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The Awesomeness of Music!!!

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I love music…..And there’s not much in this physical world that will raise ones vibration as easily as music does!!

Although this is true, like all things, the production of music is a reflection of where the creators of it are vibrationally with their thoughts and emotions, which is another way of saying music can be made from any emotional position, rage, hate, anger, freedom, love, joy, fun, etc…..
In a similar way to this, what we’re choosing to listen to can also be a reflection of where we generally are vibrationally.

In the past, a lot of music spoke to the struggles of the times, world problems, (U2, Sinead O’Connor, Midnight Oil) relationship woes, (Madonna, Dido, Adele) and other subjects that many struggled with, (Eminem, Creed, Tonic).
Much of it made awesome music that was deeply heartfelt and emotional, taking the listener on a journey so to speak, into emotional places the creator had been and often to emotional places we’d experienced in our own lives.

So let me ask you, do you put sad music on when you’re down and make yourself sadder??? Hehehe…..Opps sorry, that might not be funny to some people!!
I use to do this when I was a teenager, and I have to say it would make me feel very sad, but afterwards I’d feel better. I think it helped me to release my negative emotions to some extent so then I could move myself to an even better feeling place more easily. That was some time ago, so maybe it had something to do with not having the skills or not knowing how to feel better on my own???

Anyway, for me it seemed to work back then, whereas now I only use music to raise my vibration and how I’m feeling to very high-flying places, not lower it.
For those that really love listening to music and feel moved at a very deep level by it, this is an awesome tool to use. Whereas if you’re not that into it, you’ll wonder what the heck I’m going on about!! Hehehe….

That’s ok, different strokes for different folks, isn’t that how the saying goes???
So if you do love music, use it to your advantage, when you’re feeling good and even when you’re not feeling so good, put your favourites on and see how it changes how you feel. If it helps you to feel better, even if it’s only temporarily, use it!! This is an easy way to divert our focus helping us to stop or slow the progression of negative emotions from gaining power and momentum, which ultimately means we’re now in a much better place to cope with whatever it is that’s upset us!!

I always say to my husband, “If I had music continuously streaming into my ears, I’d never have any problems!!” (And I do my best to have my headphones in as much as I can!!) He just rolls his eyes and laughs….Cause he’s just not that into it!!

And so it is….

I’ve got one less problem without you…..OK???

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These are the lyrics to a popular song right now, and as I listened to it, it made me think about what they were saying.

I’ve got one less problem without you, well maybe yes, and maybe no…. That depends entirely on our focus, don’t you think???
And as the title suggests, the answer or solution is to simply remove that unwanted person from our experience and all our problems (related to them) will be gone!! Whether this is a solution that’s likely to work in the long-term, depends entirely on where we are vibrationally when we take whatever action we’ve decided to take.

So let’s put a hypothetical situation forward as I seem to be liking doing that at the moment.
Say there’s someone in our recent experience we have a reasonable amount of contact with that’s behaving in a way that we’ve decided through the living of our life, is no longer in alignment with who we are, what we’re about and what we’re wanting to experience.

When taking action in relation to removing someone from our experience, if we’re feeling any negative emotion that’s strong in intensity that we’ve been feeling for some time, (achieving power and momentum of thought) this is a good indication we haven’t completely released resistance we’ve had from whatever has happened during this relationship which means we have a very good chance of attracting similar people or relationships in our future experience that have many similar characteristics to the relationship we’ve just left behind!!
That reminds me of a saying that speaks exactly to this truth, different places, different faces, same results.

On the opposite end of the scale, if we’ve made an effort to move ourselves into a better feeling place by working through our negative emotions and making peace with whatever has happened, we can move forward in a more positive way which means we don’t usually repeat the same experiences over and over because we’re gradually clearing the resistance we’ve got going on which is sometimes what attracted such a relationship in the first place. Action from more of a positive feeling place allows more of what we’re really wanting to experience in a relationship to flow into our experience!!

Many may say, I cannot make peace with what’s happened because what they did was wrong, and I will not pretend it was anything else.
And I say, moving to a better feeling place does not mean that what someone did was something we agree with, it’s about knowing that by holding onto resentment towards others, the Law of Attraction responds to the strong vibration we’re emitting, and if our vibration is not improved, we will be the receiver of similar circumstances again.
It’s only for our own benefit that one would make the effort to feel better, and any benefit that others may experience from our improved vibrational place is just an added bonus.

