Well, if we believe it is our job in this physical life to love everyone and everything, our life experience may be extremely difficult.
As we make an effort to move to better and better feeling (vibrational) places, all will usually come to the place where they may think this is what they are now required to do… And I say “good luck with that one!!”
It’s not possible to look directly in the face of something you find strongly unwanted and “love it,” although you may, and can if you are wanting to, move yourself to a better feeling place regarding it.
But if our goal or intention is to try to love unlovable things and our desire is maintained over time with strong emotion, the Law of Attraction will respond to our dominant vibration and bring many unwanted, unlovable circumstances for us to deal with. But as soon as we have moved one unlovable circumstance to a better vibrational place, along comes another and another and another for there are millions of things out there both wanted and unwanted so there will be a constant flow of not good feeling circumstances coming into our experience for us to move on vibrationally.
There are too many things in this world both wanted and unwanted to bring everything into a good feeling place, for you would need not just this lifetime, but many lifetimes to achieve such a goal.
In truth we have not come here to love everyone and every experience, but we have come to put our focused attention on that which we do love and are wanting to experience that the Law of Attraction will respond to in-kind.
We already have many things within us, especially if we have lived for some time in this physical body without knowing how we were creating our reality, that may need moving to a better feeling place, so I find it quite unnecessary to look out into our world trying to find more unwanted circumstances to focus on, and bring into a better vibrational place?
Of course there is nothing wrong with doing this, and there may be many benefits, but it does make for a difficult life experience in many ways. We usually realise after a short period of time, that this may be a futile endeavour and start putting our attention more on what we are wanting to experience and what we feel good about.
Once we have thought negative thoughts they cannot be taken back, but they do become non-attracting with the lack of our focused attention. It does not matter what stage in the creation process we are at, for we have the ability to gradually change our thoughts at any point, but it would be true to say, it’s much easier before a physical manifestation has come into our reality, for once this has happened, now we have the observation of something in front of us that we have to deal with. It’s much easier before the physical manifestation has happened to change one’s focus in a more positive direction.
So for the full physical manifestation of anything, there needs to be power and momentum that is achieved through focused thought that’s maintained over time producing strong emotions.
The stronger the emotion we’re feeling, the closer we are to a physical manifestation that will feel similar to the thoughts that originally created it.
It matters not whether the emotion is positive or negative, positive emotions are creating and attracting wanted experiences and negative emotions are creating and attracting unwanted experiences.
So our emotions are very important and are communicating valuable information to us about where we are and what we are creating in relation to what we are wanting.
I would never seek unwanted circumstances to love, but I do make an effort to put my attention on things I do love and see the best in them and to move to better vibrational places regarding subjects that are important to me…otherwise I let the world take care of itself.
Remember putting your attention on circumstances you are not ready to move to a better feeling place on only adds power to that which you are not wanting. It’s a good idea to leave these subjects until you are generally in a better feeling place and able to deal with them.
But really it doesn’t matter too much, for once we truly know how we are creating our lives, it’s only a matter of time before we start improving our thoughts and start living the more improved life experience we came here to live!!
And so our journey together continues….
Focused Thought
Through adversity, we find strength….Don’t we???
That depends on how you react when adversity happens.
And a lot of how we react depends on how much momentum we’ve got going behind the thoughts that have created such circumstances, and if we’ve been aware we’re creating our life experience through what we think and how we feel. (Our vibration)
Firstly, the idea that some supreme being is “out there somewhere” throwing curve balls at us for no other reason than, “I think this wonderful person I created seems to be having too good of a time, let’s challenge them, let’s see how much they can learn from this not nice experience!” I must say is a pretty strange idea.
If you do believe in a loving supreme being, doesn’t it sort of go against the grain to then believe they are sending you unwanted, challenging experiences for the fun of seeing how you cope??
Which is it, a loving supreme being or an angry punishing not nice supreme being? For it is one or the other for both cannot be in the one.
If unwanted circumstances are not sent by a vengeful, punishing supreme being,(and they aren’t) how do they come?
