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How your parents feel about you doesn’t matter…….Unless it matters to you!

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“LEARNING TO TRUST OTHERS IS AN ESSENTIAL SKILL BUT IS SECONDARY TO LEARNING TO TRUST OURSELVES.” Paulette De-Har

Something worth remembering while pondering the question of how much we care about what our parents think about us is.……They are merely human beings with human beliefs, human failings and resistance just as all human beings have, although to differing degrees depending on how we’ve lived our lives and the choices we’ve made. In other words how anyone thinks or feels about anything is a reflection of the life they’ve lived and the beliefs they hold, it is not the ultimate truth of how things should be but is purely one’s own perception of how they feel the world should or shouldn’t be. This purely personal perspective comes from deciding what we want to live in our lives but has nothing to do with what someone else may be here to do or what they want to live in their lives. In fact, if you think about it…..It is highly arrogant to believe we know what any other human being has specifically come here to do and then dictate to them in a negative way when we feel they are not meeting what we think they are here for and what they should be doing……..What a joke! Many people find it difficult themselves to know why they are here and what they should be doing let alone knowing what others are exactly here to do and how and when they should be doing this or that.

 

Many may argue, “I’ve been here longer and I know more about life so they should follow what I say.” And to some extent, I would have to agree, especially when children are very young with little to no life experience behind them. But as they grow and learn it is so important to guide them in a positive way from a good feeling place and for them to start being the driver in their own life rather than the co-pilot that’s being told what to do all the time.

When a child’s life is micromanaged and strongly controlled usually one of two things happen. Either the child rebels with strongly negative behaviours or gives in and lets every facet of their life be controlled. Neither alternative is ideal and can incapacitate someone as they grow if they start to believe they are not good enough or are not capable to do things for themselves. If a child has come to believe such negative things about themselves this can become a self-fulfilling prophecy where they unknowingly create circumstances that give them evidence of the beliefs they hold. This can take a long time to unlearn such distorted beliefs with many living a large portion of their physical life feeling this way until they become aware of who they really are and what they are really capable of.

I’m sure it would be true to say that no parent would knowingly do this to their children and that if this does happen it’s through a lack of both understanding and awareness of what we are really doing and how this life is really working.

Getting back to how our parents feel about us, if emotions of love, respect, honesty and acceptance are felt from our parents obviously this is wonderful, but on the flip side of this, if we are met with feelings of hostility, resentment, annoyance, disapproval and coldness, this is not so good. This is a type of very conditional love. A love that says I will love you if you will do this or that, otherwise I will not love you. Instead, I will resent you and I will do my best to make you feel bad so you will change your behaviour and then I can look at you and feel happy. This has everything to do with being selfish and nothing to do with unconditional love. True happiness never comes from trying to control another’s actions but through guiding in a positive manner by controlling our mind and making a constant and consistent effort to find good feeling emotions no matter what outer circumstances we may be presented with. If we are unable to give this unconditional love to our children it will be likely that we will not be able to give unconditional love to anyone including ourselves.

If we feel a lack of approval from our parents because of the choices we’ve made in our lives that for whatever reason they don’t agree with, it is completely our choice to how we choose to feel about this. We can either feel bad and blame either ourselves or our parents for not behaving in a better way, or we can acknowledge that we are an individual with our own lives to live and be happy we have been true to who we are by doing what we believed was in our best interest at any given time.

Isn’t that what everyone is doing. I know we consider those we care about when making decisions, but essentially our decisions come from our own personal perspective, not another’s. It is important to be strong and not allow our parents or anyone else’s negative feelings about us to send us crashing off into the ditch of, “I’m not good enough or poor me.” Such beliefs unconsciously filter into every part of our lives reaping unwanted results that can be difficult to trace back to a belief we may be unaware we have. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t consider changing something if we feel this is appropriate and is a good direction to take, but changing to gain approval from anyone else is not a very good idea for now we are being guided by someone externally to ourselves that can never truly know what is in our heart and the direction that is best for us to go in. This guidance comes from within each of us and is directed by the life we’ve lived so far and what we are wanting so is specific to each individual person and cannot be truly known by someone outside of us.

So let’s guide our children in the best way we know how from the best possible feeling place we can find. Strive to unconditionally love and guide them no matter how they behave. Support them and let them learn the power that they have to create their own life, to make good decisions, to know how to be happy, and to believe in who and what they are.