I know the relationships we have with others are complex and continually changing from day to day, one day things can be great, whereas the next day maybe not so great, but no matter how things are unfolding, we are the ones that hold the power in relation to our own experience and the relationships we’re having. We do not have the power to control what others say or do, but we have complete control over our thoughts and how we feel, and when we start to exercise control over what we’re vibrationally sending out, that changes everything!

Whether we’re continuing with the relationships we currently have or moving into new relationships, as long as we’re doing our best to move into a better feeling place at any given moment……That has to be good enough…..

And so it is…..

Who have I surrounded myself with???

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The people we have surrounded ourselves with are a very good indication of where we generally are vibrationally, especially if there are many in a similar vibrational place. (similar in thoughts and emotions)

Some may say, I did not consciously choose many of those I have around me, some are family and work colleagues, and I definitely didn’t choose them, it’s only my friends which I have consciously chosen.
And I say, whether we are aware of it or not, we have chosen every person and every circumstance that has happened or will happen in our lives through our focused thoughts and emotions, our vibration, that the Law of Attraction is responding too and serving up to us people, places and events that are matching the dominant vibrational signals we’re sending out, and it’s the choices we’re continuing to make that keeps everything as it is, no exceptions ever…. This is Universal Law!!

For example, if we’re believing people are generally kind and treat us with respect, this will predominantly be the people we will attract with possibly a little bit of variation depending on our experiences and how strong and pure our thought is in relation to this, whereas if we’re believing people are generally unkind and disrespectful, again these are mostly the people we’ll attract.

Nothing is as black and white as the example I have given, as we all have different vibrations on different subjects based on our previous experiences and our vibration changes and moves every time we observe or experience new circumstances or even when we bring a memory into our mind and think about it.
We do not need to have physical manifestations to move our thought on any subject, although experiencing the reality of anything means we cannot ignore it, especially if it’s a manifestation of a vibration we’ve been unaware of and that’s unwanted!!

Bringing thoughts into our mind and making an effort to move into a better feeling place can initially improve our vibration, and if we take the time to bring that improved thought into our mind often enough, it can become the new dominant vibration within us on this subject as our old maybe more resistant thoughts are no longer getting our focused attention. With time and continued focus, power and momentum towards our new improved thoughts is achieved which translates into a generally better feeling experience and improved physical manifestations!!

Back to the people we have surrounded ourselves with, if we’re coming to know who we really are and how we’re creating our lives, we’re usually making an effort to improve our thoughts and feelings….Yes???
As our vibration improves, this can cause a vibrational gap between us and those that are around us that we were previously in harmony with, especially if others are still unaware that they’re the creators of their own experiences and are not moving too much vibrationally.

Although we maybe able to temporarily affect positive change to someone else’s vibration, it’s not possible to raise someone else’s vibration for any great length of time as each of us is in charge of our own thoughts and feelings and it’s always our job to move ourselves, not someone else’s job to do it for us. That’s not to say others can’t jump on the positive bandwagon so to speak, they can, but the process of maintaining ones improved vibrational place around many others that are not moving much vibrationally is exhausting and can suck any joy or enthusiasm we have for life right out of us.

In the end, something has to give, and it’s a powerful choice, but it may be a choice we’re unaware we’re making??? A choice to continue to improve how we’re feeling and let the Law of Attraction bring to us those that are a vibrational match to where we are, and has to be said, to what will help us move ourselves into better and better places, or to hold ourselves back by continuing to maintain relationships that are a reflection of where we’ve been, not where we’re going???

By no means does this mean all our current relationships will fall by the wayside for all are moving vibrationally in relation to all sorts of things, and many that are close to those that are making great positive vibrationally movement in their lives will find themselves also moving if it’s important for them to feel good and maintain that relationship, but if this is not the case and the vibrational gap becomes great, if we want to continue our positive movement, at some point we have to be prepared to let go of what is no longer serving us.

There’s no right or wrong about it, as this is an individual choice we make based on what we feel is in our best interests at the time, but it’s true to say, relationships cannot be maintained when there are large vibrational gaps, so if one is not moving, the other must halt or considerably slow their progression in order to continue the relationship, and that’s not ideal.