They come through focused thought that has been maintained over time that we sometimes are not aware of, for we have often become use to feeling negative emotion for so long, we’ve numbed ourselves to it because we haven’t known we have the ability to bring ourselves into a better feeling place on every and any subject that is important to us.
Instead we may have felt helpless to do anything about what we have been observing, so may be “fighting a cause,” to try to get others to change their behaviour in order for us to feel better. Anger is definitely a better place to be in, in relation to the emotional scale compared to helplessness, but long-term, anger still creates many unwanted circumstances in our life and also needs to be moved to a more positive, better feeling place.
We may have also resigned ourselves to the idea, “When I’m feeling bad about a circumstance I feel I can’t change, there’s nothing I can do about it, so I must just accept the fact I will always feel bad about this subject.” (Ohh, that’s hard for me to even say!!)
It’s okay if we’re there though, because we can move to a better feeling place if that’s what we are wanting to do, and the more we do it, the easier it gets, that’s for sure!
The only reason someone would try or make the effort to move to a better feeling place, is if, through the living of ones own life experiences, we’re coming to understand how what we’re thinking and feeling is being magnified and reflected back to us in the form of manifestations by the powerful Law of Attraction.
If we are not seeing the link between what we’re thinking and feeling and what’s manifesting in our own life experience, it’s unlikely we will do what is required to move our thoughts and emotions to a better feeling place, for it is not that easy if we have lived for some time on this earth without knowing or exercising our ability to do so.
So, adversity comes from our own focused thoughts that the Law of Attraction is responding to in-kind, with similar feeling manifestations turning up in our life experience. They are an indication of what we’re doing with our thoughts and emotions, what we’re creating. There’s no judgement by the Universe or the Law of Attraction or whatever else you believe in, it’s purely an indication of what you are creating, I like to think of it as the Universe asking me a question, “Is this what you are wanting to experience? If the answer is yes, keep going with this line of thought, if the answer is no, maybe it’s a good idea to move your thought to something that feels better?”
So I would definitely agree that through overcoming adversity, we can find immense strength, but why is this?
If we have managed to bring ourselves from a not good feeling vibrational place,(problem orientated) to a good feeling vibrational place, (solution orientated) and have maintained that focus until improved physical manifestations turn up, how do we feel?
We start to feel the POWER that we truly have, the power of who we really are, the power to take control of our own life experiences, not by trying to control others or gain power over others but by making an effort to improve the way we feel, for this is what is attracting everything into our life experience, whether we are knowing it or not…
And so our journey together continues….
How does focusing on the past….Effect my now and my future???
That depends entirely on what from the past you are focused on.
If you are remembering something and are feeling positive emotion about it, this is an indication you are creating something now, with positive thoughts and emotions (vibrations) in your future that you are wanting, and as you maintain that positive feeling place, over time you create both power and momentum with your focused thoughts. As you continue to maintain a good feeling, high-flying vibrational place, the physical manifestation of something that matches or is similar to how you are feeling must come. It is Law!!
If we are looking back and remembering positive experiences but comparing them to where we are now and wishing we could go back in time or regretting where we are now, this is not so good. When we focus on anything, we emit a vibration (thoughts and emotions) and if we’re feeling dissatisfaction and regret, the Law of Attraction responds in-kind, (receives your vibration and matches it with similar thoughts and physical manifestations to let you know where you are and what you are creating) so with enough attention to these negative feeling thoughts, we create more momentum, and as the thoughts of dissatisfaction or regret are maintained, you will eventually experience unwanted manifestations that match or feel similar to the thoughts that created it.
It is not possible to believe that life is a struggle and things generally don’t work out how we’re wanting and experience the opposite of that.
I hear you when you say “but this has been my experience, this is the truth, there is evidence everywhere supporting what I think” and I know, we don’t make up unwanted stuff for the fun of it, but if you wish to experience something other than what you are, you must find something right now, from where you are, that you can focus on that feels better than what you are now experiencing.
I know it’s not easy when this has not been taught to us as we were growing up, but what is the alternative?
