Why do others try to control me???

 

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No benefit comes from letting others control us. By giving into others against our own guidance hurts all involved in the end.          Paulette De-Har

This is a comment I received and responded to in relation to a post about special does not mean better, and since I thought it was especially special……..I thought it would be nice to post it. Thank-you to the person who sent it to me. I greatly appreciated your response as it strongly inspired much that I know and helped me to put that knowledge into words. Apart from that, it always feels very good when something we already know is understood in even greater breadth and depth than before.

 

COMMENTER:
It happens often that people when they want to try to control me, and they fail because I notice, they act as if I were better than them. I know that is not true, but nevertheless, I have to live with it. There are many people who control peoples’ lives because they probably don’t have a life of their own, or they like to project their frustrations on others. Special could also mean being able “to read between the lines.”

MY RESPONSE:
People often try to control others because they don’t like what “that person” is doing believing others behaviour will threaten them in some way or another. At the very core of who we all really are, it is known we are supposed to feel good but many have forgotten they have the complete and absolute power to make themselves happy and are instead trying to control other people and circumstances to produce the good feelings they desire.

Anyone who has lived for any decent period of time will usually come to understand that this is a futile endeavour but without knowing they have the power within them to move their thoughts and therefore their feeling responses into better feeling places, they are lost either continually trying to control others or to giving up hope of ever feeling better and remaining in an uncomfortable, not good feeling place. Both of these options are completely unacceptable when it does not have to be this way when we can;

1. Decide to make an effort to feel better than where we currently are apart from the physical conditions we may be experiencing. I know, not an easy thing to do when we have not practised doing this, but one must start somewhere don’t you think!!!
2. Knowing no other can assert anything into our experience for all things are created and attracted to us through the power of our focused thoughts that the Law Of Attraction responds in kind too, both wanted and unwanted whether we are aware of these truths or not.
3. Being kind to ourselves and others because that’s who we really are, and if it’s not possible in the moment, at least turning away and not responding negatively.

In response to others acting as if you are better than them when you are understanding you are not, this is often because people can sense when another they are observing is in a vastly different vibrational, emotional place than they are and will react in a variety of different ways depending on where they are. For Example someone in a very good feeling emotional place that is observed by someone in a low not so good feeling emotional place will often get strong negative attention directed towards them even though they are not giving this energy out!
Those that observe that are vibrationally closer to someone in a high good feeling emotional place are more likely to admire what they see but whether they will actually approach such a person depends on exactly how good they are feeling. In other words looking at others hi-lights within us how we really feel about ourselves but if we don’t know this we project any negativeness outwards to those we believe have created it where in truth it is our own beliefs, thoughts and feelings that have created this resistance within us.

I don’t believe people try to control others lives because they don’t have a life of their own, they try to control others because this is what they have been taught they need to do in order to feel happy, and everyone is trying to feel happy. It is true that many project their frustrations onto others because holding onto much negative energy without making an effort to feel better unconditionally apart from conditions is like putting an oxygen tank under pressure…..It’s only a matter of time before that pressure cannot be held in any longer and the tank explodes. Although most will temporarily feel better after this release of negative energy, it is short lived for as the Law Of Attraction responds to that which they have given out in the form of thoughts, words, and actions, that energy increases in power and momentum before being delivered back to where it first originated……
This is why reacting to strong negative energy others send out is not ideal for then negativeness they have released is passed on and although they will still receive back that which they have originally given out, now we will also receive back the negative energy we have received and in turn have given out and the chain of pain continues on and on……

Unless we start to understand through our own life experiences how this life is really working by paying attention to how we feel and noticing what is turning up in our lives. Anyone that does this from a pure place of wanting to know how to create a better life will eventually receive the answers they so desire!!!

And yes, special means different things to different people and I would agree being sensitive to oneself and others is very special indeed……

And so it is……

Working with the Law of Attraction is easy…..Isn’t it???

ArmsWideFirstly, whether we are aware or not of the powerful Universal Law known to many as the Law of Attraction, this law is responding equally to every living entity on this planet.
The Law of Attraction is responding to the vibration signals we are sending out through our focused thoughts and feelings to whatever we are giving our attention too. Awareness of this law and how it works does not need to be known or understood for it to work…..It simply is.
Just as we don’t need to know what gravity is or how it exactly works for it to effect every aspect of our lives, so it is with the Law of Attraction.