In my experience, when we let go of the need to have a relationship with someone we care about, and especially if we let go of how we’re wishing the relationship could or should be…..Things just seem to work out.
Sometimes that means people do slowly make their way out of our experience, but often it doesn’t, mostly it improves our relationships!
It improves our relationships because its like sending a strong signal out to the Universe that says something like…..

I want the best for myself and the others I interact with and I know this is possible. I understand not much good comes from trying to change others to how I would like them to be (and it’s not possible anyway!!) Or to change myself to what others would like me to be. (this isn’t truly possible either, but we can make ourselves miserable trying!!)
I know that whatever’s turning up, especially if it’s unwanted, is an opportunity to release resistance and move into better feeling vibrational places which is improving my experience.

I trust myself and I trust life, and I continue to believe everything is working out for me….

And so it is….

All good things come to those who wait….Really!!!

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Well,….Maybe, maybe not???
Whether good things come to those who wait depends entirely on how we feel about waiting, how long we’ve been waiting and how much we are wanting whatever we’re waiting for.

If we’re thinking about waiting for something to turn up and we feel positive expectation and emotion about it, this is a very good indication that we’ve put ourselves in a good feeling vibrational place, and if our good feeling is maintained with emotional intensity, what we are wanting must eventually manifest.

Although this is true, when we’re waiting for something to turn up, it’s very likely some of our vibrational focus will be on the fact that what we are wanting hasn’t turned up yet, and depending on how strong that part of our vibration regarding the lack of what we’re wanting being here is….It can prevent things from flowing and manifesting as easily as they could.

When this happens, ones focus can waiver, especially if we know we’ve been feeling very good for a long period of time and have done well working through many lower vibrational states and unwanted circumstances to reach our improved feeling place.
This can make us question all sorts of things and can sometimes send us a little off track. It’s often not that we weren’t feeling as good as we thought we were, because it’s not possible to really fake any good feeling we have, even if we’re smiling outwardly, we all know when we’re not genuinely feeling it, and so does anyone else who’s sensitive to how they’re feeling and what others are putting “out there”!!! We’re either feeling good or we aren’t, it’s that simple, but sometimes where not completely aware of a vibration we might have going on and the impact it’s having as the Law of Attraction responds to it.

The moral of the story is…..Time limits and waiting for things to turn up can really set us up to not achieve what we were wanting. Strict time limits can propel us forward sometimes, but if we don’t achieve what we were wanting in our set time limit, it hardly ever feels good, and we often give-up.
Waiting, especially if we feel we’ve been waiting a long time, often promotes more waiting as the Law of Attraction responds to our feelings of waiting by giving us more things we feel we’re waiting for. (Holy Moses….That’s a lot of waiting in there!!! Hehehe)

I know it can be difficult to take time limits and waiting out of the equation when we really want something, but believing that things are working out for us even when we can’t immediately see how, and knowing we have the power to change our focus and feel better which in turn changes what we’re attracting, is a powerful belief to have, especially when we experience challenges.

I prefer the saying “All in good time,” which for me translates too,

I know things are working out for me,
I believe in the power I have to create what I am wanting in my life,
I know I will attract just the right circumstances that will help to move me closer to that which I am wanting to experience in my life…..

And I invite it!!!

And so it is….

Everything happens for a reason….Does it not???

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Yes, there’s no doubt everything that happens and unfolds within our lives happens for a reason, whether we are aware of this truth or not.

If we’re understanding how the Law of Attraction is working in our lives because we’re seeing the connection between what we’re giving our focused thought and emotion too and what’s turning up, it’s not hard to understand the truth this saying holds for us.
If we are still unaware of these powerful Universal Laws, it doesn’t matter too much, the Law of Attraction is responding equally and consistently to what every person is “putting out there” so to speak, but it would be true to say the more we understand how the Law of Attraction is working in our lives, the better able we are to create more of what we are wanting, and less of what we are not wanting.

Before we’re aware we’re creating our own life experiences, one will often attributes circumstances that happen to external forces such as other people, coincidences, chance happenings, God, or some other magical unknown force, especially if they are unwanted occurrences. And although external influences and circumstances do influence our experiences greatly, that influence comes from our own focused observation, thoughts and feelings in relation to those external circumstances.

