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What is my Sexual Orientation???

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This seems to be the popular subject of the day, as well known public figures are “coming out” so to speak, sometimes after years of speculation about their sexual orientation.

Firstly…..who the hecks business is it except our own, who we wish to be intimate with???
When we interact with others, we may have feelings one way or the other as to their sexual orientation based on many factors we believe indicate it’s so. It’s not my intention to debate which behaviours indicate someone’s straight or gay, that will be different for everyone depending on ones beliefs and life experiences.

The question I would like to ask anyone who feels it’s appropriate to continually ask and somehow feel it’s their right to know, what another persons sexual preference is, is…..How would they like it if people persistently asked them questions about something that was very personal and private that they may very likely be judged harshly on by others with limited, rigid, and judgemental perspectives???

I know we’re often interested in others, especially high profile people, but it always comes down to the same thing….If I was treated in a disrespectful way, how would I feel? Just because someone has done well in their field of expertise and are in the public domain, does not mean they deserve to be treated in a lesser way than anyone else.

I’m looking forward to a time when someone’s sexual preference
is not a great talking point anymore, this will mean that many will have come to realise it’s not really any of their business…..And who cares anyway???

Avoid judging others harshly, for we’ve all come into this Physical World to decide for ourselves how we want to live our lives, not to be dictated too by others that feel “their way, is the only and right way to live!” (how boring and a bit presumptuous I would say!!)

We came forward with powerful intentions and purpose for what we’ve wanted to achieve in this life, and our good feelings are the path to who we really are and all we have become…..If we can know that other peoples negative judgements say so much more about who they are currently being than anything else, it can be easier to let their judgements go and feel better.

Be proud of who you are and the positive things you stand for…..And things will be so good!!

And so it is….

The harder you try to persuade people to your way of thinking….the less likely they are to agree with you!!

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This is mostly true. When we try to persuade others to our way of thinking by making them wrong for their thinking, this almost never produces our desired result of their agreement with “our” point of view.
No one likes to be told what to do or think or that what they’re doing and thinking is wrong, because as I’ve said previously, what we’re doing or thinking is neither right or wrong, “It just is.”

Deep within, we know we’ve come forward into this current life to observe and explore many different circumstances that produce and inspire desires from our experiences that helps us come to strong and powerful decisions of what we would like to experience in our life as we move forward through time.

It’s often true that when communicating with others, if our beliefs and opinions sit in strongly opposing directions, communication can become negative and confrontational as it’s very difficult to find any common ground if we hold vastly differing points of view.
In these circumstance, it’s better to acknowledge we all have different perspectives and beliefs about life based on what we have already experienced and what we are still wanting to experience and let the need to justify or persuade others go.
It’s also very unlikely that we will be able to eradicate all that someone has come to know through the living of their own life experiences that has brought them to what they currently think and believe by telling them what beliefs we have come to through the living of our life experiences.(can you see the futility of even trying?)
Speaking about our differing points of views in a positive and understanding way can definitely give others “food for thought” so to speak, and makes for thought-provoking conversation without the need to argue. Words spoken by others can often spark something within us, that when pondered and given attention over time, will start the attraction of that which we have been focusing on, that the Law of Attraction will eventually bring us evidence of.
This is how we come to truly know what we know, and I say, “It is so awesome,” especially if we are focused in the direction of all we are wanting to experience, for words that are spoken by others will never be taken above our own knowing, and that’s the way it should be!!

If we do feel the need to persuade others to our way of thinking, it often comes from many beliefs that may not be in alignment or consistent with the Universal Laws that govern how life is really working.
Here are some examples of beliefs that may prevent us from moving forward in a positive manner.
~If I cannot persuade others to my way of thinking, they may behave in a way (in my opinion) I feel is not “right or good” and may even do something that threatens my “way of life!” Well,….Uhmmm…if this a belief we hold strongly, we will attract people, places and circumstances that gives us evidence of this, which is not that awesome….If you know what I mean….
~It’s more important for me to be right and make this person I am speaking with understand how “wrong they are” about everything they know in relation to this subject! Uhmmm….Right, I’d like to know if anyone reading this has been talked into the “error of their ways,” by someone who is more interested in feeling right or superior to whom ever they’re talking to….Not likely. This usually just makes us sit more firmly where we are as we justify all the reasons why we believe what we believe.
~It’s important that whomever I’m talking to understands completely where I’m coming from, and agrees with the conclusions I have come to about…. Well, this can definitely happen when we are sitting in close vibrational vicinity with whoever we’re talking with, and is generally enjoyable communication as we will usually find we’ll have similar core beliefs about life.
Whether our beliefs sit far apart from each other or more closely together, we will all have differences of opinion, and this is a good thing, for what would the purpose of life be if we were all the same??
Nothing new would ever need to be created because we would all like the same things! It’s easy to see this is an absolutely ridiculous scenario that could never truly exist. We did not come forward for sameness, or to be told by everyone else, how we should live our life.

