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One cannot truly live…Until the fear of death has been overcome….

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I think it’s interesting that many people fear death so much.
There are many reasons for this fear, but they all come down to the same reason; We have not known or understood how we came into this physical world and what will happen once we leave this physical world, so I suppose it’s probable we would fear that which we don’t know and see as unwanted.
And for those that were brought up religiously and told they would “burn in hell” if they didn’t behave in a way that; The Source of Creation spoke of thousands of years ago, which someone else wrote about, which another group of people censored, which another person interpreted, through another person who told another person, that eventually told you, the rules you should live by?

And I say, “Holy Moses,” that’s a lot of interpretations from many different people, who in truth can only interpret what they’ve experienced or been told through their own personal perspectives, so even if the original Source was real, (and I believe this to be the case) interpretation through many others that have many different motivations that we could say….where not entirely pure, makes for a set of guidelines on how to live that’s more like a map you’ve been reading upside down!! I’ve done that a few times and have ended up in the opposite place to where I really wanted to be, but didn’t realise until I was well and truly lost, how off track I was!

Although I’m not religious, I respect the core of all religions, for at their basis, they all speak of a deeper truth about life and death, with intentions of sharing that knowledge and understanding with others, but as people with different intentions and vibrations added their interpretations to the mix, these messages have become so distorted they often do the opposite of what they were originally intending to do.

If we find something that works in our lives, I don’t care where it comes from, a religious scripture, the Internet, a friend, or your own thoughts, if it feels good for you, it’s good, if it doesn’t feel good for you, it isn’t. Only you can decide what’s best for you in your life, for only you know what you are really wanting and how you’re feeling about any given subject, and substituting anything outside of yourself to tell you what to do from a place of fear or doubt will always be a poor second choice to your own Inner Guidance.

So what is the answer to feeling better regarding death?
Well, that mainly comes down to what you believe will happen when you make your transition back to Non-Physical.
Firstly I think it’s a good idea to do our best to accept in a positive or neutral way that we will eventually make our transition, no matter what we believe in, this is a fact, so feeling bad about it does not improve our life experience, but diminishes it, so we may need to make a conscious choice to let this fear go. Most of us do accept this in a “that’s just the way it is” kind of way, which is preferable to feeling bad.
Some fear may come from not knowing what happens once we leave this physical body, and of course believing that everything ends and “we will be no more,” isn’t a very encouraging good feeling thought, for that gives rise to thoughts of “what has it all been for” especially for those that may have walked a difficult path.

If what we believe and think does not feel good when we think it, the only way to improve how we’re feeling is to improve what we believe by moving our thought to better feeling places. A strongly held belief cannot be changed immediately with one or two thoughts, but over time by gradually improving how we feel whenever the opportunity presents itself, is a pretty good idea. The more we practise moving our thoughts, the easier it gets, for you create power and momentum behind your new thought process.

If you have had the privilege to be in the presence of a person who is making their transition back to Non-Physical, this is a most wonderful and life affirming experience, for it’s almost impossible to witness this without feeling the movement of the Inner Being or Soul out of the body into something that feels more wonderful than anything we may have experienced before!
Some tell me they cannot believe in anything they don’t have physical evidence of, and I say, “Can you see air?” No, but…. Just because we can’t see something, doesn’t mean it isn’t real.
But of course, it’s always our choice, and as long as we feel good and put all our positive thought behind our choices, we cannot go wrong….
So believe what makes you feel good, not what others tell you or think you should believe for they are not you, they may know what feels good for them but they cannot guide you better than you can!!

And so our journey together continues….

Do you think setting goals will get you where you’re wanting???

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A goal set with positive focus and expectations is halfway to being achieved.        Paulette De-Har

That’s a very interesting question, isn’t it?
And the answer depends on where you are coming from. For example, if you make goals for yourself and feel good about them, believing you will be able to achieve them, that is definitely a goal worth setting and you will be well on your way to achieving it as long as you stay focused in a positive manner. So what happens when we make a goal and feel good about it to start with, but then do not follow through with positive thoughts. If we do not maintain our belief and positive thought regarding the goals we make, it’s very unlikely that we’ll achieve them.

