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The truth will set you free….Or will it???

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I’m sure many would have heard the quote many great teachers from the past have said: “the truth will set you free”. But what truth are they speaking of, and how would it set us free?

The truth they speak of, is the truth about how life in the Physical and Non-Physical world is really working, and the reason it is followed up with, “it will set you free,” is when we come to know the truth about how life is truly working and how we’re creating our own life experiences and you start putting this knowledge into practice in your life, you become one that’s truly free. For it’s through this understanding that you gain creative control over your life, and then you’ll feel the freedom of who you really are.

So does this mean we are only free if we know how this life is working?
No, freedom is the core of who we really are, along with truth and love. We come into this physical world free, we live here with free will and free choice, and we will make our transition back to Non-Physical free.
So if I’m not feeling free in my life, why am I not feeling free?
This is a natural consequence if we haven’t known how it is we’ve been creating our life experiences.
We may have come to the conclusion or belief that things just happen for no good reason, or that life was meant to be difficult, or that there’s someone outside of ourselves setting down rules and regulations as to what, how, and when we should be doing this or that and that’s why things are not working out.
Nothing could be further from the truth. You came here for a wonderful experience, not a life of pain and struggle, and it’s true we’ll all have our different challenges in life to overcome, but they’re always of our own making, and propel us to greater heights and understandings once overcome.

How could I be making problems in my own life without knowing about it?
Mainly because that’s what we all observed as we were growing up. We watched others around us focus on things that were not working in their life, creating more unwanted circumstances and being oblivious to what they were creating.
I say this to not blame others, for they were doing’s the best that they could with what they knew, no one would create unwanted circumstances in their life if they knew what they were doing, that would be crazy!

So we may have sort of fell into the same vibrational place (general emotional place) as those that surrounded us. Yes, it’s only natural we would take on their beliefs and not always know how we were creating our life.
Have you noticed how our beautiful children are coming forth into this physical world now? They are emotionally sensitive, strong-willed, freedom seeking, not rule following souls.
In other words, they will not be easily guided away from who they really are, they are knowing their self-worth, they are believing they know what is best for them and they are telling us so, but are we hearing what they are trying to tell us or are we just labelling them as problem children?

They will not follow blindly what others say or give up their freedom easily, and to get them to do this, you must severely break their spirit. All I will say is the consequences of doing such things are not good. I’m not suggesting our children do not require guidance, actually, they require very specific guidance where their individual needs are known and considered and they’re actively involved, consulted and listened to when making decisions regarding them. They also often require explanations as to how and why you have come to the decisions you have. I know it takes more time, and sometimes you have to explain something so many times you want to scream and pull your hair out, (Yep, I’ve been there more than once!) but I can not overestimate the wonderful long-term effects that come from treating our children in this way.

The truth is, we’re all creating our own life experiences whether we’re aware of it or not, and when we know this, we start to feel the freedom and truth that’s within us more and more.
It is a journey and we don’t need to get there all at once, just do our best to pay attention to how we’re feeling and making an effort to feel slightly better than we currently are, especially if we’re in a not good feeling vibrational place, and over time we will feel our life experience improve.

Why would I bother to make an effort to feel better? Because it feels better to feel good doesn’t it?

And so our journey together continues….

A personal letter…

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This is a letter I am writing regarding a situation that happened a couple of days ago. Written to a family member that we don’t see that often. I’m not sure whether I will send it or not yet, let’s see how I go.

Dear Bill,

I am writing this letter in answer to what has happened between us recently, mainly for my own clarity and understanding more than anything, but I would be lying if I didn’t say I was hoping you would gain some clarity and benefit from it, but I understand, it’s unlikely you will hear anything I have to say.
The first thing I would like to speak to is your opinion that I’m “crazy, delusional, live in fairyland, and have no idea about the real world”. This almost makes me laugh when I think about it, because there’s so much truth in that, although it’s not very nice to speak to people in such ways, especially when you’re staying in their house as a guest. Let me enlighten you about what you actually meant by that.

