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No one likes a….”Know it all!!”

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Hehehe….This makes me laugh because I do often class myself as a bit of a “know it all,” but in the best possible way of course! What I mean is, I believe strongly that I will receive the answers to anything that is important to me, and I always do. Sometimes they come immediately as I bring a question into my mind and sometimes they are weaved into my experience after a little bit of focus. That’s a good example of the Law of Attraction in action! Ooooh, I like that, “The Law of Attraction in Action” that’s totally cool!!
Now I know (see, there I go again!!) this comment is usually used in a strongly negative way to mean a person “who thinks” they know more than everybody else about everything and usually likes to tell you how “right” they are, and how “wrong” you are!! This often comes from a belief where people feel they know better than others and is usually mixed with the desire to tell everyone “the error of their ways” so to speak.
And I say “Holy Moses!”….That’s the perfect way to do the exact opposite of that which you are wanting, as most people will not listen to anyone that is coming from a place of self-pronounced superiority over others, for this rarely feels good.
Now it’s true to say we all have different levels of knowledge about different things based on our own life experiences, and of course, we will know more than others sometimes, and others will know more than us at other times. That’s not the issue,  the most important factors are;
Is whoever we are considering telling something too, in the place to hear what we have to say? In other words, do we feel there is an asking for this information in some way?
If we feel the answer is no, there’s not much point in trying to convey….For it will fall on deaf ears. And even if there is a certain amount of asking, whether what we have to say will be heard or not, still depends on how much our recipient likes the information they are hearing? If the information conveyed requires some form of change and sits along way from the knowledge we currently hold,(and it usually does) it often takes time to digest and be thought about before it can be truly understood through our own life experiences and perspective.
It’s not bad or wrong to want to help someone when we feel we have information that could possibly improve another’s life experience in some way, and if it’s someone we care deeply for, its even harder not to “spill the beans all over the place.” Hehehe!! (Oops, I might have been guilty of doing that once or twice!!)
But seriously, sometimes we have to just let people be and know that they will find their way, in their own time, and in their own way, when they are ready.
To truly be able to do this, we must believe that others have the power and ability to create what they are wanting in their life, even when they aren’t currently experiencing it, and before we can believe this about others, we must first believe in it for ourselves, for it’s virtually impossible to help another to believe in themselves….When we do not believe in ourselves.

In regards to knowing it all, it’s not possible to know everything there is to know all at one time, (I know I’m stating the obvious here) but one thing is for certain, anything we want to know that we feel is important for our experience, we have access too, every single time, no exceptions ever, but we do need to get into the vibrational place of where the answers are.
And we do this by holding the subject or question in our mind with a positive focus, believing that we will receive an answer or solution to the question we have pondered, even if we do not know when, where or in what form the answer will come. If this belief is held over time with focused attention creating power and momentum, it will only be a matter of time before we receive evidence of our newly found belief in the form of physical manifestations!!
And I don’t think there are many people who wouldn’t want to receive the answers and solutions to the questions that are important to them if they believed they could receive them….
But that’s just me….

And so it is….

Sometimes, “things just happen”…. Or do they?

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That’s absolutely not true, things do not “just happen.” This is just another way of saying,”I have no idea how this thing that just happened, happened.”
But one thing is for certain, nothing can come into this physical reality we are living in now from nowhere or nothing, there are always thoughts words and actions that precede all that happens, whether we are aware of it or not.
So it’s true, we can feel like things “just happen” to us, but that feeling comes from a place of not having awareness that our thoughts were focused in a certain direction that created circumstances that we may or may not have been wanting to experience. I suppose its similar to the saying ignorance is bliss, or in other words, we don’t know what we don’t know, and sometimes we’re better off not knowing?
Well, I would have to disagree with the statement “we’re better off not knowing,” because knowledge is power, even though it can sometimes initially be hard to swallow.
For how can it be better to not know something that will help us to make better, more informed choices that produce much better results, and move us in more of the direction we are wanting to go?
Many do not really want to know what the solution may be to something they are living because it often involves changes that we may not yet feel ready or prepared to undertake.
And I would definitely not encourage someone to take action on anything they do not feel ready or prepared for as the outcome achieved from this unsure, unknowing place often produces less than satisfactory results because the vibrations (thoughts and feelings) within us are often split.
Think of it in terms of walking on very hot sand with one bare foot and one foot with a shoe on….Hehehe, that’s just put a really funny picture in my head! As you can imagine, one shoe is better than having no shoes at all, but it would be definitely better to have two shoes on, don’t you think?
Lets go on with this analogy, because it’s fun!
So, we might burn our foot, or maybe we won’t, depending on how far we have to go and how good we are at hopping!! (Yep, I’ve done that more than once!!) And so it’s similar when we don’t take the time to get our thought in a good feeling vibrational place before we take action, or in the case of our analogy, take the time to ensure we had everything we needed with us before venturing out onto the hot sand!!

