Oh my god, seriously I might just go and “kill myself” (that’s a figure of speech I like to use, meaning I’ve given this subject a lot of thought and decided it’s totally not for me!!) If another person that follows my blog is from a moneymaking scheme!!
Look, I think it’s great if people are making money however they are making it online, but I suppose, I have a feeling that just following someone to get them to come onboard with whatever it is you are selling, is well, I don’t know, not what I’m interested in doing.
Don’t get me wrong, I think that if people are interested in following this path that’s awesome, and there’s nothing at all wrong with that.
In fact, I can see for many, it has been something wonderful that has helped them to transform their thoughts, words and actions in more of the direction they’re wanting to go. And of course, if they maintain that new and improved vibrational place over time, they will experience the full physical manifestation of that which they have originally given out that the Law of Attraction has responded in-kind to.
That’s the “Law of the Land” ( Universal Law ) so to speak, and is the truth regardless of whatever the subject matter may be.
That being said, it doesn’t sit very well with me that people may be following whoever they are following with no actual interest at all in what those they are following are blogging about.
Maybe that’s just me? But I like to think that if people do make the choice to follow someone, that they’re hopefully slightly interested in what you’re talking about…otherwise what’s the point?
Could it be that I feel many have something of value to say and that there may be some people out there that are in a place to hear it? Uhm…yes, isn’t that why we’re blogging or face booking or doing any of the social media communicating we’re doing?
But the lines often become blurred when money becomes involved, does it not? And why is this often the case?
It’s because many people have a strongly negative vibration (thoughts and feelings) regarding anything to do with money.
Money is a big subject that influences our lives in almost every way, so it’s completely predictable we would have some very strongly held beliefs about it based on what we are wanting, what we’ve been taught by our family, culture and community, and what we have observed and experienced ourselves.
Remember, our experiences come from those strong beliefs and doctrines that were handed and ingrained into us when we were growing up, and if we’ve never questioned the beliefs we received, especially as we move through time and grow-up, we will continue to live such circumstances.
That’s great if we were handed positive beliefs about money and abundance and are now knowing how to create the abundance we are wanting in our lives, but more often than not, we were not.
There’s a distinction here between having a personal endeavour such as blogging or a business endeavour, but of course, there’s no reason why they cannot overlap, and I know many do successfully, but for me, it depends on the pureness of our intentions and what one is prepared to do to “achieve” their goals.
Before I started blogging, I knew there was a possibility to make money from doing it, but I made a choice not to go down that path because I didn’t want the reason I was writing to be “motivated” from a place of wanting to make money. Instead I wanted to write from an “inspired place.” An inspired place of alignment with all of who I am, the physical and Non-Physical parts of me, and of believing there are people out there that are ready and in a place to hear what I have to say.
Now, whether people are ready to hear what I have to say, is neither here or there, at least I know, for me, my intentions have been pure and good.
That’s the moral of the story really, as long as our intentions are pure and good for ourselves and others when we go into doing whatever we decide to do, no matter how it turns out, we have to acknowledge we went into it only wanting the best, not the worst, not mediocre, and not anything else…only the best.
So sometimes things don’t work out like we’d hoped they would, and sometimes they do, but if we did our best based on what ever we knew at that time, and we do our best to learn from our experiences and move forward in a positive way, then that’s all we can do….Isn’t it? And that has to be good enough…
And so it is….
Physical
Am I accepting of others???
Often when people talk about accepting something, they are usually referring to having to accept unwanted situations that are happening in their life, and in the lives of others.
It’s true it’s virtually impossible to look in the face of something strongly unwanted and “jump for joy” about it, but we do have the ability to gradually move ourselves into a better feeling place regarding it, although many have never exercised their power to do so, and instead have focused intensely on everything in the world they feel is “bad or wrong,” therefore attracting more evidence through the powerful Law of Attraction, of that which they are not wanting.
There may be circumstances and people we’re involved with that may be doing things we feel are not in our or their best interests. In these instances it’s sometimes difficult to remove ourselves from the situation, so often the best call of action is to make an effort to bring ourselves into a better feeling place regarding whatever they are or are not doing.
