Choose your battles….And let the rest slide!!

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Whoever originally said this definitely knew what they were talking about, and although this is good advice in relation to all the relationships we’re involved in, it’s especially relevant to the relationships we have with the younger members of our society, our beautiful children!

I like to rephrase as follows;

Decide what is really important to you….That which you are not prepared to compromise on, and stand strongly and positively by it.
In other words, be prepared to stand up strongly for those things that are at the top of our list of priorities, that we believe are the most important aspects we wish our children and others we have relationships with to know and understand. What we feel is necessary to live a happy and healthy life….And let the rest slide.
In other words, don’t make every little thing a big issue, choose what’s most important, and chill about the rest!!

When we stand strongly and positively on what is important to us, this sends a very clear message of what we find to be acceptable and unacceptable. This doesn’t mean that everyone is going to act in a way we find to be acceptable, but at least there’s no ambiguity, and this is especially important when dealing with children. The clearer and stronger we are with what we are expecting, with the ability to communicate it in a positive way, the better the chances are that our point of view will be listened to, thought about, and possibly acted upon?

We should always be open to discussion and negotiation whenever asking our children to carry out something we have requested, especially when questioned on why we’ve come to the decisions we have. Just saying, “Because I said so,” is a very unacceptable answer to give to anyone that is questioning us on why they should carry out something we have asked them to do. Our children are not robots that have come here purely to be told what to do by their parents, no matter how well-meaning parents are, and I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but not many of our young ones are prepared to follow anyone blindly anymore!!

No one learns anything by being told what to do and following instructions blindly….Well that’s not true….Much is learnt by doing such things….
Learning to follow what everyone else wants us to do erodes our self-confidence in ourselves and doesn’t prepare us very well for when we have to go out on our own and make decisions for ourselves.

So being strong and not following what others are saying blindly is a very good quality to have, although it can make dealing with our children a bit more challenging. We should have good reasons why we are requiring them to do what we are wanting, and we should be prepared to take the time to explain how we have come to those decisions. Rules just for the sake of obedience and conformity are crazy and makes life unbearable for all concerned.

I know it can be a difficult to know what to do sometimes, especially if we have gained everyone else’s opinion on what they think we should or should not be doing, and yes, we can often get good ideas from others, but when everyone’s had their say, we must make our own decision on what we believe is best for our specific circumstances, no one else is in a better position than us to know this.
Once we have come to our decision, the most important thing we can do is put all our positive focused thought behind the decisions we’ve made. Do not split your energy by second guessing yourself all the time by asking “What if, I don’t know, maybe?”
When you split your energy in this way, you achieve mixed results because the Law of Attraction has responded to your mixed up unsure vibration with similar results.

It’s not possible to make the “Wrong decision” because any decision that’s given focused positive thought for some time, will reap good results, and I say “That is so Awesome!!”

And so it is….

Why would we ask….For everyone else’s opinion???

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I am not necessarily saying asking for others opinions about something is right or wrong, but it is an indication of where we are in relation to what we’re asking about.
The most important factor to consider when we’re asking for an opinion from someone else is, what is our reason for asking, and how are we feeling about the subject we’re asking about.
For example, are we generally exchanging ideas in a progressive conversation without any premeditated ideas or the need of getting others opinions on a specific subject? I would consider this mostly positive, good feeling communication with the exchanging of many ideas and opinions on many different subjects, and although we may be listening to many different opinions, we are not coming from a place of unknowingness, but more from a place of interest.
During these conversations, we may hear many things that inspire us to find out more about what we have talked about.
If we are coming from a not so good vibrational place of unknowingness, or we feel a need to know what others think in order to come to our own decision or opinion, this is often not so positive.
Why?
If our vibrational feelings are strongly directed towards not knowing and unsureness, if we have a decent amount of power and momentum behind these feelings through our focused thoughts, the Law of Attraction responds in-kind to our vibration with manifestational evidence of what is pulsing strongly within us, often increasing our feelings of not knowing where we sit with our own opinion and usually just confuses us more!! A strong negative feeling of not knowing what to think or do brings you more feelings of the same. (although over time, if we do not move to a better feeling place, the strength of the emotions we’re feeling often increase)
Yes, it is true, and all of us feel unsure about things in our lives at one time or another, but for some that feel unsure in many areas of their life, it can become very difficult to make a decision about anything.
Sometimes it’s a specific subject that we may hold some resistance to or about, that we attempt to get many people’s opinion on?
But even if the information we gain is good and positive, we just don’t know it and usually continue to look for more information that will make us feel better. This can become a cycle until we finally realise we could ask a million people their opinion and we still wouldn’t know what to do.
This is when we need to find our inner strength and decide we might as well go with what we think we should do and feel as good as we can about whatever decision we do make, for other people’s opinions are exactly that; a conclusion one has come to based on what they are wanting and what they have experienced so far in their own life. (which often doesn’t have a lot to do with your life, where you are, and what you are wanting)
We may learn from, and ponder information given to us from others, but ultimately only we know how we feel and what we are wanting, so it’s important to come to our own opinions and make our own decisions, for no other is in a better position than us, to make our decisions!

