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Do you like to gossip???

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Don't Gossip QuoteI’ve never been a person that enjoys or takes part in idle gossip about others and because of this find that almost no one brings these types of conversations to me, and even if they do, they do not receive the response they are desiring so will rarely follow-up with trying to speak to me again about such things, or anything for that matter.

For many, gossiping about others can become a way of life that is never producing anything good they are wanting in their lives. It’s completely appropriate to have our own opinions based on our own life experiences and how we’re wanting to live, but when we start to judge others harshly and make it our mission to get others onboard with negative, unkind speculation… .Well, that’s not that good.

It doesn’t matter whether it’s a situation we are personally involved in or whether it’s someone we don’t know that well that we’re talking about, neither produces anything good. If this is a pastime we find ourselves enjoying, it’s a very good idea to ask ones self why we do it. From observing many people who love these sorts of interactions it’s not hard to see they enjoy being seen as one who knows what everyone else is up to and are usually the first to know about it and let everyone else know about it too!!! (How Boring!!!)

Gossiping often feels good to people because it makes them feel important, like they know something juicy that no one else knows. Passing this information on whether it’s true or not, (Who said gossiping had anything to do with the truth….What a joke!!!) Also feels great when they receive the wow reaction they were looking for and will search out as many people as possible to spread their gossip too, to keep their good feelings going. These types of people often congregate into like-minded groups that usually have a leader with all the others being followers, or more to the point spreaders of all things not nice!!!

Focusing on the not nice happenings in other people’s lives often keeps our thoughts busy so we don’t have to think or maybe deal with things in our own lives that we would do well to do some thinking about, but the worst thing about gossip is how it may effect the person being gossiped about…..Even if what is being said it true, which of course it hardly ever is, it’s very unkind and hurtful and I would say to anyone who likes to do this……STOP IT!!!

I imagine anyone reading this that has been gossiped about is smiling and agreeing whereas if you are one that likes to gossip, you might want to tell me to get lost….Hehehe!!! Fair call, no one likes to be told by someone else what to do.
For those that love to gossip, let me tell you something that I know that may possibly give you some food for thought. Even though we may feel good as we participate in these types of activities one thing is for sure, it is not possible to speak unkindly and cruelly about others without the Powerful Law of Attraction responding to the vibrations (thoughts and feelings) we are sending out and starts matching us up with like-minded people, places, and events.

What does that really mean……

~ We will encounter many situations that are gossip worthy.
~ We will come into contact with other like-minded people who like to gossip.
~ We will eventually bring, or more accurately said attract through our own focused thoughts we’re having about other people’s not nice or unwanted experiences, not nice and unwanted experiences into our own lives.

So just for effect, I’ll say it again….If you like to gossip, for gods sake make an effort to STOP IT!!!

And so we will!!!

Shake it off….You go girl!!!

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B&WSahara
I don’t usually like to talk about famous people, because many of the negative opinions people hold toward others that are well-known are based on gossip that whether it’s true or not, is not very nice. Although we all have our own opinions on what we hear and see, it’s not possible to truly know whats going on within someone else, so it’s a futile exercise to speculate about it, and it just doesn’t feel good to me to do it, so mostly I don’t do it!!
When making judgements about others, especially negative judgements, it can be helpful to consider the following;

~Unfortunately we live in a time where many find it entertaining to portray others in difficult, embarrassing, and compromising circumstances, which strongly indicates where a person generally is and who they’re currently being if they gain enjoyment from other people’s misfortune.
~Strong negative contemplation of those doing well in their chosen field and that have become well-known for it, often comes from being in a very resistant vibrational place of jealousy and judgement, jealousy of those that appear to have gained notoriety and success in some way….Maybe things we wish we had for ourselves???
~Outrageous allegations sell magazines and newspapers, and it would be rather naive to believe everything we hear or read, and in this digital age, pictures or video either. If one has a mind to portray someone in a certain way whether it be positive or negative, they will find a way to do it, whether it’s true or not!! (What’s the truth got to do with it???) Unless we observe something as it happens it’s all here-say, and even then it’s open to interpretation.
~One thing I’ll say about all of this is, if people knew what they were really doing when they’re speaking not nicely about others, they would not be doing it!!(Law of Attraction!!)

