Good relationships are all about compromise….Well, that depends???

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Whether or not this statement is true or not for us, depends on what our belief or definition of compromise is, and what we believe a good relationship should be.

It would be fairly accurate to say that many people’s definition of compromise is having to make concessions or accept something less than what we may have truly been wanting, against ones will for the benefit of finding a suitable resolution or agreement of opinion, between two or more people.

Most pronounce this to be a wonderful thing that makes relationships work, and of course we cannot expect to have everything our own way if we are wanting to have a healthy and happy relationship where both parties are feeling valued and respected, but whether this is a positive aspect in the relationships we currently have, depends entirely on how much one may be having to “compromise” and how they feel when they’re doing this.

The most important factor that supersedes everything else is, “How am I feeling about the compromise I’m making now?” which will be influenced by many different variables such as;
~ How often am I compromising in this relationship?
~ How much does my partner compromise, is there a fairly equal reciprocation between both parties?
~ How strongly did I want things to work out how I envisioned?
~ How big is the compromise I’m making, and how long will it last for?
There will also be many other factors that will be specific to different situations and relationships.

As long as we’re interacting with other people, we will all need to navigate our way through differences of opinions of what we are wanting, but I don’t think it’s hard to know, if we feel we’re having to constantly compromise on circumstances that we feel strongly about, and that it isn’t evenly shared between both parties, this is when resentment can grow, especially if it ins’t addressed and talked about in the early stages of feeling resentful.

If resentment is not dealt with, it doesn’t usually go away by itself. Felt and caught in the early stages, it’s possible to easily move ourselves into a better feeling vibrational place by focusing on all the positive aspects of our situation, whereas if not dealt with, it grows in intensity with each similar experience that unfolds, until as many people say, “The last straw that breaks the camels back” often happens.

Although getting things out in the open can often be good, and can help us to move forward in a more positive direction, if our negative emotions have grown very strong with a lot of power and momentum behind them, it’s very hard to talk in a calm and productive way, and communication can become a bit….well, explosive!! It’s not the end of the world if this happens, once both parties have had time to calm down, that can be when some positive progress can be made, if both parties are still wanting a positive resolution.
If we’re feeling like we have to constantly compromise within our relationships, it is not ideal. The best option in these circumstances is to make an effort to move to a better feeling vibrational place rather than agreeing to what others want and then feeling resentful because we’ve had to give up something we’re wanting for the other.
If we’re finding it hard to move to a positive feeling place and cannot accommodate what another wants happily, it’s better to spend more time discussing the situation and trying to find a solution together that both will be happy with, because it’s always usually there, it’s just a matter of taking the time and effort to find it!

So although we may initially feel some negative emotion when we’re compromising, it’s not until we move all our thought regarding whatever we’re compromising about into a positive feeling vibrational place, that it’s no longer a compromise, now it is something we are wanting to do for ourselves, not just something we’re doing for someone else.
That’s a great vibrational place to be in, and that’s what I would call “A win, win situation!”

And so it is….

Who is my Spiritual Guide???

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I’m sure many people have pondered whether they have a Spiritual Guide or not. This probably depends on whether we’re even believing in this concept.
As with all ideas that are new or foreign to us, it often takes some time and thought before we can come up with any opinion of where we sit in relation to this subject, and depending on where our current beliefs are, will depend on whether we will completely discount the possibility of such things.

It is not my intention to convince you into or out of what ever you are believing is right for you at this time, but it is my intention that I may give you “some things” to ponder in relation to Spiritual Guides.

When I speak of Spiritual Guides, I specifically mean the Individual, Non-Physical, Source Energy guidance that is available to each and every one of us in every moment of this physical life we are living.

Our Spiritual Guide is not some Higher Being that is a far more superior being than us, our Spiritual Guide is the Non-Physical part of us that remained in the Non-Physical realm to help guide the Physical part of us through this life journey, so in other words….”Our Spiritual Guide is ourselves!” That’s pretty tricky don’t you think? Hehehe….
The Non-Physical part of us holds all the knowledge and experiences from the previous lives we have lived, knows all the intentions and desires we had when we came forward into the life we are currently living, and knows every amended desire, intention and experience we’ve had since we’ve been in this physical life and is guiding us in a direction that will lead us to all we have decided through the living of, not just this life, but all the lives we have lived, what we are wanting, by the easiest and most enjoyable route available!!

