I do not play happy families…..Do you???

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This is by no means a statement suggesting I don’t like or don’t want to have happy family interactions in my life…..I definitely do.
It’s more a statement that I will not “play or pretend” that everything is rainbows and lollipops, when it is not!!!

Whether or not we’re prepared to play the game of “happy families” when we are not will depend on the choices we believe we have before us, and which choices we believe will give us the best feeling or most wanted outcome.

Some may argue and say, “No, I don’t want to do it, but I’m doing it for the children, or my parents, or my partner, or whomever else’s expectations or influence I’ve put as more important than mine.”
And I say yes, nothing is purely black and white when we’re dealing with many different people in different vibrational places bringing varied beliefs and life experiences to the table. It can make for some very challenging situations and difficult choices to be made.
But when all the complexities of any decision we’re making are taken into consideration, we must acknowledge that it’s always our final decision on what we do. No other has the power to make us do what we are not wanting to do, even if we think they do….They do not, it’s our choice.

I know it’s not always easy if we’ve made it our job to try to keep others happy by doing what they think we should do. Putting someone else’s happiness above what we’re wanting to do or what we believe is best for us is rarely a good idea unless we are able to put all our positive feelings and thoughts behind the choices that we’ve made, even if it is primarily for someone else’s benefit. It’s when we go against what we really want to do for someone else and feel resentful about it when things can go off in the ditch in an unpleasant way…..Hehehe (Opps….Just laughing about the “off in the ditch” bit!!!)
But seriously, I know it’s not nice when things don’t work out how we wanted them too, like who does???
If we make a decision to be true to ourselves and do what we are wanting even though others may not like it, it’s important to focus on all the positives of making our decision and to stand firm in our own thoughts.
If we make a decision to do something we aren’t wanting to really do but feel others will benefit and that’s very important to us, we need to do the same by focusing on all the positives of making our decision and try not to entertain resentful or negative thoughts.

We may not be able to control what others are doing and saying…..Let me rephrase that, we definitely aren’t able to control what others do and say, but one thing is for sure, we can control what we do and say. By taking the time to move to a better feeling vibrational place before we find ourselves in a less than wanted situation, greatly increases the possibility of circumstances unfolding in a more wanted direction as the Law of Attraction responds to our improved feeling place on the subject.

When all is said and done, no matter what we do, some things will always play themselves out. This is because when we’re interacting with others there is a mixture of vibrations that the Law of Attraction will be responding too. What manifests in these situations will be a blending of those vibrations, with the person that has focused for the longest time with the strongest emotional intensity usually dominating the vibrational space and effecting what is currently manifesting the most.

The person with the thoughts that have gained the most power and momentum through a lot of focused attention over time, whether they are positive and wanted or negative and unwanted will often influence the others vibrations they’re interacting with into their vibrational place, unless one is very strong and not easily moved from their vibrational place by others.

So the moral of the story is…..

~We are all free to choose what we are wanting to do.
~Once we’ve made a decision, focus on all the good that will come from your decision and feel good about it.
~Be easily influenced into a positive good feeling vibrational place by the happy ones around you!!!
~Stand firm in your positive good feeling vibrational place when around unhappy ones…..And for gods sake, don’t stay around them for too long unless you feel like you need to be miserable for a while to appreciate how good it is to feel awesome again!!!

Hehehe…..How true is that!!!

And so it is….

Don’t Blame it on me!!!

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These are lyrics from the recent awesome song Blame, by Calvin Harris featuring John Newman.

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard someone utter, “Don’t blame me,” or “It’s not my fault”….I would totally be rich!! Hehehe

Although there are very real consequences that come from the actions we and others take, if we’re starting to understand we are the creators of our own life experiences and that we create those life experiences through our own focused thoughts and attention…..One must come to the realisation that blaming others for circumstances that have manifested in our lives is a futile and counter productive endeavour.

It doesn’t mean that blaming others is wrong. It’s not really a matter of right or wrong but more a matter of, does blaming others move us in a direction we are wanting to go in or is it moving us in a direction of something we are not wanting to experience??? (Law of Attraction)

If blaming others feels good, this is because we are moving into a better feeling vibrational place than we were currently in before we choose to blame. In other words, moving from a less powerful place to a more empowered place which is a natural and good occurrence. This is our natural tendency and desire to feel as good as we possibly can at any given moment in time.