Back to the title, Shake it off is a new song by Taylor Swift, and the “You go girl,” you probably already know is not part of the song, that’s just me appreciating everything she’s saying in it!!!

Before this song came out, I wasn’t exactly a Taylor Swift fan because it wasn’t really my type of music with many resistant type lyrics about dating and boyfriend troubles, subjects that aren’t important to me and are far away from my life experience. But I have to say I’m loving this new song and have found a deeper understanding and respect for what must be a difficult road to navigate for someone so young.
Although I do love to see people doing well, I especially notice when young ones do well because it’s a very good indication they’ve managed to stay true to who they really are. Remaining true to oneself isn’t always easy when surrounded by others that are trying to guide us in a direction they feel is best based on their experiences and desires, but can often be in opposition to the internal guidance we are receiving based on our experiences and desires. It’s not that good guidance can’t be received from others apart from ourselves, it can, but it depends largely on the vibrational place the advice giver is coming from.

It feels like this song speaks to the truth that people are going to say and do whatever they like for their own reasons which is far more of an indication about who they are rather than who they’re talking about is, and the best thing we can do is to know that and just “shake it off” so to speak, and not let them bring us down to a resistant vibrational place.

Some may disagree and say just because someone is gossiping and enjoying someone else’s misfortune doesn’t necessarily mean they’re in a not good feeling vibrational place….(I’m not sure, does anyone really think that???)
And I say, if we’re getting enjoyment from doing this to others, it means we’re in a very resistant not good feeling place even if these actions helped us to feel better. If it doesn’t feel good to be doing this or to be part of a group that is doing this, it means we are likely in a better feeling vibrational place and are not needing to pull others down to feel good about ourselves.

Even if what’s been said is true, it isn’t a good idea to gossip and speak not nicely about others, it’s just not worth it!!
If we do find ourselves doing this, it’s good to make an effort to move into a better feeling vibrational place by noticing things around us that are positive and good.
If people around us are gossiping, avoid being dragged into it by not entertaining such conversations and remove yourself from the situation if you need too. If we stay strong in mind and action with our decision to not engage and take part in these types of conversations, it’s not very long before we either don’t come into contact with people who are talking about others negatively, or if we do, they don’t seem to feel “inspired” to talk about such things when we’re around because they don’t get the response they’re wanting…. That’s the beauty of the Law of Attraction don’t you think?

Allowing others to pass resistant vibrations onto us, doesn’t help anyone create what they’re wanting. In truth nothing can be passed to us without our full permission, and that permission comes through giving something our focused attention and thought that causes an emotional response that the Law of Attraction responds in-kind too.

Knowledge is power…. And we can exercise that power in any way we chose by attracting that which we are wanting….Or something else….

And so it is….

Choose your battles….And let the rest slide!!

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Whoever originally said this definitely knew what they were talking about, and although this is good advice in relation to all the relationships we’re involved in, it’s especially relevant to the relationships we have with the younger members of our society, our beautiful children!

I like to rephrase as follows;

Decide what is really important to you….That which you are not prepared to compromise on, and stand strongly and positively by it.
In other words, be prepared to stand up strongly for those things that are at the top of our list of priorities, that we believe are the most important aspects we wish our children and others we have relationships with to know and understand. What we feel is necessary to live a happy and healthy life….And let the rest slide.
In other words, don’t make every little thing a big issue, choose what’s most important, and chill about the rest!!