Crediting what is turning up in our lives to factors outside of ourselves can often help us temporarily feel better in the short-term when moderately unwanted circumstances happen, but in the long-term and for more strongly unwanted circumstances, it can promote a feeling of helplessness and loss of control over ones life, and that’s rarely a good thing.

It’s always about how we feel when we give any circumstance focused thought, whether it’s something we’re observing or thoughts we bring into our conscious mind. What may feel not so good one day, can feel much better the following day, which is a very good indication positive vibrational movement has been made on the subject we’re giving our attention too.
If we’re believing what’s happening in our lives is happening for a reason and that everything usually works out in the end for our benefit, even if we can’t currently see how or why….This is a great belief that ultimately helps us get closer to achieving what we’re wanting in our lives.
Whereas if we don’t believe things usually work out in our benefit and have no idea why or how things are coming to us….This can make it difficult to achieve what we are wanting.

Some may argue, how can I hold this belief of things working out when my experience has shown me otherwise???
And I say, I know, it’s not easy to promote a belief when we’ve had much evidence in our lives to the contrary, but once we start to understand how those experiences have come to us, how we have attracted them, and notice the difference moving our thought to improved, better feeling vibration places reaps, then it becomes easier to maintain our positive focus in the face of opposition.

This life is a journey of discovery for us all, no matter how much we do or don’t know….And everything that’s happening, the wanted and the unwanted, is leading us into deeper and fuller understanding about life and who we really are!!

It’s when we come to know who we really are and how we are creating our life experiences that we can let go of the struggle we may be currently living.

Life was supposed to be good, and it’s only a matter of time before many of us start living more of the life we intended to live when we made our powerful intention to come into this Physical life!!

And so it is….

I’ve sacrificed so much for this…….Uh oh!!

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If we feel like we’ve given up a lot for anything, whether it be our career, family, children, or friends, this can set us up for disappointment if the effort we feel we’ve put into such things is not reciprocated.

I often hear people say they do many things for their children and feel like their efforts are not appreciated.
And I say, if course our efforts are not appreciated….Children in these days are coming forward with a much stronger understanding of who they are, and who others are. They’re understanding whatever someone does is their choice and not so much about them, even if we are trying to tell them what we’re doing is only for their benefit. If we are feeling resentful about the things we are choosing to do for our children…..this is not ideal.

I know we all have to do thing’s sometimes that we’d rather not,(like going to children’s birthday parties!!!) And yes, maybe we’re doing it because we feel we should, but it’s important to make an effort to move into a better feeling place regarding whatever we’ve chosen to do otherwise it does leave one feeling quite resentful if appreciation for the unwanted effort we’ve made isn’t reciprocated.

From the viewpoint of Law of Attraction, if we are receiving back that which we are giving out through our vibration, and we are, when we feel annoyed or under appreciated, if we give these thoughts and actions plenty of air time and focus through our thought process the likelihood of receiving back appreciation for our efforts are not great. The more actions we take and feel annoyed, under appreciated, or begrudgingly do without improving our thought, the greater the possibility of attracting more circumstances where we may feel under appreciated!!

I know that may sound a bit, well…..annoying, but the truth is, even if we are doing something for someone else’s benefit, we must admit at some level, we are also doing it for ourselves, because we feel it’s the best choice we can make at that time. (even if it is a choice better two unwanted circumstances) It’s about taking responsibility for the choices we make and feeling as good as we can about them, rather than blaming others for “all that we have to do for them!”

Of course it’s wonderful when others appreciate what we do, it would be pretty unusual if we didn’t like to be appreciated, but it must be enough that it’s what we want to do, that it’s something we believe is good or of benefit to ourselves first, and then others.

Trying to make anyone feel guilty by telling them all the things we are doing “just for them,” is not usually a good idea and often encourages a greater lack of appreciation…..unless of course, we bring very unwanted consequences upon them.
Learning to appreciate that which we currently have rather than focusing on that which we do not yet have is a very important part of the creation process, for it’s our positive focus on all that we already have that is working well and good that is the easiest path to all we’re wanting in our future experience!! (Remember, Law of Attraction)

Appreciation is a difficult concept to teach to our children because they believe it’s their natural birthright to have anything they are wanting, and they aren’t too far off the mark with that knowing. I encourage this belief in my children (yes, I really do!!) and explain to them they also need to foster an attitude of appreciation for all they already have that is good rather than focusing on what they don’t immediately get. We also talk about the Law of Attraction and how we’re pre-paving our future experiences by how we are feeling now, and that making an effort to feel as good as we possibly can, especially in the face of unwanted circumstances, is the best we can currently do!
The best way we can hope to teach our children how to appreciate what they currently have is by being an example of appreciation ourselves. I’m not talking about over praising every tiny thing in an out of proportion general way, but more focusing on the good that we see all around us in very genuine and specific ways.

