You’re giving me such Sweet Nothing…..

FlyingFeathersThese are the lyrics of a song by Calvin Harris featuring Florence Welch called Sweet Nothing.

When I first heard this song I loved it, and when I figured out what I thought the words were, I loved it even more. What I thought I was listening to was…..”You’re giving me such Sweet Energy,” and every time I heard it I was like “Wahoo,” and I sung my little heart out like there was no tomorrow!!
After a while I thought I’d better download it, and can you imagine my utter shock at learning the words were actually, “You’re giving me such Sweet Nothing,” the exact opposite meaning to what I thought it was saying.
It’s an interesting listen when this song comes on during our drive to school with the correct version singing Sweet Nothing, me singing Sweet Energy, and my young daughter singing something that sounds like Sexy Elephants…..It’s a real hoot!! (I don’t have the heart to tell her she’s got it wrong, cause Ignorance really is bliss sometimes!!)

I’m sure some are probably thinking I’m crazy right now and what does it matter??? And in the big scheme of things, it doesn’t really matter, especially if you’re not into music, but I love music and it’s important to me what the lyrics are saying because I think quite deeply about what they’re trying to convey. It’s also good to know that when we tune into anything strongly, the thoughts and feelings that went into it during its creation are passed onto the listener, even if it is only temporarily.

I’m not saying everything we listen to has to be about rose petals and sunshine because we often need to acknowledge a problem or unwanted circumstances before we can move into the solution, giving us the opportunity of bringing more of what we’re wanting forward, and into our experience. All I’m saying is it’s good to be aware of what we’re listening too, and that what we’re listening too is often a reflection of where we are, and how we’re currently feeling.

Back to giving me such Sweet Nothing…..This isn’t really possible and if you listen to the lyrics in this song, you’ll hear that the recipient is getting plenty, just nothing that they’re wanting. And that’s exactly how it is when we communicate with anyone, we’re always sending out vibrational signals back and forth that lets us know how our interactions are progressing.
Even if there isn’t much verbal communication, everything we’re thinking and feeling is being communicated vibrationally, it’s not a question of whether this happens or not, but more a question of how sensitive we are to how we’re feeling and the vibrations that others are sending out.

So I suppose the question could be……Do we want to be sensitive to how we’re feeling and the vibrations others are sending out???
Absolutely yes, this is a very good idea. Remember, our emotions are communication from our Non-Physical counterpart (do you like that, our Non-Physical counterpart…..Hehehe!!) letting us know if we’re creating and moving in the direction of what we’re wanting to experience (positive emotions) or if we’re focused in a way that’s attracting what we aren’t wanting to experience. (negative emotions)
The more sensitive we are to how we’re feeling, the sooner we can make an effort to move ourselves into a better feeling vibrational place therefore reducing momentum in a direction we’re not wanting to go and increasing momentum in the direction we are wanting to go in!!! (Again I say, “Wahoo!!”)

Being sensitive to the vibrations of others can help us to know where they currently are, and whether it’s a good idea to interact with them right now, because what is good for one is good for the other, whereas what’s not so good for one is not so good for the other either.
In other words, protecting ones self from not nice interactions with others not only prevents us from creating more unwanted circumstances in our life, but also prevents the other from creating more unwanted things in their life, but probably won’t prevent them from having a not nice interaction with the next person they encounter if they’re really in the place for it….If you know what I mean!! (Momentum and the Law of Attraction!!)

But that’s their choice though, not ours!!

And so it is….

I’m going to live like there’s no tomorrow……

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These are lyrics from an awesome song, Chandelier by Sia.
Now, if I could swing from the chandelier….I totally would, it sounds like fun!! But the fact that one, I don’t have a chandelier, and two if I did have one, I probably couldn’t reach it, rules that out….But I can definitely make an effort to live like there’s no tomorrow!!!