We are in totally different vibrational, emotional places regarding almost all subjects that are important to us. I do my very best to see the positive in life, whereas you’re naturally focused on everything you feel hasn’t and isn’t working and blaming everyone else around you for it. I allow you to rant about everything that you feel is bad in life from politics, to the place we live, to people you feel are useless and have no value in life. I learnt many years ago there was no point bringing up the positives regarding whatever you were giving your attention to, for that just made you try harder to convince me into your way of thinking, and as you know, I am not easily convinced out of my way of thinking, which infuriates you.
I let you go until eventually, you speak of something I cannot stay silent on, for instance, the fact that the new generation of children need more controlling and “a good smack never hurt anyone”. I think that’s fairly rich coming from a person that never ever raised their hand to any of their children, but left it to his wife to do.
Anyway, the point I’m making is we sit at opposite ends of the emotional scale on almost every subject. So it’s not surprising you think I’m delusional and live in fairyland because you cannot see the world I see, for you do not have access to it because you’ve spent your life focused on the opposite of everything that is good therefore that is all you have access to.
And in answer to me not knowing what’s happening in the real world, I’m very aware of what is going on in this world, I have just chosen to focus on the best of it, I have chosen to feel as good as I can therefore I do my best not to focus on what I’m not wanting or things that are happening that I feel bad about, if I’m finding it hard to maintain a good vibrational place about something, I make an effort to move to a better feeling place or I don’t think about it.
I also laughed thinking about you telling me I live in the past; I often find it difficult to think what I did last week let alone 15 or 20 years ago. But of course, you have a wonderful memory for everything you think I have done in the past that was wrong. You will never get me to acknowledge such things, for I know the intentions I have whenever I do anything, and they are always good.
You will never pull me down to your negative miserable place regarding life I assure you, this is my life, it is my journey, who do you think you are to judge me, or anyone.
There are so many things that have happened in your life I could easily explain, for it’s easy for me to see how and why they’ve happened, but I would never tell you, for the outcome would be:
1. You would not hear the truth of what I say, but use it as more evidence of how crazy I am. Hehehe….
2. You would hear the truth of what I say, and it would bring you to your knees when you realise what you’ve created in your own life.
So where to from here? You are who you are, and I am who I am, and although I’ve remained hopeful in the last 20 years, I feel it’s unlikely we’ll find any common ground because even though we’re both changing every day, it’s still in the opposite direction to each other. I have decided you are no longer welcome in my home, healthy conversation and disagreements are a normal part of life, but when it deteriorates to name-calling and nastiness, this is unacceptable, and I will not accept someone doing this in my own home and in front of your own grandchildren.
I am unsure if we will speak again while you are in this physical life, but I look forward to speaking with you once you have made your transition back to Non-Physical. Oh, how we’ll laugh about all that went on here.

Take care,

Paulette.

Well, there’s my letter. After reading it through I feel quite sure I won’t send it because I don’t think it would probably do much good. It was fun to write though.

And so our journey continues….

Knowledge is power….Or is it???

