Whoever originally said this definitely knew what they were talking about, and although this is good advice in relation to all the relationships we’re involved in, it’s especially relevant to the relationships we have with the younger members of our society, our beautiful children!
I like to rephrase as follows;
Decide what is really important to you….That which you are not prepared to compromise on, and stand strongly and positively by it.
In other words, be prepared to stand up strongly for those things that are at the top of our list of priorities, that we believe are the most important aspects we wish our children and others we have relationships with to know and understand. What we feel is necessary to live a happy and healthy life….And let the rest slide.
In other words, don’t make every little thing a big issue, choose what’s most important, and chill about the rest!!
When we stand strongly and positively on what is important to us, this sends a very clear message of what we find to be acceptable and unacceptable. This doesn’t mean that everyone is going to act in a way we find to be acceptable, but at least there’s no ambiguity, and this is especially important when dealing with children. The clearer and stronger we are with what we are expecting, with the ability to communicate it in a positive way, the better the chances are that our point of view will be listened to, thought about, and possibly acted upon?
We should always be open to discussion and negotiation whenever asking our children to carry out something we have requested, especially when questioned on why we’ve come to the decisions we have. Just saying, “Because I said so,” is a very unacceptable answer to give to anyone that is questioning us on why they should carry out something we have asked them to do. Our children are not robots that have come here purely to be told what to do by their parents, no matter how well-meaning parents are, and I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but not many of our young ones are prepared to follow anyone blindly anymore!!
No one learns anything by being told what to do and following instructions blindly….Well that’s not true….Much is learnt by doing such things….
Learning to follow what everyone else wants us to do erodes our self-confidence in ourselves and doesn’t prepare us very well for when we have to go out on our own and make decisions for ourselves.
So being strong and not following what others are saying blindly is a very good quality to have, although it can make dealing with our children a bit more challenging. We should have good reasons why we are requiring them to do what we are wanting, and we should be prepared to take the time to explain how we have come to those decisions. Rules just for the sake of obedience and conformity are crazy and makes life unbearable for all concerned.
I know it can be a difficult to know what to do sometimes, especially if we have gained everyone else’s opinion on what they think we should or should not be doing, and yes, we can often get good ideas from others, but when everyone’s had their say, we must make our own decision on what we believe is best for our specific circumstances, no one else is in a better position than us to know this.
Once we have come to our decision, the most important thing we can do is put all our positive focused thought behind the decisions we’ve made. Do not split your energy by second guessing yourself all the time by asking “What if, I don’t know, maybe?”
When you split your energy in this way, you achieve mixed results because the Law of Attraction has responded to your mixed up unsure vibration with similar results.
It’s not possible to make the “Wrong decision” because any decision that’s given focused positive thought for some time, will reap good results, and I say “That is so Awesome!!”
And so it is….