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Do you believe in a “Silver Lining???”

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Every situation has a Silver Lining. Whether we will experience the benefits of it depends entirely on our focus.           Paulette De-Har

Condemnation of any other never gets anybody anywhere they are wanting to go, this is for sure, even if it does temporarily feel good to do!!!

 

When we see anyone in our life doing something we don’t think is in our or their best interests, it’s virtually impossible not to feel some negative emotion about it, especially if it’s someone you are particulars close too or it’s a subject you feel particularly passionate about with strong underlying beliefs held behind it. It’s not about trying to eradicate any feelings of negative emotion we may have, this is not a very realistic goal in the world we’re living in now, it’s about knowing and exercising our own god given power to move into a better feeling place, therefore, drawing what we are wanting rather than what we are not wanting into our lives.

We choose to come into this physical world to experience and decide what we are wanting to live and to then focus positively and purely as we can until this is the dominant and strongest vibration within us on whatever is important to us. It’s never wrong to say this is how I want to live, this is what I am wanting to experience in my life, that is exactly what we came here to do, but problems can arise when we focus intently and strongly on the things we are not liking and don’t want to experience rather than focusing on what we love and are wanting to experience. If we are able to diligently focus more on what we are wanting and clear any resistant that turns-up by making an effort to move to the best feeling place we can find when faced with unwanted circumstances, it’s only a matter of time before we will see signs of our improved vibrational place in the way of thoughts, feelings, and eventually manifestations that match the dominant vibrational place we have consistently achieved. This is the Law of Attraction responding to the vibrations we emit through our focused thoughts and feelings with every living species on this planet being responded to equally. Not one sits outside of this all-encompassing powerful law, whether we are aware of it or not!!!

The strength of negative emotions we may feel when experiencing unwanted circumstances will depend greatly on how much momentum we have going in a positive direction versus how much momentum we have going in a negative direction. Whether the momentum we have created is positive or negative directly correlates with what will be predominantly turning up in our physical manifestations as the Law of Attraction responds to the thoughts and feelings, the vibrations we’re sending out.
It’s interesting to realise that when we focus negatively or don’t make an effort to move negative emotions into a better place when observing those we love doing things we don’t feel are in their or our best interests, we are adding power and momentum to what we are not wanting to experience and making it more unlikely that we will the recipient of what we are wanting. This is how we help to inspire the exact circumstances or behaviours we are not wanting out of others!!!

The truth is no matter what we do, we cannot truly control any other in our experience. If we believe we have power over others, this is an illusion, for one must freely give their power away to another, it is always a two-way street. We are all free to choose that which we do our actions, that which we say our words, and that which we think and feel no matter what someone else thinks, says or does about it. The best we can hope to do is to make peace with what others around us are doing especially those we love and care about, for this gives us the best possibility of experiencing and inspiring more of what we are wanting and less of what we are not wanting and lets the other know…..
Your way may not be the way that I would choose, but I know you came here to live your life the way you want to live not how someone else thinks you should live and I trust that you are doing the best that you can and I will do the best that I can to make my experience better by feeling good and focusing on the things I’m wanting to experience and all that is already wonderful in my life.

If we don’t feel we are able to feel better about what someone close to us is doing because it goes against something we strongly believe, a belief we do not wish to change because we believe it serves us very well, or maybe it doesn’t serve us well, we’re just not prepared to make the effort to change, because lets face it, long-held beliefs are not that easy to change even if they aren’t serving us very well. If judgement, resentment, and blame are allowed to grow, this often accumulates until the dissolution of the relationship happens. Although this is often difficult, it is a very good opportunity to release resistance and move to an even better feeling place that will attract even more wanted circumstances into our future experiences…

Yes……there’s a silver lining to every cloud, no matter how black that cloud may be, but we do have to believe it’s there to find it and to make it our daily work to move ourselves into the close vicinity of it by focusing on all the good that is already in our lives!!!

And so it is….

After all they shared…..How could he simply say NO???

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After all they shared how could he simply say no….Lyrics to a beautiful song by Delerium featuring Jael.
I was actually searching for a different song on YouTube and happened across this old favourite and immediately knew this is what I was looking for!!

