Giving something positive to someone else is truly giving them our love……


While pondering a sad experience someone I dearly love is going through I started thinking about all the ways we give and show our love to each other. All love begins with our positive thoughts that if maintained lead to positive words and actions which then inspires more positive thoughts…….And so the momentum continues to grow.
This is always true when we are coming from a positive good feeling vibrational place even if it is not fully received by the other party involved. It’s not possible to control how others will react to what is given because that has everything to do with where they are vibrationally and very little to do with anything else. In other words no matter what is given to a person who sits in a strongly negative place it will be very hard for them to appreciate and receive anything good that’s offered to them. This is a classic example of when a person twists something to reflect what they mostly believe in.

This is a very natural occurrence done by almost everyone to some degree depending on their general outlook on life. For example a person who tends to look at mostly positive aspects in life will be more likely to see the positive aspects of both positive and negative circumstances, whereas a person who tends to notice mostly negative aspects will be more likely to see the negative in both negative and positive circumstances.
Everything that we observe and experience in our lives comes through the filter of our own personal perspective and experience so it’s a very good idea to know how we generally feel about things and whether we are usually more positively or negatively focused. It can be quite enlightening to make a list of about 8 to 10 subjects with a mix of important and not quite as important items and honestly think about what our most common emotional response or feelings are in these circumstances. ( For example, Positive, Mostly Positive, Neutral, Slightly Negative, Mostly Negative, or Negative.) This quickly lets us know where we generally sit and is an indication of how we tend to see the world around us.

Of course there will be things we struggle to feel positive about and that’s okay. It’s not about making ourselves feel bad about where we are but more about becoming more aware of who we are mostly being right now compared to who we really are or who we want to be and giving ourselves the power to make a different choice if that’s something that’s important to us.
So the idea is we have the choice to see anything positively, to pick out the positive aspects even from strongly negative circumstances just as we have the ability to see and pick out the negative aspects of a situation.

If we do want to make changes in our lives, it can take some training if we have positioned ourselves to see and notice negative aspects as this is what will always highlight itself to us. Not because the negative aspects are more important or stronger than the positive aspects, but more because this is what we have become accustomed to seeing and focusing upon and are therefore attracting more similar feeling situations into our experience through our own attention to them. It requires awareness and conscious effort to re-orientate ourselves in a more wanted direction but can definitely be achieved with time. All it takes is the desire to live a better, more fulfilling and enjoyable life, and the knowing it can be achieved by anyone who makes the effort to do so. And let’s face it, even though our lives are great, who among us wants less love, less fulfilling relationships and less enjoyment out of our life! Probably not too many people I’m guessing……

So let’s do the best we can to see and give the best we possibly can no matter where we currently are or what is showing up. It is my knowing that this will get every single one of us to where we truly want to go, eventually……

And so it will…….

In the wrong place at the wrong time….Not likely!!!


Being in the wrong place at the wrong time is only a matter of perspective and depends largely on what we have consistently focused on in the past.       Paulette De-Har

I think most people understand what is meant by the phrase in the wrong place at the wrong time and it goes something like this……..If I hadn’t been in the wrong place at the wrong time this unwanted circumstance would not have happened to me. Although one has to say that is true in relation to any event we have experienced, even if we do manage to closely dodge an unwanted experience, if we are emitting a strong enough vibration about anything through our focused thoughts and feelings the attraction process will be well underway with much momentum behind it. Unless we are aware of how we are feeling and understand our positive emotions mean we are moving towards wanted experiences and our negative emotions mean we are moving towards unwanted experiences, people do not usually make much effort to move to a better feeling vibrational place. Of course, if we know this very well and have observed it in our own life experience we are far more likely to make an effort to improve how we feel, especially when having very negative emotions. When we have improved and maintained how we feel about any subject this becomes our new vibrational place that the Law of Attraction will be responding to therefore we will be attracting better circumstances into our lives.


There are many different ways we can react if we find ourselves almost or even actually experiencing unwanted circumstances but all fall into two main categories…….We will react either positively or negatively and whichever way we choose to react will be pre-paving our future experiences in relation to the subject we have just experienced.