We can be true to who we are, while letting others be true to who they are by knowing we have all come forward with different intentions, and that everyone has the right to live their life in the way they choose.
If we are focused on what we are wanting to experience rather than what others are saying or doing that we don’t agree with, we will be attracting an abundance of what we are wanting into our life. We will not be seeing much evidence of people doing things we are not wanting to see and experience, not because it isn’t happening, because it’s all “out there,” we will be seeing what we are predominantly vibrating (that which we’re thinking and feeling strongly about)
Which really is awesome if we’re doing our best to focus and move to a better feeling vibrational place in relation to whatever we’re currently experiencing and wanting!!

And so it is….

Share if you care….No I won’t!!

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Like Theo says in the movie Turbo, “Well aren’t you just a little ray of sunshine!!” Not….Hehehe….That’s me I’m talking about!!

But seriously, what I’m talking about is something all of us do at some point or another, but unfortunately many have made this “a way of being,” believing manipulating others through negative emotion is the only way to get anything done! (And yes if you believe this, this will be your experience, mostly anyway…)
Oh my god, just saying that makes me cringe!
I know we all do this sometimes, and it isn’t the end of the world if we do, but knowing what we’re really doing does help us to shift this pattern of behaviour if that is what we’re wanting to do?
Many may disagree and say, “No, I’m just telling……the possible negative consequences that could happen if they continue this behaviour, I don’t want them to do!“(Yep, it’s all about us!)
And I say “If we were aware that we may be helping another to focus their attention on strongly unwanted experiences by telling them all the horrible things that may happen to them….. Uhmmmm, that’s not that good.”
The stronger the negative emotion our recipient has allowed themselves to experience by listening to others attempts to guide or manipulate them, the worse position they are in, and if whatever the focus of this fear is, is brought up over and over and over again, this is now a subject that can start producing strong negative emotion and repeated focused attention, ( creating power and momentum ) that the Law of Attraction will be responding in-kind too….
There is always many ways to the same destination, for example, rather than “You could get killed by doing that!” maybe “I’m going to hold your hand until you remember to look so we stay safe.”
It’s not so much about the exact words we use as we are trying to guide others, it’s more about the vibrational place we are in as we speak these words. Are we coming from a negative unwanted vibrational perspective, or a positive wanted vibrational perspective?
That brings me to a very important distinction, are we more focused on what we’re wanting, or more focused on what we are not wanting? (even if it’s what we are wanting for others, it’s still what we are wanting…is it not?) Because whichever vibration is strongest within us for whatever subject we’re giving thought too, will be what’s predominantly turning up in our reality.

Some may think, “Well, it often works, so it must be a good thing to do!!”
And I acknowledge it does sometimes work but at the cost of what? Trying to promote feelings of intense fear, guilt or unworthiness is not the only way to get someone to do something, but can become a common way we react if this has been what we have become accustomed to doing, especially when it comes to dealing with our beautiful children!
Manipulating behaviour in these ways erodes self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth, and can start the process where we start to believe we are not good human beings anymore.
And I’m sure you’ve noticed, often when we try to manipulate in this way, our recipient suddenly feels inspired to do exactly what we have instructed them not to do! (and that goes for big people too….I think this is where the phrase “reverse psychology” must have come from!)
When this happens we will need to up the fear factor and really “scare the pants off them” to get them to listen, or we need to do something else. Hehehe….Oops sorry, just laughing about the scaring the pants off them bit!!
That brings me back to the title of this post, share (or like) if you care….When this is added to the bottom of a post, this is a classic example of trying to guilt people into doing something. If I receive such a post, even if it is good, I will not share or like it!

I will not allow others to manipulate me from their not good feeling place.
And just as importantly, I do not wish to share something that may make others do something out of guilt either.
Talk about sharing the “chain of pain” and not good feelings all around the place….
And no, I won’t do it!

And so it is….

It’s good to be a sympathetic friend…. Or is it???

