Don’t Blame it on me!!!

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These are lyrics from the recent awesome song Blame, by Calvin Harris featuring John Newman.

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard someone utter, “Don’t blame me,” or “It’s not my fault”….I would totally be rich!! Hehehe

Although there are very real consequences that come from the actions we and others take, if we’re starting to understand we are the creators of our own life experiences and that we create those life experiences through our own focused thoughts and attention…..One must come to the realisation that blaming others for circumstances that have manifested in our lives is a futile and counter productive endeavour.

It doesn’t mean that blaming others is wrong. It’s not really a matter of right or wrong but more a matter of, does blaming others move us in a direction we are wanting to go in or is it moving us in a direction of something we are not wanting to experience??? (Law of Attraction)

If blaming others feels good, this is because we are moving into a better feeling vibrational place than we were currently in before we choose to blame. In other words, moving from a less powerful place to a more empowered place which is a natural and good occurrence. This is our natural tendency and desire to feel as good as we possibly can at any given moment in time.

So blame can be a good short-term place for us to be in as long as we don’t get stuck there for too long. It’s quite a strong negative emotional place to be in and does draw unwanted circumstances if we allow ourselves to stay there without making the effort to move vibrationally.

I like to think of it as a bit of a balancing act between taking responsibility in a positive way for what comes into our experience and acknowledging that everyone is in different vibrational places that we don’t have control over. It’s virtually impossible to remember every thought and feeling we’ve had to every circumstance we’ve experienced in the past, so these small unwanted occurrences can be a good opportunity to move into a better vibrational place on something we might not have been previously aware we had a vibration about.

It’s difficult not to blame when we feel someone has done something with the intention to hurt us, and this does take some time and effort to move to a better vibrational place about, but it is important to do if we want to create improved circumstances in our future experiences.
If we do find ourselves in situations where others are intentionally being unkind, it’s a good idea to walk away, but if we feel we must stand up and say something, speak as calmly and emotionally neutral as possible being prepared to walk away if they want to argue.
It’s also good to remember that how others behave is more about who they are currently being, rather than it is about who we are currently being.
I do not say this in a negative or revengeful emotional way but more as a statement of fact and Universal Law…. If those that are intentionally being unkind to others knew that they would eventually receive back that which they have originally given out, they would not be doing such things….

Focusing as much as possible on the aspects in our lives that are good and on what we are wanting in a positive way is a great way to receive more of what we love and are wanting…..And I say, “That is so Awesome!!”

And so it is….

I’d like to make the world a better place…..I just don’t know how…..

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It is not possible to change others. The only hope of changing the world is to change ourselves for the better first.          Paulette De-Har.

This is something someone said in general conversation, and as soon as the words were said, a whole bombardment of thoughts entered my mind as to the answer to her proposed question.
Of course, it was a question asked without the intention or anticipation of receiving an answer too, more of a thinking aloud moment than a real desire to know the answer.
The truth is, it’s virtually impossible to receive answers to questions we don’t believe there are answers too. When people say they want to “make the world a better place,” often what people really mean goes something like;

 

Through my personal experience and perspective on life, I have come to know what I think is the best way to live and what I believe is “right or wrong,” but as I look around, I see many people doing things I don’t agree with, things I find to be wrong. Initially I tried to control those around me but have figured out that’s a very difficult task to accomplish and doesn’t usually end well, so I suppose I’ve just come to the conclusion that there’ll always be things out there that I have to accept are not what I’m wanting, that I don’t think I can feel good about. (God damn all those people out there that aren’t living their lives how I think they should live!!! Hehehe… Oops, sorry if you don’t think that’s funny!!)

See the hopelessness in all of that….

We cannot make the world a better place for everyone else to live in, that’s not our job. We did not come forward into this physical world to control others and tell them how they should live their lives based on our life experiences or to change everything to how we feel it would be better for others. Each came here to decide how to live based on their life experiences, and that’s the way it’s supposed to be, it’s no accident.

But we absolutely came forward to make our own world a better place by focusing on all we’ve decided from our own personal experience and perspective, how we’re wanting to live. It’s not possible to eradicate any part of this world we’re currently living in. We make our world the world we’re wanting to live in by focusing on all we are wanting and find to be good, and that’s what the Law of Attraction will bring to us. Focusing on all that we don’t like or don’t agree with from a not good feeling, negative, vibrational place, will bring us something quite different to what we’re wanting….

