False Beliefs

Why do I find it difficult to make decisions???

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Which way to go is not as important as our focus once a decision has been made. Even less than desirable decisions have the possibility of amazingly positive results.         Paulette De-Har  

There are many reasons why we may find it difficult to make decisions in our life, but it always comes down to the same thing in the end. The fear of making a decision that may unfold in an unwanted direction, and of course none of us want to do this.
This is often based on a false belief that all that’s required for something to turn out well is to make the correct decision, and although it’s true to say the better we feel about the decisions we make, the higher the possibility of a positive outcome becomes, decision-making is only a small part of the creative process. Nonetheless, it is important, for if we cannot make decisions effectively, it can be difficult to move forward in any direction, leaving us in a type of limbo of indecision, until we’re forced into making a decision, and that never usually feels good.

 

Once we’ve made a clear decision, we are now often in the place where we are inspired to take action. The outcome will depend greatly on how much positive vibrational momentum we had in the beginning and if we were able to maintain a positive focus as we moved forward with the tasks that need to be undertaken to achieve our goal.

It’s important to know, everything that unfolds is based on our thoughts and feelings in relation to our decision. Continually questioning and second-guessing whether we’ve made the correct decision, splits our vibrational energy rather than putting all our positive thought behind the decisions we’ve made.
Whatever choice we make is not that important, what is important is putting all our positive thought behind the decision we have made, and not looking back with regret. So it doesn’t have to be the “best choice in the world” because we make it the “best choice” by the power of our positive thought!!!
When we do make choices, choosing what we believe is best and running with it is all we can do, and if we find ourselves thinking negatively as we sometimes do, making an effort to feel slightly better at that moment is a great thing to do. If we have a lot of resistance this may not be that easy so we may need to completely change our focus to something different, returning to think about and move our resistant subject when we are in a better feeling better place.
If making decisions has become difficult for us, we may become more and more unsure of ourselves as time goes by. This is because a strong vibration of uncertainty, unsureness and fear creates more of the same feeling within us as the Law of Attraction responds to those dominant thoughts and feelings in-kind. As our vibration is emitted from us, it moves out into the Universe and joins with other vibrations with similar emotional feelings and thoughts, gaining power and momentum to eventually returning to us.
Our vibration can be changed in every moment we are conscious, but as we hold any thought that produces an emotional feeling and focus on it, it becomes easier to feel this way as the powerful Law of Attraction is giving us easier access to more and more thoughts, with the same vibrational content. This is where the saying “from bad to worse” comes from, but I prefer “from good to better” because it works both ways.

The Law of Attraction is giving back that which we’ve originally sent out, and adding power to it so we know where we are. For anything to manifest in our life experience, many thoughts need to be held over time and with emotional intensity, it matters not whether they are negative thoughts and feelings producing unwanted circumstances or positive thoughts and feelings producing wanted experiences.
The Law of Attraction does not judge any thought as good or bad, it’s purely a magnifying mirror if you like. Yes, that’s a good analogy.
So what we’re thinking and feeling in relation to what we’re wanting is incredibly important, for this is creating our future experiences. Everyone is getting immediate feedback from our Inner Being in every moment as to where what we’re thinking now, is taking us. If we’re feeling a positive emotion, we can know for sure, we’re moving towards wanted experiences, whereas if we’re feeling negative emotion we can know for sure we’re moving towards unwanted experiences.

Remember, our vibration can be changed because we have control over what we think and how we feel, and we have the ability to move to a better feeling place on any and all subjects that are important to us.
We’ve all made it this far whether we’ve known this or not and we will continue living many wonderful things, all I am saying is….there may be some amazing Universal Laws that we haven’t been aware of, that the understanding of, will change many things in our lives for the better.
When we begin to experience and know this, it becomes easier to make decisions, but don’t take my word for it, only you have the power to show yourself how you are creating your life.
It does take some time and effort, but I’m not sure if there’s a more worthwhile cause than living the awesome life you came here to live!!

And so our journey together continues….

Knowledge is power….Or is it???

