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Could “Whatever”…be the best word in the world???

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OrangeSky
This is a good follow-on from “The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree,” since it is a word our children often love to use, much to the disgust of many parents I’m sure!!
So I totally get it, it can be extremely frustrating when you’re trying to communicate with someone and all they offer you as a response is “whatever” with a lot of attitude. (Yep, I’ve had that comment given to me more times than I care to remember, but I probably need to add I love to use it myself too….Hehehe!!)
But what does someone usually mean when they say this, beyond trying to annoy the living daylights out of us!!

It’s a way of saying, “I don’t agree with what you are saying right now, and I don’t like it, and I know if I try to communicate anything to you….it’s just going to get ugly cause I’m pretty sure you’re not in a place to hear anything I’ve got to say about it, so I’ll sort of keep the peace, or more to the point, keep quite otherwise I may receive some consequences I’m not wanting, but I want you to know how I feel anyway!!”

Oh, that’s pretty good don’t you think….That’s a lot to convey in just one word, but that’s totally what it does.

So I think it can be good in the sense our children are not just accepting everything others are telling them just because we’ve been in a physical body longer than they have, and although this can make you want to pull your hair out and scream, it is a very positive aspect of who they really are coming through.

Many children coming forward from Non-Physical in these times are very strong-willed and not easily lead away from what they are wanting by others, or what they are believing is good for them.
Now I understand this makes for some very challenging times, especially if we are wanting them to follow all the rules we may have followed when we were growing up, and I would go as far to say, if this is what we are trying to impose on our children, it’s very likely this will cause extreme behaviours until we learn to communicate with them in a way that includes them in the decisions we make, rather than dictating everything to them without seeking their opinions and ideas.

I like to think of it as more of a collaboration rather than a dictatorship style of communicating, and to tell you the truth, from what I see, most of us are doing a pretty good job considering the vast difference from the way many of us were brought up.

So maybe this word isn’t as bad as what some of us may have thought?
For when our children grow-up and leave the nest, if they have learnt to just follow everything someone else says, they can be lost when they’re on their own.
Of course they usually find their way, but why would we make things harder for them than they need to be? Encouraging good communication, problem solving, respect for others, and the ability to change as the circumstances may require are totally awesome skills to teach and be an example of!

It’s very interesting to ponder…. “Who’s teaching who?”
I can only speak from my own personal experiences, when I tell you, through having to learn new and improved ways of interacting with my children in a positive manner, I have become a better person….And I can only hope they learn as much good stuff about themselves from me, as I have learnt from them….

And so it is….

No one likes a….”Know it all!!”

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Hehehe….This makes me laugh because I do often class myself as a bit of a “know it all,” but in the best possible way of course! What I mean is, I believe strongly that I will receive the answers to anything that is important to me, and I always do. Sometimes they come immediately as I bring a question into my mind and sometimes they are weaved into my experience after a little bit of focus. That’s a good example of the Law of Attraction in action! Ooooh, I like that, “The Law of Attraction in Action” that’s totally cool!!
Now I know (see, there I go again!!) this comment is usually used in a strongly negative way to mean a person “who thinks” they know more than everybody else about everything and usually likes to tell you how “right” they are, and how “wrong” you are!! This often comes from a belief where people feel they know better than others and is usually mixed with the desire to tell everyone “the error of their ways” so to speak.
And I say “Holy Moses!”….That’s the perfect way to do the exact opposite of that which you are wanting, as most people will not listen to anyone that is coming from a place of self-pronounced superiority over others, for this rarely feels good.
Now it’s true to say we all have different levels of knowledge about different things based on our own life experiences, and of course, we will know more than others sometimes, and others will know more than us at other times. That’s not the issue,  the most important factors are;
Is whoever we are considering telling something too, in the place to hear what we have to say? In other words, do we feel there is an asking for this information in some way?
If we feel the answer is no, there’s not much point in trying to convey….For it will fall on deaf ears. And even if there is a certain amount of asking, whether what we have to say will be heard or not, still depends on how much our recipient likes the information they are hearing? If the information conveyed requires some form of change and sits along way from the knowledge we currently hold,(and it usually does) it often takes time to digest and be thought about before it can be truly understood through our own life experiences and perspective.
It’s not bad or wrong to want to help someone when we feel we have information that could possibly improve another’s life experience in some way, and if it’s someone we care deeply for, its even harder not to “spill the beans all over the place.” Hehehe!! (Oops, I might have been guilty of doing that once or twice!!)
But seriously, sometimes we have to just let people be and know that they will find their way, in their own time, and in their own way, when they are ready.
To truly be able to do this, we must believe that others have the power and ability to create what they are wanting in their life, even when they aren’t currently experiencing it, and before we can believe this about others, we must first believe in it for ourselves, for it’s virtually impossible to help another to believe in themselves….When we do not believe in ourselves.

