Of course it doesn’t, but unfortunately many have come to the conclusion that to be special means your better or superior than others. As far back as I can remember, I felt there was something special inside of me, even though I wasn’t really sure what that specialness was, but it didn’t take me long to realise that everyone had that same specialness inside of them too, but that it was expressed differently in each person depending on the opportunities that we attracted and our ability to recognise and act on them.
Why do some feel better or superior to others?
This often comes from our upbringing where we may learn, if you’re not a winner you’re a loser, second is unacceptable, or “my way” is the right and only way, and although this idea has changed a lot in recent times, there are still many that are indoctrinated in these ways.
Of course we want our children to do well, that goes without saying, we want them to reach their potential and to do their best, but when we teach them the belief; if they don’t win they have not succeeded, this is not good. Some are coming from a place where they believe instilling a fear of failing is a good motivating tool, this is very outdated thinking that may have vaguely worked in the past, but No, it is not working any longer.
I am not suggesting we over praise or make everything someone does wonderful when it is not, our beautiful children sense this is off when done and usually rebel against this untruth with extreme behaviours, but what I am saying is, look for the specialness that is within us all, believe in it, look for it, and you will find it, not just in others but in yourself, for it’s often not until you find it within yourself that you can recognise it in others. Look for it when you are in a good feeling place, do not try to find it when you are experiencing strong negative emotion, for you cannot see it at that time, for you are focused in the opposite direction to where that specialness is.
You cannot search for anything for very long before the powerful Law of Attraction will bring you some evidence of that which you are focused on, this I know.
When we come to know who we really are, we come into a full and clear understanding of the awesomeness of us and all others, that is my desire for you!!
And so a journey together continues….
Inspirational
How have I come to my beliefs???
We were not born with any human beliefs, we were pure beings before we made the choice to come forth from Non-Physical energy into this physical world. If you’ve had your own baby or been around other people’s babies you’ll understand what I mean. When we’re new to this world, we do not hold opinions of how when and why anyone should be doing anything, we simply cried for our personal needs we required for survival; food, warmth, comfort and love.
Of course it doesn’t take long before that little soul starts to acclimatise to the physical world, actually this has started before our physical birth, it began in the womb. This is a natural and normal process as our children grow, as it gives them a platform from which to learn how they’re creating their own lives. As the saying goes, “You have to start somewhere!”
Although there’s nothing wrong with the societies we live in, we do easily pick up the vibration (thoughts and emotions) of those we’re close to as we grow up, and because many weren’t aware of how they were creating their lives, it seems very predictable that we also may not be aware of how we were creating our lives.
In the big picture, this doesn’t matter for we’re all on a journey of self discovery to some extent, depending on where we currently are and what we know, but it’s also true to say we’re wanting the best possible experience in this life, for when we know how we’re creating our life we can reach places that may have only been distant dreams or wishes in the past.
So what do my beliefs have to do with creating my life experience?
Well, we’re creating our life experience through the thoughts we think and the feelings we have, about the thoughts we think. As we think our thoughts we have an emotional response to them, and a specific vibrational frequency matching the emotion we’re feeling is sent out to the Universe, which is responded to by the Law of Attraction.(That which is similar to itself is drawn)
I’m sure you’ve noticed that every time you’ve had a thought the physical manifestation of that thought does not immediately appear, so what’s required for the full physical manifestation of anything?
Power and momentum is required and is achieved through maintaining focus over time until you feel strong emotion, positive or negative, and if that focus is maintained, the physical manifestation must eventually come, it is Universal Law!
So as you think a thought many times, you will attract a physical manifestation that increases your belief, for now you have physical evidence of what you were thinking, that you now observe and think about more, and so it becomes a strongly held belief.
So a belief is simply a thought that has been focused on over and over again that has attracted physical evidence of it, which then becomes a strongly held belief and the more physical evidence you receive the more firmly grounded your belief becomes. So it’s easy to see how our beliefs come about and why they are not easily changed, they came into being with much attention and focus and are supported with an abundance of manifested evidence of the dominant vibrations (thoughts and emotions) within us.
This is the powerful Law of Attraction in action, but what happens when a manifestation turns up and we cannot see what thoughts we’ve had that have created it?
There are a number of reasons why this may be so;
1. When we’ve held a belief for a long time, it becomes part of who we are, and we may not be consciously aware of the thoughts we’re thinking now are coming through a filter of these strongly held beliefs.