Now it’s not easy to look directly in the face of unwanted circumstances we are currently experiencing and be positive about it, and I would go as far to say this is almost impossible for 99% of human beings. We did not come here to try to like things we really don’t like and don’t want to experience. That being said, we did come to create and experience what we are wanting and we do that through observing both our own and other people’s lives and letting what we don’t like inspire within us what we do want that we then have the choice to focus positively on or not. If we’ve made an effort to move forward from the initial negative emotion we may have had when experiencing unwanted circumstances and continue to improve how we feel by maintaining our positive focus on what we are wanting without letting doubts distract us from our positive thought process, it isn’t long until we are the beneficiaries of greatly improved circumstances in our lives.

So back to the title of this post, there is no “in the wrong place at the wrong time”. We are always in the right place at the right time whether the circumstances we experience are wanted or less than wanted. Circumstances aren’t just happening haphazardly to anyone at any moment for no particular reason but are being called to us through our focused vibrations both individually and collectively. The more aligned we are with our good feeling emotions of belief, knowledge and excitement when we are thinking and doing something, the better our manifested reality will be in the present moment and in the future. In contrast to this, the more aligned we are with our not good feeling emotions of despair and boredom when we are thinking or doing something, the greater the possibility of unwanted circumstances manifesting into our reality are.

Here is an example of how one might like to make an effort to move to a better feeling emotional place when experiencing unwanted circumstances.
At first, let the negative emotion come, let it be felt in its entirety as long as physical aggression towards others is not a possibility.
If physical or extreme verbal aggression is likely, one must immediately remove themselves from the environment and other people to a place they can safely express their negative emotions without the risk of passing it on to others and then receiving it back as the Law of Attraction responds to what has been given out!!!
If we cannot immediately improve how we are feeling, distracting ourselves with an entirely different subject may be necessary until the intense emotions we have felt subside somewhat. It is important to feel our negative emotion for if it is stifled and ignored it sits within us without being improved which is not what anyone wants when they know the Law of Attraction is still responding to it. This is often the case when individuals experience a similar scenario over and over again. Different faces, different places but basically the same experience….. This is usually the result of complete unawareness of either how we are creating our life experiences or how we are really feeling but more often than not it’s both.

A small emotional movement done often with awareness can make a very big difference to how we feel in our lives. I can’t think of anything that’s more important than paying attention to how we are feeling and making an effort to feel better as we go about the details of our lives…….

For this is how we become the creators we came here to be and how we create the lives we really want and deserve to live……

And so we do……

Why do others try to control me???


No benefit comes from letting others control us. By giving into others against our own guidance hurts all involved in the end.          Paulette De-Har

This is a comment I received and responded to in relation to a post about special does not mean better, and since I thought it was especially special……..I thought it would be nice to post it. Thank-you to the person who sent it to me. I greatly appreciated your response as it strongly inspired much that I know and helped me to put that knowledge into words. Apart from that, it always feels very good when something we already know is understood in even greater breadth and depth than before.


It happens often that people when they want to try to control me, and they fail because I notice, they act as if I were better than them. I know that is not true, but nevertheless, I have to live with it. There are many people who control peoples’ lives because they probably don’t have a life of their own, or they like to project their frustrations on others. Special could also mean being able “to read between the lines.”

People often try to control others because they don’t like what “that person” is doing believing others behaviour will threaten them in some way or another. At the very core of who we all really are, it is known we are supposed to feel good but many have forgotten they have the complete and absolute power to make themselves happy and are instead trying to control other people and circumstances to produce the good feelings they desire.

Anyone who has lived for any decent period of time will usually come to understand that this is a futile endeavour but without knowing they have the power within them to move their thoughts and therefore their feeling responses into better feeling places, they are lost either continually trying to control others or to giving up hope of ever feeling better and remaining in an uncomfortable, not good feeling place. Both of these options are completely unacceptable when it does not have to be this way when we can;

1. Decide to make an effort to feel better than where we currently are apart from the physical conditions we may be experiencing. I know, not an easy thing to do when we have not practised doing this, but one must start somewhere don’t you think!!!
2. Knowing no other can assert anything into our experience for all things are created and attracted to us through the power of our focused thoughts that the Law Of Attraction responds in kind too, both wanted and unwanted whether we are aware of these truths or not.
3. Being kind to ourselves and others because that’s who we really are, and if it’s not possible in the moment, at least turning away and not responding negatively.

