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Choose your battles….And let the rest slide!!

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Whoever originally said this definitely knew what they were talking about, and although this is good advice in relation to all the relationships we’re involved in, it’s especially relevant to the relationships we have with the younger members of our society, our beautiful children!

I like to rephrase as follows;

Decide what is really important to you….That which you are not prepared to compromise on, and stand strongly and positively by it.
In other words, be prepared to stand up strongly for those things that are at the top of our list of priorities, that we believe are the most important aspects we wish our children and others we have relationships with to know and understand. What we feel is necessary to live a happy and healthy life….And let the rest slide.
In other words, don’t make every little thing a big issue, choose what’s most important, and chill about the rest!!

When we stand strongly and positively on what is important to us, this sends a very clear message of what we find to be acceptable and unacceptable. This doesn’t mean that everyone is going to act in a way we find to be acceptable, but at least there’s no ambiguity, and this is especially important when dealing with children. The clearer and stronger we are with what we are expecting, with the ability to communicate it in a positive way, the better the chances are that our point of view will be listened to, thought about, and possibly acted upon?

We should always be open to discussion and negotiation whenever asking our children to carry out something we have requested, especially when questioned on why we’ve come to the decisions we have. Just saying, “Because I said so,” is a very unacceptable answer to give to anyone that is questioning us on why they should carry out something we have asked them to do. Our children are not robots that have come here purely to be told what to do by their parents, no matter how well-meaning parents are, and I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but not many of our young ones are prepared to follow anyone blindly anymore!!

No one learns anything by being told what to do and following instructions blindly….Well that’s not true….Much is learnt by doing such things….
Learning to follow what everyone else wants us to do erodes our self-confidence in ourselves and doesn’t prepare us very well for when we have to go out on our own and make decisions for ourselves.

So being strong and not following what others are saying blindly is a very good quality to have, although it can make dealing with our children a bit more challenging. We should have good reasons why we are requiring them to do what we are wanting, and we should be prepared to take the time to explain how we have come to those decisions. Rules just for the sake of obedience and conformity are crazy and makes life unbearable for all concerned.

I know it can be a difficult to know what to do sometimes, especially if we have gained everyone else’s opinion on what they think we should or should not be doing, and yes, we can often get good ideas from others, but when everyone’s had their say, we must make our own decision on what we believe is best for our specific circumstances, no one else is in a better position than us to know this.
Once we have come to our decision, the most important thing we can do is put all our positive focused thought behind the decisions we’ve made. Do not split your energy by second guessing yourself all the time by asking “What if, I don’t know, maybe?”
When you split your energy in this way, you achieve mixed results because the Law of Attraction has responded to your mixed up unsure vibration with similar results.

It’s not possible to make the “Wrong decision” because any decision that’s given focused positive thought for some time, will reap good results, and I say “That is so Awesome!!”

And so it is….

I’ve been waiting for acceptance & approval from my parents for so long….

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KnowThySelf
Unfortunately many people are not allowing themselves to really feel happy because they are waiting for one or both of their parents unconditional love and acceptance.
And of course it’s wonderful when we feel we have their love and approval, but if this is not the case, it’s often because each generation, in their own right is different to previous generations, (that’s what they call progress I think!!) and for many people who are not very accepting of change or are wishing others were different to what they really are, (or maybe more obedient than they are) this can be difficult for them to accept and be happy about.
If you do not feel like you have received the love, acceptance or approval you thought your parents should have given you as you were growing up (and possibly presently too?) The most important thing to know is….Their inability to love unconditionally is far more about them than it is about you!

If our parents were not feeling good about something we were or were not doing, it was their inability or not knowing how to move themselves into a better feeling vibrational place that caused them to look on us with negative emotions or judgements, rather than us being wrong. Of course we did things that may not have been ideal, but that is the purpose they were there, to teach and guide us in a “positive way.”
It’s a very difficult task to guide another positively when we are not in a very good feeling vibrational place ourselves, but add to that the belief that others must behave in specific ways before we allow ourselves to be happy….And that’s a recipe for….Well, being very controlling and unhappy.
If we are requiring others to behave in ways we find acceptable and make us feel good, we give others the job of making us happy rather than taking the power we’ve had since the day we made our way into this physical body (and before we came forward too!!) by using our mind to bring ourselves into a good feeling vibrational place that is not so reliant on what is happening around us or what others are doing.
Now, I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but everyone here is doing their best to make themselves happy, which doesn’t leave a lot to time for making everyone else happy which is the way it should be, for you cannot know exactly what will make others happy, that’s their job to figure that out and move towards it.
For those that are trying every which way to make others happy, they will eventually find it an impossible task to achieve consistently.