2. If we have not been aware we are creating our life experiences through the thoughts and emotions we have been thinking and feeling, we may not have exercised any restraint to what we were giving our attention too.
3. The thoughts we’ve had that have pre-paved the way for the eventual physical manifestation may not exactly match, but the dominant feeling of our thoughts and the feeling of the physical manifestation always matches, you get how you feel. So this can make it a little tricky to see the connection between our thoughts and our manifestations, for we may be receiving something unwanted in our experience we’ve never specifically given conscious thought to, but if we look at the underlined beliefs and how we were generally feeling about this subject the manifestation will always match those dominant beliefs and feelings, and if we feel they don’t, we may not be aware what our beliefs and real feelings are for they may have been held for so long, they have become our normal way of being.
Depending on what you believe, I’m either overjoyed or sorry to tell you,(it’s usually a mixture of both to begin with!) We are the ones responsible for all that is manifesting in our lives, it matters not whether we are not aware we’re creating our life or whether we are doing it deliberately, the truth is the same, you get what you feel, focus and believe in, every time!
So what are you believing in?
Are you believing in all the evidence that surrounds you that this world is not good and getting worse, or are you believing the evidence that is all around you that this world is good and getting better? Because it’s all “out there,” both wanted and unwanted, for you can focus and attract to you the wonderful world you want to see, or you can focus and attract to you the world you detest and do not wish to experience.
Remember as you judge others and focus on what you feel they are doing that is wrong, so you begin the attraction process and the Law of Attraction brings you more evidence of that which you are focused on and believe.
The Law of Attraction is not judging anything that anyone is vibrating as “right or wrong,” but is matching the dominant vibration you have sent out and returning it to you in the form of physical manifestations.
This is a choice but if we have not been aware of the choices we’ve been making, and instead have observed whatever was in front of us or the things in life we’re not wanting, it probably doesn’t feel like a choice. It is a process, and it does take effort to move our beliefs into more of what we are wanting. It doesn’t matter who we are or where we’re sitting in relation to what we are wanting, we are all trying to live the best life we can, it’s just much easier when you understand how you have created your life.
It’s a good idea to pay attention to how you are feeling, for your feelings are communication from the Non-Physical part of you indicating where you are in relation to what you’re wanting, and as you do improve how you feel, this will improve what you are attracting which then increases and strengthens your belief, and so the cycle starts again but in the direction of what you are NOW wanting!
And so our journey together continues….
Are you a teacher???
Yes, of course, we are all teachers, it‘s not a question of whether we are teachers or not, the real question is… what is it that you’re teaching?
We teach through the power of our example, and although we can teach through our words, if what we’re saying with our words is not consistent with our actions, it will always be our actions that people will believe over our words.
I’m not suggesting that we should change our behaviour because others are observing us, no, for when we start doing this, we’re no longer listening to our Inner Guidance, now we’ve cut ourselves off from the Non-Physical perspective that is knowing everything we’ve ever wanted in this life (and previous lives for that matter too!) sending us direct and constant communication through our emotions of which direction we’re moving in. Positive emotion indicates you’re moving towards something you are wanting, whereas negative emotion means you’re moving towards something that’s unwanted.
Just by being here in this physical body and physical world, we are teaching, it’s not necessary to sit people down and tell them anything, and in fact, unless people are asking for this information, they cannot hear what we have to say, even if it is good and true.
So when you are feeling great and full of life, loving what you’re doing, know that you are shining such a bright light, and you are a joy to behold to anyone that has the good fortune to be in your presence!!
And when you’re not having a good day, know that you are still setting a great example, an example of how to get up and do your best, even when it’s not easy.
Yes, it’s all so good!!
And so our journey together continues….
Do you like watching news???
From as far back as I can remember I never liked watching news. Even before I actually knew what my parents were watching and what news really was, I just didn’t like it. I have memories of going into a sort of daze when ever it came on, and at other times wanting to scream and pull my hair out and yell, “why are you watching this!” Of course they were just thoughts in my head, for I would never have spoken to my parents in such a way as there would have been strong negative consequences for such actions. At that time I never understood why they loved it so much and just always did something else if it was streaming into the house.
As I’ve moved through time and experienced more in my life, I have come to understand so clearly why I disliked news and why I ensured I was not sitting in front of it.
I like knowing that even before I truly understood how things were working in my life I instinctively knew this was not good. This is a good example of how our beautiful young children instinctively know things that they could never articulate to others in words.
I can imagine what some of you may be thinking right now, “are you crazy, I would never stop watching the news!”