On first thinking about there being no tomorrow, one often thinks of everything they wished they’d done in this life, that they haven’t had the opportunity to do, with a multitude of different scenarios of cool adventures to go on. (OK, maybe not everyone would think like this…..But lets pretend for arguments sake!!!) On deeper reflection, one realises there wouldn’t really be enough time to organise any great adventures before tomorrow arrives, so what would we do once we’d got over the shock of it???

Thinking about this in a positive light often helps to bring our attention to all the things that really matter to us, the things we value in our lives the most, the people we love. Many use this as an example of how the material possessions we have or strive for in our lives mean nothing compared to the people we love.

I agree in as far as focusing on the positive aspects in our lives like the people we love and the good relationships we’re having, is a very good idea and creates even better circumstances in our future experience as the Law of Attraction responds to our positive vibration by sending us more of what we are giving out through our focused thoughts and feelings.

But to then say all material possessions mean nothing……I’d like to see how happy we would be without clothing, shelter, transport, and all the other possessions that make our life Oh so much more enjoyable???

I think many have forgotten that we were Non-Physical beings before we made the choice to come into this Physical world we’re currently living in. We came to experience what this world has to offer, and to choose from all that we see, what it is that we are wishing to bring forward and experience, and that obviously includes material possessions.

Nothing went wrong, and nothing is currently wrong, but it’s true to say that man has come to learn there are limited resources that need to be fought over, that one must fiercely compete and push another down to gain some of these limited resources of money, love, possessions, friendships and whatever else one feels there’s a limited supply of…..and of course, if this is our belief, this will be our experience, we will see evidence everywhere that supports the dominant beliefs we hold.

Whereas the truth is….There is no limitation on the resources one can call on and bring forward through our focused positive attention and belief, our vibration. All that we’re wanting to have and experience is possible, but this I know, is far from the experience of many.

It’s not easy to stand apart from what the majority of society believes when you are apart of that society, but it is possible and the rewards great if one has remained strong in the face of opposition on a grand scale.

As usual, I look at the title of this post and think……Uhmmmmm, I think I may have got a bit sidetracked, Oh well, that’s the way the cookie crumbles sometimes, don’t you think???

For me, living like there’s no tomorrow means doing my best to focus on all the things in my life that are good and bringing who I really am, my best positive self, into the present moment I’m living, especially when interacting with others.
This I believe, eventually brings everything we’re wanting into our life experience!!

And so it is….

After all they shared…..How could he simply say NO???

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After all they shared how could he simply say no….Lyrics to a beautiful song by Delerium featuring Jael.
I was actually searching for a different song on YouTube and happened across this old favourite and immediately knew this is what I was looking for!!

I never watch or listen to news, but it’s amazing how things that are important for me to know or things I’m possibly interested in still make their way into my experience between turning the key, the radio coming on, and putting my iPod on!! Yesterday, the first time I got in the car I heard something about a tribute to Robbie Williams before my iPod came on. I thought, hang on…..Aren’t tributes often done when someone dies……Surely something hasn’t happened to Robbie Williams? Then I thought, nah I would know if that had happened.
I happily did my shopping then got back in the car to drive home. I was about to put my iPod on but an awesome song was playing on the radio, and since it’s only a five-minute drive home, I decided to keep the radio on.

After my song finished, I heard a somber announcer say, here’s our tribute to Robbie Williams, and I thought, Oh No, it is him…..Then a voice quite unlike Robbie Williams came on as they played someone doing many funny voice overs, and I was like, what the??? By the time I got home I realised it wasn’t Robbie Williams, but Robin Williams they were talking about……And I felt sadness…..

For those that have read some of what I write, you will know I mostly speak of moving to better feeling vibrational places, and I stand by that 100%, no matter what’s happening.

But that doesn’t mean we don’t feel sadness or any other negative emotions. Moving into a better feeling place isn’t about denying how one is truly feeling in any given moment, but is more about feeling whatever it is we’re feeling, acknowledging that’s where we currently are, and then making a conscious decision to do our best to move forward and feel better, even if it is only slightly.

