Selfish

Is being “Right” more important to me than being Happy???

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This is my reply to a comment from a previous post about being HAPPY and here’s the link if you’d like to read it, but I like to think this stands on its own whether or not you read the previous post.

Yes…..Most people love the feeling of being right!!! What we believe is right depends on our beliefs, experiences, and level of knowing….So what is right in one person’s mind is not right in another’s, everything is open to interpretation based on where we are vibrationally. That’s why it’s a futile endeavour to spend time trying to convince others of our rightness and their wrongness, for what is true and right for each of us will depend on our focus which has attracted our life experiences becoming the truth we are living, even if it isn’t the ultimate truth.

It’s also important to know we’ll be attracting many unwanted circumstances by arguing our point as the Law of Attraction responds to all the vibrations we’re sending out during these and all other types of interactions bringing us more of the same!!! It’s a good idea to ask oneself if we’re liking the current conversation that’s taking place, and if we would like similar interactions that feel the same in the future???

In relation to others saying “I just want them to be happy,” what people often mean is, “This person plays a pivotal part in my life, and although I do want them to be happy, when they aren’t I find it very difficult to maintain a good feeling vibrational place….So in order for me to feel happy I need to see them happy, and if they really cared about me they would do this so I can once again be happy as I see them happy.”
And I say…..Holy Moses, not much kills good relationships faster than expecting another to provide what we all know deep down we should be providing for ourselves!!
I know this isn’t always easy to do….Especially with the ones that are so dear to us, but being “selfish” and making how we feel our top priority, is more unselfish than many may think. By looking after and making an effort to feel as good as we can while those around us are not, now we have so much good to offer them. And sometimes it’s watching another we love and respect that’s able to feel good in the face of unwanted circumstances that gives us the inspiration to do the same….
But even if it doesn’t at lest we know we haven’t wallowed around in the unwanted mud with them creating unwanted circumstances for ourselves, and helping to add power and momentum to their unwanted situation!!!

Some may call that selfish….I call it “KNOWING!!!”

And so it is….

Am I being selfish enough…..To look after myself???

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LightAngel
The word “selfish” has definitely come to mean a very negative quality that one would not usually be happy to be called, for when this is said it usually implies taking advantage of others for our own personal gain, a trait that most would agree is…..Well, not very nice!! (Remember, Law of Attraction)

When I speak about being selfish, which by the way we all are to different degrees, I’m talking about looking after our own needs and wants before others, but definitely not to the detriment of others, and often for the upliftment of all involved.

Do you think that’s selfish???
Yes, it most certainly is, but consider this for a moment. When did it become “not good” to look after ones own interests in a positive way? And I ask the question, who is going to look after you, if you will not?

We intentionally and specifically came into this physical world to decide and create for ourselves the life we’re wanting to live, so no other is able or can look after us better than we can. Every one of us has our own personal perspectives on life based on everything we’ve experienced, and unless someone has the ability to get inside us and know exactly how we’re thinking and feeling in relation to what we’ve experienced and what we’re wanting, they’re not in a better position than we are to decide what we should be doing.

That’s not to say we can’t get some good external guidance from outside of ourselves, especially if all parties involved are in a good feeling vibrational place about it, but the final decision is always ours after weighing up all the factors before us, and hopefully with the inclusion of our Non-Physical Inner Guidance.

For me, being selfish is another way of saying;

Nothing is more important to me than that I feel as good as I possible can at any given point in time. And because I know that I am the only one that can control how I am feeling, no matter what others around me are doing, I am going to do my best to move into the best feeling place I currently have access too. I know by making an effort to be in the best feeling vibrational place I can be in, I have the most benefit to offer others, so by looking after myself and making how I am feeling my top priority, now I am sharing the very best of me with everyone I come into contact with……

And that’s what I would call “A win, win situation!!”

And so it is….