In regards to knowing it all, it’s not possible to know everything there is to know all at one time, (I know I’m stating the obvious here) but one thing is for certain, anything we want to know that we feel is important for our experience, we have access too, every single time, no exceptions ever, but we do need to get into the vibrational place of where the answers are.
And we do this by holding the subject or question in our mind with a positive focus, believing that we will receive an answer or solution to the question we have pondered, even if we do not know when, where or in what form the answer will come. If this belief is held over time with focused attention creating power and momentum, it will only be a matter of time before we receive evidence of our newly found belief in the form of physical manifestations!!
And I don’t think there are many people who wouldn’t want to receive the answers and solutions to the questions that are important to them if they believed they could receive them….
But that’s just me….

And so it is….

The harder you try to persuade people to your way of thinking….the less likely they are to agree with you!!

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NorthernLights
This is mostly true. When we try to persuade others to our way of thinking by making them wrong for their thinking, this almost never produces our desired result of their agreement with “our” point of view.
No one likes to be told what to do or think or that what they’re doing and thinking is wrong, because as I’ve said previously, what we’re doing or thinking is neither right or wrong, “It just is.”

Deep within, we know we’ve come forward into this current life to observe and explore many different circumstances that produce and inspire desires from our experiences that helps us come to strong and powerful decisions of what we would like to experience in our life as we move forward through time.

It’s often true that when communicating with others, if our beliefs and opinions sit in strongly opposing directions, communication can become negative and confrontational as it’s very difficult to find any common ground if we hold vastly differing points of view.
In these circumstance, it’s better to acknowledge we all have different perspectives and beliefs about life based on what we have already experienced and what we are still wanting to experience and let the need to justify or persuade others go.
It’s also very unlikely that we will be able to eradicate all that someone has come to know through the living of their own life experiences that has brought them to what they currently think and believe by telling them what beliefs we have come to through the living of our life experiences.(can you see the futility of even trying?)
Speaking about our differing points of views in a positive and understanding way can definitely give others “food for thought” so to speak, and makes for thought-provoking conversation without the need to argue. Words spoken by others can often spark something within us, that when pondered and given attention over time, will start the attraction of that which we have been focusing on, that the Law of Attraction will eventually bring us evidence of.
This is how we come to truly know what we know, and I say, “It is so awesome,” especially if we are focused in the direction of all we are wanting to experience, for words that are spoken by others will never be taken above our own knowing, and that’s the way it should be!!

If we do feel the need to persuade others to our way of thinking, it often comes from many beliefs that may not be in alignment or consistent with the Universal Laws that govern how life is really working.
Here are some examples of beliefs that may prevent us from moving forward in a positive manner.
~If I cannot persuade others to my way of thinking, they may behave in a way (in my opinion) I feel is not “right or good” and may even do something that threatens my “way of life!” Well,….Uhmmm…if this a belief we hold strongly, we will attract people, places and circumstances that gives us evidence of this, which is not that awesome….If you know what I mean….
~It’s more important for me to be right and make this person I am speaking with understand how “wrong they are” about everything they know in relation to this subject! Uhmmm….Right, I’d like to know if anyone reading this has been talked into the “error of their ways,” by someone who is more interested in feeling right or superior to whom ever they’re talking to….Not likely. This usually just makes us sit more firmly where we are as we justify all the reasons why we believe what we believe.
~It’s important that whomever I’m talking to understands completely where I’m coming from, and agrees with the conclusions I have come to about…. Well, this can definitely happen when we are sitting in close vibrational vicinity with whoever we’re talking with, and is generally enjoyable communication as we will usually find we’ll have similar core beliefs about life.
Whether our beliefs sit far apart from each other or more closely together, we will all have differences of opinion, and this is a good thing, for what would the purpose of life be if we were all the same??
Nothing new would ever need to be created because we would all like the same things! It’s easy to see this is an absolutely ridiculous scenario that could never truly exist. We did not come forward for sameness, or to be told by everyone else, how we should live our life.