It’s true this Law is simple and means as a vibration is emitted over time with emotional intensity from a living being, that being will receive back in thoughts, feelings and eventually physical manifestations that which they have originally sent out. Our vibration is a constantly moving and changing proposition depending on exactly where we are in relation to all the subjects that are important to us but unless we are consistently making an effort to feel better in our lives, especially when unwanted circumstances turn up, most tend to easily move into their known and comfortable General Vibrational Place.

Our General Vibration Place can be explained as the emotional place we are in most of the time on many subjects and is often described with such words as pessimistic, bubbly, aggressive, assertive, gloomy, happy, calm and so forth. This doesn’t mean there won’t be a vibrational difference between different subjects that are important to us, there definitely will, but these differences won’t be too far apart. This means working on only one subject, especially a subject that is highly important to can be a slightly difficult task to start off with.

Subjects that are very important to us that have gathered resistance through negative thoughts or beliefs that have been given focused attention over time gaining power and momentum in an unwanted direction, can move quickly into a better place when resistance is released. This is a hard ask if our subject has been in a low, unwanted vibrational place for an extended period of time and we have many other subjects that are in the same vibrational vicinity.

Although I would never discourage anyone from trying to move any subject into a better feeling vibrational place, if we are just coming to know and understand the Law of Attraction and how we can start using it deliberately in our lives to produce more of what we are wanting and less of what we are not wanting it is easier to start with less important subjects that we may hold less resistance too. This is a good way to test how improving how we think and feel effects what we are attracting and feels great when we see the results of deliberately directing our thoughts into a better feeling place.

So in theory and at its base the Law of Attraction is simple…..You get back what you give out. But for any human being that’s been in their physical body for any period of time that has not been surrounded and taught by others how life really works and how we are the creators of our own experience, they are slightly empty and hollow words.

When we are not knowing that focused attention of unwanted circumstances brings more unwanted and focused attention of wanted circumstances brings more wanted circumstances, many have gathered much resistant through intent focus on problems in the hope this will elevate what they are not wanting. Although we must acknowledge the problem before we can move into the solution we’re seeking, it’s not until thoughts have moved out of the vibrational vicinity of the problem and into the vibrational vicinity of the solution that the solution will be found.

At the end of the day…..Most have created great things in their lives without a deep understanding of this powerful Law, but as we spend longer in this physical body without this knowledge it’s only natural we gather more resistance as we observe more circumstances and have more experiences we may not be wanting without knowing it’s important to refocus ourselves in the direction of what we are wanting.

I can only speak for myself when I say…..Sometimes it’s easy, and sometimes it isn’t, but I don’t know anything else that’s more important and worth making an effort for than living the life we deserve and the life we came here to live!!!

And so it is….

Do you believe in a “Silver Lining???”

 

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Every situation has a Silver Lining. Whether we will experience the benefits of it depends entirely on our focus.           Paulette De-Har

Condemnation of any other never gets anybody anywhere they are wanting to go, this is for sure, even if it does temporarily feel good to do!!!

 

When we see anyone in our life doing something we don’t think is in our or their best interests, it’s virtually impossible not to feel some negative emotion about it, especially if it’s someone you are particulars close too or it’s a subject you feel particularly passionate about with strong underlying beliefs held behind it. It’s not about trying to eradicate any feelings of negative emotion we may have, this is not a very realistic goal in the world we’re living in now, it’s about knowing and exercising our own god given power to move into a better feeling place, therefore, drawing what we are wanting rather than what we are not wanting into our lives.

We choose to come into this physical world to experience and decide what we are wanting to live and to then focus positively and purely as we can until this is the dominant and strongest vibration within us on whatever is important to us. It’s never wrong to say this is how I want to live, this is what I am wanting to experience in my life, that is exactly what we came here to do, but problems can arise when we focus intently and strongly on the things we are not liking and don’t want to experience rather than focusing on what we love and are wanting to experience. If we are able to diligently focus more on what we are wanting and clear any resistant that turns-up by making an effort to move to the best feeling place we can find when faced with unwanted circumstances, it’s only a matter of time before we will see signs of our improved vibrational place in the way of thoughts, feelings, and eventually manifestations that match the dominant vibrational place we have consistently achieved. This is the Law of Attraction responding to the vibrations we emit through our focused thoughts and feelings with every living species on this planet being responded to equally. Not one sits outside of this all-encompassing powerful law, whether we are aware of it or not!!!