This being true, not much good comes from holding onto resentment and negative feelings about the way our parents did or did not raise us, for no matter what they did, most did the best that they could based on what they knew at that time, just as we are doing our best to raise our children now, based on what we know. It’s important to acknowledge the past cannot be changed, but how we feel about it now, can be changed and moved into a better feeling place if that’s what were wanting to do.
If we did receive our parents unconditional love as we were growing-up, it gives one confidence and self-esteem as it confirms what young ones know strongly as they come forward into their physical bodies, “I am a very good human being that deserves to be loved.” But if we felt we did not receive parental love, it can set up a mindset that goes something like, “If my mother or father doesn’t love me, maybe I’m not good enough?”
Of course this is not true, and most of us would agree that just because someone doesn’t love us, it doesn’t make us unlovable, but it matters more when we’re young as we’re more easily influenced, especially by those we hold in high regard and are strongly connected too.

So whether or not we felt loved and accepted or approved of by our parents while we were growing up, and even now, there comes a time when we must decide for ourselves that we are good enough and worthy human beings….
Because “who we really are” is all these things, and so much more….And when we know this is who we are, now we can see it in all others, and I say “That is so good!!”

And so it is….

The Right to Life or Death….Whose decision is it???

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Each of us is ultimately in charge of our own mind and physical body, and although we may be influenced by the thoughts and beliefs of our society, culture, and the family we’ve grown up in, in the end it’s our decision whether we want to continue in this physical life or not.

When we enter this time-space reality, we came forward with strong purpose and intentions for this physical life, so our desire to live and experience the life we have chosen, is a very strong and powerful calling that sits at the very core of who we really are.

The ending of life in this physical body is a decision made by either the Physical us, the Non-Physical us or a combination of both the Physical and Non-Physical parts of us. For most, it would be true to say, this decision is usually made from our Non-Physical perspective.

The main reasons for making our transition back to the Non-Physical realm are;
~ The intentions that we put forward when coming into our current Physical life have been achieved and the soul is ready for a fresh and new Physical perspective. (Imagine wearing the same outfit for centuries, even if we really liked it, eventually we’d want to wear something different, so it is with experiencing different lives!!) Hehehe….That’s a very good analogy, I like it!!
~ If much resistant has been gathered over time while in our current Physical life, this takes a toll on the mind and body to a point where both may start to break down and the decision is made to return to the Non-Physical realm once again.

No matter how the circumstances unfold, it’s always us who decides when, where and how we will make our transition back to Non-Physical, even when we are not aware this is the case, which often we are not.
Although there are always exceptions to what most are doing, to make a conscious decision to leave this life experience from our Physical perspective requires us to have either gained insight into how we are creating our life, and how we may wish to end it in a desirable way, or we may have gradually gotten ourselves into a very not good feeling vibrational place we feel we cannot come out of, therefore making the choice to leave this body.
Some may find this hard to believe and I totally understand that point of view, for if we have not known there is another part of us that’s remained in the Non-Physical realm, and that this Non-Physical counterpart has been communicating to the Physical here and now part of us through our thoughts and emotions, our vibration…this would seem, well…weird.
Life truly is never-ending, and although we will all leave the body we’re currently in, who we really are never dies, but simply changes form.
When we are understanding this, we no longer feel the need to make judgements about whether others should continue in a painful manner at the end of their physical life, especially if this is not what they are wanting, and let’s be honest, not many would want to end this physical life in pain, but may feel they don’t have a choice or may be frightened to let go because they are unsure of what, if anything, may follow.

The death experience will come to us all, that we can be sure of, and when we can understand and embrace this truth about life, there is not much left to fear, and now we can live (and make our transition) as we intended too, just as we made our powerful and joyful decision to come forward into this physical life in the first place!!

And so it is….

Don’t judge a book by its cover….

