It’s not always easy to truly support someone you love?

SnowTigerWhenever we feel someone we care about needs support whether it be emotionally, financially or in some other way, it’s always a balancing act.
During difficult times it can be tempting to try and fix someone else’s problems by doing too much for them or telling them what to do. Although this may be preferable to leaving someone to struggle on alone, it can prevent them from the learning and achieving the growth that often comes from going through difficult circumstances that will help them to cope and deal with similar situations that could happen in the future.
It’s only natural we may feel negative emotion when listening to the struggles of a loved one because naturally, we want to see them happy, but helping someone too much can come from our own desire to feel happy by seeing the person we love feeling better.
In reality, every situation is different with both people having their own personal perspective about what’s happening and we can only ever do what we feel is best at any given moment. When emotions are running high, sometimes all anyone really needs is someone to listen to how they are feeling without judgement rather than coming up with 100 ideas on how to fix the problem. I’m not saying that some well considered gentle advice may not be a good idea if we strongly feel it will help, but when someone is in turmoil they are often not in the place to be able to hear or put into action any advice and instead it may cause them to become more confused or even worse, feel like they are being judged in a negative way.
Men especially like to fix things and when faced with an emotionally unstable female counterpart often use all their brain power to come up with as many actions as they can to try and rectify the problem as quickly as possible. Although much of the time this is coming from a place of caring, things can quickly turn pear shaped if one isn’t careful.
I suppose the moral of the story is most of us can and do sort our own problems out one way or another and often all we require is someone to truly listen to us without judgment and with compassion and love.
When we truly listen without taking on our counterparts negative emotions and feeling bad ourselves by making a conscious effort to stay in a neutral or positive emotional place, this is the best support we can provide that doesn’t dictate what should be done but let’s the other feel, express and possibly let go of the negative emotions they are feeling. When we understand it is through the thoughts and emotions we feel that creates our future life experiences, we can know what a great service listening to another can provide without the need to give any advice.
You only need to observe people to know it’s difficult to find someone who can listen to others in this way as most people have so much going on in their own lives that much of their thought process is taken up with what they are currently doing and dealing with depriving them of the ability to be able to truly listen to another. If we have had the good fortune to have someone who has been in the place to truly listen to us when we’ve needed it, we can know the great difference it can make to us as we move forward. Sometimes it’s the smallest things that make the biggest differences in our lives.

No one else can really solve our problems for us no matter what advice we’ve been given. It is always each individuals responsibility to decide what is best for themselves. It was never supposed to be someone else’s job to tell others how they should live their lives and what they should be doing, that’s what each person came here to decide for themselves. By just being there for someone and listening gives them the opportunity to get how they are feeling out and make space for healing and clarity to come in…….

And so it does…..

How your parents feel about you doesn’t matter…….Unless it matters to you!


Big Bear

Something worth remembering while pondering the question of how much we care about what our parents think about us is.……They are merely human beings with human beliefs, human failings and resistance just as all human beings have, although to differing degrees depending on how we’ve lived our lives and the choices we’ve made. In other words how anyone thinks or feels about anything is a reflection of the life they’ve lived and the beliefs they hold, it is not the ultimate truth of how things should be but is purely one’s own perception of how they feel the world should or shouldn’t be. This purely personal perspective comes from deciding what we want to live in our lives but has nothing to do with what someone else may be here to do or what they want to live in their lives. In fact, if you think about it…..It is highly arrogant to believe we know what any other human being has specifically come here to do and then dictate to them in a negative way when we feel they are not meeting what we think they are here for and what they should be doing……..What a joke! Many people find it difficult themselves to know why they are here and what they should be doing let alone knowing what others are exactly here to do and how and when they should be doing this or that.


Many may argue, “I’ve been here longer and I know more about life so they should follow what I say.” And to some extent, I would have to agree, especially when children are very young with little to no life experience behind them. But as they grow and learn it is so important to guide them in a positive way from a good feeling place and for them to start being the driver in their own life rather than the co-pilot that’s being told what to do all the time.

When a child’s life is micromanaged and strongly controlled usually one of two things happen. Either the child rebels with strongly negative behaviours or gives in and lets every facet of their life be controlled. Neither alternative is ideal and can incapacitate someone as they grow if they start to believe they are not good enough or are not capable to do things for themselves. If a child has come to believe such negative things about themselves this can become a self-fulfilling prophecy where they unknowingly create circumstances that give them evidence of the beliefs they hold. This can take a long time to unlearn such distorted beliefs with many living a large portion of their physical life feeling this way until they become aware of who they really are and what they are really capable of.