When we stand strongly and positively on what is important to us, this sends a very clear message of what we find to be acceptable and unacceptable. This doesn’t mean that everyone is going to act in a way we find to be acceptable, but at least there’s no ambiguity, and this is especially important when dealing with children. The clearer and stronger we are with what we are expecting, with the ability to communicate it in a positive way, the better the chances are that our point of view will be listened to, thought about, and possibly acted upon?

We should always be open to discussion and negotiation whenever asking our children to carry out something we have requested, especially when questioned on why we’ve come to the decisions we have. Just saying, “Because I said so,” is a very unacceptable answer to give to anyone that is questioning us on why they should carry out something we have asked them to do. Our children are not robots that have come here purely to be told what to do by their parents, no matter how well-meaning parents are, and I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but not many of our young ones are prepared to follow anyone blindly anymore!!

No one learns anything by being told what to do and following instructions blindly….Well that’s not true….Much is learnt by doing such things….
Learning to follow what everyone else wants us to do erodes our self-confidence in ourselves and doesn’t prepare us very well for when we have to go out on our own and make decisions for ourselves.

So being strong and not following what others are saying blindly is a very good quality to have, although it can make dealing with our children a bit more challenging. We should have good reasons why we are requiring them to do what we are wanting, and we should be prepared to take the time to explain how we have come to those decisions. Rules just for the sake of obedience and conformity are crazy and makes life unbearable for all concerned.

I know it can be a difficult to know what to do sometimes, especially if we have gained everyone else’s opinion on what they think we should or should not be doing, and yes, we can often get good ideas from others, but when everyone’s had their say, we must make our own decision on what we believe is best for our specific circumstances, no one else is in a better position than us to know this.
Once we have come to our decision, the most important thing we can do is put all our positive focused thought behind the decisions we’ve made. Do not split your energy by second guessing yourself all the time by asking “What if, I don’t know, maybe?”
When you split your energy in this way, you achieve mixed results because the Law of Attraction has responded to your mixed up unsure vibration with similar results.

It’s not possible to make the “Wrong decision” because any decision that’s given focused positive thought for some time, will reap good results, and I say “That is so Awesome!!”

And so it is….

Good relationships are all about compromise….Well, that depends???

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MoonStar
Whether or not this statement is true or not for us, depends on what our belief or definition of compromise is, and what we believe a good relationship should be.

It would be fairly accurate to say that many people’s definition of compromise is having to make concessions or accept something less than what we may have truly been wanting, against ones will for the benefit of finding a suitable resolution or agreement of opinion, between two or more people.

Most pronounce this to be a wonderful thing that makes relationships work, and of course we cannot expect to have everything our own way if we are wanting to have a healthy and happy relationship where both parties are feeling valued and respected, but whether this is a positive aspect in the relationships we currently have, depends entirely on how much one may be having to “compromise” and how they feel when they’re doing this.

The most important factor that supersedes everything else is, “How am I feeling about the compromise I’m making now?” which will be influenced by many different variables such as;
~ How often am I compromising in this relationship?
~ How much does my partner compromise, is there a fairly equal reciprocation between both parties?
~ How strongly did I want things to work out how I envisioned?
~ How big is the compromise I’m making, and how long will it last for?
There will also be many other factors that will be specific to different situations and relationships.

As long as we’re interacting with other people, we will all need to navigate our way through differences of opinions of what we are wanting, but I don’t think it’s hard to know, if we feel we’re having to constantly compromise on circumstances that we feel strongly about, and that it isn’t evenly shared between both parties, this is when resentment can grow, especially if it ins’t addressed and talked about in the early stages of feeling resentful.

If resentment is not dealt with, it doesn’t usually go away by itself. Felt and caught in the early stages, it’s possible to easily move ourselves into a better feeling vibrational place by focusing on all the positive aspects of our situation, whereas if not dealt with, it grows in intensity with each similar experience that unfolds, until as many people say, “The last straw that breaks the camels back” often happens.

