Am I being a good Husband or Wife???

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That depends on a few different factors such as, what we believe being a good husband or wife involves and whether or not it’s important for us to live up to those beliefs.

In the past I have felt quite uncomfortable when people have suggested I’m being a good housewife. Of course when this is said it’s usually coming from a good feeling place….But it does make me think about the whole husband, wife, and marriage relationships many of us are living.

Traditionally, being a good Husband or Wife usually meant that we would do what was prescribed or largely accepted by the society, community or culture we grew up within, that we may have felt we needed to adhere too, in order to be seen as appropriate or good?

I’m not suggesting many of these values are not working, especially if they are what we’re really wanting to do within our relationships, but it’s not ideal if we’re putting what we are really wanting secondary to what everyone else thinks we should be doing, or what we think others think we should be doing!

Although all the relationships we’re within are constantly changing and we are continually coming to new and improved decisions on how to move forward in the most positive ways we can from wherever we are vibrationally, it’s true to say, if we are always putting someone else’s needs before our own needs, not so much because we want too, but more because we feel this is the way we have to behave otherwise we aren’t a good husband or wife…..Well…..I don’t know???

And yes, I know there needs to be a bit of give and take in every relationship, but if we don’t get our thought in the best feeling place we can when we do compromise, so that it becomes not as much of a compromise, but more something we are wanting to do for ourselves, and the other, this is a much better place to be coming from. If we often do things just for the other without getting ourselves in a good feeling place, we can expect a lot of appreciation in return for our efforts, which we often don’t receive because the other believes we should have wanted to do it, hence two slightly annoyed people!!

It does not matter what type of relationships we’re talking about, getting the best out of them always requires a similar formula.

~Above all other things, be true to who we are and what we’re wanting, and listen to the Inner Guidance we’re receiving from within through our emotions, for this is guiding us to everything we’re wanting, not just in our relationships but in everything.
~Know what it is that we want to bring into our relationship that’s going to make it more Awesome, not just what we want the other to be like or to give.
~Make it a priority to be responsible for our own happiness, rather than relying on someone else to provide that happiness for us.
~Allow others freedom to be themselves, if we are trying to change them, this does not feel good for either party and can cause relationships that were good to turn not so good because of focus on everything about the other we’re not liking!! Remember, the Law of Attraction is responding to our dominant thoughts and feelings on all subjects that are important to us, so if we focus strongly on everything we don’t like about someone, even if it is someone we love deeply, so we receive more of what we are not wanting.
~Sometimes we just need to chill out and relax a bit and not take everything so seriously, choose what’s really important and let the not so important stuff go.
~Know that all usually works out for the best, even when it’s sometimes hard to see how straight away….
It isn’t supposed to be so much hard work, it’s supposed to be fun!!

And so it is….

The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree….

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I’m sure many people have probably heard this saying, whether or not they agree with what it’s getting at, is another matter.
For those of you who know me, you’ll know I love thinking and talking about common sayings and the deeper meanings they can hold for us, that the understanding of has the possibility of improving our life experiences, and sometimes it’s just interesting to ponder such things….
My interpretation of this analogy is something like this, the tree represents the parents in a family and the apples represent the children of the family.
So, if “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree,” this means that when children are brought up in any environment, they will more or less take on the values of those that have raised them. This includes cultural norms, community and family values, and may include religious beliefs or customs.
Some may disagree and say, “No, I disagreed strongly with some of the beliefs I was brought up with and have ensured I have not done the same in my life,” which often causes a strong behavioural change to the opposite end of the behavioural scale so to speak, some thing I like to call “And so the pendulum swings.” (Yep, you guessed it, I’ve written about that one too!!)

Now back to our apples…. I’m sure it’s not hard to see for most that there’s much truth to this saying, for it’s not possible to be in any environment for an extended amount of time without acclimatising to that which surrounds you, whether you are a child or an adult, but it’s far more pronounced for children than adults, because on the whole, they do not have the ability to remove themselves from the environment they have been born into….well not initially anyway, and are often programmed very strongly from the moment they come forth into what is and what isn’t appropriate, by the older more experienced members in the family.