Many have come to know it’s not possible to control any other for any great length of time. Even those that may have initially liked being guided and controlled by others, eventually find these circumstances intolerable as they grow up and have more life experiences helping them to decide more clearly who they are and what they are wanting out of life. For those that are either harshly controlled or trying to control others, there will eventually be an awakening, usually in the form of strong manifestations that helps them to move forward in a more positive direction.
For the controller, it’s about letting go of control and learning to feel good apart from requiring everyone that’s around them to behave in a certain way, so they can feel good.
For the controlled, it’s about coming into our true power and standing up for who we are and what we believe in a positive, good feeling way.

It’s not something we really need to worry about though because whether we’re aware of these things or not, opportunities are constantly being presented to us every single day that are gradually helping us to move into better and better places.
We are making the world a better place by focusing and attracting more of that which is good into our own lives, for that gives more positive things in the world for everyone to focus on and attract into their lives….And so the cycle goes on!!!

Talk about the cycle of life!!!

And so it is….

Shake it off….You go girl!!!

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I don’t usually like to talk about famous people, because many of the negative opinions people hold toward others that are well-known are based on gossip that whether it’s true or not, is not very nice. Although we all have our own opinions on what we hear and see, it’s not possible to truly know whats going on within someone else, so it’s a futile exercise to speculate about it, and it just doesn’t feel good to me to do it, so mostly I don’t do it!!
When making judgements about others, especially negative judgements, it can be helpful to consider the following;

~Unfortunately we live in a time where many find it entertaining to portray others in difficult, embarrassing, and compromising circumstances, which strongly indicates where a person generally is and who they’re currently being if they gain enjoyment from other people’s misfortune.
~Strong negative contemplation of those doing well in their chosen field and that have become well-known for it, often comes from being in a very resistant vibrational place of jealousy and judgement, jealousy of those that appear to have gained notoriety and success in some way….Maybe things we wish we had for ourselves???
~Outrageous allegations sell magazines and newspapers, and it would be rather naive to believe everything we hear or read, and in this digital age, pictures or video either. If one has a mind to portray someone in a certain way whether it be positive or negative, they will find a way to do it, whether it’s true or not!! (What’s the truth got to do with it???) Unless we observe something as it happens it’s all here-say, and even then it’s open to interpretation.
~One thing I’ll say about all of this is, if people knew what they were really doing when they’re speaking not nicely about others, they would not be doing it!!(Law of Attraction!!)

Back to the title, Shake it off is a new song by Taylor Swift, and the “You go girl,” you probably already know is not part of the song, that’s just me appreciating everything she’s saying in it!!!

Before this song came out, I wasn’t exactly a Taylor Swift fan because it wasn’t really my type of music with many resistant type lyrics about dating and boyfriend troubles, subjects that aren’t important to me and are far away from my life experience. But I have to say I’m loving this new song and have found a deeper understanding and respect for what must be a difficult road to navigate for someone so young.
Although I do love to see people doing well, I especially notice when young ones do well because it’s a very good indication they’ve managed to stay true to who they really are. Remaining true to oneself isn’t always easy when surrounded by others that are trying to guide us in a direction they feel is best based on their experiences and desires, but can often be in opposition to the internal guidance we are receiving based on our experiences and desires. It’s not that good guidance can’t be received from others apart from ourselves, it can, but it depends largely on the vibrational place the advice giver is coming from.

It feels like this song speaks to the truth that people are going to say and do whatever they like for their own reasons which is far more of an indication about who they are rather than who they’re talking about is, and the best thing we can do is to know that and just “shake it off” so to speak, and not let them bring us down to a resistant vibrational place.

Some may disagree and say just because someone is gossiping and enjoying someone else’s misfortune doesn’t necessarily mean they’re in a not good feeling vibrational place….(I’m not sure, does anyone really think that???)
And I say, if we’re getting enjoyment from doing this to others, it means we’re in a very resistant not good feeling place even if these actions helped us to feel better. If it doesn’t feel good to be doing this or to be part of a group that is doing this, it means we are likely in a better feeling vibrational place and are not needing to pull others down to feel good about ourselves.

