Am I being selfish enough…..To look after myself???

LightAngel
The word “selfish” has definitely come to mean a very negative quality that one would not usually be happy to be called, for when this is said it usually implies taking advantage of others for our own personal gain, a trait that most would agree is…..Well, not very nice!! (Remember, Law of Attraction)

When I speak about being selfish, which by the way we all are to different degrees, I’m talking about looking after our own needs and wants before others, but definitely not to the detriment of others, and often for the upliftment of all involved.

Do you think that’s selfish???
Yes, it most certainly is, but consider this for a moment. When did it become “not good” to look after ones own interests in a positive way? And I ask the question, who is going to look after you, if you will not?

We intentionally and specifically came into this physical world to decide and create for ourselves the life we’re wanting to live, so no other is able or can look after us better than we can. Every one of us has our own personal perspectives on life based on everything we’ve experienced, and unless someone has the ability to get inside us and know exactly how we’re thinking and feeling in relation to what we’ve experienced and what we’re wanting, they’re not in a better position than we are to decide what we should be doing.

That’s not to say we can’t get some good external guidance from outside of ourselves, especially if all parties involved are in a good feeling vibrational place about it, but the final decision is always ours after weighing up all the factors before us, and hopefully with the inclusion of our Non-Physical Inner Guidance.

For me, being selfish is another way of saying;

Nothing is more important to me than that I feel as good as I possible can at any given point in time. And because I know that I am the only one that can control how I am feeling, no matter what others around me are doing, I am going to do my best to move into the best feeling place I currently have access too. I know by making an effort to be in the best feeling vibrational place I can be in, I have the most benefit to offer others, so by looking after myself and making how I am feeling my top priority, now I am sharing the very best of me with everyone I come into contact with……

And that’s what I would call “A win, win situation!!”

And so it is….

Everything I do…I do it for you…As if!!

DarkTree
I think it’s amusing when people tell a big story about how they do all these things for other people, like it’s not also for them as if they can take their own desires out of the equation.
It goes something like this…
I’m here purely for others, I help others with no regard for what I’m wanting and for no personal benefit.
And I say, “who do you think you are kidding?
Now it’s true we can be kind and do wonderful things for others, there’s no doubt about that, especially if this is the person we are wanting to be, but think about it….why would we be doing such things, or anything for that matter, without a reason?
If we are being kind and doing things for others, we are doing this because it feels good. Now some may disagree and say, “No , I’m often doing things because I feel I have to and not because it’s feeling good,” and I say the same thing, even if you are doing things that are not making you feel like you want to “jump for joy,” you are still choosing this action over an even less good feeling action…are we not? Yes, it is true.

For example, let’s say I may not be the greatest morning person in the world but I need to get up at a reasonable time to get ready for my forthcoming day ahead. I could just stay in bed if I really wanted to and say, “bugger it, I’m not getting up now,” but I choose to get up because even though I would like to stay in bed, for me I would feel like I haven’t followed through with something I should have and that would feel worse than not getting up. This example may seem like an unimportant subject, but it matters not how important or unimportant the subject is, although we may put more pressure on ourselves to make the best choice if we feel the subject is more important to us, so whether we are aware of it or not, we are always choosing what we think will feel best.
“Which choice out of the options before me feels best, what choice do I feel will get me the closest to that which I am wanting?” It does not matter whether it’s a choice between two wanted situations, something wanted and unwanted, or two unwanted situations.
There may be many factors we consider depending on the situation, where we are in relation to the situation, and the outcome we are desiring, but it always comes down to the same thing, after considering all the possibilities, which choice do we think will feel best?
So I didn’t say our choices are always easy between a wanted or unwanted choice, more often that not and depending on where many earlier choices have lead us based on where we are and our focused thoughts,(vibration) it can be between two highly unwanted choices, but no matter what our choices are, we have the ability to turn any choice into a positive outcome through the power of our focused thoughts.

The idea that a person is not really doing something good unless they want absolutely nothing out of it, is a false truth that can never truly be.
Why?
Because we have all come forward into this life with powerful Inner Guidance from the Non-Physical part of us that remained in the Non-Physical realm giving us constant and consistent feedback in the form of our emotions, letting us know where we are in relation to all we are wanting. If this is so, (and it is) we are always doing what we believe will benefit us most. This does not mean that our intentions cannot be pure in the sense, it feels good to be kind to others, it feels good to help others, it feels good to love others, this is the ultimate “win/win situation!”
And I don’t know about you, but I have never once met a person that has no emotional feelings, although it is possible to meet one that has not listened to what their emotions have been telling them, or have felt so much negative emotion for so long, they have become numb to it.
They are still receiving emotional feedback about where they are in relation to what they are wanting, but may not have understood what it meant or that they had the absolute power to move to a better feeling place. If we do not exercise our power of moving to a better vibrational place, it’s usually only a matter of time before we start becoming accustomed to our negative feelings, and over time, it starts becoming our normal emotional place to be in, feeling less negative than it once did.
So one could think “awesome” when I’m feeling negative emotion, I don’t need to make an effort to move myself to a better feeling place because after a while I’ll get used to it and I won’t feel it anymore. (because it can be difficult and does take some effort if you have lived in this body for some time without exercising your power to do so)
And I say “Holy Moses,” remember that the powerful Law of Attraction is responding in-kind to how you are really feeling, not to what you have become numb too!
Yes, it’s true you cannot hide how you are really feeling from the Universe and the Law of Attraction, and what you are really feeling will be reflected back to you in all manner of manifestations.
You do not need to go back to work through everything you have felt strong negative emotion about in the past.
If we are paying attention to what’s turning up in our experience right here, right now, and doing our best to move to the best feeling place we can even if it’s only a slightly improved feeling place, (especially with negative feeling manifestations) this starts to clear resistance that may have been preventing us from moving in the direction we are really wanting to go, and as we get power and momentum behind this new and improved vibrational place, there’s only one direction this leads….
And that’s into more of the “awesome” life experience you came here to live….

And so it is….