In response to others acting as if you are better than them when you are understanding you are not, this is often because people can sense when another they are observing is in a vastly different vibrational, emotional place than they are and will react in a variety of different ways depending on where they are. For Example someone in a very good feeling emotional place that is observed by someone in a low not so good feeling emotional place will often get strong negative attention directed towards them even though they are not giving this energy out!
Those that observe that are vibrationally closer to someone in a high good feeling emotional place are more likely to admire what they see but whether they will actually approach such a person depends on exactly how good they are feeling. In other words looking at others hi-lights within us how we really feel about ourselves but if we don’t know this we project any negativeness outwards to those we believe have created it where in truth it is our own beliefs, thoughts and feelings that have created this resistance within us.

I don’t believe people try to control others lives because they don’t have a life of their own, they try to control others because this is what they have been taught they need to do in order to feel happy, and everyone is trying to feel happy. It is true that many project their frustrations onto others because holding onto much negative energy without making an effort to feel better unconditionally apart from conditions is like putting an oxygen tank under pressure…..It’s only a matter of time before that pressure cannot be held in any longer and the tank explodes. Although most will temporarily feel better after this release of negative energy, it is short lived for as the Law Of Attraction responds to that which they have given out in the form of thoughts, words, and actions, that energy increases in power and momentum before being delivered back to where it first originated……
This is why reacting to strong negative energy others send out is not ideal for then negativeness they have released is passed on and although they will still receive back that which they have originally given out, now we will also receive back the negative energy we have received and in turn have given out and the chain of pain continues on and on……

Unless we start to understand through our own life experiences how this life is really working by paying attention to how we feel and noticing what is turning up in our lives. Anyone that does this from a pure place of wanting to know how to create a better life will eventually receive the answers they so desire!!!

And yes, special means different things to different people and I would agree being sensitive to oneself and others is very special indeed……

And so it is……

Is there an Angel at my side???


There are more things unknown to Human beings than most would ever dream about. When the time is right……All will eventually be revealed.          Paulette De-Har

It depends on whether we believe in Angels…..Does it not???
All human beings have access to what many call Angels or Non-Physical energy that can be called upon if we are in a place to access such experiences. Although these energies will not interfere with the physical experience, they will give guidance on any subject one wishes to discuss with them.


Since we are the creators of our own life experiences, and we create those experiences through the power of our own focused thoughts, feelings, words and actions, it logically follows that we will be unlikely to have access to Angel advice and guidance or whatever else one might like to call Non-Physical energies if we don’t believe they even exist. Without desire, the feeling of wanting to achieve something more than what currently is, new cannot be created. Once desire is stirred within an individual through personal experiences and understanding, belief now needs momentum behind it, for creating anything we don’t believe we have the ability to experience is near impossible. Desire + Belief = Experience.

We don’t need to believe or be communicating with Non-Physical energy to live a happy and content life, but it certainly helps. By making a gentle and constant effort to move to the best feeling place we have access to in any given situation, especially when experiencing unwanted circumstances, ensures we are continuously moving through any resistance and closer to the physical experience of what we are wanting.

In truth, everyone has an Angel of sorts in the form of the Non-Physical part of ourselves that remained in the Non-Physical realm while the here and now Physical self was birthed into the physical world. The Non-Physical self-communicates to the Physical part we know as ourselves in the form of our emotions with good feeling positive emotions leading us into more of what we’re wanting to experience and not good feeling negative emotions leading us closer to what we are not wanting to experience.

Negative emotion gets a bit of a bad wrap, especially if we know and understand our own thoughts and feelings create our experience. Once people understand and know how they are creating their own life experiences both individually and collectively, the tendency becomes to try to instantly eradicate every not good feeling emotion we feel. Although negative emotion is what creates unwanted circumstances in our lives, it’s important to know when we let go of resistance and move into better feeling places better circumstances are created. Negative emotion is a very powerful tool that when truly understood is helping us to get back on track by letting us know we are moving in a direction that is not currently in our best interests.