Even if what’s been said is true, it isn’t a good idea to gossip and speak not nicely about others, it’s just not worth it!!
If we do find ourselves doing this, it’s good to make an effort to move into a better feeling vibrational place by noticing things around us that are positive and good.
If people around us are gossiping, avoid being dragged into it by not entertaining such conversations and remove yourself from the situation if you need too. If we stay strong in mind and action with our decision to not engage and take part in these types of conversations, it’s not very long before we either don’t come into contact with people who are talking about others negatively, or if we do, they don’t seem to feel “inspired” to talk about such things when we’re around because they don’t get the response they’re wanting…. That’s the beauty of the Law of Attraction don’t you think?

Allowing others to pass resistant vibrations onto us, doesn’t help anyone create what they’re wanting. In truth nothing can be passed to us without our full permission, and that permission comes through giving something our focused attention and thought that causes an emotional response that the Law of Attraction responds in-kind too.

Knowledge is power…. And we can exercise that power in any way we chose by attracting that which we are wanting….Or something else….

And so it is….

Our intentions are everything!!!

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No action, good or bad, comes from nowhere….All things that happen in this physical world are preceded by thought that’s been given focused attention over time that the Law of Attraction has responded too until we experience the full physical manifestation of our thoughts and emotions, our vibration.

Many people speak about the best intentions meaning nothing if action doesn’t follow those intentions….And I say, nothing could be further from the truth.
Absolutely nothing good could ever happen if it was not first preceded by good intentions and thoughts, end of story, and taking action because others feel we should or before we feel ready makes whatever we’ve decided to do harder with more bumps in the road than if we’d taken action when it felt right. (Remember, if it feels good, it is good…..And if it feels not quite right, it isn’t quite right!!)

When our intentions and thoughts are strong and given continued focused attention, it eventually inspires action, if action does not happen, not enough power and momentum has been achieved to inspire it.
If we do take action before we’re ready it doesn’t matter too much, it just means that some resistant unwanted circumstances may arise giving us the opportunity to release whatever resistance we’ve still got going on. Once we’ve moved ourselves into a better feeling place this helps to propel us into even better, more wanted circumstances and experiences than before!!

If we’re often wanting others to take action on the good intentions we believe they have, this sometimes comes from a need to see people behave in a way we see as “appropriate or nice,” so that we can feel good as we observe them, and of course it’s nice to see others doing nice things, but when our disapproval and focus is strong when we feel people are not being “nice,” we may find ourselves faced with many examples and circumstances where people aren’t being nice, through our own focus and therefore attraction of such things!!!

So our intentions behind what we’re thinking, speaking or doing means everything, whether we’re taking action on those intentions or not….For there’s no hiding from the Law of Attraction and Universal Law, our intentions are continually broadcasted loud and clear and we will eventually reap the rewards of what we’ve originally given out, whether we’re aware of it or not.
How someone takes something given with positive intentions depends greatly on where they generally are in relation to what’s happening, for even the nicest action coming from the best place can be taken in a negative way when one spends most of their time in a not good feeling vibrational place.
When things don’t turn out as we’ve wanted or someone has not taken something we’ve said or done in the positive way we’ve intended, the fact that we were coming from a good place with pure positive intention and that we’ve been true to who we really are, has to be enough….

And so it is….

Life’s like a box of chocolates….You never know what you’re going to get???

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I’m not sure who the first person was to coin this phrase, but for me it was best said in the movie Forest Gump.

Whether this phrase is true for us or not, depends mostly on what our beliefs and experiences have been in this life.
Although this may be the experience or truth many people are living to differing degrees, it always comes from a lack of awareness of what we have been emitting vibrationally through our long-held focused thoughts and emotions that the Law of Attraction has responded to with similar feeling manifestations.

So the more aware we are that we’re creating our lives through our thoughts and emotions, our vibration that the Law of Attraction is responding in-kind too, and the more aware we are of how we’re really feeling at any given moment in time is…..The more likely we are to know what may turn-up in our future experience.

