Respect

Why would we even consider copying someone else’s work???

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“It is never necessary to copy someone else’s work….Instead let the greatness you observe within others, inspire the greatness within you and then act on it.”

 
Initially, this is easy to answer. The only reason we would attempt to copy someone else’s work without acknowledging the fact is because we don’t believe we can have any original ideas ourselves!!

In truth, if we set out to copy anything with our own hand, it’s very hard to copy exactly what someone else has done, especially if it is something that’s created artistically and visually. If we do attempt to copy someone else’s artwork, apart from actually taking an exact copy, it can never be exactly the same. Even the same artist trying to copy a work they have previously completed will end up with a different version of the original work.

As far as copying others written work and ideas, this also comes from a lack of belief in our own ability to have original ideas and to bring forward and create

through our own personal perspective and experiences.
Who we really are, the blending of our Physical and Non-Physical selves knows we have the absolute ability to create anything we are wanting in our own way without the need to copy what another is doing. Think about copying someone else’s work and see how it feels….For most this doesn’t feel good because our Non-Physical counterpart knows we came here to be the creators of our own experience, not the duplicator of what already is, and is communicating this to us in the form of our emotions, that’s why it doesn’t feel good!!

That being said, we do get much inspiration from what others are doing which does influence us in many ways as this is part of the Physical journey we’ve come here to live. But this is entirely different from taking what we know is someone else’s idea or body of work, an idea we wouldn’t have had on our own and often isn’t what we really want to do, copying it and using it.
Of course there are many people out in the big wide world that are doing things of a similar nature, that isn’t an issue, because no matter how similar what we’re doing seems, if it’s truly coming from our own perspective and experiences of where we really are, it is a truly original work.

I know in the whole scheme of things, it’s not the worse thing in the world we could do, but for me I find it to be not a very nice thing to do and have little respect for people who choose to do such things.
At the end of the day, we’re all the receivers of that which we give out, (Law of Attraction) whether we’re aware of this or not, and copying others work can never give us the feelings we were hoping for, even if what we’ve copied does somewhat well. Whatever we create carries within it the vibrational place we were in during its creation, so when we copy and don’t use our own ideas, this knowing is transferred into our work and is often known by the recipients of it, even if it’s just a feeling they have.

I can’t think of much that would feel worse than receiving admiration for something I know I’ve copied……But that’s just me….

And so it is….

Who have I surrounded myself with???

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The people we have surrounded ourselves with are a very good indication of where we generally are vibrationally, especially if there are many in a similar vibrational place. (similar in thoughts and emotions)

Some may say, I did not consciously choose many of those I have around me, some are family and work colleagues, and I definitely didn’t choose them, it’s only my friends which I have consciously chosen.
And I say, whether we are aware of it or not, we have chosen every person and every circumstance that has happened or will happen in our lives through our focused thoughts and emotions, our vibration, that the Law of Attraction is responding too and serving up to us people, places and events that are matching the dominant vibrational signals we’re sending out, and it’s the choices we’re continuing to make that keeps everything as it is, no exceptions ever…. This is Universal Law!!

For example, if we’re believing people are generally kind and treat us with respect, this will predominantly be the people we will attract with possibly a little bit of variation depending on our experiences and how strong and pure our thought is in relation to this, whereas if we’re believing people are generally unkind and disrespectful, again these are mostly the people we’ll attract.

Nothing is as black and white as the example I have given, as we all have different vibrations on different subjects based on our previous experiences and our vibration changes and moves every time we observe or experience new circumstances or even when we bring a memory into our mind and think about it.
We do not need to have physical manifestations to move our thought on any subject, although experiencing the reality of anything means we cannot ignore it, especially if it’s a manifestation of a vibration we’ve been unaware of and that’s unwanted!!

Bringing thoughts into our mind and making an effort to move into a better feeling place can initially improve our vibration, and if we take the time to bring that improved thought into our mind often enough, it can become the new dominant vibration within us on this subject as our old maybe more resistant thoughts are no longer getting our focused attention. With time and continued focus, power and momentum towards our new improved thoughts is achieved which translates into a generally better feeling experience and improved physical manifestations!!

