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Do you remember it’s Valentine’s Day tomorrow???

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Valentines Day Quote
This is something I asked my husband as I drove home today, just interested to know if he was even aware it was Valentine’s Day tomorrow!!!
That probably gives you an idea of how important it is to him….Hehehe!!!
Anyway, his answer was “Babe we don’t need to celebrate Valentine’s Day, every day is like Valentine’s Day to us!!!”
And I say, what a greaser…..But it’s hard not to smile at that well-prepared answer don’t you think???

I totally get it why heaps of people aren’t that happy to celebrate Valentine’s Day and I’m sure I could make a long list of all the reasons why people don’t like it. But I won’t since this is supposed to be a blog focused on the positive side of life, not all the negative thoughts and beliefs we hold that may be stopping us from experiencing the fullness and richness of what this life has to offer us!!!(Opps, I do do that sometimes….Can’t solve a problem when we don’t know what the problem is, right???)

Although I understand the objections many have to celebrating such days, we can over think things, because after all sometimes it’s just nice to do something for someone you love without making a big issue out of it??? If we don’t feel like we can get ourselves into a good feeling place about doing something nice for our partner, we are better off to do nothing. There’s nothing worse than receiving something from someone that’s resentful about giving it!!!

Sometimes it’s an excuse for not wanting to get off our butts and do something out of our normal, often boring routine……Just another job on a long list of stuff we don’t want to do.
And I know it often doesn’t feel good to give to someone when there’s a very high expectation that we should, for appreciation is often low in these circumstances, but the way I see it is…. Something given to another with a pure and loving heart is worth so much.

It’s not about money or feeling we have to do something for someone out of obligation. It’s about love….Pure and simple love….

And so it is….

The “Best Decision”….Is not always the easiest decision that gives us the quickest gratification!!!

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SaharaBird
Although I have used the description “best decision” in the title, in reality there is no decision that is ultimately the best decision to make. There definitely are choices that will reap better results than others, but any decisions we firmly make that we’ve put all our positive thoughts and feelings behind are good decisions.

It’s true that not many people like not feeling good, actually I don’t think I know anyone who likes not feeling good, that being said, sometimes the need to feel instant gratification or to remove or change circumstances that make us feel uncomfortable immediately, can sometimes cause us to make a choice that short-term may help us to feel better, but long-term does not move anyone in a direction we’re wanting to go in.

This can be especially true when dealing with the little people we may have in our lives, our children. They come forward from Non-Physical with a stronger knowing of who they are than any previous generations, and are not easily guided away from that knowing by others that have been here longer than they have and have mostly forgotten who they really are.

Although coming froward with this strong knowing is very good news….For many it does require some different parenting styles to be learned if we’re wanting to be parents that guide and inspire the best out of our children. From harsh control and discipline, to letting them do whatever they like as long as they’re happy, and we’re happy as we see them happy approach, the middle ground between these two extremes is a good place to aim for.

I know we love our children very much, and it makes us feel very happy to see them happy, and this is a great thing, but when we base our decisions on what will make them the happiest in the short-term so we don’t have to deal with the often unpredictable (or sometimes very predictable!!) extreme behaviours that can follow not getting what they want or from experiencing the natural consequences of their choices, this is not usually in their best interests and does not help them to understand how this Universe is really working, and well, that’s not ideal. (I’ve said that very softly!!)

It’s true, we can do things and make decisions that prevent them from experiencing the full consequences of their actions. The problem with doing this is it makes it hard for them to see the connections between how the choices they make bring semi-predictable consequences which can cause them to start making decisions without the knowledge of what could possibly happen…..Which is ok when we’re always there to make everything alright, (Well, no it isn’t ok, but I think you probably know what I mean) but we must at some level accept that they will eventually be without someone who is prepared to dedicate their life to making sure everything runs smoothly for them. Someone that will run around and try to make their experience better by trying to prevent them experiencing the consequences from the choices they’ve made!! No, they will not find another who will do this for them….

Of course no one wants their children to experience strongly unwanted circumstances, and I think most of us would try to lessen this happening if we knew such circumstances were coming, but that’s exactly why it’s important to let them experience the small unwanted consequences of their actions, because once they’re aware of the link between what they’re choosing and what’s turning up, and it becomes a strong knowing and awareness they have based on their own first hand experiences….Now they are so well prepared with what they need to know to be on their own and create what they’re wanting in their own lives!!