So nothing just manifests in our life experience from nowhere, but that doesn’t mean everything has a deep vibrational basis that we need to get to the bottom of, and sometimes trying to “get to the bottom of it” just increases our attention upon something unwanted in our experience and ensures it stays around longer!! It’s often enough to acknowledge to ourselves that this or that has just turned up, so even if we weren’t aware of …. before it showed itself to us, now we are aware, and have the ability to move ourselves to a better feeling vibrational place regarding whatever it is we wish to have an improved experience of.

I don’t know about you, but nothings more important to me than that I do my best to feel as good as I can at any given moment in time, for not only is it awesome to feel good, but I know that my awesome good feelings are being responded in-kind to by the powerful Law of Attraction, bringing into my experience evidence of the vibrations that are dominant and pulsing strongly within me.
Now that’s something that really is happening to us all, and I say, “It is so good!!”

And so it is….

PMS….Is it all in our minds???

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MeFlying
Well, the answer is yes and no….depending on what your beliefs and experiences are in relation to this subject.
In the past, I was never very impressed when people complained about being “so emotional” because it was “that time of the month.”
I felt strongly that many people used this as an excuse to behave badly, and then relinquished any responsibility they had for their bad behaviour by blaming their “hormones.”
Now before anyone gets their knickers all bunched up, I completely acknowledge that this can be a real occurrence for many women with varying degrees of intensity. It’s not my intention to argue with anyone about whether or not they really experience PMS, if you think you experience it, you probably do experience it, end of story.
As usual, I like to this think about experiences through the viewpoint of Universal Law and the Law of Attraction in order to move forward in a positive direction rather than resigning myself to a position of helplessness or “I can’t do anything about this” mindset.
No, for me it’s unacceptable to resign myself to a period of time every month when I am in a not good feeling place and everyone else better just “look out or else.”

Now many would argue…..I’ve had tests done, I’ve had this and that done and the doctor says I have a hormone imbalance, and I’m not pretending I’m emotional, etc,etc.
And I say, yes of course you are, and yes, most people know and accept this as a normal way of being at that time of the month.
But consider for a moment, “Which came first, the chicken or the egg?”
Did the emotion cause the hormone imbalance, or did the hormone imbalance cause the emotion? Many have assumed the latter, and have therefore thrown their arms up in the air and said “I can’t do anything about it, it’s out of my control,” and which ever way it happened, nothing is out of our control, especially when it comes to our own experiences.
If I was experiencing PMS and it was affecting my life (or others around me) in a negative way, I would ask myself the following question….
How strongly do I believe I’m going to experience an emotionally disturbing time when my period is due???
And, do I enjoy (just a little bit) having an excuse to really “let it all out” without consequences. Actually, that’s not possible, there are always consequences for everything we do, remember, the Law of Attraction is responding in-kind to what ever you put “out there,” whether it is something you are wanting or not.