The news I’m referring to is the hard-core news about all the major “not nice” stuff that’s happening from every corner of the globe, conveniently streamed directly into your home, car, workplace, gym and, well everywhere!!
Many people give me the following reasons why they watch the news; “But these things are really happening, I must be informed about what’s happening in the world or else….”
I say, “or else what?” Can you help that person or people that experience has happened to? Probably not, so how do you feel? Depressed, helpless, angry, sad, blaming?
I don’t know exactly what emotion someone else will feel as they watch news, but I know you cannot look directly in the face of extremely unwanted circumstances for yourself or anyone else and be happy about it, that is not possible. If you can watch hard-core news without feeling bad, you know you have acclimatised yourself to it so well, you have become numb to it, or you have moved your self to a positive place regarding it.
There are unwanted effects or consequences from watching lots of news, and the top of the list is it gives people a very skewed one-sided view of the world. It negatively orientates you about the world you’re living in and puts focus on all that is unwanted in life, and the fact that it’s true and really happening is a very poor excuse to bring attention and focus to such things! There are many wonderful things that are true and really happening to, but unfortunately if over time we’ve focused in the opposite direction to what is good, we no longer see the beauty in life.
When you focus on anything, be it news or wonderful things happening, you include that in your vibration, you think and feel something about it, and as you continue to focus you’re sending that vibration out to the Universe, and the Universe is answering your vibration through the powerful Law of Attraction, and is returning to you something that has the same emotional feeling of that which you have originally sent out. To begin with, it may just be similar thoughts to what you have sent out you receive back, and if you maintain focus, you add power and momentum to those thoughts, until eventually with enough attention, something will physically manifest. This is not a bad thing, this is wonderful, and means we have creative control over our lives, for we can start to control our thoughts and feelings by gradually moving to better places on anything that is important to us.
We may not have been exercising this power if we didn’t know how we were creating our lives through the power of our thoughts and emotions, but when we know better we can do better, no point looking back with regrets.
I am not suggesting that something that happens to someone on the news will happen to us if we watch it, but it does give us an unbalanced view of the world without the other positive side, and this is not a true reflection of everything that’s out there. But even if it was a true representation of what’s out there,(and it isn’t) it still wouldn’t be a good idea to watch it, for as we focus and watch, so the attracting of unwanted begins, and although what we’re attracting may be less unwanted in severity to what’s on the news, do we really want to do such a thing?
No, no one would do such things if they knew it was drawing or attracting unwanted circumstances into their life.
Watching news does not improve your life. Sometimes it’s just something that people have become use to doing or they may like to have conversations with others about “what’s happening in the world”, sometimes people just like to have something to push against. Whatever the reason is for watching news, for me, there is no reason that is good enough, because I know what I’m creating by doing that.
Believe me if something is happening close to you that you need to know about, you will know, someone will bring that news to you or you will just happen to hear someone talking about it, if it’s important for you to know, you will know. And if there is resistance within you that you need to move to a better place about, you will find yourself seeing snippets of news here and there about these subjects, which is your opportunity to move these resistant subjects into a better feeling place, therefore improving your vibration which improves what you are attracting into your life!
So what I’m saying is, you will attract the circumstances you need to move yourself to better and better places, that is Universal Law and cannot be sidestepped, but you do not need to expose yourself to hours and hours of not nice information to do that, you do not need to be informed about every bad thing that’s happening in the world for the sake of conversation.
Sometimes it’s just a habit we’ve got into without realising what it is we’re really doing, but you always have a choice, we always have a choice. So what are you choosing now?
And so our journey together continues…
A little word about living in the present moment….
I remember when the catch phrase “living in the now” was what many people were speaking and writing about, and although it did bring a lot of awareness to many people, some of it was confusing. Many discussions revolved around the concept that having an ego prevented one from truly being present in the now.
This depends on your ideas and perspective of what ego is.
If we look in the dictionary, you tend to see two main distinctions of what the ego is;
1. The self, being separate from the world and others, and consciousness that controls thought and behaviour.
2. Appropriate pride in one’s self; (self-esteem) or an exaggerated sense of self-importance; (conceit)
The first description describes what the ego is, whereas the second description describes the two common ways it’s often exhibited as behaviour.
In the past the ego has had a bad reputation because it’s been associated with people who have judged and seen themselves as superior or better than others, and yuk, it’s never nice to be around such a person as this, that’s for sure!