So blame can be a good short-term place for us to be in as long as we don’t get stuck there for too long. It’s quite a strong negative emotional place to be in and does draw unwanted circumstances if we allow ourselves to stay there without making the effort to move vibrationally.

I like to think of it as a bit of a balancing act between taking responsibility in a positive way for what comes into our experience and acknowledging that everyone is in different vibrational places that we don’t have control over. It’s virtually impossible to remember every thought and feeling we’ve had to every circumstance we’ve experienced in the past, so these small unwanted occurrences can be a good opportunity to move into a better vibrational place on something we might not have been previously aware we had a vibration about.

It’s difficult not to blame when we feel someone has done something with the intention to hurt us, and this does take some time and effort to move to a better vibrational place about, but it is important to do if we want to create improved circumstances in our future experiences.
If we do find ourselves in situations where others are intentionally being unkind, it’s a good idea to walk away, but if we feel we must stand up and say something, speak as calmly and emotionally neutral as possible being prepared to walk away if they want to argue.
It’s also good to remember that how others behave is more about who they are currently being, rather than it is about who we are currently being.
I do not say this in a negative or revengeful emotional way but more as a statement of fact and Universal Law…. If those that are intentionally being unkind to others knew that they would eventually receive back that which they have originally given out, they would not be doing such things….

Focusing as much as possible on the aspects in our lives that are good and on what we are wanting in a positive way is a great way to receive more of what we love and are wanting…..And I say, “That is so Awesome!!”

And so it is….

You’re giving me such Sweet Nothing…..

FlyingFeathersThese are the lyrics of a song by Calvin Harris featuring Florence Welch called Sweet Nothing.

When I first heard this song I loved it, and when I figured out what I thought the words were, I loved it even more. What I thought I was listening to was…..”You’re giving me such Sweet Energy,” and every time I heard it I was like “Wahoo,” and I sung my little heart out like there was no tomorrow!!
After a while I thought I’d better download it, and can you imagine my utter shock at learning the words were actually, “You’re giving me such Sweet Nothing,” the exact opposite meaning to what I thought it was saying.
It’s an interesting listen when this song comes on during our drive to school with the correct version singing Sweet Nothing, me singing Sweet Energy, and my young daughter singing something that sounds like Sexy Elephants…..It’s a real hoot!! (I don’t have the heart to tell her she’s got it wrong, cause Ignorance really is bliss sometimes!!)

I’m sure some are probably thinking I’m crazy right now and what does it matter??? And in the big scheme of things, it doesn’t really matter, especially if you’re not into music, but I love music and it’s important to me what the lyrics are saying because I think quite deeply about what they’re trying to convey. It’s also good to know that when we tune into anything strongly, the thoughts and feelings that went into it during its creation are passed onto the listener, even if it is only temporarily.

I’m not saying everything we listen to has to be about rose petals and sunshine because we often need to acknowledge a problem or unwanted circumstances before we can move into the solution, giving us the opportunity of bringing more of what we’re wanting forward, and into our experience. All I’m saying is it’s good to be aware of what we’re listening too, and that what we’re listening too is often a reflection of where we are, and how we’re currently feeling.

Back to giving me such Sweet Nothing…..This isn’t really possible and if you listen to the lyrics in this song, you’ll hear that the recipient is getting plenty, just nothing that they’re wanting. And that’s exactly how it is when we communicate with anyone, we’re always sending out vibrational signals back and forth that lets us know how our interactions are progressing.
Even if there isn’t much verbal communication, everything we’re thinking and feeling is being communicated vibrationally, it’s not a question of whether this happens or not, but more a question of how sensitive we are to how we’re feeling and the vibrations that others are sending out.

So I suppose the question could be……Do we want to be sensitive to how we’re feeling and the vibrations others are sending out???
Absolutely yes, this is a very good idea. Remember, our emotions are communication from our Non-Physical counterpart (do you like that, our Non-Physical counterpart…..Hehehe!!) letting us know if we’re creating and moving in the direction of what we’re wanting to experience (positive emotions) or if we’re focused in a way that’s attracting what we aren’t wanting to experience. (negative emotions)
The more sensitive we are to how we’re feeling, the sooner we can make an effort to move ourselves into a better feeling vibrational place therefore reducing momentum in a direction we’re not wanting to go and increasing momentum in the direction we are wanting to go in!!! (Again I say, “Wahoo!!”)