The saying, “when it rains it hails” didn’t come from nowhere. This is a clever way of saying as you focus on anything whether it be positive or negative (although this saying is definitely orientated towards negative experiences) you will get more of it, if it’s something wonderful that you’re wanting to experience more of, awesome, focus on it more, whereas if it’s unwanted experiences you do not want more of, you must change your focus to something that feels better. (actually, you don’t have to do anything, but you know what I mean!!)
It’s a good idea to start with something that’s easy, a subject that is not the most important thing in the world to you, for as you have success with subjects that are more easily moved to a better feeling vibrational place, over time you will notice the improvement in your life experience, giving you a stronger belief that you can change circumstances in your life for the better if that’s what you’re wanting!
Although we are pre-paving our future experiences with how we’re feeling now, and how we’re feeling now may come from many experiences we’ve had in the past, it’s true to say, it has to be good enough to want to feel good now, not tomorrow, not next week, not next year, now!
Look for the best that is around you from where you are standing right now, if we’re waiting for circumstances to improve before we allow ourselves to feel better, that is a backwards way of going about it, and often cannot be with subjects that have a lot of power and momentum in a negative direction behind them.
So if you can think of things from the past in a positive manner, that’s great and would be time well spent, but if you cannot think about the past in a positive light put your attention on something else that does feel good.
This can be the reason why many are experiencing similar negative circumstances in their life over and over again, for every time we think negative thoughts and feelings about the past, although they are new creations with new thoughts, they have the vibrational emotional content of previous hurts or pain that we then bring into our vibration NOW, which the Law of Attraction responds to with similar circumstances being created again, and unfortunately over time, if our vibration on this subject does not improve, experiences often become worse and worse until we find a way to let go and move to a better vibrational place.
Nothing stays the same but things do not need to get worse and worse, once we take control of our mind, things can only get better and better, and that’s the truth!!
And so our journey together continues….
All things are possible…. Or are they???
I love it when people say,”anything is possible” for it indicates somewhere deep inside themselves, they know this, even if they are not yet completely believing it.
It’s a good start to speak in terms of what you’re wanting to believe, even if you aren’t entirely there yet, but words will not make-up for a lack of movement of thought (vibrations) into believing in what you’re wanting.
So how can everything and anything be possible in our lives?
Often when people speak of this, what they mean is, if you work hard enough for long enough with determination and don’t given in, you will always achieve that which you were wanting. And yes, that did and still does work for many, but as you look around at others experiences and your own, it doesn’t take long to figure out some people are doing all of those things and are still not achieving that which they are wanting.
So what’s going on, how can this be, shouldn’t this formula work for everyone?
NO, it doesn’t, because we may not have included some important factors that determine the outcomes or results we’re achieving, which is how we’re thinking and feeling (vibrating) in relation to what we’re wanting.
So let me rephrase “anything is possible” in a way that will move us more in the direction of what we’re wanting.
“If you spend time on something you feel passionate about, and stay positive, continuing to believe in what you’re doing by working through problems in a positive way, as you maintain your belief over time, that which you are wanting will eventually come, it is Law.”
I know, it’s a bit of a mouthful isn’t it, but it is true.
Staying positive does not mean unwanted circumstances or manifestations will not turn up, for this is resistance within you showing up, and depending on how you react and deal with this resistance, will depend on how well your experience unfolds. So everything we are vibrating (thinking and feeling) now, is pre-paving what will unfold in our future experience.
If we are not knowing this, we often focus negatively on the unwanted manifestations that do turn up, eroding our belief in what we’re doing, and although it can be very difficult to stay positive in the face of what you are not wanting, especially when this is what we have done for a large portion of our life, we make it very difficult to move ourselves into a better feeling place by focusing on unwanted.
We’ve all come forward from Non-Physical into this Physical world with constant and consistent guidance in the form of emotions from our Inner Being letting us know where we are in relation to everything we’re wanting. So now is the time to listen to how we’re feeling with a new and deeper understanding we may not have had before.
