Oh my god, seriously I might just go and “kill myself” (that’s a figure of speech I like to use, meaning I’ve given this subject a lot of thought and decided it’s totally not for me!!) If another person that follows my blog is from a moneymaking scheme!!
Look, I think it’s great if people are making money however they are making it online, but I suppose, I have a feeling that just following someone to get them to come onboard with whatever it is you are selling, is well, I don’t know, not what I’m interested in doing.
Don’t get me wrong, I think that if people are interested in following this path that’s awesome, and there’s nothing at all wrong with that.
In fact, I can see for many, it has been something wonderful that has helped them to transform their thoughts, words and actions in more of the direction they’re wanting to go. And of course, if they maintain that new and improved vibrational place over time, they will experience the full physical manifestation of that which they have originally given out that the Law of Attraction has responded in-kind to.
That’s the “Law of the Land” ( Universal Law ) so to speak, and is the truth regardless of whatever the subject matter may be.
That being said, it doesn’t sit very well with me that people may be following whoever they are following with no actual interest at all in what those they are following are blogging about.
Maybe that’s just me? But I like to think that if people do make the choice to follow someone, that they’re hopefully slightly interested in what you’re talking about…otherwise what’s the point?
Could it be that I feel many have something of value to say and that there may be some people out there that are in a place to hear it? Uhm…yes, isn’t that why we’re blogging or face booking or doing any of the social media communicating we’re doing?
But the lines often become blurred when money becomes involved, does it not? And why is this often the case?
It’s because many people have a strongly negative vibration (thoughts and feelings) regarding anything to do with money.
Money is a big subject that influences our lives in almost every way, so it’s completely predictable we would have some very strongly held beliefs about it based on what we are wanting, what we’ve been taught by our family, culture and community, and what we have observed and experienced ourselves.
Remember, our experiences come from those strong beliefs and doctrines that were handed and ingrained into us when we were growing up, and if we’ve never questioned the beliefs we received, especially as we move through time and grow-up, we will continue to live such circumstances.
That’s great if we were handed positive beliefs about money and abundance and are now knowing how to create the abundance we are wanting in our lives, but more often than not, we were not.
There’s a distinction here between having a personal endeavour such as blogging or a business endeavour, but of course, there’s no reason why they cannot overlap, and I know many do successfully, but for me, it depends on the pureness of our intentions and what one is prepared to do to “achieve” their goals.
Before I started blogging, I knew there was a possibility to make money from doing it, but I made a choice not to go down that path because I didn’t want the reason I was writing to be “motivated” from a place of wanting to make money. Instead I wanted to write from an “inspired place.” An inspired place of alignment with all of who I am, the physical and Non-Physical parts of me, and of believing there are people out there that are ready and in a place to hear what I have to say.
Now, whether people are ready to hear what I have to say, is neither here or there, at least I know, for me, my intentions have been pure and good.
That’s the moral of the story really, as long as our intentions are pure and good for ourselves and others when we go into doing whatever we decide to do, no matter how it turns out, we have to acknowledge we went into it only wanting the best, not the worst, not mediocre, and not anything else…only the best.
So sometimes things don’t work out like we’d hoped they would, and sometimes they do, but if we did our best based on what ever we knew at that time, and we do our best to learn from our experiences and move forward in a positive way, then that’s all we can do….Isn’t it? And that has to be good enough…
And so it is….
Hehehe, Oh this cracks me up!!
When I first started my blog, I would have definitely said yes, it’s very stink to like your own post!! And it’s funny because when I initially set everything up, for some reason my profile picture was coming up in my own community, and I can’t tell you how much time I spent trying frantically to figure out why I was on there and how to get myself off!
So of course, as many of you bloggers out there will know, under my community settings I also had commenters checked, that’s why I was coming up.
Ok, disaster averted, I just changed the settings and all was good, I was no longer in my own community!
Now fast forward three months and I find myself with quite a different perspective on the subject, for a number of different reasons.
1. When looking at my blog stats of where referrers came from, I often ended up on my own page or posts and always ended up reading them again, especially if they were older posts as I often couldn’t remember exactly what it was about or what I’d written. When I’d get to the end of reading the post, if my husband was around I’d say, “I don’t know who wrote this but they know what they’re talking about, this is really good….have you read this!” He’d say “Yer, I know” and then we’d just crack up laughing! (Hehehe, you know I’m going to read this one over and over don’t you!!)
2. I linked my blog to a new Facebook profile because I had a couple of friends who wanted to link to it from there, and although I’ve not been a fan of Facebook in the past, I do like technology so thought it was inevitable I’d have to get on a social media site sooner or later.
So, being on WordPress and Facebook has considerably altered my perspective about social media, and my general conclusions are;
1. It’s probably still a little bit stink to “like” your own stuff, but who cares, and in who’s opinion, if you want to like it, like it! I say, of course you like it, you wrote and posted the damn thing didn’t you, and of course it’s awesome, right!!
2. I also feel very strongly as I look through these forums that many are desperately seeking approval and love, and wanting validation from others for where they are. (Yes, birds of a feather do flock together, don’t they? Well mostly, but not always…)
There’s nothing wrong with this, but one thing is for sure, there will never be enough validation, love, or approval that comes from outside of ourselves in any form whether it’s from online relationships and communication or real life physical relationships.(or anything else for that matter)
For the good feeling one achieves from this lasts only a short time and we will usually find ourselves needing more and more of this external validation in order to feel good.
What does that sound like to you? Yes, for some, it does become an unhealthy addiction.
Now you don’t need to be a rocket scientist to figure out this population consist’s mainly of the female variety. (Thought I’d better check the statistics out, and yes two-thirds of the population on social media are female, 2012 stats)
Of course it’s wonderful to have such external validation as this can help give us strength, especially in difficult times, but nothing will ever make up for the love, approval and validation that we have within us that is available to us in every moment of our lives from the Non-Physical, Inner Being part of us.
Anything less does not last, or is a temporary fix for what we are really reaching for.
And what is it we are reaching for?
The truth of who we are, the power that we have, the love we have within us, the ability to share that love with others that are in a place to receive it, just the pure perfection of who and what we are.
But we must be okay with who we are apart from others, this is true knowing, this is true love, and this is one path among many, that leads to true happiness. And so it is….