Back to the people we have surrounded ourselves with, if we’re coming to know who we really are and how we’re creating our lives, we’re usually making an effort to improve our thoughts and feelings….Yes???
As our vibration improves, this can cause a vibrational gap between us and those that are around us that we were previously in harmony with, especially if others are still unaware that they’re the creators of their own experiences and are not moving too much vibrationally.

Although we maybe able to temporarily affect positive change to someone else’s vibration, it’s not possible to raise someone else’s vibration for any great length of time as each of us is in charge of our own thoughts and feelings and it’s always our job to move ourselves, not someone else’s job to do it for us. That’s not to say others can’t jump on the positive bandwagon so to speak, they can, but the process of maintaining ones improved vibrational place around many others that are not moving much vibrationally is exhausting and can suck any joy or enthusiasm we have for life right out of us.

In the end, something has to give, and it’s a powerful choice, but it may be a choice we’re unaware we’re making??? A choice to continue to improve how we’re feeling and let the Law of Attraction bring to us those that are a vibrational match to where we are, and has to be said, to what will help us move ourselves into better and better places, or to hold ourselves back by continuing to maintain relationships that are a reflection of where we’ve been, not where we’re going???

By no means does this mean all our current relationships will fall by the wayside for all are moving vibrationally in relation to all sorts of things, and many that are close to those that are making great positive vibrationally movement in their lives will find themselves also moving if it’s important for them to feel good and maintain that relationship, but if this is not the case and the vibrational gap becomes great, if we want to continue our positive movement, at some point we have to be prepared to let go of what is no longer serving us.

There’s no right or wrong about it, as this is an individual choice we make based on what we feel is in our best interests at the time, but it’s true to say, relationships cannot be maintained when there are large vibrational gaps, so if one is not moving, the other must halt or considerably slow their progression in order to continue the relationship, and that’s not ideal.

In my experience, when we let go of the need to have a relationship with someone we care about, and especially if we let go of how we’re wishing the relationship could or should be…..Things just seem to work out.
Sometimes that means people do slowly make their way out of our experience, but often it doesn’t, mostly it improves our relationships!
It improves our relationships because its like sending a strong signal out to the Universe that says something like…..

I want the best for myself and the others I interact with and I know this is possible. I understand not much good comes from trying to change others to how I would like them to be (and it’s not possible anyway!!) Or to change myself to what others would like me to be. (this isn’t truly possible either, but we can make ourselves miserable trying!!)
I know that whatever’s turning up, especially if it’s unwanted, is an opportunity to release resistance and move into better feeling vibrational places which is improving my experience.

I trust myself and I trust life, and I continue to believe everything is working out for me….

And so it is….

What is my Sexual Orientation???

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This seems to be the popular subject of the day, as well known public figures are “coming out” so to speak, sometimes after years of speculation about their sexual orientation.

Firstly…..who the hecks business is it except our own, who we wish to be intimate with???
When we interact with others, we may have feelings one way or the other as to their sexual orientation based on many factors we believe indicate it’s so. It’s not my intention to debate which behaviours indicate someone’s straight or gay, that will be different for everyone depending on ones beliefs and life experiences.

The question I would like to ask anyone who feels it’s appropriate to continually ask and somehow feel it’s their right to know, what another persons sexual preference is, is…..How would they like it if people persistently asked them questions about something that was very personal and private that they may very likely be judged harshly on by others with limited, rigid, and judgemental perspectives???

I know we’re often interested in others, especially high profile people, but it always comes down to the same thing….If I was treated in a disrespectful way, how would I feel? Just because someone has done well in their field of expertise and are in the public domain, does not mean they deserve to be treated in a lesser way than anyone else.

I’m looking forward to a time when someone’s sexual preference
is not a great talking point anymore, this will mean that many will have come to realise it’s not really any of their business…..And who cares anyway???

Avoid judging others harshly, for we’ve all come into this Physical World to decide for ourselves how we want to live our lives, not to be dictated too by others that feel “their way, is the only and right way to live!” (how boring and a bit presumptuous I would say!!)