We may have assumed that negative emotion is an indication that others are doing something “wrong or bad” whereas in truth it’s the Non-Physical, Inner Being part of us communicating with the Physical us, indicating “the negative emotions you’re feeling now, are attracting circumstances that will feel similar to that which you are observing or thinking about now,” or “the positive emotions you’re feeling now are attracting circumstances that will feel similar to that which you are observing or thinking about now.” The stronger an emotion is when you give thought to something, the closer you are to the physical manifestation of it, and it matters not whether you are positively or negatively focused.
So all is possible, but in order for a possibility to become a probability it needs to be given focused thought over time gaining power and momentum. And for a probability to become an actuality the power and momentum you achieve through your focused thought needs to be maintained.
This is the formula of creation and anything we desire is possible. Listening to how we’re feeling and moving ourselves to a better feeling place regarding what we’re giving our attention to, is the piece of the puzzle we may have been missing! We may need to move that puzzle piece around, upside down or sideways before it fits, but eventually it will fit, for as you seek evidence of how the Law of Attraction is helping you to create your life, so it will come!!
And so our journey together continues….
Do you like watching news???
From as far back as I can remember I never liked watching news. Even before I actually knew what my parents were watching and what news really was, I just didn’t like it. I have memories of going into a sort of daze when ever it came on, and at other times wanting to scream and pull my hair out and yell, “why are you watching this!” Of course they were just thoughts in my head, for I would never have spoken to my parents in such a way as there would have been strong negative consequences for such actions. At that time I never understood why they loved it so much and just always did something else if it was streaming into the house.
As I’ve moved through time and experienced more in my life, I have come to understand so clearly why I disliked news and why I ensured I was not sitting in front of it.
I like knowing that even before I truly understood how things were working in my life I instinctively knew this was not good. This is a good example of how our beautiful young children instinctively know things that they could never articulate to others in words.
I can imagine what some of you may be thinking right now, “are you crazy, I would never stop watching the news!”
The news I’m referring to is the hard-core news about all the major “not nice” stuff that’s happening from every corner of the globe, conveniently streamed directly into your home, car, workplace, gym and, well everywhere!!
Many people give me the following reasons why they watch the news; “But these things are really happening, I must be informed about what’s happening in the world or else….”
I say, “or else what?” Can you help that person or people that experience has happened to? Probably not, so how do you feel? Depressed, helpless, angry, sad, blaming?
I don’t know exactly what emotion someone else will feel as they watch news, but I know you cannot look directly in the face of extremely unwanted circumstances for yourself or anyone else and be happy about it, that is not possible. If you can watch hard-core news without feeling bad, you know you have acclimatised yourself to it so well, you have become numb to it, or you have moved your self to a positive place regarding it.
There are unwanted effects or consequences from watching lots of news, and the top of the list is it gives people a very skewed one-sided view of the world. It negatively orientates you about the world you’re living in and puts focus on all that is unwanted in life, and the fact that it’s true and really happening is a very poor excuse to bring attention and focus to such things! There are many wonderful things that are true and really happening to, but unfortunately if over time we’ve focused in the opposite direction to what is good, we no longer see the beauty in life.
When you focus on anything, be it news or wonderful things happening, you include that in your vibration, you think and feel something about it, and as you continue to focus you’re sending that vibration out to the Universe, and the Universe is answering your vibration through the powerful Law of Attraction, and is returning to you something that has the same emotional feeling of that which you have originally sent out. To begin with, it may just be similar thoughts to what you have sent out you receive back, and if you maintain focus, you add power and momentum to those thoughts, until eventually with enough attention, something will physically manifest. This is not a bad thing, this is wonderful, and means we have creative control over our lives, for we can start to control our thoughts and feelings by gradually moving to better places on anything that is important to us.
We may not have been exercising this power if we didn’t know how we were creating our lives through the power of our thoughts and emotions, but when we know better we can do better, no point looking back with regrets.
