Causing a person to become overly dependent on us is not a kind thing to do……

FailureSuccessThe only time we should be completely dependent on another’s for our wellbeing is when we are new-born babies. And although many would say our children are often dependent on us until they leave the family home, to what extent depends entirely on how we have raised them. It is not an inherent quality of human beings or any other life forms to depend entirely on another for their wellbeing for this goes against the natural order of things, but it is possible to distort the natural progression and growth of independence by rendering one incompetent through our actions and words. Probably the most detrimental thought a child may come to believe through having everything done for them is, “I am not capable, good enough or worthy to do this or that”. Although these types of beliefs are not based in truth, if we believe them we will make them true in our own life experiences as The Law of Attraction will bring us experiences that match what we believe until somehow we manage to change those beliefs.

I am not suggesting that anyone would do this to another on purpose, especially one they dearly loved. Nonetheless, this can be the outcome when we have taken it upon ourselves to do everything for them. When we don’t take the necessary time to teach our children how to do something that in the long run will be very beneficial for them, we unknowingly deprive them of many opportunities to grow and learn skills that will help them in all areas of their lives as they move through their physical journey. There is a multitude of reasons why we may be doing this but all will come down to the same core reason being, it feels better in the moment for us to do whatever it is ourselves than to get our children’s help.

Let’s face it, it takes time and patience to teach someone something new and sometimes we can be in short supply of both. If we are not taking the time to teach our children for whatever reason, it is something within our own thought process that we may need to change if we would like to be in a position to do this.
For example, a thought that may prevent us from getting our children to help us with household chores might go something like this. “It takes twice as long when they help and it’s never done exactly how I like it and they constantly complain”. Although this may be the reality of what initially happens one must have perseverance and a knowing that things will get easier as their child grows in confidence by being given responsibility and positive feedback. I understand there may always be some resistance from our children to help but when they understand that this is not something they do whenever they feel like it, but is the responsibility and benefits of belonging and being part of a loving and caring family where every person is valued and has input. An improved thought would be something like, “It takes me longer when I initially get the kids to help me so I’ll do it when I know I’ve got the time. I won’t expect perfection because I know it’s more important to have badly folded clothes than not giving them the opportunity to help, and I’ll let them know if they complain they are only making themselves miserable and it will probably take them twice as long!!!”

I speak frankly and honestly to my children when we talk and no subject is off-limits as far as I am concerned. I tell them I would not be being a very good parent if I did everything for them and didn’t teach them how to look after themselves and be more independent individuals as they grow. They know that even though it may be a long time away, it’s likely that Mum and Dad will make their transition back to Non-Physical energy before they will and although they will have the ability to interact with us if they so desire, it will never be the same as having someone right here, right now in all their physicalness to do this or that for them. Children can be more open than older human beings because of their limited life experiences, lack of resistance and a closer connection to the Source Energy from which they originally came that puts them in a good place to know the truth when they hear it. Resistance always comes from a long period of time of focusing on unwanted circumstances and experiences.

I know many people cope when they suddenly find themselves for the first time in their lives having to do almost everything for themselves and being unprepared for it. I can only speak for myself when I say I cannot feel good about doing this to anyone much less my own children. We live in a world knowing many different skills are required to thrive and be able to create the lives we are wanting to live so it is vitally important to be doing our best to teach our children these life skills.
If we are looking at the big picture and what we generally want for our children, not just for right now but for the future as well, this will always guide us down the best path for us to take.

I believe we are trying to raise, competent, resilient, kind, loving, caring, happy human beings and the best way we do this is through the power of our own example…….

And so it is……..

Who is my Spiritual Guide???

I’m sure many people have pondered whether they have a Spiritual Guide or not. This probably depends on whether we’re even believing in this concept.
As with all ideas that are new or foreign to us, it often takes some time and thought before we can come up with any opinion of where we sit in relation to this subject, and depending on where our current beliefs are, will depend on whether we will completely discount the possibility of such things.

It is not my intention to convince you into or out of what ever you are believing is right for you at this time, but it is my intention that I may give you “some things” to ponder in relation to Spiritual Guides.

When I speak of Spiritual Guides, I specifically mean the Individual, Non-Physical, Source Energy guidance that is available to each and every one of us in every moment of this physical life we are living.