Teach them that you only want the best for them, that you understand it is their life, not your life they are living, and most importantly teach them that what you or anyone else thinks about them doesn’t truly matter……All that matters is how they think and feel about themselves.
That’s when we have taught them truth and strength, and from this place of empowerment and knowing, there is nothing they cannot achieve……

And so it is……

Why do others try to control me???

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No benefit comes from letting others control us. By giving into others against our own guidance hurts all involved in the end.          Paulette De-Har

This is a comment I received and responded to in relation to a post about special does not mean better, and since I thought it was especially special……..I thought it would be nice to post it. Thank-you to the person who sent it to me. I greatly appreciated your response as it strongly inspired much that I know and helped me to put that knowledge into words. Apart from that, it always feels very good when something we already know is understood in even greater breadth and depth than before.

 

COMMENTER:
It happens often that people when they want to try to control me, and they fail because I notice, they act as if I were better than them. I know that is not true, but nevertheless, I have to live with it. There are many people who control peoples’ lives because they probably don’t have a life of their own, or they like to project their frustrations on others. Special could also mean being able “to read between the lines.”

MY RESPONSE:
People often try to control others because they don’t like what “that person” is doing believing others behaviour will threaten them in some way or another. At the very core of who we all really are, it is known we are supposed to feel good but many have forgotten they have the complete and absolute power to make themselves happy and are instead trying to control other people and circumstances to produce the good feelings they desire.

Anyone who has lived for any decent period of time will usually come to understand that this is a futile endeavour but without knowing they have the power within them to move their thoughts and therefore their feeling responses into better feeling places, they are lost either continually trying to control others or to giving up hope of ever feeling better and remaining in an uncomfortable, not good feeling place. Both of these options are completely unacceptable when it does not have to be this way when we can;

1. Decide to make an effort to feel better than where we currently are apart from the physical conditions we may be experiencing. I know, not an easy thing to do when we have not practised doing this, but one must start somewhere don’t you think!!!
2. Knowing no other can assert anything into our experience for all things are created and attracted to us through the power of our focused thoughts that the Law Of Attraction responds in kind too, both wanted and unwanted whether we are aware of these truths or not.
3. Being kind to ourselves and others because that’s who we really are, and if it’s not possible in the moment, at least turning away and not responding negatively.

In response to others acting as if you are better than them when you are understanding you are not, this is often because people can sense when another they are observing is in a vastly different vibrational, emotional place than they are and will react in a variety of different ways depending on where they are. For Example someone in a very good feeling emotional place that is observed by someone in a low not so good feeling emotional place will often get strong negative attention directed towards them even though they are not giving this energy out!
Those that observe that are vibrationally closer to someone in a high good feeling emotional place are more likely to admire what they see but whether they will actually approach such a person depends on exactly how good they are feeling. In other words looking at others hi-lights within us how we really feel about ourselves but if we don’t know this we project any negativeness outwards to those we believe have created it where in truth it is our own beliefs, thoughts and feelings that have created this resistance within us.

I don’t believe people try to control others lives because they don’t have a life of their own, they try to control others because this is what they have been taught they need to do in order to feel happy, and everyone is trying to feel happy. It is true that many project their frustrations onto others because holding onto much negative energy without making an effort to feel better unconditionally apart from conditions is like putting an oxygen tank under pressure…..It’s only a matter of time before that pressure cannot be held in any longer and the tank explodes. Although most will temporarily feel better after this release of negative energy, it is short lived for as the Law Of Attraction responds to that which they have given out in the form of thoughts, words, and actions, that energy increases in power and momentum before being delivered back to where it first originated……
This is why reacting to strong negative energy others send out is not ideal for then negativeness they have released is passed on and although they will still receive back that which they have originally given out, now we will also receive back the negative energy we have received and in turn have given out and the chain of pain continues on and on……

Unless we start to understand through our own life experiences how this life is really working by paying attention to how we feel and noticing what is turning up in our lives. Anyone that does this from a pure place of wanting to know how to create a better life will eventually receive the answers they so desire!!!

And yes, special means different things to different people and I would agree being sensitive to oneself and others is very special indeed……

And so it is……

If the politicians did a better job, my life would be better…..Wouldn’t it???

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ProblemQuoteWell,……Maybe yes or maybe no, who knows??? This is a statement that says something like……”I am not responsible for any of the unwanted things I see in the world around me. I give my power and responsibility for creating a happy life over to someone else who I may have forgotten is here to follow the life they want to live and are doing what they believe is right.” I am not suggesting that the decisions politicians make do not impact on our way of life, of course they do. This is what we call a democratic society and without such systems in place, as a species we would not have progressed as far as we currently have. Does that mean all the decisions being made are to everyone’s liking or that things unfold in a positive, wanted way? No, there’s no guarantees with anything that has many variables with large numbers of people in different vibrational places in relation to so many subjects that are important to us.