We can be true to who we are, while letting others be true to who they are by knowing we have all come forward with different intentions, and that everyone has the right to live their life in the way they choose.
If we are focused on what we are wanting to experience rather than what others are saying or doing that we don’t agree with, we will be attracting an abundance of what we are wanting into our life. We will not be seeing much evidence of people doing things we are not wanting to see and experience, not because it isn’t happening, because it’s all “out there,” we will be seeing what we are predominantly vibrating (that which we’re thinking and feeling strongly about)
Which really is awesome if we’re doing our best to focus and move to a better feeling vibrational place in relation to whatever we’re currently experiencing and wanting!!

And so it is….

What is right….and what is wrong???

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FairyLantern
Although it is completely appropriate for us to decide for ourselves what we would like to experience in our lives and what we feel is good for us, when we feel a strong sense of right and wrong towards ourselves or others, this rarely moves us in a direction we are wanting to go.
When we are strongly focused on the wrongness of anything, what are we mainly focused on? We are strongly focused on that which we are “not wanting.” So if the Law of Attraction is responding to our focused thoughts and feelings about whatever we are giving our attention to, and is showing us manifestational evidence of that which is pulsing strongly within us, (which it is) if we are focused on many circumstances we believe to be wrong, what are we attracting more of? Yep, you guessed it, we will attract and see more evidence of things we find to be wrong.
In truth, whatever we’re doing or thinking is neither right or wrong, it just is.
Many would strongly disagree and give many examples of behaviour or circumstances that the majority of people may agree is “wrong or right,” in their opinion, but I like to think more in terms of what “I am or am not” wanting to experience rather than what is right or wrong.
Some may think this is just the use of different words that still refer to the rightness or wrongness of something, and although this is possible, it’s not likely.
When speaking more about what we’re wanting to experience, we’re usually more focused on where we are, and what we’re doing in a positive way, whereas when we’re talking about right and wrong, we’re often judging or blaming ourselves or others for whatever situation we’re observing or predicament we find ourselves in.
We all sometimes do this depending on where we are and what our beliefs about life are, but if we find ourselves judging or blaming,(or in any negative, not good feeling vibrational places) it’s important we make an effort to move to a slightly better feeling vibrational place as soon as possible, if we are wanting to feel good.

I can only speak from my own perspective regarding what helps me to move to a better feeling place if I find myself in the lower vibrational feeling places.
These are basic beliefs about life that quickly and generally bring me into a better feeling place that then lets me move to a more specific positive vibrational place regarding the circumstances I’m observing or experiencing.
Beliefs that move us into the higher vibrational feeling places;
~Goodness is at the heart of all human beings, and if people are behaving less than nicely, this often comes from picking up resistance on this physical journey and not understanding how we are creating our life experiences.
~We are all doing the best that we can to feel happy and achieve more of what we are wanting in our life based on what we know at any particular point in time.
~Everyone is attracting what is coming into their life experiences through the power of their focused positive and negative thoughts, whether they are aware of it or not, there are no true victims or villains. (although we can feel this way if we believe strongly in wrongness and rightness)
It is virtually impossible to hold the above beliefs and stay in a strongly negative place towards ourselves or others for any great length of time, but it would be true to say, we must have come to a certain level of awareness and understanding of how life works and how we are creating our own life experiences before these beliefs can feel true for us and can help move us to a better vibrational place.
If we are believing strongly in right and wrong, whose opinion of what’s right or wrong should we ultimately listen too?
People have been hurting each other over trying to impose their opinions of what they feel is right or wrong over others for a long time. This comes from a place of believing something someone else is doing can come into your life and hurt you, and although most of us may have had experiences like this, everything that comes into our experience is called to us, both wanted and unwanted, through our own focused thoughts.
When we come to this realisation, we can let go of judging ourselves or others as wrong, and start turning our attention to everything we feel is great in life, that we are wanting to experience….And that changes everything!!

And so it is….

Why would we not tell the truth???