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Is knowledge power? Well, that depends on what your definition of power and knowledge is.
Some people believe that power is having control over others, and although they may feel like they control others, in truth this in an illusion, for no other can take your power away from you without your permission, you must be a cooperative participant and allow it to happen. I’m unsure how believing you have the ability to make people feel inferior and miserable is a definition of power, but unfortunately, for some, it is.
When I speak of power, I’m never referring to believing you have power over others, the power I speak of is the power you have within you, that is consistent, reliable, and available to you in every moment, on all subjects that are important to you. Even if you aren’t aware of the Inner Guidance that’s available to you, that does not mean your Inner Being is not communicating with you. It means you are not aware of it and aren’t hearing it.
Why have we not been hearing our Inner Being?
Because we haven’t understood how that communication has been taking place. Our Inner Being or the Non-Physical part of us is communicating to us through our emotions. We have mistakenly thought our emotions are confirmation that whatever or whoever we’re observing when we feel negative emotion, is bad or doing something wrong, and because of this false belief, we’ll often try to control people’s behaviour so that we can feel better when we observe them. It doesn’t take to long to work out that doesn’t work. But what’s the alternative? To take control of your mind and know that you have the ability and choice to feel better about whatever it is you’re giving your attention to now. Not in 10 minutes, 10 days, 10 months or 10 years, right now!! You have the ability to feel a little better about what you’re thinking about right now, even if it’s only a slight improvement in how you’re feeling. Imagine if you make this small effort every time you find yourself in a not good feeling place, you can make some serious positive vibrational movement (positive emotional movement) in a short amount of time, and it doesn’t take long before this is reflected in your real life manifestations, for its like anything else in life, when you first start doing something new, it’s a little tricky but once you get the hang of it, it gets easier and easier. Yes, as you feel better and maintain that higher vibrational place, your manifestations must follow that improved feeling place. That’s how this Universe works. You are receiving that which you have put out through your vibrational offering (powerful focused thoughts and emotions). As you move to better feeling places on subjects that are important to you, you will be able to more easily access your Inner Guidance and create more of what you’re wanting in your life experience.
What about knowledge, is knowledge power?
That depends entirely on what knowledge you hold. Any knowledge you hold that prevents you from being happy cannot give you a feeling of having power in your life. But it can be an opportunity to either leave that knowledge out of the equation or gradually move to a better feeling place regarding it.
Knowledge that empowers you and makes you feel good is wonderful, whereas knowledge that disempowers you and makes you feel terrible is not good. Remember, as you think of anything you know or believe, your Inner Being is communicating to you and letting you know if you are moving in the direction of something you are wanting or not.
So, is knowledge power? Yes and no. If the knowledge you hold moves you closer to what you are wanting and feels good, yes. If the knowledge you hold moves you further from what you are wanting and feels bad, No.
Start paying particular attention to how you are feeling about things, for many of us have gotten so used to feeling a certain way about something it has become our normal way of feeling. If you want to know how you feel about something, focus on it, and this will give you an emotional feeling that will let you know where you are. It’s important to know where you are before you can move to where you are wanting to go, be kind to yourself while doing this and remember, we have all been doing the best we can based on what we’ve known, and when we know better, we can do better, and that’s what life is all about!

And so our journey continues….

How does our vibration create our life experiences???

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If we were to look in a dictionary, vibration is simply described as a rapid movement or quivering of particles. Early in the 19th Century, scientists in the area of Quantum Physics discovered everything that exists in the Universe is energy vibrating at different speeds and frequencies, and by only observing something, you affect how it vibrates with your expectation. So your expectation effects what you’re observing, meaning you aren’t just observing, you are playing a creative role in everything that’s happening.

What does this mean for us?
To understand how life is working and how we are creating our life experience, it’s important to know everything in the Universe is energy in motion which is vibration, even though it appears solid and static. That being true, the thoughts we think produce emotions within us that emanate out of us as a vibration of a specific frequency and is responded to by the Universe.

Who responds to what?
The Universe (Law of Attraction) responds with the same vibrational frequencies that we’ve originally given out, in manifested form. We are asking for what we’re wanting through our focused thoughts, and the Universe is responding equally to everyone with manifested evidence of the dominant vibrations within us.
I’m sure you’ve noticed that matter doesn’t manifest the moment you have a thought about something, as the physical manifestation of it does not immediately spring into your experience.
Why is this? Because one thought, on one subject does not have enough momentum or creative power to come fully into our physical reality. For anything to manifest, there must be thought that has been thought on for long enough, (momentum) that we experience strong emotional feelings (creative power) when we give thought to any subject.
Even the emotions we feel are manifestations, which are the receiving of that which we have originally given out. If emotions are manifestations of thoughts the Universe has responded to, and they are, maybe we should look at them more closely.
What do our emotions mean?
Emotions are communication from what I have been calling our Inner Being, or Non-Physical, Soul part of us. Yes, we came forward into this physical life from Non-Physical, and when we leave this physical life we’ll return to the Non-Physical realm.
When we made the choice to come into this physical world, a part of us, the physical part, was born, the other part of us that you may or may not be entirely aware of, stayed in Non-Physical. It’s impossible to separate the physical and Non-Physical parts of ourselves.
The Non-Physical part of us is letting us know where we are in relation to everything we’re wanting through our emotions. Positive emotion indicates we’re moving towards the manifestation of something wanted, whereas negative emotion indicates we’re moving in the direction of something unwanted. The stronger the emotional feeling we have when we think about anything, the closer we are to the physical manifestation of a circumstance, that will feel very similar to the dominant feeling we’ve had on that subject when it turns up.

