The “Best Decision”….Is not always the easiest decision that gives us the quickest gratification!!!

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Although I have used the description “best decision” in the title, in reality there is no decision that is ultimately the best decision to make. There definitely are choices that will reap better results than others, but any decisions we firmly make that we’ve put all our positive thoughts and feelings behind are good decisions.

It’s true that not many people like not feeling good, actually I don’t think I know anyone who likes not feeling good, that being said, sometimes the need to feel instant gratification or to remove or change circumstances that make us feel uncomfortable immediately, can sometimes cause us to make a choice that short-term may help us to feel better, but long-term does not move anyone in a direction we’re wanting to go in.

This can be especially true when dealing with the little people we may have in our lives, our children. They come forward from Non-Physical with a stronger knowing of who they are than any previous generations, and are not easily guided away from that knowing by others that have been here longer than they have and have mostly forgotten who they really are.

Although coming froward with this strong knowing is very good news….For many it does require some different parenting styles to be learned if we’re wanting to be parents that guide and inspire the best out of our children. From harsh control and discipline, to letting them do whatever they like as long as they’re happy, and we’re happy as we see them happy approach, the middle ground between these two extremes is a good place to aim for.

I know we love our children very much, and it makes us feel very happy to see them happy, and this is a great thing, but when we base our decisions on what will make them the happiest in the short-term so we don’t have to deal with the often unpredictable (or sometimes very predictable!!) extreme behaviours that can follow not getting what they want or from experiencing the natural consequences of their choices, this is not usually in their best interests and does not help them to understand how this Universe is really working, and well, that’s not ideal. (I’ve said that very softly!!)

It’s true, we can do things and make decisions that prevent them from experiencing the full consequences of their actions. The problem with doing this is it makes it hard for them to see the connections between how the choices they make bring semi-predictable consequences which can cause them to start making decisions without the knowledge of what could possibly happen…..Which is ok when we’re always there to make everything alright, (Well, no it isn’t ok, but I think you probably know what I mean) but we must at some level accept that they will eventually be without someone who is prepared to dedicate their life to making sure everything runs smoothly for them. Someone that will run around and try to make their experience better by trying to prevent them experiencing the consequences from the choices they’ve made!! No, they will not find another who will do this for them….

Of course no one wants their children to experience strongly unwanted circumstances, and I think most of us would try to lessen this happening if we knew such circumstances were coming, but that’s exactly why it’s important to let them experience the small unwanted consequences of their actions, because once they’re aware of the link between what they’re choosing and what’s turning up, and it becomes a strong knowing and awareness they have based on their own first hand experiences….Now they are so well prepared with what they need to know to be on their own and create what they’re wanting in their own lives!!

And I believe it would be very hard to find a parent that didn’t want that for their children….But that’s just me….

And so it is….

Sometimes….We need to come out of our comfort zone….

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This is all about experiencing life, and everything it has to offer.
There’s two things we can count on with 100% accuracy after being born into this Physical world, and they are….
That we will make our transition back to the Non-Physical energy from which we came, and while we’re in this physical body circumstances will be different and changing in every moment that we are alive.

Even though we do create our own life experiences through our thoughts and emotions, our vibration, that the Law of Attraction responds in-kind too, it’s not possible to stay static or in one moment of time, as this goes against the very principle of life which is an ever-changing, constantly forward moving process. Even when things appear as if they are not changing, this is an illusion, they are changing, even if it is only slightly.

Some may disagree explaining that they’ve been doing the same thing for many years without changing, and I say, memories and our perception of those memories are open to different interpretations depending on where we are vibrationally and what we believe when we think about the past.

Everything for sure is constantly changing, but it is possible to create a life where not many new experiences come into our world. This is achieved by making a conscious effort to avoid anything that makes us feel even slightly uncomfortable, and although it’s definitely a very good idea to do things that feel good, it’s also true that sometimes we may need to move ever so slightly out of that comfort zone and make an effort to move our thought into a better feeling vibrational place to experience more things that are good, that we’re wanting in our lives.

There may be many factors we need to consider when deciding to do something that we haven’t done before such as;

~ How strong is my negative emotion I’m feeling towards taking this action and do I think I’ll be able to bring my discomfort into a better feeling vibrational place before I take this action?

~Is this action something I really am wanting to do or wish I could do if I didn’t have a fear of the unknown?

~Do I think this experience is more likely to be positive or negative?