The strength of negative emotions we may feel when experiencing unwanted circumstances will depend greatly on how much momentum we have going in a positive direction versus how much momentum we have going in a negative direction. Whether the momentum we have created is positive or negative directly correlates with what will be predominantly turning up in our physical manifestations as the Law of Attraction responds to the thoughts and feelings, the vibrations we’re sending out.
It’s interesting to realise that when we focus negatively or don’t make an effort to move negative emotions into a better place when observing those we love doing things we don’t feel are in their or our best interests, we are adding power and momentum to what we are not wanting to experience and making it more unlikely that we will the recipient of what we are wanting. This is how we help to inspire the exact circumstances or behaviours we are not wanting out of others!!!

The truth is no matter what we do, we cannot truly control any other in our experience. If we believe we have power over others, this is an illusion, for one must freely give their power away to another, it is always a two-way street. We are all free to choose that which we do our actions, that which we say our words, and that which we think and feel no matter what someone else thinks, says or does about it. The best we can hope to do is to make peace with what others around us are doing especially those we love and care about, for this gives us the best possibility of experiencing and inspiring more of what we are wanting and less of what we are not wanting and lets the other know…..
Your way may not be the way that I would choose, but I know you came here to live your life the way you want to live not how someone else thinks you should live and I trust that you are doing the best that you can and I will do the best that I can to make my experience better by feeling good and focusing on the things I’m wanting to experience and all that is already wonderful in my life.

If we don’t feel we are able to feel better about what someone close to us is doing because it goes against something we strongly believe, a belief we do not wish to change because we believe it serves us very well, or maybe it doesn’t serve us well, we’re just not prepared to make the effort to change, because lets face it, long-held beliefs are not that easy to change even if they aren’t serving us very well. If judgement, resentment, and blame are allowed to grow, this often accumulates until the dissolution of the relationship happens. Although this is often difficult, it is a very good opportunity to release resistance and move to an even better feeling place that will attract even more wanted circumstances into our future experiences…

Yes……there’s a silver lining to every cloud, no matter how black that cloud may be, but we do have to believe it’s there to find it and to make it our daily work to move ourselves into the close vicinity of it by focusing on all the good that is already in our lives!!!

And so it is….

There’s no place I’d rather be!!!

LionThese are lyrics to the song Rather Be by Clean Bandit featuring Jess Glynne.
So wouldn’t it be awesome if we could feel like there’s no other place we’d rather be for most of the time!! Although a difficult task for most to accomplish consistently, it’s a very nice idea and something that’s definitely worth working towards.

To come to the place where we may be close to appreciating where and what we’re doing no matter what’s happening around us, does take a certain perspective and understanding about life, and that perspective depends on what we believe and think about life. This, in turn, determines how we feel and the actions we take, influencing the physical manifestations we attract and experience.

If we are experiencing unwanted circumstances in our lives, although it’s possible, it’s hard at that very moment to say “there’s no place I’d rather be.” But it’s very possible to come to a place where we’re knowing so well how life is working and how we’re receiving whatever it is that’s turning up in our experience, that we can truthfully say, “I don’t like this unwanted situation I’m currently experiencing, but because I know so well how I’m creating my life experiences, and I know that this manifestation is resistance I wasn’t completely aware was within me, I’m going to do my very best to release it by moving to the best feeling vibrational place I can find from where I currently am now,” and that’s the best that anyone can hope to do.

We may not get to a positive vibrational place straight away depending on how strong our negative vibration is in relation to whatever’s happened, but any improvement is very good and will reap improved physical circumstances once it’s the dominant vibration within us on this subject.

The awesome thing about making small vibrational improvements on subjects that are important to us is…..It’s only a matter of time before we become very good at turning strongly negative into strongly positive with very little effort as the Law of Attraction adds power and momentum over time to all that we think and do.