But maybe we’ve had a one sided perspective about it? There’s always two ways to look at anything, and that’s either positively or negatively and there’s a large variety of emotional places within both perspectives, but it’s not possible to be focused on positive and negative at the same time, you’re either negatively focused, or positively focused in the moment.
So the negative perspective of ego brings our attention to trying to gain things in a ruthless and uncaring way with no regard for others, whereas the positive perspective of ego brings our attention to knowing the power of who we really are, and that we have the ability to achieve what we’re wanting without the need to hurt others. It’s about being true to who you are, but also allowing others to be true to who they are.
I suppose the ego has had such negative connotations for so long, it’s hard to think of this word in a positive way, so I prefer to say, the “self” instead of ego, for the sake of keeping the feeling of the word neutral.
So what’s really happening when we’re being or behaving as our negative self?
Firstly it’s important to recognise how our negative self has been created. This usually happens when we’ve been brought up by others who didn’t know how life was really working, most did do their best so it doesn’t help us to blame, but it does help to know how you got where you are. So it’s quite normal that we walk down a similar path to those that taught us, it’s often not until things start going off the rails we start to question what we’ve been taught, and we may have a feeling that somethings not quite right? So this propels us into a new journey of discovery, a journey of coming into an understanding of who we really are.
Sometimes the very thing we are judging as bad, wrong or unwanted is exactly what someone needs to move things forward in a positive direction. You see, we’re all on the same path in a general sense, we’re all on a journey of self discovery, but that journey will be completely different for every single one of us because we’ve all come forward with different intentions and we’re all in different places in relation to those intentions so the path that leads us into the full and wonderful discovery of who we are will be different for everyone. It’s not to say that one way is better or worse than the other, it’s just different. That’s why I often speak about not judging others, because we just don’t know where they are in relation to what they’re wanting, and even if we do, if they’re not in a place to hear any advice, it doesn’t have the positive effect we’re wanting. We don’t have to like what others are doing but we must accept, that for them, it could be the next logical step that will lead them to the next and the next and the next. All we can do is know that everyone is doing their best to move in a better direction and into more of what they’re wanting, in the same way we are.
For me this is a way of making peace with what others are doing, I do my best not to focus on what others are doing if it doesn’t align or agree with what I am wanting for myself, for I know, by judging and focusing on what others are doing only includes that unwanted vibration within me, which then means with enough focused attention, I have the possibility of bringing similar feeling experiences into my life. I know not focusing on unwanted circumstances you believe are affecting you is more easily said than done, but it does get easier with practise, and in time, as your focus improves, you are no longer attracting so many unwanted situations, for the negative vibration that was bringing them to you has been replaced with a more positive vibration, and that’s what’s now being responded to by the Law of Attraction. So depending on where the majority of your focus is, things are often getting worse and worse, or better and better.
So what about when we’re being our positive self?
Through knowing how life is working, we start to remove resistance from past experiences by moving to better feeling places and understanding more fully how and why these things may have happened. Once we’ve let go of negative thoughts from past experiences, we’re no longer bringing it into our present thoughts, which means you have stopped the negative attraction of what you are not wanting!
Have you observed people who have had negative experiences in the past, and although the people and places in their life may change, they seem to create the same situations over and over again?
If there is much focus on unwanted circumstances without moving to a better feeling place, we can eradicate all the people involved in this unwanted scenario, but if our thought does not improve, we will create similar situations again. This is the Law of Attraction in action, it’s the Universes way of showing you what you’ve got going on vibrationally. And you answer every time with the power of your thought, so it’s a good idea to pay attention to how you feel for your emotions are communication from the Non-Physical part of you, your Inner Being, letting you know if your thought is positive and moving you in the direction of what you are wanting, or negative and moving you in the direction of something you are not wanting.
So it’s hard to be truly focused on the present moment when you have many things from the past you have not dealt with or moved to a better feeling place on, and it often prevents us from seeing the good that’s happening now. Focusing intently on anything that we’re doing now and dealing with what is manifesting in our life in the most positive way we can, helps to bring us more into the present moment. We don’t need to go back and rehash the past to move through any resistance we have about it, because everything we have going on vibrationally from the past is showing up now, in one way or another, whether we know it or not. If we focus on what’s happening now and move to the best feeling place we can regarding it, we will move through any resistance we have.
Remember, we did not come to a resistant place in one day, so celebrate the small improvements you make, for many small improvements over time make a very big difference to your life experience!
And so our journey together continues….
Do you want to share what you know now???