We came forward with powerful intentions and purpose for what we’ve wanted to achieve in this life, and our good feelings are the path to who we really are and all we have become…..If we can know that other peoples negative judgements say so much more about who they are currently being than anything else, it can be easier to let their judgements go and feel better.

Be proud of who you are and the positive things you stand for…..And things will be so good!!

And so it is….

Good relationships are all about compromise….Well, that depends???

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Whether or not this statement is true or not for us, depends on what our belief or definition of compromise is, and what we believe a good relationship should be.

It would be fairly accurate to say that many people’s definition of compromise is having to make concessions or accept something less than what we may have truly been wanting, against ones will for the benefit of finding a suitable resolution or agreement of opinion, between two or more people.

Most pronounce this to be a wonderful thing that makes relationships work, and of course we cannot expect to have everything our own way if we are wanting to have a healthy and happy relationship where both parties are feeling valued and respected, but whether this is a positive aspect in the relationships we currently have, depends entirely on how much one may be having to “compromise” and how they feel when they’re doing this.

The most important factor that supersedes everything else is, “How am I feeling about the compromise I’m making now?” which will be influenced by many different variables such as;
~ How often am I compromising in this relationship?
~ How much does my partner compromise, is there a fairly equal reciprocation between both parties?
~ How strongly did I want things to work out how I envisioned?
~ How big is the compromise I’m making, and how long will it last for?
There will also be many other factors that will be specific to different situations and relationships.

As long as we’re interacting with other people, we will all need to navigate our way through differences of opinions of what we are wanting, but I don’t think it’s hard to know, if we feel we’re having to constantly compromise on circumstances that we feel strongly about, and that it isn’t evenly shared between both parties, this is when resentment can grow, especially if it ins’t addressed and talked about in the early stages of feeling resentful.

If resentment is not dealt with, it doesn’t usually go away by itself. Felt and caught in the early stages, it’s possible to easily move ourselves into a better feeling vibrational place by focusing on all the positive aspects of our situation, whereas if not dealt with, it grows in intensity with each similar experience that unfolds, until as many people say, “The last straw that breaks the camels back” often happens.

Although getting things out in the open can often be good, and can help us to move forward in a more positive direction, if our negative emotions have grown very strong with a lot of power and momentum behind them, it’s very hard to talk in a calm and productive way, and communication can become a bit….well, explosive!! It’s not the end of the world if this happens, once both parties have had time to calm down, that can be when some positive progress can be made, if both parties are still wanting a positive resolution.
If we’re feeling like we have to constantly compromise within our relationships, it is not ideal. The best option in these circumstances is to make an effort to move to a better feeling vibrational place rather than agreeing to what others want and then feeling resentful because we’ve had to give up something we’re wanting for the other.
If we’re finding it hard to move to a positive feeling place and cannot accommodate what another wants happily, it’s better to spend more time discussing the situation and trying to find a solution together that both will be happy with, because it’s always usually there, it’s just a matter of taking the time and effort to find it!

So although we may initially feel some negative emotion when we’re compromising, it’s not until we move all our thought regarding whatever we’re compromising about into a positive feeling vibrational place, that it’s no longer a compromise, now it is something we are wanting to do for ourselves, not just something we’re doing for someone else.
That’s a great vibrational place to be in, and that’s what I would call “A win, win situation!”

And so it is….

Could “Whatever”…be the best word in the world???

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This is a good follow-on from “The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree,” since it is a word our children often love to use, much to the disgust of many parents I’m sure!!
So I totally get it, it can be extremely frustrating when you’re trying to communicate with someone and all they offer you as a response is “whatever” with a lot of attitude. (Yep, I’ve had that comment given to me more times than I care to remember, but I probably need to add I love to use it myself too….Hehehe!!)
But what does someone usually mean when they say this, beyond trying to annoy the living daylights out of us!!

It’s a way of saying, “I don’t agree with what you are saying right now, and I don’t like it, and I know if I try to communicate anything to you….it’s just going to get ugly cause I’m pretty sure you’re not in a place to hear anything I’ve got to say about it, so I’ll sort of keep the peace, or more to the point, keep quite otherwise I may receive some consequences I’m not wanting, but I want you to know how I feel anyway!!”