~Do I think I’m resilient enough to move myself into a good feeling vibrational place if circumstances don’t unfold exactly as I’m wanting?

~If I do have a positive experience….Will this help me to let go of resistance towards doing different things that may open a new door that allows many wonderful experiences to flow into my life???

No other can answer these questions for us, only we know exactly how we’re feeling and what we’re wanting in relation to anything we’re considering.
If we do decide to take action on something that sits slightly outside of our comfort zone, it’s important to focus on all the possible positive outcomes we think may be likely (Remember, Law of Attraction!!) And to make a conscious effort to feel as good as we possibly can towards whatever we’re going to do. Deciding to take action and resigning ourselves to feeling bad about whatever we’re doing almost guarantees a less than wanted outcome, and for me, is unacceptable.

I would never advise anyone to do something they were strongly fearful of or feeling strong negative emotion about, but sometimes we do get stuck in our routines and our comfortable place, not moving from it for fear of what might happen or that we won’t have control anymore.

I know it often feels safe when we continue to do the same familiar things, but sometimes we do need to extend ourselves just a little bit, not to bring unwanted negative experiences into our lives, but to open doorways and avenues for wonderful things to come into our lives.

It’s all waiting for us, all the good stuff we’ve been wanting, and we may need to let go of some old beliefs or routines that may have served us well in the past….

But that was then…..And this is now…..

And so it is…..

Do you think setting goals will get you where you’re wanting???

 

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A goal set with positive focus and expectations is halfway to being achieved.        Paulette De-Har

That’s a very interesting question, isn’t it?
And the answer depends on where you are coming from. For example, if you make goals for yourself and feel good about them, believing you will be able to achieve them, that is definitely a goal worth setting and you will be well on your way to achieving it as long as you stay focused in a positive manner. So what happens when we make a goal and feel good about it to start with, but then do not follow through with positive thoughts. If we do not maintain our belief and positive thought regarding the goals we make, it’s very unlikely that we’ll achieve them.

 

This often happens when looking at the pros and cons of any situation, what we’re really doing is including negative thoughts into our vibrational (emotional) mix, meaning, depending on whether you’ve focused more on positives or negatives, this will determine how things will unfold in reality. Of course it’s very normal to look at all possibilities when we’re trying to move forward in our lives, but if we focus intently on everything we think could possibly go wrong and may prevent us from reaching our goals, more than how everything may work out well, this will be the strongest vibration within us, and the Law of Attraction ensures we’ll receive back that which we have vibrationally given out.

There is no such thing as NO in this attraction based Universe that we all live in. For example, when we say yes to something, it’s included as a possible future manifestation, and when we say no to something, it’s also included as a possible future manifestation. Saying yes with positive focus attracts wanted circumstances, whereas saying no with negative focus is attracting unwanted circumstances. A positive focus on any goal that’s maintained over time with emotional intensity must eventually bring that which we’re wanting, whereas maintaining negative focus over time with emotional intensity must eventually bring that which we’re not wanting.

This is often a consequence of doubting our ability to create what we are wanting or we may not see a path that will get us where we are wanting to go, so we give up. I am not judging anyone for giving up on their goal, if it feels like the best thing to do, it’s not for me to say that you shouldn’t, but I will say, the fact that a goal is set in the first place, means we were wanting to achieve it, and with positive focus there’s no reason why we can’t.

Why do we doubt our ability to achieve our goals?
We may have experienced circumstances in the past that have not worked out how we were wanting despite taking many actions and being very determined which eventually, over time, erodes our belief in ourselves and our ability to achieve what we desire.

In reality, there is always a mixture of positive and negative thoughts regarding any subject or goal that we hold, but there will be a more dominant vibrational feeling about it and that’s always what’s manifesting.
So yes, setting goals can definitely get us where are we wanting to go when we do our best to stay positively focused, working through any resistant, challenging circumstances that arise by;
1. Being aware of how we’re feeling regarding anything we give attention too.
2. Once we know how we’re feeling, doing our best to move to a better feeling place, especially if we’re in a negative vibrational place.
3. Doing our best to enjoy whatever is happening now by relaxing and not being too hard on ourselves.
4. Holding strong to the belief that things really are working out, even if it doesn’t currently look like it, and yes, that’s something that requires practice, but we’ve all come forward with the ability to do this if that’s what we’re wanting.

And so our journey continues….