I never watch or listen to news, but it’s amazing how things that are important for me to know or things I’m possibly interested in still make their way into my experience between turning the key, the radio coming on, and putting my iPod on!! Yesterday, the first time I got in the car I heard something about a tribute to Robbie Williams before my iPod came on. I thought, hang on…..Aren’t tributes often done when someone dies……Surely something hasn’t happened to Robbie Williams? Then I thought, nah I would know if that had happened.
I happily did my shopping then got back in the car to drive home. I was about to put my iPod on but an awesome song was playing on the radio, and since it’s only a five-minute drive home, I decided to keep the radio on.

After my song finished, I heard a somber announcer say, here’s our tribute to Robbie Williams, and I thought, Oh No, it is him…..Then a voice quite unlike Robbie Williams came on as they played someone doing many funny voice overs, and I was like, what the??? By the time I got home I realised it wasn’t Robbie Williams, but Robin Williams they were talking about……And I felt sadness…..

For those that have read some of what I write, you will know I mostly speak of moving to better feeling vibrational places, and I stand by that 100%, no matter what’s happening.

But that doesn’t mean we don’t feel sadness or any other negative emotions. Moving into a better feeling place isn’t about denying how one is truly feeling in any given moment, but is more about feeling whatever it is we’re feeling, acknowledging that’s where we currently are, and then making a conscious decision to do our best to move forward and feel better, even if it is only slightly.

Many would say, no I cannot do that, you don’t understand how I’m feeling, I cannot feel better right now. And I say, that is true, no one else knows exactly how we’re feeling about anything, even if they’ve had similar experiences. When our grief is deep and strong it can feel like we don’t have the ability to feel better, and sometimes it may take all our energy just to keep going.
In these circumstances time can be our friend, as we move through time the intensity of our sadness and grief usually lessens and this can be a good opportunity to start consciously trying to move our thoughts and feelings.

I know many struggle with thoughts about death, and it’s only reasonable we would feel strongly about losing someone we dearly love. If we believe they are now at peace and in a better place, that can help to alleviate some of the anguish we may be feeling, but how their transition back to Non-Physical energy came about, and the fact that they will no longer be around us, are realities that cannot be denied for long, and do need to be dealt with for us to truly move forward and be happy once again.

My thoughts go out to those that have lost a loved one in this way….
It’s true, we all came here to love and live this life to it’s fullest, and sometimes we can get a little off track….But when everything is said and done, we also came with the ability to feel the whole spectrum of emotions and with the freewill to choose what we feel is best for us, and although it’s a choice no one would want anyone they love to make, it is a choice we are free to make….

And so it is….

What is my Sexual Orientation???

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This seems to be the popular subject of the day, as well known public figures are “coming out” so to speak, sometimes after years of speculation about their sexual orientation.

Firstly…..who the hecks business is it except our own, who we wish to be intimate with???
When we interact with others, we may have feelings one way or the other as to their sexual orientation based on many factors we believe indicate it’s so. It’s not my intention to debate which behaviours indicate someone’s straight or gay, that will be different for everyone depending on ones beliefs and life experiences.

The question I would like to ask anyone who feels it’s appropriate to continually ask and somehow feel it’s their right to know, what another persons sexual preference is, is…..How would they like it if people persistently asked them questions about something that was very personal and private that they may very likely be judged harshly on by others with limited, rigid, and judgemental perspectives???

I know we’re often interested in others, especially high profile people, but it always comes down to the same thing….If I was treated in a disrespectful way, how would I feel? Just because someone has done well in their field of expertise and are in the public domain, does not mean they deserve to be treated in a lesser way than anyone else.

I’m looking forward to a time when someone’s sexual preference
is not a great talking point anymore, this will mean that many will have come to realise it’s not really any of their business…..And who cares anyway???

Avoid judging others harshly, for we’ve all come into this Physical World to decide for ourselves how we want to live our lives, not to be dictated too by others that feel “their way, is the only and right way to live!” (how boring and a bit presumptuous I would say!!)

We came forward with powerful intentions and purpose for what we’ve wanted to achieve in this life, and our good feelings are the path to who we really are and all we have become…..If we can know that other peoples negative judgements say so much more about who they are currently being than anything else, it can be easier to let their judgements go and feel better.

Be proud of who you are and the positive things you stand for…..And things will be so good!!

And so it is….

Sometimes….We need to come out of our comfort zone….

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This is all about experiencing life, and everything it has to offer.
There’s two things we can count on with 100% accuracy after being born into this Physical world, and they are….
That we will make our transition back to the Non-Physical energy from which we came, and while we’re in this physical body circumstances will be different and changing in every moment that we are alive.