Many may say,”I cannot do that because I strongly disagree with the choices they’re making” and although we may feel this way, people will often make their choices, with or without our input and judgements, so what is the alternative?
To try and manipulate them to make the choices we feel they should be making, to stay miserable about the choices they’re making, or to move to a better feeling place about the choices they’re making? For me, there is no choice. Although this is a choice, for me it’s No real choice.
What I mean is apart from just letting people be, and choosing to feel good apart from the choices they’re making, the other two choices never get you anywhere you really want to be!
For example, some people may feel that manipulating or convincing others to take a different action would be a more desired outcome than letting them make their own choice, and if we’re coming from a positive place of putting a different more wanted scenario forward if someone has asked for our advice, of course, this is wonderful and may likely be considered when one was making a choice. Whereas if we’re negatively focused and judging someone as “wrong” and trying to convince them to our way of thinking, this is not that good, and they’d be well advised not to take advice coming from someone in such a resistant place.
If we do manage to persuade someone to make a different choice against their better judgement, there is usually a backlash to this of negative emotions, either expressed outward towards others or inwards at the self.
Now, just being miserable about the choices others are making is not a good option, especially when we have the ability to feel better unless of course, we are enjoying being miserable and attracting similar feeling circumstances into our experience?
The easiest way I know how to move to a better place, is to acknowledge we’re all different, with different desires, and we cannot always know how a choice will unfold, for what unfolds, whether it’s positive or negative, may be exactly what is needed to move us forward in a more positive direction.
Sometimes we need to make choices that send us in a direction we don’t want to be in just to know where we really do want to be! We can always move forward in a positive direction no matter what choices we make, and there’s nothing like experiencing strongly unwanted circumstances that may help us to refocus us more in the direction we’re wanting to go!
Even a so-called “bad choice” can be brought to a better place by working through any resistance that comes up by doing our best to stay positive, it’s not so much about the choices we make, but how we react as unwanted, resistant circumstances turn up that determines the results we achieve.
The last alternative is not to be around people who are choosing things that go against what we believe in, and for others we don’t know very well, this is easy, but with those we are close too, this is not always an option.
As far as I can see, the only option is to wish them the best with whatever they are choosing and to accept that they must do what they feel is best for them, just as we are choosing what we feel is best for us….
For what else have we come into this Physical world for, if not to choose that which we are wanting???
And so our journey together continues….
How have I come to my beliefs???
We were not born with any human beliefs, we were pure beings before we made the choice to come forth from Non-Physical energy into this physical world. If you’ve had your own baby or been around other people’s babies you’ll understand what I mean. When we’re new to this world, we do not hold opinions of how when and why anyone should be doing anything, we simply cried for our personal needs we required for survival; food, warmth, comfort and love.
Of course it doesn’t take long before that little soul starts to acclimatise to the physical world, actually this has started before our physical birth, it began in the womb. This is a natural and normal process as our children grow, as it gives them a platform from which to learn how they’re creating their own lives. As the saying goes, “You have to start somewhere!”
Although there’s nothing wrong with the societies we live in, we do easily pick up the vibration (thoughts and emotions) of those we’re close to as we grow up, and because many weren’t aware of how they were creating their lives, it seems very predictable that we also may not be aware of how we were creating our lives.
In the big picture, this doesn’t matter for we’re all on a journey of self discovery to some extent, depending on where we currently are and what we know, but it’s also true to say we’re wanting the best possible experience in this life, for when we know how we’re creating our life we can reach places that may have only been distant dreams or wishes in the past.
So what do my beliefs have to do with creating my life experience?
Well, we’re creating our life experience through the thoughts we think and the feelings we have, about the thoughts we think. As we think our thoughts we have an emotional response to them, and a specific vibrational frequency matching the emotion we’re feeling is sent out to the Universe, which is responded to by the Law of Attraction.(That which is similar to itself is drawn)
I’m sure you’ve noticed that every time you’ve had a thought the physical manifestation of that thought does not immediately appear, so what’s required for the full physical manifestation of anything?
Power and momentum is required and is achieved through maintaining focus over time until you feel strong emotion, positive or negative, and if that focus is maintained, the physical manifestation must eventually come, it is Universal Law!