I am not suggesting that something that happens to someone on the news will happen to us if we watch it, but it does give us an unbalanced view of the world without the other positive side, and this is not a true reflection of everything that’s out there. But even if it was a true representation of what’s out there,(and it isn’t) it still wouldn’t be a good idea to watch it, for as we focus and watch, so the attracting of unwanted begins, and although what we’re attracting may be less unwanted in severity to what’s on the news, do we really want to do such a thing?
No, no one would do such things if they knew it was drawing or attracting unwanted circumstances into their life.
Watching news does not improve your life. Sometimes it’s just something that people have become use to doing or they may like to have conversations with others about “what’s happening in the world”, sometimes people just like to have something to push against. Whatever the reason is for watching news, for me, there is no reason that is good enough, because I know what I’m creating by doing that.
Believe me if something is happening close to you that you need to know about, you will know, someone will bring that news to you or you will just happen to hear someone talking about it, if it’s important for you to know, you will know. And if there is resistance within you that you need to move to a better place about, you will find yourself seeing snippets of news here and there about these subjects, which is your opportunity to move these resistant subjects into a better feeling place, therefore improving your vibration which improves what you are attracting into your life!
So what I’m saying is, you will attract the circumstances you need to move yourself to better and better places, that is Universal Law and cannot be sidestepped, but you do not need to expose yourself to hours and hours of not nice information to do that, you do not need to be informed about every bad thing that’s happening in the world for the sake of conversation.
Sometimes it’s just a habit we’ve got into without realising what it is we’re really doing, but you always have a choice, we always have a choice. So what are you choosing now?
And so our journey together continues…
Why do I find it difficult to make decisions???
There are many reasons why we may find it difficult to make decisions in our life, but it always comes down to the same thing in the end. The fear of making a decision that may unfold in an unwanted direction, and of course none of us want to do this.
This is often based on a false belief that all that’s required for something to turn out well is to make the correct decision, and although it’s true to say the better we feel about the decisions we make, the higher the possibility of a positive outcome becomes, decision-making is only a small part of the creative process. Nonetheless, it is important, for if we cannot make decisions effectively, it can be difficult to move forward in any direction, leaving us in a type of limbo of indecision, until we’re forced into making a decision, and that never usually feels good.
Once we’ve made a clear decision, we are now often in the place where we are inspired to take action. The outcome will depend greatly on how much positive vibrational momentum we had in the beginning and if we were able to maintain a positive focus as we moved forward with the tasks that need to be undertaken to achieve our goal.
It’s important to know, everything that unfolds is based on our thoughts and feelings in relation to our decision. Continually questioning and second-guessing whether we’ve made the correct decision, splits our vibrational energy rather than putting all our positive thought behind the decisions we’ve made.
Whatever choice we make is not that important, what is important is putting all our positive thought behind the decision we have made, and not looking back with regret. So it doesn’t have to be the “best choice in the world” because we make it the “best choice” by the power of our positive thought!!!
When we do make choices, choosing what we believe is best and running with it is all we can do, and if we find ourselves thinking negatively as we sometimes do, making an effort to feel slightly better at that moment is a great thing to do. If we have a lot of resistance this may not be that easy so we may need to completely change our focus to something different, returning to think about and move our resistant subject when we are in a better feeling better place.
If making decisions has become difficult for us, we may become more and more unsure of ourselves as time goes by. This is because a strong vibration of uncertainty, unsureness and fear creates more of the same feeling within us as the Law of Attraction responds to those dominant thoughts and feelings in-kind. As our vibration is emitted from us, it moves out into the Universe and joins with other vibrations with similar emotional feelings and thoughts, gaining power and momentum to eventually returning to us.
Our vibration can be changed in every moment we are conscious, but as we hold any thought that produces an emotional feeling and focus on it, it becomes easier to feel this way as the powerful Law of Attraction is giving us easier access to more and more thoughts, with the same vibrational content. This is where the saying “from bad to worse” comes from, but I prefer “from good to better” because it works both ways.
The Law of Attraction is giving back that which we’ve originally sent out, and adding power to it so we know where we are. For anything to manifest in our life experience, many thoughts need to be held over time and with emotional intensity, it matters not whether they are negative thoughts and feelings producing unwanted circumstances or positive thoughts and feelings producing wanted experiences.