It’s not possible to fake true appreciation, and when we are looking for things to appreciate, it’s not long before the Universe delivers us circumstances that start matching that dominant vibration within us, and that is what one might say is…. “Choice”!!

And so it is….

Revenge is sweet…….Uhhhmmm, I think not……

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Well….If we’re in a place where revenge feels better than where we currently are, the answer would have to be, temporarily, yes…..

But one thing is for sure, no matter where we’re sitting emotionally at the time of carrying out such actions, in the long-term, revenge never ever, ever achieves anything we are really wanting to experience in our lives. This is because the Law of Attraction is adding power too and returning too us what we are giving out, whether we are aware of this or not.

Don’t worry if you’ve had such thoughts in the past, I don’t think there’s probably many people that have lived that haven’t felt these types of emotions at one point or another. The question isn’t whether we’ve had revengeful thoughts or not, but whether we’ve moved ourselves into a better feeling place before we’ve taken any action against someone therefore creating even more power and momentum behind such thoughts, words and actions that will play out in full physical manifestational form if they are not moved into a better feeling vibrational place.

Seeking revenge for something when you feel someone has wronged you is very different to standing up for ones self, and that difference is all about the vibrational place we’re coming from when we carry out whatever actions we feel are necessary for us to come into a better feeling vibrational place.

If we want revenge, this always comes from a negative, not good feeling vibrational place. Even if the thought of it does feel good, it’s because the feeling of revenge is sitting in a better feeling place than where we currently are, whereas if we are standing up for ourselves from a positive feeling place, we have usually already found a better feeling place in relation to what has taken place but may still feel like some benefit may come by further discussion.
If this is what we are wanting to do, one needs to be very strong and focused about keeping a neutral or positive emotional place and be prepared to leave the situation or conversation if things get heated from the other side otherwise there’s a chance of getting pulled down to someone else’s not good feeling vibrational place and that’s not really ideal.

Even if this does happen, it’s not the end of the world because no matter what happens, we have the ability to bring ourselves into a better feeling vibrational place on every and any subject that’s important to us…..But it would also be true to say, it’s easier to bring our thoughts around to a better feeling place before something has physically manifested, because now we have to deal with that manifestation and all the momentum it’s created. Even once something has manifested, we can still improve our thought, it’s just easier to do before it’s a solid reality that’s staring us in the face.

Thoughts of revenge are often fuelled by a desire not to let someone get away with intentionally treating us badly or not nicely, and if actions are taken, it’s often the returning of what has originally been given out, an intention to hurt.
The problem with this is, we may be returning what was given out, but in like fashion, we will also be the receivers of what we have given out. None of us can get around the powerful Laws that govern this Universe, and for me it’s enough to know if people are doing such things, even if it’s personally directed towards me, they will be the receivers of their own creations through their thoughts, words and actions…..unless of course, they make an effort to move to a better feeling place, and I hope they do.

I know it’s not always easy, but by focusing on not nice things others may be doing and retaliating against them in a negative way means they have succeeded in bringing us to a place where through our own focus on what they have done, we are now in a similar not good feeling vibrational place as them, and for me, that is absolutely unacceptable…..
I use all my power and focus to not allow others to have control over how I am feeling. I know I cannot control what others are doing, or who they are currently choosing to be, but there is something I have 100% control over, and that’s myself and how I’m feeling, and I do my best to exercise that power always, but especially when unwanted circumstances arise I feel negative emotion about.

So by paying attention to how we are feeling and generally making a relaxed effort to feel better than how we currently are, especially if we’re experiencing negative emotion, as time goes we find ourselves in better and better feeling places with less time spent in the not so good feeling places…..

And that really is something worth feeling great about….Wouldn’t you say!!

And so it is….

If you want it bad enough…..You’ll achieve it……Really???