Although how the Law of Attraction works is consistent and reliable across all circumstances and situations, even with very strong awareness of these Laws and how we’re feeling and therefore what we’re attracting, there are times when it may still be hard to predict how and when something will make an appearance.

What we’ve attracted through our vibration is delivered to us by the Universe in precise timing and from what is currently available from our surroundings, which may not always be something we’re expecting even though it is a vibrational match to us.
This is often when our faith or belief in our knowing of how life works can be put to the test, and how we deal with these unexpected “bumps in the road” can determine how we move forward.

I’m sure most of us have experienced a challenge that we’ve overcome in a positive way that’s propelled us forward to even greater places and experiences we may not have been able to achieve if not for the challenge in the first place, this is the “silver lining” that is present in all situations…..if we believe it’s there and we’re looking for it??? Whereas in contrast to this, a challenge not dealt with in a positive manner often remains as an area in our life that continues to move us in an unwanted direction, especially if it’s still thought about often with strong negative emotion. In these circumstances it’s important we take the time and effort to move forward positively or to let go of the emotional resistance we may still be holding onto in relation to whatever happened.

It doesn’t matter too much if we don’t make as much positive movement as we’re wanting when something presents itself to us at any given time, because everything that’s happening in our lives is an opportunity to move forward in a more positive direction, no matter how wanted or unwanted the circumstances are.

So let me re-phrase the title….

Life can be like a box of chocolates…..But if we’re starting to become aware of what’s been put in the box, we can usually predict what we’re going to get back out of it, and if we do get a surprise we don’t like, it’s not the end of the world when we know we can choose something differently next time!!

And so it is….

The “Best Decision”….Is not always the easiest decision that gives us the quickest gratification!!!

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Although I have used the description “best decision” in the title, in reality there is no decision that is ultimately the best decision to make. There definitely are choices that will reap better results than others, but any decisions we firmly make that we’ve put all our positive thoughts and feelings behind are good decisions.

It’s true that not many people like not feeling good, actually I don’t think I know anyone who likes not feeling good, that being said, sometimes the need to feel instant gratification or to remove or change circumstances that make us feel uncomfortable immediately, can sometimes cause us to make a choice that short-term may help us to feel better, but long-term does not move anyone in a direction we’re wanting to go in.

This can be especially true when dealing with the little people we may have in our lives, our children. They come forward from Non-Physical with a stronger knowing of who they are than any previous generations, and are not easily guided away from that knowing by others that have been here longer than they have and have mostly forgotten who they really are.

Although coming froward with this strong knowing is very good news….For many it does require some different parenting styles to be learned if we’re wanting to be parents that guide and inspire the best out of our children. From harsh control and discipline, to letting them do whatever they like as long as they’re happy, and we’re happy as we see them happy approach, the middle ground between these two extremes is a good place to aim for.

I know we love our children very much, and it makes us feel very happy to see them happy, and this is a great thing, but when we base our decisions on what will make them the happiest in the short-term so we don’t have to deal with the often unpredictable (or sometimes very predictable!!) extreme behaviours that can follow not getting what they want or from experiencing the natural consequences of their choices, this is not usually in their best interests and does not help them to understand how this Universe is really working, and well, that’s not ideal. (I’ve said that very softly!!)

It’s true, we can do things and make decisions that prevent them from experiencing the full consequences of their actions. The problem with doing this is it makes it hard for them to see the connections between how the choices they make bring semi-predictable consequences which can cause them to start making decisions without the knowledge of what could possibly happen…..Which is ok when we’re always there to make everything alright, (Well, no it isn’t ok, but I think you probably know what I mean) but we must at some level accept that they will eventually be without someone who is prepared to dedicate their life to making sure everything runs smoothly for them. Someone that will run around and try to make their experience better by trying to prevent them experiencing the consequences from the choices they’ve made!! No, they will not find another who will do this for them….

Of course no one wants their children to experience strongly unwanted circumstances, and I think most of us would try to lessen this happening if we knew such circumstances were coming, but that’s exactly why it’s important to let them experience the small unwanted consequences of their actions, because once they’re aware of the link between what they’re choosing and what’s turning up, and it becomes a strong knowing and awareness they have based on their own first hand experiences….Now they are so well prepared with what they need to know to be on their own and create what they’re wanting in their own lives!!

