Be careful if you stick your oars into someone else’s boat….You might not like what you find!!!

BoatIn truth we don’t really need to worry about sticking our oars in someone else’s boat because no matter where we’ve chosen to put our oars, we have the ability to remove them and put them somewhere else.

Although easy in theory……..Not always so easy in reality. Why is that???

Once we have put or given our focused attention (oars) to anything whether it be a particular person, personal situation or even circumstances that for the time being sit outside of our immediate experience, momentum of thought is created.
Once momentum of thought has been achieved through our focused thoughts, words and eventually actions, this can be like trying to stop a train that has gained quite a lot of speed. We may be able to slow it a little bit, but we’d probably get run over in the process. The faster the trains going (a subject that’s been given a lot of focused thought over time) the bigger the chance of being run down is if we try to stop it. Whereas the slower the trains going ( a subject that’s been given a small amount of thought over less time) the less likely we are to be run down.

Given this analogy, if we are feeling some negative emotion to certain thoughts we are having, it seems like it would be a good idea to stop our train (the momentum created through our focused thoughts) before something unwanted turns up in our experience. On the other hand if it’s good feeling positive emotions we’re feeling, no one in their right mind would want to stop the momentum of that!!! Positive emotions held onto over time with belief and knowing, especially in the face of opposition to what we are wanting (resistance) must eventually attract what we truly are wanting. That’s the Law of Attraction in action with no living entity on this planet sitting outside of this Law…..”EVER!!!” (As Count Dracula says in Hotel Transylvania……God I love that movie!!!)

So the question needs to be asked……why wouldn’t we stop a train that’s going in an unwanted direction before it gets too far off its path and becomes a bigger problem???
Mainly because firstly we may not be aware of how our train came to be off its path, and secondly because we don’t know how to get our train back on its path. It helps to know how we came to be off track before we can truly begin to be able to get back on track.

Generally, most human beings are captivated by what’s happening around them giving their undivided attention to whatever’s happening. That’s great if everything we’re observing is what we are wanting to experience, but let’s face it, I don’t think there’s probably anywhere on this planet one could go and find all circumstances around them to be to their liking, unless they have made it their primary job to disregard unwanted and focus as much as possible on what they see that they like.
So no matter where we find ourselves, there is the potential to focus on either wanted or unwanted circumstances, and it would be accurate to say what and how we focus the energy that pulses through us directly correlates to the circumstances we attract into our life experience.

Never before in our history has there been so much energy moving so quickly through all life forms on this planet. This means that results from our focused thoughts are attracting vibrational matches far more quickly than ever before. It does not take long when we hold either negative or positive emotions on any subject that is important to us to see the attraction process begin its momentum. This causes us to feel our emotions quickly and strongly, giving us the opportunity to acknowledge where we are and to make an effort to start and change our thought patterns if we feel we may be going off in the ditch somewhere.

The stronger emotions most are feeling in these times, although rather bothersome especially if they are strongly negative, helps to prevent us from becoming complacent or from just ‘putting up with it’ so to speak. If we are experiencing negative emotion but are not dealing with it in its earlier more subtle stages, it does not stay at that level of intensity for long. If not moved into a better feeling place by making an effort to change the thoughts that produced the negative emotion in the first place, it only gets bigger and feels stronger until it’s almost impossible to ignore or ‘put up with’. If we continue to ignore when we feel strong negative emotion, momentum grows until we experience fully manifested circumstances that will have the same emotional feelings to what created it in the first place. Very good if it’s positive good feeling thoughts and circumstances we’re focused upon…….Otherwise no so good.

Back to our oars, there really isn’t anything to fear about where or who we choose to give our attention to because we have the absolute free will and power to retreat and simply put our attention (oars) somewhere else, but it’s very helpful to know that the more we focus on where we’ve put our oars that we didn’t want too, the more entangled we become in something we aren’t wanting. If momentum is not slowed down and changed, this can send us into a place where the choices we currently find before us are choices we don’t want to have to make. Even if we find ourselves in these circumstances…….All is never ever lost.