Although it’s true that we all have control of ourselves and how we feel, if we have been experiencing PMS for some time with intensity, there will be a considerable amount of power and momentum behind the thoughts and beliefs that initially helped to create this situation, and of course, we have our own personal experiences of PMS which really cements our belief even more, for now we have evidence of that which we may have unknowingly attracted to focus even more on! (I say unknowingly, because I find it hard to believe anyone would knowingly create anything they weren’t wanting!)
So we can’t really go from “0 to hero” (from strongly unwanted to wanted) when experiencing any unwanted circumstances’ when there’s power and momentum behind those experiences, and the fact that we are experiencing anything, lets us know there is power and momentum behind it, otherwise we wouldn’t be experiencing it.
The best thing we can do if we’re wanting to improve our experience in relation to PMS or any circumstances in our life, is to start cultivating our belief more in the direction of what we are wanting, rather than focusing on what has already been.
It does take some time and effort, and a focusing of the mind to a level we may not have exercised for a while, but it is so doable.

The power to shape your experience is within you….not your doctor, not your family, not your community…..It’s within you, and although others can be a source of guidance or inspiration that can help us to get where we want to be, it’s you that will ultimately be the creator of your experience.
Take the power you were born with and exercise it, for this is your natural birth right, and you can start right now, from wherever you are, it matters not what has already been…

And so it it….

The harder you try to persuade people to your way of thinking….the less likely they are to agree with you!!

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NorthernLights
This is mostly true. When we try to persuade others to our way of thinking by making them wrong for their thinking, this almost never produces our desired result of their agreement with “our” point of view.
No one likes to be told what to do or think or that what they’re doing and thinking is wrong, because as I’ve said previously, what we’re doing or thinking is neither right or wrong, “It just is.”

Deep within, we know we’ve come forward into this current life to observe and explore many different circumstances that produce and inspire desires from our experiences that helps us come to strong and powerful decisions of what we would like to experience in our life as we move forward through time.

It’s often true that when communicating with others, if our beliefs and opinions sit in strongly opposing directions, communication can become negative and confrontational as it’s very difficult to find any common ground if we hold vastly differing points of view.
In these circumstance, it’s better to acknowledge we all have different perspectives and beliefs about life based on what we have already experienced and what we are still wanting to experience and let the need to justify or persuade others go.
It’s also very unlikely that we will be able to eradicate all that someone has come to know through the living of their own life experiences that has brought them to what they currently think and believe by telling them what beliefs we have come to through the living of our life experiences.(can you see the futility of even trying?)
Speaking about our differing points of views in a positive and understanding way can definitely give others “food for thought” so to speak, and makes for thought-provoking conversation without the need to argue. Words spoken by others can often spark something within us, that when pondered and given attention over time, will start the attraction of that which we have been focusing on, that the Law of Attraction will eventually bring us evidence of.
This is how we come to truly know what we know, and I say, “It is so awesome,” especially if we are focused in the direction of all we are wanting to experience, for words that are spoken by others will never be taken above our own knowing, and that’s the way it should be!!

If we do feel the need to persuade others to our way of thinking, it often comes from many beliefs that may not be in alignment or consistent with the Universal Laws that govern how life is really working.
Here are some examples of beliefs that may prevent us from moving forward in a positive manner.
~If I cannot persuade others to my way of thinking, they may behave in a way (in my opinion) I feel is not “right or good” and may even do something that threatens my “way of life!” Well,….Uhmmm…if this a belief we hold strongly, we will attract people, places and circumstances that gives us evidence of this, which is not that awesome….If you know what I mean….
~It’s more important for me to be right and make this person I am speaking with understand how “wrong they are” about everything they know in relation to this subject! Uhmmm….Right, I’d like to know if anyone reading this has been talked into the “error of their ways,” by someone who is more interested in feeling right or superior to whom ever they’re talking to….Not likely. This usually just makes us sit more firmly where we are as we justify all the reasons why we believe what we believe.
~It’s important that whomever I’m talking to understands completely where I’m coming from, and agrees with the conclusions I have come to about…. Well, this can definitely happen when we are sitting in close vibrational vicinity with whoever we’re talking with, and is generally enjoyable communication as we will usually find we’ll have similar core beliefs about life.
Whether our beliefs sit far apart from each other or more closely together, we will all have differences of opinion, and this is a good thing, for what would the purpose of life be if we were all the same??
Nothing new would ever need to be created because we would all like the same things! It’s easy to see this is an absolutely ridiculous scenario that could never truly exist. We did not come forward for sameness, or to be told by everyone else, how we should live our life.