Although getting things out in the open can often be good, and can help us to move forward in a more positive direction, if our negative emotions have grown very strong with a lot of power and momentum behind them, it’s very hard to talk in a calm and productive way, and communication can become a bit….well, explosive!! It’s not the end of the world if this happens, once both parties have had time to calm down, that can be when some positive progress can be made, if both parties are still wanting a positive resolution.
If we’re feeling like we have to constantly compromise within our relationships, it is not ideal. The best option in these circumstances is to make an effort to move to a better feeling vibrational place rather than agreeing to what others want and then feeling resentful because we’ve had to give up something we’re wanting for the other.
If we’re finding it hard to move to a positive feeling place and cannot accommodate what another wants happily, it’s better to spend more time discussing the situation and trying to find a solution together that both will be happy with, because it’s always usually there, it’s just a matter of taking the time and effort to find it!

So although we may initially feel some negative emotion when we’re compromising, it’s not until we move all our thought regarding whatever we’re compromising about into a positive feeling vibrational place, that it’s no longer a compromise, now it is something we are wanting to do for ourselves, not just something we’re doing for someone else.
That’s a great vibrational place to be in, and that’s what I would call “A win, win situation!”

And so it is….

The harder you try to persuade people to your way of thinking….the less likely they are to agree with you!!

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NorthernLights
This is mostly true. When we try to persuade others to our way of thinking by making them wrong for their thinking, this almost never produces our desired result of their agreement with “our” point of view.
No one likes to be told what to do or think or that what they’re doing and thinking is wrong, because as I’ve said previously, what we’re doing or thinking is neither right or wrong, “It just is.”

Deep within, we know we’ve come forward into this current life to observe and explore many different circumstances that produce and inspire desires from our experiences that helps us come to strong and powerful decisions of what we would like to experience in our life as we move forward through time.

It’s often true that when communicating with others, if our beliefs and opinions sit in strongly opposing directions, communication can become negative and confrontational as it’s very difficult to find any common ground if we hold vastly differing points of view.
In these circumstance, it’s better to acknowledge we all have different perspectives and beliefs about life based on what we have already experienced and what we are still wanting to experience and let the need to justify or persuade others go.
It’s also very unlikely that we will be able to eradicate all that someone has come to know through the living of their own life experiences that has brought them to what they currently think and believe by telling them what beliefs we have come to through the living of our life experiences.(can you see the futility of even trying?)
Speaking about our differing points of views in a positive and understanding way can definitely give others “food for thought” so to speak, and makes for thought-provoking conversation without the need to argue. Words spoken by others can often spark something within us, that when pondered and given attention over time, will start the attraction of that which we have been focusing on, that the Law of Attraction will eventually bring us evidence of.
This is how we come to truly know what we know, and I say, “It is so awesome,” especially if we are focused in the direction of all we are wanting to experience, for words that are spoken by others will never be taken above our own knowing, and that’s the way it should be!!

If we do feel the need to persuade others to our way of thinking, it often comes from many beliefs that may not be in alignment or consistent with the Universal Laws that govern how life is really working.
Here are some examples of beliefs that may prevent us from moving forward in a positive manner.
~If I cannot persuade others to my way of thinking, they may behave in a way (in my opinion) I feel is not “right or good” and may even do something that threatens my “way of life!” Well,….Uhmmm…if this a belief we hold strongly, we will attract people, places and circumstances that gives us evidence of this, which is not that awesome….If you know what I mean….
~It’s more important for me to be right and make this person I am speaking with understand how “wrong they are” about everything they know in relation to this subject! Uhmmm….Right, I’d like to know if anyone reading this has been talked into the “error of their ways,” by someone who is more interested in feeling right or superior to whom ever they’re talking to….Not likely. This usually just makes us sit more firmly where we are as we justify all the reasons why we believe what we believe.
~It’s important that whomever I’m talking to understands completely where I’m coming from, and agrees with the conclusions I have come to about…. Well, this can definitely happen when we are sitting in close vibrational vicinity with whoever we’re talking with, and is generally enjoyable communication as we will usually find we’ll have similar core beliefs about life.
Whether our beliefs sit far apart from each other or more closely together, we will all have differences of opinion, and this is a good thing, for what would the purpose of life be if we were all the same??
Nothing new would ever need to be created because we would all like the same things! It’s easy to see this is an absolutely ridiculous scenario that could never truly exist. We did not come forward for sameness, or to be told by everyone else, how we should live our life.