Now, whatever belief system we’ve been born into doesn’t really matter, but what is important is as we start to grow up and mature and especially once we leave the family home and environment, that we question the beliefs we’ve been programmed with and decide for ourselves what we wish to believe and how we want to live our lives.
This can often be a hard task, for as many of you will already know, the Law of Attraction will respond to the beliefs we hold and we will see evidence of it everywhere we turn, which we often accept as, “That’s the way things have to be, because look, the evidence is everywhere!”
Now for sure, that’s the way things may be for some people if that’s what they believe, but it does not ultimately have to be that way. It’s always a choice, but sometimes it’s a choice we aren’t aware we have, and even once we are consciously aware, it does takes some very good focused thought to change beliefs that have been held for a long time that we’ve seen much physical manifestational evidence about.
And remember, just because something is true, does not mean you must give your attention to it, a better criteria to use is….”Is this….I’m giving my attention to now something I wish to experience in my life???”
Some may say, “Why should I even bother,” And I say, until we have questioned how we have been raised and the beliefs that have been passed to us, we have not truly grown up, but are carrying on with what we were programmed with.
This doesn’t mean that all our beliefs need changing, for many things we have been taught are serving us extremely well, but I’m sure it’s true somewhat for all of us, some beliefs we hold are not serving us well, and as these beliefs are held onto longer, so the evidence we receive from the Law of Attraction becomes stronger.
It’s absolutely possible to move any belief we want to into a better feeling vibrational place, but if it’s a belief that has been held for a long time, like all of our life, it does take some time and effort to move them in the direction of beliefs that will serve us and produce more wanted results, because after all, we didn’t come to any of our strong beliefs all in one day, so it’s probably going to take more that one day to change them, but we can totally do it if that’s what we’re wanting….I know it!!

And so it is….

Another moneymaking blog follower….Seriously???

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Oh my god, seriously I might just go and “kill myself” (that’s a figure of speech I like to use, meaning I’ve given this subject a lot of thought and decided it’s totally not for me!!) If another person that follows my blog is from a moneymaking scheme!!
Look, I think it’s great if people are making money however they are making it online, but I suppose, I have a feeling that just following someone to get them to come onboard with whatever it is you are selling, is well, I don’t know, not what I’m interested in doing.
Don’t get me wrong, I think that if people are interested in following this path that’s awesome, and there’s nothing at all wrong with that.
In fact, I can see for many, it has been something wonderful that has helped them to transform their thoughts, words and actions in more of the direction they’re wanting to go. And of course, if they maintain that new and improved vibrational place over time, they will experience the full physical manifestation of that which they have originally given out that the Law of Attraction has responded in-kind to.
That’s the “Law of the Land” ( Universal Law ) so to speak, and is the truth regardless of whatever the subject matter may be.
That being said, it doesn’t sit very well with me that people may be following whoever they are following with no actual interest at all in what those they are following are blogging about.
Maybe that’s just me? But I like to think that if people do make the choice to follow someone, that they’re hopefully slightly interested in what you’re talking about…otherwise what’s the point?
Could it be that I feel many have something of value to say and that there may be some people out there that are in a place to hear it? Uhm…yes, isn’t that why we’re blogging or face booking or doing any of the social media communicating we’re doing?
But the lines often become blurred when money becomes involved, does it not? And why is this often the case?
It’s because many people have a strongly negative vibration (thoughts and feelings) regarding anything to do with money.
Money is a big subject that influences our lives in almost every way, so it’s completely predictable we would have some very strongly held beliefs about it based on what we are wanting, what we’ve been taught by our family, culture and community, and what we have observed and experienced ourselves.
Remember, our experiences come from those strong beliefs and doctrines that were handed and ingrained into us when we were growing up, and if we’ve never questioned the beliefs we received, especially as we move through time and grow-up, we will continue to live such circumstances.
That’s great if we were handed positive beliefs about money and abundance and are now knowing how to create the abundance we are wanting in our lives, but more often than not, we were not.
There’s a distinction here between having a personal endeavour such as blogging or a business endeavour, but of course, there’s no reason why they cannot overlap, and I know many do successfully, but for me, it depends on the pureness of our intentions and what one is prepared to do to “achieve” their goals.
Before I started blogging, I knew there was a possibility to make money from doing it, but I made a choice not to go down that path because I didn’t want the reason I was writing to be “motivated” from a place of wanting to make money. Instead I wanted to write from an “inspired place.” An inspired place of alignment with all of who I am, the physical and Non-Physical parts of me, and of believing there are people out there that are ready and in a place to hear what I have to say.
Now, whether people are ready to hear what I have to say, is neither here or there, at least I know, for me, my intentions have been pure and good.
That’s the moral of the story really, as long as our intentions are pure and good for ourselves and others when we go into doing whatever we decide to do, no matter how it turns out, we have to acknowledge we went into it only wanting the best, not the worst, not mediocre, and not anything else…only the best.
So sometimes things don’t work out like we’d hoped they would, and sometimes they do, but if we did our best based on what ever we knew at that time, and we do our best to learn from our experiences and move forward in a positive way, then that’s all we can do….Isn’t it? And that has to be good enough…
And so it is….

