One thing is for sure though, if we are not communicating within the close and intimate relationships where having with others in a mostly neutral or positive way, especially when challenges present themselves, long-term this is not that good.
Although good communication is the foundation for happy, good feeling, positive relationships, in the short-term it can sometimes be better to say nothing if we feel full of resentment or anger, for communicating with anyone from this place rarely achieves what ones wanting straight away or in the long term either.
By this I mean, when we’re in a strongly negative feeling place and expressing that outwardly towards another, we may feel some temporary relief at letting that emotion out, but there is no thoughts, words or actions that do not have consequences based on the Universal Laws we all live by.
Thoughts that are thought about for long enough produce words that we speak and actions that we take, and as those words and actions are all originally inspired from thought, the Law of Attraction responds to our focused thoughts by sending us people, places and circumstances that are matching the dominant feelings we have going on within us on the subjects that are important to us. (and any subject we’re feeling strong positive or negative emotion too, is a subject that’s important to us) So we always get back what we give out eventually, and it’s easy to see no ones wanting negative and unwanted circumstances in their lives!!
Sometimes we may think that this means we need to be nice to everyone or do nothing when others treat us in a not nice way….And I say “No way,” not retaliating against someone that’s not being very nice, or more to the point, not currently being much of who they really are, is about knowing that by doing such things as returning negative that’s been given out by others just brings that negative vibration into our own lives.
Although 99% of the time it is better to ignore such people or circumstances and move to a better feeling place by ourselves in our own time, sometimes we do need to stand up and say something regarding negativity that someone else is directing towards us, even if they haven’t expressed it in words or actions yet, especially if it’s someone you spend a lot of time with or that’s important to you. If we do feel the need to say something, a good plan is to speak from the best feeling place we can find at that time and to do our conscious best to stay as calm as we can during our interaction. If things get too heated and not good feeling, it takes restraint, but it’s best to leave the conversation.
Resentment and anger about anything within our relationship that is not moved into a better feeling vibrational place either by ourselves or by communicating with the other, eventually kills relationships and is often the beginning of the end if left to grow…..
Even if we do feel a relationship is at its end, it’s still important for us to move into a better feeling place regarding it…..For this ensures the relationships we have in the future will not carry the emotional resistance of our previous relationships.
Letting go of resistance always moves us closer to that which we are really wanting 100%, so let go of any resentment you maybe feeling towards others if you can….
And remember, you are doing it first and foremost for yourself, and if others gain benefit from it, that’s even better….
And so it is….