We can be true to who we are, while letting others be true to who they are by knowing we have all come forward with different intentions, and that everyone has the right to live their life in the way they choose.
If we are focused on what we are wanting to experience rather than what others are saying or doing that we don’t agree with, we will be attracting an abundance of what we are wanting into our life. We will not be seeing much evidence of people doing things we are not wanting to see and experience, not because it isn’t happening, because it’s all “out there,” we will be seeing what we are predominantly vibrating (that which we’re thinking and feeling strongly about)
Which really is awesome if we’re doing our best to focus and move to a better feeling vibrational place in relation to whatever we’re currently experiencing and wanting!!

And so it is….

What is right….and what is wrong???

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FairyLantern
Although it is completely appropriate for us to decide for ourselves what we would like to experience in our lives and what we feel is good for us, when we feel a strong sense of right and wrong towards ourselves or others, this rarely moves us in a direction we are wanting to go.
When we are strongly focused on the wrongness of anything, what are we mainly focused on? We are strongly focused on that which we are “not wanting.” So if the Law of Attraction is responding to our focused thoughts and feelings about whatever we are giving our attention to, and is showing us manifestational evidence of that which is pulsing strongly within us, (which it is) if we are focused on many circumstances we believe to be wrong, what are we attracting more of? Yep, you guessed it, we will attract and see more evidence of things we find to be wrong.
In truth, whatever we’re doing or thinking is neither right or wrong, it just is.
Many would strongly disagree and give many examples of behaviour or circumstances that the majority of people may agree is “wrong or right,” in their opinion, but I like to think more in terms of what “I am or am not” wanting to experience rather than what is right or wrong.
Some may think this is just the use of different words that still refer to the rightness or wrongness of something, and although this is possible, it’s not likely.
When speaking more about what we’re wanting to experience, we’re usually more focused on where we are, and what we’re doing in a positive way, whereas when we’re talking about right and wrong, we’re often judging or blaming ourselves or others for whatever situation we’re observing or predicament we find ourselves in.
We all sometimes do this depending on where we are and what our beliefs about life are, but if we find ourselves judging or blaming,(or in any negative, not good feeling vibrational places) it’s important we make an effort to move to a slightly better feeling vibrational place as soon as possible, if we are wanting to feel good.

I can only speak from my own perspective regarding what helps me to move to a better feeling place if I find myself in the lower vibrational feeling places.
These are basic beliefs about life that quickly and generally bring me into a better feeling place that then lets me move to a more specific positive vibrational place regarding the circumstances I’m observing or experiencing.
Beliefs that move us into the higher vibrational feeling places;
~Goodness is at the heart of all human beings, and if people are behaving less than nicely, this often comes from picking up resistance on this physical journey and not understanding how we are creating our life experiences.
~We are all doing the best that we can to feel happy and achieve more of what we are wanting in our life based on what we know at any particular point in time.
~Everyone is attracting what is coming into their life experiences through the power of their focused positive and negative thoughts, whether they are aware of it or not, there are no true victims or villains. (although we can feel this way if we believe strongly in wrongness and rightness)
It is virtually impossible to hold the above beliefs and stay in a strongly negative place towards ourselves or others for any great length of time, but it would be true to say, we must have come to a certain level of awareness and understanding of how life works and how we are creating our own life experiences before these beliefs can feel true for us and can help move us to a better vibrational place.
If we are believing strongly in right and wrong, whose opinion of what’s right or wrong should we ultimately listen too?
People have been hurting each other over trying to impose their opinions of what they feel is right or wrong over others for a long time. This comes from a place of believing something someone else is doing can come into your life and hurt you, and although most of us may have had experiences like this, everything that comes into our experience is called to us, both wanted and unwanted, through our own focused thoughts.
When we come to this realisation, we can let go of judging ourselves or others as wrong, and start turning our attention to everything we feel is great in life, that we are wanting to experience….And that changes everything!!