And how does our Spiritual Guide, or Non-Physical counterpart achieve this???
Through our emotions. Whenever we are feeling any emotion, whether it be positive or negative, we are receiving, individual, personal, and awesome Inner Guidance from the Non-Physical part of us indicating in which way we are moving.
Positive emotion indicates we are moving in the direction of wanted circumstances in our life, the stronger the emotional feeling is and the longer we experience it for, the closer we are to the physical manifestation of something that will be very pleasing when it turns up.
Negative emotion indicates we are moving in the direction of unwanted circumstances in our life, the stronger the emotional feeling is and the longer we experience it for, the closer we are to the physical manifestation of something that will not be very pleasing to us if it turns up.

So, who decides what I do at any given time, the Non-Physical part of me, or the physical part of me?
Well, I’m pretty sure that most people know the Physical, here and now part of us is making the decisions in our lives, based on what we feel is best once we’ve considered all the factors that are important to us.
But when we start to understand exactly what our emotions are telling us, and we start to make an effort to move our thoughts and feelings to an improved vibrational place, our life starts to change for the better.

Many have taken negative emotion that they are feeling as an indication that someone else is doing something “wrong,” whereas it more accurately indicates, we are now either thinking, speaking, observing, or doing something that is moving us in a direction we are not wanting to go.
Now feeling negative emotion is not the end of the world and all of us experience it to varying degrees depending on how much we’ve made an effort to focus on the best in life, or on how much we’ve focused on what we are not liking, or what isn’t working in our life.
And I understand it’s not always possible to just stop something we feel we have to do, for there is often much power and momentum behind such things, but it is completely possible to feel slightly better than where we currently are while we’re doing whatever it is we’re doing…..And that does change everything!!

So we can call it whatever we want, Spiritual Guide, Non-Physical part of ourselves, Inner Being, Soul, or Source Energy….The words don’t matter, but what does matter is we know we have access to this energy that is essentially us, or who we truly are, in every moment of this physical life….
To access this power, we must do our best to move into the vibrational place of it by noticing how we are thinking and feeling at any given moment, and making an effort to feel slightly better. The more we do this, the more we will feel the absolute power of “Who we really are!”
This is what happens when the Physical and Non-Physical parts of us align and blend as one, and like anything we do in life, the more often we achieve this “Alignment,” the easier it is to return to the vibrational place of it, for you cannot mistake it when you find yourself here, for you will feel and know, that this is what you came here for!!

And so it is….

No one likes a….”Know it all!!”

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Hehehe….This makes me laugh because I do often class myself as a bit of a “know it all,” but in the best possible way of course! What I mean is, I believe strongly that I will receive the answers to anything that is important to me, and I always do. Sometimes they come immediately as I bring a question into my mind and sometimes they are weaved into my experience after a little bit of focus. That’s a good example of the Law of Attraction in action! Ooooh, I like that, “The Law of Attraction in Action” that’s totally cool!!
Now I know (see, there I go again!!) this comment is usually used in a strongly negative way to mean a person “who thinks” they know more than everybody else about everything and usually likes to tell you how “right” they are, and how “wrong” you are!! This often comes from a belief where people feel they know better than others and is usually mixed with the desire to tell everyone “the error of their ways” so to speak.
And I say “Holy Moses!”….That’s the perfect way to do the exact opposite of that which you are wanting, as most people will not listen to anyone that is coming from a place of self-pronounced superiority over others, for this rarely feels good.
Now it’s true to say we all have different levels of knowledge about different things based on our own life experiences, and of course, we will know more than others sometimes, and others will know more than us at other times. That’s not the issue,  the most important factors are;
Is whoever we are considering telling something too, in the place to hear what we have to say? In other words, do we feel there is an asking for this information in some way?
If we feel the answer is no, there’s not much point in trying to convey….For it will fall on deaf ears. And even if there is a certain amount of asking, whether what we have to say will be heard or not, still depends on how much our recipient likes the information they are hearing? If the information conveyed requires some form of change and sits along way from the knowledge we currently hold,(and it usually does) it often takes time to digest and be thought about before it can be truly understood through our own life experiences and perspective.
It’s not bad or wrong to want to help someone when we feel we have information that could possibly improve another’s life experience in some way, and if it’s someone we care deeply for, its even harder not to “spill the beans all over the place.” Hehehe!! (Oops, I might have been guilty of doing that once or twice!!)
But seriously, sometimes we have to just let people be and know that they will find their way, in their own time, and in their own way, when they are ready.
To truly be able to do this, we must believe that others have the power and ability to create what they are wanting in their life, even when they aren’t currently experiencing it, and before we can believe this about others, we must first believe in it for ourselves, for it’s virtually impossible to help another to believe in themselves….When we do not believe in ourselves.