Many would say, no I cannot do that, you don’t understand how I’m feeling, I cannot feel better right now. And I say, that is true, no one else knows exactly how we’re feeling about anything, even if they’ve had similar experiences. When our grief is deep and strong it can feel like we don’t have the ability to feel better, and sometimes it may take all our energy just to keep going.
In these circumstances time can be our friend, as we move through time the intensity of our sadness and grief usually lessens and this can be a good opportunity to start consciously trying to move our thoughts and feelings.

I know many struggle with thoughts about death, and it’s only reasonable we would feel strongly about losing someone we dearly love. If we believe they are now at peace and in a better place, that can help to alleviate some of the anguish we may be feeling, but how their transition back to Non-Physical energy came about, and the fact that they will no longer be around us, are realities that cannot be denied for long, and do need to be dealt with for us to truly move forward and be happy once again.

My thoughts go out to those that have lost a loved one in this way….
It’s true, we all came here to love and live this life to it’s fullest, and sometimes we can get a little off track….But when everything is said and done, we also came with the ability to feel the whole spectrum of emotions and with the freewill to choose what we feel is best for us, and although it’s a choice no one would want anyone they love to make, it is a choice we are free to make….

And so it is….

Am I wrong….For thinking outside the box of where I stay???

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Am I wrong, for thinking outside the box of where I stay….The easy answer to that is no!! Whatever we think and then consequently feel is neither right or wrong, it just is, but I think most of us would understand what this is really getting at, and it goes something like this;

I’ve noticed what everyone around me seems to be doing, and it often tends to be of a very similar nature. I do not wish to follow the same path others are on just so I fit in to what is expected of me, but I’ve also noticed that when I speak of my different choices, most try to convince me it’s not a good idea to go against the norm. I know they’re trying to help and give me advice on what they believe is in my best interests and although I still hold true to what I believe is best for me, all that external disapproval no matter how well-meaning it is, does shake my confidence a little and make me wonder if I’m doing the right thing???

Yes, it doesn’t make for the easiest journey in the world when we go against the norms of our family, culture or the society we were bought up in.
But the question has to be asked, what is the alternative??? If what we’re wanting to do does fit in with our up-bringing, that’s great, but if what we’re really wanting to do doesn’t fit in but we still attempt to disregard our true desires and do what others expect of us, that’s not ideal.

It’s not that things can’t work out if we go against what we’re really wanting to do, they can, but that all depends on how we feel about making whatever choice we’ve made and if we’ve put all our positive thoughts and feelings behind those choices. The ability to put our positive thought behind the decisions we make depends largely on how strong our feelings are that we should be doing something else. The stronger our feelings are that we should be doing something other than what we are, the harder it is to get our thought in a positive vibrational place.

Going against something we’re feeling strongly about can have unwanted consequences, especially if our thought is not improved.
Our feelings are communication from our Inner Being, the Non-Physical part of ourselves that’s remained in the Non-Physical realm letting us know we’re going against something we’re really wanting, often intentions we’ve put forward before coming forward into this Physical world, something that if we don’t pursue, we may find it difficult to find true happiness.

Each of us are the only ones that can be the true judge of what we should or shouldn’t be doing based on what we’re wanting and what we feel are the best choices that will get us the closest to what we’re really wanting.
Avoid allowing others that aren’t following what’s in their heart, but what others have told them they should be doing to steer you in a direction that’s not in your best interests.

One thing is for sure, in order to follow through with what ones wanting to do when we’ve received plenty of external disapproval and counteracting advice, we’ve had to be strong in mind and have often improved our thought to an even better vibrational place……which means with time and focus, we’re in the perfect position to achieve exactly that which we’re wanting, and that truly is so good!!!

And so it is….

Who have I surrounded myself with???