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Is knowledge power? Well, that depends on what your definition of power and knowledge is.
Some people believe that power is having control over others, and although they may feel like they control others, in truth this in an illusion, for no other can take your power away from you without your permission, you must be a cooperative participant and allow it to happen. I’m unsure how believing you have the ability to make people feel inferior and miserable is a definition of power, but unfortunately, for some, it is.
When I speak of power, I’m never referring to believing you have power over others, the power I speak of is the power you have within you, that is consistent, reliable, and available to you in every moment, on all subjects that are important to you. Even if you aren’t aware of the Inner Guidance that’s available to you, that does not mean your Inner Being is not communicating with you. It means you are not aware of it and aren’t hearing it.
Why have we not been hearing our Inner Being?
Because we haven’t understood how that communication has been taking place. Our Inner Being or the Non-Physical part of us is communicating to us through our emotions. We have mistakenly thought our emotions are confirmation that whatever or whoever we’re observing when we feel negative emotion, is bad or doing something wrong, and because of this false belief, we’ll often try to control people’s behaviour so that we can feel better when we observe them. It doesn’t take to long to work out that doesn’t work. But what’s the alternative? To take control of your mind and know that you have the ability and choice to feel better about whatever it is you’re giving your attention to now. Not in 10 minutes, 10 days, 10 months or 10 years, right now!! You have the ability to feel a little better about what you’re thinking about right now, even if it’s only a slight improvement in how you’re feeling. Imagine if you make this small effort every time you find yourself in a not good feeling place, you can make some serious positive vibrational movement (positive emotional movement) in a short amount of time, and it doesn’t take long before this is reflected in your real life manifestations, for its like anything else in life, when you first start doing something new, it’s a little tricky but once you get the hang of it, it gets easier and easier. Yes, as you feel better and maintain that higher vibrational place, your manifestations must follow that improved feeling place. That’s how this Universe works. You are receiving that which you have put out through your vibrational offering (powerful focused thoughts and emotions). As you move to better feeling places on subjects that are important to you, you will be able to more easily access your Inner Guidance and create more of what you’re wanting in your life experience.
What about knowledge, is knowledge power?
That depends entirely on what knowledge you hold. Any knowledge you hold that prevents you from being happy cannot give you a feeling of having power in your life. But it can be an opportunity to either leave that knowledge out of the equation or gradually move to a better feeling place regarding it.
Knowledge that empowers you and makes you feel good is wonderful, whereas knowledge that disempowers you and makes you feel terrible is not good. Remember, as you think of anything you know or believe, your Inner Being is communicating to you and letting you know if you are moving in the direction of something you are wanting or not.
So, is knowledge power? Yes and no. If the knowledge you hold moves you closer to what you are wanting and feels good, yes. If the knowledge you hold moves you further from what you are wanting and feels bad, No.
Start paying particular attention to how you are feeling about things, for many of us have gotten so used to feeling a certain way about something it has become our normal way of feeling. If you want to know how you feel about something, focus on it, and this will give you an emotional feeling that will let you know where you are. It’s important to know where you are before you can move to where you are wanting to go, be kind to yourself while doing this and remember, we have all been doing the best we can based on what we’ve known, and when we know better, we can do better, and that’s what life is all about!

And so our journey continues….

Some truths about marriage…

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Marriage means different things to different people, but it is generally accepted by most, that it is a commitment between two people, into an intimate relationship that excludes all others and lasts, “till death do us part”.

Well, that’s a very nice idea in a perfect world, actually, that’s a nice idea in any world. The question that’s interesting to ask is, is it really possible in the days that we are now living?
Absolutely yes, it’s completely possible, especially if that’s what we’re wanting, so why the high incidence of separation? As you can imagine, there are millions of reasons why people may separate, but often, there tends to be misconceptions or misguided beliefs about life, marriage, and relationships that contribute to this, therefore causing a flow on effect of smaller disagreements, and eventually more serious incidents.

Addressing misconceptions or false beliefs, not just the symptoms, is key, for running around trying to deal with the symptoms without addressing the deeper underlying causes, does not usually work, or only works in the short-term.
As you eradicate one symptom, another one rears its head, for the underlined cause is still there, and has not been dealt with.

A major misconceptions or false belief is, that it’s another person’s job to keep us happy. Now it goes without saying that most want to have uplifting and positive interactions with those around them, and that is a great desire, but if you are relying on others to always provide you with this, you get yourself, and whoever you are interacting with, in a very difficult position, for now you require them to behave in specific ways, before you allow yourself to be happy.

This is a sure way to stifle any relationship, for when you start requiring specific behaviour from others, you give them the responsibility for making you happy, rather than being responsible and in control, of your own happiness. Living in this way is like being on a rollercoaster, for you have made your happiness dependent on what the other is, or is not doing. For the person expected to behave in specific ways to please the other, this is very tiresome, and over time, becomes a burden that leads to resentment.
I’m not saying it’s not nice when people are behaving in ways we find to be wonderful, of course it is, and yes, we’d be crazy not to be happy about that when it happens, but when this is a prerequisite we require before allowing ourselves to be happy, we’re in for a rough ride.
Our true power and freedom comes from being able to be happy, apart from what others are doing. I know it isn’t always easy when coming from a life experience where you needed to behave in ways to make those around you happy, where there were often strong negative consequences if we did not. I suppose it’s natural that we often follow the same path that we were brought up with, but part of growing up, is questioning the beliefs that have been passed to us and deciding for ourselves, how we want to live our life now!

Are the beliefs that have been passed to me by my family, my community or my religion relevant to the life I’m living now? These questions can only be asked and answered by each individual, for no other is in a better position, to decide what is best for you, than you are. When you allow yourself and others the freedom to be who they really are, not just in marriage, but in all relationships, and you make it your job to keep yourself happy apart from how others are or are not behaving, you are a pure joy to be around!
For true love is synonymous with freedom, and freedom is at the very core of who we really are!

And so our journey continues….