Being sensitive to the vibrations of others can help us to know where they currently are, and whether it’s a good idea to interact with them right now, because what is good for one is good for the other, whereas what’s not so good for one is not so good for the other either.
In other words, protecting ones self from not nice interactions with others not only prevents us from creating more unwanted circumstances in our life, but also prevents the other from creating more unwanted things in their life, but probably won’t prevent them from having a not nice interaction with the next person they encounter if they’re really in the place for it….If you know what I mean!! (Momentum and the Law of Attraction!!)

But that’s their choice though, not ours!!

And so it is….

After all they shared…..How could he simply say NO???

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After all they shared how could he simply say no….Lyrics to a beautiful song by Delerium featuring Jael.
I was actually searching for a different song on YouTube and happened across this old favourite and immediately knew this is what I was looking for!!

I never watch or listen to news, but it’s amazing how things that are important for me to know or things I’m possibly interested in still make their way into my experience between turning the key, the radio coming on, and putting my iPod on!! Yesterday, the first time I got in the car I heard something about a tribute to Robbie Williams before my iPod came on. I thought, hang on…..Aren’t tributes often done when someone dies……Surely something hasn’t happened to Robbie Williams? Then I thought, nah I would know if that had happened.
I happily did my shopping then got back in the car to drive home. I was about to put my iPod on but an awesome song was playing on the radio, and since it’s only a five-minute drive home, I decided to keep the radio on.

After my song finished, I heard a somber announcer say, here’s our tribute to Robbie Williams, and I thought, Oh No, it is him…..Then a voice quite unlike Robbie Williams came on as they played someone doing many funny voice overs, and I was like, what the??? By the time I got home I realised it wasn’t Robbie Williams, but Robin Williams they were talking about……And I felt sadness…..

For those that have read some of what I write, you will know I mostly speak of moving to better feeling vibrational places, and I stand by that 100%, no matter what’s happening.

But that doesn’t mean we don’t feel sadness or any other negative emotions. Moving into a better feeling place isn’t about denying how one is truly feeling in any given moment, but is more about feeling whatever it is we’re feeling, acknowledging that’s where we currently are, and then making a conscious decision to do our best to move forward and feel better, even if it is only slightly.

Many would say, no I cannot do that, you don’t understand how I’m feeling, I cannot feel better right now. And I say, that is true, no one else knows exactly how we’re feeling about anything, even if they’ve had similar experiences. When our grief is deep and strong it can feel like we don’t have the ability to feel better, and sometimes it may take all our energy just to keep going.
In these circumstances time can be our friend, as we move through time the intensity of our sadness and grief usually lessens and this can be a good opportunity to start consciously trying to move our thoughts and feelings.

I know many struggle with thoughts about death, and it’s only reasonable we would feel strongly about losing someone we dearly love. If we believe they are now at peace and in a better place, that can help to alleviate some of the anguish we may be feeling, but how their transition back to Non-Physical energy came about, and the fact that they will no longer be around us, are realities that cannot be denied for long, and do need to be dealt with for us to truly move forward and be happy once again.

My thoughts go out to those that have lost a loved one in this way….
It’s true, we all came here to love and live this life to it’s fullest, and sometimes we can get a little off track….But when everything is said and done, we also came with the ability to feel the whole spectrum of emotions and with the freewill to choose what we feel is best for us, and although it’s a choice no one would want anyone they love to make, it is a choice we are free to make….

And so it is….

Am I wrong….For thinking outside the box of where I stay???

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Am I wrong, for thinking outside the box of where I stay….The easy answer to that is no!! Whatever we think and then consequently feel is neither right or wrong, it just is, but I think most of us would understand what this is really getting at, and it goes something like this;

I’ve noticed what everyone around me seems to be doing, and it often tends to be of a very similar nature. I do not wish to follow the same path others are on just so I fit in to what is expected of me, but I’ve also noticed that when I speak of my different choices, most try to convince me it’s not a good idea to go against the norm. I know they’re trying to help and give me advice on what they believe is in my best interests and although I still hold true to what I believe is best for me, all that external disapproval no matter how well-meaning it is, does shake my confidence a little and make me wonder if I’m doing the right thing???