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I think many would have a good idea what people mean when they say "Don't judge a book by its cover."
It's fairly obvious that you cannot know everything about a person purely by observing their physical appearance and this saying speaks to that truth by reminding us to avoid judging others too harshly or in a negative way before we've got to know them.
But that's where the truth of this statement ends.
Of course it's not nice to judge others harshly when you don't know a lot about them, but the idea that you will not take anything that you are observing with your own eyes, and what you may be feeling from them vibrationally into consideration when deciding whether you wish to interact with another person or not is…..Well, it's highly unlikely as this happens automatically, whether we are aware of it or not.
So our interpretation of another comes not just from what we are observing, ( hair, skin colour, clothing, cleanliness, presentation etc) not to underestimate what we are seeing, but also from a persons facial expressions, body language, and especially from what they are sending out vibrationally.
We all have a general vibrational signal that is being emitted from us in every moment we are in this physical body. (and when we are in the Non-Physical realm too….But that would require a post of its own!!)
Our general vibrational place is made up of all the thoughts and feelings we’ve ever had, although subjects we are currently focused on and things we feel very strongly about both positive and negative, will be sending out a stronger signal than subjects that are less important to us.
Whenever we come into contact with others, we’re picking up on their vibration to a certain extent, depending on how sensitive we are to how we’re feeling and how aware we are that this is happening.
Whatever we may be feeling when we’re observing anyone, but especially those we don’t know, will be a blending of their physical appearance, body language, and most importantly, their vibration. This is a positive occurrence, unless we make very negative judgements based on the information we are receiving.
When others are very different to ourselves, we often feel it very strongly and sometimes negatively, and we may assume, “there must be something wrong with that person,” otherwise why am I feeling not good when I look at them?
Whereas it’s usually an indication not that someone is “not good,” but that there will be a lot of differences between the two of you.
Now it’s true to say that it wouldn’t be much fun if we were all the same, but on the flip side of that, it’s not usually much fun to interact with people who are vastly different to ourselves either, especially if our core beliefs about life are at the opposite ends of the scale for this can make for some very not nice communication, and no one usually wants that!
Another factor about our physical appearance that’s often not considered is, what we see on the outside is always a reflection of what’s going on inside us and what we’ve been doing with our thought process, for it’s not possible to hide who you have been and who you are currently being, it’s out there for everyone to see, especially if you are holding negative thoughts and feelings about past experiences that the Law of Attraction is responding in-kind too, for this takes its toll on the mind and physical body!
So although it’s definitely not nice to judge others negatively by how they look, it’s important to acknowledge that we’re all receiving valuable information about the others we come into contact with that’s letting us know if it’s a good idea to communicate with them right now or not, and to guide people to not listen to the guidance they are receiving, is very poor advice at best.

For me, I get very strong feelings and information about others, and I do not feel the need to speak to those that are vibrationally a long way from where I am because I know they feel very uncomfortable around me, and that’s not nice for anyone including me.
Rather than trying to push relationships that aren’t a good match, it’s better to let those that are on the same wavelength to you come, for that is a coming together of two like-minded souls….And that is so good!!

And so it is….

Good relationships are all about compromise….Well, that depends???

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Whether or not this statement is true or not for us, depends on what our belief or definition of compromise is, and what we believe a good relationship should be.

It would be fairly accurate to say that many people’s definition of compromise is having to make concessions or accept something less than what we may have truly been wanting, against ones will for the benefit of finding a suitable resolution or agreement of opinion, between two or more people.

Most pronounce this to be a wonderful thing that makes relationships work, and of course we cannot expect to have everything our own way if we are wanting to have a healthy and happy relationship where both parties are feeling valued and respected, but whether this is a positive aspect in the relationships we currently have, depends entirely on how much one may be having to “compromise” and how they feel when they’re doing this.

The most important factor that supersedes everything else is, “How am I feeling about the compromise I’m making now?” which will be influenced by many different variables such as;
~ How often am I compromising in this relationship?
~ How much does my partner compromise, is there a fairly equal reciprocation between both parties?
~ How strongly did I want things to work out how I envisioned?
~ How big is the compromise I’m making, and how long will it last for?
There will also be many other factors that will be specific to different situations and relationships.

As long as we’re interacting with other people, we will all need to navigate our way through differences of opinions of what we are wanting, but I don’t think it’s hard to know, if we feel we’re having to constantly compromise on circumstances that we feel strongly about, and that it isn’t evenly shared between both parties, this is when resentment can grow, especially if it ins’t addressed and talked about in the early stages of feeling resentful.