The Law of Attraction does not judge any thought as good or bad, it’s purely a magnifying mirror if you like. Yes, that’s a good analogy.
So what we’re thinking and feeling in relation to what we’re wanting is incredibly important, for this is creating our future experiences. Everyone is getting immediate feedback from our Inner Being in every moment as to where what we’re thinking now, is taking us. If we’re feeling a positive emotion, we can know for sure, we’re moving towards wanted experiences, whereas if we’re feeling negative emotion we can know for sure we’re moving towards unwanted experiences.
Remember, our vibration can be changed because we have control over what we think and how we feel, and we have the ability to move to a better feeling place on any and all subjects that are important to us.
We’ve all made it this far whether we’ve known this or not and we will continue living many wonderful things, all I am saying is….there may be some amazing Universal Laws that we haven’t been aware of, that the understanding of, will change many things in our lives for the better.
When we begin to experience and know this, it becomes easier to make decisions, but don’t take my word for it, only you have the power to show yourself how you are creating your life.
It does take some time and effort, but I’m not sure if there’s a more worthwhile cause than living the awesome life you came here to live!!
And so our journey together continues….
Knowledge is power….Or is it???
Is knowledge power? Well, that depends on what your definition of power and knowledge is.
Some people believe that power is having control over others, and although they may feel like they control others, in truth this in an illusion, for no other can take your power away from you without your permission, you must be a cooperative participant and allow it to happen. I’m unsure how believing you have the ability to make people feel inferior and miserable is a definition of power, but unfortunately, for some, it is.
When I speak of power, I’m never referring to believing you have power over others, the power I speak of is the power you have within you, that is consistent, reliable, and available to you in every moment, on all subjects that are important to you. Even if you aren’t aware of the Inner Guidance that’s available to you, that does not mean your Inner Being is not communicating with you. It means you are not aware of it and aren’t hearing it.
Why have we not been hearing our Inner Being?
Because we haven’t understood how that communication has been taking place. Our Inner Being or the Non-Physical part of us is communicating to us through our emotions. We have mistakenly thought our emotions are confirmation that whatever or whoever we’re observing when we feel negative emotion, is bad or doing something wrong, and because of this false belief, we’ll often try to control people’s behaviour so that we can feel better when we observe them. It doesn’t take to long to work out that doesn’t work. But what’s the alternative? To take control of your mind and know that you have the ability and choice to feel better about whatever it is you’re giving your attention to now. Not in 10 minutes, 10 days, 10 months or 10 years, right now!! You have the ability to feel a little better about what you’re thinking about right now, even if it’s only a slight improvement in how you’re feeling. Imagine if you make this small effort every time you find yourself in a not good feeling place, you can make some serious positive vibrational movement (positive emotional movement) in a short amount of time, and it doesn’t take long before this is reflected in your real life manifestations, for its like anything else in life, when you first start doing something new, it’s a little tricky but once you get the hang of it, it gets easier and easier. Yes, as you feel better and maintain that higher vibrational place, your manifestations must follow that improved feeling place. That’s how this Universe works. You are receiving that which you have put out through your vibrational offering (powerful focused thoughts and emotions). As you move to better feeling places on subjects that are important to you, you will be able to more easily access your Inner Guidance and create more of what you’re wanting in your life experience.
What about knowledge, is knowledge power?
That depends entirely on what knowledge you hold. Any knowledge you hold that prevents you from being happy cannot give you a feeling of having power in your life. But it can be an opportunity to either leave that knowledge out of the equation or gradually move to a better feeling place regarding it.
Knowledge that empowers you and makes you feel good is wonderful, whereas knowledge that disempowers you and makes you feel terrible is not good. Remember, as you think of anything you know or believe, your Inner Being is communicating to you and letting you know if you are moving in the direction of something you are wanting or not.
So, is knowledge power? Yes and no. If the knowledge you hold moves you closer to what you are wanting and feels good, yes. If the knowledge you hold moves you further from what you are wanting and feels bad, No.