Our Spiritual Guide is not some Higher Being that is a far more superior being than us, our Spiritual Guide is the Non-Physical part of us that remained in the Non-Physical realm to help guide the Physical part of us through this life journey, so in other words….”Our Spiritual Guide is ourselves!” That’s pretty tricky don’t you think? Hehehe….
The Non-Physical part of us holds all the knowledge and experiences from the previous lives we have lived, knows all the intentions and desires we had when we came forward into the life we are currently living, and knows every amended desire, intention and experience we’ve had since we’ve been in this physical life and is guiding us in a direction that will lead us to all we have decided through the living of, not just this life, but all the lives we have lived, what we are wanting, by the easiest and most enjoyable route available!!

And how does our Spiritual Guide, or Non-Physical counterpart achieve this???
Through our emotions. Whenever we are feeling any emotion, whether it be positive or negative, we are receiving, individual, personal, and awesome Inner Guidance from the Non-Physical part of us indicating in which way we are moving.
Positive emotion indicates we are moving in the direction of wanted circumstances in our life, the stronger the emotional feeling is and the longer we experience it for, the closer we are to the physical manifestation of something that will be very pleasing when it turns up.
Negative emotion indicates we are moving in the direction of unwanted circumstances in our life, the stronger the emotional feeling is and the longer we experience it for, the closer we are to the physical manifestation of something that will not be very pleasing to us if it turns up.

So, who decides what I do at any given time, the Non-Physical part of me, or the physical part of me?
Well, I’m pretty sure that most people know the Physical, here and now part of us is making the decisions in our lives, based on what we feel is best once we’ve considered all the factors that are important to us.
But when we start to understand exactly what our emotions are telling us, and we start to make an effort to move our thoughts and feelings to an improved vibrational place, our life starts to change for the better.

Many have taken negative emotion that they are feeling as an indication that someone else is doing something “wrong,” whereas it more accurately indicates, we are now either thinking, speaking, observing, or doing something that is moving us in a direction we are not wanting to go.
Now feeling negative emotion is not the end of the world and all of us experience it to varying degrees depending on how much we’ve made an effort to focus on the best in life, or on how much we’ve focused on what we are not liking, or what isn’t working in our life.
And I understand it’s not always possible to just stop something we feel we have to do, for there is often much power and momentum behind such things, but it is completely possible to feel slightly better than where we currently are while we’re doing whatever it is we’re doing…..And that does change everything!!

So we can call it whatever we want, Spiritual Guide, Non-Physical part of ourselves, Inner Being, Soul, or Source Energy….The words don’t matter, but what does matter is we know we have access to this energy that is essentially us, or who we truly are, in every moment of this physical life….
To access this power, we must do our best to move into the vibrational place of it by noticing how we are thinking and feeling at any given moment, and making an effort to feel slightly better. The more we do this, the more we will feel the absolute power of “Who we really are!”
This is what happens when the Physical and Non-Physical parts of us align and blend as one, and like anything we do in life, the more often we achieve this “Alignment,” the easier it is to return to the vibrational place of it, for you cannot mistake it when you find yourself here, for you will feel and know, that this is what you came here for!!

And so it is….

The secret is….There is no secret!!

BeachAngelMany people pronounce they possess “the knowledge, the secret, the magic, the code, or the way” to living an improved life experience.
We are all holding knowledge about how life is working relative to where we are and what we have experienced in our life, that can benefit and be passed to others if who we are trying to pass the information on to, is in a place to hear it?
There is a formula, or things we can do that may improve our life experience, but it’s no secret, and proposing such knowledge is “a secret” or “magic” or whatever we are wanting to call it, makes it sound like an unachievable or unattainable knowledge that has been purposely kept from us for some unknown reason?
Nothing could be further from the truth, for not one of us have been left on our own without constant and consistent communication from the Non-Physical, Source Energy, Inner Being part of ourselves in the form of emotions letting us know where we are in relation to everything we are wanting.
I know it may feel like a secret when we are searching for answers, but not one of us has been chosen above the others as the distributor of knowledge.
It is freely available to all who seek it.
Of course, many who do understand how life is working, and desire to help others that are in place to hear about it, maybe knowing all people have the ability to attract the answers about life and that they may be an avenue, a cooperative component, in others creative process for what they are attracting.
So when someone is seeking answers about something and are starting to believe they may receive the answers to the question they have, (even though they may not be sure how theses answers are going to turn up!) They start the attraction of the answer they’re desiring through their focused thoughts.
As the Law of Attraction responds to our improved vibration, if it’s maintained over time, we will start to attract people, places, and events that match the dominant vibration we have going on within us about the subject.
Sometimes we may not be aware we’ve moved our vibration and may not be seeing what is turning up right in front of us. This is often what is happening when we look back and feel we have missed opportunities that were right there for us, but we did not see them at that time.
It’s true we cannot go back and change the past or even create exactly the same circumstances in our present or future experience, but if we are creating our life through our focus thoughts, (and we are) then creating similar opportunities or better opportunities in our future is only a bit of focused positive thought and time away!! (I can imagine you all jumping for joy right now!!) Hehehe, Opps, there I go again laughing at my own jokes!!
But seriously, nothing we are wanting comes from regretting what has happened in the past, it is time to make peace with that which we cannot change and move forward if that is what we are wanting.