And I believe it would be very hard to find a parent that didn’t want that for their children….But that’s just me….

And so it is….

I’m going to live like there’s no tomorrow……

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Stripes
These are lyrics from an awesome song, Chandelier by Sia.
Now, if I could swing from the chandelier….I totally would, it sounds like fun!! But the fact that one, I don’t have a chandelier, and two if I did have one, I probably couldn’t reach it, rules that out….But I can definitely make an effort to live like there’s no tomorrow!!!

On first thinking about there being no tomorrow, one often thinks of everything they wished they’d done in this life, that they haven’t had the opportunity to do, with a multitude of different scenarios of cool adventures to go on. (OK, maybe not everyone would think like this…..But lets pretend for arguments sake!!!) On deeper reflection, one realises there wouldn’t really be enough time to organise any great adventures before tomorrow arrives, so what would we do once we’d got over the shock of it???

Thinking about this in a positive light often helps to bring our attention to all the things that really matter to us, the things we value in our lives the most, the people we love. Many use this as an example of how the material possessions we have or strive for in our lives mean nothing compared to the people we love.

I agree in as far as focusing on the positive aspects in our lives like the people we love and the good relationships we’re having, is a very good idea and creates even better circumstances in our future experience as the Law of Attraction responds to our positive vibration by sending us more of what we are giving out through our focused thoughts and feelings.

But to then say all material possessions mean nothing……I’d like to see how happy we would be without clothing, shelter, transport, and all the other possessions that make our life Oh so much more enjoyable???

I think many have forgotten that we were Non-Physical beings before we made the choice to come into this Physical world we’re currently living in. We came to experience what this world has to offer, and to choose from all that we see, what it is that we are wishing to bring forward and experience, and that obviously includes material possessions.

Nothing went wrong, and nothing is currently wrong, but it’s true to say that man has come to learn there are limited resources that need to be fought over, that one must fiercely compete and push another down to gain some of these limited resources of money, love, possessions, friendships and whatever else one feels there’s a limited supply of…..and of course, if this is our belief, this will be our experience, we will see evidence everywhere that supports the dominant beliefs we hold.

Whereas the truth is….There is no limitation on the resources one can call on and bring forward through our focused positive attention and belief, our vibration. All that we’re wanting to have and experience is possible, but this I know, is far from the experience of many.

It’s not easy to stand apart from what the majority of society believes when you are apart of that society, but it is possible and the rewards great if one has remained strong in the face of opposition on a grand scale.

As usual, I look at the title of this post and think……Uhmmmmm, I think I may have got a bit sidetracked, Oh well, that’s the way the cookie crumbles sometimes, don’t you think???

For me, living like there’s no tomorrow means doing my best to focus on all the things in my life that are good and bringing who I really am, my best positive self, into the present moment I’m living, especially when interacting with others.
This I believe, eventually brings everything we’re wanting into our life experience!!

And so it is….

After all they shared…..How could he simply say NO???

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BarbwireSky
After all they shared how could he simply say no….Lyrics to a beautiful song by Delerium featuring Jael.
I was actually searching for a different song on YouTube and happened across this old favourite and immediately knew this is what I was looking for!!

I never watch or listen to news, but it’s amazing how things that are important for me to know or things I’m possibly interested in still make their way into my experience between turning the key, the radio coming on, and putting my iPod on!! Yesterday, the first time I got in the car I heard something about a tribute to Robbie Williams before my iPod came on. I thought, hang on…..Aren’t tributes often done when someone dies……Surely something hasn’t happened to Robbie Williams? Then I thought, nah I would know if that had happened.
I happily did my shopping then got back in the car to drive home. I was about to put my iPod on but an awesome song was playing on the radio, and since it’s only a five-minute drive home, I decided to keep the radio on.

After my song finished, I heard a somber announcer say, here’s our tribute to Robbie Williams, and I thought, Oh No, it is him…..Then a voice quite unlike Robbie Williams came on as they played someone doing many funny voice overs, and I was like, what the??? By the time I got home I realised it wasn’t Robbie Williams, but Robin Williams they were talking about……And I felt sadness…..

For those that have read some of what I write, you will know I mostly speak of moving to better feeling vibrational places, and I stand by that 100%, no matter what’s happening.