This is when we start to feel the real power of who we are, the power we’ve always had to create the life we’re wanting to live….And now is the time to start accessing that power!!!

And so it is….

Why would we spread our not good feelings around???

 

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If you are going to give something, make it something good…….If not because that’s who you are, do it because you will eventually receive back what you have given out.       Paulette De-Har

The answer is quite simple. If this is something we are doing, we’re doing it because it feels good, or more to the point, it feels better than the already not good place were in!!!

 

This comes from experiencing unwanted circumstances in our own lives without knowing we have the ability to move to a better feeling place without the need to unload our negativeness onto others. When we don’t make an effort to feel better when experiencing unwanted circumstances and emotions, negative resistance remains within our being that eventually needs to be released in one way or another.
Unfortunately, it often accumulates to such a point that many will pass their negative resistant energy onto other often innocent bystanders so they can feel better. Once one has done this they may feel better and think they’ve released that negative emotion, but it’s not quite that simple!!!

Unloading or being nasty is a very temporary solution that can make us initially feel better, but as the Law of Attraction responds to our actions by adding power and momentum to that which we think, speak and do….It’s not very long before we will again be on the receiving end of that negative vibrational energy we originally gave out, except when it returns, it has a stronger vibrational signal. When the Law of Attraction responds to the vibrational signals were emitting, our thought forms or vibrations are joined by other similar thoughts of the same vibrational frequency and emotional intensity before they are “returned to sender” so to speak. That’s why circumstances and what keeps turning up in our experience often increases in intensity as we move forward through time even if we feel our vibration hasn’t changed that much.

So the manifestations we are attracting are physical evidence of what we’ve been giving our focused thoughts too that the Law of Attraction has added power and momentum too. Good news if we’re receiving wanted circumstances, but even if we’re receiving unwanted circumstances….It’s still good news!!!
You may be thinking, how could that be???
It’s not possible to find our way on a map when we don’t know exactly where we are on that map….Wouldn’t you agree??? Sometimes we’re not aware we’ve had thoughts that have been attracting something we’re not wanting until we experience it, and as I’ve said many times before, knowledge and truth is power. ( inner power )

We don’t need to wait until something unwanted turns up to know what we’re attracting. If we make our most important job that of noticing how we are feeling as we move through our days and make the best effort possible to feel better apart from what others are or are not doing, we will be attracting improved circumstances into our lives.
It’s best to be gentle on ourselves when something unwanted happens. It’s not about pretending to like things we don’t like, no. It’s about acknowledging we’re doing our best and that it’s almost impossible to know ever thought we’ve had on every subject that’s important to us and take it for what it is….

A message from a benevolent loving Universe that’s saying….

“I love you so much, and I want you to experience all you are wanting in your life…..So I am communicating to you like we agreed I would before you made the powerful decision to come into this wonderful physical world. You have never, ever, been alone or apart from me even though I know at times you’ve felt this way. I have communicated to you through your emotions letting you know when you are right on the path of what you’re wanting (positive emotions) and when you are on a path that is moving you away from what you are wanting. (negative emotions) Follow your highest thoughts and your highest feelings, and they will lead you into the fullness of all you’ve ever wanted to be and more.”

These were the promises that were made to every creature before we came here…..And now is the time for remembering….

And so it is….

Turning away from what we don’t like…..Is a temporary solution!!!

 

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It is not possible to deny where we really are, for it will be reflected back to us in many different circumstances and situations until acceptance and awareness are achieved.          Paulette De-Har

It’s definitely a good idea to avoid focusing on circumstances we don’t like and aren’t wanting to experience in our lives by making an effort to turn our attention to what we are wanting rather than what we are not wanting. But it’s important to know this is more of a temporary solution, especially on subjects that are very important to us. For important subjects that we’re experiencing strong negative emotion too, it’s likely we’ll also be dealing with many situations our thoughts have attracted as the Law of Attraction responds to our strongly held emotional place with all kinds of manifestations that are a match to the dominant feelings within us.

 

This can make it difficult to look the other way so to speak, which is part of the reason why whatever turned-up has turned up!!! It’s a message to us from the Universe saying…..“This is the direction of your focused thoughts, this is what you are creating in your life, would you like more???” If our answer is no, a change in the direction of our thought is required. If our answer is yes and we are liking what’s turning-up, continuing our already positive focus will create more experiences we’re wanting. Even slight improvements in a thought that are maintained and held onto over time can produce greatly improved manifestations in our lives.