We can start from wherever we are right now, no matter how bad we may currently feel. We can start to feel better and better therefore creating and attracting better and better circumstances into our lives!!!

This I know to the core of who I am……

And so I do…….

Does the Universe have my back???

 

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The Universe always serves us up what we believe in. So the question is, do we believe the Universe has our back?          Paulette De-Har.

When I speak of the Universe, I am referring to the pure positive energy that has created all that ever has been in the past, all that is now, and all that ever will be in the future.

 

It is not the intention of this post to argue whether we do or don’t believe there is a pervasive intelligence and creative life force behind all things…..I’m assuming this is a knowing whoever is drawn to this post already knows, or is on the verge of understanding and coming to know or at least is starting to consider???

Firstly, to answer this question it helps to have a basic understanding of how the Universe works. At its core, the main principle which governs how life unfolds for all life forms on this planet is simple, although when applied to the specific details of one’s own life experience in all its diversity, often becomes quite complex and not so straightforward, even when we know quite well how things work. This principle is known as the Law of Attraction and simply states, what one gives out…..They will eventually get back. Let’s assume this is how the Universe operates…..And it does!!! The idea that the Universe is evaluating what we are doing and deciding “Yes, they seem worthy to get this or that, or no, they don’t seem worthy of this or that,” becomes quite a ridiculous proposition. Although the Universe is always aware and interested in what all living creatures are doing, it is not arbitrarily sorting out who is worthy to receive “good stuff.” We are the ones that decide whether we are worthy to receive good stuff through the power of our focusing on what we are wanting positively, but we do have the complete free will to focus in any way on anything wanted or unwanted!!!

In essence, all life comes forward from non-physical pure positive energy to experience a physical life with the ability and free will to make both good and bad choices and to feel the full spectrum of emotions from high-flying good feelings like joy and appreciation, all the way down to rage and hopelessness.
The emotions we feel are communication from the part of us often referred to as our soul or inner being that has remained in the non-physical realm letting us know what we are currently creating in our lives and our future experiences. Positive emotions we feel are creating circumstances we are wanting in our lives whereas negative emotions we feel are creating circumstances we are not wanting to experience in our lives. The purpose of this emotional communication is to let us know what we are creating and to help us direct and focus our thoughts and feelings into the best emotional place we can find to get our creative energy moving towards what we really are wanting to experience.

The free will we choose to have would not be free will if someone outside of us had a whole heap or rules that we had to abide by or we wouldn’t get what we wanted…..That’s a very conditional type of free will and love. The truth is we are so free to choose, we can create very bad circumstances from the choices we make. This is not possible when we remain in the pure positive place of the non-physical realm because, well……it’s a place of pure positive energy, the energy that has created all things, and that energy is only ever good!!!
So an agreement is made to come forward to experience the full spectrum of what life has to offer by having the freedom to choose.
The Universe is not judging what we are choosing as right or wrong but is simply reflecting back to us in manifested form what we are giving out through our thoughts, words and actions and is also communicating and giving us guidance through our emotions. If we are listening and coming to know what this emotional communication means, we can start being the true creators we came here to be by creating more of what we really are wanting and less of what we aren’t really wanting.

In truth, the Universe does have our back…..Not because we kept to a whole lot of rules that were interpreted by human beings thousands of years ago that may have been initially and currently misunderstood??? We will know that the Universe and the Law of Attraction does not play favourites, that the playing fields are clear and fair for everyone no matter what colour, creed or religion we may be.
We will know through our own life experience that ultimately we are the creators of our own lives both individually and collectively and that we do it through the power of our thoughts and emotions.
And mostly we will come to know not one among us has been left on our own without clear and constant communication with that which we really are, the pure positive creative energy that is life itself…..

And so we are!!!

Turning away from what we don’t like…..Is a temporary solution!!!