In regards to knowing it all, it’s not possible to know everything there is to know all at one time, (I know I’m stating the obvious here) but one thing is for certain, anything we want to know that we feel is important for our experience, we have access too, every single time, no exceptions ever, but we do need to get into the vibrational place of where the answers are.
And we do this by holding the subject or question in our mind with a positive focus, believing that we will receive an answer or solution to the question we have pondered, even if we do not know when, where or in what form the answer will come. If this belief is held over time with focused attention creating power and momentum, it will only be a matter of time before we receive evidence of our newly found belief in the form of physical manifestations!!
And I don’t think there are many people who wouldn’t want to receive the answers and solutions to the questions that are important to them if they believed they could receive them….
But that’s just me….

And so it is….

PMS….Is it all in our minds???

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Well, the answer is yes and no….depending on what your beliefs and experiences are in relation to this subject.
In the past, I was never very impressed when people complained about being “so emotional” because it was “that time of the month.”
I felt strongly that many people used this as an excuse to behave badly, and then relinquished any responsibility they had for their bad behaviour by blaming their “hormones.”
Now before anyone gets their knickers all bunched up, I completely acknowledge that this can be a real occurrence for many women with varying degrees of intensity. It’s not my intention to argue with anyone about whether or not they really experience PMS, if you think you experience it, you probably do experience it, end of story.
As usual, I like to this think about experiences through the viewpoint of Universal Law and the Law of Attraction in order to move forward in a positive direction rather than resigning myself to a position of helplessness or “I can’t do anything about this” mindset.
No, for me it’s unacceptable to resign myself to a period of time every month when I am in a not good feeling place and everyone else better just “look out or else.”

Now many would argue…..I’ve had tests done, I’ve had this and that done and the doctor says I have a hormone imbalance, and I’m not pretending I’m emotional, etc,etc.
And I say, yes of course you are, and yes, most people know and accept this as a normal way of being at that time of the month.
But consider for a moment, “Which came first, the chicken or the egg?”
Did the emotion cause the hormone imbalance, or did the hormone imbalance cause the emotion? Many have assumed the latter, and have therefore thrown their arms up in the air and said “I can’t do anything about it, it’s out of my control,” and which ever way it happened, nothing is out of our control, especially when it comes to our own experiences.
If I was experiencing PMS and it was affecting my life (or others around me) in a negative way, I would ask myself the following question….
How strongly do I believe I’m going to experience an emotionally disturbing time when my period is due???
And, do I enjoy (just a little bit) having an excuse to really “let it all out” without consequences. Actually, that’s not possible, there are always consequences for everything we do, remember, the Law of Attraction is responding in-kind to what ever you put “out there,” whether it is something you are wanting or not.

Although it’s true that we all have control of ourselves and how we feel, if we have been experiencing PMS for some time with intensity, there will be a considerable amount of power and momentum behind the thoughts and beliefs that initially helped to create this situation, and of course, we have our own personal experiences of PMS which really cements our belief even more, for now we have evidence of that which we may have unknowingly attracted to focus even more on! (I say unknowingly, because I find it hard to believe anyone would knowingly create anything they weren’t wanting!)
So we can’t really go from “0 to hero” (from strongly unwanted to wanted) when experiencing any unwanted circumstances’ when there’s power and momentum behind those experiences, and the fact that we are experiencing anything, lets us know there is power and momentum behind it, otherwise we wouldn’t be experiencing it.
The best thing we can do if we’re wanting to improve our experience in relation to PMS or any circumstances in our life, is to start cultivating our belief more in the direction of what we are wanting, rather than focusing on what has already been.
It does take some time and effort, and a focusing of the mind to a level we may not have exercised for a while, but it is so doable.