I know there are many who have overcome difficult situations, and have come to a place where we’re understanding the benefit of all we’ve experienced. Nothing can be more life enhancing than experiencing the resistance of your own thought creation and overcoming it, for this takes us to more amazing places that we may not have been able to experience had we not dealt with our unwanted manifestations. Of course we do not create these resistant circumstances on purpose, but they are part of being in physical form in this physical world. There will not be one of us that gets our thought so quickly aligned with our Inner Being and in such a good place, that nothing unwanted will ever come. This is part of accepting being physical, but I will say that we have the ability to hone our thoughts and feelings (vibration) to such a place, that any negative thoughts that are within you show up quickly and intensely, giving you the opportunity to move through your resistance and get to the other side. There will be no holding on to resistance for years and years and living the manifestation of it without awareness, those days will be gone. We’re coming into a time of heightened awareness, I’m sure you’ve noticed there are many coming to know who they really are and how life is really working, and just as a drop hits the ocean and ripples out in all directions, so those of us that know have the same effect.
I feel I have something very important to say about this. I know when we discover wonderful things about life and how it’s working because we’ve experienced it in our own lives, not just in theory but in our reality, we’re overjoyed and excited, and of course we want to share that with everyone we know, especially the ones we hold dearest and love the most, or others we see living highly unwanted circumstances in their lives. But I’m sure many of you have already experienced and know, it’s very difficult to help someone who is sitting vibrationally, a long way away from where you are.
When someone is sitting in a vibrational (emotional) place that’s very different to the other, for example someone that is happy compared to someone who is in rage or anger, it’s very difficult to find anything they agree on for they sit at opposite ends of the emotional scale and are seeing the world from completely different perspectives. Both perspectives are true, for when you’re sitting in a general place over many subjects, whether it be in joy or rage, that’s what’s being presented to you by the Law of Attraction. So people are not joking when they tell you why things are not working out for them, this is their experience, this has become their truth through the power of their own resistant thoughts and they will find it hard to hear anything differently.
So we all have the ability to uplift people, and those that know how life is working are sitting in a very powerful position (power over self, not others) and others feel something about your knowing, even if they’re unsure of what it is they’re feeling. To uplift someone that’s in a substantially different vibrational place from you, you must dominate and control your own vibration by standing firmly in your knowing, and not be encouraged out of your vibrational place by the other persons vibration. When we’re communicating with others, the person with the strongest vibration will always dominate the conversation or group, although it can change as subjects change during a conversation. You know you’ve lost your own vibrational alignment if you start feeling the need to convince others of your point of view and it becomes a disagreement or argument with both parties giving as many examples as they can of why their way is the “right way”.
Nobody likes being told they’re wrong or that they could be doing something in a better way, especially if they’re not seeking this information as this often causes them to justify and explain how and why they’ve got to where they are to try and convince you to their way of thinking.
Because it’s not possible to speak of something with strong emotion without emitting the same vibrational frequency, these types of conversations often set people more firmly in their resistant place which is the opposite of what you are really wanting to do! Now if you do stand firmly in your vibrational place, you will be able to speak the truth you know and they’ll understand what you have to tell them while you’re with them, but what happens when you are not around? Well, they’re often very confused.
Why is this?
We have not come to what we believe in one day or from one thought alone, it has been an accumulation of many similar thoughts, words, and actions over long periods of time that eventually become physical manifestations. Once something has physically manifested, now we are observing it which strengthens our belief in it, then we think and talk about it again, and so the cycle goes on and on.(which is awesome when you’re focused on what you want) What we believe has a lot of momentum and power behind it and will not be simply changed by one or two conversations, and almost never if we don’t have the desire to know and change. So even if you do dominate the vibration of the other encouraging them into your vibrational place, when you leave, their vibration will return to their normal place but they will be confused about what you have told them. This can cause a difficult situation where they want to be with you because it feels so good to be in your presence, but afterwards they’re confused, and may not feel good about what you’ve told them.
I have learnt some very strong lessons from experiences like this. I no longer give advice to anyone unless they’re seeking it, and you can feel when someone is ready to hear. It’s better to just let people be and accept we’re all different, for although words may help when we’re ready to hear them, ultimately we learn through our own life experiences. We all have our own journey and there are many paths to the same destination, so let those who want to hear from you come, but don’t force anything on anyone, for in doing so you make them wrong, and they are not wrong, they are doing the best that they can, just as you and I am!
And so our journey together continues….
Inspiration v’s motivation…. What’s the difference???