I do not get into political debates as those that often talk about politics tend to have strong opinions that unfortunately tend to be highly negative in nature. Can you remember having conversations with such a person who highlights all the good and positive decisions the current politicians have made……Uhhhmmmm, not usually. The good created is often completed ignored in favour of all the things in their opinion that have gone wrong or will not produce the outcomes they are wanting. One in such a place is not able to see any good because the strength of their negative focus does not give them the ability to see it!!!

By focusing on all that has not worked well, and even worse having negative predictions for what has not yet unfolded helps to create the exact circumstances we are not wanting to experience, Law of Attraction says it must. No one on their own has created unwanted political circumstances, but together and collectively we are creating our experience and decisions are made that effect many people. How we feel about all things that are important to us in relation to political issues and any other subjects for that matter will have a bearing on whatever outcomes are achieved. This is the same whether we are creating specific circumstances in our own lives with those we are close with or when we are creating circumstances collectively with many we do not personally know.

When we are creating with others, which we are doing most of the time unless we live on a deserted island somewhere with no other people around us. (probably not reading this if that’s the case!!!) I like to think of our collective creative power in terms of a light that receives its charge from many small batteries. The more batteries that work together, the better the charge will be and the more likely that our light will glow brightly. In contrast to this, if many batteries are not working together our light may be much dimmer until eventually the light will cease to glow at all. It is not necessary to get everyone to agree and have the same point of view, although it does help when others are supportive and are liking whatever decisions we may be making that may be affecting them. It’s more important in which direction the collective focus is.

For example being highly focused on all the good a person we may support is doing versus being highly focused on what our opposition may be doing that we don’t like are vastly different perspectives that are vibrating at the opposite ends of the emotional scale and will bring very different results. Every person gets a say and is heard loud and clear by the powerful Law of Attraction, even if they are not interested in or do not follow politics. If we are highly interested in Education we will have a strong vibration going on in relation to this subject and our vibration will be included in decisions made about this subject, and so will every other person who has a vibration going on about it, whether positive, negative or neutral. The resulting outcome or manifestation will be a reflection of the strongest vibrations once everyone’s vibration has been taken into account and responded to by the Law of Attraction!!!

Politicians may think they have all the power but they do not. Every single person holds power to create, and we do it through the power of firstly our thoughts and what we give our creative focus too, which in turn inspires our words and actions.

So decisions can and are made that may have unwanted results, no ones denying that and sometimes its required to inspire better solutions and stronger desires for better outcomes from more people. The direction of each and every persons focus about such circumstances directly affects how things continue to unfold whether we are aware of this truth or not. By focusing all the creative power we were born with on the good we’ve dreamed of is the best chance we have to inspire changes in the direction we’re really wanting both in our personal lives and at a more global level…….And even if all you’ve dreamed of doesn’t become a collective reality, it won’t matter because you will have created it in your own life.

We are creators, and we are doing it individually and collectively. Others ultimately do not have power over us unless we believe they do. No one else can get in our heads and think our thoughts for us and that’s what creates our reality. By making the effort to focus on the best in our lives and leaving others to focus on what they want ensures we stay true to who we are and what we believe in. This must eventually draw vibrational matches in the form of people, places and circumstances and what no longer matches our vibration will eventually find its way out of our life…….

And so it will……

Is there an Angel at my side???

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There are more things unknown to Human beings than most would ever dream about. When the time is right……All will eventually be revealed.          Paulette De-Har

It depends on whether we believe in Angels…..Does it not???
All human beings have access to what many call Angels or Non-Physical energy that can be called upon if we are in a place to access such experiences. Although these energies will not interfere with the physical experience, they will give guidance on any subject one wishes to discuss with them.

 

Since we are the creators of our own life experiences, and we create those experiences through the power of our own focused thoughts, feelings, words and actions, it logically follows that we will be unlikely to have access to Angel advice and guidance or whatever else one might like to call Non-Physical energies if we don’t believe they even exist. Without desire, the feeling of wanting to achieve something more than what currently is, new cannot be created. Once desire is stirred within an individual through personal experiences and understanding, belief now needs momentum behind it, for creating anything we don’t believe we have the ability to experience is near impossible. Desire + Belief = Experience.