Yes, it doesn’t make for the easiest journey in the world when we go against the norms of our family, culture or the society we were bought up in.
But the question has to be asked, what is the alternative??? If what we’re wanting to do does fit in with our up-bringing, that’s great, but if what we’re really wanting to do doesn’t fit in but we still attempt to disregard our true desires and do what others expect of us, that’s not ideal.

It’s not that things can’t work out if we go against what we’re really wanting to do, they can, but that all depends on how we feel about making whatever choice we’ve made and if we’ve put all our positive thoughts and feelings behind those choices. The ability to put our positive thought behind the decisions we make depends largely on how strong our feelings are that we should be doing something else. The stronger our feelings are that we should be doing something other than what we are, the harder it is to get our thought in a positive vibrational place.

Going against something we’re feeling strongly about can have unwanted consequences, especially if our thought is not improved.
Our feelings are communication from our Inner Being, the Non-Physical part of ourselves that’s remained in the Non-Physical realm letting us know we’re going against something we’re really wanting, often intentions we’ve put forward before coming forward into this Physical world, something that if we don’t pursue, we may find it difficult to find true happiness.

Each of us are the only ones that can be the true judge of what we should or shouldn’t be doing based on what we’re wanting and what we feel are the best choices that will get us the closest to what we’re really wanting.
Avoid allowing others that aren’t following what’s in their heart, but what others have told them they should be doing to steer you in a direction that’s not in your best interests.

One thing is for sure, in order to follow through with what ones wanting to do when we’ve received plenty of external disapproval and counteracting advice, we’ve had to be strong in mind and have often improved our thought to an even better vibrational place……which means with time and focus, we’re in the perfect position to achieve exactly that which we’re wanting, and that truly is so good!!!

And so it is….

I’ve got one less problem without you…..OK???

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These are the lyrics to a popular song right now, and as I listened to it, it made me think about what they were saying.

I’ve got one less problem without you, well maybe yes, and maybe no…. That depends entirely on our focus, don’t you think???
And as the title suggests, the answer or solution is to simply remove that unwanted person from our experience and all our problems (related to them) will be gone!! Whether this is a solution that’s likely to work in the long-term, depends entirely on where we are vibrationally when we take whatever action we’ve decided to take.

So let’s put a hypothetical situation forward as I seem to be liking doing that at the moment.
Say there’s someone in our recent experience we have a reasonable amount of contact with that’s behaving in a way that we’ve decided through the living of our life, is no longer in alignment with who we are, what we’re about and what we’re wanting to experience.

When taking action in relation to removing someone from our experience, if we’re feeling any negative emotion that’s strong in intensity that we’ve been feeling for some time, (achieving power and momentum of thought) this is a good indication we haven’t completely released resistance we’ve had from whatever has happened during this relationship which means we have a very good chance of attracting similar people or relationships in our future experience that have many similar characteristics to the relationship we’ve just left behind!!
That reminds me of a saying that speaks exactly to this truth, different places, different faces, same results.

On the opposite end of the scale, if we’ve made an effort to move ourselves into a better feeling place by working through our negative emotions and making peace with whatever has happened, we can move forward in a more positive way which means we don’t usually repeat the same experiences over and over because we’re gradually clearing the resistance we’ve got going on which is sometimes what attracted such a relationship in the first place. Action from more of a positive feeling place allows more of what we’re really wanting to experience in a relationship to flow into our experience!!

Many may say, I cannot make peace with what’s happened because what they did was wrong, and I will not pretend it was anything else.
And I say, moving to a better feeling place does not mean that what someone did was something we agree with, it’s about knowing that by holding onto resentment towards others, the Law of Attraction responds to the strong vibration we’re emitting, and if our vibration is not improved, we will be the receiver of similar circumstances again.
It’s only for our own benefit that one would make the effort to feel better, and any benefit that others may experience from our improved vibrational place is just an added bonus.

I know the relationships we have with others are complex and continually changing from day to day, one day things can be great, whereas the next day maybe not so great, but no matter how things are unfolding, we are the ones that hold the power in relation to our own experience and the relationships we’re having. We do not have the power to control what others say or do, but we have complete control over our thoughts and how we feel, and when we start to exercise control over what we’re vibrationally sending out, that changes everything!

Whether we’re continuing with the relationships we currently have or moving into new relationships, as long as we’re doing our best to move into a better feeling place at any given moment……That has to be good enough…..

And so it is…..

Who have I surrounded myself with???