 

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It is not possible to deny where we really are, for it will be reflected back to us in many different circumstances and situations until acceptance and awareness are achieved.          Paulette De-Har

It’s definitely a good idea to avoid focusing on circumstances we don’t like and aren’t wanting to experience in our lives by making an effort to turn our attention to what we are wanting rather than what we are not wanting. But it’s important to know this is more of a temporary solution, especially on subjects that are very important to us. For important subjects that we’re experiencing strong negative emotion too, it’s likely we’ll also be dealing with many situations our thoughts have attracted as the Law of Attraction responds to our strongly held emotional place with all kinds of manifestations that are a match to the dominant feelings within us.

 

This can make it difficult to look the other way so to speak, which is part of the reason why whatever turned-up has turned up!!! It’s a message to us from the Universe saying…..“This is the direction of your focused thoughts, this is what you are creating in your life, would you like more???” If our answer is no, a change in the direction of our thought is required. If our answer is yes and we are liking what’s turning-up, continuing our already positive focus will create more experiences we’re wanting. Even slight improvements in a thought that are maintained and held onto over time can produce greatly improved manifestations in our lives.

Remember, consistency is the name of the game. It’s not enough to have one improved thought and leave it at that. All things we’re wanting to bring forward into our experience need positive focus that’s been thought on long enough to achieve power and momentum. Once this momentum of thought is achieved it requires less and less effort to maintain our improved vibrational place as this will be where we now naturally are.

If we simply turn away from unwanted manifestations and ignore our negative emotions without making the effort to move them into a better feeling vibrational place, we have prevented adding power to our already unwanted vibration by observing and feeling stronger negative emotions, but without improving how we feel, we’re unlikely to attract improved circumstances on this subject.
This is often the case when experiencing similar unwanted circumstances over and over again. Different places, different faces, but similar experiences. Similar circumstances turn-up when the vibrations that caused this or that to be attracted have not changed much. That’s good news if we’re experiencing wanted circumstances in our lives, who would want to change that??? But if what we’re experiencing isn’t what we’re wanting in our lives, it’s a good idea to start trying to improve our thought somewhat, even if we only make a little vibrational movement each time we bring these thoughts into our mind.

I know it’s not the easiest thing in the world to improve our thoughts on subjects we’ve felt a certain way about for a long time. Especially when we’ve received plenty of evidence to support our long-held beliefs, but once we’re starting to understand how we’re creating our life experiences and that all we’re experiencing is attracted to us through our own focused thoughts that the Law of Attraction is responding and adding power too, I don’t really see what other choices there are???

I can only speak for myself when I say, I know what I do my best to choose every single time…..

And so I do….

Exodus: Gods and Kings……A Movie Review about Belief & Faith.

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Who doesn’t love a good Bible story that’s been turned into a movie!!! Probably lots of people, but I love them, so of course I wanted to spread the Good News about it. Hehehe….

So I met my lovely husband at the pictures last night (hope he reads this!!!) With great anticipation of seeing something awesome, and I have to say, I wasn’t disappointed.

Although I am not religious, like many that have been brought up in western culture, I know this story fairly well. The movie stayed pretty much in line with the legend of Moses and how he came to free his people from slavery in Egypt.

Even though it was set in ancient times with struggles vastly different to what many are experiencing now, it brings up many subjects that are just as important in the times we’re living now, as they were back then.

For me it was a movie about choices, belief, and faith.

Making a firm choice that often comes from an experience we’ve had and then putting all the positive thoughts we can produce (belief and faith) behind that choice, even in the face of unwanted manifestations, (resistance from our own negative thoughts) and working through those challenges until clarity is once again achieved resulting in renewed and strengthened belief and faith in ourselves and what we’re doing.
Holy Moses…..I make it sound so easy!!!