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The people we have surrounded ourselves with are a very good indication of where we generally are vibrationally, especially if there are many in a similar vibrational place. (similar in thoughts and emotions)

Some may say, I did not consciously choose many of those I have around me, some are family and work colleagues, and I definitely didn’t choose them, it’s only my friends which I have consciously chosen.
And I say, whether we are aware of it or not, we have chosen every person and every circumstance that has happened or will happen in our lives through our focused thoughts and emotions, our vibration, that the Law of Attraction is responding too and serving up to us people, places and events that are matching the dominant vibrational signals we’re sending out, and it’s the choices we’re continuing to make that keeps everything as it is, no exceptions ever…. This is Universal Law!!

For example, if we’re believing people are generally kind and treat us with respect, this will predominantly be the people we will attract with possibly a little bit of variation depending on our experiences and how strong and pure our thought is in relation to this, whereas if we’re believing people are generally unkind and disrespectful, again these are mostly the people we’ll attract.

Nothing is as black and white as the example I have given, as we all have different vibrations on different subjects based on our previous experiences and our vibration changes and moves every time we observe or experience new circumstances or even when we bring a memory into our mind and think about it.
We do not need to have physical manifestations to move our thought on any subject, although experiencing the reality of anything means we cannot ignore it, especially if it’s a manifestation of a vibration we’ve been unaware of and that’s unwanted!!

Bringing thoughts into our mind and making an effort to move into a better feeling place can initially improve our vibration, and if we take the time to bring that improved thought into our mind often enough, it can become the new dominant vibration within us on this subject as our old maybe more resistant thoughts are no longer getting our focused attention. With time and continued focus, power and momentum towards our new improved thoughts is achieved which translates into a generally better feeling experience and improved physical manifestations!!

Back to the people we have surrounded ourselves with, if we’re coming to know who we really are and how we’re creating our lives, we’re usually making an effort to improve our thoughts and feelings….Yes???
As our vibration improves, this can cause a vibrational gap between us and those that are around us that we were previously in harmony with, especially if others are still unaware that they’re the creators of their own experiences and are not moving too much vibrationally.

Although we maybe able to temporarily affect positive change to someone else’s vibration, it’s not possible to raise someone else’s vibration for any great length of time as each of us is in charge of our own thoughts and feelings and it’s always our job to move ourselves, not someone else’s job to do it for us. That’s not to say others can’t jump on the positive bandwagon so to speak, they can, but the process of maintaining ones improved vibrational place around many others that are not moving much vibrationally is exhausting and can suck any joy or enthusiasm we have for life right out of us.

In the end, something has to give, and it’s a powerful choice, but it may be a choice we’re unaware we’re making??? A choice to continue to improve how we’re feeling and let the Law of Attraction bring to us those that are a vibrational match to where we are, and has to be said, to what will help us move ourselves into better and better places, or to hold ourselves back by continuing to maintain relationships that are a reflection of where we’ve been, not where we’re going???

By no means does this mean all our current relationships will fall by the wayside for all are moving vibrationally in relation to all sorts of things, and many that are close to those that are making great positive vibrationally movement in their lives will find themselves also moving if it’s important for them to feel good and maintain that relationship, but if this is not the case and the vibrational gap becomes great, if we want to continue our positive movement, at some point we have to be prepared to let go of what is no longer serving us.

There’s no right or wrong about it, as this is an individual choice we make based on what we feel is in our best interests at the time, but it’s true to say, relationships cannot be maintained when there are large vibrational gaps, so if one is not moving, the other must halt or considerably slow their progression in order to continue the relationship, and that’s not ideal.

In my experience, when we let go of the need to have a relationship with someone we care about, and especially if we let go of how we’re wishing the relationship could or should be…..Things just seem to work out.
Sometimes that means people do slowly make their way out of our experience, but often it doesn’t, mostly it improves our relationships!
It improves our relationships because its like sending a strong signal out to the Universe that says something like…..