It’s only when we feel the negative emotion and let it stay within the physical mind and body that it starts to become a problem. This is because any strong emotions we are feeling will be responded in-kind too by the powerful Law of Attraction. How strong this attractive power will be, depends on how often we bring negative thoughts into our mind and how intensely we are feeling them. What is turning up in our experience will depend on how much momentum we have behind what we are thinking and feeling.

We always have time to move our vibration and how we’re feeling in relation to any given subject as I’m sure everyone’s noticed things don’t instantaneously turn up the moment we think of something……So if many circumstances are turning up that have the same emotional vibrational feeling too them, we can know for sure we have the momentum of thought and emotion that is causing it.
Not a problem when good things turn up, but if there is a pattern of unwanted circumstances it’s a very good idea to make an effort to improve our vibration on these subjects. I know it’s not always the easiest thing to do, to look straight in the direction of what we may believe is causing our negative emotion and start to feel better about it…..But what other choice is there???

Isn’t the main reason to feel the best we can at any given moment to whatever’s presenting itself to us because it feels good to feel good, and feeling good is better than not feeling good??? Add to that the fact that we are also creating our future experiences by how we are feeling now and it’s clear that leaving strong negative emotion within ourselves without making an effort to feel better is not a good idea.

We all have the ability to feel better to anything that’s currently happening in our lives and whether we are aware or not we all have access to Non-Physical energy to help us on our journey. In truth this energy constantly and consistently communicates to all life forms, the question isn’t whether this is so, the question is…..Are we getting ourselves in a place where we can hear this communication clearly???

As we start to feel better in our lives, so we start to feel and hear this communication in real and undeniable ways….And this is a very good thing!!!

And so it is….

The basis of all addiction is emotional in nature….

Voices WithinAlthough addiction is a very complicated subject involving many different factors, when we get down to the real nitty-gritty of it, it’s often preceded by long-term negative emotions that have not been moved into a better feeling vibrational place because we have been unaware that…..

1. We have the absolute ability to improve the way we feel to any and every subject that is important to us.

2. What we are thinking and therefore feeling not only determines how good our present moment experience is but also pre-paves or lays down the vibrational foundation of our future experiences.

The need to feel good is a factor that insures all human beings strive for better and improved experiences in their lives and is how all species evolve and expand into greater versions of what they currently are. This does not mean we are not already good as we are, it simply means that without this core desire no species would evolve very much, and what would be the point of that???

The fact that an addiction is an attempt to sooth negative, not good feeling emotions from within ones self with external substances or circumstances does not downplay the  physiologically dependence that many may experience, especially when it comes to substances that have strong chemically based reactions within the brain and body that potentially cause stronger levels of addiction both physiologically and emotionally. That being said, the basis for reaching for anything from a position of need has the potential to become an addiction.

Almost every thing people are thinking, saying, and doing is because it feels good, for why else would anyone do anything if it wasn’t to have good experiences and to feel good. This only becomes a problem when we reach for external circumstances or substances to sooth negative emotions we may be feeling such as pain, hurt, disappointment, rage, anger, fear, and despair. Although we all have the absolute power to feel better to any and all circumstances we’ve experienced in the past, are experiencing now, or that we may experience in our future, without knowing this you might say many have been left in the lurch so to speak, reaching for the perfect diet, partner, exercise regime, substance or circumstance that will temporarily make them feel better.

Relief from these feelings are only temporary because the real cause of our long-held negative emotion has not been addressed and remains within the physical mind and body until it is released through feeling better to whatever the source of the negative emotion is. This is often strongly connected to what is turning up in our experience especially if the negative emotions are strong and often thought about as the Law of Attraction will be responding with similar people, places and events that match our dominant vibrational, feeling place.

It is very difficult to move forward in a positive manner in relation to any subject where strong negative emotion still surrounds it until that resistance has been released. If action is taken from a strongly resistance place, it often doesn’t unfold as we are wanting and requires immense effort and hard work unless we have managed to move into a better vibrational place, particularly when unwanted circumstances happen. This can be quite a big ask if we have never been taught that this is how we create better circumstances in our lives, but it is never something we can start doing too late.