As you can imagine, we have thousands of different thoughts on all the subjects we may think about, which will be a mixture of positive and negative thoughts with varying degrees of emotional intensity to them. So what is manifesting regarding any subjects that are important to you, is a blending of all the thoughts and feelings you’ve had, which gives you a sort of vibrational set point on that subject.
When a vibrational set point or emotional attitude has been achieved in relation to any subject, any new thoughts you have regarding that subject, naturally fall easily into the already established emotional place, and the longer the vibrational set point for that subject is maintained, the harder it is to move to a different vibrational place. This is great when we’re sitting in a positive place, but not so good when we’re sitting in a negative place.

How does the Non-Physical part of me know everything I’m wanting?
Any moment the physical us experiences something, desires are stirred within on what would be a better experience; these desires are automatically received and known by the Non-Physical and doesn’t require our conscious awareness to be communicated. Many times we’re very aware of the desires we have, especially when we’ve held them for a long time in a resistant place. Our desires are received by our Inner Being and held at the vibrational frequency required for them to come into our physical reality without any opposing vibration signals. By opposing vibrational signals, I mean negative emotion or resistance, for it is the negative emotion that causes resistance that prevents anything you’re wanting from manifesting.
Why are my desires not manifesting more quickly?
Think about how it feels in the first moment we desire something, this is always a strongly positive feeling about what you are wanting, but depending on whether we believe we will receive what we’re wanting or not, usually determines what thoughts follow.
If we believe what we are wanting will come, it’s easier to maintain a good feeling place until we feel momentum and intensity of positive emotion, and as long as we hold steady in our good feeling place, sometimes in the face of evidence to the contrary, the physical manifestation must eventually come, it is Law!
If we don’t believe what we are wanting will come, and we maintain a not good feeling place until we feel momentum and intensity of negative emotions, and we hold steady to the resistance we’re feeling, the physical manifestation of more of what we are not wanting must eventually come, it is Law!
Remember, nothing is set in stone, and we always have the ability to change our vibration in any moment we choose. Once we know our emotions are communication from our Inner Being, (and not evidence there’s something wrong with who or what you’re giving your attention to) the trick is to become aware of how we feel and move ourselves to the best possible feeling place we can.
As we gradually improve our thought, we improve the manifestation that will unfold and the good news is… no matter where we are, on any subject that is important to us, we have the power to move to a better feeling place about it now.

I am not saying this is always easy, and it does take some time and effort, but I believe in the strength and power that has always been within us to create our own lives, for I have experienced this in my own life.
Look closely at your own life and those that you know well, for it’s through your own observations and life experiences we see evidence of how life really works…

And so our journey together continues…

Why do bad things happen to good people???

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The most important thing to remember when pondering this question is,

  1. Who is the person standing in judgement of another saying whether they are good or bad?

In truth, the core of who we really are is always good, one hundred percent, every person, no exceptions, and if you have been privileged enough to see a baby come into this physical world, you will understand what I am talking about, but even if you haven’t, it’s not hard to see when you look at a newborn, they are pure beings. This being true, what happens between birth and a point where we would class someone as “being bad?” Well, life happens. We have all come forward into this physical reality with desires and intentions, and if we were not given the freedom to express and explore who we were with loving guidance as children, things often got slightly off track, to a point where as adults, we find it difficult to live a happy life, or more substantially off track where we are spewing out our rage and hatred. This is in no way supposed to be a criticism over what we should’ve or could’ve done in the past, do not use what I have said to beat yourself over the head and feel guilty, for most of us were doing the best we could be based on what we knew at that time. No benefit comes from feeling guilty about the past, the best you can do is learn from what happened, believe that you can and will do better in the future and let it go, do not torture yourself with regrets over things you cannot change!