But that doesn’t mean we don’t feel sadness or any other negative emotions. Moving into a better feeling place isn’t about denying how one is truly feeling in any given moment, but is more about feeling whatever it is we’re feeling, acknowledging that’s where we currently are, and then making a conscious decision to do our best to move forward and feel better, even if it is only slightly.

Many would say, no I cannot do that, you don’t understand how I’m feeling, I cannot feel better right now. And I say, that is true, no one else knows exactly how we’re feeling about anything, even if they’ve had similar experiences. When our grief is deep and strong it can feel like we don’t have the ability to feel better, and sometimes it may take all our energy just to keep going.
In these circumstances time can be our friend, as we move through time the intensity of our sadness and grief usually lessens and this can be a good opportunity to start consciously trying to move our thoughts and feelings.

I know many struggle with thoughts about death, and it’s only reasonable we would feel strongly about losing someone we dearly love. If we believe they are now at peace and in a better place, that can help to alleviate some of the anguish we may be feeling, but how their transition back to Non-Physical energy came about, and the fact that they will no longer be around us, are realities that cannot be denied for long, and do need to be dealt with for us to truly move forward and be happy once again.

My thoughts go out to those that have lost a loved one in this way….
It’s true, we all came here to love and live this life to it’s fullest, and sometimes we can get a little off track….But when everything is said and done, we also came with the ability to feel the whole spectrum of emotions and with the freewill to choose what we feel is best for us, and although it’s a choice no one would want anyone they love to make, it is a choice we are free to make….

And so it is….

Why would we not tell the truth???

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TreeSwing
There maybe millions of reasons why one would not tell the truth, but all these reasons come down to the same core reasons which are;
1. Fearing the possible consequences that may result from telling the truth.
2. Not feeling good enough in some way therefore feeling the need to make oneself sound better in the eyes of others, ultimately for their approval and admiration. Did you notice, this is still fearing the possible consequences of telling the truth, or more to the point, being who you really are.
This is not a very good feeling vibrational place to be in, feeling you must make yourself out to be something other than what you really are to be accepted or loved by others.
If we are coming to truly know who we really are, we would never feel the need to make excuses or not tell the truth to be seen as “acceptable or good” in another’s eyes, for we already have our own approval and acceptance of ourselves as we are, and are not requiring it from others in order to feel good or worthy.
Is it nice if others like us?
Yes, of course it is, but if we require this from every person we come into contact with, we better get very good at knowing exactly what others are wanting and expecting, and start adjusting our behaviour accordingly!
It’s not possible to be liked by every person that may be observing us “out there” for we are all in different vibrational places, meaning everything we observe is filtered through our own personal life experiences that brings us to our own beliefs about life. It’s better to accept we are all different and know it’s not possible to be liked by everyone, and just be our genuine selves!
Others will think what they will think, and whatever they maybe thinking (and remember, what others are exactly thinking is only speculation on our part anyway) is more of a reflection of who and where they are rather than whoever they’re observing or judging is.

If I was considering not telling the truth or doing something that went against what I felt was right so others may possibly like me more, the question I would ask myself would be….
Is it worth not being true to myself and who I really am to get a small fleeting moment of approval from another? Because believe me, it is fleeting and doesn’t last long, unless we’re prepared to do everything and anything we feel others want to get their constant approval, and even then, we cannot guarantee we will achieve it.
Holy Moses, that just sounds so hard, doesn’t it? And I say “for goodness sake, don’t do it!” It’s a way of being that will never ultimately lead anywhere you are wanting to go!

To tell the truth or not is a natural developmental stage we go through when we’re children as the brain starts to grow and mature, and often depending on the many varied experiences we have during our childhood, especially experiences related to how harshly we were disciplined with negative consequences, and whether not telling the truth was a strategy that worked for us, will often effect the choices we make as we grow up to whether we feel it is necessary, or in our best interests, to “tell the truth or not?”.
The reason I prefer to say,”to tell the truth or not,”rather than the word lying or liar, is I find these words to be very harsh and negative and prefer to put a slightly more neutral feeling (vibration) to an already slightly negative subject. I only use the word liar if I have become angry, which I do my very best to avoid, or better said, do my best to move into a better feeling place on before I react in a way I would prefer not too!
Anger or rage is the approximate vibrational place where the word liar usually sits, because think about it, have you heard anyone say, “You’re such a good liar darling, I could just hug you!!” not likely. Hehehe….That’s so funny!!