 

This often happens when looking at the pros and cons of any situation, what we’re really doing is including negative thoughts into our vibrational (emotional) mix, meaning, depending on whether you’ve focused more on positives or negatives, this will determine how things will unfold in reality. Of course it’s very normal to look at all possibilities when we’re trying to move forward in our lives, but if we focus intently on everything we think could possibly go wrong and may prevent us from reaching our goals, more than how everything may work out well, this will be the strongest vibration within us, and the Law of Attraction ensures we’ll receive back that which we have vibrationally given out.

There is no such thing as NO in this attraction based Universe that we all live in. For example, when we say yes to something, it’s included as a possible future manifestation, and when we say no to something, it’s also included as a possible future manifestation. Saying yes with positive focus attracts wanted circumstances, whereas saying no with negative focus is attracting unwanted circumstances. A positive focus on any goal that’s maintained over time with emotional intensity must eventually bring that which we’re wanting, whereas maintaining negative focus over time with emotional intensity must eventually bring that which we’re not wanting.

This is often a consequence of doubting our ability to create what we are wanting or we may not see a path that will get us where we are wanting to go, so we give up. I am not judging anyone for giving up on their goal, if it feels like the best thing to do, it’s not for me to say that you shouldn’t, but I will say, the fact that a goal is set in the first place, means we were wanting to achieve it, and with positive focus there’s no reason why we can’t.

Why do we doubt our ability to achieve our goals?
We may have experienced circumstances in the past that have not worked out how we were wanting despite taking many actions and being very determined which eventually, over time, erodes our belief in ourselves and our ability to achieve what we desire.

In reality, there is always a mixture of positive and negative thoughts regarding any subject or goal that we hold, but there will be a more dominant vibrational feeling about it and that’s always what’s manifesting.
So yes, setting goals can definitely get us where are we wanting to go when we do our best to stay positively focused, working through any resistant, challenging circumstances that arise by;
1. Being aware of how we’re feeling regarding anything we give attention too.
2. Once we know how we’re feeling, doing our best to move to a better feeling place, especially if we’re in a negative vibrational place.
3. Doing our best to enjoy whatever is happening now by relaxing and not being too hard on ourselves.
4. Holding strong to the belief that things really are working out, even if it doesn’t currently look like it, and yes, that’s something that requires practice, but we’ve all come forward with the ability to do this if that’s what we’re wanting.

And so our journey continues….

The truth will set you free….Or will it???

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I’m sure many would have heard the quote many great teachers from the past have said: “the truth will set you free”. But what truth are they speaking of, and how would it set us free?

The truth they speak of, is the truth about how life in the Physical and Non-Physical world is really working, and the reason it is followed up with, “it will set you free,” is when we come to know the truth about how life is truly working and how we’re creating our own life experiences and you start putting this knowledge into practice in your life, you become one that’s truly free. For it’s through this understanding that you gain creative control over your life, and then you’ll feel the freedom of who you really are.

So does this mean we are only free if we know how this life is working?
No, freedom is the core of who we really are, along with truth and love. We come into this physical world free, we live here with free will and free choice, and we will make our transition back to Non-Physical free.
So if I’m not feeling free in my life, why am I not feeling free?
This is a natural consequence if we haven’t known how it is we’ve been creating our life experiences.
We may have come to the conclusion or belief that things just happen for no good reason, or that life was meant to be difficult, or that there’s someone outside of ourselves setting down rules and regulations as to what, how, and when we should be doing this or that and that’s why things are not working out.
Nothing could be further from the truth. You came here for a wonderful experience, not a life of pain and struggle, and it’s true we’ll all have our different challenges in life to overcome, but they’re always of our own making, and propel us to greater heights and understandings once overcome.

How could I be making problems in my own life without knowing about it?
Mainly because that’s what we all observed as we were growing up. We watched others around us focus on things that were not working in their life, creating more unwanted circumstances and being oblivious to what they were creating.
I say this to not blame others, for they were doing’s the best that they could with what they knew, no one would create unwanted circumstances in their life if they knew what they were doing, that would be crazy!