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I often wonder about the things that are commonly said, and think maybe not much forethought is put into some comments such as….If you want something bad enough, you’ll achieve it…

This can be said from a positive feeling place to encourage someone who may be close to achieving what they have set out to achieve, but when these words are spoken when one is far away from achieving what they are wanting and may have struggled for quite some time in the pursuit of their goal, it can be quite deflating. It often implies we just haven’t tried hard enough, which is so often untrue it’s unbelievable!! (Unless we’ve tried so hard for so long we’ve given up because it becomes so emotionally difficult and exhausting to continue from this resistant, not good feeling vibrational place)

It’s true to say, when we’re in the pursuit of any goal, the more we focus positively, the greater the likelihood of achieving our set goal is, but on the flip side of this equation is, if our focus is negatively driven, even though our desire can be very strong, the likelihood of achieving our wanted outcome is greatly diminished.

Intense struggle always promotes more struggle (Remember, Law of Attraction) unless our thoughts are moved into a more positive vibrational place where we believe things have the potential to work out for us…..Even if we aren’t currently knowing how. That’s having true belief and knowing how this Universe works and the power we have to create our own life experiences. This belief is difficult to produce without knowing how it is we’re creating our life.

If we’re not knowing we are the creators of our own experience, and even sometimes when we do know, we may attribute unwanted circumstances that turn up in our lives to outside external forces such as God, the government, or other people, and although there are external forces that do have an effect in our lives because we give these subjects our focused attention, we have control over whether we focus on the positive aspects they bring into our lives or all the not good aspects they may bring into our lives…..And that changes everything about our experience and what we will be attracting because we always get that which we give prolonged focused attention too, with strong emotion, whether they are circumstances we’re wanting or not.

If we’ve strived for something for a long time without receiving the results we’re wanting, we probably do need to assess what we’re doing and change something. When we change and hopefully move our thought into a better feeling place, unwanted circumstances often turn up so we can release any negative resistant thoughts we’ve had going on that we may have previously been unaware of.

If we are able to work through what has shown itself to us, our own resistance, this moves us closer to the vibrational vicinity we need to be in to allow what we’re wanting to start flowing into our experience, but it does take some time before we may see improved results, especially if we’re highly focused on the end result we’re wanting, for this can prevent us from seeing all the small improvements that are happening along the way.

This is often what happens when we achieve what we are wanting but it doesn’t feel that great because we realise our journey was very hard work or a struggle, and it wasn’t fun.

There is not one of us alive that does not truly want to achieve what we are wanting in our life, it’s just a matter of how connected we’ve been to our Inner Guidance, the Non-Physical part of ourselves that’s communicating to us through our emotions and if we’ve known what those emotions are indicating.

It’s when we come into vibrational alignment, (our good feeling emotional place) where the blending of the Physical and Non-Physcial parts of us takes place, and that’s when much of our struggle ends and gives way to more of what we are really wanting to experience…..And that really is awesome!!!

And so it is….

Sometimes….We need to come out of our comfort zone….

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This is all about experiencing life, and everything it has to offer.
There’s two things we can count on with 100% accuracy after being born into this Physical world, and they are….
That we will make our transition back to the Non-Physical energy from which we came, and while we’re in this physical body circumstances will be different and changing in every moment that we are alive.

Even though we do create our own life experiences through our thoughts and emotions, our vibration, that the Law of Attraction responds in-kind too, it’s not possible to stay static or in one moment of time, as this goes against the very principle of life which is an ever-changing, constantly forward moving process. Even when things appear as if they are not changing, this is an illusion, they are changing, even if it is only slightly.

Some may disagree explaining that they’ve been doing the same thing for many years without changing, and I say, memories and our perception of those memories are open to different interpretations depending on where we are vibrationally and what we believe when we think about the past.

Everything for sure is constantly changing, but it is possible to create a life where not many new experiences come into our world. This is achieved by making a conscious effort to avoid anything that makes us feel even slightly uncomfortable, and although it’s definitely a very good idea to do things that feel good, it’s also true that sometimes we may need to move ever so slightly out of that comfort zone and make an effort to move our thought into a better feeling vibrational place to experience more things that are good, that we’re wanting in our lives.

There may be many factors we need to consider when deciding to do something that we haven’t done before such as;

~ How strong is my negative emotion I’m feeling towards taking this action and do I think I’ll be able to bring my discomfort into a better feeling vibrational place before I take this action?