The power to shape your experience is within you….not your doctor, not your family, not your community…..It’s within you, and although others can be a source of guidance or inspiration that can help us to get where we want to be, it’s you that will ultimately be the creator of your experience.
Take the power you were born with and exercise it, for this is your natural birth right, and you can start right now, from wherever you are, it matters not what has already been…

And so it it….

Why would we ask….For everyone else’s opinion???

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I am not necessarily saying asking for others opinions about something is right or wrong, but it is an indication of where we are in relation to what we’re asking about.
The most important factor to consider when we’re asking for an opinion from someone else is, what is our reason for asking, and how are we feeling about the subject we’re asking about.
For example, are we generally exchanging ideas in a progressive conversation without any premeditated ideas or the need of getting others opinions on a specific subject? I would consider this mostly positive, good feeling communication with the exchanging of many ideas and opinions on many different subjects, and although we may be listening to many different opinions, we are not coming from a place of unknowingness, but more from a place of interest.
During these conversations, we may hear many things that inspire us to find out more about what we have talked about.
If we are coming from a not so good vibrational place of unknowingness, or we feel a need to know what others think in order to come to our own decision or opinion, this is often not so positive.
Why?
If our vibrational feelings are strongly directed towards not knowing and unsureness, if we have a decent amount of power and momentum behind these feelings through our focused thoughts, the Law of Attraction responds in-kind to our vibration with manifestational evidence of what is pulsing strongly within us, often increasing our feelings of not knowing where we sit with our own opinion and usually just confuses us more!! A strong negative feeling of not knowing what to think or do brings you more feelings of the same. (although over time, if we do not move to a better feeling place, the strength of the emotions we’re feeling often increase)
Yes, it is true, and all of us feel unsure about things in our lives at one time or another, but for some that feel unsure in many areas of their life, it can become very difficult to make a decision about anything.
Sometimes it’s a specific subject that we may hold some resistance to or about, that we attempt to get many people’s opinion on?
But even if the information we gain is good and positive, we just don’t know it and usually continue to look for more information that will make us feel better. This can become a cycle until we finally realise we could ask a million people their opinion and we still wouldn’t know what to do.
This is when we need to find our inner strength and decide we might as well go with what we think we should do and feel as good as we can about whatever decision we do make, for other people’s opinions are exactly that; a conclusion one has come to based on what they are wanting and what they have experienced so far in their own life. (which often doesn’t have a lot to do with your life, where you are, and what you are wanting)
We may learn from, and ponder information given to us from others, but ultimately only we know how we feel and what we are wanting, so it’s important to come to our own opinions and make our own decisions, for no other is in a better position than us, to make our decisions!

And so it is….

Are we there yet???