I’m sure it would be true to say that no parent would knowingly do this to their children and that if this does happen it’s through a lack of both understanding and awareness of what we are really doing and how this life is really working.

Getting back to how our parents feel about us, if emotions of love, respect, honesty and acceptance are felt from our parents obviously this is wonderful, but on the flip side of this, if we are met with feelings of hostility, resentment, annoyance, disapproval and coldness, this is not so good. This is a type of very conditional love. A love that says I will love you if you will do this or that, otherwise I will not love you. Instead, I will resent you and I will do my best to make you feel bad so you will change your behaviour and then I can look at you and feel happy. This has everything to do with being selfish and nothing to do with unconditional love. True happiness never comes from trying to control another’s actions but through guiding in a positive manner by controlling our mind and making a constant and consistent effort to find good feeling emotions no matter what outer circumstances we may be presented with. If we are unable to give this unconditional love to our children it will be likely that we will not be able to give unconditional love to anyone including ourselves.

If we feel a lack of approval from our parents because of the choices we’ve made in our lives that for whatever reason they don’t agree with, it is completely our choice to how we choose to feel about this. We can either feel bad and blame either ourselves or our parents for not behaving in a better way, or we can acknowledge that we are an individual with our own lives to live and be happy we have been true to who we are by doing what we believed was in our best interest at any given time.

Isn’t that what everyone is doing. I know we consider those we care about when making decisions, but essentially our decisions come from our own personal perspective, not another’s. It is important to be strong and not allow our parents or anyone else’s negative feelings about us to send us crashing off into the ditch of, “I’m not good enough or poor me.” Such beliefs unconsciously filter into every part of our lives reaping unwanted results that can be difficult to trace back to a belief we may be unaware we have. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t consider changing something if we feel this is appropriate and is a good direction to take, but changing to gain approval from anyone else is not a very good idea for now we are being guided by someone externally to ourselves that can never truly know what is in our heart and the direction that is best for us to go in. This guidance comes from within each of us and is directed by the life we’ve lived so far and what we are wanting so is specific to each individual person and cannot be truly known by someone outside of us.

So let’s guide our children in the best way we know how from the best possible feeling place we can find. Strive to unconditionally love and guide them no matter how they behave. Support them and let them learn the power that they have to create their own life, to make good decisions, to know how to be happy, and to believe in who and what they are.

Teach them that you only want the best for them, that you understand it is their life, not your life they are living, and most importantly teach them that what you or anyone else thinks about them doesn’t truly matter……All that matters is how they think and feel about themselves.
That’s when we have taught them truth and strength, and from this place of empowerment and knowing, there is nothing they cannot achieve……

And so it is……

Do you believe in Psychic Predictions?

Voices Within

It’s difficult to speak about predictions of possible or probable future events without first discussing whether one believes such predictions are even possible or real.

When thinking about this, it’s similar to any subject or information we may be receiving from a source outside of ourselves in the sense that it depends on our perspective in relation to what the other is saying and also where the persons perspective is that is delivering such information. In other words, anything given or received will depend on both parties experiences, beliefs and knowing gained in the current life being lived with possible information being brought forward from what human beings like to call past or future life experiences.

That being true, I’m sure it’s not too much of a surprise to some it certainly is possible to predict events that may occur in the future and I would go as far to say that almost all people at some time or another have either knowingly or unknowingly predicted future events in their own lives. By understanding how the energy of predictions can be read and what the probability of them coming into fruition may be can shed much light on a subject that may have previously been seen as somewhat mystical and esoteric in nature.

The process is quite simple really. It’s only a matter of being sensitive to reading the current energy that either a specific person, or groups of people maybe emitting about any given subject that’s important to them that gives the reader the ability to feel and read the probability of certain outcomes.
It’s extremely important to understand that no matter how sensitive any being may be to the vibrations others emit, it is only possible to read the energy as it is right here, right now, and therefore there can never be an 100% chance of anything occurring unless it happens at that exact moment……..And then it’s not really a prediction is it.
The best way I can think to describe it is to see it as a numbers game. The stronger any vibrations being emitted are, the sooner and higher the probability of what the feeling of the core of that vibration is has of manifesting in the future. This is why no future predictions can ever be 100% sure as we have the complete ability to change our vibration and often do in every and any moment that we are living if we so choose too.