And I believe it would be very hard to find a parent that didn’t want that for their children….But that’s just me….

And so it is….

Consistency….Is the name of the game!!!

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It doesn’t matter what subject we talk about, the formula doesn’t change…. Doing anything once is great, especially if it’s something that we feel inspired or good about doing, but I don’t think too many people would disagree with the fact that if we’re wanting to see any real longterm change in our lives, consistency of thought and action is usually required!!!

Even though many of us know this, why do we often find it difficult to keep our consistency of action up???
The answer always comes down to similar reasons. If we haven’t taken the time to move our thought into a positive good feeling vibrational place before we take any physical action, we often don’t have the inspiration required to continue on with what we’re wanting to do. And sometimes even when we have taken some time to improve and work on our vibration before taking action, we may still find our enthusiasm wavering, especially if it’s become hard work and we’re not achieving the results we’re wanting.
In the beginning, being strongly focused on the end result we’re wanting in a positive way can help us, but as we keep going, if we start making negative judgements because we haven’t achieved exactly what we were wanting in our desired time limit, this starts to make what we’re doing difficult and can send us in an unwanted direction again. I don’t believe many people have a lack of wanting, everyone wants what they want, but sometimes when we’ve tried many times without success, it becomes painful to keep trying and continue to not achieve what we’re wanting, so it feels better not to try, sometimes it feels better to give-up.
But this too is a bitter pill to take because deep down we know there’s no reason why we shouldn’t be able to achieve what it is we’re wanting….So even though, at the time giving-up may be a better feeling place than failure, we will rarely find any lasting happiness in this emotional place, and fortunately most that find themselves here, will eventually gain the strength to raise their vibration into a better place where they can again start receiving positive ideas.

If we’re receiving good ideas, especially if they’re coming from within us through our own though process, this is a good indication we’ve been somewhat in a good general vibrational place otherwise we wouldn’t be receiving them. The better feeling place we’ve generally been in, the more inspired our thoughts are, and the more likely we are to take action on them, especially if we’ve fostered an attitude of belief in ourselves and our ability.

When an idea comes we may want to act on, the best possible thing we can do is to give it as much positive thought as we can. This is very different from looking at the “pros and cons” of a situation as many people often do at this time. If we do put a lot of focus and attention on all the things that could possibly go wrong and what may not work, this usually has the effect of instantly killing our ideas, for now we are emitting a vibration that may be primarily made up of thoughts and feelings on everything unwanted that could happen, and not many people will take any action from this not good feeling, non-believeing, vibrational place because it’s too hard and doesn’t usually produce good results unless we make an effort to greatly improve our thought as we go, which is possible, but it’s much easier if we start in a good vibrational place to begin with.

As we focus over time on all the positives in relation to our ideas, power and momentum of positive thought is maintained and improved, and as the Law of Attraction responds to the dominant vibrational signal we’re emitting, any action taken from this place is truly inspired and reaps much better results. This is exactly whats going on when we talk to one who explains their “work” not as work, but mostly as a joyful endeavour they get paid to do!!!

Of course resistant circumstances will still turn up, even when we’ve taken action from an inspired good feeling place that has positive power and momentum behind it, but from this strong vibrational place, obstacles are easily overcome and are more of a propeller into even better, fuller, more wanted circumstances!!!

And so it is….

Why understanding where our General Vibrational Place is….Is important….

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Once we know exactly where we are, then we can start to make our way to where we want to be.          Paulette De-Har

The general vibrational place we find ourselves in is an accumulation of all the thoughts and feelings we’ve had and are currently having in relation to all the subjects that are important to us, and although our vibration will be different on each subject we give our attention too, the variation between all the things that are important to us are, cannot be too great.

 

Many may think….Well, who cares??? And I say, if we’re coming to know how it is that we are creating our life experiences, it’s very valuable information to know. So what does it really mean??? It means that as we navigate our way through all the subjects that are important to us, if we’re focusing on improving only one subject into a better feeling place, although this is a great thing and we all need to start somewhere, we will reach a level where we may find it difficult to move beyond, if there are too many other subjects sitting in a much lower vibrational place that we haven’t made an effort to move into a better vibrational place.

