When you don’t expect too much from other’s…. It’s hard to be disappointed.

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What I’m getting at with this statement is, when you place very high expectations on other’s, you put yourself in a position to be highly disappointed if things don’t work out how you may have envisioned, and it can also start the process where we may attempt to control or manipulate behaviour to try to get them to achieve the outcome we are desiring for them.

Most of the time, the outcomes we’re hoping for are usually positive and something that our recipient is usually desiring too, but when we place very high expectations on them, especially our young children, it can become a heavy burden for them to carry, which now means they may become more focused on the burden of someone else’s expectations of them rather than achieving what they are wanting in a positive manner and that’s not ideal.

Many may disagree and say, “It’s because I care, and I only want the best for them!” And I say, of course we do, especially when it comes to our beautiful children, we all want the best for them, but by placing excessively high expectations on them, often works against what we’re wanting rather than increasing the likely hood of it.

Not having high expectations of others does not necessarily mean you don’t care about how they are doing or that you don’t want them to achieve good things. It’s a great intention to want the best for everyone we come into contact with, that’s the true power of influencing people positively, for true knowing is felt at an emotional, vibrational level and does not require words or placing high expectations on people to effect them deeply.

For me the ideal situation is;

~ Knowing what someone wants, which is very easy to feel if you listen to what they are saying for any length of time.
~ Knowing they have the ability to get where they are wanting to go, even if a path does not seem clear at the present moment.
~ Knowing that everyone has their own experiences and desires that will produce may different circumstances in their life both wanted and unwanted that ultimately propels them forward.
~ To basically be at peace with their experience and to know things will work out for the best, even if there are a few bumps along the way, this is the greatest benefit you can hope to give to anyone.

If we allow ourselves to worry, be stressed, upset, annoyed, angry, or frustrated about another’s experience or situation without making an effort to move to a better feeling vibrational place or to find some good in it, we are of very little benefit to them, or to ourselves, it is true.
If we can let go of expectations we may be placing on ourselves and other’s, we make space for more wonderful things to flow into our life, it’s a way of saying we believe that life is supposed to be good, and we all have the ability to create what we’re wanting in our lives.
That’s a very good vibration to be sending out into the Universe don’t you think?

This life is a process, a journey, and we are all making our way in the best way we know how, so acknowledge that, and move forward as positively as you can, for that has to be good enough….

And so it is….

PMS….Is it all in our minds???

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Well, the answer is yes and no….depending on what your beliefs and experiences are in relation to this subject.
In the past, I was never very impressed when people complained about being “so emotional” because it was “that time of the month.”
I felt strongly that many people used this as an excuse to behave badly, and then relinquished any responsibility they had for their bad behaviour by blaming their “hormones.”
Now before anyone gets their knickers all bunched up, I completely acknowledge that this can be a real occurrence for many women with varying degrees of intensity. It’s not my intention to argue with anyone about whether or not they really experience PMS, if you think you experience it, you probably do experience it, end of story.
As usual, I like to this think about experiences through the viewpoint of Universal Law and the Law of Attraction in order to move forward in a positive direction rather than resigning myself to a position of helplessness or “I can’t do anything about this” mindset.
No, for me it’s unacceptable to resign myself to a period of time every month when I am in a not good feeling place and everyone else better just “look out or else.”

Now many would argue…..I’ve had tests done, I’ve had this and that done and the doctor says I have a hormone imbalance, and I’m not pretending I’m emotional, etc,etc.
And I say, yes of course you are, and yes, most people know and accept this as a normal way of being at that time of the month.
But consider for a moment, “Which came first, the chicken or the egg?”
Did the emotion cause the hormone imbalance, or did the hormone imbalance cause the emotion? Many have assumed the latter, and have therefore thrown their arms up in the air and said “I can’t do anything about it, it’s out of my control,” and which ever way it happened, nothing is out of our control, especially when it comes to our own experiences.
If I was experiencing PMS and it was affecting my life (or others around me) in a negative way, I would ask myself the following question….
How strongly do I believe I’m going to experience an emotionally disturbing time when my period is due???
And, do I enjoy (just a little bit) having an excuse to really “let it all out” without consequences. Actually, that’s not possible, there are always consequences for everything we do, remember, the Law of Attraction is responding in-kind to what ever you put “out there,” whether it is something you are wanting or not.