I think it’s easy to understand the stronger we have something going on, the lower the likelihood is that vibration will be altered as strong momentum has usually been achieved by this stage and does takes a tremendous amount of focus and knowing to move or change, nevertheless of course it’s possible. The further away a prediction is the lower the probability is of the proposed outcome is as there’s more time between the reading of the current energy vibrations and the possible time of something manifesting giving more time for that vibration to be altered therefore creating altered realities and manifestations.

So what does this really mean? Nothing if we have no interest in the mechanics behind such circumstances or don’t believe such things are possible.
Whether we believe or not all people read other people’s vibrations to differing degrees depending on how sensitive they are and how strongly the signal or vibrations that are being emitted are. We would perceive nothing if this was not true. Although it is often easy to read other people’s vibrations I believe the real benefit is to cultivate a vibrational sensitivity to one’s self and what is within ourselves. This gives us the ability to feel what maybe coming into our soon or not to distant experience and gives us a chance to alter our vibration if the feeling of what may possibly be coming isn’t good or to strengthen our focus on those things that are feeling good and bring them into our physical reality in a more timely manner.

It’s not really for me to say how people actually translate theses vibrations as it is different for each person. However the translation happens whether it be a strong thought that pops into one’s head, a vision, a sound or smell, or a mixture of any of these, and leaves one with a distinct and often strong knowing of a probable outcome.

For me it’s not about predicting possible world events, especially supposedly not good ones. No, I would never give my powerful focus to anything so unwanted. I know that no matter what happens on the world stage, circumstances always work themselves out one way or another and I choose to believe even through the worst of circumstances, once the dust has settled, finding a better place always prevails……

And so it does……

Be careful if you stick your oars into someone else’s boat….You might not like what you find!!!

BoatIn truth we don’t really need to worry about sticking our oars in someone else’s boat because no matter where we’ve chosen to put our oars, we have the ability to remove them and put them somewhere else.

Although easy in theory……..Not always so easy in reality. Why is that???

Once we have put or given our focused attention (oars) to anything whether it be a particular person, personal situation or even circumstances that for the time being sit outside of our immediate experience, momentum of thought is created.
Once momentum of thought has been achieved through our focused thoughts, words and eventually actions, this can be like trying to stop a train that has gained quite a lot of speed. We may be able to slow it a little bit, but we’d probably get run over in the process. The faster the trains going (a subject that’s been given a lot of focused thought over time) the bigger the chance of being run down is if we try to stop it. Whereas the slower the trains going ( a subject that’s been given a small amount of thought over less time) the less likely we are to be run down.

Given this analogy, if we are feeling some negative emotion to certain thoughts we are having, it seems like it would be a good idea to stop our train (the momentum created through our focused thoughts) before something unwanted turns up in our experience. On the other hand if it’s good feeling positive emotions we’re feeling, no one in their right mind would want to stop the momentum of that!!! Positive emotions held onto over time with belief and knowing, especially in the face of opposition to what we are wanting (resistance) must eventually attract what we truly are wanting. That’s the Law of Attraction in action with no living entity on this planet sitting outside of this Law…..”EVER!!!” (As Count Dracula says in Hotel Transylvania……God I love that movie!!!)

So the question needs to be asked……why wouldn’t we stop a train that’s going in an unwanted direction before it gets too far off its path and becomes a bigger problem???
Mainly because firstly we may not be aware of how our train came to be off its path, and secondly because we don’t know how to get our train back on its path. It helps to know how we came to be off track before we can truly begin to be able to get back on track.

Generally, most human beings are captivated by what’s happening around them giving their undivided attention to whatever’s happening. That’s great if everything we’re observing is what we are wanting to experience, but let’s face it, I don’t think there’s probably anywhere on this planet one could go and find all circumstances around them to be to their liking, unless they have made it their primary job to disregard unwanted and focus as much as possible on what they see that they like.
So no matter where we find ourselves, there is the potential to focus on either wanted or unwanted circumstances, and it would be accurate to say what and how we focus the energy that pulses through us directly correlates to the circumstances we attract into our life experience.

Never before in our history has there been so much energy moving so quickly through all life forms on this planet. This means that results from our focused thoughts are attracting vibrational matches far more quickly than ever before. It does not take long when we hold either negative or positive emotions on any subject that is important to us to see the attraction process begin its momentum. This causes us to feel our emotions quickly and strongly, giving us the opportunity to acknowledge where we are and to make an effort to start and change our thought patterns if we feel we may be going off in the ditch somewhere.