And so it is….

Why would we ask….For everyone else’s opinion???

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TreeLanterns
I am not necessarily saying asking for others opinions about something is right or wrong, but it is an indication of where we are in relation to what we’re asking about.
The most important factor to consider when we’re asking for an opinion from someone else is, what is our reason for asking, and how are we feeling about the subject we’re asking about.
For example, are we generally exchanging ideas in a progressive conversation without any premeditated ideas or the need of getting others opinions on a specific subject? I would consider this mostly positive, good feeling communication with the exchanging of many ideas and opinions on many different subjects, and although we may be listening to many different opinions, we are not coming from a place of unknowingness, but more from a place of interest.
During these conversations, we may hear many things that inspire us to find out more about what we have talked about.
If we are coming from a not so good vibrational place of unknowingness, or we feel a need to know what others think in order to come to our own decision or opinion, this is often not so positive.
Why?
If our vibrational feelings are strongly directed towards not knowing and unsureness, if we have a decent amount of power and momentum behind these feelings through our focused thoughts, the Law of Attraction responds in-kind to our vibration with manifestational evidence of what is pulsing strongly within us, often increasing our feelings of not knowing where we sit with our own opinion and usually just confuses us more!! A strong negative feeling of not knowing what to think or do brings you more feelings of the same. (although over time, if we do not move to a better feeling place, the strength of the emotions we’re feeling often increase)
Yes, it is true, and all of us feel unsure about things in our lives at one time or another, but for some that feel unsure in many areas of their life, it can become very difficult to make a decision about anything.
Sometimes it’s a specific subject that we may hold some resistance to or about, that we attempt to get many people’s opinion on?
But even if the information we gain is good and positive, we just don’t know it and usually continue to look for more information that will make us feel better. This can become a cycle until we finally realise we could ask a million people their opinion and we still wouldn’t know what to do.
This is when we need to find our inner strength and decide we might as well go with what we think we should do and feel as good as we can about whatever decision we do make, for other people’s opinions are exactly that; a conclusion one has come to based on what they are wanting and what they have experienced so far in their own life. (which often doesn’t have a lot to do with your life, where you are, and what you are wanting)
We may learn from, and ponder information given to us from others, but ultimately only we know how we feel and what we are wanting, so it’s important to come to our own opinions and make our own decisions, for no other is in a better position than us, to make our decisions!

And so it is….

It’s good to be a sympathetic friend…. Or is it???

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SYMPATHY IS…
1. A relationship between people in which whatever affects one correspondingly affects the other.
2. Mutual understanding between two or more people.
3. The act of sharing one’s feelings and emotions with another, especially sorrow, anguish, and pity.
4. A feeling or expression of pity or sorrow for the distress of another.
5. Compassion or commiseration.
6. A feeling of loyalty, support, or allegiance.

Many would agree with the general description of sympathy that’s listed above and that this is a good way to react when a friend comes to you with a problem they wish to discuss.
I am not saying anyone is doing anything wrong by being a sympathetic friend or shoulder to cry on, but it’s interesting to understand what is happening when these interactions are taking place from the viewpoint of Universal Law and the Law of Attraction.

The process of bringing one’s vibration (thoughts and emotions) into alignment (the same vibrational place) with another, therefore both focusing on and creating unwanted circumstances, unless the vibration is moved into a positive or solution orientated direction therefore both focusing on and creating more wanted circumstances!

