Like Theo says in the movie Turbo, “Well aren’t you just a little ray of sunshine!!” Not….Hehehe….That’s me I’m talking about!!
But seriously, what I’m talking about is something all of us do at some point or another, but unfortunately many have made this “a way of being,” believing manipulating others through negative emotion is the only way to get anything done! (And yes if you believe this, this will be your experience, mostly anyway…)
Oh my god, just saying that makes me cringe!
I know we all do this sometimes, and it isn’t the end of the world if we do, but knowing what we’re really doing does help us to shift this pattern of behaviour if that is what we’re wanting to do?
Many may disagree and say, “No, I’m just telling……the possible negative consequences that could happen if they continue this behaviour, I don’t want them to do!“(Yep, it’s all about us!)
And I say “If we were aware that we may be helping another to focus their attention on strongly unwanted experiences by telling them all the horrible things that may happen to them….. Uhmmmm, that’s not that good.”
The stronger the negative emotion our recipient has allowed themselves to experience by listening to others attempts to guide or manipulate them, the worse position they are in, and if whatever the focus of this fear is, is brought up over and over and over again, this is now a subject that can start producing strong negative emotion and repeated focused attention, ( creating power and momentum ) that the Law of Attraction will be responding in-kind too….
There is always many ways to the same destination, for example, rather than “You could get killed by doing that!” maybe “I’m going to hold your hand until you remember to look so we stay safe.”
It’s not so much about the exact words we use as we are trying to guide others, it’s more about the vibrational place we are in as we speak these words. Are we coming from a negative unwanted vibrational perspective, or a positive wanted vibrational perspective?
That brings me to a very important distinction, are we more focused on what we’re wanting, or more focused on what we are not wanting? (even if it’s what we are wanting for others, it’s still what we are wanting…is it not?) Because whichever vibration is strongest within us for whatever subject we’re giving thought too, will be what’s predominantly turning up in our reality.
Some may think, “Well, it often works, so it must be a good thing to do!!”
And I acknowledge it does sometimes work but at the cost of what? Trying to promote feelings of intense fear, guilt or unworthiness is not the only way to get someone to do something, but can become a common way we react if this has been what we have become accustomed to doing, especially when it comes to dealing with our beautiful children!
Manipulating behaviour in these ways erodes self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth, and can start the process where we start to believe we are not good human beings anymore.
And I’m sure you’ve noticed, often when we try to manipulate in this way, our recipient suddenly feels inspired to do exactly what we have instructed them not to do! (and that goes for big people too….I think this is where the phrase “reverse psychology” must have come from!)
When this happens we will need to up the fear factor and really “scare the pants off them” to get them to listen, or we need to do something else. Hehehe….Oops sorry, just laughing about the scaring the pants off them bit!!
That brings me back to the title of this post, share (or like) if you care….When this is added to the bottom of a post, this is a classic example of trying to guilt people into doing something. If I receive such a post, even if it is good, I will not share or like it!
I will not allow others to manipulate me from their not good feeling place.
And just as importantly, I do not wish to share something that may make others do something out of guilt either.
Talk about sharing the “chain of pain” and not good feelings all around the place….
And no, I won’t do it!
And so it is….