We don’t need to believe or be communicating with Non-Physical energy to live a happy and content life, but it certainly helps. By making a gentle and constant effort to move to the best feeling place we have access to in any given situation, especially when experiencing unwanted circumstances, ensures we are continuously moving through any resistance and closer to the physical experience of what we are wanting.

In truth, everyone has an Angel of sorts in the form of the Non-Physical part of ourselves that remained in the Non-Physical realm while the here and now Physical self was birthed into the physical world. The Non-Physical self-communicates to the Physical part we know as ourselves in the form of our emotions with good feeling positive emotions leading us into more of what we’re wanting to experience and not good feeling negative emotions leading us closer to what we are not wanting to experience.

Negative emotion gets a bit of a bad wrap, especially if we know and understand our own thoughts and feelings create our experience. Once people understand and know how they are creating their own life experiences both individually and collectively, the tendency becomes to try to instantly eradicate every not good feeling emotion we feel. Although negative emotion is what creates unwanted circumstances in our lives, it’s important to know when we let go of resistance and move into better feeling places better circumstances are created. Negative emotion is a very powerful tool that when truly understood is helping us to get back on track by letting us know we are moving in a direction that is not currently in our best interests.

It’s only when we feel the negative emotion and let it stay within the physical mind and body that it starts to become a problem. This is because any strong emotions we are feeling will be responded in-kind too by the powerful Law of Attraction. How strong this attractive power will be, depends on how often we bring negative thoughts into our mind and how intensely we are feeling them. What is turning up in our experience will depend on how much momentum we have behind what we are thinking and feeling.

We always have time to move our vibration and how we’re feeling in relation to any given subject as I’m sure everyone’s noticed things don’t instantaneously turn up the moment we think of something……So if many circumstances are turning up that have the same emotional vibrational feeling too them, we can know for sure we have the momentum of thought and emotion that is causing it.
Not a problem when good things turn up, but if there is a pattern of unwanted circumstances it’s a very good idea to make an effort to improve our vibration on these subjects. I know it’s not always the easiest thing to do, to look straight in the direction of what we may believe is causing our negative emotion and start to feel better about it…..But what other choice is there???

Isn’t the main reason to feel the best we can at any given moment to whatever’s presenting itself to us because it feels good to feel good, and feeling good is better than not feeling good??? Add to that the fact that we are also creating our future experiences by how we are feeling now and it’s clear that leaving strong negative emotion within ourselves without making an effort to feel better is not a good idea.

We all have the ability to feel better to anything that’s currently happening in our lives and whether we are aware or not we all have access to Non-Physical energy to help us on our journey. In truth this energy constantly and consistently communicates to all life forms, the question isn’t whether this is so, the question is…..Are we getting ourselves in a place where we can hear this communication clearly???

As we start to feel better in our lives, so we start to feel and hear this communication in real and undeniable ways….And this is a very good thing!!!

And so it is….

The basis of all addiction is emotional in nature….

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Voices WithinAlthough addiction is a very complicated subject involving many different factors, when we get down to the real nitty-gritty of it, it’s often preceded by long-term negative emotions that have not been moved into a better feeling vibrational place because we have been unaware that…..

1. We have the absolute ability to improve the way we feel to any and every subject that is important to us.

2. What we are thinking and therefore feeling not only determines how good our present moment experience is but also pre-paves or lays down the vibrational foundation of our future experiences.

The need to feel good is a factor that insures all human beings strive for better and improved experiences in their lives and is how all species evolve and expand into greater versions of what they currently are. This does not mean we are not already good as we are, it simply means that without this core desire no species would evolve very much, and what would be the point of that???

The fact that an addiction is an attempt to sooth negative, not good feeling emotions from within ones self with external substances or circumstances does not downplay the  physiologically dependence that many may experience, especially when it comes to substances that have strong chemically based reactions within the brain and body that potentially cause stronger levels of addiction both physiologically and emotionally. That being said, the basis for reaching for anything from a position of need has the potential to become an addiction.

Almost every thing people are thinking, saying, and doing is because it feels good, for why else would anyone do anything if it wasn’t to have good experiences and to feel good. This only becomes a problem when we reach for external circumstances or substances to sooth negative emotions we may be feeling such as pain, hurt, disappointment, rage, anger, fear, and despair. Although we all have the absolute power to feel better to any and all circumstances we’ve experienced in the past, are experiencing now, or that we may experience in our future, without knowing this you might say many have been left in the lurch so to speak, reaching for the perfect diet, partner, exercise regime, substance or circumstance that will temporarily make them feel better.