Oh, that’s pretty good don’t you think….That’s a lot to convey in just one word, but that’s totally what it does.

So I think it can be good in the sense our children are not just accepting everything others are telling them just because we’ve been in a physical body longer than they have, and although this can make you want to pull your hair out and scream, it is a very positive aspect of who they really are coming through.

Many children coming forward from Non-Physical in these times are very strong-willed and not easily lead away from what they are wanting by others, or what they are believing is good for them.
Now I understand this makes for some very challenging times, especially if we are wanting them to follow all the rules we may have followed when we were growing up, and I would go as far to say, if this is what we are trying to impose on our children, it’s very likely this will cause extreme behaviours until we learn to communicate with them in a way that includes them in the decisions we make, rather than dictating everything to them without seeking their opinions and ideas.

I like to think of it as more of a collaboration rather than a dictatorship style of communicating, and to tell you the truth, from what I see, most of us are doing a pretty good job considering the vast difference from the way many of us were brought up.

So maybe this word isn’t as bad as what some of us may have thought?
For when our children grow-up and leave the nest, if they have learnt to just follow everything someone else says, they can be lost when they’re on their own.
Of course they usually find their way, but why would we make things harder for them than they need to be? Encouraging good communication, problem solving, respect for others, and the ability to change as the circumstances may require are totally awesome skills to teach and be an example of!

It’s very interesting to ponder…. “Who’s teaching who?”
I can only speak from my own personal experiences, when I tell you, through having to learn new and improved ways of interacting with my children in a positive manner, I have become a better person….And I can only hope they learn as much good stuff about themselves from me, as I have learnt from them….

And so it is….

A question about living in the present moment….

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The following post is in answer to a question that was asked in relation to the post “A little word about living in the present moment.” If you would like to view the previous post here is the link,but I like to think that this post stands on its own whether or not you view the previous post. The question was as follows:
For me this is one of the toughest lessons to teach myself. I truly relate to celebrating small improvements, however, this still remains my greatest personal challenge. I would be interested to hear your perspective on how to remain focused in the present moment when there and those around me still wanting to discuss negative experiences from the past?
1. I have trouble recalling what exactly happened.
2. I don’t want to allow myself to return to a place of negative feelings.
Thank-you for your question Sherryn!
My answer is…
I totally hear what you’re saying, and I know it’s not always easy staying focused in the present moment, especially when there are many things going on around you that you may be focusing on and having many different thoughts about.
It’s usually all the thoughts we’re having about whatever it is we’re observing that maybe preventing us from staying present, especially if our thoughts are judgemental or negatively based.
Since others are bringing to you negative experiences from the past, it may be an indication that whatever they are bringing to you is something you also need to move to a better feeling place about?
Only you will know this because only you know how you feel in relation to whatever information they are bringing to you. And even if it is something you feel you need to move vibrationally on, it is for you to choose if that is the time and place you wish to try to do it, because you now have someone else’s input and vibration to deal with.
Sometimes it can be better or easier to move on subjects when you are on your own with your own thoughts, for doing it around others that are negatively focused takes immense power and strength of focus to do, for not only are you trying to move yourself to a better feeling place, now you may have taken on the task or burden of having to move them to a better feeling place also.
The fact that you are not remembering clearly what they are trying to rehash or bring up again is a great sign, it’s a sign you have not held on to negative emotions in relation to this experience, you have moved forward, and thinking about this even if it happened in the not too distant past feels like another life ago.
I would not try to remember negative details about something that you know you have moved forward on. If the person you are communicating with is important to you, you may wish to try and generally steer them in a more positive direction… but remember some people will not be easily moved from where they are, for they believe strongly in their perspective of what has happened and will point out to you, all the evidence that’s around them to support and justify how they feel and where they are! If this happens you are better to either casually redirect the conversation to something completely different, but if that doesn’t work, leave the conversation entirely!
This is not rude and can be done in a pleasant way. ( everyone needs to go to the toilet sooner or later ) Hehehe!!
But seriously, this is the kindest action you can take, for you do not do yourself any favours by focusing on what someone else has to say regarding everything that isn’t working in their life, and it definitely doesn’t do them any good either for they just create more power and momentum behind what they are not wanting by speaking of it to others, for the Law of Attraction is responding to their vibration in-kind just as it is to ours.
If they are trying to bring your attention to everything they perceive is not working in your life, do not take part in any way in these types of conversations. We cannot listen to people saying such things without including this is our vibration, especially if they are someone who is important to us or that we respect. You will know and you will feel if people are giving you advice and it’s coming from a pure non-resistant place, even if it isn’t 100% positive.
For me the easiest way I find to bring myself back into the present moment, is to find something around me, anything, it doesn’t really matter what it is, and focus intently and positively upon it to the exclusion of everything else, for this must bring you into the now, even if it is for a short period of time to begin with, for as you practice it more and more it starts to become more of your normal way of being!!
But be warned, many will see you as strange or weird, for they will say, “look at that happy one over there, why are they so happy? Look at everything that is happening around them!” And you will know what you have done to get there, and through knowing the power of who you are, you will be an example to others of what is possible, for when we get power and momentum behind us, it’s so good!!
And so our journey together continues…