I want the best for myself and the others I interact with and I know this is possible. I understand not much good comes from trying to change others to how I would like them to be (and it’s not possible anyway!!) Or to change myself to what others would like me to be. (this isn’t truly possible either, but we can make ourselves miserable trying!!)
I know that whatever’s turning up, especially if it’s unwanted, is an opportunity to release resistance and move into better feeling vibrational places which is improving my experience.

I trust myself and I trust life, and I continue to believe everything is working out for me….

And so it is….

I’ve sacrificed so much for this…….Uh oh!!

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If we feel like we’ve given up a lot for anything, whether it be our career, family, children, or friends, this can set us up for disappointment if the effort we feel we’ve put into such things is not reciprocated.

I often hear people say they do many things for their children and feel like their efforts are not appreciated.
And I say, if course our efforts are not appreciated….Children in these days are coming forward with a much stronger understanding of who they are, and who others are. They’re understanding whatever someone does is their choice and not so much about them, even if we are trying to tell them what we’re doing is only for their benefit. If we are feeling resentful about the things we are choosing to do for our children…..this is not ideal.

I know we all have to do thing’s sometimes that we’d rather not,(like going to children’s birthday parties!!!) And yes, maybe we’re doing it because we feel we should, but it’s important to make an effort to move into a better feeling place regarding whatever we’ve chosen to do otherwise it does leave one feeling quite resentful if appreciation for the unwanted effort we’ve made isn’t reciprocated.

From the viewpoint of Law of Attraction, if we are receiving back that which we are giving out through our vibration, and we are, when we feel annoyed or under appreciated, if we give these thoughts and actions plenty of air time and focus through our thought process the likelihood of receiving back appreciation for our efforts are not great. The more actions we take and feel annoyed, under appreciated, or begrudgingly do without improving our thought, the greater the possibility of attracting more circumstances where we may feel under appreciated!!

I know that may sound a bit, well…..annoying, but the truth is, even if we are doing something for someone else’s benefit, we must admit at some level, we are also doing it for ourselves, because we feel it’s the best choice we can make at that time. (even if it is a choice better two unwanted circumstances) It’s about taking responsibility for the choices we make and feeling as good as we can about them, rather than blaming others for “all that we have to do for them!”

Of course it’s wonderful when others appreciate what we do, it would be pretty unusual if we didn’t like to be appreciated, but it must be enough that it’s what we want to do, that it’s something we believe is good or of benefit to ourselves first, and then others.

Trying to make anyone feel guilty by telling them all the things we are doing “just for them,” is not usually a good idea and often encourages a greater lack of appreciation…..unless of course, we bring very unwanted consequences upon them.
Learning to appreciate that which we currently have rather than focusing on that which we do not yet have is a very important part of the creation process, for it’s our positive focus on all that we already have that is working well and good that is the easiest path to all we’re wanting in our future experience!! (Remember, Law of Attraction)

Appreciation is a difficult concept to teach to our children because they believe it’s their natural birthright to have anything they are wanting, and they aren’t too far off the mark with that knowing. I encourage this belief in my children (yes, I really do!!) and explain to them they also need to foster an attitude of appreciation for all they already have that is good rather than focusing on what they don’t immediately get. We also talk about the Law of Attraction and how we’re pre-paving our future experiences by how we are feeling now, and that making an effort to feel as good as we possibly can, especially in the face of unwanted circumstances, is the best we can currently do!
The best way we can hope to teach our children how to appreciate what they currently have is by being an example of appreciation ourselves. I’m not talking about over praising every tiny thing in an out of proportion general way, but more focusing on the good that we see all around us in very genuine and specific ways.

It’s not possible to fake true appreciation, and when we are looking for things to appreciate, it’s not long before the Universe delivers us circumstances that start matching that dominant vibration within us, and that is what one might say is…. “Choice”!!

And so it is….

The Right to Life or Death….Whose decision is it???

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Each of us is ultimately in charge of our own mind and physical body, and although we may be influenced by the thoughts and beliefs of our society, culture, and the family we’ve grown up in, in the end it’s our decision whether we want to continue in this physical life or not.