~Is this action something I really am wanting to do or wish I could do if I didn’t have a fear of the unknown?

~Do I think this experience is more likely to be positive or negative?

~Do I think I’m resilient enough to move myself into a good feeling vibrational place if circumstances don’t unfold exactly as I’m wanting?

~If I do have a positive experience….Will this help me to let go of resistance towards doing different things that may open a new door that allows many wonderful experiences to flow into my life???

No other can answer these questions for us, only we know exactly how we’re feeling and what we’re wanting in relation to anything we’re considering.
If we do decide to take action on something that sits slightly outside of our comfort zone, it’s important to focus on all the possible positive outcomes we think may be likely (Remember, Law of Attraction!!) And to make a conscious effort to feel as good as we possibly can towards whatever we’re going to do. Deciding to take action and resigning ourselves to feeling bad about whatever we’re doing almost guarantees a less than wanted outcome, and for me, is unacceptable.

I would never advise anyone to do something they were strongly fearful of or feeling strong negative emotion about, but sometimes we do get stuck in our routines and our comfortable place, not moving from it for fear of what might happen or that we won’t have control anymore.

I know it often feels safe when we continue to do the same familiar things, but sometimes we do need to extend ourselves just a little bit, not to bring unwanted negative experiences into our lives, but to open doorways and avenues for wonderful things to come into our lives.

It’s all waiting for us, all the good stuff we’ve been wanting, and we may need to let go of some old beliefs or routines that may have served us well in the past….

But that was then…..And this is now…..

And so it is…..

Am I being a good Husband or Wife???

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That depends on a few different factors such as, what we believe being a good husband or wife involves and whether or not it’s important for us to live up to those beliefs.

In the past I have felt quite uncomfortable when people have suggested I’m being a good housewife. Of course when this is said it’s usually coming from a good feeling place….But it does make me think about the whole husband, wife, and marriage relationships many of us are living.

Traditionally, being a good Husband or Wife usually meant that we would do what was prescribed or largely accepted by the society, community or culture we grew up within, that we may have felt we needed to adhere too, in order to be seen as appropriate or good?

I’m not suggesting many of these values are not working, especially if they are what we’re really wanting to do within our relationships, but it’s not ideal if we’re putting what we are really wanting secondary to what everyone else thinks we should be doing, or what we think others think we should be doing!

Although all the relationships we’re within are constantly changing and we are continually coming to new and improved decisions on how to move forward in the most positive ways we can from wherever we are vibrationally, it’s true to say, if we are always putting someone else’s needs before our own needs, not so much because we want too, but more because we feel this is the way we have to behave otherwise we aren’t a good husband or wife…..Well…..I don’t know???

And yes, I know there needs to be a bit of give and take in every relationship, but if we don’t get our thought in the best feeling place we can when we do compromise, so that it becomes not as much of a compromise, but more something we are wanting to do for ourselves, and the other, this is a much better place to be coming from. If we often do things just for the other without getting ourselves in a good feeling place, we can expect a lot of appreciation in return for our efforts, which we often don’t receive because the other believes we should have wanted to do it, hence two slightly annoyed people!!

It does not matter what type of relationships we’re talking about, getting the best out of them always requires a similar formula.

~Above all other things, be true to who we are and what we’re wanting, and listen to the Inner Guidance we’re receiving from within through our emotions, for this is guiding us to everything we’re wanting, not just in our relationships but in everything.
~Know what it is that we want to bring into our relationship that’s going to make it more Awesome, not just what we want the other to be like or to give.
~Make it a priority to be responsible for our own happiness, rather than relying on someone else to provide that happiness for us.
~Allow others freedom to be themselves, if we are trying to change them, this does not feel good for either party and can cause relationships that were good to turn not so good because of focus on everything about the other we’re not liking!! Remember, the Law of Attraction is responding to our dominant thoughts and feelings on all subjects that are important to us, so if we focus strongly on everything we don’t like about someone, even if it is someone we love deeply, so we receive more of what we are not wanting.
~Sometimes we just need to chill out and relax a bit and not take everything so seriously, choose what’s really important and let the not so important stuff go.
~Know that all usually works out for the best, even when it’s sometimes hard to see how straight away….
It isn’t supposed to be so much hard work, it’s supposed to be fun!!

And so it is….