Ok, but seriously, for me, I know when people are not telling the truth, it oozes out of them like a disease. (dis-ease….Lack of ease!) And I find it very difficult to stay in the presence of one that feels the need to do such things. And to tell you the truth, (as if I wouldn’t…Hehehe) most people are aware and feeling that something is not right when they speak with someone who isn’t telling the truth, something always feels off, not quite right, but we may not be listening to what we are feeling, because of not understanding or knowing what it is that our feelings are telling us, and because it doesn’t feel good to think someone is not telling us the truth. (which is our natural tendency of moving to a better feeling place!)
So in other words, unless we have absolute proof that someone isn’t telling us the truth, it often feels better to discount or ignore the feelings that are being communicated to us, letting us know exactly what others are coming to us with, than to acknowledge they aren’t telling us the truth. The more aware and sensitive we are to how we’re feeling, and the more important it is for us to know if people are being truthful, the stronger our knowing of what the truth is, when we see it, hear it, or touch it.

All I can say is this, if we cannot be ourselves, who else can we be, after all, everyone else is taken.
So if you can only be you, why not be the “real you” and if others don’t like it, that’s their problem, not yours! And be proud of who you are now, because you are here, living your life in the best way you know how….
And as long as you are happy with who and what you are being, that has to be good enough….

And so it is…

Everything I do…I do it for you…As if!!

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DarkTree
I think it’s amusing when people tell a big story about how they do all these things for other people, like it’s not also for them as if they can take their own desires out of the equation.
It goes something like this…
I’m here purely for others, I help others with no regard for what I’m wanting and for no personal benefit.
And I say, “who do you think you are kidding?
Now it’s true we can be kind and do wonderful things for others, there’s no doubt about that, especially if this is the person we are wanting to be, but think about it….why would we be doing such things, or anything for that matter, without a reason?
If we are being kind and doing things for others, we are doing this because it feels good. Now some may disagree and say, “No , I’m often doing things because I feel I have to and not because it’s feeling good,” and I say the same thing, even if you are doing things that are not making you feel like you want to “jump for joy,” you are still choosing this action over an even less good feeling action…are we not? Yes, it is true.

For example, let’s say I may not be the greatest morning person in the world but I need to get up at a reasonable time to get ready for my forthcoming day ahead. I could just stay in bed if I really wanted to and say, “bugger it, I’m not getting up now,” but I choose to get up because even though I would like to stay in bed, for me I would feel like I haven’t followed through with something I should have and that would feel worse than not getting up. This example may seem like an unimportant subject, but it matters not how important or unimportant the subject is, although we may put more pressure on ourselves to make the best choice if we feel the subject is more important to us, so whether we are aware of it or not, we are always choosing what we think will feel best.
“Which choice out of the options before me feels best, what choice do I feel will get me the closest to that which I am wanting?” It does not matter whether it’s a choice between two wanted situations, something wanted and unwanted, or two unwanted situations.
There may be many factors we consider depending on the situation, where we are in relation to the situation, and the outcome we are desiring, but it always comes down to the same thing, after considering all the possibilities, which choice do we think will feel best?
So I didn’t say our choices are always easy between a wanted or unwanted choice, more often that not and depending on where many earlier choices have lead us based on where we are and our focused thoughts,(vibration) it can be between two highly unwanted choices, but no matter what our choices are, we have the ability to turn any choice into a positive outcome through the power of our focused thoughts.