If resentment is not dealt with, it doesn’t usually go away by itself. Felt and caught in the early stages, it’s possible to easily move ourselves into a better feeling vibrational place by focusing on all the positive aspects of our situation, whereas if not dealt with, it grows in intensity with each similar experience that unfolds, until as many people say, “The last straw that breaks the camels back” often happens.

Although getting things out in the open can often be good, and can help us to move forward in a more positive direction, if our negative emotions have grown very strong with a lot of power and momentum behind them, it’s very hard to talk in a calm and productive way, and communication can become a bit….well, explosive!! It’s not the end of the world if this happens, once both parties have had time to calm down, that can be when some positive progress can be made, if both parties are still wanting a positive resolution.
If we’re feeling like we have to constantly compromise within our relationships, it is not ideal. The best option in these circumstances is to make an effort to move to a better feeling vibrational place rather than agreeing to what others want and then feeling resentful because we’ve had to give up something we’re wanting for the other.
If we’re finding it hard to move to a positive feeling place and cannot accommodate what another wants happily, it’s better to spend more time discussing the situation and trying to find a solution together that both will be happy with, because it’s always usually there, it’s just a matter of taking the time and effort to find it!

So although we may initially feel some negative emotion when we’re compromising, it’s not until we move all our thought regarding whatever we’re compromising about into a positive feeling vibrational place, that it’s no longer a compromise, now it is something we are wanting to do for ourselves, not just something we’re doing for someone else.
That’s a great vibrational place to be in, and that’s what I would call “A win, win situation!”

And so it is….

When you don’t expect too much from other’s…. It’s hard to be disappointed.

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What I’m getting at with this statement is, when you place very high expectations on other’s, you put yourself in a position to be highly disappointed if things don’t work out how you may have envisioned, and it can also start the process where we may attempt to control or manipulate behaviour to try to get them to achieve the outcome we are desiring for them.

Most of the time, the outcomes we’re hoping for are usually positive and something that our recipient is usually desiring too, but when we place very high expectations on them, especially our young children, it can become a heavy burden for them to carry, which now means they may become more focused on the burden of someone else’s expectations of them rather than achieving what they are wanting in a positive manner and that’s not ideal.

Many may disagree and say, “It’s because I care, and I only want the best for them!” And I say, of course we do, especially when it comes to our beautiful children, we all want the best for them, but by placing excessively high expectations on them, often works against what we’re wanting rather than increasing the likely hood of it.

Not having high expectations of others does not necessarily mean you don’t care about how they are doing or that you don’t want them to achieve good things. It’s a great intention to want the best for everyone we come into contact with, that’s the true power of influencing people positively, for true knowing is felt at an emotional, vibrational level and does not require words or placing high expectations on people to effect them deeply.

For me the ideal situation is;

~ Knowing what someone wants, which is very easy to feel if you listen to what they are saying for any length of time.
~ Knowing they have the ability to get where they are wanting to go, even if a path does not seem clear at the present moment.
~ Knowing that everyone has their own experiences and desires that will produce may different circumstances in their life both wanted and unwanted that ultimately propels them forward.
~ To basically be at peace with their experience and to know things will work out for the best, even if there are a few bumps along the way, this is the greatest benefit you can hope to give to anyone.

If we allow ourselves to worry, be stressed, upset, annoyed, angry, or frustrated about another’s experience or situation without making an effort to move to a better feeling vibrational place or to find some good in it, we are of very little benefit to them, or to ourselves, it is true.
If we can let go of expectations we may be placing on ourselves and other’s, we make space for more wonderful things to flow into our life, it’s a way of saying we believe that life is supposed to be good, and we all have the ability to create what we’re wanting in our lives.
That’s a very good vibration to be sending out into the Universe don’t you think?

This life is a process, a journey, and we are all making our way in the best way we know how, so acknowledge that, and move forward as positively as you can, for that has to be good enough….

And so it is….

Why would we measure our Self-worth….On what someone else thinks of us???

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Of course, it’s wonderful when people are looking at us favorably, but if we are requiring this from every person we come into contact with, we will have to become very good at working out how others would like us to behave in order to ensure their approval of us.
Some may say, “What’s wrong with that?” And I say, nothing is essentially wrong with wanting positive interactions with others and for them to like us, as long as we are not doing anything that goes against who we really are to achieve it.
That brings up an interesting question, is it more important for me to be true to myself and what I believe in, or is it more important for me to gain the approval of others at the cost of going against my own beliefs? (or do I have a belief that goes something like “if people don’t like me, there must be something wrong with me?”)