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The people we have surrounded ourselves with are a very good indication of where we generally are vibrationally, especially if there are many in a similar vibrational place. (similar in thoughts and emotions)

Some may say, I did not consciously choose many of those I have around me, some are family and work colleagues, and I definitely didn’t choose them, it’s only my friends which I have consciously chosen.
And I say, whether we are aware of it or not, we have chosen every person and every circumstance that has happened or will happen in our lives through our focused thoughts and emotions, our vibration, that the Law of Attraction is responding too and serving up to us people, places and events that are matching the dominant vibrational signals we’re sending out, and it’s the choices we’re continuing to make that keeps everything as it is, no exceptions ever…. This is Universal Law!!

For example, if we’re believing people are generally kind and treat us with respect, this will predominantly be the people we will attract with possibly a little bit of variation depending on our experiences and how strong and pure our thought is in relation to this, whereas if we’re believing people are generally unkind and disrespectful, again these are mostly the people we’ll attract.

Nothing is as black and white as the example I have given, as we all have different vibrations on different subjects based on our previous experiences and our vibration changes and moves every time we observe or experience new circumstances or even when we bring a memory into our mind and think about it.
We do not need to have physical manifestations to move our thought on any subject, although experiencing the reality of anything means we cannot ignore it, especially if it’s a manifestation of a vibration we’ve been unaware of and that’s unwanted!!

Bringing thoughts into our mind and making an effort to move into a better feeling place can initially improve our vibration, and if we take the time to bring that improved thought into our mind often enough, it can become the new dominant vibration within us on this subject as our old maybe more resistant thoughts are no longer getting our focused attention. With time and continued focus, power and momentum towards our new improved thoughts is achieved which translates into a generally better feeling experience and improved physical manifestations!!

Back to the people we have surrounded ourselves with, if we’re coming to know who we really are and how we’re creating our lives, we’re usually making an effort to improve our thoughts and feelings….Yes???
As our vibration improves, this can cause a vibrational gap between us and those that are around us that we were previously in harmony with, especially if others are still unaware that they’re the creators of their own experiences and are not moving too much vibrationally.

Although we maybe able to temporarily affect positive change to someone else’s vibration, it’s not possible to raise someone else’s vibration for any great length of time as each of us is in charge of our own thoughts and feelings and it’s always our job to move ourselves, not someone else’s job to do it for us. That’s not to say others can’t jump on the positive bandwagon so to speak, they can, but the process of maintaining ones improved vibrational place around many others that are not moving much vibrationally is exhausting and can suck any joy or enthusiasm we have for life right out of us.

In the end, something has to give, and it’s a powerful choice, but it may be a choice we’re unaware we’re making??? A choice to continue to improve how we’re feeling and let the Law of Attraction bring to us those that are a vibrational match to where we are, and has to be said, to what will help us move ourselves into better and better places, or to hold ourselves back by continuing to maintain relationships that are a reflection of where we’ve been, not where we’re going???

By no means does this mean all our current relationships will fall by the wayside for all are moving vibrationally in relation to all sorts of things, and many that are close to those that are making great positive vibrationally movement in their lives will find themselves also moving if it’s important for them to feel good and maintain that relationship, but if this is not the case and the vibrational gap becomes great, if we want to continue our positive movement, at some point we have to be prepared to let go of what is no longer serving us.

There’s no right or wrong about it, as this is an individual choice we make based on what we feel is in our best interests at the time, but it’s true to say, relationships cannot be maintained when there are large vibrational gaps, so if one is not moving, the other must halt or considerably slow their progression in order to continue the relationship, and that’s not ideal.

In my experience, when we let go of the need to have a relationship with someone we care about, and especially if we let go of how we’re wishing the relationship could or should be…..Things just seem to work out.
Sometimes that means people do slowly make their way out of our experience, but often it doesn’t, mostly it improves our relationships!
It improves our relationships because its like sending a strong signal out to the Universe that says something like…..

I want the best for myself and the others I interact with and I know this is possible. I understand not much good comes from trying to change others to how I would like them to be (and it’s not possible anyway!!) Or to change myself to what others would like me to be. (this isn’t truly possible either, but we can make ourselves miserable trying!!)
I know that whatever’s turning up, especially if it’s unwanted, is an opportunity to release resistance and move into better feeling vibrational places which is improving my experience.

I trust myself and I trust life, and I continue to believe everything is working out for me….