The idea that a person is not really doing something good unless they want absolutely nothing out of it, is a false truth that can never truly be.
Why?
Because we have all come forward into this life with powerful Inner Guidance from the Non-Physical part of us that remained in the Non-Physical realm giving us constant and consistent feedback in the form of our emotions, letting us know where we are in relation to all we are wanting. If this is so, (and it is) we are always doing what we believe will benefit us most. This does not mean that our intentions cannot be pure in the sense, it feels good to be kind to others, it feels good to help others, it feels good to love others, this is the ultimate “win/win situation!”
And I don’t know about you, but I have never once met a person that has no emotional feelings, although it is possible to meet one that has not listened to what their emotions have been telling them, or have felt so much negative emotion for so long, they have become numb to it.
They are still receiving emotional feedback about where they are in relation to what they are wanting, but may not have understood what it meant or that they had the absolute power to move to a better feeling place. If we do not exercise our power of moving to a better vibrational place, it’s usually only a matter of time before we start becoming accustomed to our negative feelings, and over time, it starts becoming our normal emotional place to be in, feeling less negative than it once did.
So one could think “awesome” when I’m feeling negative emotion, I don’t need to make an effort to move myself to a better feeling place because after a while I’ll get used to it and I won’t feel it anymore. (because it can be difficult and does take some effort if you have lived in this body for some time without exercising your power to do so)
And I say “Holy Moses,” remember that the powerful Law of Attraction is responding in-kind to how you are really feeling, not to what you have become numb too!
Yes, it’s true you cannot hide how you are really feeling from the Universe and the Law of Attraction, and what you are really feeling will be reflected back to you in all manner of manifestations.
You do not need to go back to work through everything you have felt strong negative emotion about in the past.
If we are paying attention to what’s turning up in our experience right here, right now, and doing our best to move to the best feeling place we can even if it’s only a slightly improved feeling place, (especially with negative feeling manifestations) this starts to clear resistance that may have been preventing us from moving in the direction we are really wanting to go, and as we get power and momentum behind this new and improved vibrational place, there’s only one direction this leads….
And that’s into more of the “awesome” life experience you came here to live….

And so it is….

Is it stink….to like your own post???

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BigRedMoon
Hehehe, Oh this cracks me up!!
When I first started my blog, I would have definitely said yes, it’s very stink to like your own post!! And it’s funny because when I initially set everything up, for some reason my profile picture was coming up in my own community, and I can’t tell you how much time I spent trying frantically to figure out why I was on there and how to get myself off!
So of course, as many of you bloggers out there will know, under my community settings I also had commenters checked, that’s why I was coming up.
Ok, disaster averted, I just changed the settings and all was good, I was no longer in my own community!
Now fast forward three months and I find myself with quite a different perspective on the subject, for a number of different reasons.

1. When looking at my blog stats of where referrers came from, I often ended up on my own page or posts and always ended up reading them again, especially if they were older posts as I often couldn’t remember exactly what it was about or what I’d written. When I’d get to the end of reading the post, if my husband was around I’d say, “I don’t know who wrote this but they know what they’re talking about, this is really good….have you read this!” He’d say “Yer, I know” and then we’d just crack up laughing! (Hehehe, you know I’m going to read this one over and over don’t you!!)
2. I linked my blog to a new Facebook profile because I had a couple of friends who wanted to link to it from there, and although I’ve not been a fan of Facebook in the past, I do like technology so thought it was inevitable I’d have to get on a social media site sooner or later.

So, being on WordPress and Facebook has considerably altered my perspective about social media, and my general conclusions are;

1. It’s probably still a little bit stink to “like” your own stuff, but who cares, and in who’s opinion, if you want to like it, like it! I say, of course you like it, you wrote and posted the damn thing didn’t you, and of course it’s awesome, right!!

2. I also feel very strongly as I look through these forums that many are desperately seeking approval and love, and wanting validation from others for where they are. (Yes, birds of a feather do flock together, don’t they? Well mostly, but not always…)
There’s nothing wrong with this, but one thing is for sure, there will never be enough validation, love, or approval that comes from outside of ourselves in any form whether it’s from online relationships and communication or real life physical relationships.(or anything else for that matter)
For the good feeling one achieves from this lasts only a short time and we will usually find ourselves needing more and more of this external validation in order to feel good.
What does that sound like to you? Yes, for some, it does become an unhealthy addiction.
Now you don’t need to be a rocket scientist to figure out this population consist’s mainly of the female variety. (Thought I’d better check the statistics out, and yes two-thirds of the population on social media are female, 2012 stats)
Of course it’s wonderful to have such external validation as this can help give us strength, especially in difficult times, but nothing will ever make up for the love, approval and validation that we have within us that is available to us in every moment of our lives from the Non-Physical, Inner Being part of us.
Anything less does not last, or is a temporary fix for what we are really reaching for.
And what is it we are reaching for?
The truth of who we are, the power that we have, the love we have within us, the ability to share that love with others that are in a place to receive it, just the pure perfection of who and what we are.
But we must be okay with who we are apart from others, this is true knowing, this is true love, and this is one path among many, that leads to true happiness. And so it is….