Even though we do create our own life experiences through our thoughts and emotions, our vibration, that the Law of Attraction responds in-kind too, it’s not possible to stay static or in one moment of time, as this goes against the very principle of life which is an ever-changing, constantly forward moving process. Even when things appear as if they are not changing, this is an illusion, they are changing, even if it is only slightly.

Some may disagree explaining that they’ve been doing the same thing for many years without changing, and I say, memories and our perception of those memories are open to different interpretations depending on where we are vibrationally and what we believe when we think about the past.

Everything for sure is constantly changing, but it is possible to create a life where not many new experiences come into our world. This is achieved by making a conscious effort to avoid anything that makes us feel even slightly uncomfortable, and although it’s definitely a very good idea to do things that feel good, it’s also true that sometimes we may need to move ever so slightly out of that comfort zone and make an effort to move our thought into a better feeling vibrational place to experience more things that are good, that we’re wanting in our lives.

There may be many factors we need to consider when deciding to do something that we haven’t done before such as;

~ How strong is my negative emotion I’m feeling towards taking this action and do I think I’ll be able to bring my discomfort into a better feeling vibrational place before I take this action?

~Is this action something I really am wanting to do or wish I could do if I didn’t have a fear of the unknown?

~Do I think this experience is more likely to be positive or negative?

~Do I think I’m resilient enough to move myself into a good feeling vibrational place if circumstances don’t unfold exactly as I’m wanting?

~If I do have a positive experience….Will this help me to let go of resistance towards doing different things that may open a new door that allows many wonderful experiences to flow into my life???

No other can answer these questions for us, only we know exactly how we’re feeling and what we’re wanting in relation to anything we’re considering.
If we do decide to take action on something that sits slightly outside of our comfort zone, it’s important to focus on all the possible positive outcomes we think may be likely (Remember, Law of Attraction!!) And to make a conscious effort to feel as good as we possibly can towards whatever we’re going to do. Deciding to take action and resigning ourselves to feeling bad about whatever we’re doing almost guarantees a less than wanted outcome, and for me, is unacceptable.

I would never advise anyone to do something they were strongly fearful of or feeling strong negative emotion about, but sometimes we do get stuck in our routines and our comfortable place, not moving from it for fear of what might happen or that we won’t have control anymore.

I know it often feels safe when we continue to do the same familiar things, but sometimes we do need to extend ourselves just a little bit, not to bring unwanted negative experiences into our lives, but to open doorways and avenues for wonderful things to come into our lives.

It’s all waiting for us, all the good stuff we’ve been wanting, and we may need to let go of some old beliefs or routines that may have served us well in the past….

But that was then…..And this is now…..

And so it is…..

Am I being a good Husband or Wife???

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That depends on a few different factors such as, what we believe being a good husband or wife involves and whether or not it’s important for us to live up to those beliefs.

In the past I have felt quite uncomfortable when people have suggested I’m being a good housewife. Of course when this is said it’s usually coming from a good feeling place….But it does make me think about the whole husband, wife, and marriage relationships many of us are living.

Traditionally, being a good Husband or Wife usually meant that we would do what was prescribed or largely accepted by the society, community or culture we grew up within, that we may have felt we needed to adhere too, in order to be seen as appropriate or good?

I’m not suggesting many of these values are not working, especially if they are what we’re really wanting to do within our relationships, but it’s not ideal if we’re putting what we are really wanting secondary to what everyone else thinks we should be doing, or what we think others think we should be doing!

Although all the relationships we’re within are constantly changing and we are continually coming to new and improved decisions on how to move forward in the most positive ways we can from wherever we are vibrationally, it’s true to say, if we are always putting someone else’s needs before our own needs, not so much because we want too, but more because we feel this is the way we have to behave otherwise we aren’t a good husband or wife…..Well…..I don’t know???

And yes, I know there needs to be a bit of give and take in every relationship, but if we don’t get our thought in the best feeling place we can when we do compromise, so that it becomes not as much of a compromise, but more something we are wanting to do for ourselves, and the other, this is a much better place to be coming from. If we often do things just for the other without getting ourselves in a good feeling place, we can expect a lot of appreciation in return for our efforts, which we often don’t receive because the other believes we should have wanted to do it, hence two slightly annoyed people!!

It does not matter what type of relationships we’re talking about, getting the best out of them always requires a similar formula.