2. It’s often difficult to know whether circumstances you’re observing are wanted or unwanted.

It’s not hard to know when people are experiencing highly unwanted circumstances in their lives, especially if it is someone close to you that you know very well, but something we definitely don’t know, is how they will react to this unwanted experience, for there are always choices available to us that will move us to better places regarding the situation we are faced with, or to a worse place. Whatever choices we make, involve many different considerations based on what we’re wanting and the experiences we’ve lived, and is almost impossible for another to predict correctly. When a choice is made it may be difficult to know how our choice will unfold, for it usually takes time to see the results. A circumstance we have labelled as unwanted can often produce good results if it’s made from a positive place and is given further positive thought that eventually becomes our new belief. When we’re in the middle of a dilemma, if we find it difficult to know what to do, it’s often because we may have been strongly controlled and guided as children, without the opportunity to make choices for ourselves, putting many in a position where we are unable, or find it very difficult to make decisions for ourselves. Many of us learn these skills as we mature, some of us don’t. Prolonged negative focus on a problem also makes it difficult to see the best choice available to us, because when we do this, we’re not in the place to see the solution we’re searching for. And yes, there is always a solution for every problem, for one cannot exist without the other, it defies Universal Law! In this world we live, nothing exists without its opposite companion, think about this for a moment, up and down, hot and cold, love and hate, day and night. Yes, the polarities exist everywhere, along with everything in between.

So why do bad things happen to good people? Or for that matter, why do good things happen to bad people? The answer is always the same. You get what you focus on, whether you are good or bad or anything else. Have you seen people you may describe as “good” focus on negative aspects of their life? Does that make them bad? Of course, it doesn’t, but it does mean they are attracting unwanted circumstances into their lives through their focused negative thoughts. Have you seen people you may describe as “not been nice” focus on some positive aspects of their life? I’m sure you have, for they are attracting wanted circumstances into their lives through their focused positive thoughts too. In truth, we all have an immense number of thoughts on many different subjects within us, and what is manifesting is a blending of all of it.

It is not for me to judge who is good or bad, I am here like you, living my life in the best way I know how, and I believe others are doing the same. But it definitely is my job to decide for me, what I want to experience, and because I’m aware I create my life experience through my focused thoughts, I do my best not to focus on people or circumstances that I do not wish to bring into my physical experience. People are not truly bad, even when their behaviour indicates otherwise, rather they are misguided, and going about things in a way that will never truly get them what they want. We are all on our own journey in this physical life, so do your best to avoid judging others, for you do not know where they are in relation to what they are wanting, instead be the uplifter you were born to be, for there is no greater purpose than to be joyful in life, and to spread that joy to every person that has the good fortune to cross your path!!

And so our journey together continues…

Are you holding a grudge?…Who do you think you’re hurting???

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It’s true to say, most of us have held a grudge against someone at some time or another in our lives. It can be a natural reaction when we feel like someone has wronged us in some way, or we have been faced with a situation where we feel there has been an intention to purposely hurt us. It is not possible to look at something that is clearly unwanted and disregard it or be happy about it, but it is possible to move into a better feeling neutral place about it. Through my own experience, and by observing many others, I have come to the following conclusions;
1. Holding a grudge hurts the person holding the grudge the most.
2. Holding a grudge doesn’t change what has already happened.
3. Trying to hurt others only brings more unwanted circumstances into your life.
4. As long as you hold a grudge, you give others power over how you are feeling, the power that you should have, and that never feels good.

Some may say, “why should I forgive them, what they did was wrong”. Forgiveness is not about saying what they did was right or wrong, and it’s never about making the other person feel better, it’s about making ourselves feel better and being able to move on, to bigger and better things, rather than staying stuck in a miserable place that doesn’t feel good.
It’s completely appropriate to decide what it is we’re wanting to experience in our lives, but focusing on what others are doing that we may disapprove of, only attracts more unwanted circumstances with the same emotional feeling into our life experience. This is because, we get what we think about, or more aptly said, we get back how we feel. Whenever we think about something, it always produces a feeling within us, and the feeling we get is always communication from our Inner Being or the Non-Physical part of us, letting us know where we are in relation to what we’re wanting, regarding the subject being currently thought about. If we think about something and don’t have any feelings either positive or negative, we can be sure it’s a subject that currently does not matter to us, for anything that is important, will induce an emotional feeling within.

