When we only notice everything that’s “UNWANTED”……That’s not that good!!!

 

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It’s hard not to notice something that’s strongly unwanted. Once the initial shock wears off, this is the time to re-orientate ourselves in a more positive direction.        Paulette De-Har 

Why is noticing everything that’s unwanted in our lives not a good idea. When we focus intently on anything wanted or unwanted we attract similar feeling circumstances into our experience, and I don’t know about anyone else but I definitely want to attract more wanted circumstances and less unwanted into my life!!!

 

Many are also coming from a place where they believe without intense focus on all we are not wanting and all the problems we may be currently experiencing in our lives, nothing would ever get better!!! That’s not a bad idea if we can focus for a short time on the problem and then turn quickly into the vibrational vicinity of the solution we are seeking.

Focusing on the problem (unwanted) can produce both wanted and unwanted circumstances depending on the direction of our focused thoughts and feelings, our vibration.

For example, if we are making an effort to feel better about unwanted circumstances that may be turning up in our physical experience or we are observing unwanted circumstances around us, being determined to focus on the best of it is a very good strategy. As we focus more on what we’re wanting within any given situation, experience or moment in time especially unwanted circumstances, we emit a specific vibrational frequency that the Law of Attraction will respond in-kind too. When any vibration is held onto over time with emotional intensity, we will attract matching vibrational manifestations in the form of thoughts, feelings, and eventually physical manifestations. This is evidence of the dominant vibrations within us, whether we are aware of it or not.

Making the decision to do our best to feel better and to focus on the best of whatever is turning up in our experience is always a good thing, but one also has to be mindful about gently acknowledging whatever resistance or unwanted circumstances that are turning up, especially if we’ve had many experiences with the same emotional feeling within them as this is a sure sign we need to release some resistance thoughts or beliefs we may be holding. Many of us are often not aware we’ve been having resistant thoughts and negative emotion as we do acclimatize to how we feel until it becomes our normal place to be. What once felt really bad, becomes normal if not moved into a better vibrational place. It’s often not until something unwanted unfolds in our experience that we have an opportunity to know for sure we have a vibration within us that has attracted a specific experience into our lives….And even then it can be a little tricky to work out what thoughts we’ve had going on that caused this or that. It’s much easier to focus on feeling better to whatever is turning up rather than trying to remember all the thoughts we are or are not having.

If whatever we’ve attracted has come from long-held beliefs we have about life that we no longer consciously think about anymore, it’s very helpful to think about what our core beliefs are and to reassess whether we really think they are serving who we are now and what we are wanting from this life.

It’s not for others to say what we should or shouldn’t believe, this is an individual choice based on what we are wanting and how we wish to live our lives, but one thing is for sure….
We are all living a life very close to the beliefs we hold, and if that life is far less than what we are wanting to live it’s a very good idea to become aware and reassess any limiting negative beliefs we may have by making an effort to move them into a better feeling more life-affirming direction….

We all have the free will and the power to do so if that’s what we’re wishing…..And we can start right now, from wherever we are by making a decision to do our best to reach for the best feeling emotions we have access to in each and every moment of our lives!!!

And so we can….

Everything happens for a reason….Does it not???

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Yes, there’s no doubt everything that happens and unfolds within our lives happens for a reason, whether we are aware of this truth or not.

If we’re understanding how the Law of Attraction is working in our lives because we’re seeing the connection between what we’re giving our focused thought and emotion too and what’s turning up, it’s not hard to understand the truth this saying holds for us.
If we are still unaware of these powerful Universal Laws, it doesn’t matter too much, the Law of Attraction is responding equally and consistently to what every person is “putting out there” so to speak, but it would be true to say the more we understand how the Law of Attraction is working in our lives, the better able we are to create more of what we are wanting, and less of what we are not wanting.

Before we’re aware we’re creating our own life experiences, one will often attributes circumstances that happen to external forces such as other people, coincidences, chance happenings, God, or some other magical unknown force, especially if they are unwanted occurrences. And although external influences and circumstances do influence our experiences greatly, that influence comes from our own focused observation, thoughts and feelings in relation to those external circumstances.

Crediting what is turning up in our lives to factors outside of ourselves can often help us temporarily feel better in the short-term when moderately unwanted circumstances happen, but in the long-term and for more strongly unwanted circumstances, it can promote a feeling of helplessness and loss of control over ones life, and that’s rarely a good thing.