Any vibrational movement we make on any subject is totally awesome….Don’t let me give you the impression it isn’t, but I wouldn’t be being totally honest if I didn’t say that focusing on one subject to the exclusion of everything else doesn’t always work. It could work if we could focus solely on the subject we’ve moved into a better feeling vibrational place, and this is possible….But the elevated good feeling we’ve achieved on one subject causes the subjects that have not been moved into a better vibrational place to feel worse than they previously did, and it takes an enormous amount of strength not to give these increased not good feeling subjects more attention.

The good news is…..As subjects we may have been previously happy to leave in a moderately not good feeling vibrational place that the Law of Attraction has been responding in-kind to gain more emotional intensity, we find ourselves in a position where we have to make an effort to move these into a better vibrational place if we’re to continue our positive vibrational momentum into better and better feeling places!!!

This can mean that we may attract some resistant, unwanted circumstances to ourselves giving us the opportunity to move through and clear whatever resistance we’ve got going on, especially if we do our best to move into a better vibrational place when resistant circumstances turn up???

Although we may not be initially “jumping for joy” to hear this, it does somewhat help to understand whats happening as it’s happening, and may just give us the extra belief we need to work through whatever resistance has turned up knowing there is light at the end of the tunnel, and that we will receive the benefits of the improved vibrational place we’ve made an effort to achieve….It is Universal Law!!!

And so it is….

Why would we even consider copying someone else’s work???

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“It is never necessary to copy someone else’s work….Instead let the greatness you observe within others, inspire the greatness within you and then act on it.”

 
Initially, this is easy to answer. The only reason we would attempt to copy someone else’s work without acknowledging the fact is because we don’t believe we can have any original ideas ourselves!!

In truth, if we set out to copy anything with our own hand, it’s very hard to copy exactly what someone else has done, especially if it is something that’s created artistically and visually. If we do attempt to copy someone else’s artwork, apart from actually taking an exact copy, it can never be exactly the same. Even the same artist trying to copy a work they have previously completed will end up with a different version of the original work.

As far as copying others written work and ideas, this also comes from a lack of belief in our own ability to have original ideas and to bring forward and create

through our own personal perspective and experiences.
Who we really are, the blending of our Physical and Non-Physical selves knows we have the absolute ability to create anything we are wanting in our own way without the need to copy what another is doing. Think about copying someone else’s work and see how it feels….For most this doesn’t feel good because our Non-Physical counterpart knows we came here to be the creators of our own experience, not the duplicator of what already is, and is communicating this to us in the form of our emotions, that’s why it doesn’t feel good!!

That being said, we do get much inspiration from what others are doing which does influence us in many ways as this is part of the Physical journey we’ve come here to live. But this is entirely different from taking what we know is someone else’s idea or body of work, an idea we wouldn’t have had on our own and often isn’t what we really want to do, copying it and using it.
Of course there are many people out in the big wide world that are doing things of a similar nature, that isn’t an issue, because no matter how similar what we’re doing seems, if it’s truly coming from our own perspective and experiences of where we really are, it is a truly original work.

I know in the whole scheme of things, it’s not the worse thing in the world we could do, but for me I find it to be not a very nice thing to do and have little respect for people who choose to do such things.
At the end of the day, we’re all the receivers of that which we give out, (Law of Attraction) whether we’re aware of this or not, and copying others work can never give us the feelings we were hoping for, even if what we’ve copied does somewhat well. Whatever we create carries within it the vibrational place we were in during its creation, so when we copy and don’t use our own ideas, this knowing is transferred into our work and is often known by the recipients of it, even if it’s just a feeling they have.

I can’t think of much that would feel worse than receiving admiration for something I know I’ve copied……But that’s just me….

And so it is….

I drink a little more than recommended…..This world ain’t exactly what my heart expected….

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These are lyrics from a song called Free by Rudimental featuring Emeli Sande`.

It’s not too hard to figure out what these lyrics are saying, and for me it goes something like….

