something we’re wanting!!

I like to talk in terms of wanted and unwanted rather than right or wrong, for whatever we are doing may be judged as right or wrong by others and ourselves, but this is rarely useful. What’s really important is….Is what I am choosing to think, speak or act on now, moving me closer to that which I am really wanting to experience, or is it moving me further away from what I am really wanting to experience???

If something doesn’t feel good or right to us, it isn’t good for us, end of story. It doesn’t mean that it’s the end of the world of course, it just means when we have a feeling that we shouldn’t be doing this or that, it’s communication from our Non-Physical counterpart that stayed in the Non-Physical realm when we made the decision to come forward into this Physical world, telling us that the thoughts, words or action were currently taking are not moving us in the direction of what we’re really wanting.

This doesn’t mean that things can’t work out well if we have taken action when we’ve felt we shouldn’t have, because we have the ability to constantly change and amend what we’re thinking, saying and doing until we’re in vibrational alignment with what we’re really wanting.

Vibrational alignment is another way of saying we are in harmony.
In harmony, or emitting the same vibrational frequency between the Physical part of us that’s here in this Physical world and the Non-Physical part of us that’s communicating with us through our emotions from the Non-Physical realm..

As many would know, the Non-Physical realm is a place where strongly unwanted circumstances do not exist. Although there are variations in vibrations even there, there’s not the vast variations we can experience in our physical world environment. We came with the freewill to choose from all we observe what it is we wish to experience, and although we do tend to congregate in groups of similar vibration, (Law of Attraction!!) The rules and regulations of how we should live and create what we’re wanting to experience in our lives can never be dictated by another outside of ourselves, no matter how well-meaning they are!!

When one feels their experience is threatened by others behaving in a way they find to be inappropriate, and much negative focused attention is given to such circumstances until strong negative emotion is produced and maintained over time, the Law of Attraction will bring us evidence of that which we are now strongly vibrationally emitting, because it’s all “Out there!!”
It’s our job to focus on what we have decided through the living of our life, what we’re wanting to experience, and allow others to do the same.
Just as we are free to choose, so is everyone……And this isn’t a problem when we know nothing strongly unwanted can enter our world unless we maintain and increase negative focus on it.

At the end of the day, we are all in charge of ourselves and what we do, rules dictated by others can be a helpful guide sometimes, but usually come from a place of trying to control others for fear they will do something “inappropriate” that may threaten our way of life.

When one is often in alignment with what and who they really are, a blending of our Physical and Non-Physical selves, Laws, Rules, and Regulations are never required, and if one is far away from this blending or alignment, Laws don’t work anyway….

And so it is….