Although every situation we encounter is different, and we will make our own assessment of what we feel is best for us at that moment, it would be true to say, if many of our interactions are based on doing whatever it takes to gain another’s approval, we can become “temporarily lost” and forget who we really are. By that I mean, we now may be substituting our own Inner Guidance that is directing us through our emotions to all we are wanting, for someone else’s Inner Guidance that is leading them through their emotions to everything they are wanting! Now, unless we’re wanting exactly the same things, have experienced the same circumstances and have come to the same conclusions and beliefs about life….I think it’s quite clear to see no other is better equipped with better Inner Guidance than ourselves, to know what’s best for us.

I say “temporarily lost,” because it’s not possible to completely disconnect from who we really are for any great length of time, sooner or later we always return to that knowing place.
The question isn’t will we return to the full understanding and knowing of who we really are, the question is….How long will we hold ourselves apart from our blended all-knowing Non-Physical perspective, through our own negative contemplation?
Alignment with our Non-Physical counterpart happens when we make our transition from this Physical life and body, but we do not need to wait for this to happen to achieve the blending or alignment of the Physical and Non-Physical together.
If we become sensitive to how we are feeling and do our best to move into the best feeling place we can, it’s only a matter of time before we find ourselves in alignment with who we really are while we’re still in this physical body, and it is so good!!

To begin with it may only be for short moments that we feel this alignment, but as we continue to feel generally better in our life and make an effort to focus on the best that life has to offer, this starts to become our normal vibrational place to be in, and one can find themselves in a very good feeling place for extended periods of time….For no good reason at all!!

Alignment is achieved when the Physical here and now part of us and the Non-Physical part of us are in complete agreement in relation to whatever we are giving our attention to now.
For example, if I am looking at someone and feeling strong negative emotion, this indicates the Non-Physical part of me is thinking something very different to what I am currently thinking, for if I was in alignment with what the Non-Physical part of me was thinking, I would be feeling positive emotion.
So what should I do? Should I try to conjure some feelings of love for this person I am clearly not loving much? I say, “No way,” it cannot be done in a few moments, for it’s virtually impossible to go from strong dislike to liking or loving instantly….Have you tried?

It’s better, or in our best interests to accept the way we feel rather than deny it, and to put our focus on something else if we feel unable to move to a better feeling place rather than trying to “fake it,” because it’s not possible to truly hide how we really feel anyway.

Another option is to just “turn the other cheek” so to speak, look away from that which makes you feel not good, especially if you don’t feel like you can continue to observe without improving your thought. Not much benefit comes from focusing our attention on unwanted circumstances without making an effort to move to a better feeling vibrational place, especially if it’s for an extended period of time….And by “an extended period of time,” I mean anything over about 20 seconds!!!
I know this may seem like a very short amount of time, but this is all it takes before the Law of Attraction will respond to our thought vibrations and give us access to more thoughts of a similar nature, and as we think and focus longer, another thought, and another and another will become more easily available to us, and with enough time and focus that produces intensity of emotion, we will attract physical manifestations that match the dominant vibrations (thoughts and feelings) within us. Very good when we’re focused in the direction of what we are wanting to experience wouldn’t you say?

All I can say is, you do not need others approval to feel worthy, and when we start to access the Inner Guidance we were born with, we start to feel a worthiness that no external circumstances or person can provide….
It comes from knowing “who we really are,” and feeling the absolute power we have to create what we are wanting in our own lives….

And so it is….

Who is my Spiritual Guide???

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ArmsWide
I’m sure many people have pondered whether they have a Spiritual Guide or not. This probably depends on whether we’re even believing in this concept.
As with all ideas that are new or foreign to us, it often takes some time and thought before we can come up with any opinion of where we sit in relation to this subject, and depending on where our current beliefs are, will depend on whether we will completely discount the possibility of such things.

It is not my intention to convince you into or out of what ever you are believing is right for you at this time, but it is my intention that I may give you “some things” to ponder in relation to Spiritual Guides.

When I speak of Spiritual Guides, I specifically mean the Individual, Non-Physical, Source Energy guidance that is available to each and every one of us in every moment of this physical life we are living.