~Above all other things, be true to who we are and what we’re wanting, and listen to the Inner Guidance we’re receiving from within through our emotions, for this is guiding us to everything we’re wanting, not just in our relationships but in everything.
~Know what it is that we want to bring into our relationship that’s going to make it more Awesome, not just what we want the other to be like or to give.
~Make it a priority to be responsible for our own happiness, rather than relying on someone else to provide that happiness for us.
~Allow others freedom to be themselves, if we are trying to change them, this does not feel good for either party and can cause relationships that were good to turn not so good because of focus on everything about the other we’re not liking!! Remember, the Law of Attraction is responding to our dominant thoughts and feelings on all subjects that are important to us, so if we focus strongly on everything we don’t like about someone, even if it is someone we love deeply, so we receive more of what we are not wanting.
~Sometimes we just need to chill out and relax a bit and not take everything so seriously, choose what’s really important and let the not so important stuff go.
~Know that all usually works out for the best, even when it’s sometimes hard to see how straight away….
It isn’t supposed to be so much hard work, it’s supposed to be fun!!

And so it is….

The Right to Life or Death….Whose decision is it???

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Each of us is ultimately in charge of our own mind and physical body, and although we may be influenced by the thoughts and beliefs of our society, culture, and the family we’ve grown up in, in the end it’s our decision whether we want to continue in this physical life or not.

When we enter this time-space reality, we came forward with strong purpose and intentions for this physical life, so our desire to live and experience the life we have chosen, is a very strong and powerful calling that sits at the very core of who we really are.

The ending of life in this physical body is a decision made by either the Physical us, the Non-Physical us or a combination of both the Physical and Non-Physical parts of us. For most, it would be true to say, this decision is usually made from our Non-Physical perspective.

The main reasons for making our transition back to the Non-Physical realm are;
~ The intentions that we put forward when coming into our current Physical life have been achieved and the soul is ready for a fresh and new Physical perspective. (Imagine wearing the same outfit for centuries, even if we really liked it, eventually we’d want to wear something different, so it is with experiencing different lives!!) Hehehe….That’s a very good analogy, I like it!!
~ If much resistant has been gathered over time while in our current Physical life, this takes a toll on the mind and body to a point where both may start to break down and the decision is made to return to the Non-Physical realm once again.

No matter how the circumstances unfold, it’s always us who decides when, where and how we will make our transition back to Non-Physical, even when we are not aware this is the case, which often we are not.
Although there are always exceptions to what most are doing, to make a conscious decision to leave this life experience from our Physical perspective requires us to have either gained insight into how we are creating our life, and how we may wish to end it in a desirable way, or we may have gradually gotten ourselves into a very not good feeling vibrational place we feel we cannot come out of, therefore making the choice to leave this body.
Some may find this hard to believe and I totally understand that point of view, for if we have not known there is another part of us that’s remained in the Non-Physical realm, and that this Non-Physical counterpart has been communicating to the Physical here and now part of us through our thoughts and emotions, our vibration…this would seem, well…weird.
Life truly is never-ending, and although we will all leave the body we’re currently in, who we really are never dies, but simply changes form.
When we are understanding this, we no longer feel the need to make judgements about whether others should continue in a painful manner at the end of their physical life, especially if this is not what they are wanting, and let’s be honest, not many would want to end this physical life in pain, but may feel they don’t have a choice or may be frightened to let go because they are unsure of what, if anything, may follow.

The death experience will come to us all, that we can be sure of, and when we can understand and embrace this truth about life, there is not much left to fear, and now we can live (and make our transition) as we intended too, just as we made our powerful and joyful decision to come forward into this physical life in the first place!!

And so it is….

Am I accepting of others???

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Often when people talk about accepting something, they are usually referring to having to accept unwanted situations that are happening in their life, and in the lives of others.
It’s true it’s virtually impossible to look in the face of something strongly unwanted and “jump for joy” about it, but we do have the ability to gradually move ourselves into a better feeling place regarding it, although many have never exercised their power to do so, and instead have focused intensely on everything in the world they feel is “bad or wrong,” therefore attracting more evidence through the powerful Law of Attraction, of that which they are not wanting.