So we may have sort of fell into the same vibrational place (general emotional place) as those that surrounded us. Yes, it’s only natural we would take on their beliefs and not always know how we were creating our life.
Have you noticed how our beautiful children are coming forth into this physical world now? They are emotionally sensitive, strong-willed, freedom seeking, not rule following souls.
In other words, they will not be easily guided away from who they really are, they are knowing their self-worth, they are believing they know what is best for them and they are telling us so, but are we hearing what they are trying to tell us or are we just labelling them as problem children?

They will not follow blindly what others say or give up their freedom easily, and to get them to do this, you must severely break their spirit. All I will say is the consequences of doing such things are not good. I’m not suggesting our children do not require guidance, actually, they require very specific guidance where their individual needs are known and considered and they’re actively involved, consulted and listened to when making decisions regarding them. They also often require explanations as to how and why you have come to the decisions you have. I know it takes more time, and sometimes you have to explain something so many times you want to scream and pull your hair out, (Yep, I’ve been there more than once!) but I can not overestimate the wonderful long-term effects that come from treating our children in this way.

The truth is, we’re all creating our own life experiences whether we’re aware of it or not, and when we know this, we start to feel the freedom and truth that’s within us more and more.
It is a journey and we don’t need to get there all at once, just do our best to pay attention to how we’re feeling and making an effort to feel slightly better than we currently are, especially if we’re in a not good feeling vibrational place, and over time we will feel our life experience improve.

Why would I bother to make an effort to feel better? Because it feels better to feel good doesn’t it?

And so our journey together continues….

A personal letter…

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This is a letter I am writing regarding a situation that happened a couple of days ago. Written to a family member that we don’t see that often. I’m not sure whether I will send it or not yet, let’s see how I go.

Dear Bill,

I am writing this letter in answer to what has happened between us recently, mainly for my own clarity and understanding more than anything, but I would be lying if I didn’t say I was hoping you would gain some clarity and benefit from it, but I understand, it’s unlikely you will hear anything I have to say.
The first thing I would like to speak to is your opinion that I’m “crazy, delusional, live in fairyland, and have no idea about the real world”. This almost makes me laugh when I think about it, because there’s so much truth in that, although it’s not very nice to speak to people in such ways, especially when you’re staying in their house as a guest. Let me enlighten you about what you actually meant by that.

We are in totally different vibrational, emotional places regarding almost all subjects that are important to us. I do my very best to see the positive in life, whereas you’re naturally focused on everything you feel hasn’t and isn’t working and blaming everyone else around you for it. I allow you to rant about everything that you feel is bad in life from politics, to the place we live, to people you feel are useless and have no value in life. I learnt many years ago there was no point bringing up the positives regarding whatever you were giving your attention to, for that just made you try harder to convince me into your way of thinking, and as you know, I am not easily convinced out of my way of thinking, which infuriates you.
I let you go until eventually, you speak of something I cannot stay silent on, for instance, the fact that the new generation of children need more controlling and “a good smack never hurt anyone”. I think that’s fairly rich coming from a person that never ever raised their hand to any of their children, but left it to his wife to do.
Anyway, the point I’m making is we sit at opposite ends of the emotional scale on almost every subject. So it’s not surprising you think I’m delusional and live in fairyland because you cannot see the world I see, for you do not have access to it because you’ve spent your life focused on the opposite of everything that is good therefore that is all you have access to.
And in answer to me not knowing what’s happening in the real world, I’m very aware of what is going on in this world, I have just chosen to focus on the best of it, I have chosen to feel as good as I can therefore I do my best not to focus on what I’m not wanting or things that are happening that I feel bad about, if I’m finding it hard to maintain a good vibrational place about something, I make an effort to move to a better feeling place or I don’t think about it.
I also laughed thinking about you telling me I live in the past; I often find it difficult to think what I did last week let alone 15 or 20 years ago. But of course, you have a wonderful memory for everything you think I have done in the past that was wrong. You will never get me to acknowledge such things, for I know the intentions I have whenever I do anything, and they are always good.
You will never pull me down to your negative miserable place regarding life I assure you, this is my life, it is my journey, who do you think you are to judge me, or anyone.
There are so many things that have happened in your life I could easily explain, for it’s easy for me to see how and why they’ve happened, but I would never tell you, for the outcome would be:
1. You would not hear the truth of what I say, but use it as more evidence of how crazy I am. Hehehe….
2. You would hear the truth of what I say, and it would bring you to your knees when you realise what you’ve created in your own life.
So where to from here? You are who you are, and I am who I am, and although I’ve remained hopeful in the last 20 years, I feel it’s unlikely we’ll find any common ground because even though we’re both changing every day, it’s still in the opposite direction to each other. I have decided you are no longer welcome in my home, healthy conversation and disagreements are a normal part of life, but when it deteriorates to name-calling and nastiness, this is unacceptable, and I will not accept someone doing this in my own home and in front of your own grandchildren.
I am unsure if we will speak again while you are in this physical life, but I look forward to speaking with you once you have made your transition back to Non-Physical. Oh, how we’ll laugh about all that went on here.