The stronger emotions most are feeling in these times, although rather bothersome especially if they are strongly negative, helps to prevent us from becoming complacent or from just ‘putting up with it’ so to speak. If we are experiencing negative emotion but are not dealing with it in its earlier more subtle stages, it does not stay at that level of intensity for long. If not moved into a better feeling place by making an effort to change the thoughts that produced the negative emotion in the first place, it only gets bigger and feels stronger until it’s almost impossible to ignore or ‘put up with’. If we continue to ignore when we feel strong negative emotion, momentum grows until we experience fully manifested circumstances that will have the same emotional feelings to what created it in the first place. Very good if it’s positive good feeling thoughts and circumstances we’re focused upon…….Otherwise no so good.

Back to our oars, there really isn’t anything to fear about where or who we choose to give our attention to because we have the absolute free will and power to retreat and simply put our attention (oars) somewhere else, but it’s very helpful to know that the more we focus on where we’ve put our oars that we didn’t want too, the more entangled we become in something we aren’t wanting. If momentum is not slowed down and changed, this can send us into a place where the choices we currently find before us are choices we don’t want to have to make. Even if we find ourselves in these circumstances…….All is never ever lost.

We can start from wherever we are right now, no matter how bad we may currently feel. We can start to feel better and better therefore creating and attracting better and better circumstances into our lives!!!

This I know to the core of who I am……

And so I do…….

Why do others try to control me???


No benefit comes from letting others control us. By giving into others against our own guidance hurts all involved in the end.          Paulette De-Har

This is a comment I received and responded to in relation to a post about special does not mean better, and since I thought it was especially special……..I thought it would be nice to post it. Thank-you to the person who sent it to me. I greatly appreciated your response as it strongly inspired much that I know and helped me to put that knowledge into words. Apart from that, it always feels very good when something we already know is understood in even greater breadth and depth than before.


It happens often that people when they want to try to control me, and they fail because I notice, they act as if I were better than them. I know that is not true, but nevertheless, I have to live with it. There are many people who control peoples’ lives because they probably don’t have a life of their own, or they like to project their frustrations on others. Special could also mean being able “to read between the lines.”

People often try to control others because they don’t like what “that person” is doing believing others behaviour will threaten them in some way or another. At the very core of who we all really are, it is known we are supposed to feel good but many have forgotten they have the complete and absolute power to make themselves happy and are instead trying to control other people and circumstances to produce the good feelings they desire.

Anyone who has lived for any decent period of time will usually come to understand that this is a futile endeavour but without knowing they have the power within them to move their thoughts and therefore their feeling responses into better feeling places, they are lost either continually trying to control others or to giving up hope of ever feeling better and remaining in an uncomfortable, not good feeling place. Both of these options are completely unacceptable when it does not have to be this way when we can;

1. Decide to make an effort to feel better than where we currently are apart from the physical conditions we may be experiencing. I know, not an easy thing to do when we have not practised doing this, but one must start somewhere don’t you think!!!
2. Knowing no other can assert anything into our experience for all things are created and attracted to us through the power of our focused thoughts that the Law Of Attraction responds in kind too, both wanted and unwanted whether we are aware of these truths or not.
3. Being kind to ourselves and others because that’s who we really are, and if it’s not possible in the moment, at least turning away and not responding negatively.

In response to others acting as if you are better than them when you are understanding you are not, this is often because people can sense when another they are observing is in a vastly different vibrational, emotional place than they are and will react in a variety of different ways depending on where they are. For Example someone in a very good feeling emotional place that is observed by someone in a low not so good feeling emotional place will often get strong negative attention directed towards them even though they are not giving this energy out!
Those that observe that are vibrationally closer to someone in a high good feeling emotional place are more likely to admire what they see but whether they will actually approach such a person depends on exactly how good they are feeling. In other words looking at others hi-lights within us how we really feel about ourselves but if we don’t know this we project any negativeness outwards to those we believe have created it where in truth it is our own beliefs, thoughts and feelings that have created this resistance within us.