Our Spiritual Guide is not some Higher Being that is a far more superior being than us, our Spiritual Guide is the Non-Physical part of us that remained in the Non-Physical realm to help guide the Physical part of us through this life journey, so in other words….”Our Spiritual Guide is ourselves!” That’s pretty tricky don’t you think? Hehehe….
The Non-Physical part of us holds all the knowledge and experiences from the previous lives we have lived, knows all the intentions and desires we had when we came forward into the life we are currently living, and knows every amended desire, intention and experience we’ve had since we’ve been in this physical life and is guiding us in a direction that will lead us to all we have decided through the living of, not just this life, but all the lives we have lived, what we are wanting, by the easiest and most enjoyable route available!!

And how does our Spiritual Guide, or Non-Physical counterpart achieve this???
Through our emotions. Whenever we are feeling any emotion, whether it be positive or negative, we are receiving, individual, personal, and awesome Inner Guidance from the Non-Physical part of us indicating in which way we are moving.
Positive emotion indicates we are moving in the direction of wanted circumstances in our life, the stronger the emotional feeling is and the longer we experience it for, the closer we are to the physical manifestation of something that will be very pleasing when it turns up.
Negative emotion indicates we are moving in the direction of unwanted circumstances in our life, the stronger the emotional feeling is and the longer we experience it for, the closer we are to the physical manifestation of something that will not be very pleasing to us if it turns up.

So, who decides what I do at any given time, the Non-Physical part of me, or the physical part of me?
Well, I’m pretty sure that most people know the Physical, here and now part of us is making the decisions in our lives, based on what we feel is best once we’ve considered all the factors that are important to us.
But when we start to understand exactly what our emotions are telling us, and we start to make an effort to move our thoughts and feelings to an improved vibrational place, our life starts to change for the better.

Many have taken negative emotion that they are feeling as an indication that someone else is doing something “wrong,” whereas it more accurately indicates, we are now either thinking, speaking, observing, or doing something that is moving us in a direction we are not wanting to go.
Now feeling negative emotion is not the end of the world and all of us experience it to varying degrees depending on how much we’ve made an effort to focus on the best in life, or on how much we’ve focused on what we are not liking, or what isn’t working in our life.
And I understand it’s not always possible to just stop something we feel we have to do, for there is often much power and momentum behind such things, but it is completely possible to feel slightly better than where we currently are while we’re doing whatever it is we’re doing…..And that does change everything!!

So we can call it whatever we want, Spiritual Guide, Non-Physical part of ourselves, Inner Being, Soul, or Source Energy….The words don’t matter, but what does matter is we know we have access to this energy that is essentially us, or who we truly are, in every moment of this physical life….
To access this power, we must do our best to move into the vibrational place of it by noticing how we are thinking and feeling at any given moment, and making an effort to feel slightly better. The more we do this, the more we will feel the absolute power of “Who we really are!”
This is what happens when the Physical and Non-Physical parts of us align and blend as one, and like anything we do in life, the more often we achieve this “Alignment,” the easier it is to return to the vibrational place of it, for you cannot mistake it when you find yourself here, for you will feel and know, that this is what you came here for!!

And so it is….

Could “Whatever”…be the best word in the world???

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OrangeSky
This is a good follow-on from “The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree,” since it is a word our children often love to use, much to the disgust of many parents I’m sure!!
So I totally get it, it can be extremely frustrating when you’re trying to communicate with someone and all they offer you as a response is “whatever” with a lot of attitude. (Yep, I’ve had that comment given to me more times than I care to remember, but I probably need to add I love to use it myself too….Hehehe!!)
But what does someone usually mean when they say this, beyond trying to annoy the living daylights out of us!!

It’s a way of saying, “I don’t agree with what you are saying right now, and I don’t like it, and I know if I try to communicate anything to you….it’s just going to get ugly cause I’m pretty sure you’re not in a place to hear anything I’ve got to say about it, so I’ll sort of keep the peace, or more to the point, keep quite otherwise I may receive some consequences I’m not wanting, but I want you to know how I feel anyway!!”

Oh, that’s pretty good don’t you think….That’s a lot to convey in just one word, but that’s totally what it does.

So I think it can be good in the sense our children are not just accepting everything others are telling them just because we’ve been in a physical body longer than they have, and although this can make you want to pull your hair out and scream, it is a very positive aspect of who they really are coming through.

