Expectations

Do you remember it’s Valentine’s Day tomorrow???

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Valentines Day Quote
This is something I asked my husband as I drove home today, just interested to know if he was even aware it was Valentine’s Day tomorrow!!!
That probably gives you an idea of how important it is to him….Hehehe!!!
Anyway, his answer was “Babe we don’t need to celebrate Valentine’s Day, every day is like Valentine’s Day to us!!!”
And I say, what a greaser…..But it’s hard not to smile at that well-prepared answer don’t you think???

I totally get it why heaps of people aren’t that happy to celebrate Valentine’s Day and I’m sure I could make a long list of all the reasons why people don’t like it. But I won’t since this is supposed to be a blog focused on the positive side of life, not all the negative thoughts and beliefs we hold that may be stopping us from experiencing the fullness and richness of what this life has to offer us!!!(Opps, I do do that sometimes….Can’t solve a problem when we don’t know what the problem is, right???)

Although I understand the objections many have to celebrating such days, we can over think things, because after all sometimes it’s just nice to do something for someone you love without making a big issue out of it??? If we don’t feel like we can get ourselves into a good feeling place about doing something nice for our partner, we are better off to do nothing. There’s nothing worse than receiving something from someone that’s resentful about giving it!!!

Sometimes it’s an excuse for not wanting to get off our butts and do something out of our normal, often boring routine……Just another job on a long list of stuff we don’t want to do.
And I know it often doesn’t feel good to give to someone when there’s a very high expectation that we should, for appreciation is often low in these circumstances, but the way I see it is…. Something given to another with a pure and loving heart is worth so much.

It’s not about money or feeling we have to do something for someone out of obligation. It’s about love….Pure and simple love….

And so it is….

Am I wrong….For thinking outside the box of where I stay???

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Am I wrong, for thinking outside the box of where I stay….The easy answer to that is no!! Whatever we think and then consequently feel is neither right or wrong, it just is, but I think most of us would understand what this is really getting at, and it goes something like this;

I’ve noticed what everyone around me seems to be doing, and it often tends to be of a very similar nature. I do not wish to follow the same path others are on just so I fit in to what is expected of me, but I’ve also noticed that when I speak of my different choices, most try to convince me it’s not a good idea to go against the norm. I know they’re trying to help and give me advice on what they believe is in my best interests and although I still hold true to what I believe is best for me, all that external disapproval no matter how well-meaning it is, does shake my confidence a little and make me wonder if I’m doing the right thing???

Yes, it doesn’t make for the easiest journey in the world when we go against the norms of our family, culture or the society we were bought up in.
But the question has to be asked, what is the alternative??? If what we’re wanting to do does fit in with our up-bringing, that’s great, but if what we’re really wanting to do doesn’t fit in but we still attempt to disregard our true desires and do what others expect of us, that’s not ideal.

It’s not that things can’t work out if we go against what we’re really wanting to do, they can, but that all depends on how we feel about making whatever choice we’ve made and if we’ve put all our positive thoughts and feelings behind those choices. The ability to put our positive thought behind the decisions we make depends largely on how strong our feelings are that we should be doing something else. The stronger our feelings are that we should be doing something other than what we are, the harder it is to get our thought in a positive vibrational place.

Going against something we’re feeling strongly about can have unwanted consequences, especially if our thought is not improved.
Our feelings are communication from our Inner Being, the Non-Physical part of ourselves that’s remained in the Non-Physical realm letting us know we’re going against something we’re really wanting, often intentions we’ve put forward before coming forward into this Physical world, something that if we don’t pursue, we may find it difficult to find true happiness.

Each of us are the only ones that can be the true judge of what we should or shouldn’t be doing based on what we’re wanting and what we feel are the best choices that will get us the closest to what we’re really wanting.
Avoid allowing others that aren’t following what’s in their heart, but what others have told them they should be doing to steer you in a direction that’s not in your best interests.

One thing is for sure, in order to follow through with what ones wanting to do when we’ve received plenty of external disapproval and counteracting advice, we’ve had to be strong in mind and have often improved our thought to an even better vibrational place……which means with time and focus, we’re in the perfect position to achieve exactly that which we’re wanting, and that truly is so good!!!

And so it is….

When you don’t expect too much from other’s…. It’s hard to be disappointed.

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What I’m getting at with this statement is, when you place very high expectations on other’s, you put yourself in a position to be highly disappointed if things don’t work out how you may have envisioned, and it can also start the process where we may attempt to control or manipulate behaviour to try to get them to achieve the outcome we are desiring for them.

Most of the time, the outcomes we’re hoping for are usually positive and something that our recipient is usually desiring too, but when we place very high expectations on them, especially our young children, it can become a heavy burden for them to carry, which now means they may become more focused on the burden of someone else’s expectations of them rather than achieving what they are wanting in a positive manner and that’s not ideal.

Many may disagree and say, “It’s because I care, and I only want the best for them!” And I say, of course we do, especially when it comes to our beautiful children, we all want the best for them, but by placing excessively high expectations on them, often works against what we’re wanting rather than increasing the likely hood of it.

Not having high expectations of others does not necessarily mean you don’t care about how they are doing or that you don’t want them to achieve good things. It’s a great intention to want the best for everyone we come into contact with, that’s the true power of influencing people positively, for true knowing is felt at an emotional, vibrational level and does not require words or placing high expectations on people to effect them deeply.

For me the ideal situation is;

~ Knowing what someone wants, which is very easy to feel if you listen to what they are saying for any length of time.
~ Knowing they have the ability to get where they are wanting to go, even if a path does not seem clear at the present moment.
~ Knowing that everyone has their own experiences and desires that will produce may different circumstances in their life both wanted and unwanted that ultimately propels them forward.
~ To basically be at peace with their experience and to know things will work out for the best, even if there are a few bumps along the way, this is the greatest benefit you can hope to give to anyone.

If we allow ourselves to worry, be stressed, upset, annoyed, angry, or frustrated about another’s experience or situation without making an effort to move to a better feeling vibrational place or to find some good in it, we are of very little benefit to them, or to ourselves, it is true.
If we can let go of expectations we may be placing on ourselves and other’s, we make space for more wonderful things to flow into our life, it’s a way of saying we believe that life is supposed to be good, and we all have the ability to create what we’re wanting in our lives.
That’s a very good vibration to be sending out into the Universe don’t you think?

This life is a process, a journey, and we are all making our way in the best way we know how, so acknowledge that, and move forward as positively as you can, for that has to be good enough….

And so it is….