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SYMPATHY IS…
1. A relationship between people in which whatever affects one correspondingly affects the other.
2. Mutual understanding between two or more people.
3. The act of sharing one’s feelings and emotions with another, especially sorrow, anguish, and pity.
4. A feeling or expression of pity or sorrow for the distress of another.
5. Compassion or commiseration.
6. A feeling of loyalty, support, or allegiance.

Many would agree with the general description of sympathy that’s listed above and that this is a good way to react when a friend comes to you with a problem they wish to discuss.
I am not saying anyone is doing anything wrong by being a sympathetic friend or shoulder to cry on, but it’s interesting to understand what is happening when these interactions are taking place from the viewpoint of Universal Law and the Law of Attraction.

The process of bringing one’s vibration (thoughts and emotions) into alignment (the same vibrational place) with another, therefore both focusing on and creating unwanted circumstances, unless the vibration is moved into a positive or solution orientated direction therefore both focusing on and creating more wanted circumstances!

Some people will speak of unwanted circumstances that have happened or are happening in their life, especially to gain sympathy from others. Why is this?
Firstly to be speaking about anything we must have given the subject plenty of thought otherwise we would not be speaking about it, especially if we are the instigator of the conversation.

If we want people to sympathise with us, this usually indicates we’re still standing in a place where we are judging others, the situation, or ourselves as “ wrong or bad” and are looking for agreement with how we are feeling, as it initially feels good and this is why people are doing it.

But what’s really happening during these interactions?
For the person speaking of the problem they are creating more power and momentum behind it, for you cannot speak of such things without adding even more focused thought to the problem, which the Law of Attraction is responding in-kind too, with more evidence in the form of thoughts, people, places, and situations turning up in your experience showing you what you are creating through the power of your own focused thoughts.

Don’t let me give you the impression you should never speak of your problems, for if you have been giving something a lot of thought it’s almost impossible to stop yourself from talking about such things. (Remember, Law of Attraction!)
Acknowledging the problem is an important initial first step, but it’s important to move as quickly as possible into the vibrational vicinity of the solution, and this is achieved by gradually making an effort to improve our thought in relation to whatever the problem is.

It’s better to acknowledge “Oops, I’m talking about something I don’t want to experience again” and take it for what it is, an indication of what you’ve got going on vibrationally rather than being mad or cross at ourselves, and although we may be creating more momentum in a direction we don’t want to go, we do have the ability at any time to start moving our thoughts in a slightly more positive direction as we become more aware of what we’re doing.

The drawback of getting others’ perspectives, opinions, judgments, or sympathy, is now we have included another’s often-negative vibration in our creative process that just increases our own negative vibration on the subject.
Depending on where our normal or general vibration place is will depend on whether we’ll seek people who will sympathise with whatever we’ve got going on. It takes some pretty good self-control even when we know what we’re doing not to speak of things that are happening in our life that we do not want to replicate and continue to experience, but we all have to start somewhere if that’s what we’re wanting.

I would say the only time it is of benefit to speak to someone about a problem we may have, is if the person we’re speaking with is solution orientated in a positive direction, knowing that the best they can hope to do, is to listen and acknowledge how the other is feeling, and hold steady to a positive good feeling vibrational place regarding whatever they are speaking to us about.
To maintain a good feeling place when people bring problems to us may be virtually impossible if we don’t believe that things can work out for them, and any words spoken from this unbelieving place to try to help will be empty and hollow with no substance behind them.

When you know there is a solution to the problem and that all have the ability to make their way, in time to the solution, even if they are not currently there now, the words we speak are more likely to be uplifting or inspiring. What people are really feeling is your knowing. Your knowing that things can work out for them, your belief that they have the ability to find the answers they want, in their own way and in their own time.
And how do we feel when we’re speaking with someone who we feel knows things are going to be all right and work out for us, and believes we will find our own way? It’s hard not to start believing in ourselves just that little bit more from being around such people, isn’t it? (Unless we’re just mad because we didn’t get agreement or sympathy? This means we’re not quite ready for the solution we are wanting yet.)
This is the true process of uplifting and positively influencing another.

So I would have to say, I am a very unsympathetic friend…. Do I love, do I care, do I listen, do I briefly acknowledge the problem, do I selfishly stay in my good feeling place regarding the problem, do I know and believe in people’s ability, and do I try to uplift?
Yes, I do my best to do all of these things, for when we know what we’re doing, why would we want to do anything else???

And so our journey together continues….