Relief from these feelings are only temporary because the real cause of our long-held negative emotion has not been addressed and remains within the physical mind and body until it is released through feeling better to whatever the source of the negative emotion is. This is often strongly connected to what is turning up in our experience especially if the negative emotions are strong and often thought about as the Law of Attraction will be responding with similar people, places and events that match our dominant vibrational, feeling place.

It is very difficult to move forward in a positive manner in relation to any subject where strong negative emotion still surrounds it until that resistance has been released. If action is taken from a strongly resistance place, it often doesn’t unfold as we are wanting and requires immense effort and hard work unless we have managed to move into a better vibrational place, particularly when unwanted circumstances happen. This can be quite a big ask if we have never been taught that this is how we create better circumstances in our lives, but it is never something we can start doing too late.

As far as dealing with an addiction once it is present in our lives, calming the physiological craving the body has especially to substances such as alcohol, drugs and food is a crucial first step. It’s very hard to work on any emotional psychological issues that have caused the addiction when our body is still strongly craving substances. Once we have been deprived of such substances for over approximately a week the body starts to come back into balance and the strong physiological craving is greatly reduced if not completely eliminated. Any craving we experience after this period will now be to feel better emotionally and the reason we originally reached for this or that.

At this point effort needs to be put into doing our best to improve how we feel about issues or circumstances from the present and past that we are feeling strong negative emotions about. It is not enough to only work on eliminating the physiological cravings and to leave it at that.
A person may be forced into a program where the substances they desire are taken away but without their true desire to move forward and let go of an addiction themselves, the emotional work needed will be unlikely to be done as this takes immense strength and perseverance to undertake.

Although it’s not the easiest journey in the world to undertake……When one is ready to move forward with desire and a belief they have the ability to live more of the life they deserve, that they have the strength to find better solutions, that they have the ability to feel better and succeed, the right people, places, and events will appear to help them in their journey…..

And so they will….

Once the seeds of truth have been planted….They cannot be removed!!!

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“THE SOUL WITHIN US ALL KNOWS TRUTH. LISTEN TO THE WISDOM THAT RESIDES WITHIN RATHER THAN THE CHAOS THAT LIVES OUTSIDE.”  Paulette De-Har

 

Just as a tree, the mighty oak came from the smallest of seeds that found itself in the optimal conditions it required to grow….So it is when a human being comes into a receptive mode through their own life experiences. This is the next logical step in any living organisms evolution.

The Soul or Non-Physical counterpart of all physical beings on this planet knows the truth when they hear it because essentially they are the truth, and is the main catalyst that is drawing and attracting truths to the physical part of who we are through our experiences. This is so we may more fully understand what our purpose is and how we are creating our lives thus giving us the opportunity to move more fully into the joyful expression of who we really are.

This is not a desire that is held only by our Non-Physical counterpart but also by the physical here and now part of who we are in the form of our own desires to everything we experience and observe. For example, every time we experience something whether it is wanted or unwanted we immediately know what would be an improved experience, and this knowing is also known and held at the same moment by our Non-Physical counterpart.

Our Non-Physical counterpart resides in and is the pure positive energy of joy, love, and truth therefore does not hold misconceptions, false beliefs or negative resistant thought patterns but knows the physical part of who we are has picked up many of these untrue perceptions, false beliefs and negative resistant thought patterns through the living of this and previous physical lives.

We are constantly guided by the Non-Physical through our emotions and what we are currently experiencing in our life depends largely on how much we have listened to the Non-Physical part of ourselves. The more we have made an effort to move into better, good feeling positive emotional places as we move through our lives the more blended the physical and Non-Physical parts of us become and the more knowing we are about all things.

The seeds of truth have always been within us and when we are confronted with Universal truths, deep down we know it. If these truths don’t align with the truths we are now living and have learnt along our physical journey it can upset the status quo causing us to turn away from that which we are unsure of in fear of the unknown.

This does not matter for once the mind and intellect have grown and we have been inspired with strong desire through our own personal experiences to understand and know more about the truth of life…..We are now in a fertile condition like the mighty oak with all that is required to bring this knowing into our full physical awareness. Once all conditions required for the successful revealing of truth are present, it’s not a matter of if this will happen, but when this will happen.