It can be easy, but that depends a lot on where our general vibrational, emotional place is, and how long we’ve been focused on circumstances that may be unwanted in our lives??? The longer we’ve spent focusing on anything, whether it’s something that’s already happened or is currently happening and whether those circumstances are wanted or unwanted, the Law of Attraction responds equally to all vibrations (thoughts and emotions) that all living beings emit.
Once power and momentum is achieved behind our focused thoughts, it’s only a matter of time before circumstances that feel the same as the vibrations we’ve been sending out are returned to us in full Physical manifestational form unless our vibrations are changed before they have gained enough momentum to materialise. This is Universal Law….No exceptions ever!!!

So what is the moral of this story???

~ Relax and go to see an awesome movie!!!
~ Put all the positive energy you can muster behind the choices you make.
~ When unwanted circumstances turn up, know you have the power and strength to overcome those challenges, if that’s what you’re wanting to do.

And as Moses says, “Don’t believe in what everyone else tells you, believe in yourself.” And I whole heartedly agree!!!

And so our journey continues…..

And so it does!!!

So what about previous lives???

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Although most have lived many physical lives….When we re-enter the physical realm as a new physical entity, a baby, we often don’t remember the previous life experiences we’ve had. If we do have memories, it’s very often when we are young and aren’t aware that this isn’t an accepted principle or understanding that the majority of people or societies we’ve being brought-up in have an awareness of.
Children that are very young have been known to give unusual accounts or details claiming they’ve had experiences or been another person in a different time period and often rely very specific knowledge that doesn’t seem possible for them to have gained at their current young age. This happens more frequently than we may think but is often disregarded as imaginative thinking, or worse….Lying.

If we’re coming forward multiple times into different physical lives,(and we are)at different points in time, physical bodies, locations and circumstances without easily accessible memories of any of our previous lives, a reasonable conclusion is that we don’t remember what’s previously happened because we’re wanting differing experiences from different physical perspectives. This wouldn’t be possible if we were to remember the lives and experiences we’ve previously lived. This is no accident, but the way we’ve purposely designed it!!!

It would be very difficult to look through new fresh eyes and make different or improved choices if we had clear memories of past experiences from the previous lives we’ve lived. This would mean our current experiences would go through the filter of our previous memories and perspectives. So what would be the purpose of making our transition back to Non-Physical and coming forward into a new body if our perspectives stayed the same???

That being said, we do carry all the experiences we’ve had through all the previous lifetimes we’ve lived within our physical here and now body, and we do have the ability to tap into those experiences and knowledge if we have the desire.
For me, although I know I’ve lived many lives before and feel strongly when I meet someone I’ve known in a previous life, I don’t feel the need to find out any specific details or go through the process of trying to bring back those memories. I’m aware that all my previous experiences have led me to where I am now, and any resistance or unfinished issues I may have had in those lives will come forward into the current life I’m living giving me the opportunity to move into a better, non-resistant, vibrational place regarding it, if that’s what I’m wanting.

Each life we live gives us a new and different perspective to grow into and experience, and although they are separate journeys, each is closely related to the other. Just as the life we’re currently living is a specific and quantifiable journey, so is the compilation of all the lives we’ve lived a journey with a much broader view and deeper understanding than the individual life we’re living. Our Non-Physical counterpart is communicating that broader understanding to the Physical here and now part of us through our emotions, and depending on how good were feeling, with thoughts too.
So when we’re Non-Physical before we decide to take another Physical body, we set general goals or circumstances we may want to achieve in the next life, but by no means are these goals specific or set in stone. More of a general guide that’s open to moving in multiple different ways depending on the direction of our focus, the experiences we have, and the choices we make.

The idea that there has been something set in stone by someone outside of ourselves, someone who controls us and then judges us when we don’t behave in an appropriate way or don’t achieve what they’ve set out for us to do, is……Well, that’s more of a human construct. A belief humans hold, not a belief held to by Universal Law or the energy that created and sustains this amazing Universe.

So the moral of this rather long story is…..

~There is nothing that has been set down that we have to do in any specific time frame or way.
~We are always on the right path no matter what is happening or manifesting, for all experiences have the ability to move us into more of what we’re wanting.
~No opportunities can be lost because they are continually flowing in our direction, just as one passes, a new one is on it’s way to us.
~There are no wrong choices just challenges to rise too, and better feeling places to reach.