Motivation is a term that has been thrown around a lot in the past, it was not uncommon to hear many people proclaiming what we should be doing and saying “let’s get motivated to do this, let’s get motivated to do that,” much to the disdain of people who were sitting in a not very good feeling place and didn’t feel like getting motivated to do anything!! Hehehe (Oops, is that mean of me!)
But seriously, I wouldn’t laugh at someone who was in a bad feeling place because we’ve all been there at one time or another, but I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. The ones that look at you like you’re an alien for being happy and are hoping the Mothership is going to beam you up so they don’t have to see you anymore. And let’s be honest, even those of us that are normally happy have our down days where a bright-eyed bushy-tailed person comes along but we’re not in a place to appreciate their positiveness.
Ok, so what’s wrong with motivation?
Of course, nothing’s wrong with motivation if it feels good to do something there’s never anything wrong with that, and if you want to call it motivation so be it, it’s all good. But I will say, if you’re having thoughts and ideas that feel very good and exciting, that’s not motivation that’s inspiration!!
So what does motivation mean?
Motivation implies taking action from a slightly resistant place, meaning it’s usually an action we don’t really want to do but feel we have too, to achieve the results we desire. This is not necessarily a bad thing, but if our motivation doesn’t turn into inspiration, it eventually fizzles out, as resistant actions cannot usually be sustained by motivation alone. It’s interesting to observe the results we’ve achieved from being motivated, especially if we’ve been highly externally motivated rather than internally motivated.
What do I mean by being externally or internally motivated?
Being internally motivated is seeking information through one’s own desire to achieve something, and although you may be receiving advice from another, the original desire is inspired from within, so you are asking for the information and this means you’re more open and receptive to hearing and receiving benefit from it. External motivation usually involves people and resources outside of yourself giving you advice and information on what they feel you should be doing to achieve whatever it is you wish to achieve. There is usually less of a feeling of asking and more of a feeling of just being told what to do.
This is not necessarily a negative, it all depends on the person seeking the advice, for most of the time when people are giving advice, they’re usually coming from a good place and trying to help someone, but what’s more important is where the person receiving the advice is vibrationally (emotionally). If they aren’t feeling good about what they feel they must do and they do take action, it’s very unlikely they’ll continue on with it in the long-term, whereas if they’re feeling excited and inspired about the advice they’ve been given, action is taken from this place often reaps much better results and becomes a joy to do rather than a chore.
So motivation always implies different amounts of hard work or struggle and we’re often more externally motivated, and the harder it is to maintain. I’m not suggesting you can’t maintain or get results through motivation, you can, it’s just that it often involves hard work that isn’t always fun.
But you see, it’s all about your thought at the end of the day. You can be highly externally motivated to begin with, and the action you take may be hard work, but if you move yourself to the best feeling place you can regarding whatever you’re doing, you will make your way, in time, to inspiration, and when you find yourself inspired you will not need any external motivation to do anything for your inspiration will be coming from within you 100%, they don’t call it “Divine Inspiration” for nothing!
And then you will truly inspire others, not by your words but through your actions and your example, and you may find they come to hear your words, for they will want to know how to get to this wonderful place they see you in.
I’m not saying to get in an inspired place for others, NO, do it for yourself, for when you find yourself in this place, you will feel it, and you can know for sure you’re receiving clear communication from your Inner Being, and at these moments the Physical and Non-Physical you has blended together perfectly….
And Oh my, doesn’t it feel good!!
And so our journey together continues….
Why do I find it difficult to make decisions???
There are many reasons why we may find it difficult to make decisions in our life, but it always comes down to the same thing in the end. The fear of making a decision that may unfold in an unwanted direction, and of course none of us want to do this.
This is often based on a false belief that all that’s required for something to turn out well is to make the correct decision, and although it’s true to say the better we feel about the decisions we make, the higher the possibility of a positive outcome becomes, decision-making is only a small part of the creative process. Nonetheless, it is important, for if we cannot make decisions effectively, it can be difficult to move forward in any direction, leaving us in a type of limbo of indecision, until we’re forced into making a decision, and that never usually feels good.
Once we’ve made a clear decision, we are now often in the place where we are inspired to take action. The outcome will depend greatly on how much positive vibrational momentum we had in the beginning and if we were able to maintain a positive focus as we moved forward with the tasks that need to be undertaken to achieve our goal.
It’s important to know, everything that unfolds is based on our thoughts and feelings in relation to our decision. Continually questioning and second-guessing whether we’ve made the correct decision, splits our vibrational energy rather than putting all our positive thought behind the decisions we’ve made.