When we enter this time-space reality, we came forward with strong purpose and intentions for this physical life, so our desire to live and experience the life we have chosen, is a very strong and powerful calling that sits at the very core of who we really are.

The ending of life in this physical body is a decision made by either the Physical us, the Non-Physical us or a combination of both the Physical and Non-Physical parts of us. For most, it would be true to say, this decision is usually made from our Non-Physical perspective.

The main reasons for making our transition back to the Non-Physical realm are;
~ The intentions that we put forward when coming into our current Physical life have been achieved and the soul is ready for a fresh and new Physical perspective. (Imagine wearing the same outfit for centuries, even if we really liked it, eventually we’d want to wear something different, so it is with experiencing different lives!!) Hehehe….That’s a very good analogy, I like it!!
~ If much resistant has been gathered over time while in our current Physical life, this takes a toll on the mind and body to a point where both may start to break down and the decision is made to return to the Non-Physical realm once again.

No matter how the circumstances unfold, it’s always us who decides when, where and how we will make our transition back to Non-Physical, even when we are not aware this is the case, which often we are not.
Although there are always exceptions to what most are doing, to make a conscious decision to leave this life experience from our Physical perspective requires us to have either gained insight into how we are creating our life, and how we may wish to end it in a desirable way, or we may have gradually gotten ourselves into a very not good feeling vibrational place we feel we cannot come out of, therefore making the choice to leave this body.
Some may find this hard to believe and I totally understand that point of view, for if we have not known there is another part of us that’s remained in the Non-Physical realm, and that this Non-Physical counterpart has been communicating to the Physical here and now part of us through our thoughts and emotions, our vibration…this would seem, well…weird.
Life truly is never-ending, and although we will all leave the body we’re currently in, who we really are never dies, but simply changes form.
When we are understanding this, we no longer feel the need to make judgements about whether others should continue in a painful manner at the end of their physical life, especially if this is not what they are wanting, and let’s be honest, not many would want to end this physical life in pain, but may feel they don’t have a choice or may be frightened to let go because they are unsure of what, if anything, may follow.

The death experience will come to us all, that we can be sure of, and when we can understand and embrace this truth about life, there is not much left to fear, and now we can live (and make our transition) as we intended too, just as we made our powerful and joyful decision to come forward into this physical life in the first place!!

And so it is….

Who is my Spiritual Guide???

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I’m sure many people have pondered whether they have a Spiritual Guide or not. This probably depends on whether we’re even believing in this concept.
As with all ideas that are new or foreign to us, it often takes some time and thought before we can come up with any opinion of where we sit in relation to this subject, and depending on where our current beliefs are, will depend on whether we will completely discount the possibility of such things.

It is not my intention to convince you into or out of what ever you are believing is right for you at this time, but it is my intention that I may give you “some things” to ponder in relation to Spiritual Guides.

When I speak of Spiritual Guides, I specifically mean the Individual, Non-Physical, Source Energy guidance that is available to each and every one of us in every moment of this physical life we are living.

Our Spiritual Guide is not some Higher Being that is a far more superior being than us, our Spiritual Guide is the Non-Physical part of us that remained in the Non-Physical realm to help guide the Physical part of us through this life journey, so in other words….”Our Spiritual Guide is ourselves!” That’s pretty tricky don’t you think? Hehehe….
The Non-Physical part of us holds all the knowledge and experiences from the previous lives we have lived, knows all the intentions and desires we had when we came forward into the life we are currently living, and knows every amended desire, intention and experience we’ve had since we’ve been in this physical life and is guiding us in a direction that will lead us to all we have decided through the living of, not just this life, but all the lives we have lived, what we are wanting, by the easiest and most enjoyable route available!!