Start paying particular attention to how you are feeling about things, for many of us have gotten so used to feeling a certain way about something it has become our normal way of feeling. If you want to know how you feel about something, focus on it, and this will give you an emotional feeling that will let you know where you are. It’s important to know where you are before you can move to where you are wanting to go, be kind to yourself while doing this and remember, we have all been doing the best we can based on what we’ve known, and when we know better, we can do better, and that’s what life is all about!
And so our journey continues….
Why do bad things happen to good people???
The most important thing to remember when pondering this question is,
- Who is the person standing in judgement of another saying whether they are good or bad?
In truth, the core of who we really are is always good, one hundred percent, every person, no exceptions, and if you have been privileged enough to see a baby come into this physical world, you will understand what I am talking about, but even if you haven’t, it’s not hard to see when you look at a newborn, they are pure beings. This being true, what happens between birth and a point where we would class someone as “being bad?” Well, life happens. We have all come forward into this physical reality with desires and intentions, and if we were not given the freedom to express and explore who we were with loving guidance as children, things often got slightly off track, to a point where as adults, we find it difficult to live a happy life, or more substantially off track where we are spewing out our rage and hatred. This is in no way supposed to be a criticism over what we should’ve or could’ve done in the past, do not use what I have said to beat yourself over the head and feel guilty, for most of us were doing the best we could be based on what we knew at that time. No benefit comes from feeling guilty about the past, the best you can do is learn from what happened, believe that you can and will do better in the future and let it go, do not torture yourself with regrets over things you cannot change!
2. It’s often difficult to know whether circumstances you’re observing are wanted or unwanted.
It’s not hard to know when people are experiencing highly unwanted circumstances in their lives, especially if it is someone close to you that you know very well, but something we definitely don’t know, is how they will react to this unwanted experience, for there are always choices available to us that will move us to better places regarding the situation we are faced with, or to a worse place. Whatever choices we make, involve many different considerations based on what we’re wanting and the experiences we’ve lived, and is almost impossible for another to predict correctly. When a choice is made it may be difficult to know how our choice will unfold, for it usually takes time to see the results. A circumstance we have labelled as unwanted can often produce good results if it’s made from a positive place and is given further positive thought that eventually becomes our new belief. When we’re in the middle of a dilemma, if we find it difficult to know what to do, it’s often because we may have been strongly controlled and guided as children, without the opportunity to make choices for ourselves, putting many in a position where we are unable, or find it very difficult to make decisions for ourselves. Many of us learn these skills as we mature, some of us don’t. Prolonged negative focus on a problem also makes it difficult to see the best choice available to us, because when we do this, we’re not in the place to see the solution we’re searching for. And yes, there is always a solution for every problem, for one cannot exist without the other, it defies Universal Law! In this world we live, nothing exists without its opposite companion, think about this for a moment, up and down, hot and cold, love and hate, day and night. Yes, the polarities exist everywhere, along with everything in between.
So why do bad things happen to good people? Or for that matter, why do good things happen to bad people? The answer is always the same. You get what you focus on, whether you are good or bad or anything else. Have you seen people you may describe as “good” focus on negative aspects of their life? Does that make them bad? Of course, it doesn’t, but it does mean they are attracting unwanted circumstances into their lives through their focused negative thoughts. Have you seen people you may describe as “not been nice” focus on some positive aspects of their life? I’m sure you have, for they are attracting wanted circumstances into their lives through their focused positive thoughts too. In truth, we all have an immense number of thoughts on many different subjects within us, and what is manifesting is a blending of all of it.
It is not for me to judge who is good or bad, I am here like you, living my life in the best way I know how, and I believe others are doing the same. But it definitely is my job to decide for me, what I want to experience, and because I’m aware I create my life experience through my focused thoughts, I do my best not to focus on people or circumstances that I do not wish to bring into my physical experience. People are not truly bad, even when their behaviour indicates otherwise, rather they are misguided, and going about things in a way that will never truly get them what they want. We are all on our own journey in this physical life, so do your best to avoid judging others, for you do not know where they are in relation to what they are wanting, instead be the uplifter you were born to be, for there is no greater purpose than to be joyful in life, and to spread that joy to every person that has the good fortune to cross your path!!