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Well, there’s an easy answer to that question, and it’s no!
Why? Because as soon as we achieve anything we are wanting to have, be or do, we experience a whole new set of new circumstances where we will decide what we think would slightly improve our experience, from this new vantage point now.
Some may say “no, when I achieve whatever it is I’m wanting, I won’t want anything more I’ll be happy and content.”
And I say “as if!” If that was even possible, life would end….and that truly is impossible.(we will leave this physical body, that’s for sure, but who we really are will never end, but will simply change form)
I am not suggesting we cannot be happy and content once we’ve achieved something we have been wanting, definitely we can, but after spending some time in this happy and content place, we will always see how things could be slightly better or what may improve our life experience. So even if we are currently content, new desires are constantly being born within us, for life will always produce more desire from us, as this is the first step in the process of creating what we are wanting in our life, and is one of the reasons we have come into this physical reality.
So why have I come here??
To decide through the living of my life, what I am wanting to experience which requires exposure and observation of many different circumstances that this life experience provides.
Once I have decided what I’m wanting, doing my best to turn all my attention towards that which I am wanting by;
Generally doing my best to feel better to whatever I am giving my attention to, not just the subjects I want to bring into a better vibrational place.
Looking for general evidence from my environment of what I’m wanting.
Imagining what it will feel like to live my wanted circumstances.
Observing others positively that may be living the circumstances I am wanting for myself.
Looking for signs more specifically related to what I am wanting that lets me know the Law of Attraction is responding to my positive vibration regarding what I desire, bringing me manifestation evidence of it!!
And Oh…..if positive thought is maintained over time with focused attention,(creating power and momentum) it really is thrilling to see things turning up left, right and centre in response to our improved vibration!!
This helps to strengthen our belief in ourselves, our knowing about how life works and our ability to focus, create and attract what we’re wanting in our lives, and helps us to maintain our vibrational good feeling place in the face of opposition.
By opposition I mean, before whatever we’re wanting turns up, we may get to a good vibrational place regarding what we’re wanting, but when manifestation evidence does not immediately follow, we may lose belief, faith and our good feeling place on the subject.
Often, this is because some resistance may need to be worked through, but if we can stay focused during our times of doubt, and work through any resistant circumstances that have turned up, we can return to our good feeling place on the subject, usually feeling even stronger positive emotion than we did before our doubt or resistance turned up!!
That’s what happens when we make the effort to work through negative thoughts and circumstances; we get to a better feeling vibrational place and become a stronger person, or more to the point, we become more of who we really are, better able to deal with whatever comes our way with confidence and grace.
This gives us a sense of empowerment we may not have felt before, the power to create that which we are wanting in our lives.
And I don’t know if there’s a person alive that wouldn’t want that, if they believed they could have it!!

And so it is….

Never say never…..Why not???

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Well, we are all free to say whatever we wish to say of course, but what I’m getting at here is the deeper truth this saying “Never say never” reveals.
It would be likely that this saying may have come from people saying “I would never do this or do that,” but then unfortunately found themselves at some point in their future experience doing exactly what they had proclaimed they would never do!
So one could say it’s a slightly superstitious saying, in the sense “be careful, don’t say that” in case later, it “magically” turns up in your life?

So that brings us to an interesting point, can something turn up just because you say you don’t want it to?
Well, that depends entirely on how strong our negative emotion is when we are speaking about something we don’t want. And if we are using the word “never” this is a fairly strong indication of where we’re sitting vibrationally in relation to whatever we’re talking about, for we would not use this word if we did not have resistance towards…..Whatever the subject is.
What do I mean by resistance?
Resistance is the act of resisting, opposing, or pushing against, that hinders or prevents our motion forward, towards what we are wanting.
For example, if I am wanting to experience something I am not yet experiencing…..When I think about this, what are the strongest thoughts within me? In truth, it’s usually a mixture of both resistant negative thoughts and non-resistant positive thoughts that would make up our general vibrational place on any subject, but whatever thoughts are more dominant and receiving more air-time so to speak, through focused attention, will be what is predominantly manifesting and turning up in our experience.
So what is manifesting in our reality is always an indication of what we have been doing with our thoughts, and we always know in which direction our thoughts are creating by noticing how we’re feeling when we think a thought. Negative emotion moves us towards unwanted circumstances and positive emotion moves us towards wanted experiences.
Monitoring every thought one has, can be enough to drive anyone mentally insane, and can make us fearful of our own thoughts, which in and of itself is a not good feeling place, so it’s easier to take a more relaxed attitude and just notice how we’re feeling and do our best to feel a little bit better than where we currently are, especially if our feelings are strongly negative.
Don’t let me give you the impression feeling negative emotion is “bad” it is not, what it is, is very important communication from the Non-Physical, eternal part of us, letting us know exactly where we are in relation to what we’re currently thinking about and what we’re really wanting.
No one likes experiencing unwanted circumstances, and the stronger and more unwanted an experience is, usually the more we don’t like it, and hopefully the more “inspired” we are to move to a better feeling place on the subject.
And why would we bother to move ourselves to a better feeling vibrational place?
Because we’re understanding what we’re thinking now, is pre-paving and creating our future experiences?
So our emotions, both positive and negative, are a precursor to our physical manifestations, an indication of what we’ve got going on vibrationally (that we sometimes may not be aware of) And no matter what the subject we may be giving thought to is, we have the absolute ability, with time and effort to feel better and improve our pattern of thought. Once we’ve improved our vibration, (thoughts and feelings) if we continue to maintain our new improved vibrational place, in time it must become our reality, this is Universal Law!

