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Am I wrong….For thinking outside the box of where I stay???

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Am I wrong, for thinking outside the box of where I stay….The easy answer to that is no!! Whatever we think and then consequently feel is neither right or wrong, it just is, but I think most of us would understand what this is really getting at, and it goes something like this;

I’ve noticed what everyone around me seems to be doing, and it often tends to be of a very similar nature. I do not wish to follow the same path others are on just so I fit in to what is expected of me, but I’ve also noticed that when I speak of my different choices, most try to convince me it’s not a good idea to go against the norm. I know they’re trying to help and give me advice on what they believe is in my best interests and although I still hold true to what I believe is best for me, all that external disapproval no matter how well-meaning it is, does shake my confidence a little and make me wonder if I’m doing the right thing???

Yes, it doesn’t make for the easiest journey in the world when we go against the norms of our family, culture or the society we were bought up in.
But the question has to be asked, what is the alternative??? If what we’re wanting to do does fit in with our up-bringing, that’s great, but if what we’re really wanting to do doesn’t fit in but we still attempt to disregard our true desires and do what others expect of us, that’s not ideal.

It’s not that things can’t work out if we go against what we’re really wanting to do, they can, but that all depends on how we feel about making whatever choice we’ve made and if we’ve put all our positive thoughts and feelings behind those choices. The ability to put our positive thought behind the decisions we make depends largely on how strong our feelings are that we should be doing something else. The stronger our feelings are that we should be doing something other than what we are, the harder it is to get our thought in a positive vibrational place.

Going against something we’re feeling strongly about can have unwanted consequences, especially if our thought is not improved.
Our feelings are communication from our Inner Being, the Non-Physical part of ourselves that’s remained in the Non-Physical realm letting us know we’re going against something we’re really wanting, often intentions we’ve put forward before coming forward into this Physical world, something that if we don’t pursue, we may find it difficult to find true happiness.

Each of us are the only ones that can be the true judge of what we should or shouldn’t be doing based on what we’re wanting and what we feel are the best choices that will get us the closest to what we’re really wanting.
Avoid allowing others that aren’t following what’s in their heart, but what others have told them they should be doing to steer you in a direction that’s not in your best interests.

One thing is for sure, in order to follow through with what ones wanting to do when we’ve received plenty of external disapproval and counteracting advice, we’ve had to be strong in mind and have often improved our thought to an even better vibrational place……which means with time and focus, we’re in the perfect position to achieve exactly that which we’re wanting, and that truly is so good!!!

And so it is….

Are you using an outdated roadmap???

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Try reading a roadmap from a hundred years ago and see where it gets you! I’m sure you can see fairly quickly, that is ridiculous advice. So it always amazes me how some people are still trying to live their lives by a book that was written 2000 years ago.
As with an old roadmap, most of the large landmasses and major roads are still probably the same, but as you get into the more specific small details of your map, almost everything will be different.
So one could say, the basic principles or major concepts within these books are still strong and relevant to the lives we are living today, but the specific details, when relating it to our daily lives here and now, are very different. And so it is, with many books and scriptures that were written by many different sages and prophets from the past.

It’s not for anyone to tell others what they should or shouldn’t take from these books, that is a choice made by each individual based on their freedom to choose as they wish. The criteria I would use to determine whether I would follow advice given by, not just books, but anything is… is it working for me? If it isn’t working in our lives, who cares who said it, when they said it, and why they said it? If it improves our life in any way, then for us, it must be sound advice, but if it doesn’t improve our life after giving it time, why would we continue to follow it? The only reasonable answer I can come up with for following advice that obviously is not working, is if we are coming from a place of fear.

Fear that we need to do something someone else has set out for us, or there will be unwanted consequences? This often begins from the first day we are born into this physical world. As children we allowed, without really knowing we were doing it, our Internal Guidance to be overridden by the people around us that had been here longer than us, and thought they knew exactly how, what, and why we should be doing this or that. I am not blaming anyone, I am stating a fact. Most were doing their best based on how they grew up and what they knew at the time, nevertheless, it produces a lack of confidence and a need to be guided in every little thing we do, so when something new comes up, we are often lost as to what to do, often searching for direction and advice from external sources.

This does not necessarily need to be negative if we can assess honestly how the advice we have taken is working in our life rather than blindly following without question, even when, deep down, it doesn’t feel right. That’s our Inner Guidance, our very own internal emotional guidance, that’s specifically and precisely giving us advice on any matter that is important to us. We had it when we entered this physical world and we’ve had it every day since.

If we feel we are not receiving any such guidance, it’s because it has been overshadowed and drowned out by all the advice and guidance that has come from external sources, often to such a point, we’re no longer even aware we have it.
If we don’t believe or even know we have such guidance, it can be near impossible to find without conscious awareness, and so we go from one source of advice to another, searching for something that fits us just right, but it will not be found from outside of us, what we are searching for comes from within us.

The best advice will always come from within you, and many of us are starting to access this wonderful Inner Guidance. We are now living in a time, where we are questioning the way we do things, and the beliefs that have been given to us by our family, culture, community or religion. There is benefit to all of it, even in doing things that are not working, for it is often in the process of realising something isn’t working that you become open to what it is that does work.
Such is the process and joy of this physical life….

And so it is….

Observations about our Beautiful Children….

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Anyone that has children would have no doubt noticed that today’s generation of children are very different from their parents and previous generations. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to figure that out, and it’s interesting to note, when people often speak of this, they tend to highlight many things they consider negative.
“We didn’t do that in my day, we behaved ourselves and just did what we were told.” Now that’s lovely if we’re believing everything someone else tells us or our feeling good depends upon making someone else happy and feel good. But the truth is, most of our beautiful children are not prepared to take everything we say as being right or good for them. I understand this makes for navigating the parenting of children far more difficult than it may have previously been, it’s rather easy when someone has largely substituted their own Inner Guidance for someone else’s, for they are more likely to listen and blindly follow instructions…. But is this what we really want for our children??? For me, the answer is simple…. No.

To bring today’s children to a place where they will listen and follow without question, their spirit has usually been broken to some degree, and the long-term consequences of this are not usually what we are wanting for those we deeply love. When a child’s own Inner Guidance is overridden and their spirit is broken by others, even those that have the best of intentions, what happens when you are not there to guide them? They are often lost and seek out another that will direct them in what to do, for they have not had an opportunity to think and make decisions for themselves. I’m not suggesting our little ones need no guidance, but the days of following without question are far behind us. I like to think of it now as more of a collaboration between parent and child, a belief that all have value, ideas, opinions and suggestions that at the very least, deserve to be listened too, considered and negotiated.

Our children have very different and specific needs compared to previous generations. A one size fits all, do what I say approach (and sometimes not what I do) no longer works and did it ever work….I don’t know??? Children are coming forward in these times with a stronger determination, purpose, and confidence that does require a more flexible parenting style, and in truth are guiding us all to be better parents, better teachers, and better leaders.
Yes, they are teaching us to be better human beings…and I cannot think of a greater life purpose to have in this wonderful physical world…

And so it is….