Although it’s true that we all have control of ourselves and how we feel, if we have been experiencing PMS for some time with intensity, there will be a considerable amount of power and momentum behind the thoughts and beliefs that initially helped to create this situation, and of course, we have our own personal experiences of PMS which really cements our belief even more, for now we have evidence of that which we may have unknowingly attracted to focus even more on! (I say unknowingly, because I find it hard to believe anyone would knowingly create anything they weren’t wanting!)
So we can’t really go from “0 to hero” (from strongly unwanted to wanted) when experiencing any unwanted circumstances’ when there’s power and momentum behind those experiences, and the fact that we are experiencing anything, lets us know there is power and momentum behind it, otherwise we wouldn’t be experiencing it.
The best thing we can do if we’re wanting to improve our experience in relation to PMS or any circumstances in our life, is to start cultivating our belief more in the direction of what we are wanting, rather than focusing on what has already been.
It does take some time and effort, and a focusing of the mind to a level we may not have exercised for a while, but it is so doable.

The power to shape your experience is within you….not your doctor, not your family, not your community…..It’s within you, and although others can be a source of guidance or inspiration that can help us to get where we want to be, it’s you that will ultimately be the creator of your experience.
Take the power you were born with and exercise it, for this is your natural birth right, and you can start right now, from wherever you are, it matters not what has already been…

And so it it….

The goal is to love everything….Or is it???

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Well, if we believe it is our job in this physical life to love everyone and everything, our life experience may be extremely difficult.
As we make an effort to move to better and better feeling (vibrational) places, all will usually come to the place where they may think this is what they are now required to do… And I say “good luck with that one!!”
It’s not possible to look directly in the face of something you find strongly unwanted and “love it,” although you may, and can if you are wanting to, move yourself to a better feeling place regarding it.
But if our goal or intention is to try to love unlovable things and our desire is maintained over time with strong emotion, the Law of Attraction will respond to our dominant vibration and bring many unwanted, unlovable circumstances for us to deal with. But as soon as we have moved one unlovable circumstance to a better vibrational place, along comes another and another and another for there are millions of things out there both wanted and unwanted so there will be a constant flow of not good feeling circumstances coming into our experience for us to move on vibrationally.
There are too many things in this world both wanted and unwanted to bring everything into a good feeling place, for you would need not just this lifetime, but many lifetimes to achieve such a goal.
In truth we have not come here to love everyone and every experience, but we have come to put our focused attention on that which we do love and are wanting to experience that the Law of Attraction will respond to in-kind.
We already have many things within us, especially if we have lived for some time in this physical body without knowing how we were creating our reality, that may need moving to a better feeling place, so I find it quite unnecessary to look out into our world trying to find more unwanted circumstances to focus on, and bring into a better vibrational place?
Of course there is nothing wrong with doing this, and there may be many benefits, but it does make for a difficult life experience in many ways. We usually realise after a short period of time, that this may be a futile endeavour and start putting our attention more on what we are wanting to experience and what we feel good about.
Once we have thought negative thoughts they cannot be taken back, but they do become non-attracting with the lack of our focused attention. It does not matter what stage in the creation process we are at, for we have the ability to gradually change our thoughts at any point, but it would be true to say, it’s much easier before a physical manifestation has come into our reality, for once this has happened, now we have the observation of something in front of us that we have to deal with. It’s much easier before the physical manifestation has happened to change one’s focus in a more positive direction.
So for the full physical manifestation of anything, there needs to be power and momentum that is achieved through focused thought that’s maintained over time producing strong emotions.
The stronger the emotion we’re feeling, the closer we are to a physical manifestation that will feel similar to the thoughts that originally created it.
It matters not whether the emotion is positive or negative, positive emotions are creating and attracting wanted experiences and negative emotions are creating and attracting unwanted experiences.
So our emotions are very important and are communicating valuable information to us about where we are and what we are creating in relation to what we are wanting.
I would never seek unwanted circumstances to love, but I do make an effort to put my attention on things I do love and see the best in them and to move to better vibrational places regarding subjects that are important to me…otherwise I let the world take care of itself.
Remember putting your attention on circumstances you are not ready to move to a better feeling place on only adds power to that which you are not wanting. It’s a good idea to leave these subjects until you are generally in a better feeling place and able to deal with them.
But really it doesn’t matter too much, for once we truly know how we are creating our lives, it’s only a matter of time before we start improving our thoughts and start living the more improved life experience we came here to live!!
And so our journey together continues….

