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Am I impulsive, and is that good or bad?

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All people are worthy beings…..I know this because we are here. Paulette De-Har

Well, that entirely depends on whether our impulsivity is being inspired from a good feeling place or a negative feeling place. A good question to ask ourselves in these situations is, “Am I feeling good or bad as I contemplate this action I’m considering taking right now?” Many people would consider impulsiveness to be a negative trait, especially considering the definition of the word means taking action without reflection on the possible consequences, and even more so when describing a person’s actions if they’re younger in age. 

This does have some common sense thinking behind it for if we’ve had less life experience, we’re usually less aware of certain consequences that may come from our actions and therefore are potentially more likely to do something that could produce unwanted outcomes not previously considered.  It’s often only through the living of many different experiences and their consequences that one learns and comes to understand and consider more deeply the potential consequences and outcomes of different actions.

If we do take an impulsive action from a negative or unknown place, this does not necessarily mean we will experience negative consequences, just as taking an action from a positive feeling place does not guarantee positive consequences, as it matters how you react to circumstances and challenges as things unfold and when we generally sit emotionally at other times. But we definitely increase our chances of experiencing positive consequences from being inspired from a good feeling place and doing our best to work through any difficulties that may arise in the most positive way we can as we move forward through experiences.

Asking oneself, “In which direction do I have the most momentum of thoughts and feelings going right now? Do I have a negative, neutral, or positive feeling about what I am contemplating doing now, and is that feeling strong or weak?”This will help us to gauge what the possible outcome may be if our feelings stays the same as they currently are. It’s important to know that when we start something, how we think and feel about what’s currently unfolding is constantly changing meaning the outcome is also constantly changing.

For action to be taken there must be some positive momentum behind it for one will not usually act from a strongly negative place for we are all instinctively reaching to feel better, not worse. It just depends on where we are emotionally to what the next best feeling emotional place is for us, for what may feel good to one person may feel bad to another. If we’re in rage or revenge, anger feels better, if we’re in contentment or hope, belief feels better. So even though anger may be a better feeling place than where we currently were, this is not a place we want to be taking any actions from for it rarely reaps positive outcomes.

It would be preferable to take the time required to move to a more positive emotional place before considering taking any action, but if we are coming to understanding that our current thoughts and feelings are creating our current and future experiences, making a decision to feel as good as we possibly can to whatever happens increases our chances of experiencing positive outcomes. It also matters what our general mood is at other times as this indicates wether we perceive the world as generally a good place, or generally a place where mostly unwanted things happen. Descriptive words such as happy, easygoing, quiet, aggressive, controlling, chilled, assertive, friendly and so forth indicates some of the moods that people tend to spend much of their time in, that over time, can often become quite strong personality traits.

A person who believes the world is a harsh and dangerous place is no doubt seeing many unwanted circumstances and likely has a stronger expectation of unwanted things happening. Alternatively someone who sees the world as a friendlier place will be attracting more uplifting circumstances and will naturally see the world in a more positive light with a naturally higher expectation of good things happening.

It can be easy to judge others as we observe them taking actions we’ve labelled as wrong, but for them it’s highly likely to be movement to a better feeling place than where they just were. Judging someone as wrong and thinking that that will make them make better choices has a long history of not working, and in fact encourages exactly what we are not wanting because we get more of what we’re focused on.

Instead, focusing on the best of what we want for others but understanding they have their own choices and path to follow let’s love and compassion flow through you to them, and is the best gift you have to give another……

And so it is……

Everything I do…I do it for you…As if!!

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I think it’s amusing when people tell a big story about how they do all these things for other people, like it’s not also for them as if they can take their own desires out of the equation.
It goes something like this…
I’m here purely for others, I help others with no regard for what I’m wanting and for no personal benefit.
And I say, “who do you think you are kidding?
Now it’s true we can be kind and do wonderful things for others, there’s no doubt about that, especially if this is the person we are wanting to be, but think about it….why would we be doing such things, or anything for that matter, without a reason?
If we are being kind and doing things for others, we are doing this because it feels good. Now some may disagree and say, “No , I’m often doing things because I feel I have to and not because it’s feeling good,” and I say the same thing, even if you are doing things that are not making you feel like you want to “jump for joy,” you are still choosing this action over an even less good feeling action…are we not? Yes, it is true.

For example, let’s say I may not be the greatest morning person in the world but I need to get up at a reasonable time to get ready for my forthcoming day ahead. I could just stay in bed if I really wanted to and say, “bugger it, I’m not getting up now,” but I choose to get up because even though I would like to stay in bed, for me I would feel like I haven’t followed through with something I should have and that would feel worse than not getting up. This example may seem like an unimportant subject, but it matters not how important or unimportant the subject is, although we may put more pressure on ourselves to make the best choice if we feel the subject is more important to us, so whether we are aware of it or not, we are always choosing what we think will feel best.
“Which choice out of the options before me feels best, what choice do I feel will get me the closest to that which I am wanting?” It does not matter whether it’s a choice between two wanted situations, something wanted and unwanted, or two unwanted situations.
There may be many factors we consider depending on the situation, where we are in relation to the situation, and the outcome we are desiring, but it always comes down to the same thing, after considering all the possibilities, which choice do we think will feel best?
So I didn’t say our choices are always easy between a wanted or unwanted choice, more often that not and depending on where many earlier choices have lead us based on where we are and our focused thoughts,(vibration) it can be between two highly unwanted choices, but no matter what our choices are, we have the ability to turn any choice into a positive outcome through the power of our focused thoughts.