And how does our Spiritual Guide, or Non-Physical counterpart achieve this???
Through our emotions. Whenever we are feeling any emotion, whether it be positive or negative, we are receiving, individual, personal, and awesome Inner Guidance from the Non-Physical part of us indicating in which way we are moving.
Positive emotion indicates we are moving in the direction of wanted circumstances in our life, the stronger the emotional feeling is and the longer we experience it for, the closer we are to the physical manifestation of something that will be very pleasing when it turns up.
Negative emotion indicates we are moving in the direction of unwanted circumstances in our life, the stronger the emotional feeling is and the longer we experience it for, the closer we are to the physical manifestation of something that will not be very pleasing to us if it turns up.

So, who decides what I do at any given time, the Non-Physical part of me, or the physical part of me?
Well, I’m pretty sure that most people know the Physical, here and now part of us is making the decisions in our lives, based on what we feel is best once we’ve considered all the factors that are important to us.
But when we start to understand exactly what our emotions are telling us, and we start to make an effort to move our thoughts and feelings to an improved vibrational place, our life starts to change for the better.

Many have taken negative emotion that they are feeling as an indication that someone else is doing something “wrong,” whereas it more accurately indicates, we are now either thinking, speaking, observing, or doing something that is moving us in a direction we are not wanting to go.
Now feeling negative emotion is not the end of the world and all of us experience it to varying degrees depending on how much we’ve made an effort to focus on the best in life, or on how much we’ve focused on what we are not liking, or what isn’t working in our life.
And I understand it’s not always possible to just stop something we feel we have to do, for there is often much power and momentum behind such things, but it is completely possible to feel slightly better than where we currently are while we’re doing whatever it is we’re doing…..And that does change everything!!

So we can call it whatever we want, Spiritual Guide, Non-Physical part of ourselves, Inner Being, Soul, or Source Energy….The words don’t matter, but what does matter is we know we have access to this energy that is essentially us, or who we truly are, in every moment of this physical life….
To access this power, we must do our best to move into the vibrational place of it by noticing how we are thinking and feeling at any given moment, and making an effort to feel slightly better. The more we do this, the more we will feel the absolute power of “Who we really are!”
This is what happens when the Physical and Non-Physical parts of us align and blend as one, and like anything we do in life, the more often we achieve this “Alignment,” the easier it is to return to the vibrational place of it, for you cannot mistake it when you find yourself here, for you will feel and know, that this is what you came here for!!

And so it is….

Could “Whatever”…be the best word in the world???

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This is a good follow-on from “The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree,” since it is a word our children often love to use, much to the disgust of many parents I’m sure!!
So I totally get it, it can be extremely frustrating when you’re trying to communicate with someone and all they offer you as a response is “whatever” with a lot of attitude. (Yep, I’ve had that comment given to me more times than I care to remember, but I probably need to add I love to use it myself too….Hehehe!!)
But what does someone usually mean when they say this, beyond trying to annoy the living daylights out of us!!

It’s a way of saying, “I don’t agree with what you are saying right now, and I don’t like it, and I know if I try to communicate anything to you….it’s just going to get ugly cause I’m pretty sure you’re not in a place to hear anything I’ve got to say about it, so I’ll sort of keep the peace, or more to the point, keep quite otherwise I may receive some consequences I’m not wanting, but I want you to know how I feel anyway!!”

Oh, that’s pretty good don’t you think….That’s a lot to convey in just one word, but that’s totally what it does.

So I think it can be good in the sense our children are not just accepting everything others are telling them just because we’ve been in a physical body longer than they have, and although this can make you want to pull your hair out and scream, it is a very positive aspect of who they really are coming through.

Many children coming forward from Non-Physical in these times are very strong-willed and not easily lead away from what they are wanting by others, or what they are believing is good for them.
Now I understand this makes for some very challenging times, especially if we are wanting them to follow all the rules we may have followed when we were growing up, and I would go as far to say, if this is what we are trying to impose on our children, it’s very likely this will cause extreme behaviours until we learn to communicate with them in a way that includes them in the decisions we make, rather than dictating everything to them without seeking their opinions and ideas.