One cannot truly live…Until the fear of death has been overcome….

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I think it’s interesting that many people fear death so much.
There are many reasons for this fear, but they all come down to the same reason; We have not known or understood how we came into this physical world and what will happen once we leave this physical world, so I suppose it’s probable we would fear that which we don’t know and see as unwanted.
And for those that were brought up religiously and told they would “burn in hell” if they didn’t behave in a way that; The Source of Creation spoke of thousands of years ago, which someone else wrote about, which another group of people censored, which another person interpreted, through another person who told another person, that eventually told you, the rules you should live by?

And I say, “Holy Moses,” that’s a lot of interpretations from many different people, who in truth can only interpret what they’ve experienced or been told through their own personal perspectives, so even if the original Source was real, (and I believe this to be the case) interpretation through many others that have many different motivations that we could say….where not entirely pure, makes for a set of guidelines on how to live that’s more like a map you’ve been reading upside down!! I’ve done that a few times and have ended up in the opposite place to where I really wanted to be, but didn’t realise until I was well and truly lost, how off track I was!

Although I’m not religious, I respect the core of all religions, for at their basis, they all speak of a deeper truth about life and death, with intentions of sharing that knowledge and understanding with others, but as people with different intentions and vibrations added their interpretations to the mix, these messages have become so distorted they often do the opposite of what they were originally intending to do.

If we find something that works in our lives, I don’t care where it comes from, a religious scripture, the Internet, a friend, or your own thoughts, if it feels good for you, it’s good, if it doesn’t feel good for you, it isn’t. Only you can decide what’s best for you in your life, for only you know what you are really wanting and how you’re feeling about any given subject, and substituting anything outside of yourself to tell you what to do from a place of fear or doubt will always be a poor second choice to your own Inner Guidance.

So what is the answer to feeling better regarding death?
Well, that mainly comes down to what you believe will happen when you make your transition back to Non-Physical.
Firstly I think it’s a good idea to do our best to accept in a positive or neutral way that we will eventually make our transition, no matter what we believe in, this is a fact, so feeling bad about it does not improve our life experience, but diminishes it, so we may need to make a conscious choice to let this fear go. Most of us do accept this in a “that’s just the way it is” kind of way, which is preferable to feeling bad.
Some fear may come from not knowing what happens once we leave this physical body, and of course believing that everything ends and “we will be no more,” isn’t a very encouraging good feeling thought, for that gives rise to thoughts of “what has it all been for” especially for those that may have walked a difficult path.

If what we believe and think does not feel good when we think it, the only way to improve how we’re feeling is to improve what we believe by moving our thought to better feeling places. A strongly held belief cannot be changed immediately with one or two thoughts, but over time by gradually improving how we feel whenever the opportunity presents itself, is a pretty good idea. The more we practise moving our thoughts, the easier it gets, for you create power and momentum behind your new thought process.

If you have had the privilege to be in the presence of a person who is making their transition back to Non-Physical, this is a most wonderful and life affirming experience, for it’s almost impossible to witness this without feeling the movement of the Inner Being or Soul out of the body into something that feels more wonderful than anything we may have experienced before!
Some tell me they cannot believe in anything they don’t have physical evidence of, and I say, “Can you see air?” No, but…. Just because we can’t see something, doesn’t mean it isn’t real.
But of course, it’s always our choice, and as long as we feel good and put all our positive thought behind our choices, we cannot go wrong….
So believe what makes you feel good, not what others tell you or think you should believe for they are not you, they may know what feels good for them but they cannot guide you better than you can!!

And so our journey together continues….