So as you think a thought many times, you will attract a physical manifestation that increases your belief, for now you have physical evidence of what you were thinking, that you now observe and think about more, and so it becomes a strongly held belief.
So a belief is simply a thought that has been focused on over and over again that has attracted physical evidence of it, which then becomes a strongly held belief and the more physical evidence you receive the more firmly grounded your belief becomes. So it’s easy to see how our beliefs come about and why they are not easily changed, they came into being with much attention and focus and are supported with an abundance of manifested evidence of the dominant vibrations (thoughts and emotions) within us.
This is the powerful Law of Attraction in action, but what happens when a manifestation turns up and we cannot see what thoughts we’ve had that have created it?
There are a number of reasons why this may be so;
1. When we’ve held a belief for a long time, it becomes part of who we are, and we may not be consciously aware of the thoughts we’re thinking now are coming through a filter of these strongly held beliefs.
2. If we have not been aware we are creating our life experiences through the thoughts and emotions we have been thinking and feeling, we may not have exercised any restraint to what we were giving our attention too.
3. The thoughts we’ve had that have pre-paved the way for the eventual physical manifestation may not exactly match, but the dominant feeling of our thoughts and the feeling of the physical manifestation always matches, you get how you feel. So this can make it a little tricky to see the connection between our thoughts and our manifestations, for we may be receiving something unwanted in our experience we’ve never specifically given conscious thought to, but if we look at the underlined beliefs and how we were generally feeling about this subject the manifestation will always match those dominant beliefs and feelings, and if we feel they don’t, we may not be aware what our beliefs and real feelings are for they may have been held for so long, they have become our normal way of being.
Depending on what you believe, I’m either overjoyed or sorry to tell you,(it’s usually a mixture of both to begin with!) We are the ones responsible for all that is manifesting in our lives, it matters not whether we are not aware we’re creating our life or whether we are doing it deliberately, the truth is the same, you get what you feel, focus and believe in, every time!
So what are you believing in?
Are you believing in all the evidence that surrounds you that this world is not good and getting worse, or are you believing the evidence that is all around you that this world is good and getting better? Because it’s all “out there,” both wanted and unwanted, for you can focus and attract to you the wonderful world you want to see, or you can focus and attract to you the world you detest and do not wish to experience.
Remember as you judge others and focus on what you feel they are doing that is wrong, so you begin the attraction process and the Law of Attraction brings you more evidence of that which you are focused on and believe.
The Law of Attraction is not judging anything that anyone is vibrating as “right or wrong,” but is matching the dominant vibration you have sent out and returning it to you in the form of physical manifestations.
This is a choice but if we have not been aware of the choices we’ve been making, and instead have observed whatever was in front of us or the things in life we’re not wanting, it probably doesn’t feel like a choice. It is a process, and it does take effort to move our beliefs into more of what we are wanting. It doesn’t matter who we are or where we’re sitting in relation to what we are wanting, we are all trying to live the best life we can, it’s just much easier when you understand how you have created your life.
It’s a good idea to pay attention to how you are feeling, for your feelings are communication from the Non-Physical part of you indicating where you are in relation to what you’re wanting, and as you do improve how you feel, this will improve what you are attracting which then increases and strengthens your belief, and so the cycle starts again but in the direction of what you are NOW wanting!
And so our journey together continues….
Are you a teacher???
Yes, of course, we are all teachers, it‘s not a question of whether we are teachers or not, the real question is… what is it that you’re teaching?
We teach through the power of our example, and although we can teach through our words, if what we’re saying with our words is not consistent with our actions, it will always be our actions that people will believe over our words.
I’m not suggesting that we should change our behaviour because others are observing us, no, for when we start doing this, we’re no longer listening to our Inner Guidance, now we’ve cut ourselves off from the Non-Physical perspective that is knowing everything we’ve ever wanted in this life (and previous lives for that matter too!) sending us direct and constant communication through our emotions of which direction we’re moving in. Positive emotion indicates you’re moving towards something you are wanting, whereas negative emotion means you’re moving towards something that’s unwanted.