Some people will speak of unwanted circumstances that have happened or are happening in their life, especially to gain sympathy from others. Why is this?
Firstly to be speaking about anything we must have given the subject plenty of thought otherwise we would not be speaking about it, especially if we are the instigator of the conversation.

If we want people to sympathise with us, this usually indicates we’re still standing in a place where we are judging others, the situation, or ourselves as “ wrong or bad” and are looking for agreement with how we are feeling, as it initially feels good and this is why people are doing it.

But what’s really happening during these interactions?
For the person speaking of the problem they are creating more power and momentum behind it, for you cannot speak of such things without adding even more focused thought to the problem, which the Law of Attraction is responding in-kind too, with more evidence in the form of thoughts, people, places, and situations turning up in your experience showing you what you are creating through the power of your own focused thoughts.

Don’t let me give you the impression you should never speak of your problems, for if you have been giving something a lot of thought it’s almost impossible to stop yourself from talking about such things. (Remember, Law of Attraction!)
Acknowledging the problem is an important initial first step, but it’s important to move as quickly as possible into the vibrational vicinity of the solution, and this is achieved by gradually making an effort to improve our thought in relation to whatever the problem is.

It’s better to acknowledge “Oops, I’m talking about something I don’t want to experience again” and take it for what it is, an indication of what you’ve got going on vibrationally rather than being mad or cross at ourselves, and although we may be creating more momentum in a direction we don’t want to go, we do have the ability at any time to start moving our thoughts in a slightly more positive direction as we become more aware of what we’re doing.

The drawback of getting others’ perspectives, opinions, judgments, or sympathy, is now we have included another’s often-negative vibration in our creative process that just increases our own negative vibration on the subject.
Depending on where our normal or general vibration place is will depend on whether we’ll seek people who will sympathise with whatever we’ve got going on. It takes some pretty good self-control even when we know what we’re doing not to speak of things that are happening in our life that we do not want to replicate and continue to experience, but we all have to start somewhere if that’s what we’re wanting.

I would say the only time it is of benefit to speak to someone about a problem we may have, is if the person we’re speaking with is solution orientated in a positive direction, knowing that the best they can hope to do, is to listen and acknowledge how the other is feeling, and hold steady to a positive good feeling vibrational place regarding whatever they are speaking to us about.
To maintain a good feeling place when people bring problems to us may be virtually impossible if we don’t believe that things can work out for them, and any words spoken from this unbelieving place to try to help will be empty and hollow with no substance behind them.

When you know there is a solution to the problem and that all have the ability to make their way, in time to the solution, even if they are not currently there now, the words we speak are more likely to be uplifting or inspiring. What people are really feeling is your knowing. Your knowing that things can work out for them, your belief that they have the ability to find the answers they want, in their own way and in their own time.
And how do we feel when we’re speaking with someone who we feel knows things are going to be all right and work out for us, and believes we will find our own way? It’s hard not to start believing in ourselves just that little bit more from being around such people, isn’t it? (Unless we’re just mad because we didn’t get agreement or sympathy? This means we’re not quite ready for the solution we are wanting yet.)
This is the true process of uplifting and positively influencing another.

So I would have to say, I am a very unsympathetic friend…. Do I love, do I care, do I listen, do I briefly acknowledge the problem, do I selfishly stay in my good feeling place regarding the problem, do I know and believe in people’s ability, and do I try to uplift?
Yes, I do my best to do all of these things, for when we know what we’re doing, why would we want to do anything else???

And so our journey together continues….

Are you free to choose???

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ArmsWide2
Are you free to choose every and all things in your life? That’s an interesting question, let’s look at that a little more closely….

So, every choice we’ve made up until today has bought you to the place we are in now. Some may disagree, saying many of the choices they made were forced upon them, either from parents or by getting in a situation where whatever choice was available to us, was an unwanted choice. Although this feels like we didn’t have a choice, the truth is, we always have a choice.
Maybe our choices were motivated from not wanting to experience the negative consequences others placed on us, or from making many choices that eventually lead us down a path where whatever choices were available, are unwanted, and although that feels like it wasn’t really our choice, it was.