~And, we are all so much greater than most of us have ever imagined…..

And so you are…..

Life’s like a box of chocolates….You never know what you’re going to get???

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I’m not sure who the first person was to coin this phrase, but for me it was best said in the movie Forest Gump.

Whether this phrase is true for us or not, depends mostly on what our beliefs and experiences have been in this life.
Although this may be the experience or truth many people are living to differing degrees, it always comes from a lack of awareness of what we have been emitting vibrationally through our long-held focused thoughts and emotions that the Law of Attraction has responded to with similar feeling manifestations.

So the more aware we are that we’re creating our lives through our thoughts and emotions, our vibration that the Law of Attraction is responding in-kind too, and the more aware we are of how we’re really feeling at any given moment in time is…..The more likely we are to know what may turn-up in our future experience.

Although how the Law of Attraction works is consistent and reliable across all circumstances and situations, even with very strong awareness of these Laws and how we’re feeling and therefore what we’re attracting, there are times when it may still be hard to predict how and when something will make an appearance.

What we’ve attracted through our vibration is delivered to us by the Universe in precise timing and from what is currently available from our surroundings, which may not always be something we’re expecting even though it is a vibrational match to us.
This is often when our faith or belief in our knowing of how life works can be put to the test, and how we deal with these unexpected “bumps in the road” can determine how we move forward.

I’m sure most of us have experienced a challenge that we’ve overcome in a positive way that’s propelled us forward to even greater places and experiences we may not have been able to achieve if not for the challenge in the first place, this is the “silver lining” that is present in all situations…..if we believe it’s there and we’re looking for it??? Whereas in contrast to this, a challenge not dealt with in a positive manner often remains as an area in our life that continues to move us in an unwanted direction, especially if it’s still thought about often with strong negative emotion. In these circumstances it’s important we take the time and effort to move forward positively or to let go of the emotional resistance we may still be holding onto in relation to whatever happened.

It doesn’t matter too much if we don’t make as much positive movement as we’re wanting when something presents itself to us at any given time, because everything that’s happening in our lives is an opportunity to move forward in a more positive direction, no matter how wanted or unwanted the circumstances are.

So let me re-phrase the title….

Life can be like a box of chocolates…..But if we’re starting to become aware of what’s been put in the box, we can usually predict what we’re going to get back out of it, and if we do get a surprise we don’t like, it’s not the end of the world when we know we can choose something differently next time!!

And so it is….

The “Best Decision”….Is not always the easiest decision that gives us the quickest gratification!!!

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Although I have used the description “best decision” in the title, in reality there is no decision that is ultimately the best decision to make. There definitely are choices that will reap better results than others, but any decisions we firmly make that we’ve put all our positive thoughts and feelings behind are good decisions.

It’s true that not many people like not feeling good, actually I don’t think I know anyone who likes not feeling good, that being said, sometimes the need to feel instant gratification or to remove or change circumstances that make us feel uncomfortable immediately, can sometimes cause us to make a choice that short-term may help us to feel better, but long-term does not move anyone in a direction we’re wanting to go in.

This can be especially true when dealing with the little people we may have in our lives, our children. They come forward from Non-Physical with a stronger knowing of who they are than any previous generations, and are not easily guided away from that knowing by others that have been here longer than they have and have mostly forgotten who they really are.

Although coming froward with this strong knowing is very good news….For many it does require some different parenting styles to be learned if we’re wanting to be parents that guide and inspire the best out of our children. From harsh control and discipline, to letting them do whatever they like as long as they’re happy, and we’re happy as we see them happy approach, the middle ground between these two extremes is a good place to aim for.

I know we love our children very much, and it makes us feel very happy to see them happy, and this is a great thing, but when we base our decisions on what will make them the happiest in the short-term so we don’t have to deal with the often unpredictable (or sometimes very predictable!!) extreme behaviours that can follow not getting what they want or from experiencing the natural consequences of their choices, this is not usually in their best interests and does not help them to understand how this Universe is really working, and well, that’s not ideal. (I’ve said that very softly!!)