For example, if I’m annoyed about the way someone has been behaving, the fact that I am annoyed is an indication I am moving away from that which I am really wanting. One of the strongest desires within us is to be happy, and because we grew up with people around us trying to control everything we did so they would be happy, we may have continued on, in the same way. Many have realized it’s not really possible to truly control others, especially in the long-term, as it just makes everyone involved miserable, but we may not be sure how to change, or what to do.
Through our emotions, our Inner Being communicates with the physical here and now us, letting us know where we are in relation to everything we’re wanting. Negative emotion indicates movement in a direction that is taking us further away from what we’re truly wanting, whereas positive emotion indicates movement closer to that which we’re wanting.
Negative emotion is not bad, for its extremely valuable information when we start to understand what it means. We all have the power within us to move to a better feeling place about any and all subjects that are important to us, but many of us have not known this. Instead, we have taken our negative emotion as evidence that others are doing something they shouldn’t be and that it’s our job to control their behavior and keep them in line or we cannot be happy.
Nothing could be further from the truth, for we cannot control what others say or do, for they have the freedom to choose, just as you and I do. But there is something we have absolute control over, and that is how we feel, no one can make you feel a certain way unless you let them.

To begin with, it may seem like an impossible task, for if we were bought up just reacting to everything we were observing, just as many around us were doing, not knowing we had the power to feel better, and that feeling better moved us in the direction of what we were wanting, of course we wouldn’t have exercised a power we didn’t know we had. Nevertheless, that power pulses strongly within us, and like everything else, needs belief and positive focus, to bring it to the forefront of who we are.

The key is to take small steps if we can feel slightly better than we currently are, and we can maintain that better feeling place, that’s wonderful progress!
We didn’t come to how we feel all in one day, it requires focused thought over time and therefore changing our thought into a better feeling place does take some time and effort, but I cannot think of anything more important than feeling happier in our lives.
So let go of your anger and resentment towards others, don’t do it for them, do it for yourself, for you deserve to be happy, it is your natural birthright!!
So what will you choose now??

And so our journey continues…..

Are you free to choose???

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Are you free to choose every and all things in your life? That’s an interesting question, let’s look at that a little more closely….

So, every choice we’ve made up until today has bought you to the place we are in now. Some may disagree, saying many of the choices they made were forced upon them, either from parents or by getting in a situation where whatever choice was available to us, was an unwanted choice. Although this feels like we didn’t have a choice, the truth is, we always have a choice.
Maybe our choices were motivated from not wanting to experience the negative consequences others placed on us, or from making many choices that eventually lead us down a path where whatever choices were available, are unwanted, and although that feels like it wasn’t really our choice, it was.

Many of our choices come from being indoctrinated with our parents beliefs and ideologies regarding culture, religion, and community living. We could have chosen differently, but sometimes, when we are young, we’re not even aware there is another choice, and sometimes it’s simply not wanting to experience unwanted consequences that may arise from making a different choice.
We were and still are, motivated to different choices for many different reasons, whether it’s to keep someone else happy, to feel part of the group, to be liked by others, to be admired, or to be loved. Our choices, whatever they may be, for whatever reason, are usually based on what we believe is the best choice at that time, the choice we think will bring us closest to what we are wanting or what will make us happy.

It can be worth while, taking the time to ponder what it is that motivates our choices. For example, if it’s important to always have the approval of those around us, we put ourselves in an almost impossible position, for now our choices are based on what we think others expect or think is best for us, rather that what we think and feel is best for us.
In the beginning it may feel reassuring to have other peoples approval over the choices we make, but no other is really in a better position than us, to decide what is best for us, even if we think that they are.

Always seeking others opinions over what, how, and when we should be doing anything, erodes confidence, making it very difficult to make decisions on our own as we move forward through time. Taking advice from others can also lead to blaming if things don’t turn out as planned, preventing us from taking responsibility for our own choices, learning from them, changing, and making different choices where required. Blaming others may feel better in the short-term, but rarely moves us in the direction of what we’re wanting.

I’m not suggesting we should never seek advice from another, as it can be very helpful to listen to what others have to say if they’re positively focused, especially if they have achieved something you are desiring for yourself, but in the end, the final decision should be ours.

Knowing you are free to choose, and in control of your own life is paramount to really being happy, for as long as we believe anyone else has power over us, or knows better than you what you should or should not be doing, you cannot be truly happy.
For just as you came into this physical world free, you will leave this physical world free, and everything else in between, is your choice.
Are you making the choices that are in YOUR best interests??

And so our journey continues….