It’s always about how we feel when we give any circumstance focused thought, whether it’s something we’re observing or thoughts we bring into our conscious mind. What may feel not so good one day, can feel much better the following day, which is a very good indication positive vibrational movement has been made on the subject we’re giving our attention too.
If we’re believing what’s happening in our lives is happening for a reason and that everything usually works out in the end for our benefit, even if we can’t currently see how or why….This is a great belief that ultimately helps us get closer to achieving what we’re wanting in our lives.
Whereas if we don’t believe things usually work out in our benefit and have no idea why or how things are coming to us….This can make it difficult to achieve what we are wanting.

Some may argue, how can I hold this belief of things working out when my experience has shown me otherwise???
And I say, I know, it’s not easy to promote a belief when we’ve had much evidence in our lives to the contrary, but once we start to understand how those experiences have come to us, how we have attracted them, and notice the difference moving our thought to improved, better feeling vibration places reaps, then it becomes easier to maintain our positive focus in the face of opposition.

This life is a journey of discovery for us all, no matter how much we do or don’t know….And everything that’s happening, the wanted and the unwanted, is leading us into deeper and fuller understanding about life and who we really are!!

It’s when we come to know who we really are and how we are creating our life experiences that we can let go of the struggle we may be currently living.

Life was supposed to be good, and it’s only a matter of time before many of us start living more of the life we intended to live when we made our powerful intention to come into this Physical life!!

And so it is….

The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree….

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I’m sure many people have probably heard this saying, whether or not they agree with what it’s getting at, is another matter.
For those of you who know me, you’ll know I love thinking and talking about common sayings and the deeper meanings they can hold for us, that the understanding of has the possibility of improving our life experiences, and sometimes it’s just interesting to ponder such things….
My interpretation of this analogy is something like this, the tree represents the parents in a family and the apples represent the children of the family.
So, if “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree,” this means that when children are brought up in any environment, they will more or less take on the values of those that have raised them. This includes cultural norms, community and family values, and may include religious beliefs or customs.
Some may disagree and say, “No, I disagreed strongly with some of the beliefs I was brought up with and have ensured I have not done the same in my life,” which often causes a strong behavioural change to the opposite end of the behavioural scale so to speak, some thing I like to call “And so the pendulum swings.” (Yep, you guessed it, I’ve written about that one too!!)

Now back to our apples…. I’m sure it’s not hard to see for most that there’s much truth to this saying, for it’s not possible to be in any environment for an extended amount of time without acclimatising to that which surrounds you, whether you are a child or an adult, but it’s far more pronounced for children than adults, because on the whole, they do not have the ability to remove themselves from the environment they have been born into….well not initially anyway, and are often programmed very strongly from the moment they come forth into what is and what isn’t appropriate, by the older more experienced members in the family.

Now, whatever belief system we’ve been born into doesn’t really matter, but what is important is as we start to grow up and mature and especially once we leave the family home and environment, that we question the beliefs we’ve been programmed with and decide for ourselves what we wish to believe and how we want to live our lives.
This can often be a hard task, for as many of you will already know, the Law of Attraction will respond to the beliefs we hold and we will see evidence of it everywhere we turn, which we often accept as, “That’s the way things have to be, because look, the evidence is everywhere!”
Now for sure, that’s the way things may be for some people if that’s what they believe, but it does not ultimately have to be that way. It’s always a choice, but sometimes it’s a choice we aren’t aware we have, and even once we are consciously aware, it does takes some very good focused thought to change beliefs that have been held for a long time that we’ve seen much physical manifestational evidence about.
And remember, just because something is true, does not mean you must give your attention to it, a better criteria to use is….”Is this….I’m giving my attention to now something I wish to experience in my life???”
Some may say, “Why should I even bother,” And I say, until we have questioned how we have been raised and the beliefs that have been passed to us, we have not truly grown up, but are carrying on with what we were programmed with.
This doesn’t mean that all our beliefs need changing, for many things we have been taught are serving us extremely well, but I’m sure it’s true somewhat for all of us, some beliefs we hold are not serving us well, and as these beliefs are held onto longer, so the evidence we receive from the Law of Attraction becomes stronger.
It’s absolutely possible to move any belief we want to into a better feeling vibrational place, but if it’s a belief that has been held for a long time, like all of our life, it does take some time and effort to move them in the direction of beliefs that will serve us and produce more wanted results, because after all, we didn’t come to any of our strong beliefs all in one day, so it’s probably going to take more that one day to change them, but we can totally do it if that’s what we’re wanting….I know it!!

And so it is….

It’s better to focus on what’s good about what you do have….than what’s good about what you don’t have!