There may be circumstances and people we’re involved with that may be doing things we feel are not in our or their best interests. In these instances it’s sometimes difficult to remove ourselves from the situation, so often the best call of action is to make an effort to bring ourselves into a better feeling place regarding whatever they are or are not doing.
Many may say,”I cannot do that because I strongly disagree with the choices they’re making” and although we may feel this way, people will often make their choices, with or without our input and judgements, so what is the alternative?

To try and manipulate them to make the choices we feel they should be making, to stay miserable about the choices they’re making, or to move to a better feeling place about the choices they’re making? For me, there is no choice. Although this is a choice, for me it’s No real choice.
What I mean is apart from just letting people be, and choosing to feel good apart from the choices they’re making, the other two choices never get you anywhere you really want to be!
For example, some people may feel that manipulating or convincing others to take a different action would be a more desired outcome than letting them make their own choice, and if we’re coming from a positive place of putting a different more wanted scenario forward if someone has asked for our advice, of course, this is wonderful and may likely be considered when one was making a choice. Whereas if we’re negatively focused and judging someone as “wrong” and trying to convince them to our way of thinking, this is not that good, and they’d be well advised not to take advice coming from someone in such a resistant place.

If we do manage to persuade someone to make a different choice against their better judgement, there is usually a backlash to this of negative emotions, either expressed outward towards others or inwards at the self.
Now, just being miserable about the choices others are making is not a good option, especially when we have the ability to feel better unless of course, we are enjoying being miserable and attracting similar feeling circumstances into our experience?
The easiest way I know how to move to a better place, is to acknowledge we’re all different, with different desires, and we cannot always know how a choice will unfold, for what unfolds, whether it’s positive or negative, may be exactly what is needed to move us forward in a more positive direction.
Sometimes we need to make choices that send us in a direction we don’t want to be in just to know where we really do want to be! We can always move forward in a positive direction no matter what choices we make, and there’s nothing like experiencing strongly unwanted circumstances that may help us to refocus us more in the direction we’re wanting to go!

Even a so-called “bad choice” can be brought to a better place by working through any resistance that comes up by doing our best to stay positive, it’s not so much about the choices we make, but how we react as unwanted, resistant circumstances turn up that determines the results we achieve.
The last alternative is not to be around people who are choosing things that go against what we believe in, and for others we don’t know very well, this is easy, but with those we are close too, this is not always an option.

As far as I can see, the only option is to wish them the best with whatever they are choosing and to accept that they must do what they feel is best for them, just as we are choosing what we feel is best for us….
For what else have we come into this Physical world for, if not to choose that which we are wanting???

And so our journey together continues….

The truth will set you free….Or will it???

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I’m sure many would have heard the quote many great teachers from the past have said: “the truth will set you free”. But what truth are they speaking of, and how would it set us free?

The truth they speak of, is the truth about how life in the Physical and Non-Physical world is really working, and the reason it is followed up with, “it will set you free,” is when we come to know the truth about how life is truly working and how we’re creating our own life experiences and you start putting this knowledge into practice in your life, you become one that’s truly free. For it’s through this understanding that you gain creative control over your life, and then you’ll feel the freedom of who you really are.

So does this mean we are only free if we know how this life is working?
No, freedom is the core of who we really are, along with truth and love. We come into this physical world free, we live here with free will and free choice, and we will make our transition back to Non-Physical free.
So if I’m not feeling free in my life, why am I not feeling free?
This is a natural consequence if we haven’t known how it is we’ve been creating our life experiences.
We may have come to the conclusion or belief that things just happen for no good reason, or that life was meant to be difficult, or that there’s someone outside of ourselves setting down rules and regulations as to what, how, and when we should be doing this or that and that’s why things are not working out.
Nothing could be further from the truth. You came here for a wonderful experience, not a life of pain and struggle, and it’s true we’ll all have our different challenges in life to overcome, but they’re always of our own making, and propel us to greater heights and understandings once overcome.

How could I be making problems in my own life without knowing about it?
Mainly because that’s what we all observed as we were growing up. We watched others around us focus on things that were not working in their life, creating more unwanted circumstances and being oblivious to what they were creating.
I say this to not blame others, for they were doing’s the best that they could with what they knew, no one would create unwanted circumstances in their life if they knew what they were doing, that would be crazy!

So we may have sort of fell into the same vibrational place (general emotional place) as those that surrounded us. Yes, it’s only natural we would take on their beliefs and not always know how we were creating our life.
Have you noticed how our beautiful children are coming forth into this physical world now? They are emotionally sensitive, strong-willed, freedom seeking, not rule following souls.
In other words, they will not be easily guided away from who they really are, they are knowing their self-worth, they are believing they know what is best for them and they are telling us so, but are we hearing what they are trying to tell us or are we just labelling them as problem children?