Some truths about marriage…

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Marriage means different things to different people, but it is generally accepted by most, that it is a commitment between two people, into an intimate relationship that excludes all others and lasts, “till death do us part”.

Well, that’s a very nice idea in a perfect world, actually, that’s a nice idea in any world. The question that’s interesting to ask is, is it really possible in the days that we are now living?
Absolutely yes, it’s completely possible, especially if that’s what we’re wanting, so why the high incidence of separation? As you can imagine, there are millions of reasons why people may separate, but often, there tends to be misconceptions or misguided beliefs about life, marriage, and relationships that contribute to this, therefore causing a flow on effect of smaller disagreements, and eventually more serious incidents.

Addressing misconceptions or false beliefs, not just the symptoms, is key, for running around trying to deal with the symptoms without addressing the deeper underlying causes, does not usually work, or only works in the short-term.
As you eradicate one symptom, another one rears its head, for the underlined cause is still there, and has not been dealt with.

A major misconceptions or false belief is, that it’s another person’s job to keep us happy. Now it goes without saying that most want to have uplifting and positive interactions with those around them, and that is a great desire, but if you are relying on others to always provide you with this, you get yourself, and whoever you are interacting with, in a very difficult position, for now you require them to behave in specific ways, before you allow yourself to be happy.

This is a sure way to stifle any relationship, for when you start requiring specific behaviour from others, you give them the responsibility for making you happy, rather than being responsible and in control, of your own happiness. Living in this way is like being on a rollercoaster, for you have made your happiness dependent on what the other is, or is not doing. For the person expected to behave in specific ways to please the other, this is very tiresome, and over time, becomes a burden that leads to resentment.
I’m not saying it’s not nice when people are behaving in ways we find to be wonderful, of course it is, and yes, we’d be crazy not to be happy about that when it happens, but when this is a prerequisite we require before allowing ourselves to be happy, we’re in for a rough ride.
Our true power and freedom comes from being able to be happy, apart from what others are doing. I know it isn’t always easy when coming from a life experience where you needed to behave in ways to make those around you happy, where there were often strong negative consequences if we did not. I suppose it’s natural that we often follow the same path that we were brought up with, but part of growing up, is questioning the beliefs that have been passed to us and deciding for ourselves, how we want to live our life now!

Are the beliefs that have been passed to me by my family, my community or my religion relevant to the life I’m living now? These questions can only be asked and answered by each individual, for no other is in a better position, to decide what is best for you, than you are. When you allow yourself and others the freedom to be who they really are, not just in marriage, but in all relationships, and you make it your job to keep yourself happy apart from how others are or are not behaving, you are a pure joy to be around!
For true love is synonymous with freedom, and freedom is at the very core of who we really are!

And so our journey continues….

Observation v’s Judgement… Where are you???

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Although there’s quite a fine line between observing people and circumstances or judging them, I think it can be quite an important distinction to be able to make.

Judging is noticing what is, in a negative and critical manner, with an implied feeling of wrong doing, whereas observation is noticing what is, from a neutral place without any negative or positive emotion. In other words, seeing what is in front of you, without making judgements of right or wrong.

Very few people are able to do this as most have been programmed with all sorts of things, from all sorts of people, about the rightness or wrongness of this or that… and of course, we have come to our own conclusions based on what we have been told, experienced and observed, as to what is right or wrong regarding most situations, behaviours or attitudes.

It is completely appropriate for us to decide what it is we are wanting, or how we wish to live our life on every and any subject that is important to us.
It’s not possible to get inside of somebody else and know what their intentions and desires for this life are, we have not lived their experiences, thought their thoughts, or felt their feelings, and therefore, cannot know for sure why they have reacted to each circumstance as they have. So how can anyone be a better judge than them, of what, how and when they should be doing this or that, for we cannot say with any real certainty if we’d lived their life experiences, we would do anything differently.
Maybe we would, maybe we wouldn’t? We just don’t know.
So the question is, why do we judge others, and does it improve our lives in any way?
Judging others critically always come from a not good feeling, negative place. A place of fear, fearing someone may do something that will affect us or others in a negative way. A place of feeling superiority over others, believing you know better than they do, what, how or why they should be doing this or that. A place of feeling inferior to others, therefore discounting their achievements to make one’s self feel better. Although initially, in the short-term these types of responses may help us to feel better, if we do not move to better feeling places, we can become uncaring and negatively focused, only seeing the worst in every situation we encounter.