Many children coming forward from Non-Physical in these times are very strong-willed and not easily lead away from what they are wanting by others, or what they are believing is good for them.
Now I understand this makes for some very challenging times, especially if we are wanting them to follow all the rules we may have followed when we were growing up, and I would go as far to say, if this is what we are trying to impose on our children, it’s very likely this will cause extreme behaviours until we learn to communicate with them in a way that includes them in the decisions we make, rather than dictating everything to them without seeking their opinions and ideas.

I like to think of it as more of a collaboration rather than a dictatorship style of communicating, and to tell you the truth, from what I see, most of us are doing a pretty good job considering the vast difference from the way many of us were brought up.

So maybe this word isn’t as bad as what some of us may have thought?
For when our children grow-up and leave the nest, if they have learnt to just follow everything someone else says, they can be lost when they’re on their own.
Of course they usually find their way, but why would we make things harder for them than they need to be? Encouraging good communication, problem solving, respect for others, and the ability to change as the circumstances may require are totally awesome skills to teach and be an example of!

It’s very interesting to ponder…. “Who’s teaching who?”
I can only speak from my own personal experiences, when I tell you, through having to learn new and improved ways of interacting with my children in a positive manner, I have become a better person….And I can only hope they learn as much good stuff about themselves from me, as I have learnt from them….

And so it is….

The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree….

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I’m sure many people have probably heard this saying, whether or not they agree with what it’s getting at, is another matter.
For those of you who know me, you’ll know I love thinking and talking about common sayings and the deeper meanings they can hold for us, that the understanding of has the possibility of improving our life experiences, and sometimes it’s just interesting to ponder such things….
My interpretation of this analogy is something like this, the tree represents the parents in a family and the apples represent the children of the family.
So, if “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree,” this means that when children are brought up in any environment, they will more or less take on the values of those that have raised them. This includes cultural norms, community and family values, and may include religious beliefs or customs.
Some may disagree and say, “No, I disagreed strongly with some of the beliefs I was brought up with and have ensured I have not done the same in my life,” which often causes a strong behavioural change to the opposite end of the behavioural scale so to speak, some thing I like to call “And so the pendulum swings.” (Yep, you guessed it, I’ve written about that one too!!)

Now back to our apples…. I’m sure it’s not hard to see for most that there’s much truth to this saying, for it’s not possible to be in any environment for an extended amount of time without acclimatising to that which surrounds you, whether you are a child or an adult, but it’s far more pronounced for children than adults, because on the whole, they do not have the ability to remove themselves from the environment they have been born into….well not initially anyway, and are often programmed very strongly from the moment they come forth into what is and what isn’t appropriate, by the older more experienced members in the family.

Now, whatever belief system we’ve been born into doesn’t really matter, but what is important is as we start to grow up and mature and especially once we leave the family home and environment, that we question the beliefs we’ve been programmed with and decide for ourselves what we wish to believe and how we want to live our lives.
This can often be a hard task, for as many of you will already know, the Law of Attraction will respond to the beliefs we hold and we will see evidence of it everywhere we turn, which we often accept as, “That’s the way things have to be, because look, the evidence is everywhere!”
Now for sure, that’s the way things may be for some people if that’s what they believe, but it does not ultimately have to be that way. It’s always a choice, but sometimes it’s a choice we aren’t aware we have, and even once we are consciously aware, it does takes some very good focused thought to change beliefs that have been held for a long time that we’ve seen much physical manifestational evidence about.
And remember, just because something is true, does not mean you must give your attention to it, a better criteria to use is….”Is this….I’m giving my attention to now something I wish to experience in my life???”
Some may say, “Why should I even bother,” And I say, until we have questioned how we have been raised and the beliefs that have been passed to us, we have not truly grown up, but are carrying on with what we were programmed with.
This doesn’t mean that all our beliefs need changing, for many things we have been taught are serving us extremely well, but I’m sure it’s true somewhat for all of us, some beliefs we hold are not serving us well, and as these beliefs are held onto longer, so the evidence we receive from the Law of Attraction becomes stronger.
It’s absolutely possible to move any belief we want to into a better feeling vibrational place, but if it’s a belief that has been held for a long time, like all of our life, it does take some time and effort to move them in the direction of beliefs that will serve us and produce more wanted results, because after all, we didn’t come to any of our strong beliefs all in one day, so it’s probably going to take more that one day to change them, but we can totally do it if that’s what we’re wanting….I know it!!

And so it is….