Well, I find myself in this physical world, and although there are many good things here, as I look around I also see many things I don’t like, and I’ve also experienced many circumstances in my life that certainly didn’t make me jump for joy. When I see and experience such things I don’t feel very good, and somewhere deep inside myself I have a feeling I’m supposed to feel good, like it wasn’t supposed to be such hard work, like feeling good and enjoying my life was something I came here to do???
But how can I feel good when others are behaving in a way that I don’t agree with? I’ve learnt that trying to control others just as others have tried to control me to feel good, doesn’t really work so I’ve given up on that.
So then I have these negative emotions within me and I’ve noticed as time goes by, they get stronger and I seem to be faced with even more unwanted circumstances in my life…..So sometimes I reach for something that will give me some temporary relief, something that helps me to feel better and forget or numb the intensity of what I’m feeling.
Alcohol, drugs, food, medication, sex, exercise, work or any other substance or circumstance can be used to prevent us from feeling the full intensity of our negative emotions. Some are more detrimental than others, but all when solely used without making an effort to feel better ourselves, cause negative emotions to grow stronger which in turn usually requires us to use more of whatever we’re using to maintain the same amount of relief.

The good news is……as our negative emotions intensify and our increased use of external substances or circumstances starts not to work, one usually comes to the realisation that a change of strategy is needed, no, required to continue to move forward in a positive manner, and in extreme cases, to remain in this physical body.

We’re all doing whatever we feel is necessary to feel good in our lives as this is one of the strongest desires we have as we came forward from the Non-Physical realm into this Physical world. To create anything, we need to be exposed to many variables which inevitably helps us come to stronger and more specific ideas of what we’re wanting to create in our own lives. If the contrast didn’t exist in this Physical environment we’re currently living in, there would be no real purpose to coming here from the Non-Physical realm in the first place.

It rarely helps to judge ourselves or others negatively and harshly for this type of behaviour, even when we know these choices aren’t ultimately going to produce much good in the longterm. Using external substances to feel better can be a strategy that has the potential to help us in the short-term, until we feel we have the strength to feel better by ourselves, but can become a problem or addiction if we rely solely on whatever we’ve been using without making an effort to move our emotions into a better feeling vibrational place ourselves.

If we’re wanting to overcome any addiction or addictive behaviours we may have, there must be a desire to no longer want to use whatever substances or circumstances we’re using. Even with this desire, it’s difficult to stop, but without it, it’s virtually impossible to stop. This decision can only come from within us, others may put up all sorts of scenarios and reasons why we shouldn’t be doing this or that, but this often causes whoever we’re trying to convince to stop what they’re doing, feel more negative emotions such as shame, guilt, confusion and helplessness which can increase the desire to use something to numb the increased not good feeling emotions experienced.
Making anyone feel even worse about the choices they’re making, no matter how detrimental those choices may be, in the hope they’ll feel so bad they’ll suddenly stop using, is a very risky approach at best and has the potential of making our recipients desire to use something stronger!!

Whether we’re thinking about this subject for ourselves, or for someone who we love and would do anything to help, moving forward in a positive manner requires many different approaches depending on the specific circumstances, but at the top of that list is;

~Promoting the belief that we do have the strength and courage to move forward positively, even if it’s hard to currently see how. This is no easy feat if we’ve tried many times without success, but the stronger our belief is that we’ll succeed, the more likelihood there is that we will!!
~The idea that if we slip up one time we’ve failed miserably, isn’t a thought that helps anyone that’s trying to change negative behaviours. If we’ve been doing anything for an extended period of time, there is much power and momentum behind our actions that the Law of Attraction has been responding too, making it very hard to stop what we’ve been doing all at once.
It’s better to accept that even when we’re trying our best, we may slip up, but that it’s not the end of the world and it doesn’t mean all the progress we’ve already made is lost. It’s often the strong negative emotions of feeling that one has failed, letting themselves and those they love down again, that promotes the feeling that it’s hopeless to even keep trying anymore. When we’re more accepting of our current choices knowing it doesn’t mean we can’t keep moving forward positively, it makes it easier to cope and keep going with renewed resolve and determination without the negative self-reflection that can bring us to our knees.

Although I know dealing with such circumstances can be very difficult, the best thing we can hope to do is to stay as positive as we possibly can, and to make an effort to continue to do this, even when we feel things aren’t working out as well or as quickly as we would like…..
Because when we know the Law of Attraction is bringing us evidence of what we believe and are strongly emitting vibrationally, anything else is unacceptable….

And so it is….