We can be true to who we are, while letting others be true to who they are by knowing we have all come forward with different intentions, and that everyone has the right to live their life in the way they choose.
If we are focused on what we are wanting to experience rather than what others are saying or doing that we don’t agree with, we will be attracting an abundance of what we are wanting into our life. We will not be seeing much evidence of people doing things we are not wanting to see and experience, not because it isn’t happening, because it’s all “out there,” we will be seeing what we are predominantly vibrating (that which we’re thinking and feeling strongly about)
Which really is awesome if we’re doing our best to focus and move to a better feeling vibrational place in relation to whatever we’re currently experiencing and wanting!!

And so it is….

What is right….and what is wrong???

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FairyLantern
Although it is completely appropriate for us to decide for ourselves what we would like to experience in our lives and what we feel is good for us, when we feel a strong sense of right and wrong towards ourselves or others, this rarely moves us in a direction we are wanting to go.
When we are strongly focused on the wrongness of anything, what are we mainly focused on? We are strongly focused on that which we are “not wanting.” So if the Law of Attraction is responding to our focused thoughts and feelings about whatever we are giving our attention to, and is showing us manifestational evidence of that which is pulsing strongly within us, (which it is) if we are focused on many circumstances we believe to be wrong, what are we attracting more of? Yep, you guessed it, we will attract and see more evidence of things we find to be wrong.
In truth, whatever we’re doing or thinking is neither right or wrong, it just is.
Many would strongly disagree and give many examples of behaviour or circumstances that the majority of people may agree is “wrong or right,” in their opinion, but I like to think more in terms of what “I am or am not” wanting to experience rather than what is right or wrong.
Some may think this is just the use of different words that still refer to the rightness or wrongness of something, and although this is possible, it’s not likely.
When speaking more about what we’re wanting to experience, we’re usually more focused on where we are, and what we’re doing in a positive way, whereas when we’re talking about right and wrong, we’re often judging or blaming ourselves or others for whatever situation we’re observing or predicament we find ourselves in.
We all sometimes do this depending on where we are and what our beliefs about life are, but if we find ourselves judging or blaming,(or in any negative, not good feeling vibrational places) it’s important we make an effort to move to a slightly better feeling vibrational place as soon as possible, if we are wanting to feel good.

I can only speak from my own perspective regarding what helps me to move to a better feeling place if I find myself in the lower vibrational feeling places.
These are basic beliefs about life that quickly and generally bring me into a better feeling place that then lets me move to a more specific positive vibrational place regarding the circumstances I’m observing or experiencing.
Beliefs that move us into the higher vibrational feeling places;
~Goodness is at the heart of all human beings, and if people are behaving less than nicely, this often comes from picking up resistance on this physical journey and not understanding how we are creating our life experiences.
~We are all doing the best that we can to feel happy and achieve more of what we are wanting in our life based on what we know at any particular point in time.
~Everyone is attracting what is coming into their life experiences through the power of their focused positive and negative thoughts, whether they are aware of it or not, there are no true victims or villains. (although we can feel this way if we believe strongly in wrongness and rightness)
It is virtually impossible to hold the above beliefs and stay in a strongly negative place towards ourselves or others for any great length of time, but it would be true to say, we must have come to a certain level of awareness and understanding of how life works and how we are creating our own life experiences before these beliefs can feel true for us and can help move us to a better vibrational place.
If we are believing strongly in right and wrong, whose opinion of what’s right or wrong should we ultimately listen too?
People have been hurting each other over trying to impose their opinions of what they feel is right or wrong over others for a long time. This comes from a place of believing something someone else is doing can come into your life and hurt you, and although most of us may have had experiences like this, everything that comes into our experience is called to us, both wanted and unwanted, through our own focused thoughts.
When we come to this realisation, we can let go of judging ourselves or others as wrong, and start turning our attention to everything we feel is great in life, that we are wanting to experience….And that changes everything!!

And so it is….