I don’t believe people try to control others lives because they don’t have a life of their own, they try to control others because this is what they have been taught they need to do in order to feel happy, and everyone is trying to feel happy. It is true that many project their frustrations onto others because holding onto much negative energy without making an effort to feel better unconditionally apart from conditions is like putting an oxygen tank under pressure…..It’s only a matter of time before that pressure cannot be held in any longer and the tank explodes. Although most will temporarily feel better after this release of negative energy, it is short lived for as the Law Of Attraction responds to that which they have given out in the form of thoughts, words, and actions, that energy increases in power and momentum before being delivered back to where it first originated……
This is why reacting to strong negative energy others send out is not ideal for then negativeness they have released is passed on and although they will still receive back that which they have originally given out, now we will also receive back the negative energy we have received and in turn have given out and the chain of pain continues on and on……

Unless we start to understand through our own life experiences how this life is really working by paying attention to how we feel and noticing what is turning up in our lives. Anyone that does this from a pure place of wanting to know how to create a better life will eventually receive the answers they so desire!!!

And yes, special means different things to different people and I would agree being sensitive to oneself and others is very special indeed……

And so it is……

If the politicians did a better job, my life would be better…..Wouldn’t it???

ProblemQuoteWell,……Maybe yes or maybe no, who knows??? This is a statement that says something like……”I am not responsible for any of the unwanted things I see in the world around me. I give my power and responsibility for creating a happy life over to someone else who I may have forgotten is here to follow the life they want to live and are doing what they believe is right.” I am not suggesting that the decisions politicians make do not impact on our way of life, of course they do. This is what we call a democratic society and without such systems in place, as a species we would not have progressed as far as we currently have. Does that mean all the decisions being made are to everyone’s liking or that things unfold in a positive, wanted way? No, there’s no guarantees with anything that has many variables with large numbers of people in different vibrational places in relation to so many subjects that are important to us.

I do not get into political debates as those that often talk about politics tend to have strong opinions that unfortunately tend to be highly negative in nature. Can you remember having conversations with such a person who highlights all the good and positive decisions the current politicians have made……Uhhhmmmm, not usually. The good created is often completed ignored in favour of all the things in their opinion that have gone wrong or will not produce the outcomes they are wanting. One in such a place is not able to see any good because the strength of their negative focus does not give them the ability to see it!!!

By focusing on all that has not worked well, and even worse having negative predictions for what has not yet unfolded helps to create the exact circumstances we are not wanting to experience, Law of Attraction says it must. No one on their own has created unwanted political circumstances, but together and collectively we are creating our experience and decisions are made that effect many people. How we feel about all things that are important to us in relation to political issues and any other subjects for that matter will have a bearing on whatever outcomes are achieved. This is the same whether we are creating specific circumstances in our own lives with those we are close with or when we are creating circumstances collectively with many we do not personally know.

When we are creating with others, which we are doing most of the time unless we live on a deserted island somewhere with no other people around us. (probably not reading this if that’s the case!!!) I like to think of our collective creative power in terms of a light that receives its charge from many small batteries. The more batteries that work together, the better the charge will be and the more likely that our light will glow brightly. In contrast to this, if many batteries are not working together our light may be much dimmer until eventually the light will cease to glow at all. It is not necessary to get everyone to agree and have the same point of view, although it does help when others are supportive and are liking whatever decisions we may be making that may be affecting them. It’s more important in which direction the collective focus is.

For example being highly focused on all the good a person we may support is doing versus being highly focused on what our opposition may be doing that we don’t like are vastly different perspectives that are vibrating at the opposite ends of the emotional scale and will bring very different results. Every person gets a say and is heard loud and clear by the powerful Law of Attraction, even if they are not interested in or do not follow politics. If we are highly interested in Education we will have a strong vibration going on in relation to this subject and our vibration will be included in decisions made about this subject, and so will every other person who has a vibration going on about it, whether positive, negative or neutral. The resulting outcome or manifestation will be a reflection of the strongest vibrations once everyone’s vibration has been taken into account and responded to by the Law of Attraction!!!

Politicians may think they have all the power but they do not. Every single person holds power to create, and we do it through the power of firstly our thoughts and what we give our creative focus too, which in turn inspires our words and actions.

So decisions can and are made that may have unwanted results, no ones denying that and sometimes its required to inspire better solutions and stronger desires for better outcomes from more people. The direction of each and every persons focus about such circumstances directly affects how things continue to unfold whether we are aware of this truth or not. By focusing all the creative power we were born with on the good we’ve dreamed of is the best chance we have to inspire changes in the direction we’re really wanting both in our personal lives and at a more global level…….And even if all you’ve dreamed of doesn’t become a collective reality, it won’t matter because you will have created it in your own life.

We are creators, and we are doing it individually and collectively. Others ultimately do not have power over us unless we believe they do. No one else can get in our heads and think our thoughts for us and that’s what creates our reality. By making the effort to focus on the best in our lives and leaving others to focus on what they want ensures we stay true to who we are and what we believe in. This must eventually draw vibrational matches in the form of people, places and circumstances and what no longer matches our vibration will eventually find its way out of our life…….