Remember, consistency is the name of the game. It’s not enough to have one improved thought and leave it at that. All things we’re wanting to bring forward into our experience need positive focus that’s been thought on long enough to achieve power and momentum. Once this momentum of thought is achieved it requires less and less effort to maintain our improved vibrational place as this will be where we now naturally are.

If we simply turn away from unwanted manifestations and ignore our negative emotions without making the effort to move them into a better feeling vibrational place, we have prevented adding power to our already unwanted vibration by observing and feeling stronger negative emotions, but without improving how we feel, we’re unlikely to attract improved circumstances on this subject.
This is often the case when experiencing similar unwanted circumstances over and over again. Different places, different faces, but similar experiences. Similar circumstances turn-up when the vibrations that caused this or that to be attracted have not changed much. That’s good news if we’re experiencing wanted circumstances in our lives, who would want to change that??? But if what we’re experiencing isn’t what we’re wanting in our lives, it’s a good idea to start trying to improve our thought somewhat, even if we only make a little vibrational movement each time we bring these thoughts into our mind.

I know it’s not the easiest thing in the world to improve our thoughts on subjects we’ve felt a certain way about for a long time. Especially when we’ve received plenty of evidence to support our long-held beliefs, but once we’re starting to understand how we’re creating our life experiences and that all we’re experiencing is attracted to us through our own focused thoughts that the Law of Attraction is responding and adding power too, I don’t really see what other choices there are???

I can only speak for myself when I say, I know what I do my best to choose every single time…..

And so I do….

Is being “Right” more important to me than being Happy???

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This is my reply to a comment from a previous post about being HAPPY and here’s the link if you’d like to read it, but I like to think this stands on its own whether or not you read the previous post.

Yes…..Most people love the feeling of being right!!! What we believe is right depends on our beliefs, experiences, and level of knowing….So what is right in one person’s mind is not right in another’s, everything is open to interpretation based on where we are vibrationally. That’s why it’s a futile endeavour to spend time trying to convince others of our rightness and their wrongness, for what is true and right for each of us will depend on our focus which has attracted our life experiences becoming the truth we are living, even if it isn’t the ultimate truth.

It’s also important to know we’ll be attracting many unwanted circumstances by arguing our point as the Law of Attraction responds to all the vibrations we’re sending out during these and all other types of interactions bringing us more of the same!!! It’s a good idea to ask oneself if we’re liking the current conversation that’s taking place, and if we would like similar interactions that feel the same in the future???

In relation to others saying “I just want them to be happy,” what people often mean is, “This person plays a pivotal part in my life, and although I do want them to be happy, when they aren’t I find it very difficult to maintain a good feeling vibrational place….So in order for me to feel happy I need to see them happy, and if they really cared about me they would do this so I can once again be happy as I see them happy.”
And I say…..Holy Moses, not much kills good relationships faster than expecting another to provide what we all know deep down we should be providing for ourselves!!
I know this isn’t always easy to do….Especially with the ones that are so dear to us, but being “selfish” and making how we feel our top priority, is more unselfish than many may think. By looking after and making an effort to feel as good as we can while those around us are not, now we have so much good to offer them. And sometimes it’s watching another we love and respect that’s able to feel good in the face of unwanted circumstances that gives us the inspiration to do the same….
But even if it doesn’t at lest we know we haven’t wallowed around in the unwanted mud with them creating unwanted circumstances for ourselves, and helping to add power and momentum to their unwanted situation!!!

Some may call that selfish….I call it “KNOWING!!!”

And so it is….

All emotional states….Are a temporary state of being!!!

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Although this is a truthful statement, as always nothing is completely black or white, but includes many shades of grey especially when it comes to our physical experience on this planet.
This statement speaks to the truth that we have control over the emotions we feel as they come in response to the thoughts we think, and when we have mastered the thoughts we will allow ourselves to think through the power of our focused mind, we then have the ability to be the deliberate creator and producer of the emotions we’re wanting to experience rather than purely a reactor to what happens around us with little or no conscious control over what we think and how we feel.