And so it is….

Am I being selfish enough…..To look after myself???

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The word “selfish” has definitely come to mean a very negative quality that one would not usually be happy to be called, for when this is said it usually implies taking advantage of others for our own personal gain, a trait that most would agree is…..Well, not very nice!! (Remember, Law of Attraction)

When I speak about being selfish, which by the way we all are to different degrees, I’m talking about looking after our own needs and wants before others, but definitely not to the detriment of others, and often for the upliftment of all involved.

Do you think that’s selfish???
Yes, it most certainly is, but consider this for a moment. When did it become “not good” to look after ones own interests in a positive way? And I ask the question, who is going to look after you, if you will not?

We intentionally and specifically came into this physical world to decide and create for ourselves the life we’re wanting to live, so no other is able or can look after us better than we can. Every one of us has our own personal perspectives on life based on everything we’ve experienced, and unless someone has the ability to get inside us and know exactly how we’re thinking and feeling in relation to what we’ve experienced and what we’re wanting, they’re not in a better position than we are to decide what we should be doing.

That’s not to say we can’t get some good external guidance from outside of ourselves, especially if all parties involved are in a good feeling vibrational place about it, but the final decision is always ours after weighing up all the factors before us, and hopefully with the inclusion of our Non-Physical Inner Guidance.

For me, being selfish is another way of saying;

Nothing is more important to me than that I feel as good as I possible can at any given point in time. And because I know that I am the only one that can control how I am feeling, no matter what others around me are doing, I am going to do my best to move into the best feeling place I currently have access too. I know by making an effort to be in the best feeling vibrational place I can be in, I have the most benefit to offer others, so by looking after myself and making how I am feeling my top priority, now I am sharing the very best of me with everyone I come into contact with……

And that’s what I would call “A win, win situation!!”

And so it is….

I’ve sacrificed so much for this…….Uh oh!!

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If we feel like we’ve given up a lot for anything, whether it be our career, family, children, or friends, this can set us up for disappointment if the effort we feel we’ve put into such things is not reciprocated.

I often hear people say they do many things for their children and feel like their efforts are not appreciated.
And I say, if course our efforts are not appreciated….Children in these days are coming forward with a much stronger understanding of who they are, and who others are. They’re understanding whatever someone does is their choice and not so much about them, even if we are trying to tell them what we’re doing is only for their benefit. If we are feeling resentful about the things we are choosing to do for our children…..this is not ideal.

I know we all have to do thing’s sometimes that we’d rather not,(like going to children’s birthday parties!!!) And yes, maybe we’re doing it because we feel we should, but it’s important to make an effort to move into a better feeling place regarding whatever we’ve chosen to do otherwise it does leave one feeling quite resentful if appreciation for the unwanted effort we’ve made isn’t reciprocated.

From the viewpoint of Law of Attraction, if we are receiving back that which we are giving out through our vibration, and we are, when we feel annoyed or under appreciated, if we give these thoughts and actions plenty of air time and focus through our thought process the likelihood of receiving back appreciation for our efforts are not great. The more actions we take and feel annoyed, under appreciated, or begrudgingly do without improving our thought, the greater the possibility of attracting more circumstances where we may feel under appreciated!!

I know that may sound a bit, well…..annoying, but the truth is, even if we are doing something for someone else’s benefit, we must admit at some level, we are also doing it for ourselves, because we feel it’s the best choice we can make at that time. (even if it is a choice better two unwanted circumstances) It’s about taking responsibility for the choices we make and feeling as good as we can about them, rather than blaming others for “all that we have to do for them!”

Of course it’s wonderful when others appreciate what we do, it would be pretty unusual if we didn’t like to be appreciated, but it must be enough that it’s what we want to do, that it’s something we believe is good or of benefit to ourselves first, and then others.

