Disappointment

I’ve sacrificed so much for this…….Uh oh!!

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If we feel like we’ve given up a lot for anything, whether it be our career, family, children, or friends, this can set us up for disappointment if the effort we feel we’ve put into such things is not reciprocated.

I often hear people say they do many things for their children and feel like their efforts are not appreciated.
And I say, if course our efforts are not appreciated….Children in these days are coming forward with a much stronger understanding of who they are, and who others are. They’re understanding whatever someone does is their choice and not so much about them, even if we are trying to tell them what we’re doing is only for their benefit. If we are feeling resentful about the things we are choosing to do for our children…..this is not ideal.

I know we all have to do thing’s sometimes that we’d rather not,(like going to children’s birthday parties!!!) And yes, maybe we’re doing it because we feel we should, but it’s important to make an effort to move into a better feeling place regarding whatever we’ve chosen to do otherwise it does leave one feeling quite resentful if appreciation for the unwanted effort we’ve made isn’t reciprocated.

From the viewpoint of Law of Attraction, if we are receiving back that which we are giving out through our vibration, and we are, when we feel annoyed or under appreciated, if we give these thoughts and actions plenty of air time and focus through our thought process the likelihood of receiving back appreciation for our efforts are not great. The more actions we take and feel annoyed, under appreciated, or begrudgingly do without improving our thought, the greater the possibility of attracting more circumstances where we may feel under appreciated!!

I know that may sound a bit, well…..annoying, but the truth is, even if we are doing something for someone else’s benefit, we must admit at some level, we are also doing it for ourselves, because we feel it’s the best choice we can make at that time. (even if it is a choice better two unwanted circumstances) It’s about taking responsibility for the choices we make and feeling as good as we can about them, rather than blaming others for “all that we have to do for them!”

Of course it’s wonderful when others appreciate what we do, it would be pretty unusual if we didn’t like to be appreciated, but it must be enough that it’s what we want to do, that it’s something we believe is good or of benefit to ourselves first, and then others.

Trying to make anyone feel guilty by telling them all the things we are doing “just for them,” is not usually a good idea and often encourages a greater lack of appreciation…..unless of course, we bring very unwanted consequences upon them.
Learning to appreciate that which we currently have rather than focusing on that which we do not yet have is a very important part of the creation process, for it’s our positive focus on all that we already have that is working well and good that is the easiest path to all we’re wanting in our future experience!! (Remember, Law of Attraction)

Appreciation is a difficult concept to teach to our children because they believe it’s their natural birthright to have anything they are wanting, and they aren’t too far off the mark with that knowing. I encourage this belief in my children (yes, I really do!!) and explain to them they also need to foster an attitude of appreciation for all they already have that is good rather than focusing on what they don’t immediately get. We also talk about the Law of Attraction and how we’re pre-paving our future experiences by how we are feeling now, and that making an effort to feel as good as we possibly can, especially in the face of unwanted circumstances, is the best we can currently do!
The best way we can hope to teach our children how to appreciate what they currently have is by being an example of appreciation ourselves. I’m not talking about over praising every tiny thing in an out of proportion general way, but more focusing on the good that we see all around us in very genuine and specific ways.

It’s not possible to fake true appreciation, and when we are looking for things to appreciate, it’s not long before the Universe delivers us circumstances that start matching that dominant vibration within us, and that is what one might say is…. “Choice”!!

And so it is….

When you don’t expect too much from other’s…. It’s hard to be disappointed.

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What I’m getting at with this statement is, when you place very high expectations on other’s, you put yourself in a position to be highly disappointed if things don’t work out how you may have envisioned, and it can also start the process where we may attempt to control or manipulate behaviour to try to get them to achieve the outcome we are desiring for them.

Most of the time, the outcomes we’re hoping for are usually positive and something that our recipient is usually desiring too, but when we place very high expectations on them, especially our young children, it can become a heavy burden for them to carry, which now means they may become more focused on the burden of someone else’s expectations of them rather than achieving what they are wanting in a positive manner and that’s not ideal.

Many may disagree and say, “It’s because I care, and I only want the best for them!” And I say, of course we do, especially when it comes to our beautiful children, we all want the best for them, but by placing excessively high expectations on them, often works against what we’re wanting rather than increasing the likely hood of it.

Not having high expectations of others does not necessarily mean you don’t care about how they are doing or that you don’t want them to achieve good things. It’s a great intention to want the best for everyone we come into contact with, that’s the true power of influencing people positively, for true knowing is felt at an emotional, vibrational level and does not require words or placing high expectations on people to effect them deeply.

For me the ideal situation is;

~ Knowing what someone wants, which is very easy to feel if you listen to what they are saying for any length of time.
~ Knowing they have the ability to get where they are wanting to go, even if a path does not seem clear at the present moment.
~ Knowing that everyone has their own experiences and desires that will produce may different circumstances in their life both wanted and unwanted that ultimately propels them forward.
~ To basically be at peace with their experience and to know things will work out for the best, even if there are a few bumps along the way, this is the greatest benefit you can hope to give to anyone.

If we allow ourselves to worry, be stressed, upset, annoyed, angry, or frustrated about another’s experience or situation without making an effort to move to a better feeling vibrational place or to find some good in it, we are of very little benefit to them, or to ourselves, it is true.
If we can let go of expectations we may be placing on ourselves and other’s, we make space for more wonderful things to flow into our life, it’s a way of saying we believe that life is supposed to be good, and we all have the ability to create what we’re wanting in our lives.
That’s a very good vibration to be sending out into the Universe don’t you think?

This life is a process, a journey, and we are all making our way in the best way we know how, so acknowledge that, and move forward as positively as you can, for that has to be good enough….

And so it is….