As we think any thoughts and hold them in our mind for a short period of time, the Law of Attraction adds power to those thoughts making it much easier for us to think similar thoughts on whatever subject we’re giving our attention to at that moment. The accumulative effect of this over experiences and time is very strong and can be why even when we’re making an effort to improve our thoughts, we easily slip back into the well established vibrational groove (Ooooooh, that’s cool, “Vibrational Groove.” Hehehe….) we’re most commonly at, our General Vibrational Place.

Ultimately we do have power over the thoughts we think and how we feel, but when we’re trying to improve our thoughts on a subject we’ve felt a certain way about for a long time, it’s not the easiest and quickest thing in the world to change. It does take time and focus to improve our vibrational place but remember, just as the Law of Attraction added power and momentum to our old thoughts the same will happen with our new thoughts, and once the new thoughts are the strongest vibration within us on whatever subject we’re giving our attention too, they will be the thoughts we have the easiest access too and what we’ll be creating our future experience from, and that’s a very good place to be!!!

As we become more aware of how this Universe and the Law of Attraction works, things we may have previously not taken notice of that we prescribed little or no meaning too, start taking on much deeper meanings and we start to recognise and see these signs and what they possible mean for us. They aren’t always good feeling or wanted signs, but they are always what we need to move forward in the direction we’re wanting to go. It’s when we can see all that happens in our experience, both wanted and unwanted as being opportunities for deeper understandings and knowing (especially when dealt with positively) that we’ll be propelled forward and that’s when we start to move into accessing the full power of who we are!!!

Every person that comes forward into a physical life knows this, for this knowing is part of what makes us who we really are. If those that surrounded us as we grew up didn’t know and teach us how to focus on what we’re wanting by directing our thoughts and feelings in a positive direction because they themselves didn’t know, we may have experienced temporary memory loss, forgetting that we are the creators of our own life experiences. I say “temporary memory loss” because it’s not possible for anyone to permanently eradicate part of what makes us who we are and it’s only a matter of time before those that have forgotten these truths find themselves on a journey of remembering and discovery.

No matter where we are on our journey and how much we’ve come to remember and understand about this life……There’s always more.
~ It’s not a race to see who knows the most.
~ It’s not about declaring ones self to be better than others.
~ It’s about being able to create the life we’re wanting to live and to possibly pass something positive on that we know may help others live more of the life they’re wanting to live….If they’re in the place to receive it of course???

I don’t know about anybody else….But that sounds pretty good to me!!!

And so our journey together continues….

Will I break my New Years Resolution???

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No, I definitely won’t break my New Years Resolution!!!
How do I know this…..Because I don’t make them.

I’m not for or against anyone making any sort of decision at any point in their lives whether it’s on New Years or any other time, especially if we’re feeling inspired to do so.
But it’s a good idea to consider and become aware of some things that may either hinder or help us work towards whatever it is we’ve set down for ourselves to achieve.

The most important factor to ask ourselves when making any decision is….Am I in a positive feeling vibrational place about the changes I plan to make???

I’m assuming that thought has been given to what we’re wanting to achieve, what we believe we need to do and the possible changes we’re prepared to make to achieve what we’re wanting. If we haven’t given thought to what we believe we need to do to achieve our desired goal, our words are likely to be a bit empty and hollow, more of a wish or dream that we don’t really believe is possible. This is not necessarily a bad thing because we all need to start somewhere….Don’t you think???

It’s not often that the instant we decide to do something our belief, what, when, and how to do something is automatically known to us. It’s a process that takes some time and focused thought before all the required components are fully revealed through our experience. Taking the time and using our positive focus to get our thoughts in a place where we believe what we’re wanting is not only possible but probable, we give ourselves the best opportunity to move forward in a positive way. When we maintain that vibration place over time with emotional intensity, it’s only a matter of time before the best way for us to proceed is revealed to us as the Law of Attraction continues to respond to our positive vibrational place adding power and momentum to it….And that’s a very good thing!!!

It’s a good idea to have some sort of plan about what we think we may need to do to achieve something, but it’s just as important to be open-minded and flexible enough to change what we may have thought we need to do into a new direction as different maybe better alternatives are revealed to us as our thought improves. Being too rigid and specific in our plans and not being prepared to try a different approach that we had not previously considered can send us down a path that may be more difficult to achieve whatever it is we’re wanting.

