Behaviour

Why would we not tell the truth???

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TreeSwing
There maybe millions of reasons why one would not tell the truth, but all these reasons come down to the same core reasons which are;
1. Fearing the possible consequences that may result from telling the truth.
2. Not feeling good enough in some way therefore feeling the need to make oneself sound better in the eyes of others, ultimately for their approval and admiration. Did you notice, this is still fearing the possible consequences of telling the truth, or more to the point, being who you really are.
This is not a very good feeling vibrational place to be in, feeling you must make yourself out to be something other than what you really are to be accepted or loved by others.
If we are coming to truly know who we really are, we would never feel the need to make excuses or not tell the truth to be seen as “acceptable or good” in another’s eyes, for we already have our own approval and acceptance of ourselves as we are, and are not requiring it from others in order to feel good or worthy.
Is it nice if others like us?
Yes, of course it is, but if we require this from every person we come into contact with, we better get very good at knowing exactly what others are wanting and expecting, and start adjusting our behaviour accordingly!
It’s not possible to be liked by every person that may be observing us “out there” for we are all in different vibrational places, meaning everything we observe is filtered through our own personal life experiences that brings us to our own beliefs about life. It’s better to accept we are all different and know it’s not possible to be liked by everyone, and just be our genuine selves!
Others will think what they will think, and whatever they maybe thinking (and remember, what others are exactly thinking is only speculation on our part anyway) is more of a reflection of who and where they are rather than whoever they’re observing or judging is.

If I was considering not telling the truth or doing something that went against what I felt was right so others may possibly like me more, the question I would ask myself would be….
Is it worth not being true to myself and who I really am to get a small fleeting moment of approval from another? Because believe me, it is fleeting and doesn’t last long, unless we’re prepared to do everything and anything we feel others want to get their constant approval, and even then, we cannot guarantee we will achieve it.
Holy Moses, that just sounds so hard, doesn’t it? And I say “for goodness sake, don’t do it!” It’s a way of being that will never ultimately lead anywhere you are wanting to go!

To tell the truth or not is a natural developmental stage we go through when we’re children as the brain starts to grow and mature, and often depending on the many varied experiences we have during our childhood, especially experiences related to how harshly we were disciplined with negative consequences, and whether not telling the truth was a strategy that worked for us, will often effect the choices we make as we grow up to whether we feel it is necessary, or in our best interests, to “tell the truth or not?”.
The reason I prefer to say,”to tell the truth or not,”rather than the word lying or liar, is I find these words to be very harsh and negative and prefer to put a slightly more neutral feeling (vibration) to an already slightly negative subject. I only use the word liar if I have become angry, which I do my very best to avoid, or better said, do my best to move into a better feeling place on before I react in a way I would prefer not too!
Anger or rage is the approximate vibrational place where the word liar usually sits, because think about it, have you heard anyone say, “You’re such a good liar darling, I could just hug you!!” not likely. Hehehe….That’s so funny!!

Ok, but seriously, for me, I know when people are not telling the truth, it oozes out of them like a disease. (dis-ease….Lack of ease!) And I find it very difficult to stay in the presence of one that feels the need to do such things. And to tell you the truth, (as if I wouldn’t…Hehehe) most people are aware and feeling that something is not right when they speak with someone who isn’t telling the truth, something always feels off, not quite right, but we may not be listening to what we are feeling, because of not understanding or knowing what it is that our feelings are telling us, and because it doesn’t feel good to think someone is not telling us the truth. (which is our natural tendency of moving to a better feeling place!)
So in other words, unless we have absolute proof that someone isn’t telling us the truth, it often feels better to discount or ignore the feelings that are being communicated to us, letting us know exactly what others are coming to us with, than to acknowledge they aren’t telling us the truth. The more aware and sensitive we are to how we’re feeling, and the more important it is for us to know if people are being truthful, the stronger our knowing of what the truth is, when we see it, hear it, or touch it.

All I can say is this, if we cannot be ourselves, who else can we be, after all, everyone else is taken.
So if you can only be you, why not be the “real you” and if others don’t like it, that’s their problem, not yours! And be proud of who you are now, because you are here, living your life in the best way you know how….
And as long as you are happy with who and what you are being, that has to be good enough….

And so it is…

Stop and smell the flowers….