So “never” indicates strong resistance otherwise we would be using different language such as, maybe, sometimes, I’m not sure, probably not, who knows, nah not really, etc.
I’m not saying people shouldn’t say never, I’m just saying what’s happening as we speak in these terms. And as I’ve mentioned before, it’s not about the actual words we may or may not be saying, it’s about the thoughts and feelings behind our words as we speak them.
I have not heard many people use this word without strong emotion behind it….And that emotion is almost always negative.
So “I never want to experience …” means we have a descent amount of negative emotion or resistance towards whatever it is we’re talking about, and depending on how often we give thought to this resistant subject and how strong our negative emotion is in relation to it, will determine if this unwanted circumstance has enough attraction power to manifest in our life?
Exactly how much attracting power, only we would know, if we’re very sensitive to how we are feeling.
But no matter how much power and momentum we have behind any thoughts we’ve had in the past or are having now, it’s possible to gradually move to a better feeling place, no doubt, 100%….

And so it is….

Share if you care….No I won’t!!

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Like Theo says in the movie Turbo, “Well aren’t you just a little ray of sunshine!!” Not….Hehehe….That’s me I’m talking about!!

But seriously, what I’m talking about is something all of us do at some point or another, but unfortunately many have made this “a way of being,” believing manipulating others through negative emotion is the only way to get anything done! (And yes if you believe this, this will be your experience, mostly anyway…)
Oh my god, just saying that makes me cringe!
I know we all do this sometimes, and it isn’t the end of the world if we do, but knowing what we’re really doing does help us to shift this pattern of behaviour if that is what we’re wanting to do?
Many may disagree and say, “No, I’m just telling……the possible negative consequences that could happen if they continue this behaviour, I don’t want them to do!(Yep, it’s all about us!)
And I say “If we were aware that we may be helping another to focus their attention on strongly unwanted experiences by telling them all the horrible things that may happen to them….. Uhmmmm, that’s not that good.”
The stronger the negative emotion our recipient has allowed themselves to experience by listening to others attempts to guide or manipulate them, the worse position they are in, and if whatever the focus of this fear is, is brought up over and over and over again, this is now a subject that can start producing strong negative emotion and repeated focused attention, ( creating power and momentum ) that the Law of Attraction will be responding in-kind too….
There is always many ways to the same destination, for example, rather than “You could get killed by doing that!” maybe “I’m going to hold your hand until you remember to look so we stay safe.”
It’s not so much about the exact words we use as we are trying to guide others, it’s more about the vibrational place we are in as we speak these words. Are we coming from a negative unwanted vibrational perspective, or a positive wanted vibrational perspective?
That brings me to a very important distinction, are we more focused on what we’re wanting, or more focused on what we are not wanting? (even if it’s what we are wanting for others, it’s still what we are wanting…is it not?) Because whichever vibration is strongest within us for whatever subject we’re giving thought too, will be what’s predominantly turning up in our reality.

Some may think, “Well, it often works, so it must be a good thing to do!!”
And I acknowledge it does sometimes work but at the cost of what? Trying to promote feelings of intense fear, guilt or unworthiness is not the only way to get someone to do something, but can become a common way we react if this has been what we have become accustomed to doing, especially when it comes to dealing with our beautiful children!
Manipulating behaviour in these ways erodes self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth, and can start the process where we start to believe we are not good human beings anymore.
And I’m sure you’ve noticed, often when we try to manipulate in this way, our recipient suddenly feels inspired to do exactly what we have instructed them not to do! (and that goes for big people too….I think this is where the phrase “reverse psychology” must have come from!)
When this happens we will need to up the fear factor and really “scare the pants off them” to get them to listen, or we need to do something else. Hehehe….Oops sorry, just laughing about the scaring the pants off them bit!!
That brings me back to the title of this post, share (or like) if you care….When this is added to the bottom of a post, this is a classic example of trying to guilt people into doing something. If I receive such a post, even if it is good, I will not share or like it!