And so it is….

Question from Master Eight…. Is it better to listen to other people?

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This is a conversation between me and my eight-year-old son that I recorded and then typed out for this post.
If you’re wondering why it’s because he often asks me the most amazing questions that we’ll have a long conversation about. The last question he had was a few days ago, and at the end of it I said: “I’ve got an awesome idea, we should try recording our conversations and I’ll make a post out of them!” He thought that was a cool idea, so this is a conversation we had today!

For ease of reading, I have edited unnecessary content and very personal circumstances related to the subject we’ve been talking about but feel it’s a truthful representation, most being word for word, of our conversation.

Master Eight-M8, is in Italics.

So what’s your question again Darling?

M8-Is it better to listen to other people?

Compared to what?

M8-Uhm…Uhm…

Compared to what you want to do?

M8-Yes.

So what made you want to know that?

M8-Because I just wanted to know if people should listen to others.

So you want to know if you should listen to other people?

M8-Yes.

Like what other people?

M8-Like you and Daddy, people like that…

So you mean just Mummy and Daddy, not other people, because do you usually listen to other people?

M8-Uhm…uhm…no.

Ok, who would be the other people in your life apart from Mummy and Daddy that you would listen too?

M8-Arghh…Uhm…My teacher at school.

Anyone else….or are you only talking about people you know well?

M8-Yer, not just like people you don’t know that are strangers because if people say things to me and it’s someone I don’t know, I don’t say anything and I just don’t listen to them.

That’s a good idea, it’s not good to listen to people you don’t know.

Do you think it’s a good idea to listen to Mummy and Daddy and your teacher at school?

M8-Yes.

Why do you think it’s a good idea?

M8-Well, sometimes if I don’t listen to you guys I might not get to do other things I want to do.

Ok, is that the only reason you listen because you don’t want the negative consequences?

M8-Yes.

Are you sure that’s the only reason you listen, because you don’t want something unwanted to happen?

M8-Yes.

So…Uhm…

M8-Well, sometimes I listen to you when I’m playing my game when you call me for lunch or dinner and I don’t just ignore you because I’m hungry.

Hehehe…

Well, I think it’s a little bit sad the only reason you listen is because you want to be able to play your game, is that the only reason you listen?

M8-No.

Well, what other reasons are there?

M8-Arghh…because…I’m thinking…I’m thinking…I’m thinking…

Well my question to you is, are you only listening to us to avoid not being able to have something you want?

M8-Well sometimes I get in trouble if I don’t listen to you guys.

Yes, but…

M8-And I don’t like getting in trouble…

Like what sort of trouble?

M8-Like if I am mean I get told off or I have to go away for a bit.

But aren’t you sometimes listening because it feels good to listen?

M8-Yes, it does sometimes.

But you don’t listen to us all the time though do you, so if we asked you to do something but it strongly goes against what you want to do you don’t always listen, which is okay I’m just saying you’re not only listening to us blindly without any regard to how you’re feeling.

M8-Yes.

Would it be true to say you’re making a choice to listen based on, will it feel better to listen and do this or will it feel better not to listen and do that.
And doesn’t the decision you make depend on the possible consequences you think may happen, and how much you do or don’t want to do something, but it’s still a choice that you make after weighing up all the pros and cons of the situation.

So would it be fair to say you’re making your decisions based on what feels best and what you feel will get you the closest to what you are wanting and sometimes that’s listening to Mum and Dad and sometimes it isn’t

M8-Yes.

That’s all you can do, that’s what everyone does, from where ever we are now, we’re all choosing what we feel is the best option for us, the choice we feel will hopefully produce the best outcome.

