Why would we measure our Self-worth….On what someone else thinks of us???

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Of course, it’s wonderful when people are looking at us favorably, but if we are requiring this from every person we come into contact with, we will have to become very good at working out how others would like us to behave in order to ensure their approval of us.
Some may say, “What’s wrong with that?” And I say, nothing is essentially wrong with wanting positive interactions with others and for them to like us, as long as we are not doing anything that goes against who we really are to achieve it.
That brings up an interesting question, is it more important for me to be true to myself and what I believe in, or is it more important for me to gain the approval of others at the cost of going against my own beliefs? (or do I have a belief that goes something like “if people don’t like me, there must be something wrong with me?”)

Although every situation we encounter is different, and we will make our own assessment of what we feel is best for us at that moment, it would be true to say, if many of our interactions are based on doing whatever it takes to gain another’s approval, we can become “temporarily lost” and forget who we really are. By that I mean, we now may be substituting our own Inner Guidance that is directing us through our emotions to all we are wanting, for someone else’s Inner Guidance that is leading them through their emotions to everything they are wanting! Now, unless we’re wanting exactly the same things, have experienced the same circumstances and have come to the same conclusions and beliefs about life….I think it’s quite clear to see no other is better equipped with better Inner Guidance than ourselves, to know what’s best for us.

I say “temporarily lost,” because it’s not possible to completely disconnect from who we really are for any great length of time, sooner or later we always return to that knowing place.
The question isn’t will we return to the full understanding and knowing of who we really are, the question is….How long will we hold ourselves apart from our blended all-knowing Non-Physical perspective, through our own negative contemplation?
Alignment with our Non-Physical counterpart happens when we make our transition from this Physical life and body, but we do not need to wait for this to happen to achieve the blending or alignment of the Physical and Non-Physical together.
If we become sensitive to how we are feeling and do our best to move into the best feeling place we can, it’s only a matter of time before we find ourselves in alignment with who we really are while we’re still in this physical body, and it is so good!!

To begin with it may only be for short moments that we feel this alignment, but as we continue to feel generally better in our life and make an effort to focus on the best that life has to offer, this starts to become our normal vibrational place to be in, and one can find themselves in a very good feeling place for extended periods of time….For no good reason at all!!

Alignment is achieved when the Physical here and now part of us and the Non-Physical part of us are in complete agreement in relation to whatever we are giving our attention to now.
For example, if I am looking at someone and feeling strong negative emotion, this indicates the Non-Physical part of me is thinking something very different to what I am currently thinking, for if I was in alignment with what the Non-Physical part of me was thinking, I would be feeling positive emotion.
So what should I do? Should I try to conjure some feelings of love for this person I am clearly not loving much? I say, “No way,” it cannot be done in a few moments, for it’s virtually impossible to go from strong dislike to liking or loving instantly….Have you tried?

It’s better, or in our best interests to accept the way we feel rather than deny it, and to put our focus on something else if we feel unable to move to a better feeling place rather than trying to “fake it,” because it’s not possible to truly hide how we really feel anyway.

Another option is to just “turn the other cheek” so to speak, look away from that which makes you feel not good, especially if you don’t feel like you can continue to observe without improving your thought. Not much benefit comes from focusing our attention on unwanted circumstances without making an effort to move to a better feeling vibrational place, especially if it’s for an extended period of time….And by “an extended period of time,” I mean anything over about 20 seconds!!!
I know this may seem like a very short amount of time, but this is all it takes before the Law of Attraction will respond to our thought vibrations and give us access to more thoughts of a similar nature, and as we think and focus longer, another thought, and another and another will become more easily available to us, and with enough time and focus that produces intensity of emotion, we will attract physical manifestations that match the dominant vibrations (thoughts and feelings) within us. Very good when we’re focused in the direction of what we are wanting to experience wouldn’t you say?

All I can say is, you do not need others approval to feel worthy, and when we start to access the Inner Guidance we were born with, we start to feel a worthiness that no external circumstances or person can provide….
It comes from knowing “who we really are,” and feeling the absolute power we have to create what we are wanting in our own lives….

And so it is….

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