Are you using an outdated roadmap???

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Try reading a roadmap from a hundred years ago and see where it gets you! I’m sure you can see fairly quickly, that is ridiculous advice. So it always amazes me how some people are still trying to live their lives by a book that was written 2000 years ago.
As with an old roadmap, most of the large landmasses and major roads are still probably the same, but as you get into the more specific small details of your map, almost everything will be different.
So one could say, the basic principles or major concepts within these books are still strong and relevant to the lives we are living today, but the specific details, when relating it to our daily lives here and now, are very different. And so it is, with many books and scriptures that were written by many different sages and prophets from the past.

It’s not for anyone to tell others what they should or shouldn’t take from these books, that is a choice made by each individual based on their freedom to choose as they wish. The criteria I would use to determine whether I would follow advice given by, not just books, but anything is… is it working for me? If it isn’t working in our lives, who cares who said it, when they said it, and why they said it? If it improves our life in any way, then for us, it must be sound advice, but if it doesn’t improve our life after giving it time, why would we continue to follow it? The only reasonable answer I can come up with for following advice that obviously is not working, is if we are coming from a place of fear.

Fear that we need to do something someone else has set out for us, or there will be unwanted consequences? This often begins from the first day we are born into this physical world. As children we allowed, without really knowing we were doing it, our Internal Guidance to be overridden by the people around us that had been here longer than us, and thought they knew exactly how, what, and why we should be doing this or that. I am not blaming anyone, I am stating a fact. Most were doing their best based on how they grew up and what they knew at the time, nevertheless, it produces a lack of confidence and a need to be guided in every little thing we do, so when something new comes up, we are often lost as to what to do, often searching for direction and advice from external sources.

This does not necessarily need to be negative if we can assess honestly how the advice we have taken is working in our life rather than blindly following without question, even when, deep down, it doesn’t feel right. That’s our Inner Guidance, our very own internal emotional guidance, that’s specifically and precisely giving us advice on any matter that is important to us. We had it when we entered this physical world and we’ve had it every day since.

If we feel we are not receiving any such guidance, it’s because it has been overshadowed and drowned out by all the advice and guidance that has come from external sources, often to such a point, we’re no longer even aware we have it.
If we don’t believe or even know we have such guidance, it can be near impossible to find without conscious awareness, and so we go from one source of advice to another, searching for something that fits us just right, but it will not be found from outside of us, what we are searching for comes from within us.

The best advice will always come from within you, and many of us are starting to access this wonderful Inner Guidance. We are now living in a time, where we are questioning the way we do things, and the beliefs that have been given to us by our family, culture, community or religion. There is benefit to all of it, even in doing things that are not working, for it is often in the process of realising something isn’t working that you become open to what it is that does work.
Such is the process and joy of this physical life….

And so it is….