As far as dealing with an addiction once it is present in our lives, calming the physiological craving the body has especially to substances such as alcohol, drugs and food is a crucial first step. It’s very hard to work on any emotional psychological issues that have caused the addiction when our body is still strongly craving substances. Once we have been deprived of such substances for over approximately a week the body starts to come back into balance and the strong physiological craving is greatly reduced if not completely eliminated. Any craving we experience after this period will now be to feel better emotionally and the reason we originally reached for this or that.

At this point effort needs to be put into doing our best to improve how we feel about issues or circumstances from the present and past that we are feeling strong negative emotions about. It is not enough to only work on eliminating the physiological cravings and to leave it at that.
A person may be forced into a program where the substances they desire are taken away but without their true desire to move forward and let go of an addiction themselves, the emotional work needed will be unlikely to be done as this takes immense strength and perseverance to undertake.

Although it’s not the easiest journey in the world to undertake……When one is ready to move forward with desire and a belief they have the ability to live more of the life they deserve, that they have the strength to find better solutions, that they have the ability to feel better and succeed, the right people, places, and events will appear to help them in their journey…..

And so they will….

Once the seeds of truth have been planted….They cannot be removed!!!




Just as a tree, the mighty oak came from the smallest of seeds that found itself in the optimal conditions it required to grow….So it is when a human being comes into a receptive mode through their own life experiences. This is the next logical step in any living organisms evolution.

The Soul or Non-Physical counterpart of all physical beings on this planet knows the truth when they hear it because essentially they are the truth, and is the main catalyst that is drawing and attracting truths to the physical part of who we are through our experiences. This is so we may more fully understand what our purpose is and how we are creating our lives thus giving us the opportunity to move more fully into the joyful expression of who we really are.

This is not a desire that is held only by our Non-Physical counterpart but also by the physical here and now part of who we are in the form of our own desires to everything we experience and observe. For example, every time we experience something whether it is wanted or unwanted we immediately know what would be an improved experience, and this knowing is also known and held at the same moment by our Non-Physical counterpart.

Our Non-Physical counterpart resides in and is the pure positive energy of joy, love, and truth therefore does not hold misconceptions, false beliefs or negative resistant thought patterns but knows the physical part of who we are has picked up many of these untrue perceptions, false beliefs and negative resistant thought patterns through the living of this and previous physical lives.

We are constantly guided by the Non-Physical through our emotions and what we are currently experiencing in our life depends largely on how much we have listened to the Non-Physical part of ourselves. The more we have made an effort to move into better, good feeling positive emotional places as we move through our lives the more blended the physical and Non-Physical parts of us become and the more knowing we are about all things.

The seeds of truth have always been within us and when we are confronted with Universal truths, deep down we know it. If these truths don’t align with the truths we are now living and have learnt along our physical journey it can upset the status quo causing us to turn away from that which we are unsure of in fear of the unknown.

This does not matter for once the mind and intellect have grown and we have been inspired with strong desire through our own personal experiences to understand and know more about the truth of life…..We are now in a fertile condition like the mighty oak with all that is required to bring this knowing into our full physical awareness. Once all conditions required for the successful revealing of truth are present, it’s not a matter of if this will happen, but when this will happen.

The length of time for this knowing to be completely understood depends on how willing we are to do the work of reassessing and changing beliefs we are coming to know are no longer serving us in a positive way. This can be more easily said than done as any beliefs we’ve held strongly over time will have much momentum behind them that we have literally been living and observing in our life experience. These limiting beliefs do take time and effort to move into higher vibrational places by doing our best to find the best feeling emotional place we can to whatever we are currently experiencing.

It is also very likely that we will be surrounded by many others that believe strongly in our old belief systems for we have attracted people, places and events that are in a similar vibrational place as where we have previously been. That’s the Law of Attraction in action!!! Responding to our vibration and aligning us with vibrational matches. Again this doesn’t matter, for even if we ourselves or those around us are resistant and not cooperative in this time of change, opportunities will be continuously presented to us to help us release any resistance we have until all doubt is gone and our understanding is clear as to the best and easiest way to move forward.