The length of time for this knowing to be completely understood depends on how willing we are to do the work of reassessing and changing beliefs we are coming to know are no longer serving us in a positive way. This can be more easily said than done as any beliefs we’ve held strongly over time will have much momentum behind them that we have literally been living and observing in our life experience. These limiting beliefs do take time and effort to move into higher vibrational places by doing our best to find the best feeling emotional place we can to whatever we are currently experiencing.

It is also very likely that we will be surrounded by many others that believe strongly in our old belief systems for we have attracted people, places and events that are in a similar vibrational place as where we have previously been. That’s the Law of Attraction in action!!! Responding to our vibration and aligning us with vibrational matches. Again this doesn’t matter, for even if we ourselves or those around us are resistant and not cooperative in this time of change, opportunities will be continuously presented to us to help us release any resistance we have until all doubt is gone and our understanding is clear as to the best and easiest way to move forward.

One that has been in the place to hear and feel the seeds of truth cannot remove this knowing, even if it was only for a fleeting moment they knew it. For those surrounding one that is coming to know the truth but may be trying to prevent that truth from being known for fear of the unknown, this is not possible and a futile attempt to control forces that will never be controlled from a place of fear or any other place for that matter.

We are all capable of the most amazing things….The seeds of this greatness lie within us all, not one among us was forgotten. There has never been a better time than now to start moving into the full knowing of all that we can be and all that we really are…..And it’s letting these seeds flourish within our being that will get us everything we are really wanting…..And more!!!

And so it is….

Working with the Law of Attraction is easy…..Isn’t it???

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ArmsWideFirstly, whether we are aware or not of the powerful Universal Law known to many as the Law of Attraction, this law is responding equally to every living entity on this planet.
The Law of Attraction is responding to the vibration signals we are sending out through our focused thoughts and feelings to whatever we are giving our attention too. Awareness of this law and how it works does not need to be known or understood for it to work…..It simply is.
Just as we don’t need to know what gravity is or how it exactly works for it to effect every aspect of our lives, so it is with the Law of Attraction.

It’s true this Law is simple and means as a vibration is emitted over time with emotional intensity from a living being, that being will receive back in thoughts, feelings and eventually physical manifestations that which they have originally sent out. Our vibration is a constantly moving and changing proposition depending on exactly where we are in relation to all the subjects that are important to us but unless we are consistently making an effort to feel better in our lives, especially when unwanted circumstances turn up, most tend to easily move into their known and comfortable General Vibrational Place.

Our General Vibration Place can be explained as the emotional place we are in most of the time on many subjects and is often described with such words as pessimistic, bubbly, aggressive, assertive, gloomy, happy, calm and so forth. This doesn’t mean there won’t be a vibrational difference between different subjects that are important to us, there definitely will, but these differences won’t be too far apart. This means working on only one subject, especially a subject that is highly important to can be a slightly difficult task to start off with.

Subjects that are very important to us that have gathered resistance through negative thoughts or beliefs that have been given focused attention over time gaining power and momentum in an unwanted direction, can move quickly into a better place when resistance is released. This is a hard ask if our subject has been in a low, unwanted vibrational place for an extended period of time and we have many other subjects that are in the same vibrational vicinity.

Although I would never discourage anyone from trying to move any subject into a better feeling vibrational place, if we are just coming to know and understand the Law of Attraction and how we can start using it deliberately in our lives to produce more of what we are wanting and less of what we are not wanting it is easier to start with less important subjects that we may hold less resistance too. This is a good way to test how improving how we think and feel effects what we are attracting and feels great when we see the results of deliberately directing our thoughts into a better feeling place.

So in theory and at its base the Law of Attraction is simple…..You get back what you give out. But for any human being that’s been in their physical body for any period of time that has not been surrounded and taught by others how life really works and how we are the creators of our own experience, they are slightly empty and hollow words.

When we are not knowing that focused attention of unwanted circumstances brings more unwanted and focused attention of wanted circumstances brings more wanted circumstances, many have gathered much resistant through intent focus on problems in the hope this will elevate what they are not wanting. Although we must acknowledge the problem before we can move into the solution we’re seeking, it’s not until thoughts have moved out of the vibrational vicinity of the problem and into the vibrational vicinity of the solution that the solution will be found.

At the end of the day…..Most have created great things in their lives without a deep understanding of this powerful Law, but as we spend longer in this physical body without this knowledge it’s only natural we gather more resistance as we observe more circumstances and have more experiences we may not be wanting without knowing it’s important to refocus ourselves in the direction of what we are wanting.