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I love it when new discoveries are inspired from within….through the living of one’s own life experiences.
Questions and answers, problems and solutions, all attracted through the power of our focused thoughts and emotions. ( vibrations )

Okay so back to the title, it’s better to focus on what’s good about what you “do have” than what’s good about what you “don’t have.”
Now, whether this statement is true for you or not depends entirely on where you are in relation to it and is also dependent on the subject we’re thinking about, for we will be in different vibrational places on every subject that’s important to us.

If we are finding it difficult to appreciate what we have now it’s because we may be focused on things that we’re experiencing that we are not liking, the unwanted circumstances we are living.
If this is the case and we hold ourselves in this vibrational place over time that the Law of Attraction is responding in-kind to, this is what is highlighted to us as we look around, so in other words you put yourself in a place where you can no longer see the good that is also there.
Make no mistake, the good is there, but if we have intently focused on all that we feel is not good, this is mostly what we have easy access to through the power of our own focused thoughts.
So being grateful for all the horrible or unwanted things you don’t have is definitely an improvement from just noticing everything that isn’t good or unwanted.
But I like to think of it as a stepping stone to where we’re going, a place that’s a good improvement on where we’ve been, but by no means the end point.
For although it may initially feel good to look at what others are experiencing that is unwanted and be happy that we are not experiencing such circumstances, if we stay in this vibrational place with increased focused thoughts ( remember, we cannot observe anything without giving thought to it, whether we are aware of our thoughts or not! ) we have now included this in our own vibration therefore increasing the possibility of experiencing similar feeling circumstances in our own lives.
If we are sensitive to how we’re feeling, and are aware that our feelings are communication from our Inner Being, the Non-Physical part of us letting us know what we are creating right now in our lives, this is not a problem.
Why? Because we know we have the ability, with a little bit of effort, to adjust our vibration ( thoughts and feelings ) into a better feeling place which in turn…changes everything!!
As we all move through time this is naturally happening, but without conscious awareness of how we are creating our life experiences, it can be slow progress that tires us out.
So now is the time to really “get into the game and go for it!!”
And so it is….

Are you using an outdated roadmap???

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Try reading a roadmap from a hundred years ago and see where it gets you! I’m sure you can see fairly quickly, that is ridiculous advice. So it always amazes me how some people are still trying to live their lives by a book that was written 2000 years ago.
As with an old roadmap, most of the large landmasses and major roads are still probably the same, but as you get into the more specific small details of your map, almost everything will be different.
So one could say, the basic principles or major concepts within these books are still strong and relevant to the lives we are living today, but the specific details, when relating it to our daily lives here and now, are very different. And so it is, with many books and scriptures that were written by many different sages and prophets from the past.

It’s not for anyone to tell others what they should or shouldn’t take from these books, that is a choice made by each individual based on their freedom to choose as they wish. The criteria I would use to determine whether I would follow advice given by, not just books, but anything is… is it working for me? If it isn’t working in our lives, who cares who said it, when they said it, and why they said it? If it improves our life in any way, then for us, it must be sound advice, but if it doesn’t improve our life after giving it time, why would we continue to follow it? The only reasonable answer I can come up with for following advice that obviously is not working, is if we are coming from a place of fear.

Fear that we need to do something someone else has set out for us, or there will be unwanted consequences? This often begins from the first day we are born into this physical world. As children we allowed, without really knowing we were doing it, our Internal Guidance to be overridden by the people around us that had been here longer than us, and thought they knew exactly how, what, and why we should be doing this or that. I am not blaming anyone, I am stating a fact. Most were doing their best based on how they grew up and what they knew at the time, nevertheless, it produces a lack of confidence and a need to be guided in every little thing we do, so when something new comes up, we are often lost as to what to do, often searching for direction and advice from external sources.

This does not necessarily need to be negative if we can assess honestly how the advice we have taken is working in our life rather than blindly following without question, even when, deep down, it doesn’t feel right. That’s our Inner Guidance, our very own internal emotional guidance, that’s specifically and precisely giving us advice on any matter that is important to us. We had it when we entered this physical world and we’ve had it every day since.

If we feel we are not receiving any such guidance, it’s because it has been overshadowed and drowned out by all the advice and guidance that has come from external sources, often to such a point, we’re no longer even aware we have it.
If we don’t believe or even know we have such guidance, it can be near impossible to find without conscious awareness, and so we go from one source of advice to another, searching for something that fits us just right, but it will not be found from outside of us, what we are searching for comes from within us.

The best advice will always come from within you, and many of us are starting to access this wonderful Inner Guidance. We are now living in a time, where we are questioning the way we do things, and the beliefs that have been given to us by our family, culture, community or religion. There is benefit to all of it, even in doing things that are not working, for it is often in the process of realising something isn’t working that you become open to what it is that does work.
Such is the process and joy of this physical life….

And so it is….