I will not allow others to manipulate me from their not good feeling place.
And just as importantly, I do not wish to share something that may make others do something out of guilt either.
Talk about sharing the “chain of pain” and not good feelings all around the place….
And no, I won’t do it!

And so it is….

Fake it….Until you make it….Uhmm???

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I’m not a big fan of this saying because, in truth, you cannot truly say, be or do anything at any moment, and “fake it”. You are either doing something, or you are not doing something, there is no in-between about it, but I do understand what people are meaning when they say this.
I like to think people mean they are making an effort to move to a better feeling (vibrational) place that they want to be in, but are not yet in, and that they know they have the ability to feel better, even if it is only slightly.
But when you try to move too far from where you really are feeling…that really is faking it, and I say the same thing I said in my previous post to this one, “We are not really kidding anyone,” least of all ourselves, because we all know how we are really feeling when we’re doing this. Our feelings also let us know what people are coming to us with emotionally, and what their true intentions are, apart from the words they may be speaking, and the more sensitive we are to how we are feeling, the stronger our knowing of who they are currently being will be.

It’s all about the intentions we have when we are trying to feel better.
If we are doing it for ourselves, because we want to be more of the person we want to be, no, more of the person we truly are, we cannot go wrong, even if others do not react to us in a positive way or in a way we had hoped for.
We cannot control how others react because that is far more about them and where they are than about us.
Of course, it’s wonderful when people react positively and reciprocate when we have given pure positive energy with the best of intentions, but I’m sure you’ve noticed, it doesn’t always work this way, well, not immediately anyway. If people do react badly to something given with positive energy and intentions, it must be good enough that we know we’ve done and given our best with a pure heart and not let ourselves be pulled down to a not good feeling place.
I’m not talking about negatively judging others that are not in a good feeling place, I’m saying that when you have given purely and positively and are receiving negative in return, do your best to avoid reciprocating by returning negativity, for if we do return similar negativity to what they have given out, now we have joined their chain of pain so to speak, and made it ours, even if it is only temporarily.
In other words, we have let someone else that is in a less than good feeling place, influence us out of our good feeling place, and we may now have become someone other than who we might usually be, and that’s never a good thing.
I know this is much easier said than done and does require immense strength and belief in who you are and a desire to feel good above all other things.
If we don’t always react in a way we would have wanted, especially when we are directly faced with negativity, but instead react in a way that’s not in our best interests, we can think about what happened after the experience and move to a better feeling vibrational place regarding it, if that’s what we’re wanting to do. But if the emotions we are feeling are strongly negative, it’s sometimes a good idea to leave the subject alone until we can think about it without such a strong emotional response, (this is the benefit that time gives us) because as you can imagine, the stronger the negative emotion is when we think about anything, the more power and momentum these thoughts have behind them and the harder they will be to move into a better feeling place.
Sometimes it’s easier to generally do our best to feel as good as we can to everything that is happening now, because remember, everything that’s coming into our experience is being attracted through our focused thoughts that the Law of Attraction has been responding in-kind too. If there are strong negative or positive emotions pulsing within us, it’s usually turning up in one form or another, but sometimes we may not be making the connections between;
-What we have previously experienced.
-Our emotional responses to those experiences.
-How we continue to feel about similar experiences that are occurring.
-And what’s turning up “now!”
So it’s not always necessary to go back and specifically focus on things that have happened in the past to bring them into a better vibrational place, but that’s a call we all need to make individually, and only you know what is best for you.
And the truth is…you never need to “fake it,” because who you really are is wonderful, and that’s something that’s real and true, and there’s no faking that!!

And so it is….

Everything I do…I do it for you…As if!!