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TreeSwing
There maybe millions of reasons why one would not tell the truth, but all these reasons come down to the same core reasons which are;
1. Fearing the possible consequences that may result from telling the truth.
2. Not feeling good enough in some way therefore feeling the need to make oneself sound better in the eyes of others, ultimately for their approval and admiration. Did you notice, this is still fearing the possible consequences of telling the truth, or more to the point, being who you really are.
This is not a very good feeling vibrational place to be in, feeling you must make yourself out to be something other than what you really are to be accepted or loved by others.
If we are coming to truly know who we really are, we would never feel the need to make excuses or not tell the truth to be seen as “acceptable or good” in another’s eyes, for we already have our own approval and acceptance of ourselves as we are, and are not requiring it from others in order to feel good or worthy.
Is it nice if others like us?
Yes, of course it is, but if we require this from every person we come into contact with, we better get very good at knowing exactly what others are wanting and expecting, and start adjusting our behaviour accordingly!
It’s not possible to be liked by every person that may be observing us “out there” for we are all in different vibrational places, meaning everything we observe is filtered through our own personal life experiences that brings us to our own beliefs about life. It’s better to accept we are all different and know it’s not possible to be liked by everyone, and just be our genuine selves!
Others will think what they will think, and whatever they maybe thinking (and remember, what others are exactly thinking is only speculation on our part anyway) is more of a reflection of who and where they are rather than whoever they’re observing or judging is.

If I was considering not telling the truth or doing something that went against what I felt was right so others may possibly like me more, the question I would ask myself would be….
Is it worth not being true to myself and who I really am to get a small fleeting moment of approval from another? Because believe me, it is fleeting and doesn’t last long, unless we’re prepared to do everything and anything we feel others want to get their constant approval, and even then, we cannot guarantee we will achieve it.
Holy Moses, that just sounds so hard, doesn’t it? And I say “for goodness sake, don’t do it!” It’s a way of being that will never ultimately lead anywhere you are wanting to go!

To tell the truth or not is a natural developmental stage we go through when we’re children as the brain starts to grow and mature, and often depending on the many varied experiences we have during our childhood, especially experiences related to how harshly we were disciplined with negative consequences, and whether not telling the truth was a strategy that worked for us, will often effect the choices we make as we grow up to whether we feel it is necessary, or in our best interests, to “tell the truth or not?”.
The reason I prefer to say,”to tell the truth or not,”rather than the word lying or liar, is I find these words to be very harsh and negative and prefer to put a slightly more neutral feeling (vibration) to an already slightly negative subject. I only use the word liar if I have become angry, which I do my very best to avoid, or better said, do my best to move into a better feeling place on before I react in a way I would prefer not too!
Anger or rage is the approximate vibrational place where the word liar usually sits, because think about it, have you heard anyone say, “You’re such a good liar darling, I could just hug you!!” not likely. Hehehe….That’s so funny!!

Ok, but seriously, for me, I know when people are not telling the truth, it oozes out of them like a disease. (dis-ease….Lack of ease!) And I find it very difficult to stay in the presence of one that feels the need to do such things. And to tell you the truth, (as if I wouldn’t…Hehehe) most people are aware and feeling that something is not right when they speak with someone who isn’t telling the truth, something always feels off, not quite right, but we may not be listening to what we are feeling, because of not understanding or knowing what it is that our feelings are telling us, and because it doesn’t feel good to think someone is not telling us the truth. (which is our natural tendency of moving to a better feeling place!)
So in other words, unless we have absolute proof that someone isn’t telling us the truth, it often feels better to discount or ignore the feelings that are being communicated to us, letting us know exactly what others are coming to us with, than to acknowledge they aren’t telling us the truth. The more aware and sensitive we are to how we’re feeling, and the more important it is for us to know if people are being truthful, the stronger our knowing of what the truth is, when we see it, hear it, or touch it.

All I can say is this, if we cannot be ourselves, who else can we be, after all, everyone else is taken.
So if you can only be you, why not be the “real you” and if others don’t like it, that’s their problem, not yours! And be proud of who you are now, because you are here, living your life in the best way you know how….
And as long as you are happy with who and what you are being, that has to be good enough….

And so it is…

Luck has nothing to do with it…. Truly, it doesn’t!

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Although I try not to complain too much to others and prefer to move into a better feeling vibrational place on my own regarding whatever I may have resistance about, like everyone here, I do sometimes slip and complain.
So the other day I was complaining about being busier than usual, and by husband commented, “You’re just lucky every day is not like that!”
Well, I’m not quite sure what possessed him to say such a thing (that’s not true, I knew exactly what he was trying to tell me of course) and my response was a very strong, “Luck has nothing to do with it!” Which pretty much ended the conversation. (Which was my way of saying, “I can’t believe you just said that to me, you know what I think about that comment!”)
There are a number of very different perspectives this comment can come from, both positive and negative.
1. I see things are working out well for you and I have no idea how, but would love to know how!
2. I see things are working out well for you and it makes me feel jealous because nothing seems to be working out well for me and I don’t know why?
3. I see things are working out well for you, and I’m annoyed because it feels like I’m working much harder than you but not receiving what I feel I deserve.
4. I see things are working out well for you, I bet you’re really appreciating it; I totally want to know what you’re doing! Do you think some of that will rub off on me!(Hehehe….I hope so!)
It’s not so much about the words we are speaking, but the intentions we hold while we are speaking them. (Remember, it’s not possible to hide what our true intentions are, the Universe knows, and so does everyone else usually) But it would be true to say, the better our intentions are as we speak our words, the more meaning and importance these words have, especially when they are heard by one that’s in a close enough vibrational vicinity to truly hear them.