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BlueBaloon
I think I’ve said, I love common sayings because there’s often hidden ( or not so hidden ) truths deep within them, that the true understanding of would bring clarity and answers to many things we may have previously thought we might never have known the answers too.
Well, you may not want to stop and “smell the flowers,” hell, you may not even like flowers!
But Seriously, it’s not really about flowers at all, ( not that there’s anything wrong with flowers ) it’s about taking time to notice all the often small, wonderful, beautiful things that are happening around us that we sometimes miss because our mind is full of “other stuff.”
And by other stuff, I mean resistant or negative thoughts that are getting a lot of air-time or traffic from our constant attention or focus on them through our thought process.
If we have worked through any resistance we may have had from past experiences and are doing our best to move into better feeling, vibrational places regarding what we’re living now, we might not have a lot of resistant stuff going on, which means we are “stopping to smell the flowers” so to speak, or noticing the well-being that is always around us.
So our emotions are communication from the Non-Physical, Inner Being or Soul part of us letting us know whether we are moving in the direction of something we are wanting ( positive emotion ) or something we are not wanting. ( negative emotion )
It’s not possible for us in our physical body and mind to remember every desire we have ever had since coming forth into this physical body, but the Non-Physical part of us that has remained, yes you guessed it, in the Non-Physical realm, knows every desire we’ve had in this life, and for that matter in all previous lives, and is letting us know through our emotions, where we are in relation to all that we have desired in every moment of this physical life experience.
The question is not, are we receiving communication from our Inner being, for every one of us is whether we are knowing so or not, that is our birthright, the question is…have we been aware of it and have we understood what it has meant?
Many have taken negative emotion to mean whatever or whoever we’re observing while we’re feeling negative emotion is doing something wrong and needs to change their behaviour, whereas the true meaning is, the Non-Physical Inner Being part of us is letting us know we are now focusing on something we are not wanting to experience and emitting a vibration that the Law of Attraction is responding in-kind to, that will bring us something less than wanted if we continue with this line of thought.
So observing someone behaving in a way that we feel is inappropriate or unwanted does not mean that we have to try to get ourselves to like what they are doing, but it does mean that it would be beneficial if we put our attention on something that makes us feel better or on something we are wanting to experience.
It’s not the easiest thing to change our thoughts if we have become accustomed to noticing everything everyone is doing that we think is “wrong” or “inappropriate” as this will become something we see before anything else. Our focus on things other than “the flowers” causes us over time to no longer even see them!
So there is “good stuff” everywhere, but whether we are seeing it or not depends entirely on where our focus has predominantly been…. And where we have been, does not have to be the same place we are going.
Through the power of your focused positive thought you can make it so….
And so it is….

I need to forgive someone… Or do I???

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Turtle
Holding onto hurt from the past only hurts ourselves in the end.         Paulette De-Har

Whether we need to forgive ourselves or someone else depends entirely on where we are vibrationally. (thoughts and emotions we’re having in relation to subjects that are important to us)
If we’re in the lower emotional states, for example, depression, anger or rage, just to name a few, it’s most unlikely we’ll have the ability to forgive ourselves or anyone else from these places.
I do not say this with the purpose of making anyone feel bad, for if we find ourselves in this place, it does not have to be a permanent state for us to be in, for we have the ability to move into a better feeling place.

 

What many of us may have been doing, is waiting for circumstances to improve so we can then have a better feeling response to whatever we’re observing, and of course, it’s wonderful to observe and focus on good feeling experiences, but if we require others to change their behaviour to what we believe they should or should not be doing, without being prepared to move into a better feeling place apart from what others are doing, we give our power over how we feel to others, and that rarely feels good.

If we continue to require others to behave how we want them to before allowing ourselves to feel better, we condemn ourselves to feel less than good, for it’s not possible to control everyone “out there” doing whatever they’re doing.
So if what we think and how we feel creates or pre-paves our future experiences, (and it does) it’s important to take control of your thoughts by paying attention to how you feel when you think a thought.

It’s almost impossible to try to censor every thought that comes into our mind, for this just makes one stressed and worried about the negative thoughts we’re thinking, it’s much easier to let the thoughts come and notice how you’re feeling for this will let you know where you are on any subject you’re contemplating. Once we know where we are, we can gradually move to a better feeling place if that’s what we’re wanting.
I understand we may aspire to move directly and quickly to where we want to be, but if there’s a big emotional, vibrational difference between where we are and where we want to be, we may need to move little by little each time we think about that subject.
I know, it’s very annoying that we can’t be instantly where we want to be, but sometimes it’s good to make peace with this truth for we didn’t come to whatever emotional place we’re in through one or two thoughts, so it makes sense it will take more than one or two thoughts to change it.

Forgiving also comes from a place of believing someone has done something “wrong” that needs forgiving, which in reality is not true.
I am not suggesting when people do “not nice things,” this is good or that we don’t have the right to say what we do and don’t want to experience in our life. But I am saying, if we’re accepting we attract what comes to us through our vibration (thoughts and emotions) that the Law of Attraction is responding to in-kind, then unwanted circumstances have come through our own focused thoughts that we may or may not have been aware of, and even if our reaction was something less than nice, this can only happen if we were in a not good feeling place to begin with.
So acknowledge that you did your best with what you knew at that time, don’t look back and feel guilty or have regrets, for this is a form of self-torture that never gets us anywhere you want to be.
This is not a way to disregard “not nice” behaviour and just continue a cycle of behaviour over and over, NO, it is accepting what we did or what others have done in the past, learning from those experiences and letting them go so we can move forward positively.
If we are in the higher emotional places such a joy, belief and knowledge to name a few, forgiveness is not usually required, or can be passed through extremely quickly to move to one’s normal general vibrational place!
Does it sound like a place worth making an effort to move towards?
What do you think?