Of course, I’m Mum so I would always say it’s a good idea to listen to your Awesome Mummy wouldn’t I!! Hehehe

M8-And Awesome Daddy!! Hehehe

Yes, and at the end of the day, you’re always guided by yourself. Sometimes it’s good to listen, and sometimes it isn’t, I can’t say you should always or exclusively listen to anyone because you have to listen to yourself. Only you know what feels best for you, don’t you think Darling?

M8-Yes.

And so it is….

Why do I find it difficult to make decisions???

 

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Which way to go is not as important as our focus once a decision has been made. Even less than desirable decisions have the possibility of amazingly positive results.         Paulette De-Har  

There are many reasons why we may find it difficult to make decisions in our life, but it always comes down to the same thing in the end. The fear of making a decision that may unfold in an unwanted direction, and of course none of us want to do this.
This is often based on a false belief that all that’s required for something to turn out well is to make the correct decision, and although it’s true to say the better we feel about the decisions we make, the higher the possibility of a positive outcome becomes, decision-making is only a small part of the creative process. Nonetheless, it is important, for if we cannot make decisions effectively, it can be difficult to move forward in any direction, leaving us in a type of limbo of indecision, until we’re forced into making a decision, and that never usually feels good.

 

Once we’ve made a clear decision, we are now often in the place where we are inspired to take action. The outcome will depend greatly on how much positive vibrational momentum we had in the beginning and if we were able to maintain a positive focus as we moved forward with the tasks that need to be undertaken to achieve our goal.

It’s important to know, everything that unfolds is based on our thoughts and feelings in relation to our decision. Continually questioning and second-guessing whether we’ve made the correct decision, splits our vibrational energy rather than putting all our positive thought behind the decisions we’ve made.
Whatever choice we make is not that important, what is important is putting all our positive thought behind the decision we have made, and not looking back with regret. So it doesn’t have to be the “best choice in the world” because we make it the “best choice” by the power of our positive thought!!!
When we do make choices, choosing what we believe is best and running with it is all we can do, and if we find ourselves thinking negatively as we sometimes do, making an effort to feel slightly better at that moment is a great thing to do. If we have a lot of resistance this may not be that easy so we may need to completely change our focus to something different, returning to think about and move our resistant subject when we are in a better feeling better place.
If making decisions has become difficult for us, we may become more and more unsure of ourselves as time goes by. This is because a strong vibration of uncertainty, unsureness and fear creates more of the same feeling within us as the Law of Attraction responds to those dominant thoughts and feelings in-kind. As our vibration is emitted from us, it moves out into the Universe and joins with other vibrations with similar emotional feelings and thoughts, gaining power and momentum to eventually returning to us.
Our vibration can be changed in every moment we are conscious, but as we hold any thought that produces an emotional feeling and focus on it, it becomes easier to feel this way as the powerful Law of Attraction is giving us easier access to more and more thoughts, with the same vibrational content. This is where the saying “from bad to worse” comes from, but I prefer “from good to better” because it works both ways.

The Law of Attraction is giving back that which we’ve originally sent out, and adding power to it so we know where we are. For anything to manifest in our life experience, many thoughts need to be held over time and with emotional intensity, it matters not whether they are negative thoughts and feelings producing unwanted circumstances or positive thoughts and feelings producing wanted experiences.
The Law of Attraction does not judge any thought as good or bad, it’s purely a magnifying mirror if you like. Yes, that’s a good analogy.
So what we’re thinking and feeling in relation to what we’re wanting is incredibly important, for this is creating our future experiences. Everyone is getting immediate feedback from our Inner Being in every moment as to where what we’re thinking now, is taking us. If we’re feeling a positive emotion, we can know for sure, we’re moving towards wanted experiences, whereas if we’re feeling negative emotion we can know for sure we’re moving towards unwanted experiences.

Remember, our vibration can be changed because we have control over what we think and how we feel, and we have the ability to move to a better feeling place on any and all subjects that are important to us.
We’ve all made it this far whether we’ve known this or not and we will continue living many wonderful things, all I am saying is….there may be some amazing Universal Laws that we haven’t been aware of, that the understanding of, will change many things in our lives for the better.
When we begin to experience and know this, it becomes easier to make decisions, but don’t take my word for it, only you have the power to show yourself how you are creating your life.
It does take some time and effort, but I’m not sure if there’s a more worthwhile cause than living the awesome life you came here to live!!

And so our journey together continues….