So in the past it annoyed me when people commented I was “so lucky” when something good was happening in my life, because I always felt like no matter whether this was coming from a generally positive place or a negative place on their part, it always downplayed anything we may have done through our thought and action preceding this wanted circumstance turning up, as if things were just unfolding magically in our favour, with no effort or input from ourselves? And although this may be how it sometimes appears when observing others, there’s always more to the story than this.
There are many ways one can go about achieving that which they are wanting, but it always comes down to what our thoughts are regarding whatever we’re wanting, that then inspires action.
What did I just say?
I think I said, every action, no matter what that action is, is inspired by and through the thoughts we’ve predominantly been thinking in relation to whatever the subject is we’ve been thinking about.
So for anyone to take any action, positive or negative, wanted or unwanted, there has been thoughts that have been given enough focused attention (whether we’ve been aware of them or not) that the Law of Attraction has responded in-kind to, that attracts manifestations of the same vibrational frequency and inspires us into actions that are also in the same vibrational vicinity.
That’s a very good thing to know, don’t you think?
What that means, is that by the time we feel inspired into taking action, there is quite a lot of momentum behind us that makes it quite difficult to pull back from doing…. which isn’t a problem when it’s a positive action that is moving us in a direction we are wanting to go, but if it’s a negative action that is moving us in a direction we are not wanting to go, it takes some very strong will power to not carry that action out to its conclusion.
Well, now you might be thinking, “That doesn’t sound too good now?” And I say, “It is not possible to hide from the truth, the truth is the truth, whether we are liking it or not.”
But like I’ve said before “Knowledge is Power”

And so it is…

Fake it….Until you make it….Uhmm???

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I’m not a big fan of this saying because, in truth, you cannot truly say, be or do anything at any moment, and “fake it”. You are either doing something, or you are not doing something, there is no in-between about it, but I do understand what people are meaning when they say this.
I like to think people mean they are making an effort to move to a better feeling (vibrational) place that they want to be in, but are not yet in, and that they know they have the ability to feel better, even if it is only slightly.
But when you try to move too far from where you really are feeling…that really is faking it, and I say the same thing I said in my previous post to this one, “We are not really kidding anyone,” least of all ourselves, because we all know how we are really feeling when we’re doing this. Our feelings also let us know what people are coming to us with emotionally, and what their true intentions are, apart from the words they may be speaking, and the more sensitive we are to how we are feeling, the stronger our knowing of who they are currently being will be.

It’s all about the intentions we have when we are trying to feel better.
If we are doing it for ourselves, because we want to be more of the person we want to be, no, more of the person we truly are, we cannot go wrong, even if others do not react to us in a positive way or in a way we had hoped for.
We cannot control how others react because that is far more about them and where they are than about us.
Of course, it’s wonderful when people react positively and reciprocate when we have given pure positive energy with the best of intentions, but I’m sure you’ve noticed, it doesn’t always work this way, well, not immediately anyway. If people do react badly to something given with positive energy and intentions, it must be good enough that we know we’ve done and given our best with a pure heart and not let ourselves be pulled down to a not good feeling place.
I’m not talking about negatively judging others that are not in a good feeling place, I’m saying that when you have given purely and positively and are receiving negative in return, do your best to avoid reciprocating by returning negativity, for if we do return similar negativity to what they have given out, now we have joined their chain of pain so to speak, and made it ours, even if it is only temporarily.
In other words, we have let someone else that is in a less than good feeling place, influence us out of our good feeling place, and we may now have become someone other than who we might usually be, and that’s never a good thing.
I know this is much easier said than done and does require immense strength and belief in who you are and a desire to feel good above all other things.
If we don’t always react in a way we would have wanted, especially when we are directly faced with negativity, but instead react in a way that’s not in our best interests, we can think about what happened after the experience and move to a better feeling vibrational place regarding it, if that’s what we’re wanting to do. But if the emotions we are feeling are strongly negative, it’s sometimes a good idea to leave the subject alone until we can think about it without such a strong emotional response, (this is the benefit that time gives us) because as you can imagine, the stronger the negative emotion is when we think about anything, the more power and momentum these thoughts have behind them and the harder they will be to move into a better feeling place.
Sometimes it’s easier to generally do our best to feel as good as we can to everything that is happening now, because remember, everything that’s coming into our experience is being attracted through our focused thoughts that the Law of Attraction has been responding in-kind too. If there are strong negative or positive emotions pulsing within us, it’s usually turning up in one form or another, but sometimes we may not be making the connections between;
-What we have previously experienced.
-Our emotional responses to those experiences.
-How we continue to feel about similar experiences that are occurring.
-And what’s turning up “now!”
So it’s not always necessary to go back and specifically focus on things that have happened in the past to bring them into a better vibrational place, but that’s a call we all need to make individually, and only you know what is best for you.
And the truth is…you never need to “fake it,” because who you really are is wonderful, and that’s something that’s real and true, and there’s no faking that!!