When we initially make a decision to do something, we often have positive thoughts behind it, otherwise we wouldn’t feel the need to declare it to others. Not that many people will tell everyone what they’re intending to do if they don’t believe they can do it. Something to consider about doing this is it often puts undue pressure on us, especially if we encounter unknown bumps in the road, (and lets face it that happens all the time) and our path diverts from our original destination.

I know many people are wanting to be supportive of others but when we find ourselves in a position of having to explain what we’ve been doing and why what we’re wanting to achieve hasn’t eventuated yet, and other questions we may not yet have the answers too, this can be difficult to feel good about.
The best answer to such questions is, “When I know….I’ll let you know!!!”

Sometimes it’s better to keep our decisions to ourselves until we have some positive momentum behind what we’re doing. This gives us the opportunity to find our way without the added pressure of others watching and questioning what we’re doing. Of course no one can really put pressure on us, only we can do that to ourselves. Some may think this pressure can help them to achieve what they’re wanting, and in some circumstances this is possible, but more often it doesn’t, especially if things are taking much longer than what we’ve expected.

The moral of the story is….

~ Any decision we make from a good feeling place is a wonderful thing, whether we start in the New Year or any other day of the year.
~ Make decisions from the best possible feeling place we can find avoiding taking action from a less than good feeling place.
~ Continue to make an effort to improve self-belief and how we feel as time passes and be open to change as new circumstances unfold that may move us in an improved direction.
~ Unwanted circumstances are an opportunity to release resistant thoughts we may not have been aware we had to our own desires.
~ It may be a good idea to keep our decisions to ourselves until we have a good amount to positive momentum going behind us.

And mostly, be kind to yourself xxx

And so our journey continues….

It’s easy to feel good when good things happen….

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Now isn’t that the truth!!!
But the trick is, or more to the point, the truth is….

It isn’t just how we react when good things turn up that matters and may determine our future experiences, although this is important. Just as importantly, it’s what we do when things aren’t all going our way that also effects what we may attract into our lives. Our future experiences are created by the length of time we focus, and how much emotional intensity we give any subject. Whether our focus is on something that’s happened in the past, is happening now, or is something we’re imagining that hasn’t yet happened doesn’t matter, it’s the strength of our focus that matters and creates.

When unwanted circumstances turn-up, sometimes we’re prone to give them a great amount of focus. This would be good if our focus was directed in a positive good feeling direction on all the good that may come from our experience and possible solutions or changes we may need to put in place to move forward in a more wanted direction. It’s not about pretending we like things we do not, that’s never a good thing as it doesn’t work through negative emotions within us that may be attracting unwanted situations into our experience.
Dealing with unwanted circumstances in positive ways means we’re much more likely to move through any emotional resistance we may have to whatever manifested so that similar circumstances don’t turn-up again in the future!!! Now that sounds very good….Don’t you think???

If we’re in a vibrational place that isn’t too far away from this perspective and if we’re feeling generally happy in our lives about many things, it’s not too hard to redirect ourselves into a better feeling place when unwanted circumstances happen. This is because power and momentum is achieved behind how we feel as the Law of Attraction responds to the vibrations we are constantly emitting, and when we focus strongly and positively on anything, whether it’s wanted or unwanted, we release resistance and create even more wanted future experiences. It becomes our normal good feeling vibrational place to go to and be in without having to make too much effort to get there…..And that’s so awesome!!!

Once we’ve come to understand how we’re creating our life experiences through our own observation of how we feel and what manifests, it may take some time and effort to move our thoughts and feelings into a better vibrational place if we’ve focused for some time with negative emotional intensity on unwanted circumstances.
The good news is…..Once we have an awareness that we’re creating our life it’s not possible to undo this knowing and it’s only a matter of time before we start to exercise the true power that’s within us all.

The power to feel good apart from whatever’s happening.
The power to focus strongly on the good that’s around us.
The power to acknowledge what’s unwanted and move forward positively.
The power to create what we’re wanting in our own lives.

That is a TRUTH that’s worth believing in!!!

And so it is….