Whatever choice we make is not that important, what is important is putting all our positive thought behind the decision we have made, and not looking back with regret. So it doesn’t have to be the “best choice in the world” because we make it the “best choice” by the power of our positive thought!!!
When we do make choices, choosing what we believe is best and running with it is all we can do, and if we find ourselves thinking negatively as we sometimes do, making an effort to feel slightly better at that moment is a great thing to do. If we have a lot of resistance this may not be that easy so we may need to completely change our focus to something different, returning to think about and move our resistant subject when we are in a better feeling better place.
If making decisions has become difficult for us, we may become more and more unsure of ourselves as time goes by. This is because a strong vibration of uncertainty, unsureness and fear creates more of the same feeling within us as the Law of Attraction responds to those dominant thoughts and feelings in-kind. As our vibration is emitted from us, it moves out into the Universe and joins with other vibrations with similar emotional feelings and thoughts, gaining power and momentum to eventually returning to us.
Our vibration can be changed in every moment we are conscious, but as we hold any thought that produces an emotional feeling and focus on it, it becomes easier to feel this way as the powerful Law of Attraction is giving us easier access to more and more thoughts, with the same vibrational content. This is where the saying “from bad to worse” comes from, but I prefer “from good to better” because it works both ways.
The Law of Attraction is giving back that which we’ve originally sent out, and adding power to it so we know where we are. For anything to manifest in our life experience, many thoughts need to be held over time and with emotional intensity, it matters not whether they are negative thoughts and feelings producing unwanted circumstances or positive thoughts and feelings producing wanted experiences.
The Law of Attraction does not judge any thought as good or bad, it’s purely a magnifying mirror if you like. Yes, that’s a good analogy.
So what we’re thinking and feeling in relation to what we’re wanting is incredibly important, for this is creating our future experiences. Everyone is getting immediate feedback from our Inner Being in every moment as to where what we’re thinking now, is taking us. If we’re feeling a positive emotion, we can know for sure, we’re moving towards wanted experiences, whereas if we’re feeling negative emotion we can know for sure we’re moving towards unwanted experiences.
Remember, our vibration can be changed because we have control over what we think and how we feel, and we have the ability to move to a better feeling place on any and all subjects that are important to us.
We’ve all made it this far whether we’ve known this or not and we will continue living many wonderful things, all I am saying is….there may be some amazing Universal Laws that we haven’t been aware of, that the understanding of, will change many things in our lives for the better.
When we begin to experience and know this, it becomes easier to make decisions, but don’t take my word for it, only you have the power to show yourself how you are creating your life.
It does take some time and effort, but I’m not sure if there’s a more worthwhile cause than living the awesome life you came here to live!!
And so our journey together continues….
Do you think setting goals will get you where you’re wanting???
That’s a very interesting question, isn’t it?
And the answer depends on where you are coming from. For example, if you make goals for yourself and feel good about them, believing you will be able to achieve them, that is definitely a goal worth setting and you will be well on your way to achieving it as long as you stay focused in a positive manner. So what happens when we make a goal and feel good about it to start with, but then do not follow through with positive thoughts. If we do not maintain our belief and positive thought regarding the goals we make, it’s very unlikely that we’ll achieve them.
This often happens when looking at the pros and cons of any situation, what we’re really doing is including negative thoughts into our vibrational (emotional) mix, meaning, depending on whether you’ve focused more on positives or negatives, this will determine how things will unfold in reality. Of course it’s very normal to look at all possibilities when we’re trying to move forward in our lives, but if we focus intently on everything we think could possibly go wrong and may prevent us from reaching our goals, more than how everything may work out well, this will be the strongest vibration within us, and the Law of Attraction ensures we’ll receive back that which we have vibrationally given out.
There is no such thing as NO in this attraction based Universe that we all live in. For example, when we say yes to something, it’s included as a possible future manifestation, and when we say no to something, it’s also included as a possible future manifestation. Saying yes with positive focus attracts wanted circumstances, whereas saying no with negative focus is attracting unwanted circumstances. A positive focus on any goal that’s maintained over time with emotional intensity must eventually bring that which we’re wanting, whereas maintaining negative focus over time with emotional intensity must eventually bring that which we’re not wanting.