And so it is….

Everything I do…I do it for you…As if!!

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DarkTree
I think it’s amusing when people tell a big story about how they do all these things for other people, like it’s not also for them as if they can take their own desires out of the equation.
It goes something like this…
I’m here purely for others, I help others with no regard for what I’m wanting and for no personal benefit.
And I say, “who do you think you are kidding?
Now it’s true we can be kind and do wonderful things for others, there’s no doubt about that, especially if this is the person we are wanting to be, but think about it….why would we be doing such things, or anything for that matter, without a reason?
If we are being kind and doing things for others, we are doing this because it feels good. Now some may disagree and say, “No , I’m often doing things because I feel I have to and not because it’s feeling good,” and I say the same thing, even if you are doing things that are not making you feel like you want to “jump for joy,” you are still choosing this action over an even less good feeling action…are we not? Yes, it is true.

For example, let’s say I may not be the greatest morning person in the world but I need to get up at a reasonable time to get ready for my forthcoming day ahead. I could just stay in bed if I really wanted to and say, “bugger it, I’m not getting up now,” but I choose to get up because even though I would like to stay in bed, for me I would feel like I haven’t followed through with something I should have and that would feel worse than not getting up. This example may seem like an unimportant subject, but it matters not how important or unimportant the subject is, although we may put more pressure on ourselves to make the best choice if we feel the subject is more important to us, so whether we are aware of it or not, we are always choosing what we think will feel best.
“Which choice out of the options before me feels best, what choice do I feel will get me the closest to that which I am wanting?” It does not matter whether it’s a choice between two wanted situations, something wanted and unwanted, or two unwanted situations.
There may be many factors we consider depending on the situation, where we are in relation to the situation, and the outcome we are desiring, but it always comes down to the same thing, after considering all the possibilities, which choice do we think will feel best?
So I didn’t say our choices are always easy between a wanted or unwanted choice, more often that not and depending on where many earlier choices have lead us based on where we are and our focused thoughts,(vibration) it can be between two highly unwanted choices, but no matter what our choices are, we have the ability to turn any choice into a positive outcome through the power of our focused thoughts.

The idea that a person is not really doing something good unless they want absolutely nothing out of it, is a false truth that can never truly be.
Why?
Because we have all come forward into this life with powerful Inner Guidance from the Non-Physical part of us that remained in the Non-Physical realm giving us constant and consistent feedback in the form of our emotions, letting us know where we are in relation to all we are wanting. If this is so, (and it is) we are always doing what we believe will benefit us most. This does not mean that our intentions cannot be pure in the sense, it feels good to be kind to others, it feels good to help others, it feels good to love others, this is the ultimate “win/win situation!”
And I don’t know about you, but I have never once met a person that has no emotional feelings, although it is possible to meet one that has not listened to what their emotions have been telling them, or have felt so much negative emotion for so long, they have become numb to it.
They are still receiving emotional feedback about where they are in relation to what they are wanting, but may not have understood what it meant or that they had the absolute power to move to a better feeling place. If we do not exercise our power of moving to a better vibrational place, it’s usually only a matter of time before we start becoming accustomed to our negative feelings, and over time, it starts becoming our normal emotional place to be in, feeling less negative than it once did.
So one could think “awesome” when I’m feeling negative emotion, I don’t need to make an effort to move myself to a better feeling place because after a while I’ll get used to it and I won’t feel it anymore. (because it can be difficult and does take some effort if you have lived in this body for some time without exercising your power to do so)
And I say “Holy Moses,” remember that the powerful Law of Attraction is responding in-kind to how you are really feeling, not to what you have become numb too!
Yes, it’s true you cannot hide how you are really feeling from the Universe and the Law of Attraction, and what you are really feeling will be reflected back to you in all manner of manifestations.
You do not need to go back to work through everything you have felt strong negative emotion about in the past.
If we are paying attention to what’s turning up in our experience right here, right now, and doing our best to move to the best feeling place we can even if it’s only a slightly improved feeling place, (especially with negative feeling manifestations) this starts to clear resistance that may have been preventing us from moving in the direction we are really wanting to go, and as we get power and momentum behind this new and improved vibrational place, there’s only one direction this leads….
And that’s into more of the “awesome” life experience you came here to live….