Just by being here in this physical body and physical world, we are teaching, it’s not necessary to sit people down and tell them anything, and in fact, unless people are asking for this information, they cannot hear what we have to say, even if it is good and true.
So when you are feeling great and full of life, loving what you’re doing, know that you are shining such a bright light, and you are a joy to behold to anyone that has the good fortune to be in your presence!!
And when you’re not having a good day, know that you are still setting a great example, an example of how to get up and do your best, even when it’s not easy.
Yes, it’s all so good!!
And so our journey together continues….
Do you want to share what you know now???
I know there are many who have overcome difficult situations, and have come to a place where we’re understanding the benefit of all we’ve experienced. Nothing can be more life enhancing than experiencing the resistance of your own thought creation and overcoming it, for this takes us to more amazing places that we may not have been able to experience had we not dealt with our unwanted manifestations. Of course we do not create these resistant circumstances on purpose, but they are part of being in physical form in this physical world. There will not be one of us that gets our thought so quickly aligned with our Inner Being and in such a good place, that nothing unwanted will ever come. This is part of accepting being physical, but I will say that we have the ability to hone our thoughts and feelings (vibration) to such a place, that any negative thoughts that are within you show up quickly and intensely, giving you the opportunity to move through your resistance and get to the other side. There will be no holding on to resistance for years and years and living the manifestation of it without awareness, those days will be gone. We’re coming into a time of heightened awareness, I’m sure you’ve noticed there are many coming to know who they really are and how life is really working, and just as a drop hits the ocean and ripples out in all directions, so those of us that know have the same effect.
I feel I have something very important to say about this. I know when we discover wonderful things about life and how it’s working because we’ve experienced it in our own lives, not just in theory but in our reality, we’re overjoyed and excited, and of course we want to share that with everyone we know, especially the ones we hold dearest and love the most, or others we see living highly unwanted circumstances in their lives. But I’m sure many of you have already experienced and know, it’s very difficult to help someone who is sitting vibrationally, a long way away from where you are.
When someone is sitting in a vibrational (emotional) place that’s very different to the other, for example someone that is happy compared to someone who is in rage or anger, it’s very difficult to find anything they agree on for they sit at opposite ends of the emotional scale and are seeing the world from completely different perspectives. Both perspectives are true, for when you’re sitting in a general place over many subjects, whether it be in joy or rage, that’s what’s being presented to you by the Law of Attraction. So people are not joking when they tell you why things are not working out for them, this is their experience, this has become their truth through the power of their own resistant thoughts and they will find it hard to hear anything differently.
So we all have the ability to uplift people, and those that know how life is working are sitting in a very powerful position (power over self, not others) and others feel something about your knowing, even if they’re unsure of what it is they’re feeling. To uplift someone that’s in a substantially different vibrational place from you, you must dominate and control your own vibration by standing firmly in your knowing, and not be encouraged out of your vibrational place by the other persons vibration. When we’re communicating with others, the person with the strongest vibration will always dominate the conversation or group, although it can change as subjects change during a conversation. You know you’ve lost your own vibrational alignment if you start feeling the need to convince others of your point of view and it becomes a disagreement or argument with both parties giving as many examples as they can of why their way is the “right way”.
Nobody likes being told they’re wrong or that they could be doing something in a better way, especially if they’re not seeking this information as this often causes them to justify and explain how and why they’ve got to where they are to try and convince you to their way of thinking.
Because it’s not possible to speak of something with strong emotion without emitting the same vibrational frequency, these types of conversations often set people more firmly in their resistant place which is the opposite of what you are really wanting to do! Now if you do stand firmly in your vibrational place, you will be able to speak the truth you know and they’ll understand what you have to tell them while you’re with them, but what happens when you are not around? Well, they’re often very confused.
Why is this?
We have not come to what we believe in one day or from one thought alone, it has been an accumulation of many similar thoughts, words, and actions over long periods of time that eventually become physical manifestations. Once something has physically manifested, now we are observing it which strengthens our belief in it, then we think and talk about it again, and so the cycle goes on and on.(which is awesome when you’re focused on what you want) What we believe has a lot of momentum and power behind it and will not be simply changed by one or two conversations, and almost never if we don’t have the desire to know and change. So even if you do dominate the vibration of the other encouraging them into your vibrational place, when you leave, their vibration will return to their normal place but they will be confused about what you have told them. This can cause a difficult situation where they want to be with you because it feels so good to be in your presence, but afterwards they’re confused, and may not feel good about what you’ve told them.