They will not follow blindly what others say or give up their freedom easily, and to get them to do this, you must severely break their spirit. All I will say is the consequences of doing such things are not good. I’m not suggesting our children do not require guidance, actually, they require very specific guidance where their individual needs are known and considered and they’re actively involved, consulted and listened to when making decisions regarding them. They also often require explanations as to how and why you have come to the decisions you have. I know it takes more time, and sometimes you have to explain something so many times you want to scream and pull your hair out, (Yep, I’ve been there more than once!) but I can not overestimate the wonderful long-term effects that come from treating our children in this way.

The truth is, we’re all creating our own life experiences whether we’re aware of it or not, and when we know this, we start to feel the freedom and truth that’s within us more and more.
It is a journey and we don’t need to get there all at once, just do our best to pay attention to how we’re feeling and making an effort to feel slightly better than we currently are, especially if we’re in a not good feeling vibrational place, and over time we will feel our life experience improve.

Why would I bother to make an effort to feel better? Because it feels better to feel good doesn’t it?

And so our journey together continues….

Why do bad things happen to good people???

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The most important thing to remember when pondering this question is,

  1. Who is the person standing in judgement of another saying whether they are good or bad?

In truth, the core of who we really are is always good, one hundred percent, every person, no exceptions, and if you have been privileged enough to see a baby come into this physical world, you will understand what I am talking about, but even if you haven’t, it’s not hard to see when you look at a newborn, they are pure beings. This being true, what happens between birth and a point where we would class someone as “being bad?” Well, life happens. We have all come forward into this physical reality with desires and intentions, and if we were not given the freedom to express and explore who we were with loving guidance as children, things often got slightly off track, to a point where as adults, we find it difficult to live a happy life, or more substantially off track where we are spewing out our rage and hatred. This is in no way supposed to be a criticism over what we should’ve or could’ve done in the past, do not use what I have said to beat yourself over the head and feel guilty, for most of us were doing the best we could be based on what we knew at that time. No benefit comes from feeling guilty about the past, the best you can do is learn from what happened, believe that you can and will do better in the future and let it go, do not torture yourself with regrets over things you cannot change!

2. It’s often difficult to know whether circumstances you’re observing are wanted or unwanted.

It’s not hard to know when people are experiencing highly unwanted circumstances in their lives, especially if it is someone close to you that you know very well, but something we definitely don’t know, is how they will react to this unwanted experience, for there are always choices available to us that will move us to better places regarding the situation we are faced with, or to a worse place. Whatever choices we make, involve many different considerations based on what we’re wanting and the experiences we’ve lived, and is almost impossible for another to predict correctly. When a choice is made it may be difficult to know how our choice will unfold, for it usually takes time to see the results. A circumstance we have labelled as unwanted can often produce good results if it’s made from a positive place and is given further positive thought that eventually becomes our new belief. When we’re in the middle of a dilemma, if we find it difficult to know what to do, it’s often because we may have been strongly controlled and guided as children, without the opportunity to make choices for ourselves, putting many in a position where we are unable, or find it very difficult to make decisions for ourselves. Many of us learn these skills as we mature, some of us don’t. Prolonged negative focus on a problem also makes it difficult to see the best choice available to us, because when we do this, we’re not in the place to see the solution we’re searching for. And yes, there is always a solution for every problem, for one cannot exist without the other, it defies Universal Law! In this world we live, nothing exists without its opposite companion, think about this for a moment, up and down, hot and cold, love and hate, day and night. Yes, the polarities exist everywhere, along with everything in between.

So why do bad things happen to good people? Or for that matter, why do good things happen to bad people? The answer is always the same. You get what you focus on, whether you are good or bad or anything else. Have you seen people you may describe as “good” focus on negative aspects of their life? Does that make them bad? Of course, it doesn’t, but it does mean they are attracting unwanted circumstances into their lives through their focused negative thoughts. Have you seen people you may describe as “not been nice” focus on some positive aspects of their life? I’m sure you have, for they are attracting wanted circumstances into their lives through their focused positive thoughts too. In truth, we all have an immense number of thoughts on many different subjects within us, and what is manifesting is a blending of all of it.