If this happens, it’s often hard to assess whether these behaviours are working in our lives or not, because for most, it has become a way of being, something that’s been done consistently for so long, we’re no longer aware that we’re doing it.
It becomes our normal way of being, it becomes who you are temporarily being, not who you really are, just who you’re being right now. It’s not who you truly are, because we may not have been factoring in a very large part of ourselves, our Inner Being, Inner Guidance or the Non-Physical part of us.

Your Inner Being never feels inferior to others, for who you really are knows the magnificence of you! Your Inner Being never feels superior to others, for who you really are knows all beings have value, just as you do! Your Inner Being never fears what others are or are not doing, for who you really are knows you were born with the ability to change your focus at any moment and start attracting more wanted circumstances into your life!

When we start thinking in terms of what is wanted and unwanted and make an effort to redirect our thoughts in the direction of what we are wanting rather than the lack of what we’re wanting, it usually takes the judgement out of what we’re observing, and over time, puts us in a place where we’re more able to see the good in all people and situations….

We have all come forward with powerful intentions and desires, both individually and collectively, and we are moving into new discoveries about ourselves and life, and ultimately, to the evolution and truth of who we really are!!
And oh how wonderful that is!!

And so our journey continues….

Are you using an outdated roadmap???

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Try reading a roadmap from a hundred years ago and see where it gets you! I’m sure you can see fairly quickly, that is ridiculous advice. So it always amazes me how some people are still trying to live their lives by a book that was written 2000 years ago.
As with an old roadmap, most of the large landmasses and major roads are still probably the same, but as you get into the more specific small details of your map, almost everything will be different.
So one could say, the basic principles or major concepts within these books are still strong and relevant to the lives we are living today, but the specific details, when relating it to our daily lives here and now, are very different. And so it is, with many books and scriptures that were written by many different sages and prophets from the past.

It’s not for anyone to tell others what they should or shouldn’t take from these books, that is a choice made by each individual based on their freedom to choose as they wish. The criteria I would use to determine whether I would follow advice given by, not just books, but anything is… is it working for me? If it isn’t working in our lives, who cares who said it, when they said it, and why they said it? If it improves our life in any way, then for us, it must be sound advice, but if it doesn’t improve our life after giving it time, why would we continue to follow it? The only reasonable answer I can come up with for following advice that obviously is not working, is if we are coming from a place of fear.

Fear that we need to do something someone else has set out for us, or there will be unwanted consequences? This often begins from the first day we are born into this physical world. As children we allowed, without really knowing we were doing it, our Internal Guidance to be overridden by the people around us that had been here longer than us, and thought they knew exactly how, what, and why we should be doing this or that. I am not blaming anyone, I am stating a fact. Most were doing their best based on how they grew up and what they knew at the time, nevertheless, it produces a lack of confidence and a need to be guided in every little thing we do, so when something new comes up, we are often lost as to what to do, often searching for direction and advice from external sources.

This does not necessarily need to be negative if we can assess honestly how the advice we have taken is working in our life rather than blindly following without question, even when, deep down, it doesn’t feel right. That’s our Inner Guidance, our very own internal emotional guidance, that’s specifically and precisely giving us advice on any matter that is important to us. We had it when we entered this physical world and we’ve had it every day since.

If we feel we are not receiving any such guidance, it’s because it has been overshadowed and drowned out by all the advice and guidance that has come from external sources, often to such a point, we’re no longer even aware we have it.
If we don’t believe or even know we have such guidance, it can be near impossible to find without conscious awareness, and so we go from one source of advice to another, searching for something that fits us just right, but it will not be found from outside of us, what we are searching for comes from within us.

The best advice will always come from within you, and many of us are starting to access this wonderful Inner Guidance. We are now living in a time, where we are questioning the way we do things, and the beliefs that have been given to us by our family, culture, community or religion. There is benefit to all of it, even in doing things that are not working, for it is often in the process of realising something isn’t working that you become open to what it is that does work.
Such is the process and joy of this physical life….

And so it is….