Why would we ask….For everyone else’s opinion???

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TreeLanterns
I am not necessarily saying asking for others opinions about something is right or wrong, but it is an indication of where we are in relation to what we’re asking about.
The most important factor to consider when we’re asking for an opinion from someone else is, what is our reason for asking, and how are we feeling about the subject we’re asking about.
For example, are we generally exchanging ideas in a progressive conversation without any premeditated ideas or the need of getting others opinions on a specific subject? I would consider this mostly positive, good feeling communication with the exchanging of many ideas and opinions on many different subjects, and although we may be listening to many different opinions, we are not coming from a place of unknowingness, but more from a place of interest.
During these conversations, we may hear many things that inspire us to find out more about what we have talked about.
If we are coming from a not so good vibrational place of unknowingness, or we feel a need to know what others think in order to come to our own decision or opinion, this is often not so positive.
Why?
If our vibrational feelings are strongly directed towards not knowing and unsureness, if we have a decent amount of power and momentum behind these feelings through our focused thoughts, the Law of Attraction responds in-kind to our vibration with manifestational evidence of what is pulsing strongly within us, often increasing our feelings of not knowing where we sit with our own opinion and usually just confuses us more!! A strong negative feeling of not knowing what to think or do brings you more feelings of the same. (although over time, if we do not move to a better feeling place, the strength of the emotions we’re feeling often increase)
Yes, it is true, and all of us feel unsure about things in our lives at one time or another, but for some that feel unsure in many areas of their life, it can become very difficult to make a decision about anything.
Sometimes it’s a specific subject that we may hold some resistance to or about, that we attempt to get many people’s opinion on?
But even if the information we gain is good and positive, we just don’t know it and usually continue to look for more information that will make us feel better. This can become a cycle until we finally realise we could ask a million people their opinion and we still wouldn’t know what to do.
This is when we need to find our inner strength and decide we might as well go with what we think we should do and feel as good as we can about whatever decision we do make, for other people’s opinions are exactly that; a conclusion one has come to based on what they are wanting and what they have experienced so far in their own life. (which often doesn’t have a lot to do with your life, where you are, and what you are wanting)
We may learn from, and ponder information given to us from others, but ultimately only we know how we feel and what we are wanting, so it’s important to come to our own opinions and make our own decisions, for no other is in a better position than us, to make our decisions!

And so it is….

Are we there yet???

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CloudAngel
Well, there’s an easy answer to that question, and it’s no!
Why? Because as soon as we achieve anything we are wanting to have, be or do, we experience a whole new set of new circumstances where we will decide what we think would slightly improve our experience, from this new vantage point now.
Some may say “no, when I achieve whatever it is I’m wanting, I won’t want anything more I’ll be happy and content.”
And I say “as if!” If that was even possible, life would end….and that truly is impossible.(we will leave this physical body, that’s for sure, but who we really are will never end, but will simply change form)
I am not suggesting we cannot be happy and content once we’ve achieved something we have been wanting, definitely we can, but after spending some time in this happy and content place, we will always see how things could be slightly better or what may improve our life experience. So even if we are currently content, new desires are constantly being born within us, for life will always produce more desire from us, as this is the first step in the process of creating what we are wanting in our life, and is one of the reasons we have come into this physical reality.
So why have I come here??
To decide through the living of my life, what I am wanting to experience which requires exposure and observation of many different circumstances that this life experience provides.
Once I have decided what I’m wanting, doing my best to turn all my attention towards that which I am wanting by;
Generally doing my best to feel better to whatever I am giving my attention to, not just the subjects I want to bring into a better vibrational place.
Looking for general evidence from my environment of what I’m wanting.
Imagining what it will feel like to live my wanted circumstances.
Observing others positively that may be living the circumstances I am wanting for myself.
Looking for signs more specifically related to what I am wanting that lets me know the Law of Attraction is responding to my positive vibration regarding what I desire, bringing me manifestation evidence of it!!
And Oh…..if positive thought is maintained over time with focused attention,(creating power and momentum) it really is thrilling to see things turning up left, right and centre in response to our improved vibration!!
This helps to strengthen our belief in ourselves, our knowing about how life works and our ability to focus, create and attract what we’re wanting in our lives, and helps us to maintain our vibrational good feeling place in the face of opposition.
By opposition I mean, before whatever we’re wanting turns up, we may get to a good vibrational place regarding what we’re wanting, but when manifestation evidence does not immediately follow, we may lose belief, faith and our good feeling place on the subject.
Often, this is because some resistance may need to be worked through, but if we can stay focused during our times of doubt, and work through any resistant circumstances that have turned up, we can return to our good feeling place on the subject, usually feeling even stronger positive emotion than we did before our doubt or resistance turned up!!
That’s what happens when we make the effort to work through negative thoughts and circumstances; we get to a better feeling vibrational place and become a stronger person, or more to the point, we become more of who we really are, better able to deal with whatever comes our way with confidence and grace.
This gives us a sense of empowerment we may not have felt before, the power to create that which we are wanting in our lives.
And I don’t know if there’s a person alive that wouldn’t want that, if they believed they could have it!!