And so it will……

Is there an Angel at my side???


There are more things unknown to Human beings than most would ever dream about. When the time is right……All will eventually be revealed.          Paulette De-Har

It depends on whether we believe in Angels…..Does it not???
All human beings have access to what many call Angels or Non-Physical energy that can be called upon if we are in a place to access such experiences. Although these energies will not interfere with the physical experience, they will give guidance on any subject one wishes to discuss with them.


Since we are the creators of our own life experiences, and we create those experiences through the power of our own focused thoughts, feelings, words and actions, it logically follows that we will be unlikely to have access to Angel advice and guidance or whatever else one might like to call Non-Physical energies if we don’t believe they even exist. Without desire, the feeling of wanting to achieve something more than what currently is, new cannot be created. Once desire is stirred within an individual through personal experiences and understanding, belief now needs momentum behind it, for creating anything we don’t believe we have the ability to experience is near impossible. Desire + Belief = Experience.

We don’t need to believe or be communicating with Non-Physical energy to live a happy and content life, but it certainly helps. By making a gentle and constant effort to move to the best feeling place we have access to in any given situation, especially when experiencing unwanted circumstances, ensures we are continuously moving through any resistance and closer to the physical experience of what we are wanting.

In truth, everyone has an Angel of sorts in the form of the Non-Physical part of ourselves that remained in the Non-Physical realm while the here and now Physical self was birthed into the physical world. The Non-Physical self-communicates to the Physical part we know as ourselves in the form of our emotions with good feeling positive emotions leading us into more of what we’re wanting to experience and not good feeling negative emotions leading us closer to what we are not wanting to experience.

Negative emotion gets a bit of a bad wrap, especially if we know and understand our own thoughts and feelings create our experience. Once people understand and know how they are creating their own life experiences both individually and collectively, the tendency becomes to try to instantly eradicate every not good feeling emotion we feel. Although negative emotion is what creates unwanted circumstances in our lives, it’s important to know when we let go of resistance and move into better feeling places better circumstances are created. Negative emotion is a very powerful tool that when truly understood is helping us to get back on track by letting us know we are moving in a direction that is not currently in our best interests.

It’s only when we feel the negative emotion and let it stay within the physical mind and body that it starts to become a problem. This is because any strong emotions we are feeling will be responded in-kind too by the powerful Law of Attraction. How strong this attractive power will be, depends on how often we bring negative thoughts into our mind and how intensely we are feeling them. What is turning up in our experience will depend on how much momentum we have behind what we are thinking and feeling.

We always have time to move our vibration and how we’re feeling in relation to any given subject as I’m sure everyone’s noticed things don’t instantaneously turn up the moment we think of something……So if many circumstances are turning up that have the same emotional vibrational feeling too them, we can know for sure we have the momentum of thought and emotion that is causing it.
Not a problem when good things turn up, but if there is a pattern of unwanted circumstances it’s a very good idea to make an effort to improve our vibration on these subjects. I know it’s not always the easiest thing to do, to look straight in the direction of what we may believe is causing our negative emotion and start to feel better about it…..But what other choice is there???

Isn’t the main reason to feel the best we can at any given moment to whatever’s presenting itself to us because it feels good to feel good, and feeling good is better than not feeling good??? Add to that the fact that we are also creating our future experiences by how we are feeling now and it’s clear that leaving strong negative emotion within ourselves without making an effort to feel better is not a good idea.

We all have the ability to feel better to anything that’s currently happening in our lives and whether we are aware or not we all have access to Non-Physical energy to help us on our journey. In truth this energy constantly and consistently communicates to all life forms, the question isn’t whether this is so, the question is…..Are we getting ourselves in a place where we can hear this communication clearly???

As we start to feel better in our lives, so we start to feel and hear this communication in real and undeniable ways….And this is a very good thing!!!

And so it is….

Once the seeds of truth have been planted….They cannot be removed!!!




Just as a tree, the mighty oak came from the smallest of seeds that found itself in the optimal conditions it required to grow….So it is when a human being comes into a receptive mode through their own life experiences. This is the next logical step in any living organisms evolution.

The Soul or Non-Physical counterpart of all physical beings on this planet knows the truth when they hear it because essentially they are the truth, and is the main catalyst that is drawing and attracting truths to the physical part of who we are through our experiences. This is so we may more fully understand what our purpose is and how we are creating our lives thus giving us the opportunity to move more fully into the joyful expression of who we really are.