This is often a consequence of doubting our ability to create what we are wanting or we may not see a path that will get us where we are wanting to go, so we give up. I am not judging anyone for giving up on their goal, if it feels like the best thing to do, it’s not for me to say that you shouldn’t, but I will say, the fact that a goal is set in the first place, means we were wanting to achieve it, and with positive focus there’s no reason why we can’t.
Why do we doubt our ability to achieve our goals?
We may have experienced circumstances in the past that have not worked out how we were wanting despite taking many actions and being very determined which eventually, over time, erodes our belief in ourselves and our ability to achieve what we desire.
In reality, there is always a mixture of positive and negative thoughts regarding any subject or goal that we hold, but there will be a more dominant vibrational feeling about it and that’s always what’s manifesting.
So yes, setting goals can definitely get us where are we wanting to go when we do our best to stay positively focused, working through any resistant, challenging circumstances that arise by;
1. Being aware of how we’re feeling regarding anything we give attention too.
2. Once we know how we’re feeling, doing our best to move to a better feeling place, especially if we’re in a negative vibrational place.
3. Doing our best to enjoy whatever is happening now by relaxing and not being too hard on ourselves.
4. Holding strong to the belief that things really are working out, even if it doesn’t currently look like it, and yes, that’s something that requires practice, but we’ve all come forward with the ability to do this if that’s what we’re wanting.
And so our journey continues….
The truth will set you free….Or will it???
I’m sure many would have heard the quote many great teachers from the past have said: “the truth will set you free”. But what truth are they speaking of, and how would it set us free?
The truth they speak of, is the truth about how life in the Physical and Non-Physical world is really working, and the reason it is followed up with, “it will set you free,” is when we come to know the truth about how life is truly working and how we’re creating our own life experiences and you start putting this knowledge into practice in your life, you become one that’s truly free. For it’s through this understanding that you gain creative control over your life, and then you’ll feel the freedom of who you really are.
So does this mean we are only free if we know how this life is working?
No, freedom is the core of who we really are, along with truth and love. We come into this physical world free, we live here with free will and free choice, and we will make our transition back to Non-Physical free.
So if I’m not feeling free in my life, why am I not feeling free?
This is a natural consequence if we haven’t known how it is we’ve been creating our life experiences.
We may have come to the conclusion or belief that things just happen for no good reason, or that life was meant to be difficult, or that there’s someone outside of ourselves setting down rules and regulations as to what, how, and when we should be doing this or that and that’s why things are not working out.
Nothing could be further from the truth. You came here for a wonderful experience, not a life of pain and struggle, and it’s true we’ll all have our different challenges in life to overcome, but they’re always of our own making, and propel us to greater heights and understandings once overcome.
How could I be making problems in my own life without knowing about it?
Mainly because that’s what we all observed as we were growing up. We watched others around us focus on things that were not working in their life, creating more unwanted circumstances and being oblivious to what they were creating.
I say this to not blame others, for they were doing’s the best that they could with what they knew, no one would create unwanted circumstances in their life if they knew what they were doing, that would be crazy!
So we may have sort of fell into the same vibrational place (general emotional place) as those that surrounded us. Yes, it’s only natural we would take on their beliefs and not always know how we were creating our life.
Have you noticed how our beautiful children are coming forth into this physical world now? They are emotionally sensitive, strong-willed, freedom seeking, not rule following souls.
In other words, they will not be easily guided away from who they really are, they are knowing their self-worth, they are believing they know what is best for them and they are telling us so, but are we hearing what they are trying to tell us or are we just labelling them as problem children?
They will not follow blindly what others say or give up their freedom easily, and to get them to do this, you must severely break their spirit. All I will say is the consequences of doing such things are not good. I’m not suggesting our children do not require guidance, actually, they require very specific guidance where their individual needs are known and considered and they’re actively involved, consulted and listened to when making decisions regarding them. They also often require explanations as to how and why you have come to the decisions you have. I know it takes more time, and sometimes you have to explain something so many times you want to scream and pull your hair out, (Yep, I’ve been there more than once!) but I can not overestimate the wonderful long-term effects that come from treating our children in this way.
The truth is, we’re all creating our own life experiences whether we’re aware of it or not, and when we know this, we start to feel the freedom and truth that’s within us more and more.
It is a journey and we don’t need to get there all at once, just do our best to pay attention to how we’re feeling and making an effort to feel slightly better than we currently are, especially if we’re in a not good feeling vibrational place, and over time we will feel our life experience improve.
Why would I bother to make an effort to feel better? Because it feels better to feel good doesn’t it?
And so our journey together continues….
The Purest Soul 