It is not for me to judge who is good or bad, I am here like you, living my life in the best way I know how, and I believe others are doing the same. But it definitely is my job to decide for me, what I want to experience, and because I’m aware I create my life experience through my focused thoughts, I do my best not to focus on people or circumstances that I do not wish to bring into my physical experience. People are not truly bad, even when their behaviour indicates otherwise, rather they are misguided, and going about things in a way that will never truly get them what they want. We are all on our own journey in this physical life, so do your best to avoid judging others, for you do not know where they are in relation to what they are wanting, instead be the uplifter you were born to be, for there is no greater purpose than to be joyful in life, and to spread that joy to every person that has the good fortune to cross your path!!

And so our journey together continues…

Are you holding a grudge?…Who do you think you’re hurting???

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It’s true to say, most of us have held a grudge against someone at some time or another in our lives. It can be a natural reaction when we feel like someone has wronged us in some way, or we have been faced with a situation where we feel there has been an intention to purposely hurt us. It is not possible to look at something that is clearly unwanted and disregard it or be happy about it, but it is possible to move into a better feeling neutral place about it. Through my own experience, and by observing many others, I have come to the following conclusions;
1. Holding a grudge hurts the person holding the grudge the most.
2. Holding a grudge doesn’t change what has already happened.
3. Trying to hurt others only brings more unwanted circumstances into your life.
4. As long as you hold a grudge, you give others power over how you are feeling, the power that you should have, and that never feels good.

Some may say, “why should I forgive them, what they did was wrong”. Forgiveness is not about saying what they did was right or wrong, and it’s never about making the other person feel better, it’s about making ourselves feel better and being able to move on, to bigger and better things, rather than staying stuck in a miserable place that doesn’t feel good.
It’s completely appropriate to decide what it is we’re wanting to experience in our lives, but focusing on what others are doing that we may disapprove of, only attracts more unwanted circumstances with the same emotional feeling into our life experience. This is because, we get what we think about, or more aptly said, we get back how we feel. Whenever we think about something, it always produces a feeling within us, and the feeling we get is always communication from our Inner Being or the Non-Physical part of us, letting us know where we are in relation to what we’re wanting, regarding the subject being currently thought about. If we think about something and don’t have any feelings either positive or negative, we can be sure it’s a subject that currently does not matter to us, for anything that is important, will induce an emotional feeling within.

For example, if I’m annoyed about the way someone has been behaving, the fact that I am annoyed is an indication I am moving away from that which I am really wanting. One of the strongest desires within us is to be happy, and because we grew up with people around us trying to control everything we did so they would be happy, we may have continued on, in the same way. Many have realized it’s not really possible to truly control others, especially in the long-term, as it just makes everyone involved miserable, but we may not be sure how to change, or what to do.
Through our emotions, our Inner Being communicates with the physical here and now us, letting us know where we are in relation to everything we’re wanting. Negative emotion indicates movement in a direction that is taking us further away from what we’re truly wanting, whereas positive emotion indicates movement closer to that which we’re wanting.
Negative emotion is not bad, for its extremely valuable information when we start to understand what it means. We all have the power within us to move to a better feeling place about any and all subjects that are important to us, but many of us have not known this. Instead, we have taken our negative emotion as evidence that others are doing something they shouldn’t be and that it’s our job to control their behavior and keep them in line or we cannot be happy.
Nothing could be further from the truth, for we cannot control what others say or do, for they have the freedom to choose, just as you and I do. But there is something we have absolute control over, and that is how we feel, no one can make you feel a certain way unless you let them.

To begin with, it may seem like an impossible task, for if we were bought up just reacting to everything we were observing, just as many around us were doing, not knowing we had the power to feel better, and that feeling better moved us in the direction of what we were wanting, of course we wouldn’t have exercised a power we didn’t know we had. Nevertheless, that power pulses strongly within us, and like everything else, needs belief and positive focus, to bring it to the forefront of who we are.

The key is to take small steps if we can feel slightly better than we currently are, and we can maintain that better feeling place, that’s wonderful progress!
We didn’t come to how we feel all in one day, it requires focused thought over time and therefore changing our thought into a better feeling place does take some time and effort, but I cannot think of anything more important than feeling happier in our lives.
So let go of your anger and resentment towards others, don’t do it for them, do it for yourself, for you deserve to be happy, it is your natural birthright!!
So what will you choose now??

And so our journey continues…..