And so it is….

It’s good to be a sympathetic friend…. Or is it???

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SYMPATHY IS…
1. A relationship between people in which whatever affects one correspondingly affects the other.
2. Mutual understanding between two or more people.
3. The act of sharing one’s feelings and emotions with another, especially sorrow, anguish, and pity.
4. A feeling or expression of pity or sorrow for the distress of another.
5. Compassion or commiseration.
6. A feeling of loyalty, support, or allegiance.

Many would agree with the general description of sympathy that’s listed above and that this is a good way to react when a friend comes to you with a problem they wish to discuss.
I am not saying anyone is doing anything wrong by being a sympathetic friend or shoulder to cry on, but it’s interesting to understand what is happening when these interactions are taking place from the viewpoint of Universal Law and the Law of Attraction.

The process of bringing one’s vibration (thoughts and emotions) into alignment (the same vibrational place) with another, therefore both focusing on and creating unwanted circumstances, unless the vibration is moved into a positive or solution orientated direction therefore both focusing on and creating more wanted circumstances!

Some people will speak of unwanted circumstances that have happened or are happening in their life, especially to gain sympathy from others. Why is this?
Firstly to be speaking about anything we must have given the subject plenty of thought otherwise we would not be speaking about it, especially if we are the instigator of the conversation.

If we want people to sympathise with us, this usually indicates we’re still standing in a place where we are judging others, the situation, or ourselves as “ wrong or bad” and are looking for agreement with how we are feeling, as it initially feels good and this is why people are doing it.

But what’s really happening during these interactions?
For the person speaking of the problem they are creating more power and momentum behind it, for you cannot speak of such things without adding even more focused thought to the problem, which the Law of Attraction is responding in-kind too, with more evidence in the form of thoughts, people, places, and situations turning up in your experience showing you what you are creating through the power of your own focused thoughts.

Don’t let me give you the impression you should never speak of your problems, for if you have been giving something a lot of thought it’s almost impossible to stop yourself from talking about such things. (Remember, Law of Attraction!)
Acknowledging the problem is an important initial first step, but it’s important to move as quickly as possible into the vibrational vicinity of the solution, and this is achieved by gradually making an effort to improve our thought in relation to whatever the problem is.

It’s better to acknowledge “Oops, I’m talking about something I don’t want to experience again” and take it for what it is, an indication of what you’ve got going on vibrationally rather than being mad or cross at ourselves, and although we may be creating more momentum in a direction we don’t want to go, we do have the ability at any time to start moving our thoughts in a slightly more positive direction as we become more aware of what we’re doing.

The drawback of getting others’ perspectives, opinions, judgments, or sympathy, is now we have included another’s often-negative vibration in our creative process that just increases our own negative vibration on the subject.
Depending on where our normal or general vibration place is will depend on whether we’ll seek people who will sympathise with whatever we’ve got going on. It takes some pretty good self-control even when we know what we’re doing not to speak of things that are happening in our life that we do not want to replicate and continue to experience, but we all have to start somewhere if that’s what we’re wanting.

I would say the only time it is of benefit to speak to someone about a problem we may have, is if the person we’re speaking with is solution orientated in a positive direction, knowing that the best they can hope to do, is to listen and acknowledge how the other is feeling, and hold steady to a positive good feeling vibrational place regarding whatever they are speaking to us about.
To maintain a good feeling place when people bring problems to us may be virtually impossible if we don’t believe that things can work out for them, and any words spoken from this unbelieving place to try to help will be empty and hollow with no substance behind them.