I like to think of it as more of a collaboration rather than a dictatorship style of communicating, and to tell you the truth, from what I see, most of us are doing a pretty good job considering the vast difference from the way many of us were brought up.

So maybe this word isn’t as bad as what some of us may have thought?
For when our children grow-up and leave the nest, if they have learnt to just follow everything someone else says, they can be lost when they’re on their own.
Of course they usually find their way, but why would we make things harder for them than they need to be? Encouraging good communication, problem solving, respect for others, and the ability to change as the circumstances may require are totally awesome skills to teach and be an example of!

It’s very interesting to ponder…. “Who’s teaching who?”
I can only speak from my own personal experiences, when I tell you, through having to learn new and improved ways of interacting with my children in a positive manner, I have become a better person….And I can only hope they learn as much good stuff about themselves from me, as I have learnt from them….

And so it is….

The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree….

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I’m sure many people have probably heard this saying, whether or not they agree with what it’s getting at, is another matter.
For those of you who know me, you’ll know I love thinking and talking about common sayings and the deeper meanings they can hold for us, that the understanding of has the possibility of improving our life experiences, and sometimes it’s just interesting to ponder such things….
My interpretation of this analogy is something like this, the tree represents the parents in a family and the apples represent the children of the family.
So, if “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree,” this means that when children are brought up in any environment, they will more or less take on the values of those that have raised them. This includes cultural norms, community and family values, and may include religious beliefs or customs.
Some may disagree and say, “No, I disagreed strongly with some of the beliefs I was brought up with and have ensured I have not done the same in my life,” which often causes a strong behavioural change to the opposite end of the behavioural scale so to speak, some thing I like to call “And so the pendulum swings.” (Yep, you guessed it, I’ve written about that one too!!)

Now back to our apples…. I’m sure it’s not hard to see for most that there’s much truth to this saying, for it’s not possible to be in any environment for an extended amount of time without acclimatising to that which surrounds you, whether you are a child or an adult, but it’s far more pronounced for children than adults, because on the whole, they do not have the ability to remove themselves from the environment they have been born into….well not initially anyway, and are often programmed very strongly from the moment they come forth into what is and what isn’t appropriate, by the older more experienced members in the family.

Now, whatever belief system we’ve been born into doesn’t really matter, but what is important is as we start to grow up and mature and especially once we leave the family home and environment, that we question the beliefs we’ve been programmed with and decide for ourselves what we wish to believe and how we want to live our lives.
This can often be a hard task, for as many of you will already know, the Law of Attraction will respond to the beliefs we hold and we will see evidence of it everywhere we turn, which we often accept as, “That’s the way things have to be, because look, the evidence is everywhere!”
Now for sure, that’s the way things may be for some people if that’s what they believe, but it does not ultimately have to be that way. It’s always a choice, but sometimes it’s a choice we aren’t aware we have, and even once we are consciously aware, it does takes some very good focused thought to change beliefs that have been held for a long time that we’ve seen much physical manifestational evidence about.
And remember, just because something is true, does not mean you must give your attention to it, a better criteria to use is….”Is this….I’m giving my attention to now something I wish to experience in my life???”
Some may say, “Why should I even bother,” And I say, until we have questioned how we have been raised and the beliefs that have been passed to us, we have not truly grown up, but are carrying on with what we were programmed with.
This doesn’t mean that all our beliefs need changing, for many things we have been taught are serving us extremely well, but I’m sure it’s true somewhat for all of us, some beliefs we hold are not serving us well, and as these beliefs are held onto longer, so the evidence we receive from the Law of Attraction becomes stronger.
It’s absolutely possible to move any belief we want to into a better feeling vibrational place, but if it’s a belief that has been held for a long time, like all of our life, it does take some time and effort to move them in the direction of beliefs that will serve us and produce more wanted results, because after all, we didn’t come to any of our strong beliefs all in one day, so it’s probably going to take more that one day to change them, but we can totally do it if that’s what we’re wanting….I know it!!

And so it is….