And so it is….

Never say never…..Why not???

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Moon
Well, we are all free to say whatever we wish to say of course, but what I’m getting at here is the deeper truth this saying “Never say never” reveals.
It would be likely that this saying may have come from people saying “I would never do this or do that,” but then unfortunately found themselves at some point in their future experience doing exactly what they had proclaimed they would never do!
So one could say it’s a slightly superstitious saying, in the sense “be careful, don’t say that” in case later, it “magically” turns up in your life?

So that brings us to an interesting point, can something turn up just because you say you don’t want it to?
Well, that depends entirely on how strong our negative emotion is when we are speaking about something we don’t want. And if we are using the word “never” this is a fairly strong indication of where we’re sitting vibrationally in relation to whatever we’re talking about, for we would not use this word if we did not have resistance towards…..Whatever the subject is.
What do I mean by resistance?
Resistance is the act of resisting, opposing, or pushing against, that hinders or prevents our motion forward, towards what we are wanting.
For example, if I am wanting to experience something I am not yet experiencing…..When I think about this, what are the strongest thoughts within me? In truth, it’s usually a mixture of both resistant negative thoughts and non-resistant positive thoughts that would make up our general vibrational place on any subject, but whatever thoughts are more dominant and receiving more air-time so to speak, through focused attention, will be what is predominantly manifesting and turning up in our experience.
So what is manifesting in our reality is always an indication of what we have been doing with our thoughts, and we always know in which direction our thoughts are creating by noticing how we’re feeling when we think a thought. Negative emotion moves us towards unwanted circumstances and positive emotion moves us towards wanted experiences.
Monitoring every thought one has, can be enough to drive anyone mentally insane, and can make us fearful of our own thoughts, which in and of itself is a not good feeling place, so it’s easier to take a more relaxed attitude and just notice how we’re feeling and do our best to feel a little bit better than where we currently are, especially if our feelings are strongly negative.
Don’t let me give you the impression feeling negative emotion is “bad” it is not, what it is, is very important communication from the Non-Physical, eternal part of us, letting us know exactly where we are in relation to what we’re currently thinking about and what we’re really wanting.
No one likes experiencing unwanted circumstances, and the stronger and more unwanted an experience is, usually the more we don’t like it, and hopefully the more “inspired” we are to move to a better feeling place on the subject.
And why would we bother to move ourselves to a better feeling vibrational place?
Because we’re understanding what we’re thinking now, is pre-paving and creating our future experiences?
So our emotions, both positive and negative, are a precursor to our physical manifestations, an indication of what we’ve got going on vibrationally (that we sometimes may not be aware of) And no matter what the subject we may be giving thought to is, we have the absolute ability, with time and effort to feel better and improve our pattern of thought. Once we’ve improved our vibration, (thoughts and feelings) if we continue to maintain our new improved vibrational place, in time it must become our reality, this is Universal Law!