I have learnt some very strong lessons from experiences like this. I no longer give advice to anyone unless they’re seeking it, and you can feel when someone is ready to hear. It’s better to just let people be and accept we’re all different, for although words may help when we’re ready to hear them, ultimately we learn through our own life experiences. We all have our own journey and there are many paths to the same destination, so let those who want to hear from you come, but don’t force anything on anyone, for in doing so you make them wrong, and they are not wrong, they are doing the best that they can, just as you and I am!
And so our journey together continues….
Inspiration v’s motivation…. What’s the difference???
Motivation is a term that has been thrown around a lot in the past, it was not uncommon to hear many people proclaiming what we should be doing and saying “let’s get motivated to do this, let’s get motivated to do that,” much to the disdain of people who were sitting in a not very good feeling place and didn’t feel like getting motivated to do anything!! Hehehe (Oops, is that mean of me!)
But seriously, I wouldn’t laugh at someone who was in a bad feeling place because we’ve all been there at one time or another, but I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. The ones that look at you like you’re an alien for being happy and are hoping the Mothership is going to beam you up so they don’t have to see you anymore. And let’s be honest, even those of us that are normally happy have our down days where a bright-eyed bushy-tailed person comes along but we’re not in a place to appreciate their positiveness.
Ok, so what’s wrong with motivation?
Of course, nothing’s wrong with motivation if it feels good to do something there’s never anything wrong with that, and if you want to call it motivation so be it, it’s all good. But I will say, if you’re having thoughts and ideas that feel very good and exciting, that’s not motivation that’s inspiration!!
So what does motivation mean?
Motivation implies taking action from a slightly resistant place, meaning it’s usually an action we don’t really want to do but feel we have too, to achieve the results we desire. This is not necessarily a bad thing, but if our motivation doesn’t turn into inspiration, it eventually fizzles out, as resistant actions cannot usually be sustained by motivation alone. It’s interesting to observe the results we’ve achieved from being motivated, especially if we’ve been highly externally motivated rather than internally motivated.
What do I mean by being externally or internally motivated?
Being internally motivated is seeking information through one’s own desire to achieve something, and although you may be receiving advice from another, the original desire is inspired from within, so you are asking for the information and this means you’re more open and receptive to hearing and receiving benefit from it. External motivation usually involves people and resources outside of yourself giving you advice and information on what they feel you should be doing to achieve whatever it is you wish to achieve. There is usually less of a feeling of asking and more of a feeling of just being told what to do.
This is not necessarily a negative, it all depends on the person seeking the advice, for most of the time when people are giving advice, they’re usually coming from a good place and trying to help someone, but what’s more important is where the person receiving the advice is vibrationally (emotionally). If they aren’t feeling good about what they feel they must do and they do take action, it’s very unlikely they’ll continue on with it in the long-term, whereas if they’re feeling excited and inspired about the advice they’ve been given, action is taken from this place often reaps much better results and becomes a joy to do rather than a chore.
So motivation always implies different amounts of hard work or struggle and we’re often more externally motivated, and the harder it is to maintain. I’m not suggesting you can’t maintain or get results through motivation, you can, it’s just that it often involves hard work that isn’t always fun.
But you see, it’s all about your thought at the end of the day. You can be highly externally motivated to begin with, and the action you take may be hard work, but if you move yourself to the best feeling place you can regarding whatever you’re doing, you will make your way, in time, to inspiration, and when you find yourself inspired you will not need any external motivation to do anything for your inspiration will be coming from within you 100%, they don’t call it “Divine Inspiration” for nothing!
And then you will truly inspire others, not by your words but through your actions and your example, and you may find they come to hear your words, for they will want to know how to get to this wonderful place they see you in.