I can only speak for myself when I say…..Sometimes it’s easy, and sometimes it isn’t, but I don’t know anything else that’s more important and worth making an effort for than living the life we deserve and the life we came here to live!!!

And so it is….

When we only notice everything that’s “UNWANTED”……That’s not that good!!!

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It’s hard not to notice something that’s strongly unwanted. Once the initial shock wears off, this is the time to re-orientate ourselves in a more positive direction.        Paulette De-Har 

Why is noticing everything that’s unwanted in our lives not a good idea. When we focus intently on anything wanted or unwanted we attract similar feeling circumstances into our experience, and I don’t know about anyone else but I definitely want to attract more wanted circumstances and less unwanted into my life!!!

 

Many are also coming from a place where they believe without intense focus on all we are not wanting and all the problems we may be currently experiencing in our lives, nothing would ever get better!!! That’s not a bad idea if we can focus for a short time on the problem and then turn quickly into the vibrational vicinity of the solution we are seeking.

Focusing on the problem (unwanted) can produce both wanted and unwanted circumstances depending on the direction of our focused thoughts and feelings, our vibration.

For example, if we are making an effort to feel better about unwanted circumstances that may be turning up in our physical experience or we are observing unwanted circumstances around us, being determined to focus on the best of it is a very good strategy. As we focus more on what we’re wanting within any given situation, experience or moment in time especially unwanted circumstances, we emit a specific vibrational frequency that the Law of Attraction will respond in-kind too. When any vibration is held onto over time with emotional intensity, we will attract matching vibrational manifestations in the form of thoughts, feelings, and eventually physical manifestations. This is evidence of the dominant vibrations within us, whether we are aware of it or not.

Making the decision to do our best to feel better and to focus on the best of whatever is turning up in our experience is always a good thing, but one also has to be mindful about gently acknowledging whatever resistance or unwanted circumstances that are turning up, especially if we’ve had many experiences with the same emotional feeling within them as this is a sure sign we need to release some resistance thoughts or beliefs we may be holding. Many of us are often not aware we’ve been having resistant thoughts and negative emotion as we do acclimatize to how we feel until it becomes our normal place to be. What once felt really bad, becomes normal if not moved into a better vibrational place. It’s often not until something unwanted unfolds in our experience that we have an opportunity to know for sure we have a vibration within us that has attracted a specific experience into our lives….And even then it can be a little tricky to work out what thoughts we’ve had going on that caused this or that. It’s much easier to focus on feeling better to whatever is turning up rather than trying to remember all the thoughts we are or are not having.

If whatever we’ve attracted has come from long-held beliefs we have about life that we no longer consciously think about anymore, it’s very helpful to think about what our core beliefs are and to reassess whether we really think they are serving who we are now and what we are wanting from this life.

It’s not for others to say what we should or shouldn’t believe, this is an individual choice based on what we are wanting and how we wish to live our lives, but one thing is for sure….
We are all living a life very close to the beliefs we hold, and if that life is far less than what we are wanting to live it’s a very good idea to become aware and reassess any limiting negative beliefs we may have by making an effort to move them into a better feeling more life-affirming direction….

We all have the free will and the power to do so if that’s what we’re wishing…..And we can start right now, from wherever we are by making a decision to do our best to reach for the best feeling emotions we have access to in each and every moment of our lives!!!

And so we can….

Do you believe in a “Silver Lining???”

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Dreamy
Every situation has a Silver Lining. Whether we will experience the benefits of it depends entirely on our focus.           Paulette De-Har

Condemnation of any other never gets anybody anywhere they are wanting to go, this is for sure, even if it does temporarily feel good to do!!!

 

When we see anyone in our life doing something we don’t think is in our or their best interests, it’s virtually impossible not to feel some negative emotion about it, especially if it’s someone you are particulars close too or it’s a subject you feel particularly passionate about with strong underlying beliefs held behind it. It’s not about trying to eradicate any feelings of negative emotion we may have, this is not a very realistic goal in the world we’re living in now, it’s about knowing and exercising our own god given power to move into a better feeling place, therefore, drawing what we are wanting rather than what we are not wanting into our lives.