Many of our choices come from being indoctrinated with our parents beliefs and ideologies regarding culture, religion, and community living. We could have chosen differently, but sometimes, when we are young, we’re not even aware there is another choice, and sometimes it’s simply not wanting to experience unwanted consequences that may arise from making a different choice.
We were and still are, motivated to different choices for many different reasons, whether it’s to keep someone else happy, to feel part of the group, to be liked by others, to be admired, or to be loved. Our choices, whatever they may be, for whatever reason, are usually based on what we believe is the best choice at that time, the choice we think will bring us closest to what we are wanting or what will make us happy.

It can be worth while, taking the time to ponder what it is that motivates our choices. For example, if it’s important to always have the approval of those around us, we put ourselves in an almost impossible position, for now our choices are based on what we think others expect or think is best for us, rather that what we think and feel is best for us.
In the beginning it may feel reassuring to have other peoples approval over the choices we make, but no other is really in a better position than us, to decide what is best for us, even if we think that they are.

Always seeking others opinions over what, how, and when we should be doing anything, erodes confidence, making it very difficult to make decisions on our own as we move forward through time. Taking advice from others can also lead to blaming if things don’t turn out as planned, preventing us from taking responsibility for our own choices, learning from them, changing, and making different choices where required. Blaming others may feel better in the short-term, but rarely moves us in the direction of what we’re wanting.

I’m not suggesting we should never seek advice from another, as it can be very helpful to listen to what others have to say if they’re positively focused, especially if they have achieved something you are desiring for yourself, but in the end, the final decision should be ours.

Knowing you are free to choose, and in control of your own life is paramount to really being happy, for as long as we believe anyone else has power over us, or knows better than you what you should or should not be doing, you cannot be truly happy.
For just as you came into this physical world free, you will leave this physical world free, and everything else in between, is your choice.
Are you making the choices that are in YOUR best interests??

And so our journey continues….

Observations about our Beautiful Children….

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Anyone that has children would have no doubt noticed that today’s generation of children are very different from their parents and previous generations. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to figure that out, and it’s interesting to note, when people often speak of this, they tend to highlight many things they consider negative.
“We didn’t do that in my day, we behaved ourselves and just did what we were told.” Now that’s lovely if we’re believing everything someone else tells us or our feeling good depends upon making someone else happy and feel good. But the truth is, most of our beautiful children are not prepared to take everything we say as being right or good for them. I understand this makes for navigating the parenting of children far more difficult than it may have previously been, it’s rather easy when someone has largely substituted their own Inner Guidance for someone else’s, for they are more likely to listen and blindly follow instructions…. But is this what we really want for our children??? For me, the answer is simple…. No.

To bring today’s children to a place where they will listen and follow without question, their spirit has usually been broken to some degree, and the long-term consequences of this are not usually what we are wanting for those we deeply love. When a child’s own Inner Guidance is overridden and their spirit is broken by others, even those that have the best of intentions, what happens when you are not there to guide them? They are often lost and seek out another that will direct them in what to do, for they have not had an opportunity to think and make decisions for themselves. I’m not suggesting our little ones need no guidance, but the days of following without question are far behind us. I like to think of it now as more of a collaboration between parent and child, a belief that all have value, ideas, opinions and suggestions that at the very least, deserve to be listened too, considered and negotiated.

Our children have very different and specific needs compared to previous generations. A one size fits all, do what I say approach (and sometimes not what I do) no longer works and did it ever work….I don’t know??? Children are coming forward in these times with a stronger determination, purpose, and confidence that does require a more flexible parenting style, and in truth are guiding us all to be better parents, better teachers, and better leaders.
Yes, they are teaching us to be better human beings…and I cannot think of a greater life purpose to have in this wonderful physical world…

And so it is….