So “never” indicates strong resistance otherwise we would be using different language such as, maybe, sometimes, I’m not sure, probably not, who knows, nah not really, etc.
I’m not saying people shouldn’t say never, I’m just saying what’s happening as we speak in these terms. And as I’ve mentioned before, it’s not about the actual words we may or may not be saying, it’s about the thoughts and feelings behind our words as we speak them.
I have not heard many people use this word without strong emotion behind it….And that emotion is almost always negative.
So “I never want to experience …” means we have a descent amount of negative emotion or resistance towards whatever it is we’re talking about, and depending on how often we give thought to this resistant subject and how strong our negative emotion is in relation to it, will determine if this unwanted circumstance has enough attraction power to manifest in our life?
Exactly how much attracting power, only we would know, if we’re very sensitive to how we are feeling.
But no matter how much power and momentum we have behind any thoughts we’ve had in the past or are having now, it’s possible to gradually move to a better feeling place, no doubt, 100%….

And so it is….

Share if you care….No I won’t!!

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Writing
Like Theo says in the movie Turbo, “Well aren’t you just a little ray of sunshine!!” Not….Hehehe….That’s me I’m talking about!!

But seriously, what I’m talking about is something all of us do at some point or another, but unfortunately many have made this “a way of being,” believing manipulating others through negative emotion is the only way to get anything done! (And yes if you believe this, this will be your experience, mostly anyway…)
Oh my god, just saying that makes me cringe!
I know we all do this sometimes, and it isn’t the end of the world if we do, but knowing what we’re really doing does help us to shift this pattern of behaviour if that is what we’re wanting to do?
Many may disagree and say, “No, I’m just telling……the possible negative consequences that could happen if they continue this behaviour, I don’t want them to do!“(Yep, it’s all about us!)
And I say “If we were aware that we may be helping another to focus their attention on strongly unwanted experiences by telling them all the horrible things that may happen to them….. Uhmmmm, that’s not that good.”
The stronger the negative emotion our recipient has allowed themselves to experience by listening to others attempts to guide or manipulate them, the worse position they are in, and if whatever the focus of this fear is, is brought up over and over and over again, this is now a subject that can start producing strong negative emotion and repeated focused attention, ( creating power and momentum ) that the Law of Attraction will be responding in-kind too….
There is always many ways to the same destination, for example, rather than “You could get killed by doing that!” maybe “I’m going to hold your hand until you remember to look so we stay safe.”
It’s not so much about the exact words we use as we are trying to guide others, it’s more about the vibrational place we are in as we speak these words. Are we coming from a negative unwanted vibrational perspective, or a positive wanted vibrational perspective?
That brings me to a very important distinction, are we more focused on what we’re wanting, or more focused on what we are not wanting? (even if it’s what we are wanting for others, it’s still what we are wanting…is it not?) Because whichever vibration is strongest within us for whatever subject we’re giving thought too, will be what’s predominantly turning up in our reality.

Some may think, “Well, it often works, so it must be a good thing to do!!”
And I acknowledge it does sometimes work but at the cost of what? Trying to promote feelings of intense fear, guilt or unworthiness is not the only way to get someone to do something, but can become a common way we react if this has been what we have become accustomed to doing, especially when it comes to dealing with our beautiful children!
Manipulating behaviour in these ways erodes self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth, and can start the process where we start to believe we are not good human beings anymore.
And I’m sure you’ve noticed, often when we try to manipulate in this way, our recipient suddenly feels inspired to do exactly what we have instructed them not to do! (and that goes for big people too….I think this is where the phrase “reverse psychology” must have come from!)
When this happens we will need to up the fear factor and really “scare the pants off them” to get them to listen, or we need to do something else. Hehehe….Oops sorry, just laughing about the scaring the pants off them bit!!
That brings me back to the title of this post, share (or like) if you care….When this is added to the bottom of a post, this is a classic example of trying to guilt people into doing something. If I receive such a post, even if it is good, I will not share or like it!

I will not allow others to manipulate me from their not good feeling place.
And just as importantly, I do not wish to share something that may make others do something out of guilt either.
Talk about sharing the “chain of pain” and not good feelings all around the place….
And no, I won’t do it!

And so it is….