We choose to come into this physical world to experience and decide what we are wanting to live and to then focus positively and purely as we can until this is the dominant and strongest vibration within us on whatever is important to us. It’s never wrong to say this is how I want to live, this is what I am wanting to experience in my life, that is exactly what we came here to do, but problems can arise when we focus intently and strongly on the things we are not liking and don’t want to experience rather than focusing on what we love and are wanting to experience. If we are able to diligently focus more on what we are wanting and clear any resistant that turns-up by making an effort to move to the best feeling place we can find when faced with unwanted circumstances, it’s only a matter of time before we will see signs of our improved vibrational place in the way of thoughts, feelings, and eventually manifestations that match the dominant vibrational place we have consistently achieved. This is the Law of Attraction responding to the vibrations we emit through our focused thoughts and feelings with every living species on this planet being responded to equally. Not one sits outside of this all-encompassing powerful law, whether we are aware of it or not!!!

The strength of negative emotions we may feel when experiencing unwanted circumstances will depend greatly on how much momentum we have going in a positive direction versus how much momentum we have going in a negative direction. Whether the momentum we have created is positive or negative directly correlates with what will be predominantly turning up in our physical manifestations as the Law of Attraction responds to the thoughts and feelings, the vibrations we’re sending out.
It’s interesting to realise that when we focus negatively or don’t make an effort to move negative emotions into a better place when observing those we love doing things we don’t feel are in their or our best interests, we are adding power and momentum to what we are not wanting to experience and making it more unlikely that we will the recipient of what we are wanting. This is how we help to inspire the exact circumstances or behaviours we are not wanting out of others!!!

The truth is no matter what we do, we cannot truly control any other in our experience. If we believe we have power over others, this is an illusion, for one must freely give their power away to another, it is always a two-way street. We are all free to choose that which we do our actions, that which we say our words, and that which we think and feel no matter what someone else thinks, says or does about it. The best we can hope to do is to make peace with what others around us are doing especially those we love and care about, for this gives us the best possibility of experiencing and inspiring more of what we are wanting and less of what we are not wanting and lets the other know…..
Your way may not be the way that I would choose, but I know you came here to live your life the way you want to live not how someone else thinks you should live and I trust that you are doing the best that you can and I will do the best that I can to make my experience better by feeling good and focusing on the things I’m wanting to experience and all that is already wonderful in my life.

If we don’t feel we are able to feel better about what someone close to us is doing because it goes against something we strongly believe, a belief we do not wish to change because we believe it serves us very well, or maybe it doesn’t serve us well, we’re just not prepared to make the effort to change, because lets face it, long-held beliefs are not that easy to change even if they aren’t serving us very well. If judgement, resentment, and blame are allowed to grow, this often accumulates until the dissolution of the relationship happens. Although this is often difficult, it is a very good opportunity to release resistance and move to an even better feeling place that will attract even more wanted circumstances into our future experiences…

Yes……there’s a silver lining to every cloud, no matter how black that cloud may be, but we do have to believe it’s there to find it and to make it our daily work to move ourselves into the close vicinity of it by focusing on all the good that is already in our lives!!!

And so it is….

There’s no place I’d rather be!!!

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LionThese are lyrics to the song Rather Be by Clean Bandit featuring Jess Glynne.
So wouldn’t it be awesome if we could feel like there’s no other place we’d rather be for most of the time!! Although a difficult task for most to accomplish consistently, it’s a very nice idea and something that’s definitely worth working towards.

To come to the place where we may be close to appreciating where and what we’re doing no matter what’s happening around us, does take a certain perspective and understanding about life, and that perspective depends on what we believe and think about life. This, in turn, determines how we feel and the actions we take, influencing the physical manifestations we attract and experience.

If we are experiencing unwanted circumstances in our lives, although it’s possible, it’s hard at that very moment to say “there’s no place I’d rather be.” But it’s very possible to come to a place where we’re knowing so well how life is working and how we’re receiving whatever it is that’s turning up in our experience, that we can truthfully say, “I don’t like this unwanted situation I’m currently experiencing, but because I know so well how I’m creating my life experiences, and I know that this manifestation is resistance I wasn’t completely aware was within me, I’m going to do my very best to release it by moving to the best feeling vibrational place I can find from where I currently am now,” and that’s the best that anyone can hope to do.

We may not get to a positive vibrational place straight away depending on how strong our negative vibration is in relation to whatever’s happened, but any improvement is very good and will reap improved physical circumstances once it’s the dominant vibration within us on this subject.

The awesome thing about making small vibrational improvements on subjects that are important to us is…..It’s only a matter of time before we become very good at turning strongly negative into strongly positive with very little effort as the Law of Attraction adds power and momentum over time to all that we think and do.

This is when we start to feel the real power of who we are, the power we’ve always had to create the life we’re wanting to live….And now is the time to start accessing that power!!!

And so it is….