Can we receive respect…. If we don’t give respect???

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                           It is not possible to receive that which we are not prepared to give ourselves.                                                         Paulette De-Har

No, true respect for another must go both ways. If we expect respect without giving respect, we will be sadly disappointed.

Some may believe the longer you have been here in this physical body, all younger ones should respect you. Well, it’s nice to be nice, that’s for sure, but you must give respect to receive respect, it’s not an automatically given commodity based purely on your length of time you’ve been alive, you get back what you give out.
You cannot condemn any part of society or an individual, and expect to receive anything positive back from them. No matter what generation we are speaking of, it often happens that previous generations focus on all they think the younger generations are doing, that they feel isn’t right compared to how they lived their lives. Its like some take it as a personal criticism of how they lived their lives?
Who among us can say that every single thing we’ve done in our lives was done in the best possible way, and that it’s the only way?
Of course most of us were doing our best, but we must acknowledge as we move forward in our lives, there are always better ways that we can do things, and that’s what our beautiful young ones are trying to do.
When we close ourselves off to the possibility of improvements, we can become very judgemental and set in our ways, as if wanting an improvement in life is bad or wrong?
If no one came forward wanting any improvement in life, what would be the point of life? There would be no point.
It’s a good idea to respect those we interact with no matter their age, gender, race, religion, or lifestyle choice, but if we do find this difficult our best action is to acknowledge we’re all different and let our negative judgements of others go. We all come from different perspectives, and although we may not want to choose what others are choosing, they are free as we are, to choose what they believe is best for them based on what they’re wanting and how they want to live.
Do your best to make peace with what others are doing, whether you like what they are choosing or not, and avoid focusing on what they are doing that you do not wish to bring into your world, for the Law of Attraction will bring you more evidence of that which you are focused upon, every time!
It’s true when things change it often brings wanted and unwanted circumstances to the forefront, this is the process of life and isn’t a problem when we know staying positive will work through any resistant we have and get us where we’re wanting to go.
We cannot stay in the past, things must move forward, we cannot control what everyone else is doing, but there is a choice of focusing on the positive aspects of what’s new or the negative aspects of what’s new.
When we transition into new circumstances, problems do arise, and with problems come solutions, but to see the solution we desire, we must be close to the vibrational vicinity of the solution, which means getting in a place where we believe we will find a solution.
We are all getting there, whether we’re aware of it or not, for in the times that are before us it’s getting harder and harder to be complacent with our thoughts as manifestations are turning up with increased frequency and intensity letting us know where we are, and in a sense asking us, “This is what you’ve been giving thought to, would you like more of it?”
If it’s wanted, yes, yes, yes, keep thinking what you’re thinking! If it’s unwanted, do your best to move to a better feeling place or focus on things in your life that are working well, but don’t stress about it.
You really can’t get it wrong, for every experience both wanted and unwanted has in it the opportunity of moving to better and better places, and as we start to see this in our lives and the lives of those around us, we really put ourselves in a position to experience more of the wonderful life we came here to live!!

And so our journey together continues….