And so our journey together continues….

One cannot truly live…Until the fear of death has been overcome….

I think it’s interesting that many people fear death so much.
There are many reasons for this fear, but they all come down to the same reason; We have not known or understood how we came into this physical world and what will happen once we leave this physical world, so I suppose it’s probable we would fear that which we don’t know and see as unwanted.
And for those that were brought up religiously and told they would “burn in hell” if they didn’t behave in a way that; The Source of Creation spoke of thousands of years ago, which someone else wrote about, which another group of people censored, which another person interpreted, through another person who told another person, that eventually told you, the rules you should live by?

And I say, “Holy Moses,” that’s a lot of interpretations from many different people, who in truth can only interpret what they’ve experienced or been told through their own personal perspectives, so even if the original Source was real, (and I believe this to be the case) interpretation through many others that have many different motivations that we could say….where not entirely pure, makes for a set of guidelines on how to live that’s more like a map you’ve been reading upside down!! I’ve done that a few times and have ended up in the opposite place to where I really wanted to be, but didn’t realise until I was well and truly lost, how off track I was!

Although I’m not religious, I respect the core of all religions, for at their basis, they all speak of a deeper truth about life and death, with intentions of sharing that knowledge and understanding with others, but as people with different intentions and vibrations added their interpretations to the mix, these messages have become so distorted they often do the opposite of what they were originally intending to do.

If we find something that works in our lives, I don’t care where it comes from, a religious scripture, the Internet, a friend, or your own thoughts, if it feels good for you, it’s good, if it doesn’t feel good for you, it isn’t. Only you can decide what’s best for you in your life, for only you know what you are really wanting and how you’re feeling about any given subject, and substituting anything outside of yourself to tell you what to do from a place of fear or doubt will always be a poor second choice to your own Inner Guidance.

So what is the answer to feeling better regarding death?
Well, that mainly comes down to what you believe will happen when you make your transition back to Non-Physical.
Firstly I think it’s a good idea to do our best to accept in a positive or neutral way that we will eventually make our transition, no matter what we believe in, this is a fact, so feeling bad about it does not improve our life experience, but diminishes it, so we may need to make a conscious choice to let this fear go. Most of us do accept this in a “that’s just the way it is” kind of way, which is preferable to feeling bad.
Some fear may come from not knowing what happens once we leave this physical body, and of course believing that everything ends and “we will be no more,” isn’t a very encouraging good feeling thought, for that gives rise to thoughts of “what has it all been for” especially for those that may have walked a difficult path.

If what we believe and think does not feel good when we think it, the only way to improve how we’re feeling is to improve what we believe by moving our thought to better feeling places. A strongly held belief cannot be changed immediately with one or two thoughts, but over time by gradually improving how we feel whenever the opportunity presents itself, is a pretty good idea. The more we practise moving our thoughts, the easier it gets, for you create power and momentum behind your new thought process.

If you have had the privilege to be in the presence of a person who is making their transition back to Non-Physical, this is a most wonderful and life affirming experience, for it’s almost impossible to witness this without feeling the movement of the Inner Being or Soul out of the body into something that feels more wonderful than anything we may have experienced before!
Some tell me they cannot believe in anything they don’t have physical evidence of, and I say, “Can you see air?” No, but…. Just because we can’t see something, doesn’t mean it isn’t real.
But of course, it’s always our choice, and as long as we feel good and put all our positive thought behind our choices, we cannot go wrong….
So believe what makes you feel good, not what others tell you or think you should believe for they are not you, they may know what feels good for them but they cannot guide you better than you can!!

And so our journey together continues….