Take care,

Paulette.

Well, there’s my letter. After reading it through I feel quite sure I won’t send it because I don’t think it would probably do much good. It was fun to write though.

And so our journey continues….

Some truths about marriage…

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Marriage means different things to different people, but it is generally accepted by most, that it is a commitment between two people, into an intimate relationship that excludes all others and lasts, “till death do us part”.

Well, that’s a very nice idea in a perfect world, actually, that’s a nice idea in any world. The question that’s interesting to ask is, is it really possible in the days that we are now living?
Absolutely yes, it’s completely possible, especially if that’s what we’re wanting, so why the high incidence of separation? As you can imagine, there are millions of reasons why people may separate, but often, there tends to be misconceptions or misguided beliefs about life, marriage, and relationships that contribute to this, therefore causing a flow on effect of smaller disagreements, and eventually more serious incidents.

Addressing misconceptions or false beliefs, not just the symptoms, is key, for running around trying to deal with the symptoms without addressing the deeper underlying causes, does not usually work, or only works in the short-term.
As you eradicate one symptom, another one rears its head, for the underlined cause is still there, and has not been dealt with.

A major misconceptions or false belief is, that it’s another person’s job to keep us happy. Now it goes without saying that most want to have uplifting and positive interactions with those around them, and that is a great desire, but if you are relying on others to always provide you with this, you get yourself, and whoever you are interacting with, in a very difficult position, for now you require them to behave in specific ways, before you allow yourself to be happy.

This is a sure way to stifle any relationship, for when you start requiring specific behaviour from others, you give them the responsibility for making you happy, rather than being responsible and in control, of your own happiness. Living in this way is like being on a rollercoaster, for you have made your happiness dependent on what the other is, or is not doing. For the person expected to behave in specific ways to please the other, this is very tiresome, and over time, becomes a burden that leads to resentment.
I’m not saying it’s not nice when people are behaving in ways we find to be wonderful, of course it is, and yes, we’d be crazy not to be happy about that when it happens, but when this is a prerequisite we require before allowing ourselves to be happy, we’re in for a rough ride.
Our true power and freedom comes from being able to be happy, apart from what others are doing. I know it isn’t always easy when coming from a life experience where you needed to behave in ways to make those around you happy, where there were often strong negative consequences if we did not. I suppose it’s natural that we often follow the same path that we were brought up with, but part of growing up, is questioning the beliefs that have been passed to us and deciding for ourselves, how we want to live our life now!

Are the beliefs that have been passed to me by my family, my community or my religion relevant to the life I’m living now? These questions can only be asked and answered by each individual, for no other is in a better position, to decide what is best for you, than you are. When you allow yourself and others the freedom to be who they really are, not just in marriage, but in all relationships, and you make it your job to keep yourself happy apart from how others are or are not behaving, you are a pure joy to be around!
For true love is synonymous with freedom, and freedom is at the very core of who we really are!

And so our journey continues….

Observation v’s Judgement… Where are you???

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Although there’s quite a fine line between observing people and circumstances or judging them, I think it can be quite an important distinction to be able to make.

Judging is noticing what is, in a negative and critical manner, with an implied feeling of wrong doing, whereas observation is noticing what is, from a neutral place without any negative or positive emotion. In other words, seeing what is in front of you, without making judgements of right or wrong.

Very few people are able to do this as most have been programmed with all sorts of things, from all sorts of people, about the rightness or wrongness of this or that… and of course, we have come to our own conclusions based on what we have been told, experienced and observed, as to what is right or wrong regarding most situations, behaviours or attitudes.