When you know there is a solution to the problem and that all have the ability to make their way, in time to the solution, even if they are not currently there now, the words we speak are more likely to be uplifting or inspiring. What people are really feeling is your knowing. Your knowing that things can work out for them, your belief that they have the ability to find the answers they want, in their own way and in their own time.
And how do we feel when we’re speaking with someone who we feel knows things are going to be all right and work out for us, and believes we will find our own way? It’s hard not to start believing in ourselves just that little bit more from being around such people, isn’t it? (Unless we’re just mad because we didn’t get agreement or sympathy? This means we’re not quite ready for the solution we are wanting yet.)
This is the true process of uplifting and positively influencing another.

So I would have to say, I am a very unsympathetic friend…. Do I love, do I care, do I listen, do I briefly acknowledge the problem, do I selfishly stay in my good feeling place regarding the problem, do I know and believe in people’s ability, and do I try to uplift?
Yes, I do my best to do all of these things, for when we know what we’re doing, why would we want to do anything else???

And so our journey together continues….

The art of communication is….???

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Communication happens between all living things. The question is not whether this is so, but more are we aware this is so?    Paulette De-Har

 

As we start interacting with others, a group or individual with the strongest dominant vibration dictates how the conversation goes and everyone else usually adjusts their vibration to be part of the conversation. For most, this happens at an unconscious level when we have a desire to participate in a conversation and to listen to what others have to say, even if it’s not where we usually stand on that subject. We may feel we have something valuable to add to the conversation or we may want to persuade others to our way of thinking, sometimes we simply do not want to be rude. Think about some of the interactions you’ve had in the past, there is often one that is more dominant as this is a natural occurrence when communicating.
Are you aware this is happening?
Knowing this helps us to be able to make more informed choices about whether we allow ourselves to be part of a conversation that may not be helping us or others to create what we are wanting in our lives.
Is the dominant person positively or negatively focused?
It never does any good to be part of a conversation that is dominated in a negative direction, and if we cannot maintain a positive vibrational place, this is not a conversation that’s usually worth continuing with.
How are you feeling as this conversation progresses?
As this conversation continues, positive emotion indicates we’re creating wanted circumstances in our life, whereas negative emotion indicates we’re creating unwanted circumstances in our life, every time.
Some may say it’s impossible not to come into contact with negative people while living our lives, and yes, I would definitely agree with that statement, but it’s not about trying to eradicate every negative person or situation, but more about how we react to these encounters that determines what we are pre-paving in our future experiences.
No two people are in exactly the same vibrational place ( because how boring would that be anyway! ) So there will always be differences between us, but it’s interesting to take note of who we do come into contact with, as it is a reflection of what we’ve got going on vibrationally.
Don’t let me give you the impression we never want to come into contact with negative people, for they always give us a wonderful opportunity, a chance to take control of our mind and how we feel, by not letting others negativeness drag us down. It can also help us to focus more intensely and powerfully on what we are wanting.
Or we can choose to observe others with negative judgements, blame or criticism, therefore focusing more strongly on interactions we’re not wanting that the Law of Attraction is responding to in-kind and giving us more of.
If we do surround ourselves or find ourselves with many negative people around us, I think it’s worthwhile asking one’s self why this is? If we’re able to maintain a positive place while in their company, there is usually a backlash afterwards of extreme exhaustion or feeling low for it takes great power to maintain a good feeling place amongst many negative ones for any period of time, but it is preferable to letting our vibration be brought down to their level.
So everyone sits in a general vibrational place which can usually be explained as our common demeanour or mood that we’re often in. We may have ups and downs, but there is always a general mood that we naturally return to over and over and it can be at any emotional place from appreciation and love all the way down to hopelessness and depression or anywhere in between.
Although people can be encouraged out of their general vibrational place by others, if no change of thought takes place, the shift will only be temporary and their vibration will return to their normal place once the influencer leaves. It often takes awareness and the desire to feel good above all other things and apart from what others are doing to make any lasting vibrational movement.
You often hear people say opposites attract and although this is often true, especially in the beginning, if similarities are not found on core beliefs, these relationships do not usually last. There must be some vibrational harmony within any relationship otherwise it is often a very unpleasant relationship to be in.
So it’s interesting to look at the interactions and relationships we’re involved in, both positive and negative for it is an indication of where we are and what we are attracting through our thoughts and emotions. (vibration)
For it’s not until we know where we are and how we got here, that we can see with more clarity where we want to go and how to get there!
And so our journey together continues….