I’m not saying to get in an inspired place for others, NO, do it for yourself, for when you find yourself in this place, you will feel it, and you can know for sure you’re receiving clear communication from your Inner Being, and at these moments the Physical and Non-Physical you has blended together perfectly….
And Oh my, doesn’t it feel good!!
And so our journey together continues….
How does our vibration create our life experiences???
If we were to look in a dictionary, vibration is simply described as a rapid movement or quivering of particles. Early in the 19th Century, scientists in the area of Quantum Physics discovered everything that exists in the Universe is energy vibrating at different speeds and frequencies, and by only observing something, you affect how it vibrates with your expectation. So your expectation effects what you’re observing, meaning you aren’t just observing, you are playing a creative role in everything that’s happening.
What does this mean for us?
To understand how life is working and how we are creating our life experience, it’s important to know everything in the Universe is energy in motion which is vibration, even though it appears solid and static. That being true, the thoughts we think produce emotions within us that emanate out of us as a vibration of a specific frequency and is responded to by the Universe.
Who responds to what?
The Universe (Law of Attraction) responds with the same vibrational frequencies that we’ve originally given out, in manifested form. We are asking for what we’re wanting through our focused thoughts, and the Universe is responding equally to everyone with manifested evidence of the dominant vibrations within us.
I’m sure you’ve noticed that matter doesn’t manifest the moment you have a thought about something, as the physical manifestation of it does not immediately spring into your experience.
Why is this? Because one thought, on one subject does not have enough momentum or creative power to come fully into our physical reality. For anything to manifest, there must be thought that has been thought on for long enough, (momentum) that we experience strong emotional feelings (creative power) when we give thought to any subject.
Even the emotions we feel are manifestations, which are the receiving of that which we have originally given out. If emotions are manifestations of thoughts the Universe has responded to, and they are, maybe we should look at them more closely.
What do our emotions mean?
Emotions are communication from what I have been calling our Inner Being, or Non-Physical, Soul part of us. Yes, we came forward into this physical life from Non-Physical, and when we leave this physical life we’ll return to the Non-Physical realm.
When we made the choice to come into this physical world, a part of us, the physical part, was born, the other part of us that you may or may not be entirely aware of, stayed in Non-Physical. It’s impossible to separate the physical and Non-Physical parts of ourselves.
The Non-Physical part of us is letting us know where we are in relation to everything we’re wanting through our emotions. Positive emotion indicates we’re moving towards the manifestation of something wanted, whereas negative emotion indicates we’re moving in the direction of something unwanted. The stronger the emotional feeling we have when we think about anything, the closer we are to the physical manifestation of a circumstance, that will feel very similar to the dominant feeling we’ve had on that subject when it turns up.
As you can imagine, we have thousands of different thoughts on all the subjects we may think about, which will be a mixture of positive and negative thoughts with varying degrees of emotional intensity to them. So what is manifesting regarding any subjects that are important to you, is a blending of all the thoughts and feelings you’ve had, which gives you a sort of vibrational set point on that subject.
When a vibrational set point or emotional attitude has been achieved in relation to any subject, any new thoughts you have regarding that subject, naturally fall easily into the already established emotional place, and the longer the vibrational set point for that subject is maintained, the harder it is to move to a different vibrational place. This is great when we’re sitting in a positive place, but not so good when we’re sitting in a negative place.
How does the Non-Physical part of me know everything I’m wanting?
Any moment the physical us experiences something, desires are stirred within on what would be a better experience; these desires are automatically received and known by the Non-Physical and doesn’t require our conscious awareness to be communicated. Many times we’re very aware of the desires we have, especially when we’ve held them for a long time in a resistant place. Our desires are received by our Inner Being and held at the vibrational frequency required for them to come into our physical reality without any opposing vibration signals. By opposing vibrational signals, I mean negative emotion or resistance, for it is the negative emotion that causes resistance that prevents anything you’re wanting from manifesting.
Why are my desires not manifesting more quickly?
Think about how it feels in the first moment we desire something, this is always a strongly positive feeling about what you are wanting, but depending on whether we believe we will receive what we’re wanting or not, usually determines what thoughts follow.