It’s true, we can do things and make decisions that prevent them from experiencing the full consequences of their actions. The problem with doing this is it makes it hard for them to see the connections between how the choices they make bring semi-predictable consequences which can cause them to start making decisions without the knowledge of what could possibly happen…..Which is ok when we’re always there to make everything alright, (Well, no it isn’t ok, but I think you probably know what I mean) but we must at some level accept that they will eventually be without someone who is prepared to dedicate their life to making sure everything runs smoothly for them. Someone that will run around and try to make their experience better by trying to prevent them experiencing the consequences from the choices they’ve made!! No, they will not find another who will do this for them….

Of course no one wants their children to experience strongly unwanted circumstances, and I think most of us would try to lessen this happening if we knew such circumstances were coming, but that’s exactly why it’s important to let them experience the small unwanted consequences of their actions, because once they’re aware of the link between what they’re choosing and what’s turning up, and it becomes a strong knowing and awareness they have based on their own first hand experiences….Now they are so well prepared with what they need to know to be on their own and create what they’re wanting in their own lives!!

And I believe it would be very hard to find a parent that didn’t want that for their children….But that’s just me….

And so it is….

Why would we even consider copying someone else’s work???

 

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“It is never necessary to copy someone else’s work….Instead let the greatness you observe within others, inspire the greatness within you and then act on it.”

 
Initially, this is easy to answer. The only reason we would attempt to copy someone else’s work without acknowledging the fact is because we don’t believe we can have any original ideas ourselves!!

In truth, if we set out to copy anything with our own hand, it’s very hard to copy exactly what someone else has done, especially if it is something that’s created artistically and visually. If we do attempt to copy someone else’s artwork, apart from actually taking an exact copy, it can never be exactly the same. Even the same artist trying to copy a work they have previously completed will end up with a different version of the original work.

As far as copying others written work and ideas, this also comes from a lack of belief in our own ability to have original ideas and to bring forward and create

through our own personal perspective and experiences.
Who we really are, the blending of our Physical and Non-Physical selves knows we have the absolute ability to create anything we are wanting in our own way without the need to copy what another is doing. Think about copying someone else’s work and see how it feels….For most this doesn’t feel good because our Non-Physical counterpart knows we came here to be the creators of our own experience, not the duplicator of what already is, and is communicating this to us in the form of our emotions, that’s why it doesn’t feel good!!

That being said, we do get much inspiration from what others are doing which does influence us in many ways as this is part of the Physical journey we’ve come here to live. But this is entirely different from taking what we know is someone else’s idea or body of work, an idea we wouldn’t have had on our own and often isn’t what we really want to do, copying it and using it.
Of course there are many people out in the big wide world that are doing things of a similar nature, that isn’t an issue, because no matter how similar what we’re doing seems, if it’s truly coming from our own perspective and experiences of where we really are, it is a truly original work.

I know in the whole scheme of things, it’s not the worse thing in the world we could do, but for me I find it to be not a very nice thing to do and have little respect for people who choose to do such things.
At the end of the day, we’re all the receivers of that which we give out, (Law of Attraction) whether we’re aware of this or not, and copying others work can never give us the feelings we were hoping for, even if what we’ve copied does somewhat well. Whatever we create carries within it the vibrational place we were in during its creation, so when we copy and don’t use our own ideas, this knowing is transferred into our work and is often known by the recipients of it, even if it’s just a feeling they have.

I can’t think of much that would feel worse than receiving admiration for something I know I’ve copied……But that’s just me….

And so it is….

I drink a little more than recommended…..This world ain’t exactly what my heart expected….

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These are lyrics from a song called Free by Rudimental featuring Emeli Sande`.

It’s not too hard to figure out what these lyrics are saying, and for me it goes something like….

