Question from Master Eight…. Is it better to listen to other people?

This is a conversation between me and my eight-year-old son that I recorded and then typed out for this post.
If you’re wondering why it’s because he often asks me the most amazing questions that we’ll have a long conversation about. The last question he had was a few days ago, and at the end of it I said: “I’ve got an awesome idea, we should try recording our conversations and I’ll make a post out of them!” He thought that was a cool idea, so this is a conversation we had today!

For ease of reading, I have edited unnecessary content and very personal circumstances related to the subject we’ve been talking about but feel it’s a truthful representation, most being word for word, of our conversation.

Master Eight-M8, is in Italics.

So what’s your question again Darling?

M8-Is it better to listen to other people?

Compared to what?


Compared to what you want to do?


So what made you want to know that?

M8-Because I just wanted to know if people should listen to others.

So you want to know if you should listen to other people?


Like what other people?

M8-Like you and Daddy, people like that…

So you mean just Mummy and Daddy, not other people, because do you usually listen to other people?


Ok, who would be the other people in your life apart from Mummy and Daddy that you would listen too?

M8-Arghh…Uhm…My teacher at school.

Anyone else….or are you only talking about people you know well?

M8-Yer, not just like people you don’t know that are strangers because if people say things to me and it’s someone I don’t know, I don’t say anything and I just don’t listen to them.

That’s a good idea, it’s not good to listen to people you don’t know.

Do you think it’s a good idea to listen to Mummy and Daddy and your teacher at school?


Why do you think it’s a good idea?

M8-Well, sometimes if I don’t listen to you guys I might not get to do other things I want to do.

Ok, is that the only reason you listen because you don’t want the negative consequences?


Are you sure that’s the only reason you listen, because you don’t want something unwanted to happen?



M8-Well, sometimes I listen to you when I’m playing my game when you call me for lunch or dinner and I don’t just ignore you because I’m hungry.


Well, I think it’s a little bit sad the only reason you listen is because you want to be able to play your game, is that the only reason you listen?


Well, what other reasons are there?

M8-Arghh…because…I’m thinking…I’m thinking…I’m thinking…

Well my question to you is, are you only listening to us to avoid not being able to have something you want?

M8-Well sometimes I get in trouble if I don’t listen to you guys.

Yes, but…

M8-And I don’t like getting in trouble…

Like what sort of trouble?

M8-Like if I am mean I get told off or I have to go away for a bit.

But aren’t you sometimes listening because it feels good to listen?

M8-Yes, it does sometimes.

But you don’t listen to us all the time though do you, so if we asked you to do something but it strongly goes against what you want to do you don’t always listen, which is okay I’m just saying you’re not only listening to us blindly without any regard to how you’re feeling.


Would it be true to say you’re making a choice to listen based on, will it feel better to listen and do this or will it feel better not to listen and do that.
And doesn’t the decision you make depend on the possible consequences you think may happen, and how much you do or don’t want to do something, but it’s still a choice that you make after weighing up all the pros and cons of the situation.

So would it be fair to say you’re making your decisions based on what feels best and what you feel will get you the closest to what you are wanting and sometimes that’s listening to Mum and Dad and sometimes it isn’t


That’s all you can do, that’s what everyone does, from where ever we are now, we’re all choosing what we feel is the best option for us, the choice we feel will hopefully produce the best outcome.

Of course, I’m Mum so I would always say it’s a good idea to listen to your Awesome Mummy wouldn’t I!! Hehehe

M8-And Awesome Daddy!! Hehehe

Yes, and at the end of the day, you’re always guided by yourself. Sometimes it’s good to listen, and sometimes it isn’t, I can’t say you should always or exclusively listen to anyone because you have to listen to yourself. Only you know what feels best for you, don’t you think Darling?


And so it is….

The art of communication is….???


Communication happens between all living things. The question is not whether this is so, but more are we aware this is so?    Paulette De-Har


As we start interacting with others, a group or individual with the strongest dominant vibration dictates how the conversation goes and everyone else usually adjusts their vibration to be part of the conversation. For most, this happens at an unconscious level when we have a desire to participate in a conversation and to listen to what others have to say, even if it’s not where we usually stand on that subject. We may feel we have something valuable to add to the conversation or we may want to persuade others to our way of thinking, sometimes we simply do not want to be rude. Think about some of the interactions you’ve had in the past, there is often one that is more dominant as this is a natural occurrence when communicating.
Are you aware this is happening?
Knowing this helps us to be able to make more informed choices about whether we allow ourselves to be part of a conversation that may not be helping us or others to create what we are wanting in our lives.
Is the dominant person positively or negatively focused?
It never does any good to be part of a conversation that is dominated in a negative direction, and if we cannot maintain a positive vibrational place, this is not a conversation that’s usually worth continuing with.
How are you feeling as this conversation progresses?
As this conversation continues, positive emotion indicates we’re creating wanted circumstances in our life, whereas negative emotion indicates we’re creating unwanted circumstances in our life, every time.
Some may say it’s impossible not to come into contact with negative people while living our lives, and yes, I would definitely agree with that statement, but it’s not about trying to eradicate every negative person or situation, but more about how we react to these encounters that determines what we are pre-paving in our future experiences.
No two people are in exactly the same vibrational place ( because how boring would that be anyway! ) So there will always be differences between us, but it’s interesting to take note of who we do come into contact with, as it is a reflection of what we’ve got going on vibrationally.
Don’t let me give you the impression we never want to come into contact with negative people, for they always give us a wonderful opportunity, a chance to take control of our mind and how we feel, by not letting others negativeness drag us down. It can also help us to focus more intensely and powerfully on what we are wanting.
Or we can choose to observe others with negative judgements, blame or criticism, therefore focusing more strongly on interactions we’re not wanting that the Law of Attraction is responding to in-kind and giving us more of.
If we do surround ourselves or find ourselves with many negative people around us, I think it’s worthwhile asking one’s self why this is? If we’re able to maintain a positive place while in their company, there is usually a backlash afterwards of extreme exhaustion or feeling low for it takes great power to maintain a good feeling place amongst many negative ones for any period of time, but it is preferable to letting our vibration be brought down to their level.
So everyone sits in a general vibrational place which can usually be explained as our common demeanour or mood that we’re often in. We may have ups and downs, but there is always a general mood that we naturally return to over and over and it can be at any emotional place from appreciation and love all the way down to hopelessness and depression or anywhere in between.
Although people can be encouraged out of their general vibrational place by others, if no change of thought takes place, the shift will only be temporary and their vibration will return to their normal place once the influencer leaves. It often takes awareness and the desire to feel good above all other things and apart from what others are doing to make any lasting vibrational movement.
You often hear people say opposites attract and although this is often true, especially in the beginning, if similarities are not found on core beliefs, these relationships do not usually last. There must be some vibrational harmony within any relationship otherwise it is often a very unpleasant relationship to be in.
So it’s interesting to look at the interactions and relationships we’re involved in, both positive and negative for it is an indication of where we are and what we are attracting through our thoughts and emotions. (vibration)
For it’s not until we know where we are and how we got here, that we can see with more clarity where we want to go and how to get there!
And so our journey together continues….