If we believe what we are wanting will come, it’s easier to maintain a good feeling place until we feel momentum and intensity of positive emotion, and as long as we hold steady in our good feeling place, sometimes in the face of evidence to the contrary, the physical manifestation must eventually come, it is Law!
If we don’t believe what we are wanting will come, and we maintain a not good feeling place until we feel momentum and intensity of negative emotions, and we hold steady to the resistance we’re feeling, the physical manifestation of more of what we are not wanting must eventually come, it is Law!
Remember, nothing is set in stone, and we always have the ability to change our vibration in any moment we choose. Once we know our emotions are communication from our Inner Being, (and not evidence there’s something wrong with who or what you’re giving your attention to) the trick is to become aware of how we feel and move ourselves to the best possible feeling place we can.
As we gradually improve our thought, we improve the manifestation that will unfold and the good news is… no matter where we are, on any subject that is important to us, we have the power to move to a better feeling place about it now.
I am not saying this is always easy, and it does take some time and effort, but I believe in the strength and power that has always been within us to create our own lives, for I have experienced this in my own life.
Look closely at your own life and those that you know well, for it’s through your own observations and life experiences we see evidence of how life really works…
And so our journey together continues…
Are you free to choose???
Are you free to choose every and all things in your life? That’s an interesting question, let’s look at that a little more closely….
So, every choice we’ve made up until today has bought you to the place we are in now. Some may disagree, saying many of the choices they made were forced upon them, either from parents or by getting in a situation where whatever choice was available to us, was an unwanted choice. Although this feels like we didn’t have a choice, the truth is, we always have a choice.
Maybe our choices were motivated from not wanting to experience the negative consequences others placed on us, or from making many choices that eventually lead us down a path where whatever choices were available, are unwanted, and although that feels like it wasn’t really our choice, it was.
Many of our choices come from being indoctrinated with our parents beliefs and ideologies regarding culture, religion, and community living. We could have chosen differently, but sometimes, when we are young, we’re not even aware there is another choice, and sometimes it’s simply not wanting to experience unwanted consequences that may arise from making a different choice.
We were and still are, motivated to different choices for many different reasons, whether it’s to keep someone else happy, to feel part of the group, to be liked by others, to be admired, or to be loved. Our choices, whatever they may be, for whatever reason, are usually based on what we believe is the best choice at that time, the choice we think will bring us closest to what we are wanting or what will make us happy.
It can be worth while, taking the time to ponder what it is that motivates our choices. For example, if it’s important to always have the approval of those around us, we put ourselves in an almost impossible position, for now our choices are based on what we think others expect or think is best for us, rather that what we think and feel is best for us.
In the beginning it may feel reassuring to have other peoples approval over the choices we make, but no other is really in a better position than us, to decide what is best for us, even if we think that they are.
Always seeking others opinions over what, how, and when we should be doing anything, erodes confidence, making it very difficult to make decisions on our own as we move forward through time. Taking advice from others can also lead to blaming if things don’t turn out as planned, preventing us from taking responsibility for our own choices, learning from them, changing, and making different choices where required. Blaming others may feel better in the short-term, but rarely moves us in the direction of what we’re wanting.
I’m not suggesting we should never seek advice from another, as it can be very helpful to listen to what others have to say if they’re positively focused, especially if they have achieved something you are desiring for yourself, but in the end, the final decision should be ours.
Knowing you are free to choose, and in control of your own life is paramount to really being happy, for as long as we believe anyone else has power over us, or knows better than you what you should or should not be doing, you cannot be truly happy.
For just as you came into this physical world free, you will leave this physical world free, and everything else in between, is your choice.
Are you making the choices that are in YOUR best interests??
And so our journey continues….
Are you using an outdated roadmap???
Try reading a roadmap from a hundred years ago and see where it gets you! I’m sure you can see fairly quickly, that is ridiculous advice. So it always amazes me how some people are still trying to live their lives by a book that was written 2000 years ago.
As with an old roadmap, most of the large landmasses and major roads are still probably the same, but as you get into the more specific small details of your map, almost everything will be different.
So one could say, the basic principles or major concepts within these books are still strong and relevant to the lives we are living today, but the specific details, when relating it to our daily lives here and now, are very different. And so it is, with many books and scriptures that were written by many different sages and prophets from the past.