This is not a desire that is held only by our Non-Physical counterpart but also by the physical here and now part of who we are in the form of our own desires to everything we experience and observe. For example, every time we experience something whether it is wanted or unwanted we immediately know what would be an improved experience, and this knowing is also known and held at the same moment by our Non-Physical counterpart.

Our Non-Physical counterpart resides in and is the pure positive energy of joy, love, and truth therefore does not hold misconceptions, false beliefs or negative resistant thought patterns but knows the physical part of who we are has picked up many of these untrue perceptions, false beliefs and negative resistant thought patterns through the living of this and previous physical lives.

We are constantly guided by the Non-Physical through our emotions and what we are currently experiencing in our life depends largely on how much we have listened to the Non-Physical part of ourselves. The more we have made an effort to move into better, good feeling positive emotional places as we move through our lives the more blended the physical and Non-Physical parts of us become and the more knowing we are about all things.

The seeds of truth have always been within us and when we are confronted with Universal truths, deep down we know it. If these truths don’t align with the truths we are now living and have learnt along our physical journey it can upset the status quo causing us to turn away from that which we are unsure of in fear of the unknown.

This does not matter for once the mind and intellect have grown and we have been inspired with strong desire through our own personal experiences to understand and know more about the truth of life…..We are now in a fertile condition like the mighty oak with all that is required to bring this knowing into our full physical awareness. Once all conditions required for the successful revealing of truth are present, it’s not a matter of if this will happen, but when this will happen.

The length of time for this knowing to be completely understood depends on how willing we are to do the work of reassessing and changing beliefs we are coming to know are no longer serving us in a positive way. This can be more easily said than done as any beliefs we’ve held strongly over time will have much momentum behind them that we have literally been living and observing in our life experience. These limiting beliefs do take time and effort to move into higher vibrational places by doing our best to find the best feeling emotional place we can to whatever we are currently experiencing.

It is also very likely that we will be surrounded by many others that believe strongly in our old belief systems for we have attracted people, places and events that are in a similar vibrational place as where we have previously been. That’s the Law of Attraction in action!!! Responding to our vibration and aligning us with vibrational matches. Again this doesn’t matter, for even if we ourselves or those around us are resistant and not cooperative in this time of change, opportunities will be continuously presented to us to help us release any resistance we have until all doubt is gone and our understanding is clear as to the best and easiest way to move forward.

One that has been in the place to hear and feel the seeds of truth cannot remove this knowing, even if it was only for a fleeting moment they knew it. For those surrounding one that is coming to know the truth but may be trying to prevent that truth from being known for fear of the unknown, this is not possible and a futile attempt to control forces that will never be controlled from a place of fear or any other place for that matter.

We are all capable of the most amazing things….The seeds of this greatness lie within us all, not one among us was forgotten. There has never been a better time than now to start moving into the full knowing of all that we can be and all that we really are…..And it’s letting these seeds flourish within our being that will get us everything we are really wanting…..And more!!!

And so it is….

Do you like to gossip???

Don't Gossip QuoteI’ve never been a person that enjoys or takes part in idle gossip about others and because of this find that almost no one brings these types of conversations to me, and even if they do, they do not receive the response they are desiring so will rarely follow-up with trying to speak to me again about such things, or anything for that matter.

For many, gossiping about others can become a way of life that is never producing anything good they are wanting in their lives. It’s completely appropriate to have our own opinions based on our own life experiences and how we’re wanting to live, but when we start to judge others harshly and make it our mission to get others onboard with negative, unkind speculation… .Well, that’s not that good.

It doesn’t matter whether it’s a situation we are personally involved in or whether it’s someone we don’t know that well that we’re talking about, neither produces anything good. If this is a pastime we find ourselves enjoying, it’s a very good idea to ask ones self why we do it. From observing many people who love these sorts of interactions it’s not hard to see they enjoy being seen as one who knows what everyone else is up to and are usually the first to know about it and let everyone else know about it too!!! (How Boring!!!)

Gossiping often feels good to people because it makes them feel important, like they know something juicy that no one else knows. Passing this information on whether it’s true or not, (Who said gossiping had anything to do with the truth….What a joke!!!) Also feels great when they receive the wow reaction they were looking for and will search out as many people as possible to spread their gossip too, to keep their good feelings going. These types of people often congregate into like-minded groups that usually have a leader with all the others being followers, or more to the point spreaders of all things not nice!!!