Trying to make anyone feel guilty by telling them all the things we are doing “just for them,” is not usually a good idea and often encourages a greater lack of appreciation…..unless of course, we bring very unwanted consequences upon them.
Learning to appreciate that which we currently have rather than focusing on that which we do not yet have is a very important part of the creation process, for it’s our positive focus on all that we already have that is working well and good that is the easiest path to all we’re wanting in our future experience!! (Remember, Law of Attraction)

Appreciation is a difficult concept to teach to our children because they believe it’s their natural birthright to have anything they are wanting, and they aren’t too far off the mark with that knowing. I encourage this belief in my children (yes, I really do!!) and explain to them they also need to foster an attitude of appreciation for all they already have that is good rather than focusing on what they don’t immediately get. We also talk about the Law of Attraction and how we’re pre-paving our future experiences by how we are feeling now, and that making an effort to feel as good as we possibly can, especially in the face of unwanted circumstances, is the best we can currently do!
The best way we can hope to teach our children how to appreciate what they currently have is by being an example of appreciation ourselves. I’m not talking about over praising every tiny thing in an out of proportion general way, but more focusing on the good that we see all around us in very genuine and specific ways.

It’s not possible to fake true appreciation, and when we are looking for things to appreciate, it’s not long before the Universe delivers us circumstances that start matching that dominant vibration within us, and that is what one might say is…. “Choice”!!

And so it is….

Revenge is sweet…….Uhhhmmm, I think not……

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Well….If we’re in a place where revenge feels better than where we currently are, the answer would have to be, temporarily, yes…..

But one thing is for sure, no matter where we’re sitting emotionally at the time of carrying out such actions, in the long-term, revenge never ever, ever achieves anything we are really wanting to experience in our lives. This is because the Law of Attraction is adding power too and returning too us what we are giving out, whether we are aware of this or not.

Don’t worry if you’ve had such thoughts in the past, I don’t think there’s probably many people that have lived that haven’t felt these types of emotions at one point or another. The question isn’t whether we’ve had revengeful thoughts or not, but whether we’ve moved ourselves into a better feeling place before we’ve taken any action against someone therefore creating even more power and momentum behind such thoughts, words and actions that will play out in full physical manifestational form if they are not moved into a better feeling vibrational place.

Seeking revenge for something when you feel someone has wronged you is very different to standing up for ones self, and that difference is all about the vibrational place we’re coming from when we carry out whatever actions we feel are necessary for us to come into a better feeling vibrational place.

If we want revenge, this always comes from a negative, not good feeling vibrational place. Even if the thought of it does feel good, it’s because the feeling of revenge is sitting in a better feeling place than where we currently are, whereas if we are standing up for ourselves from a positive feeling place, we have usually already found a better feeling place in relation to what has taken place but may still feel like some benefit may come by further discussion.
If this is what we are wanting to do, one needs to be very strong and focused about keeping a neutral or positive emotional place and be prepared to leave the situation or conversation if things get heated from the other side otherwise there’s a chance of getting pulled down to someone else’s not good feeling vibrational place and that’s not really ideal.

Even if this does happen, it’s not the end of the world because no matter what happens, we have the ability to bring ourselves into a better feeling vibrational place on every and any subject that’s important to us…..But it would also be true to say, it’s easier to bring our thoughts around to a better feeling place before something has physically manifested, because now we have to deal with that manifestation and all the momentum it’s created. Even once something has manifested, we can still improve our thought, it’s just easier to do before it’s a solid reality that’s staring us in the face.

Thoughts of revenge are often fuelled by a desire not to let someone get away with intentionally treating us badly or not nicely, and if actions are taken, it’s often the returning of what has originally been given out, an intention to hurt.
The problem with this is, we may be returning what was given out, but in like fashion, we will also be the receivers of what we have given out. None of us can get around the powerful Laws that govern this Universe, and for me it’s enough to know if people are doing such things, even if it’s personally directed towards me, they will be the receivers of their own creations through their thoughts, words and actions…..unless of course, they make an effort to move to a better feeling place, and I hope they do.

I know it’s not always easy, but by focusing on not nice things others may be doing and retaliating against them in a negative way means they have succeeded in bringing us to a place where through our own focus on what they have done, we are now in a similar not good feeling vibrational place as them, and for me, that is absolutely unacceptable…..
I use all my power and focus to not allow others to have control over how I am feeling. I know I cannot control what others are doing, or who they are currently choosing to be, but there is something I have 100% control over, and that’s myself and how I’m feeling, and I do my best to exercise that power always, but especially when unwanted circumstances arise I feel negative emotion about.

So by paying attention to how we are feeling and generally making a relaxed effort to feel better than how we currently are, especially if we’re experiencing negative emotion, as time goes we find ourselves in better and better feeling places with less time spent in the not so good feeling places…..

And that really is something worth feeling great about….Wouldn’t you say!!

And so it is….