It is completely appropriate for us to decide what it is we are wanting, or how we wish to live our life on every and any subject that is important to us.
It’s not possible to get inside of somebody else and know what their intentions and desires for this life are, we have not lived their experiences, thought their thoughts, or felt their feelings, and therefore, cannot know for sure why they have reacted to each circumstance as they have. So how can anyone be a better judge than them, of what, how and when they should be doing this or that, for we cannot say with any real certainty if we’d lived their life experiences, we would do anything differently.
Maybe we would, maybe we wouldn’t? We just don’t know.
So the question is, why do we judge others, and does it improve our lives in any way?
Judging others critically always come from a not good feeling, negative place. A place of fear, fearing someone may do something that will affect us or others in a negative way. A place of feeling superiority over others, believing you know better than they do, what, how or why they should be doing this or that. A place of feeling inferior to others, therefore discounting their achievements to make one’s self feel better. Although initially, in the short-term these types of responses may help us to feel better, if we do not move to better feeling places, we can become uncaring and negatively focused, only seeing the worst in every situation we encounter.

If this happens, it’s often hard to assess whether these behaviours are working in our lives or not, because for most, it has become a way of being, something that’s been done consistently for so long, we’re no longer aware that we’re doing it.
It becomes our normal way of being, it becomes who you are temporarily being, not who you really are, just who you’re being right now. It’s not who you truly are, because we may not have been factoring in a very large part of ourselves, our Inner Being, Inner Guidance or the Non-Physical part of us.

Your Inner Being never feels inferior to others, for who you really are knows the magnificence of you! Your Inner Being never feels superior to others, for who you really are knows all beings have value, just as you do! Your Inner Being never fears what others are or are not doing, for who you really are knows you were born with the ability to change your focus at any moment and start attracting more wanted circumstances into your life!

When we start thinking in terms of what is wanted and unwanted and make an effort to redirect our thoughts in the direction of what we are wanting rather than the lack of what we’re wanting, it usually takes the judgement out of what we’re observing, and over time, puts us in a place where we’re more able to see the good in all people and situations….

We have all come forward with powerful intentions and desires, both individually and collectively, and we are moving into new discoveries about ourselves and life, and ultimately, to the evolution and truth of who we really are!!
And oh how wonderful that is!!

And so our journey continues….

Observations about our Beautiful Children….

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Anyone that has children would have no doubt noticed that today’s generation of children are very different from their parents and previous generations. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to figure that out, and it’s interesting to note, when people often speak of this, they tend to highlight many things they consider negative.
“We didn’t do that in my day, we behaved ourselves and just did what we were told.” Now that’s lovely if we’re believing everything someone else tells us or our feeling good depends upon making someone else happy and feel good. But the truth is, most of our beautiful children are not prepared to take everything we say as being right or good for them. I understand this makes for navigating the parenting of children far more difficult than it may have previously been, it’s rather easy when someone has largely substituted their own Inner Guidance for someone else’s, for they are more likely to listen and blindly follow instructions…. But is this what we really want for our children??? For me, the answer is simple…. No.

To bring today’s children to a place where they will listen and follow without question, their spirit has usually been broken to some degree, and the long-term consequences of this are not usually what we are wanting for those we deeply love. When a child’s own Inner Guidance is overridden and their spirit is broken by others, even those that have the best of intentions, what happens when you are not there to guide them? They are often lost and seek out another that will direct them in what to do, for they have not had an opportunity to think and make decisions for themselves. I’m not suggesting our little ones need no guidance, but the days of following without question are far behind us. I like to think of it now as more of a collaboration between parent and child, a belief that all have value, ideas, opinions and suggestions that at the very least, deserve to be listened too, considered and negotiated.

Our children have very different and specific needs compared to previous generations. A one size fits all, do what I say approach (and sometimes not what I do) no longer works and did it ever work….I don’t know??? Children are coming forward in these times with a stronger determination, purpose, and confidence that does require a more flexible parenting style, and in truth are guiding us all to be better parents, better teachers, and better leaders.
Yes, they are teaching us to be better human beings…and I cannot think of a greater life purpose to have in this wonderful physical world…

And so it is….