Well, I find myself in this physical world, and although there are many good things here, as I look around I also see many things I don’t like, and I’ve also experienced many circumstances in my life that certainly didn’t make me jump for joy. When I see and experience such things I don’t feel very good, and somewhere deep inside myself I have a feeling I’m supposed to feel good, like it wasn’t supposed to be such hard work, like feeling good and enjoying my life was something I came here to do???
But how can I feel good when others are behaving in a way that I don’t agree with? I’ve learnt that trying to control others just as others have tried to control me to feel good, doesn’t really work so I’ve given up on that.
So then I have these negative emotions within me and I’ve noticed as time goes by, they get stronger and I seem to be faced with even more unwanted circumstances in my life…..So sometimes I reach for something that will give me some temporary relief, something that helps me to feel better and forget or numb the intensity of what I’m feeling.
Alcohol, drugs, food, medication, sex, exercise, work or any other substance or circumstance can be used to prevent us from feeling the full intensity of our negative emotions. Some are more detrimental than others, but all when solely used without making an effort to feel better ourselves, cause negative emotions to grow stronger which in turn usually requires us to use more of whatever we’re using to maintain the same amount of relief.

The good news is……as our negative emotions intensify and our increased use of external substances or circumstances starts not to work, one usually comes to the realisation that a change of strategy is needed, no, required to continue to move forward in a positive manner, and in extreme cases, to remain in this physical body.

We’re all doing whatever we feel is necessary to feel good in our lives as this is one of the strongest desires we have as we came forward from the Non-Physical realm into this Physical world. To create anything, we need to be exposed to many variables which inevitably helps us come to stronger and more specific ideas of what we’re wanting to create in our own lives. If the contrast didn’t exist in this Physical environment we’re currently living in, there would be no real purpose to coming here from the Non-Physical realm in the first place.

It rarely helps to judge ourselves or others negatively and harshly for this type of behaviour, even when we know these choices aren’t ultimately going to produce much good in the longterm. Using external substances to feel better can be a strategy that has the potential to help us in the short-term, until we feel we have the strength to feel better by ourselves, but can become a problem or addiction if we rely solely on whatever we’ve been using without making an effort to move our emotions into a better feeling vibrational place ourselves.

If we’re wanting to overcome any addiction or addictive behaviours we may have, there must be a desire to no longer want to use whatever substances or circumstances we’re using. Even with this desire, it’s difficult to stop, but without it, it’s virtually impossible to stop. This decision can only come from within us, others may put up all sorts of scenarios and reasons why we shouldn’t be doing this or that, but this often causes whoever we’re trying to convince to stop what they’re doing, feel more negative emotions such as shame, guilt, confusion and helplessness which can increase the desire to use something to numb the increased not good feeling emotions experienced.
Making anyone feel even worse about the choices they’re making, no matter how detrimental those choices may be, in the hope they’ll feel so bad they’ll suddenly stop using, is a very risky approach at best and has the potential of making our recipients desire to use something stronger!!

Whether we’re thinking about this subject for ourselves, or for someone who we love and would do anything to help, moving forward in a positive manner requires many different approaches depending on the specific circumstances, but at the top of that list is;

~Promoting the belief that we do have the strength and courage to move forward positively, even if it’s hard to currently see how. This is no easy feat if we’ve tried many times without success, but the stronger our belief is that we’ll succeed, the more likelihood there is that we will!!
~The idea that if we slip up one time we’ve failed miserably, isn’t a thought that helps anyone that’s trying to change negative behaviours. If we’ve been doing anything for an extended period of time, there is much power and momentum behind our actions that the Law of Attraction has been responding too, making it very hard to stop what we’ve been doing all at once.
It’s better to accept that even when we’re trying our best, we may slip up, but that it’s not the end of the world and it doesn’t mean all the progress we’ve already made is lost. It’s often the strong negative emotions of feeling that one has failed, letting themselves and those they love down again, that promotes the feeling that it’s hopeless to even keep trying anymore. When we’re more accepting of our current choices knowing it doesn’t mean we can’t keep moving forward positively, it makes it easier to cope and keep going with renewed resolve and determination without the negative self-reflection that can bring us to our knees.