One that has been in the place to hear and feel the seeds of truth cannot remove this knowing, even if it was only for a fleeting moment they knew it. For those surrounding one that is coming to know the truth but may be trying to prevent that truth from being known for fear of the unknown, this is not possible and a futile attempt to control forces that will never be controlled from a place of fear or any other place for that matter.

We are all capable of the most amazing things….The seeds of this greatness lie within us all, not one among us was forgotten. There has never been a better time than now to start moving into the full knowing of all that we can be and all that we really are…..And it’s letting these seeds flourish within our being that will get us everything we are really wanting…..And more!!!

And so it is….

Working with the Law of Attraction is easy…..Isn’t it???

ArmsWideFirstly, whether we are aware or not of the powerful Universal Law known to many as the Law of Attraction, this law is responding equally to every living entity on this planet.
The Law of Attraction is responding to the vibration signals we are sending out through our focused thoughts and feelings to whatever we are giving our attention too. Awareness of this law and how it works does not need to be known or understood for it to work…..It simply is.
Just as we don’t need to know what gravity is or how it exactly works for it to effect every aspect of our lives, so it is with the Law of Attraction.

It’s true this Law is simple and means as a vibration is emitted over time with emotional intensity from a living being, that being will receive back in thoughts, feelings and eventually physical manifestations that which they have originally sent out. Our vibration is a constantly moving and changing proposition depending on exactly where we are in relation to all the subjects that are important to us but unless we are consistently making an effort to feel better in our lives, especially when unwanted circumstances turn up, most tend to easily move into their known and comfortable General Vibrational Place.

Our General Vibration Place can be explained as the emotional place we are in most of the time on many subjects and is often described with such words as pessimistic, bubbly, aggressive, assertive, gloomy, happy, calm and so forth. This doesn’t mean there won’t be a vibrational difference between different subjects that are important to us, there definitely will, but these differences won’t be too far apart. This means working on only one subject, especially a subject that is highly important to can be a slightly difficult task to start off with.

Subjects that are very important to us that have gathered resistance through negative thoughts or beliefs that have been given focused attention over time gaining power and momentum in an unwanted direction, can move quickly into a better place when resistance is released. This is a hard ask if our subject has been in a low, unwanted vibrational place for an extended period of time and we have many other subjects that are in the same vibrational vicinity.

Although I would never discourage anyone from trying to move any subject into a better feeling vibrational place, if we are just coming to know and understand the Law of Attraction and how we can start using it deliberately in our lives to produce more of what we are wanting and less of what we are not wanting it is easier to start with less important subjects that we may hold less resistance too. This is a good way to test how improving how we think and feel effects what we are attracting and feels great when we see the results of deliberately directing our thoughts into a better feeling place.

So in theory and at its base the Law of Attraction is simple…..You get back what you give out. But for any human being that’s been in their physical body for any period of time that has not been surrounded and taught by others how life really works and how we are the creators of our own experience, they are slightly empty and hollow words.

When we are not knowing that focused attention of unwanted circumstances brings more unwanted and focused attention of wanted circumstances brings more wanted circumstances, many have gathered much resistant through intent focus on problems in the hope this will elevate what they are not wanting. Although we must acknowledge the problem before we can move into the solution we’re seeking, it’s not until thoughts have moved out of the vibrational vicinity of the problem and into the vibrational vicinity of the solution that the solution will be found.

At the end of the day…..Most have created great things in their lives without a deep understanding of this powerful Law, but as we spend longer in this physical body without this knowledge it’s only natural we gather more resistance as we observe more circumstances and have more experiences we may not be wanting without knowing it’s important to refocus ourselves in the direction of what we are wanting.

I can only speak for myself when I say…..Sometimes it’s easy, and sometimes it isn’t, but I don’t know anything else that’s more important and worth making an effort for than living the life we deserve and the life we came here to live!!!

And so it is….

Do you believe in a “Silver Lining???”


Every situation has a Silver Lining. Whether we will experience the benefits of it depends entirely on our focus.           Paulette De-Har

Condemnation of any other never gets anybody anywhere they are wanting to go, this is for sure, even if it does temporarily feel good to do!!!