Focusing on the not nice happenings in other people’s lives often keeps our thoughts busy so we don’t have to think or maybe deal with things in our own lives that we would do well to do some thinking about, but the worst thing about gossip is how it may effect the person being gossiped about…..Even if what is being said it true, which of course it hardly ever is, it’s very unkind and hurtful and I would say to anyone who likes to do this……STOP IT!!!

I imagine anyone reading this that has been gossiped about is smiling and agreeing whereas if you are one that likes to gossip, you might want to tell me to get lost….Hehehe!!! Fair call, no one likes to be told by someone else what to do.
For those that love to gossip, let me tell you something that I know that may possibly give you some food for thought. Even though we may feel good as we participate in these types of activities one thing is for sure, it is not possible to speak unkindly and cruelly about others without the Powerful Law of Attraction responding to the vibrations (thoughts and feelings) we are sending out and starts matching us up with like-minded people, places, and events.

What does that really mean……

~ We will encounter many situations that are gossip worthy.
~ We will come into contact with other like-minded people who like to gossip.
~ We will eventually bring, or more accurately said attract through our own focused thoughts we’re having about other people’s not nice or unwanted experiences, not nice and unwanted experiences into our own lives.

So just for effect, I’ll say it again….If you like to gossip, for gods sake make an effort to STOP IT!!!

And so we will!!!

Why would we spread our not good feelings around???


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If you are going to give something, make it something good…….If not because that’s who you are, do it because you will eventually receive back what you have given out.       Paulette De-Har

The answer is quite simple. If this is something we are doing, we’re doing it because it feels good, or more to the point, it feels better than the already not good place were in!!!


This comes from experiencing unwanted circumstances in our own lives without knowing we have the ability to move to a better feeling place without the need to unload our negativeness onto others. When we don’t make an effort to feel better when experiencing unwanted circumstances and emotions, negative resistance remains within our being that eventually needs to be released in one way or another.
Unfortunately, it often accumulates to such a point that many will pass their negative resistant energy onto other often innocent bystanders so they can feel better. Once one has done this they may feel better and think they’ve released that negative emotion, but it’s not quite that simple!!!

Unloading or being nasty is a very temporary solution that can make us initially feel better, but as the Law of Attraction responds to our actions by adding power and momentum to that which we think, speak and do….It’s not very long before we will again be on the receiving end of that negative vibrational energy we originally gave out, except when it returns, it has a stronger vibrational signal. When the Law of Attraction responds to the vibrational signals were emitting, our thought forms or vibrations are joined by other similar thoughts of the same vibrational frequency and emotional intensity before they are “returned to sender” so to speak. That’s why circumstances and what keeps turning up in our experience often increases in intensity as we move forward through time even if we feel our vibration hasn’t changed that much.

So the manifestations we are attracting are physical evidence of what we’ve been giving our focused thoughts too that the Law of Attraction has added power and momentum too. Good news if we’re receiving wanted circumstances, but even if we’re receiving unwanted circumstances….It’s still good news!!!
You may be thinking, how could that be???
It’s not possible to find our way on a map when we don’t know exactly where we are on that map….Wouldn’t you agree??? Sometimes we’re not aware we’ve had thoughts that have been attracting something we’re not wanting until we experience it, and as I’ve said many times before, knowledge and truth is power. ( inner power )

We don’t need to wait until something unwanted turns up to know what we’re attracting. If we make our most important job that of noticing how we are feeling as we move through our days and make the best effort possible to feel better apart from what others are or are not doing, we will be attracting improved circumstances into our lives.
It’s best to be gentle on ourselves when something unwanted happens. It’s not about pretending to like things we don’t like, no. It’s about acknowledging we’re doing our best and that it’s almost impossible to know ever thought we’ve had on every subject that’s important to us and take it for what it is….

A message from a benevolent loving Universe that’s saying….

“I love you so much, and I want you to experience all you are wanting in your life…..So I am communicating to you like we agreed I would before you made the powerful decision to come into this wonderful physical world. You have never, ever, been alone or apart from me even though I know at times you’ve felt this way. I have communicated to you through your emotions letting you know when you are right on the path of what you’re wanting (positive emotions) and when you are on a path that is moving you away from what you are wanting. (negative emotions) Follow your highest thoughts and your highest feelings, and they will lead you into the fullness of all you’ve ever wanted to be and more.”

These were the promises that were made to every creature before we came here…..And now is the time for remembering….

And so it is….