Although I know dealing with such circumstances can be very difficult, the best thing we can hope to do is to stay as positive as we possibly can, and to make an effort to continue to do this, even when we feel things aren’t working out as well or as quickly as we would like…..
Because when we know the Law of Attraction is bringing us evidence of what we believe and are strongly emitting vibrationally, anything else is unacceptable….

And so it is….

I feel something so right doing the wrong thing…..I feel something so wrong doing the right thing…..

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These are lyrics from the song Counting Stars by One Republic.

So how could one feel right doing the wrong thing, and wrong doing the right thing??? There are an infinite number of answers to that question depending on the specific circumstances we may be talking about, but take the specifics out of the situation and it always comes down to the same reasons which are;

I have been raised with many values, rules, and morals standards that have been taught to me by my family, culture and the society I am apart of, and although mostly I believe these are good and make my physical experience here enjoyable, why do I sometimes feel like I’ve done something wrong when I’ve done the right thing as prescribed by my up-bringing? The short answer is, we’ve gone against the communication or guidance we’ve received from our Non-Physical counterpart that’s communicating with us through our emotions. The stronger our negative feelings are, the more strongly we’re moving in an unwanted direction, but on the flip side of this, the stronger our positive feelings are, the more strongly we’re moving in the direction of something we’re wanting!!

I like to talk in terms of wanted and unwanted rather than right or wrong, for whatever we are doing may be judged as right or wrong by others and ourselves, but this is rarely useful. What’s really important is….Is what I am choosing to think, speak or act on now, moving me closer to that which I am really wanting to experience, or is it moving me further away from what I am really wanting to experience???

If something doesn’t feel good or right to us, it isn’t good for us, end of story. It doesn’t mean that it’s the end of the world of course, it just means when we have a feeling that we shouldn’t be doing this or that, it’s communication from our Non-Physical counterpart that stayed in the Non-Physical realm when we made the decision to come forward into this Physical world, telling us that the thoughts, words or action were currently taking are not moving us in the direction of what we’re really wanting.

This doesn’t mean that things can’t work out well if we have taken action when we’ve felt we shouldn’t have, because we have the ability to constantly change and amend what we’re thinking, saying and doing until we’re in vibrational alignment with what we’re really wanting.

Vibrational alignment is another way of saying we are in harmony.
In harmony, or emitting the same vibrational frequency between the Physical part of us that’s here in this Physical world and the Non-Physical part of us that’s communicating with us through our emotions from the Non-Physical realm..

As many would know, the Non-Physical realm is a place where strongly unwanted circumstances do not exist. Although there are variations in vibrations even there, there’s not the vast variations we can experience in our physical world environment. We came with the freewill to choose from all we observe what it is we wish to experience, and although we do tend to congregate in groups of similar vibration, (Law of Attraction!!) The rules and regulations of how we should live and create what we’re wanting to experience in our lives can never be dictated by another outside of ourselves, no matter how well-meaning they are!!

When one feels their experience is threatened by others behaving in a way they find to be inappropriate, and much negative focused attention is given to such circumstances until strong negative emotion is produced and maintained over time, the Law of Attraction will bring us evidence of that which we are now strongly vibrationally emitting, because it’s all “Out there!!”
It’s our job to focus on what we have decided through the living of our life, what we’re wanting to experience, and allow others to do the same.
Just as we are free to choose, so is everyone……And this isn’t a problem when we know nothing strongly unwanted can enter our world unless we maintain and increase negative focus on it.

At the end of the day, we are all in charge of ourselves and what we do, rules dictated by others can be a helpful guide sometimes, but usually come from a place of trying to control others for fear they will do something “inappropriate” that may threaten our way of life.

When one is often in alignment with what and who they really are, a blending of our Physical and Non-Physical selves, Laws, Rules, and Regulations are never required, and if one is far away from this blending or alignment, Laws don’t work anyway….

And so it is….