When we see anyone in our life doing something we don’t think is in our or their best interests, it’s virtually impossible not to feel some negative emotion about it, especially if it’s someone you are particulars close too or it’s a subject you feel particularly passionate about with strong underlying beliefs held behind it. It’s not about trying to eradicate any feelings of negative emotion we may have, this is not a very realistic goal in the world we’re living in now, it’s about knowing and exercising our own god given power to move into a better feeling place, therefore, drawing what we are wanting rather than what we are not wanting into our lives.

We choose to come into this physical world to experience and decide what we are wanting to live and to then focus positively and purely as we can until this is the dominant and strongest vibration within us on whatever is important to us. It’s never wrong to say this is how I want to live, this is what I am wanting to experience in my life, that is exactly what we came here to do, but problems can arise when we focus intently and strongly on the things we are not liking and don’t want to experience rather than focusing on what we love and are wanting to experience. If we are able to diligently focus more on what we are wanting and clear any resistant that turns-up by making an effort to move to the best feeling place we can find when faced with unwanted circumstances, it’s only a matter of time before we will see signs of our improved vibrational place in the way of thoughts, feelings, and eventually manifestations that match the dominant vibrational place we have consistently achieved. This is the Law of Attraction responding to the vibrations we emit through our focused thoughts and feelings with every living species on this planet being responded to equally. Not one sits outside of this all-encompassing powerful law, whether we are aware of it or not!!!

The strength of negative emotions we may feel when experiencing unwanted circumstances will depend greatly on how much momentum we have going in a positive direction versus how much momentum we have going in a negative direction. Whether the momentum we have created is positive or negative directly correlates with what will be predominantly turning up in our physical manifestations as the Law of Attraction responds to the thoughts and feelings, the vibrations we’re sending out.
It’s interesting to realise that when we focus negatively or don’t make an effort to move negative emotions into a better place when observing those we love doing things we don’t feel are in their or our best interests, we are adding power and momentum to what we are not wanting to experience and making it more unlikely that we will the recipient of what we are wanting. This is how we help to inspire the exact circumstances or behaviours we are not wanting out of others!!!

The truth is no matter what we do, we cannot truly control any other in our experience. If we believe we have power over others, this is an illusion, for one must freely give their power away to another, it is always a two-way street. We are all free to choose that which we do our actions, that which we say our words, and that which we think and feel no matter what someone else thinks, says or does about it. The best we can hope to do is to make peace with what others around us are doing especially those we love and care about, for this gives us the best possibility of experiencing and inspiring more of what we are wanting and less of what we are not wanting and lets the other know…..
Your way may not be the way that I would choose, but I know you came here to live your life the way you want to live not how someone else thinks you should live and I trust that you are doing the best that you can and I will do the best that I can to make my experience better by feeling good and focusing on the things I’m wanting to experience and all that is already wonderful in my life.

If we don’t feel we are able to feel better about what someone close to us is doing because it goes against something we strongly believe, a belief we do not wish to change because we believe it serves us very well, or maybe it doesn’t serve us well, we’re just not prepared to make the effort to change, because lets face it, long-held beliefs are not that easy to change even if they aren’t serving us very well. If judgement, resentment, and blame are allowed to grow, this often accumulates until the dissolution of the relationship happens. Although this is often difficult, it is a very good opportunity to release resistance and move to an even better feeling place that will attract even more wanted circumstances into our future experiences…

Yes……there’s a silver lining to every cloud, no matter how black that cloud may be, but we do have to believe it’s there to find it and to make it our daily work to move ourselves into the close vicinity of it by focusing on all the good that is already in our lives!!!

And so it is….

There’s no place I’d rather be!!!

LionThese are lyrics to the song Rather Be by Clean Bandit featuring Jess Glynne.
So wouldn’t it be awesome if we could feel like there’s no other place we’d rather be for most of the time!! Although a difficult task for most to accomplish consistently, it’s a very nice idea and something that’s definitely worth working towards.

To come to the place where we may be close to appreciating where and what we’re doing no matter what’s happening around us, does take a certain perspective and understanding about life, and that perspective depends on what we believe and think about life. This, in turn, determines how we feel and the actions we take, influencing the physical manifestations we attract and experience.