And so our journey together continues…
Are you holding a grudge?…Who do you think you’re hurting???
It’s true to say, most of us have held a grudge against someone at some time or another in our lives. It can be a natural reaction when we feel like someone has wronged us in some way, or we have been faced with a situation where we feel there has been an intention to purposely hurt us. It is not possible to look at something that is clearly unwanted and disregard it or be happy about it, but it is possible to move into a better feeling neutral place about it. Through my own experience, and by observing many others, I have come to the following conclusions;
1. Holding a grudge hurts the person holding the grudge the most.
2. Holding a grudge doesn’t change what has already happened.
3. Trying to hurt others only brings more unwanted circumstances into your life.
4. As long as you hold a grudge, you give others power over how you are feeling, the power that you should have, and that never feels good.
Some may say, “why should I forgive them, what they did was wrong”. Forgiveness is not about saying what they did was right or wrong, and it’s never about making the other person feel better, it’s about making ourselves feel better and being able to move on, to bigger and better things, rather than staying stuck in a miserable place that doesn’t feel good.
It’s completely appropriate to decide what it is we’re wanting to experience in our lives, but focusing on what others are doing that we may disapprove of, only attracts more unwanted circumstances with the same emotional feeling into our life experience. This is because, we get what we think about, or more aptly said, we get back how we feel. Whenever we think about something, it always produces a feeling within us, and the feeling we get is always communication from our Inner Being or the Non-Physical part of us, letting us know where we are in relation to what we’re wanting, regarding the subject being currently thought about. If we think about something and don’t have any feelings either positive or negative, we can be sure it’s a subject that currently does not matter to us, for anything that is important, will induce an emotional feeling within.
For example, if I’m annoyed about the way someone has been behaving, the fact that I am annoyed is an indication I am moving away from that which I am really wanting. One of the strongest desires within us is to be happy, and because we grew up with people around us trying to control everything we did so they would be happy, we may have continued on, in the same way. Many have realized it’s not really possible to truly control others, especially in the long-term, as it just makes everyone involved miserable, but we may not be sure how to change, or what to do.
Through our emotions, our Inner Being communicates with the physical here and now us, letting us know where we are in relation to everything we’re wanting. Negative emotion indicates movement in a direction that is taking us further away from what we’re truly wanting, whereas positive emotion indicates movement closer to that which we’re wanting.
Negative emotion is not bad, for its extremely valuable information when we start to understand what it means. We all have the power within us to move to a better feeling place about any and all subjects that are important to us, but many of us have not known this. Instead, we have taken our negative emotion as evidence that others are doing something they shouldn’t be and that it’s our job to control their behavior and keep them in line or we cannot be happy.
Nothing could be further from the truth, for we cannot control what others say or do, for they have the freedom to choose, just as you and I do. But there is something we have absolute control over, and that is how we feel, no one can make you feel a certain way unless you let them.
To begin with, it may seem like an impossible task, for if we were bought up just reacting to everything we were observing, just as many around us were doing, not knowing we had the power to feel better, and that feeling better moved us in the direction of what we were wanting, of course we wouldn’t have exercised a power we didn’t know we had. Nevertheless, that power pulses strongly within us, and like everything else, needs belief and positive focus, to bring it to the forefront of who we are.
The key is to take small steps if we can feel slightly better than we currently are, and we can maintain that better feeling place, that’s wonderful progress!
We didn’t come to how we feel all in one day, it requires focused thought over time and therefore changing our thought into a better feeling place does take some time and effort, but I cannot think of anything more important than feeling happier in our lives.
So let go of your anger and resentment towards others, don’t do it for them, do it for yourself, for you deserve to be happy, it is your natural birthright!!
So what will you choose now??
And so our journey continues…..
The Purest Soul 