The idea that a person is not really doing something good unless they want absolutely nothing out of it, is a false truth that can never truly be.
Why?
Because we have all come forward into this life with powerful Inner Guidance from the Non-Physical part of us that remained in the Non-Physical realm giving us constant and consistent feedback in the form of our emotions, letting us know where we are in relation to all we are wanting. If this is so, (and it is) we are always doing what we believe will benefit us most. This does not mean that our intentions cannot be pure in the sense, it feels good to be kind to others, it feels good to help others, it feels good to love others, this is the ultimate “win/win situation!”
And I don’t know about you, but I have never once met a person that has no emotional feelings, although it is possible to meet one that has not listened to what their emotions have been telling them, or have felt so much negative emotion for so long, they have become numb to it.
They are still receiving emotional feedback about where they are in relation to what they are wanting, but may not have understood what it meant or that they had the absolute power to move to a better feeling place. If we do not exercise our power of moving to a better vibrational place, it’s usually only a matter of time before we start becoming accustomed to our negative feelings, and over time, it starts becoming our normal emotional place to be in, feeling less negative than it once did.
So one could think “awesome” when I’m feeling negative emotion, I don’t need to make an effort to move myself to a better feeling place because after a while I’ll get used to it and I won’t feel it anymore. (because it can be difficult and does take some effort if you have lived in this body for some time without exercising your power to do so)
And I say “Holy Moses,” remember that the powerful Law of Attraction is responding in-kind to how you are really feeling, not to what you have become numb too!
Yes, it’s true you cannot hide how you are really feeling from the Universe and the Law of Attraction, and what you are really feeling will be reflected back to you in all manner of manifestations.
You do not need to go back to work through everything you have felt strong negative emotion about in the past.
If we are paying attention to what’s turning up in our experience right here, right now, and doing our best to move to the best feeling place we can even if it’s only a slightly improved feeling place, (especially with negative feeling manifestations) this starts to clear resistance that may have been preventing us from moving in the direction we are really wanting to go, and as we get power and momentum behind this new and improved vibrational place, there’s only one direction this leads….
And that’s into more of the “awesome” life experience you came here to live….

And so it is….

A question about living in the present moment….

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The following post is in answer to a question that was asked in relation to the post “A little word about living in the present moment.” If you would like to view the previous post here is the link,but I like to think that this post stands on its own whether or not you view the previous post. The question was as follows:
For me this is one of the toughest lessons to teach myself. I truly relate to celebrating small improvements, however, this still remains my greatest personal challenge. I would be interested to hear your perspective on how to remain focused in the present moment when there and those around me still wanting to discuss negative experiences from the past?
1. I have trouble recalling what exactly happened.
2. I don’t want to allow myself to return to a place of negative feelings.
Thank-you for your question Sherryn!
My answer is…
I totally hear what you’re saying, and I know it’s not always easy staying focused in the present moment, especially when there are many things going on around you that you may be focusing on and having many different thoughts about.
It’s usually all the thoughts we’re having about whatever it is we’re observing that maybe preventing us from staying present, especially if our thoughts are judgemental or negatively based.
Since others are bringing to you negative experiences from the past, it may be an indication that whatever they are bringing to you is something you also need to move to a better feeling place about?
Only you will know this because only you know how you feel in relation to whatever information they are bringing to you. And even if it is something you feel you need to move vibrationally on, it is for you to choose if that is the time and place you wish to try to do it, because you now have someone else’s input and vibration to deal with.
Sometimes it can be better or easier to move on subjects when you are on your own with your own thoughts, for doing it around others that are negatively focused takes immense power and strength of focus to do, for not only are you trying to move yourself to a better feeling place, now you may have taken on the task or burden of having to move them to a better feeling place also.
The fact that you are not remembering clearly what they are trying to rehash or bring up again is a great sign, it’s a sign you have not held on to negative emotions in relation to this experience, you have moved forward, and thinking about this even if it happened in the not too distant past feels like another life ago.
I would not try to remember negative details about something that you know you have moved forward on. If the person you are communicating with is important to you, you may wish to try and generally steer them in a more positive direction… but remember some people will not be easily moved from where they are, for they believe strongly in their perspective of what has happened and will point out to you, all the evidence that’s around them to support and justify how they feel and where they are! If this happens you are better to either casually redirect the conversation to something completely different, but if that doesn’t work, leave the conversation entirely!
This is not rude and can be done in a pleasant way. ( everyone needs to go to the toilet sooner or later ) Hehehe!!
But seriously, this is the kindest action you can take, for you do not do yourself any favours by focusing on what someone else has to say regarding everything that isn’t working in their life, and it definitely doesn’t do them any good either for they just create more power and momentum behind what they are not wanting by speaking of it to others, for the Law of Attraction is responding to their vibration in-kind just as it is to ours.
If they are trying to bring your attention to everything they perceive is not working in your life, do not take part in any way in these types of conversations. We cannot listen to people saying such things without including this is our vibration, especially if they are someone who is important to us or that we respect. You will know and you will feel if people are giving you advice and it’s coming from a pure non-resistant place, even if it isn’t 100% positive.
For me the easiest way I find to bring myself back into the present moment, is to find something around me, anything, it doesn’t really matter what it is, and focus intently and positively upon it to the exclusion of everything else, for this must bring you into the now, even if it is for a short period of time to begin with, for as you practice it more and more it starts to become more of your normal way of being!!
But be warned, many will see you as strange or weird, for they will say, “look at that happy one over there, why are they so happy? Look at everything that is happening around them!” And you will know what you have done to get there, and through knowing the power of who you are, you will be an example to others of what is possible, for when we get power and momentum behind us, it’s so good!!
And so our journey together continues…