DarkTree
I think it’s amusing when people tell a big story about how they do all these things for other people, like it’s not also for them as if they can take their own desires out of the equation.
It goes something like this…
I’m here purely for others, I help others with no regard for what I’m wanting and for no personal benefit.
And I say, “who do you think you are kidding?
Now it’s true we can be kind and do wonderful things for others, there’s no doubt about that, especially if this is the person we are wanting to be, but think about it….why would we be doing such things, or anything for that matter, without a reason?
If we are being kind and doing things for others, we are doing this because it feels good. Now some may disagree and say, “No , I’m often doing things because I feel I have to and not because it’s feeling good,” and I say the same thing, even if you are doing things that are not making you feel like you want to “jump for joy,” you are still choosing this action over an even less good feeling action…are we not? Yes, it is true.

For example, let’s say I may not be the greatest morning person in the world but I need to get up at a reasonable time to get ready for my forthcoming day ahead. I could just stay in bed if I really wanted to and say, “bugger it, I’m not getting up now,” but I choose to get up because even though I would like to stay in bed, for me I would feel like I haven’t followed through with something I should have and that would feel worse than not getting up. This example may seem like an unimportant subject, but it matters not how important or unimportant the subject is, although we may put more pressure on ourselves to make the best choice if we feel the subject is more important to us, so whether we are aware of it or not, we are always choosing what we think will feel best.
“Which choice out of the options before me feels best, what choice do I feel will get me the closest to that which I am wanting?” It does not matter whether it’s a choice between two wanted situations, something wanted and unwanted, or two unwanted situations.
There may be many factors we consider depending on the situation, where we are in relation to the situation, and the outcome we are desiring, but it always comes down to the same thing, after considering all the possibilities, which choice do we think will feel best?
So I didn’t say our choices are always easy between a wanted or unwanted choice, more often that not and depending on where many earlier choices have lead us based on where we are and our focused thoughts,(vibration) it can be between two highly unwanted choices, but no matter what our choices are, we have the ability to turn any choice into a positive outcome through the power of our focused thoughts.

The idea that a person is not really doing something good unless they want absolutely nothing out of it, is a false truth that can never truly be.
Why?
Because we have all come forward into this life with powerful Inner Guidance from the Non-Physical part of us that remained in the Non-Physical realm giving us constant and consistent feedback in the form of our emotions, letting us know where we are in relation to all we are wanting. If this is so, (and it is) we are always doing what we believe will benefit us most. This does not mean that our intentions cannot be pure in the sense, it feels good to be kind to others, it feels good to help others, it feels good to love others, this is the ultimate “win/win situation!”
And I don’t know about you, but I have never once met a person that has no emotional feelings, although it is possible to meet one that has not listened to what their emotions have been telling them, or have felt so much negative emotion for so long, they have become numb to it.
They are still receiving emotional feedback about where they are in relation to what they are wanting, but may not have understood what it meant or that they had the absolute power to move to a better feeling place. If we do not exercise our power of moving to a better vibrational place, it’s usually only a matter of time before we start becoming accustomed to our negative feelings, and over time, it starts becoming our normal emotional place to be in, feeling less negative than it once did.
So one could think “awesome” when I’m feeling negative emotion, I don’t need to make an effort to move myself to a better feeling place because after a while I’ll get used to it and I won’t feel it anymore. (because it can be difficult and does take some effort if you have lived in this body for some time without exercising your power to do so)
And I say “Holy Moses,” remember that the powerful Law of Attraction is responding in-kind to how you are really feeling, not to what you have become numb too!
Yes, it’s true you cannot hide how you are really feeling from the Universe and the Law of Attraction, and what you are really feeling will be reflected back to you in all manner of manifestations.
You do not need to go back to work through everything you have felt strong negative emotion about in the past.
If we are paying attention to what’s turning up in our experience right here, right now, and doing our best to move to the best feeling place we can even if it’s only a slightly improved feeling place, (especially with negative feeling manifestations) this starts to clear resistance that may have been preventing us from moving in the direction we are really wanting to go, and as we get power and momentum behind this new and improved vibrational place, there’s only one direction this leads….
And that’s into more of the “awesome” life experience you came here to live….

And so it is….