And so our journey together continues….

Special does not mean better… Or does it???

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TreeSwing
Of course it doesn’t, but unfortunately many have come to the conclusion that to be special means your better or superior than others. As far back as I can remember, I felt there was something special inside of me, even though I wasn’t really sure what that specialness was, but it didn’t take me long to realise that everyone had that same specialness inside of them too, but that it was expressed differently in each person depending on the opportunities that we attracted and our ability to recognise and act on them.
Why do some feel better or superior to others?
This often comes from our upbringing where we may learn, if you’re not a winner you’re a loser, second is unacceptable, or “my way” is the right and only way, and although this idea has changed a lot in recent times, there are still many that are indoctrinated in these ways.
Of course we want our children to do well, that goes without saying, we want them to reach their potential and to do their best, but when we teach them the belief; if they don’t win they have not succeeded, this is not good. Some are coming from a place where they believe instilling a fear of failing is a good motivating tool, this is very outdated thinking that may have vaguely worked in the past, but No, it is not working any longer.
I am not suggesting we over praise or make everything someone does wonderful when it is not, our beautiful children sense this is off when done and usually rebel against this untruth with extreme behaviours, but what I am saying is, look for the specialness that is within us all, believe in it, look for it, and you will find it, not just in others but in yourself, for it’s often not until you find it within yourself that you can recognise it in others. Look for it when you are in a good feeling place, do not try to find it when you are experiencing strong negative emotion, for you cannot see it at that time, for you are focused in the opposite direction to where that specialness is.
You cannot search for anything for very long before the powerful Law of Attraction will bring you some evidence of that which you are focused on, this I know.
When we come to know who we really are, we come into a full and clear understanding of the awesomeness of us and all others, that is my desire for you!!
And so a journey together continues….

Some truths about marriage…

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Marriage means different things to different people, but it is generally accepted by most, that it is a commitment between two people, into an intimate relationship that excludes all others and lasts, “till death do us part”.

Well, that’s a very nice idea in a perfect world, actually, that’s a nice idea in any world. The question that’s interesting to ask is, is it really possible in the days that we are now living?
Absolutely yes, it’s completely possible, especially if that’s what we’re wanting, so why the high incidence of separation? As you can imagine, there are millions of reasons why people may separate, but often, there tends to be misconceptions or misguided beliefs about life, marriage, and relationships that contribute to this, therefore causing a flow on effect of smaller disagreements, and eventually more serious incidents.

Addressing misconceptions or false beliefs, not just the symptoms, is key, for running around trying to deal with the symptoms without addressing the deeper underlying causes, does not usually work, or only works in the short-term.
As you eradicate one symptom, another one rears its head, for the underlined cause is still there, and has not been dealt with.

A major misconceptions or false belief is, that it’s another person’s job to keep us happy. Now it goes without saying that most want to have uplifting and positive interactions with those around them, and that is a great desire, but if you are relying on others to always provide you with this, you get yourself, and whoever you are interacting with, in a very difficult position, for now you require them to behave in specific ways, before you allow yourself to be happy.

This is a sure way to stifle any relationship, for when you start requiring specific behaviour from others, you give them the responsibility for making you happy, rather than being responsible and in control, of your own happiness. Living in this way is like being on a rollercoaster, for you have made your happiness dependent on what the other is, or is not doing. For the person expected to behave in specific ways to please the other, this is very tiresome, and over time, becomes a burden that leads to resentment.
I’m not saying it’s not nice when people are behaving in ways we find to be wonderful, of course it is, and yes, we’d be crazy not to be happy about that when it happens, but when this is a prerequisite we require before allowing ourselves to be happy, we’re in for a rough ride.
Our true power and freedom comes from being able to be happy, apart from what others are doing. I know it isn’t always easy when coming from a life experience where you needed to behave in ways to make those around you happy, where there were often strong negative consequences if we did not. I suppose it’s natural that we often follow the same path that we were brought up with, but part of growing up, is questioning the beliefs that have been passed to us and deciding for ourselves, how we want to live our life now!

Are the beliefs that have been passed to me by my family, my community or my religion relevant to the life I’m living now? These questions can only be asked and answered by each individual, for no other is in a better position, to decide what is best for you, than you are. When you allow yourself and others the freedom to be who they really are, not just in marriage, but in all relationships, and you make it your job to keep yourself happy apart from how others are or are not behaving, you are a pure joy to be around!
For true love is synonymous with freedom, and freedom is at the very core of who we really are!

And so our journey continues….