It’s not for anyone to tell others what they should or shouldn’t take from these books, that is a choice made by each individual based on their freedom to choose as they wish. The criteria I would use to determine whether I would follow advice given by, not just books, but anything is… is it working for me? If it isn’t working in our lives, who cares who said it, when they said it, and why they said it? If it improves our life in any way, then for us, it must be sound advice, but if it doesn’t improve our life after giving it time, why would we continue to follow it? The only reasonable answer I can come up with for following advice that obviously is not working, is if we are coming from a place of fear.
Fear that we need to do something someone else has set out for us, or there will be unwanted consequences? This often begins from the first day we are born into this physical world. As children we allowed, without really knowing we were doing it, our Internal Guidance to be overridden by the people around us that had been here longer than us, and thought they knew exactly how, what, and why we should be doing this or that. I am not blaming anyone, I am stating a fact. Most were doing their best based on how they grew up and what they knew at the time, nevertheless, it produces a lack of confidence and a need to be guided in every little thing we do, so when something new comes up, we are often lost as to what to do, often searching for direction and advice from external sources.
This does not necessarily need to be negative if we can assess honestly how the advice we have taken is working in our life rather than blindly following without question, even when, deep down, it doesn’t feel right. That’s our Inner Guidance, our very own internal emotional guidance, that’s specifically and precisely giving us advice on any matter that is important to us. We had it when we entered this physical world and we’ve had it every day since.
If we feel we are not receiving any such guidance, it’s because it has been overshadowed and drowned out by all the advice and guidance that has come from external sources, often to such a point, we’re no longer even aware we have it.
If we don’t believe or even know we have such guidance, it can be near impossible to find without conscious awareness, and so we go from one source of advice to another, searching for something that fits us just right, but it will not be found from outside of us, what we are searching for comes from within us.
The best advice will always come from within you, and many of us are starting to access this wonderful Inner Guidance. We are now living in a time, where we are questioning the way we do things, and the beliefs that have been given to us by our family, culture, community or religion. There is benefit to all of it, even in doing things that are not working, for it is often in the process of realising something isn’t working that you become open to what it is that does work.
Such is the process and joy of this physical life….
And so it is….
Observations about our Beautiful Children….
Anyone that has children would have no doubt noticed that today’s generation of children are very different from their parents and previous generations. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to figure that out, and it’s interesting to note, when people often speak of this, they tend to highlight many things they consider negative.
“We didn’t do that in my day, we behaved ourselves and just did what we were told.” Now that’s lovely if we’re believing everything someone else tells us or our feeling good depends upon making someone else happy and feel good. But the truth is, most of our beautiful children are not prepared to take everything we say as being right or good for them. I understand this makes for navigating the parenting of children far more difficult than it may have previously been, it’s rather easy when someone has largely substituted their own Inner Guidance for someone else’s, for they are more likely to listen and blindly follow instructions…. But is this what we really want for our children??? For me, the answer is simple…. No.
To bring today’s children to a place where they will listen and follow without question, their spirit has usually been broken to some degree, and the long-term consequences of this are not usually what we are wanting for those we deeply love. When a child’s own Inner Guidance is overridden and their spirit is broken by others, even those that have the best of intentions, what happens when you are not there to guide them? They are often lost and seek out another that will direct them in what to do, for they have not had an opportunity to think and make decisions for themselves. I’m not suggesting our little ones need no guidance, but the days of following without question are far behind us. I like to think of it now as more of a collaboration between parent and child, a belief that all have value, ideas, opinions and suggestions that at the very least, deserve to be listened too, considered and negotiated.
Our children have very different and specific needs compared to previous generations. A one size fits all, do what I say approach (and sometimes not what I do) no longer works and did it ever work….I don’t know??? Children are coming forward in these times with a stronger determination, purpose, and confidence that does require a more flexible parenting style, and in truth are guiding us all to be better parents, better teachers, and better leaders.
Yes, they are teaching us to be better human beings…and I cannot think of a greater life purpose to have in this wonderful physical world…
And so it is….
The Purest Soul 