If we are experiencing unwanted circumstances in our lives, although it’s possible, it’s hard at that very moment to say “there’s no place I’d rather be.” But it’s very possible to come to a place where we’re knowing so well how life is working and how we’re receiving whatever it is that’s turning up in our experience, that we can truthfully say, “I don’t like this unwanted situation I’m currently experiencing, but because I know so well how I’m creating my life experiences, and I know that this manifestation is resistance I wasn’t completely aware was within me, I’m going to do my very best to release it by moving to the best feeling vibrational place I can find from where I currently am now,” and that’s the best that anyone can hope to do.

We may not get to a positive vibrational place straight away depending on how strong our negative vibration is in relation to whatever’s happened, but any improvement is very good and will reap improved physical circumstances once it’s the dominant vibration within us on this subject.

The awesome thing about making small vibrational improvements on subjects that are important to us is…..It’s only a matter of time before we become very good at turning strongly negative into strongly positive with very little effort as the Law of Attraction adds power and momentum over time to all that we think and do.

This is when we start to feel the real power of who we are, the power we’ve always had to create the life we’re wanting to live….And now is the time to start accessing that power!!!

And so it is….

Why would we spread our not good feelings around???


Friendly Bear
If you are going to give something, make it something good…….If not because that’s who you are, do it because you will eventually receive back what you have given out.       Paulette De-Har

The answer is quite simple. If this is something we are doing, we’re doing it because it feels good, or more to the point, it feels better than the already not good place were in!!!


This comes from experiencing unwanted circumstances in our own lives without knowing we have the ability to move to a better feeling place without the need to unload our negativeness onto others. When we don’t make an effort to feel better when experiencing unwanted circumstances and emotions, negative resistance remains within our being that eventually needs to be released in one way or another.
Unfortunately, it often accumulates to such a point that many will pass their negative resistant energy onto other often innocent bystanders so they can feel better. Once one has done this they may feel better and think they’ve released that negative emotion, but it’s not quite that simple!!!

Unloading or being nasty is a very temporary solution that can make us initially feel better, but as the Law of Attraction responds to our actions by adding power and momentum to that which we think, speak and do….It’s not very long before we will again be on the receiving end of that negative vibrational energy we originally gave out, except when it returns, it has a stronger vibrational signal. When the Law of Attraction responds to the vibrational signals were emitting, our thought forms or vibrations are joined by other similar thoughts of the same vibrational frequency and emotional intensity before they are “returned to sender” so to speak. That’s why circumstances and what keeps turning up in our experience often increases in intensity as we move forward through time even if we feel our vibration hasn’t changed that much.

So the manifestations we are attracting are physical evidence of what we’ve been giving our focused thoughts too that the Law of Attraction has added power and momentum too. Good news if we’re receiving wanted circumstances, but even if we’re receiving unwanted circumstances….It’s still good news!!!
You may be thinking, how could that be???
It’s not possible to find our way on a map when we don’t know exactly where we are on that map….Wouldn’t you agree??? Sometimes we’re not aware we’ve had thoughts that have been attracting something we’re not wanting until we experience it, and as I’ve said many times before, knowledge and truth is power. ( inner power )

We don’t need to wait until something unwanted turns up to know what we’re attracting. If we make our most important job that of noticing how we are feeling as we move through our days and make the best effort possible to feel better apart from what others are or are not doing, we will be attracting improved circumstances into our lives.
It’s best to be gentle on ourselves when something unwanted happens. It’s not about pretending to like things we don’t like, no. It’s about acknowledging we’re doing our best and that it’s almost impossible to know ever thought we’ve had on every subject that’s important to us and take it for what it is….

A message from a benevolent loving Universe that’s saying….

“I love you so much, and I want you to experience all you are wanting in your life…..So I am communicating to you like we agreed I would before you made the powerful decision to come into this wonderful physical world. You have never, ever, been alone or apart from me even though I know at times you’ve felt this way. I have communicated to you through your emotions letting you know when you are right on the path of what you’re wanting (positive emotions) and when you are on a path that is moving you away from what you are wanting. (negative emotions) Follow your highest thoughts and your highest feelings, and they will lead you into the fullness of all you’ve ever wanted to be and more.”

These were the promises that were made to every creature before we came here…..And now is the time for remembering….

And so it is….